anal

[subserviant]

Much talked about is anal sex i wonder if as many women actualy doit as its talked about .Do all masters demand it from their subs and should subs submit even if it does not exactly thill them afterall it is a part of being submissive . should it be used for punishmnent ?

[tired.of.vanilla{DJ}]

I have never done it..but I have a vanilla lesbian partner in real life...so I am not sure how often it's really done, but I imagine more than you would think and less than porn would potray. If it is a hard limit than it should never be broken. Never. But if it's a soft limit *like it would be for me* than slowing working up to it would be the way to really handle things. Starting with gentle finger pushes and then working your way up to small then larger plugs...then a cock would be the way to go in my thoughts anyway. If it is a soft limit and your Master wishes it...then I personally would go out of my way to train myself to love it, for pleasing him would please me in the long run.
NO it shoud not be used as punishment...particularly before you are very very used to it. Otherwise it would be very close to rape....and yes that is a strong word for it, but doing anything that is beyond what YOU have given permission to do is rape...Master or not. But rape I mean ONLY if it a hard limit!
But for example, if my Mistress PRO DOM asked me to push a soft limit on anal *a bigger plug for example, I would to please her. Personally I am curious about anal and would not want it ruined by making it a punishment.

[delish]

This is only my opinion, and I can only base it off my own experiences.
Anal sex is a huge bugaboo for me in a lot of ways. My husband (who is also owns me) knows this. It excites him, for a lot of reasons- and, sincerely, most of them not selfish reasons.
We do have anal sex and anal sex-play. For the most part, it thrills me. I sometimes love it and sometimes hate it, but it never fails to thrill in some manner. He has not thus far used it as punishment, though there have been implications that it could be used as such, but not to my detriment. I do not know how often other people have anal sex, but I'm quite sure other people do.

I cannot think of even one sweeping statement that I'd be able to say allMasters/Mistresses demand from the one(s) they own. This lifestyle is highly personalized. So I do not believe all Masters would require anal sex.

Your last question... "Should subs submit..." is one that I will give a rather standardized answer to any question that begins that way: If it is actually detrimental to the sub's well being (mental, physical, emotional, etc), absolutely not. Here's why you should draw that line: If it's causing you damage and you are not communicating that, then you are damaging his/her most precious property.

If it is just uncomfortable or not thrilling or the sub isn't getting anything out of it, then that depends wildly on the nature of your relationship and is probably (again, depending on the nature of the relationship) something that should be discussed between the two.

I know, that's not the sexy answer, but it's how I've found things work out in my own life.

I have to respectfully disagree with likening anal sex as punishment to rape, at least the way it was phrased above. To me, that is akin to likening spanking to abuse. Unless the anal sex is damaging and the sub has made it clear that for whatever reason, he/she cannot handle it (ie; it's a limit, hard or soft), I think it is a completely valid punishment. I say that with the understanding that punishment must be handled correctly- it must be for the right reasons. If the submissive is ultimately harmed on a basic level, not fortified, by the punishment, then whatever it is, it can easily become abuse. To me, though, it's all about communication. Unless I tell my husband (via safeword or otherwise), I don't expect him to distinguish my "No! No! No! nonono! Stop!" that just comes out naturally, from my actual need for him to stop. Does that make sense?

[Ozme52]

Personally (only slightly off topic) I don't think any sex-play should be used to punish a real transgression.

If that's a huge turn on for either party, then incorporate it into a role-play. Nothing wrong with the reluctant _____-girl getting ass-fucked by her ______-lord for spilling his wine (or whatever.)

But not in reality. Any physical punishment I wield would be something she truly dislikes and I take no pleasure in doing. Otherwise I'd end up looking for excuses to punish her and she would come to despise me, and rightfully so.

Anything she dislikes (but isn't a limit) which she knows I like... well she gives me that willingly. I get both the physical pleasure and the knowledge she does it solely for my pleasure. She gets to revel in her emotional submission doing the unpleasant task for me. (Does that make sense?)

[Ozme52]

As to the specific questions.


Much talked about is anal sex i wonder if as many women actualy doit as its talked about .Do all masters demand it from their subs
No, I am not particularly enamoured with anal sex and never require it. That said, I'm very much into it right now because my girl gifted me sole use of her ass. And that appealed to me. Especially as when I take that gift her reaction is unique. She says she feels extremely submissive and used when I take her. And I must admit, it is not only quite heady... but just a little addictive.
and should subs submit even if it does not exactly thill them afterall it is a part of being submissive . Yes, I think if it (or any body) is not a limit, then it belongs to the dominant to use as he sees fit*
should it be used for punishmnent ?As I said above, my opinion is never... unless the dominant detests it himself and would never take pleasure from the act of punishing... but that's just me.

* ~'as he sees fit' presuming that is the nature of your D/s relationship. I can imagine different kinds of D/s where there is more "control" retained by the submissive.

[Sir_Russell]

Again Oz we agree.

Never ever use something you love as punishment, that rule is that if you want a willing sub for that act then how does it follow that she should learn to love it if it is what you use to punish her. In this case anal would quickly become unexciting for her. I tend to like it a little rough but I make damn sure she is very excited first and then once she is used to and liking anal I up it a notch or two.

