Learning things

[yullie]

I'm new in this lifestyle, so far my learning in bdsm stuff still very low in real life, coz no right dom in here, all just a wannabedom stuff who just want suck and fuck in quickplay mode... well the other things that i can learn is ppl who share their knowledge and their experience in their life... wish i can learn r/t with the right dom not wannabedom... so i guess i stop playing r/t for a while until i find the right one to learn...

[Logic1]

perhaps enlist to the academy here on the forums or get an online Dom to do tasks for.
Read up here and take the "limit questionnere" that Sir Russel provided also here on the forum to find out what YOU like and to find a Dom with "matching" likes and dislikes.
I am sure that even in Indonesia there are good Doms even if you havent found the right one yet.

[sidhewolf]

I'm new in this lifestyle, so far my learning in bdsm stuff still very low in real life, coz no right dom in here, all just a wannabedom stuff who just want suck and fuck in quickplay mode... well the other things that i can learn is ppl who share their knowledge and their experience in their life... wish i can learn r/t with the right dom not wannabedom... so i guess i stop playing r/t for a while until i find the right one to learn...

Welcome Yullie!

I hear you. It does take Time to Find, and then, get to Know, the right PPL. But don't lose Hope. Online communicating is hard, but it is a very usefull tool also, as you mention that you can Learn from PPL who will share with you. There are (from what I have seen on this site) what appear to be some very good Dominants that you may be able to Learn from, at least some things online.

As far as R/T, do take it slow, and most of all Be Safe.

Good Luck Yullie! <hugs>

Respectfully~SidheWolf

[TomStraye]

Welcome Yullie!
As far as R/T, do take it slow, and most of all Be Safe.


Take it slow is good advice. I gather my alpha spent 10 years searching before she found me and, even then, we spent our first 6 months fighting like cat & dog before she finally surrendered and flew over here to England to live with me.

All I will say is that on-line is different to R/L and tends to attract more wannabes and players than real Ones. I think maybe the best way to use places like this as a learning tool is simply to talk to other submissives and learn from their experiences ... and their mistakes.

Good luck!

[alpha_Straye]

Take it slow is good advice. I gather my alpha spent 10 years searching before she found me and, even then, we spent our first 6 months fighting like cat & dog before she finally surrendered and flew over here to England to live with me.

All I will say is that on-line is different to R/L and tends to attract more wannabes and players than real Ones. I think maybe the best way to use places like this as a learning tool is simply to talk to other submissives and learn from their experiences ... and their mistakes.

Good luck!

well.. 11 years from my first experience to finding You, Owner.. and 7 or 8 years searching directly once i knew there was a name for it. i spent the last year before i found You not participating in any way except talking to people, watching and listening and figuring out how to spot a good One.. and what made the good Ones good and the pretend ones not at all good (for me at least).

sorting out the difference while i was feeling submissive was just about impossible for me though. i needed a clear head and an iron clad heart to sort through the jumble and not let People pull me off course so they could have Their way with me and then let me go fend for myself some more. *sigh*.. so that meant no dabbling for me no matter how much i wanted to. but that was just my way of getting through it.

it was a very long hard road to find my One, though i think it's fair to say i sort of have some specialized needs. but then that's all the more reason for others to hope too, i imagine. because i needed something, some One, very deep, as real as it gets, and for always, with some special twists that alot of other people dont need. so if i finally found my One who matches my somewhat different nature ... then there's hope for everyone else too *smile*. after all the searching and waiting and nit picking, here We are, coming up on 8 years laters and We are as strong as ever *smile*

so dont give up yullie. just remember to chose very very wisely. after all, if you're with someone who isnt the right one then They're keeping the right One from finding you because you're already taken.

best of luck to you *smile*
Tom Straye's alpha

[alpha_Straye]

(as if it's all about me and my needs like i had a shopping list or something *L* sheesh! i hope you all know what i meant- just finding the One for me was especially hard because im odd, thats all. and i couldnt and wouldnt make do with less than the right One anymore.)

[yullie]

Thanks all for ur support...
Tom & Alpha - wow that is very long journey u both have before finding the right one... years ?? i dunno if i can find that long since regarding with my age and asian culture a little bit lol... but i congratulate u both :)

[PinoytaskMaster]

oh hi yullie!

its nice to finally hear that there is someone from south east asia other than myself in this exciting community! :-)