Has this happened to you?

[sassycat4him]

My husband and I were playing around with some simple bondage about a month ago. I knew that he had purchased some new "toys" but I had no idea what. well, out of the blue he ties my hands behind my back with those long plastic ties, you know, the one's that make that clicking noise on the way down and you have to cut them off. well anyway, he put the one on my left wrist too tight and I told him so, but he didn't care to listen or to loosen it. I was like that about 45 minutes and I couldn't stand it anymore. when he tried to cut it off, it was too tight for even the knife to slide through and cut! finally after 15 more minutes of torture, we got it off. here's the problem; I have circulation in that hand but on top of my hand it feels like it's still asleep. no discoloration or pain, but I can tell it's not back to normal. Is there anything I can do about this?

[Alex Bragi]

See a doctor--immediately.

[thrall]

I concur with Alex........

seek medical attention ..... Immediately

[Flaming_Redhead]

This is what safe words are for, sassy! I would guess that your doctor could perform a cortisone injection to relieve any inflammation around your radial or ulnar nerve. Rather than have a bunch of repeat posts, here's a thread about a sub with a similar problem....

http://http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=9049&highlight=numbness

[Naomisagoodgirl]

Righto, I agree, see a doctor. Also, I'm sorry, that sucks :(. Also, this happened to a friend of mine a few years ago. It was really bad, she couldn't feel her hand for days, but she recovered fully.

[gloombunny]

You. Doctor. NOW.

And give your husband a smack upside the head from me for ignoring your distress. :mad:

[Ozme52]

Bad form... Got to pay close attention to circulation problems and check extremities for warmth. If the hands or feet grow cold, the ligature is too tight.

And if you play with zip-ties... have a pair of dikes handy. Much better than a knife for safely clipping them off.

[gloombunny]

And if you play with zip-ties... have a pair of dikes handy. Much better than a knife for safely clipping them off.
Better yet... get some proper leather cuffs so you can try bondage without damaging anything. (They don't have to be leather, specifically, that's just the most common material... you want something with very wide bands so it doesn't press deep into the flesh at any point, and something that can hold securely without constricting tightly.)

Bondage with zip-ties or rope or any of that stuff isn't for beginners. You can cause serious injuries with these things if you don't know what you're doing.

[sidhewolf]

I agree with Other(s) here Sassy, you should probly see a Doc. It will probably be fine though, and Hopefully. Maybe a cheap Lesson in Be Carefull?

Respectfully~SidheWolf

[Logic1]

Zip ties are fun but if you pull them they wont go back to the original position but will be tighter than before and stay that way.
No zipties to be on the safe side.
Rope or cuffs are much safer.
and yes see the doc immediately

[Hime]

have a pair of dikes handy.

where can we sign up? :p

I hope your hand gets better, Sassy! Circulation problems can be serious -- my husband actually got medically discharged from the military for a similar problem in his arm (nerve damaged caused by backpack straps cutting off circulation).

[annie]

Let us know how your hand is...

And, if your hubby is only slightly interested like mine is and prone to dangerous situations without regards to your safety.... especially if things of this nature has happened before, perhaps it is time to remove that sort of play until you are certain he has it in control. There are other types of play that aren't "AS" dangerous (although most of it is dangerous in and of itself) that will help to better ensure your safety is in your hands....

Just a few words of caution since I don't know your situation... But, I finally had to remove spanking (remove as in refuse to participate and not allow myself put into a position where I couldn't refuse) due to hubby having lousy aim and not wanting to listen or learn the best "strike" zones.....

[sassycat4him]

Let us know how your hand is...

And, if your hubby is only slightly interested like mine is and prone to dangerous situations without regards to your safety.... especially if things of this nature has happened before, perhaps it is time to remove that sort of play until you are certain he has it in control. There are other types of play that aren't "AS" dangerous (although most of it is dangerous in and of itself) that will help to better ensure your safety is in your hands....

Just a few words of caution since I don't know your situation... But, I finally had to remove spanking (remove as in refuse to participate and not allow myself put into a position where I couldn't refuse) due to hubby having lousy aim and not wanting to listen or learn the best "strike" zones.....

ty for the advice and I have removed it all b/c he doesn't listen. I've had the spanking problem too. bad aim. would hit directly on my bud or hit my clit and dayum that's a painful mother fucker!

[jeanne]

I've learned from my own personal experience - if he's not interested enough to learn how to do it right and safely, then he's not dominant. Because if he were, his dominant pride and desire to dominate you would drive him to seek out knowledge.

I'm in that boat too - very little playing with my beloved husband. Thank God the vanilla sex is good! :)

[annie]

I've learned from my own personal experience - if he's not interested enough to learn how to do it right and safely, then he's not dominant. Because if he were, his dominant pride and desire to dominate you would drive him to seek out knowledge.

I'm in that boat too - very little playing with my beloved husband. Thank God the vanilla sex is good! :)

Basically yes.... just took me a while to realize that and was hoping to save someone else the extended "painful" hoping... lol