Cock deep in her ass I grab a handful of hair and pull her back making her arch her back with the other hand I spank on each pull back. Later I may reach forward and grab each nipple still causing the back arch till she is spent

[jeanne]

Oz and Sir_Russell talking about anal sex and describing how it feels and how they go about it and all that and....

oh my God. I think I just had an orgasm.

Really. :)

[sipgirl]

Oz and Sir_Russell talking about anal sex and describing how it feels and how they go about it and all that and....

oh my God. I think I just had an orgasm.

Really. :)

Nods.....Laughing hysterically.
As far as the question goes. believe it or not as worldly as I am I have had anal sex only once or twice(that being an actual cock... fingers and toys yes, only a cock once or twice). It is somewhat humiliating for me which makes it all the more fun. It is something he uses to hang over my head and he often plays with the idea, but after being together as long as we have he doesnt think I am ready for it. I admit at times it is irritating and I just want him to do it and then when he tries I freak out and it just hurts too much. I have a feeling we are slowly working our way up to it....I do think it would be lovely for him to tie me face down knees bent to the bed and play with that spot all night until finally he was able to penetrate. At this point however it is a soft limit for me and he respects that.

[NightNurse]

Oz and Sir_Russell talking about anal sex and describing how it feels and how they go about it and all that and....

oh my God. I think I just had an orgasm.

Really. :)

Just wanted to say-
well...
umm-
me too...:o

[WyldWyl]

Personally, I love anal. Giving, receiving, even in a vanilla context, I love it. For me, I wouldn't use it as a punishment, and I don't think it would work on me. The only way it could work on me as a punishment is to stretch me past my limits and until it hurts...and that's not punishment, that's just dangerous. I don't find it humiliating or shameful, so it wouldn't work from that angle either.

Should a sub offer it if it isn't their thing? I don't know...I guess it depends on the sub and the dom in question. But if it's not a limit, I don't see that it's a problem for the dom to expect anal from his/her sub.

Just my two cents worth

[jeanne]

Just wanted to say-
well...
umm-
me too...:o

Heehee! Everything they write is just...wicked, isn't it? Delightfully so. :)

[jeanne]

I suppose now I should actually answer the original question.

Over the years I probably tried anal sex 20 times, and was successful 10 of those times. I couldn't figure out why sometimes it felt great and sometimes hurt too much to bear...same amount of lube, same position...no clue.

When I finally began to accept and integrate my submission into my life, I figured it out. Anal sex is so personal, so private, so 'dirty', and yes, painful...that my mind has to be in that submissive 'head space' to start with. Then, that feeling of pain when he first begins to push in...the fullness and ache when he's fully in my ass...I feel it from my head to my toes, like an electric charge throughout my whole body, and the feeling of utter submission grows and grows and I never want it to end.

It's even better when He ties my hands behind my back. And whispers in my ear, "You'll do anything for me, won't you?" And I can only say yes, and beg for more.
Harder. Deeper. Please.

[J-Go]

I suppose now I should actually answer the original question.

Over the years I probably tried anal sex 20 times, and was successful 10 of those times. I couldn't figure out why sometimes it felt great and sometimes hurt too much to bear...same amount of lube, same position...no clue.

When I finally began to accept and integrate my submission into my life, I figured it out. Anal sex is so personal, so private, so 'dirty', and yes, painful...that my mind has to be in that submissive 'head space' to start with. Then, that feeling of pain when he first begins to push in...the fullness and ache when he's fully in my ass...I feel it from my head to my toes, like an electric charge throughout my whole body, and the feeling of utter submission grows and grows and I never want it to end.

It's even better when He ties my hands behind my back. And whispers in my ear, "You'll do anything for me, won't you?" And I can only say yes, and beg for more.
Harder. Deeper. Please.


Gulp quiver-
Whew...um OK focus Danielson

Not allot of experience for me either but as far as the act goes I've found the idea is often more exciting than the actual event...unless my partner enjoys it. Botom line, I'm into it if my partner is.

[Sir_Russell]

jeanne,

I guess I forgot to say how much I love it when she comes to me and begs me to take her ass, it isn't quite as good as when we are all ready in play and she begs for it but I still like it.

I came home one day after work and trish met me at the front door did her greeting dressed as she was supposed to be in our home. Such a lovely sight and then she gave me a drink while I settled into my large overstuffed chair. She had only two week before offered her ass to me to finally make her completely mine. Since that day I had taken it 3 more times, carefully being sure that she enjoyed it all including my moans and groans of delight as I spewed my seeds deep into her ass.

This day, as was my custom I sat in my chair to relax before I took my shower, she handed me my drink kneeled at my feet and began undressing me, which was our custom.

I was erect by the time I was naked (not a custom but natural) and she begged me to take her ass. This was the first time she had done that and I assumed she meant after I had cleaned myself from work. I told her that would please me greatly and took a drink. To my surprise she pulled out two bowls from under my chair and with one washed my cock and the other she rinsed it cleaned. This had never happened and came from her own lovely mind.

Next she climbed into my chair knees on each broad arm rest grabbed my neck, got her feet on the arm rests and lowered herself on to my cock.

Hmmm I just realized this should be a complete history so I will post the full story in my picture thread.

