The Sex Addiction Affliction

[Alex Bragi]

I feel quite sure everyone here will know, and possibly be first hand familiar with, the meaning of the words “nymphomania”(otherwise know as every man's dream) and "frigidity" (otherwise know as every man's nightmare). They're both well diagnosed and documented female conditions. And, we'll all be familiar with, although hopefully with out the benefit of first hand experience, what "male impotence" (every man and almost woman's nightmare) is.

But what about "sex addiction"? Is there really such a thing as "male sex addiction"? The word "addiction" immediately suggests a lack of self control; a loss of power to make decisions for one's self; a problem that needs to be treated because of the adverse effects it may have on us and/or our community. But is this problem of "sex addiction" really a problem?

Are men who enjoy masturbating more than others, viewing a truck load of porn, or just simply having a whole lot more sex and sexual fun than the rest, "sex addicts" and therefore a problem to themselves or the community?

On the other hand, are men who infernally cheat on their spouses or have a need for endless "love 'em and leave 'em" one night stands, “sex addicts”? Or, is this just convenient way for them not to take responsibility for their own poor judgement and lack of self-control?

Is "sex addiction" an actually condition over which some men really are powerless, or is it just a label given to these overly horny bastards who just simply can't get enough sex?

Footnote: I feel it's important to distinguish between a "sex addict" and a rapist pedophile. A rapist rapes; it's much more about power rather than sex. A pedophile is just simply a sick and twisted mind. While a "sex addict" quite simply has sex--lots and lots of sex.

[orchidsoul]

hmmm. interesting topic, mostly because I know a few people that have been affected and it's been detrimental to their relationships.

Overly horny, insatiable sexual appetite, masterbation, porn, etc might not be sexual addiction by any means.

However, as with any "addiction"... often defined as obsession, compulsion, or excessive physical dependence
if it interferes with the functions of their life (work, family responsibilities, etc) or the relationships within their lives (spouse, girl/boyfriend, etc) I do think it's an addiction.

when self-control is lost, regardless of the consequences, it becomes an addiction imo.

[In2kink]

The term addiction is used in many contexts to describe an obsession, compulsion, or excessive physical dependence. In medical terminology, addiction is a state in which the body relies on a substance for normal functioning and develops physical dependence, as in drug addiction. When the drug or substance on which someone is dependent is suddenly removed, it will cause withdrawal. However, common usage of the term addiction has spread to include psychological dependence. In this context, the term also refers to behaviors that are not generally recognized by the medical community as problems of addiction.

When applied to compulsions that are not substance-related, such as gambling addiction, computer addiction and sexual addiction the term is used to describe a recurring compulsion by an individual to engage in some specific activity, despite harmful consequences to the individual's health, mental state or social life.

A person’s sexual proclivities then would I think be best described as an addiction when there exists an intimacy disorder characterized by compulsive sexual thoughts and acts that like all addictions, have negative impacts on the addict and on family members. Also it would have to be progressive in the sense that over time the “addict” would have to intensify the addictive behavior to achieve the same results.

Examples of sexually addictive behavior include compulsive masturbation or the extensive use of pornography or phone or computer sex services. For others, addiction can involve illegal activities such as exhibitionism, voyeurism, obscene phone calls and child molestation (which we agreed to exclude for the good reason that sex offenders act not for sexual gratification, but rather out of a disturbed need for power, dominance, control or revenge, or a perverted expression of anger). Still to meet the criteria of being an addiction, a person would I think have to engage in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasing negative consequences to himself/herself or others. In other words, a sex addict will continue to engage in certain sexual behaviors despite facing potential health risks, financial problems, shattered relationships or even arrest.

Most healthy humans have a strong desire for sex and in fact, lack of interest or low interest in sex can indicate a medical problem or psychiatric illness. But we are all unique and some people have a higher sex drive than others. That doesn’t necessarily mean they have an addiction.

[Asmodeuss]

The human mind and body can be addicted to just about anything
that causes our body and mind to release the various peptides
that our body needs. If you get to much of one kind your body
adjusts to accept more of that kind and less of the others in affect
making you want more and more of that one peptide. This is what
happens when someone abuse's drugs because most drugs mimic
our natural chemicals.This is also why we have adrenaline junkies
and workaholics and the like.

[orchidsoul]

in2Kink- thank you! You've put into words what I couldn't fully.