alpha_fem
04-14-2004, 06:58 AM
Greetings! First of all, I'm new here, so allow me to say hello from Wisconsin. It's great to be here :)
I came because I was looking for a place to get information as my D/s relationship evolves. Here is my first question for you:
I have a slave who has been with me for approximately 3 years now, although we were kind of stumbling through it for much of that time. I won't bore you with all the details, but suffice it to say that I finally decided it's time to end the stumbling and get serious about things. I had asked him one time, about a year ago, if he really wanted to be my slave, because I would become serious about his training and help him along if he was. He responded by saying, "I don't know". I let that ride from that time until a few nights ago, when I told him he'd had long enough to decide, and that I needed an answer. His answer was yes. NOW, finally, for the question:
Since we never really WERE in what I'd consider a D/s or M/s relationship I will have to train him from the beginning. He is a very good submissive, but a very bad slave (in my opinion). It's mostly a mindset, or personality thing, but I don't really need to go into a lot of detail on this just to ask a question. I'd like to implement a points and/or demerit system, and am looking for suggestions on punishments to go along with the demeritis. The only thing I've really used on this particular submissive has been to ignore him, or show him my dissatisfaction...but I feel I really need to kick it up a notch. With that in mind, I'd be greatly appreciative to learn of methods of punishment (not S/M play, but actual punishment) you all implement in your own D/s or M/s relationships.
Thank you for your help.
I came because I was looking for a place to get information as my D/s relationship evolves. Here is my first question for you:
I have a slave who has been with me for approximately 3 years now, although we were kind of stumbling through it for much of that time. I won't bore you with all the details, but suffice it to say that I finally decided it's time to end the stumbling and get serious about things. I had asked him one time, about a year ago, if he really wanted to be my slave, because I would become serious about his training and help him along if he was. He responded by saying, "I don't know". I let that ride from that time until a few nights ago, when I told him he'd had long enough to decide, and that I needed an answer. His answer was yes. NOW, finally, for the question:
Since we never really WERE in what I'd consider a D/s or M/s relationship I will have to train him from the beginning. He is a very good submissive, but a very bad slave (in my opinion). It's mostly a mindset, or personality thing, but I don't really need to go into a lot of detail on this just to ask a question. I'd like to implement a points and/or demerit system, and am looking for suggestions on punishments to go along with the demeritis. The only thing I've really used on this particular submissive has been to ignore him, or show him my dissatisfaction...but I feel I really need to kick it up a notch. With that in mind, I'd be greatly appreciative to learn of methods of punishment (not S/M play, but actual punishment) you all implement in your own D/s or M/s relationships.
Thank you for your help.