I will complete this part by saying the biggest thrill of this was when she whispered in my ear voice heavy with pleasure and excitement that she could grow to really love this.

[jeanne]

jeanne,

I guess I forgot to say how much I love it when she comes to me and begs me to take her ass, it isn't quite as good as when we are all ready in play and she begs for it but I still like it.

I came home one day after work and trish met me at the front door did her greeting dressed as she was supposed to be in our home. Such a lovely sight and then she gave me a drink while I settled into my large overstuffed chair. She had only two week before offered her ass to me to finally make her completely mine. Since that day I had taken it 3 more times, carefully being sure that she enjoyed it all including my moans and groans of delight as I spewed my seeds deep into her ass.

This day, as was my custom I sat in my chair to relax before I took my shower, she handed me my drink kneeled at my feet and began undressing me, which was our custom.

I was erect by the time I was naked (not a custom but natural) and she begged me to take her ass. This was the first time she had done that and I assumed she meant after I had cleaned myself from work. I told her that would please me greatly and took a drink. To my surprise she pulled out two bowls from under my chair and with one washed my cock and the other she rinsed it cleaned. This had never happened and came from her own lovely mind.

Next she climbed into my chair knees on each broad arm rest grabbed my neck, got her feet on the arm rests and lowered herself on to my cock.

Hmmm I just realized this should be a complete history so I will post the full story in my picture thread.

I will complete this part by saying the biggest thrill of this was when she whispered in my ear voice heavy with pleasure and excitement that she could grow to really love this.

Wow.

I've thought it often...I'll just go ahead and say it...

If I didn't already have the perfect One for me Sir_Russell, I'd be hoping to catch your attention. Actually, I'd be working very hard to catch your attention! :)

[Wedjat]

I have a couple of comments here. When we were discussing this particular subject, a gentleman friend once made the comment that for anal sex "you should use enough lube, and then a little bit more". I would wager that anyone who has had it done TO them is going to understand that comment perfectly. Once an individual can relax at the very first entry - the most painful part (I take deep breaths) - what follows can be fantastic. I have had one occasion where it did hurt more than it should for no good reason that I could see. Like everything else, everybody is different, but I think that in this case it is very much one's mental state about it that's going to make it good or bad.

Oh, and jeanne, I agree totally about Sir Russell. Now if he only didn't live 1000 miles away- darned Rockies. : )

[Sir_Russell]

Ladies,
I love anal and about the only time I am not thinking about going into her ass is if I want to finish in her mouth. I find the idea of taking her ass and then having her mouth me clean to be very thrilling but then common sense takes over, disease, just her being sick from the thought and then there is thought of kissing her after that.

That all being said I would never do that even if it was punishment, (strikes me as real punishment) but if she ever did that I know I would be thrilled beyond caring about the rest of it. Funny but true.

[Wedjat]

probably the vomiting would kill the mood

[Logic1]

probably the vomiting would kill the mood

lmao
yeah I can imagine that :p

other than that. I completely agree with Russel here.

[Whippett]

^ ^^ Same here - anal is wonderful - partly because it is complete submission of her body to me - but - to prevent the possibility of disease - it's the one place I wear a condom always. Which means finishing in my girl's mouth is "technically" ass to mouth - but the condom comes off before I part her lips with my cock. Scat in any form is definitely not my thing - and with the condom - I can enjoy the best of all worlds (ass and mouth - sometimes with a detour via the pussy) in safety and with out going where I have no intention of taking my girl.

And, as others have mentioned - I never use what we both find pleasurable as punishment. Doing so doesn't work for me.

[Sir_Russell]

wedjat,

I would never insist or even suggest that she do this, if she took it upon herself though I would have a hard time stopping her was all I was saying. Some fantasies will never be fufilled and that that is a good thing.

I also do not apologize for the few fantasies that I have not fufilled since most are like this one way to risky to ask of anyone.

[Wedjat]

Thank you Sir - had me worried for a bit. I guess I'll just never understand that particular fantasy (and don't really care to!), but then I probably have some you wouldn't care for either : )

[johnislucy]

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[johnislucy]

I am 55 male sub. I hate anal sex. I get spank first if i'm good that day. If bad i get spanked while we do it. There has been times i've had nipple clamps on and waxed while having anal.Hate yes.. But to please my Mistress. Yes please do me. I'm going to be real bad this week. Binghamton ny

[gemmy]

interesting.....not many female responses on this one *smiles*

i personally do love anal and always have, it falls second to only one other act for me but finding men who actually enjoy doing it has been my biggest hurdle

for me everything about a Man coming up behind me puts me into an immediate submissive head space, leaning back into Him as He kisses and bites my neck, His hand coming around the front of me, holding my throat ever so lightly as He pulls me hard against Him gets me instantly writhing and wanting

as jeanne says above, it doesn't always work out without an uncomfortable pain but i've learned a few things help this along nicely;

- a cleansing enema takes away any worries of something distasteful ruining the mood
- the headspace thing - being in the zone so to speak relaxes you completely, your submission and desire to please soon will have you aching for it
- the deep personal connection there is in this particular act goes a step further in relaxing otherwise tight and tense muscles and really relaxation and enjoyment are the key fundamentals here and Lubricate! lol

this can be such a wildly erotic and animalistic act when both sides are fully engaged and let the heat of it wash over them and truly for a submissive, on your knees, head down, ass up, fully open to His pleasure.....is there anything sexier? hehe

gem,
xo

[icey]

