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Slave Kitty Sivesh
07-26-2007, 04:30 PM
A question of Balance in your D/s relationships... You always have your duties to your master, always.. but are there times when you are excused of your duties.. (i.e. work, or if you're sick) or do you and your master incorporate things into them. Such as things you are to find time to do while at work?
xadianx
07-26-2007, 09:04 PM
depends on whether the sub is 100% into pleasing their dom
then it should be determined that they may be excused of their duties(thus earned it)..but when it comes to bad legit sickness then the common answer would be yes
TomOfSweden
07-26-2007, 10:52 PM
My sub is 100% into pleasing me and I control every aspect of her life. But right now she works so much that I'm the housewife of the family. It's about love. In any serious relationship it's all about being there for one another in times of need, D/s or not. I don't become less of a ruler of this family because I rule for me to do the dishes.
I'm a dominant because I have a need to control, not because I'm lazy.
annie
07-27-2007, 05:05 AM
My sub is 100% into pleasing me and I control every aspect of her life. But right now she works so much that I'm the housewife of the family. It's about love. In any serious relationship it's all about being there for one another in times of need, D/s or not. I don't become less of a ruler of this family because I rule for me to do the dishes.
I'm a dominant because I have a need to control, not because I'm lazy.
Like how you stated that Tom! I fully agree!
davidnhisgirl
07-27-2007, 05:49 AM
It all depends on what works for you and your Master.
I work overnights and when I come home I have a few things I have to do but David is always willing to help me. Because he understands that I am only human and I need rest too.
Yet I do everything when it needs to be done, therefore he is more understanding when I dont feel good or if I had a really rough night.
Its something you and your Master have to talk about, everyone is differant.
Warbaby1943
07-27-2007, 06:54 AM
Whatever is best for you and Him should be what is done. I do give AG a little task that she does daily no matter where she is whether at work or out in public she must always do this task. But that is just us and it works well for us.
Sir_Russell
07-27-2007, 07:27 PM
Our contract gives either of us the right to take a day off if nothing is planned and she is not being punished. Also our contract calls for either of us to stop everything when either has lost their temper.
I also agree with Tom when life intrudes you do what you must.
When D and I first explored the idea of a BDSM relationship, we agreed that he would not make me do anything that would damage my education, my relationship with my family, or my dancing. I'm out of school now(for the meantime; heading to grad school next year), and gradually things have moved into areas where my family has been effected (started a thread on that subject a couple of weeks ago), but my dance classes and performances are still my time. As an artist, I couldn't function without that small amount of independence.
Sir_Russell
08-06-2007, 10:01 AM
The point is that even as a 24 7 slave and Master each of you need a little space a little time for yourself. I have had a sub or 2 that wanted me to take full and total control of her in all things and at all times. I have to admit that it tired me out to the point that I will never agree to that again.