Opinions Please

[sidhewolf]

Hello Everyone,

I am new here (though not a newbie) and I have spent some time reading topics this morning.

I'd like to pose some questions and get some input on them from Anyone willing to give it.

1) How important do you feel honesty is in BDSM relationships?
2) How important do you feel trust is in BDSM relationships?
3) What constitues cheating in a BDSM relationship?

Thank You All in advance.

Respectfully, SidheWolf

[Rhabbi]

:welcome: to the Library SidheWolf. I would be glad to answer your questions.

1) How important do you feel honesty is in BDSM relationships?


Absolutlely nececassary. Without honesty, you can have no trust.

2) How important do you feel trust is in BDSM relationships?



Again indespensible, without trust there can be no relationship. It is even kmore crucila to trust in a BDSM realtionship than a vanilla one. You are literally either putting your life in another's hands, or taking their's into yours. How can you do that without trust.

3) What constitues cheating in a BDSM relationship?


This is a bit harder, but essentially comes down to anything outside the parameters of the relationship as agreed to by both parties.

[Euryleia]

1) How important do you feel honesty is in BDSM relationships?
2) How important do you feel trust is in BDSM relationships?
3) What constitues cheating in a BDSM relationship?



Welcome, sidhewolf.

Honesty is very important, especially in regards to communication.

I'm not sure the BDSM can go beyond kink to lifestyle without trust.

Cheating is anything outside the negotiated bounds of the relationship.

To me, cheating hits the other two--if you have to hide what you're doing, that's a lie and you've broken trust with your partner(s).

ER

[sidhewolf]

Rabbi for the lovely Welcome sign, and Your response. And to You as well ER. I am in agreement with the 2 of You. Hopefully more PPL will respond to get a diverse feedback of opinion about these things.

Respectfully, SidheWolf

[Sadistic1]

welcome enjoy the forums

S1 & my cg


1) How important do you feel honesty is in BDSM relationships?
It is key above all else and honesty leads to trust

2) How important do you feel trust is in BDSM relationships?
Without it you have nothing. The trust of allowing someone to either guide you or take you into a place you have never been before is a big step.

3) What constitues cheating in a BDSM relationship?
There is no differance. In most cases people have a relationship with there BDSM partner if this is the case and you cheat you lose everything.

As a Master I always believe in lead by example.

[cadence]

Hello and Welcome

To answer your questions, honesty and trust are intregal parts of a BDSM relationship
Cheating is breaking the honesy and trust which you have established.

This is the best I can answer to your questions.

[annie]

Hi! Glad to see you posting!

I would recommend posting the same questions on "My BDSM Life" or "Knowledge Base" to get a better response!

[Logic1]

much welcome.
to make it easy for me just copy Euryleias answers to my post :p

[ladygstar]

Hello!!

My thoughts on your questions...


1) How important do you feel honesty is in BDSM relationships?

It is the building blocks of any fulfilling relationship.


2) How important do you feel trust is in BDSM relationships?

Trust needs to be earned in any relationship but in BDSM it is vital for safe play, IMO


3) What constitues cheating in a BDSM relationship?

Doing anything outside of a relationship that has not been validated by the people involved... anything that would hurt the other partner... do unto others and all that jazz.

[Guest 91108]

Hello and welcome.

1) How important do you feel honesty is in BDSM relationships?
Be honest at all times and you will have trust and not be likely to be thought of as cheating .

2) How important do you feel trust is in BDSM relationships?
Trust is a earned thing. It's built by honest and actions. Not all actions are obvious.. it's the cumulative "score" that grants you the trust. You don't get it as a Dom by walking up to a sub and start giving orders.

3) What constitues cheating in a BDSM relationship?
two kinds of cheating i see :
the kind between two or more people that has not been discussed prior and often should be discussed before the relationship if possible so all is always open and honest.'
Then there is the cheating ( deceit and/or deviousness) as in portraying yourself as someone whom you are not. whether online or real life.. eventually it catches up with you .
Advice is to be yourself .. Don't lead others into thinking you are more experienced than you are.. or that you are more willing than you actually are.
Life is hard enough why make it more difficult and/or more complex.

[Flaming_Redhead]

:welcomebo

[angelic.zest]

welcome to the community! :wave:

[crazy_grrluk]

hello and welcome to the forums

cg and S1