Much talked about is anal sex i wonder if as many women actualy doit as its talked about .Do all masters demand it from their subs and should subs submit even if it does not exactly thill them afterall it is a part of being submissive . should it be used for punishmnent ?

i cant speak for other girls but i love it, i dont use lube well not from a jar anyway lol although sometimes i can be a bit more tense than others.

for punisment no way! why punish somebody with something they love?

if he/she doesnt like anal then its generally because their too tense and forcing it upon them (which is what it would be really) can be dangerous.
any form of sex imo should never be used as punishment i think it could cause a lot of damage emotionally as well as physically.

[Sir_Russell]

mastersgem,

Okay, I will ask what is the first act that you have trouble finding a willing man for?

[Cool Luke's Hand]

Looks like this topic has been fairly well discussed already, so I'm just going to echo a couple of people when they say that anal sex definitely shouldn't be used as punishment. Using any type of sex as punishment (be it type, position, method) is just going down a very dangerous road, and if it's not done properly, then...yeah, I think you probably all get the picture. I personally have had little experience in it beyond what I can do myself with a couple of household objects, so take this opinion with a grain of salt.

[gemmy]

mastersgem,

Okay, I will ask what is the first act that you have trouble finding a willing man for?

*blushes* oh i don't have trouble find willing men for that first act *giggles*

tis only in finding men in my conservative world wanting anal sex or alternative sex period for that matter lol

signed,

sick of missionary

lol

[Gr1m'sGirl]

I've only tried anal once, and I didn't enjoy it very much that time. I was nervous and tense, and it just hurt too badly to continue.

I would be willing to try it again if He wished to, but I'm not sure it's something I'd ever offer out of the blue.

<3

[sisterhoney61 {RW}]

Master and I have done some anal play in the past, but not anal sex where He has penetrated me. I have IBS and my illness is so unpredictable that it would make anal sex more trouble than it is worth. Master understands what it is like to live with a chronic illness, so He has never demanded it of me for U/us to have anal sex. I think that maybe if I didn't have IBS W/we might've have tried it, but neither one of U/us really feels that W/we're missing something by not having anal sex.

[Kitten4DADDY]

I have to say that we both love anal. I get very excited when I hear he is going to take my ass. Normally I clean up for this and try to keep myself ready "just in case".

We don't use it as punishment. But in roleplay we do use it, in which I play innocent and beg him not too. Of course I am begging him to, please, please, inside my head. :P
I have to say it is one of my favorite sex acts. Personally I prefer he doesn't use lube. I like the ache it gives and I am so ready for it there is not need most of the time.

He would never make me orally to satisfy him after, unless he wears a condom. Which we do use on occasion for fun, but not on a regular basis. On the other hand he has no problem pulling out at that critical moment to spin me around and jack into my mouth or on my face. He finds this very thrilling and I find that it does arouse me to be used in such a way. This happens in our morning shower routine quite often.

[cierramike@shaw.ca]

i so agree with you. i myself love anal, done properly it can be too much fun.

[Sir_Russell]

No secret that I love anal. I remember a lady I become somewhat addicted to that love to have her ankles on my shoulders near my ears as I took her that way. I have to admit it was quite the powerful feeling to have her wrist tied to the legs on the other side of the bed. Enter her in this position was not easy but once there I had free range over the rest of her body and when I was ready to cum in her I would take great pleasure in trapping her legs with my arms as I pushed those legs down to her shoulders. God talk about tight.

[Wedjat]

If you're not used to it, the doer needs to TAKE THEIR TIME and go slow. Sounds like you might have had a brush with someone who was just too into their own thing, or too excited at the prospect to realize what was going on, to take the time for you to enjoy too. Apologies if I'm wrong, but I'll re-iterate what I said earlier in this post - use plenty of lube, and then a little more. Once one gets into it and learns to relax, you might be able to go ahead with just the lubrication available in the nearby port - if you know what I mean- but for beginners it probably just ain't enough. If he doesn't like it, well, tough, he isn't the one who's going to be screaming when they use the orifice for it's intended purpose the next day. I don't think a Dom worth his salt would want that for their beloved, either. Just sayin'.

[Isabella King]

Anal is all I get. My pussy is for teasing only and I have to admit that it drives me crazy at times...but also makes me wild and wilful and horny as hell. Fortunately I enjoy the whole process of anal.

I prefer to do my own enema but sometimes he insists and sex is always best on that day. It's not just about the act - it's a slow build up with an explosive finish :d and sometimes, if he's careful, he will satisfy himself and keep me wanting - I've lost count of the times I've sold my soul for the price of an orgasm :d

[openwide]

Does anyone else (who has a lot of anal sex) have trouble with gas the following day?

[Wedjat]

Those little urgings are definitely not something you take for granted. : ) It's a bit more, um, serious the day after, isn't it?

[Isabella King]

It's all in the preparation :)

[Sir_Russell]

Has your Dom pulled your hair hard enough to have you arch you back, tightens your grip on him. It also brings your neck and shoulder closer so that the Dom may bite and nibble on neck and shoulders

[icey]

is this a question for all,or someone in particular i wasnt too sure sorry so ive answered it anyway *g*

all the time :) whether its anal or not.i have long hair so it gives him plenty to grab hold of twist and then yank my head as far back as possible although instead of biting and nibbling he generally strangles me.... it sounds terrible put like that lol

[tydnchaynz{NSXX}]

goodness Sir Russell.......anal, hair pulling, biting, and nibbling of the neck and shoulders?? *swoons* hehehehe

Anal is like anything else in my opinion. For some it's the height of the sexual act, for others, down right a hard limit. To me personally, it's not just extremely pleasurable, it's also one of the most complete acts of submission. To have Him behind me, holding me down, and taking my ass is the same as me screaming "I"M YOURS!!" from the top of a rooftop. In the same context, it can also make me feel very much 'punished' if done by someone that has shown in some small way that he doesn't respect me or does not value the meaning that i place on it. *shrugs*

As far as preparation goes, if worked up to it, i don't require that much lubrication. If however, i am in a situation that i would consider to be 'punishment', all the lube in the world does not relieve the ache.

Again, it's different for each sub and i'm sure each Dom. One thing good about this lifestyle is that you can always find someone whose needs are similar to your own. You may also find someone (if you're lucky) who will help you 'push the envelope' and perhaps discover that you enjoy things you never thought was possible.

[rooshoe]

I love anal. LOVE it. It's an instant trigger for me - I can cum very quickly when my ass is penetrated; it's the only sex act that makes me cum exclusively without clitoral/other stimulation. However, it makes me feel extremely vulnerable, and that's a rather difficult feeling that i love and hate, so it's easier for me to handle having something in my ass if i play with my clit to somewhat take my mind off the sensation.

That being said, I don't think it should ever be used for punishment because it is such a delicate area and it's waaaaay too easy to do serious damage.

[Kitten4DADDY]

Yes we like hair play as well. He will pull it or wrap it around my neck. It just depends on his mood at the time. It is all good in my opinion...

[ChainsOfGonzo]

I always liked the idea of anal sex, but never found a partner who did it right until I got older. To this day, anal sex is something I will only do with the right person, even though I do very much enjoy it.

My Master loves anal sex and we do it pretty frequently. Perhaps more than "regular" sex. He does it in just the right way so that it hurts a tiny bit, but mostly just feels really good. It also helps that his penis isn't ridiculous - I lost my anal virginity to a guy who had no business in ANYONE'S unloosened ass, and not much business in a petite girl's pussy either. Master's is the perfect size for everything (guys who think that a 9-inch penis is always good, please take note...).

It isn't a punishment for us. It is part of my general service to him. And I do enjoy it. We do "anal training" when I am away to keep me "in form" (I do tend to close up pretty tight since I'm rather small).

Anal, in my experience, is a bit like BDSM itself. It's the kind of thing that most people don't do right, and one bad experience can be powerful enough to put you off of ever doing it again.

But if you get it right, it can be tons of fun.

[rooshoe]

Anal, in my experience, is a bit like BDSM itself. It's the kind of thing that most people don't do right, and one bad experience can be powerful enough to put you off of ever doing it again.

But if you get it right, it can be tons of fun.

Well said!

[Alessa]

Anal is not something to be taken lightly for those just getting into it, or for seasoned veterans. My dom has me use a butt plug daily to make sure I become more comfortable with the idea of anal penetration, before we have sex. It's almost like a mind over matter dealio with me. It can be amazing if done right, but if done wrong, it could not only hurt, but also there might be health problems if any ripping occurs internally. So like many people said use enough lube to make things as comfortable as possible, and there are things available to ease you into it. I find vibrating plugs work wonders, or you can find some anal lubricants that desensitize a little bit for anyone that finds anal a bit too much to handle at first. After a while, it gets more comfortable and your body no longer panics.

It is much fun and my dom enjoys himself immensely. I am just glad I was blessed with one who takes my comfort zones and interests heavily into account.

[Ownedfyre (mm1)]

I had the most powerful orgasm I have EVER had in my life from anal sex. I was completely immobile for like half an hour afterward.

Damn straight I like it!

[stripedangel]

Oh, i'm definitely into it. However, i take plenty of prep time (including enemas), if i know it will be happening in advance, and make sure i eat alot of fiber. i am just not into the.......mess..........

We use no lube. i rather like it that way, as lube takes away from the sensation for me. i like the pain, what can i say, i am masochist! Most people tend to work to relax the muscles down there and stretch things a bit before penetration...but we don't. We are careful and if the area is too tight, Master slows down and eases up on the force of his stroke....or even stops altogether if it seems that i am having difficulty.

i am small as well, in those areas, and it took some time to get to the point that i'm at with the ability to take it in such a manner...and we do still revert to the original ways sometimes, using a finger or two, usually as foreplay.

Orgasms are massive for me, the g-spot can be found easily this way and omg if you stimulate the clit at the same time ..........................................all i can say is WOW.

[angelic.zest]

OMG i cant believe i missed this thread *pouts* I love anal!..Just in case you all didnt get that, I LOVE ANAL! Love anal sex, anal toys, anything to do with everyone my anal touched, licked, fingered, played with. I've been called a true anal whore but thats just from those who know how much i love it :rolleyes:

Love having my hair pulled, while he taking me from behind, thrusting into me deep and hard, while he lightly bites my back, and asks me who's ass is this?....YUMMIE!

So you yeah i love some anal *blushes*

[rooshoe]

OMG i cant believe i missed this thread *pouts* I love anal!..Just in case you all didnt get that, I LOVE ANAL! Love anal sex, anal toys, anything to do with everyone my anal touched, licked, fingered, played with. I've been called a true anal whore but thats just from those who know how much i love it :rolleyes:

Love having my hair pulled, while he taking me from behind, thrusting into me deep and hard, while he lightly bites my back, and asks me who's ass is this?....YUMMIE!

So yeah i love some anal *blushes*

Yup, that pretty much sums it up for me! If it wasn't so labor-intensive - lube, slowly opening me up, slowly inserting, clean-up - I would probably do it more than regular sex. I think I like it better than vaginal stimulation. It gets me off a *lot* faster, anyway.

-Another Anal Whore

[stripedangel]

LMAO it gets to me that there are lots out there who have no idea what they're missing!!!

[denuseri]

does my taking it up the butt and luvin it dance,,,ohh OHHH OOHH! Yeess

[Arria]

I agree to what was said by stripedangel above... and I love it the best if he chokes me during it... *sighs*

[Lady Hecate]

i actually like anal sex.
So for me, it would never be a punishment.

i do admit though..it is a very bad idea to have a man have anal sex with you, and then also let him put his cock in your pussy immediately after.
Don't know if anyone else was ever dumb enough to do that, but it can cause some yeast-infection-like problems..that last for AGES.
*sigh, wishes she had partners that weren't so dumb too*

Also, Sir Russell..almost half of everything You wrote almost gave me an orgasm too! :D
Damn, You are smoking hot Sir!

[moonlitsub]

Hmm... I'll throw two cents in here though I don't know how much it applies being male but I do enjoy anal, it was sort of something I tried when I was in my young teens and learned to love it. Something also about the role reversal of the female penetrating the male seems so enjoyable. Maybe its just because its like a social taboo or something.

[ineedneedles]

My husband has just recently collared me. He requested that I prep myself for anal because that is his most favorite, and when we were "vanilla" he didn't get it often. He is in the Military and gone a lot. I have never enjoyed anal and when he told me this I was scared to death, but willing to do anything for him. When he requested this he was out for 2 weeks so I bought an anal stretching kit. It consisted of 3 different size plugs and a tube of desensitizing lube. I wore one every night for that 2 weeks, starting with the small one and working my way up. He came home, bound me and went straight for my ass. I was scared but kept relaxed, there was no pain! I actually enjoyed it! Plus, he was so happy with me for opening that part of me to him. I was surprised how easy it was. Now I can't wait for him to take me! Bring on the ass fucking!!! *giggle*

[darkbutterfly]

I enjoy it from time to time, it's a delicacy to me. My Owner isn't too much into it, he thinks its okay but doesn't find it more or less appealing that vanilla sex. But I think I enjoy it more than he does, but he'll do it when I've earned a good reward and I'm ballsy enough to ask for it lol.

[THErapist]

I really feel like anal is all about the build up. I've had vanilla experiences where I either went in too hard or too fast when an inexperienced girl, and the turn outs were never good...however I was lucky enough to have an amazing experience with one of my exes where I tied her spread eagle and worked her over with wet fingers, and was amazed how much farther I was able to go and how much more enjoyable it was for her.

[kuntslave85]

This is very dependant on the person. I personally love anal and cum really hard. Anal is a regular part of my sexlife. But i have friends who have tried it and hate it.

[BrightFyrefly]

Alright, I've seen a lot of people who responded in both ways. Here's my take. Anal needs to be with someone you trust, since you can't really relax enough to enjoy it if you don't trust them. As for being female and liking anal...

Yes...I do. Very much. I think I have had much stronger orgasms with anal than I have with vaginal sex...but that's just me.:hubba:

[Big Girl]

I myself am an anal virgin, however when I am owned by a real time master, I expect that it will be his to take.

[denuseri]

just the word makes me quiver. blushes

[yummysubmummy]

Must agree...it can be very good if done properly, or very bad if not.
I can't tell if it's pleasurable or not or if it's just in my mind (and I'm not usually in a state to analyse this conundrum) - the submissiveness of surrendering myself in that way is a huge turn on for me, and I love it. *blushes*

[sassy75]

I personally love anal. But, there are times that it's just not going to work. I have to be totally relaxed or the initial penetration is too much to bear. If I'm with a partner that isn't experienced with anal and he's trying to rush it, it's not going to work and I'll end up screaming at him to get out. It really does require some patience on the man's part for me. Just take it slow, let me get accustomed to it and it will be a great ride for all involved.

[steelish]

I'm with denuseri; even just the thought of it sends goosebumps across my body. I LOVE anal!

[lucy]

like sassy75 said: if he takes his time and is patient and with me being in the right mood it's great, otherwise it likely ruins the moment completely.

[Kaitlyn]

I totally love anal ,my orgasms are alot more intense when I do it,maybe because I feel more naughty and that I dont have anal as much as i would like:)

[lozzy]

mmm yum. i also quite enjoy anal, and in my relationship its never ever been used as a 'real' punishment, although we do often play little games when I'm being a bit bratty and he threatens it - to which of course i just play up more!

The first time i did it though was in a backpackers hostel, in the toilets when we were both raging drunk and the guy i was with... uhm... missed the right hole. That wasnt a pleasant start. The second time was worse as well - i ended up bleeding from the chafing because we went too quickly.


But my current boyfriend and i went for 'third time lucky' and omg im SO glad we did!!! yum yum yumm!!!

[hotfirefly]

I echo a lot of the sentiments so far that anal can be very great. It feels like the ultimate submission. I feel completely owned and possessed.

I do have to be really in the submissive head-space and very, very turned on. Sometimes a little alcohol doesn't hurt either. Just enough that I feel my inhibitions loosen. but you've got to be careful not to have too much because then you might not feel pain that is telling you to slow down.

Lubrication is also very important. Master usually has me lube myself up. It feels a little humiliating, a lot naughty, and just gets me in the mood even more. I'd recommend a towel underneath as well, things can get slippery.

[slave eswn]

hi A/all...i don't usually post anything except in the fun and games...but i wandered across this thread and in need of some help. i have recently become owned by Lord Pathfinder. He is a wonderful man and Master. however, anal is to be a big part of O/our lives once i am in scotland, and it is new to me. i have engaged once before, but it was against my wishes. i was raped. Master is aware of this, and feels with patience and understanding, He will help me find it exciting and satisfying. i most definately want to and will please my Master, but find i am very ignorant of the subject. if anyone has any helpfull suggestions they would be willing to share with me, please, please feel free to message me at LordPathfinder&pink. i will certainly appreciate any real advice anyone can offer.
i understand some aspects of the act of anal intercourse, but there is so much i still need to know, and would really like to be able to be 'ready' for my Master when the time comes
thank Y/you all very much....and please, when Y/you visit at Master and my site, please refer to me by the name my Master has chosen for me 'pink'
thanks very much

[PropertyOfMasterJoey]

ugh i've gotta be honest Y/yall anal grosses me out and scares me. i dunno why, i mean i'm into all kinds of totally taboo stuff but then one of the most common ones i can't even imagine doing. i feel so horrible cuz i know Master really want to and i've tried so hard to give Him this but every time W/we're about to i freak out and plead with Him to stop for real. i dunno why but i have this total emotional, mental, and physical block against it. Master tells me it's ok and i don't have to, but i still feel so guilty that i can't give my Master something that would please Him.

[lucy]

i understand some aspects of the act of anal intercourse, but there is so much i still need to know, and would really like to be able to be 'ready' for my Master when the time comes

Hello eswn. I'm very sorry to hear that. And to be honest, i'm not sure what you're asking for. However, i do know that i would want to get "ready" together with my Master, not on my own.
Wish you all the best!

[dutchsub]

i don't like it.. but hating it is a big word.
For Him its just the way to bring my back to my small me. Humiliated? a little, hurt a little. but most of all proud that i can give it to Him if He wants it. my ass, like the rest of my body belongs to him. so i'm only greatfull whenever He decides to take His rights and also use my that way. greatfull that He doesn't show consediration about me not liking it. Because of that feeling i even can enjoy the moment in a strange kind of way..

sorry for my spelling and grammer but english is not my first language :)..

greetings heleen{Mr_Ro}

[shayna{L_D}]

anal is a no no in my book. My frist anal expierence was HORRIBlE, granted i was young (15) but still it was H O R I B B L E. Fast-forward ( rewind, whichever) to about 1 year and a half ago and i was with my now ex-girlfriend, and she loved anal, so i would do it just becuase she liked it. And i still hated it then, i would cry, whine, throw a fit (mind you this wasnt a D/s relationship), make up reasons why i didnt want to do it. But in the end, i just DO NOT LIKE ANAL, fingers are okay, anything more then that, is definetly a hard limit. My straw hat goes off to all of you subs out there that just love anal, but for me its a no go. Period.

just my two cents ;)

[lucky#13]

i enjoy and hate anal at the sametime... i have had it done to me several times... my one partner on a regular basis... it hurts like hell but at the sametime the excitement of giving my most intiment hole to them i luv... not to mention after the inital entry and a few minutes in it does start to feel better... i think i would enjoy it more if i was given lube... i have only been in vanilla relationships so it usually was a suprise from behind when i was given it and hurt like a bitch cuz there was no lube... so yes i do enjoy it but more for the surrender part then the actual deed i suppose

[BDMjane]

I'm an anal virgin but I don't mind to try it if he wants too. :)

[Guest102708b]

Me and my Sir do it.......and i LOVE it...i didnt used to...but now that weve gotten the idea to stretch me for a little while before hand, its fantastic. My sir USED to use it as a "punishment" when we were vanilla when i was a "naughty girl" but as soon Id come, hed stop...now that weve figured out how to make it enjoyable for both of us, i think we'll be doing it alot more.

[overxposedpet]

I love anal when they know what they are doing... lube lube and more lube and lotsa time, however, I have to admit once Sir just slipped in with no lube and it was totally amazing... I looked at him like, how come it didn't hurt?!

Its so naughty, which is what makes it so nice.

[Wicked Clown]

My girl and I both plan on having anal. She has had anal before and liked it, but she wants to give a guy the same feeling. That guy is me. :) I have had fun on my own with a dildo and loved it too. Both of us will be clean, since she wants me to give her an enema; her first ever. I can't wait for her to come over, I love her so much. :D

[leah06]

ugh i've gotta be honest Y/yall anal grosses me out and scares me. i dunno why, i mean i'm into all kinds of totally taboo stuff but then one of the most common ones i can't even imagine doing. i feel so horrible cuz i know Master really want to and i've tried so hard to give Him this but every time W/we're about to i freak out and plead with Him to stop for real. i dunno why but i have this total emotional, mental, and physical block against it. Master tells me it's ok and i don't have to, but i still feel so guilty that i can't give my Master something that would please Him.

This is from Dan Savage's Savage Love column of Sept. 25. Obviously, it is not directed at M/s relationships, but some people on this site might find it useful:

I am a 27-year-old hetero female. My new boyfriend is 24 and kinky. Before I met him, I had never been bound or spanked or had any kind of sex that was not "vanilla." I have enjoyed everything we have done and I trust him. Now he wants anal sex. He has what I think is an average dick—based on the three others I've seen—but I'm afraid that it will be painful. Am I a big baby?

Another Needing Anal Lessons

I order you to start having anal sex with your boyfriend immediately, ANAL. Tons of anal—but without letting your boyfriend's cock come anywhere near your ass, 'kay?

In other words: yes to anal, no to dick. Think tongues, lubed-up fingers, very small toys, and smooth, clean vibrators used non-insertively (which is fancy sex-advice talk for "lay the vibrator on your asshole, don't shove it the fuck in"). If you find that you enjoy other kinds of anal sex—and you will—your boyfriend's dick may start to look like a shiny new toy, or an enticing upgrade, and not the intimidating asshammer that it appears to be now.

But for this to work, your boyfriend has to swear on a stack of Jack Morin's Anal and Pleasure & Healths that he will pleasure your ass, and get you off, without attempting to rush you or pressure you into dick-in-ass buttfucking until you decide you're ready.

[Veralynne]

Anal ftw ftw ftw ftw.

I don't think I can stress it enough- even if you don't think you "can" or could like it... it is just a matter of practice and technique. Refer to rachel06's useful post if you still feel reluctant.

I've have had so much faster and better orgasms- and not just because of the mental aspect- there is a real physical spot I feel is much better than any supposed "g-spot" stimulation.

With that said- done "wrong" (or perhaps "right" in certain circumstances)- anal can definitely cause extreme pain. Again- technique- and practice! Your ass needs to learn to accomodate that dick! :-P

[miimii]

I find this htread very interesting. I love Love LOVE L O V E anal! LOL I actually prefer it to vaginal sex. Maybe it's because I just love to have my ass up in the air. LOL I was introduced to it in my teens and the guy was very adamant that he wanted it but I HAD to be relaxed and really believe that he wasn't going to hurt me before he would try it. Then in my early twenties, I met a guy who wanted it all the time and we actually got to the point where he could do it without any lube and he was HUNG!

I have found though in my old age now that if it isn't done correctly, I can't do it. I must be lubed and streched out first and then I can take it for hours and hours. Anal is like normal sex to me and not really an act of submission. If I'm with someone who I know does it well, I will just suffer through the traditional until I can get it in my ass. Is it really submission if you want that more than regular sex?

[submic08]

What disease should I be concerned with? I had my first scene the other night and it included anal to mouth?

[meeker]

l do do it...lol.Yes in some aspects it can be used for punishment,anal unlike most vaginal sex,can be pleasurable,painful and both.As Far as demands that is a something within the relationship,im a huge dp slut,so most of the time i usualy have to at some point have both sensations to feel satisfied...:)

[meeker]

What do you mean by diesease?The anus is full of bacteria,(psstt its were your shit comes out)as far as std's yes that is another way it can be passed.Rule of thumb once its in the ass it goes no where else,vagina,mouth etc,good sanitary,wash before going somewherre else,or use condom for anal and remove condom,before going anywhere else.When going from anal to vaginal you can get uti's etc,as far as mouth im not too educated about it atm,cause it wasnt something i really looked into,but if you want me to research and find out exactely what sickness and such you can get from that i will,just let me know.




What disease should I be concerned with? I had my first scene the other night and it included anal to mouth?

[flying66]

well I enjoy it... and no, I don't believe all Dom/Dommes would demand it of their submissives because... well, it's kind of silly to think that all of them would want the exact same thing! just like subs never all want the exact same thing.

I did see in one of the Dom threads though, that anal sex was considered to be one of the most submissive things a sub could offer.

What matters most is whether or not you want to offer anal sex to your Dom/me because if it's a hard limit for you, then your Dom/me shoudln't demand it of you.

Whether or not anal would be used as punishment would depend on the sub I suppose... some hate it but it isn't a hard limit so it could be a punishment then... for me sometimes it's a punishment, depends on the context and how it's delivered because I rather enjoy it.

hope my post helped!