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thedarkstatic
08-26-2008, 10:00 AM
I'm looking for some ideas to humiliate my female sub most of the stuff out there is for male subs does anyone have any ideas?

canadapiratem
08-26-2008, 10:43 AM
I Believe there's a thread about humiliation in the erotic photo's section http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=15772 <=link

puppygirl
08-26-2008, 11:27 AM
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denuseri
08-26-2008, 01:05 PM
we actually have had several threads on the subject both boys and girls varities

it depends of course on your current limits between you two

on the lighter side

having her go to a grocer and purchase a cucumber or a corn on the cobb and nothing else but some ky jelly for lubricant was a task i found to be adorably erotic and humiliating (i know from personal experience)

one that envolved several people was when a group of my owners buddies were in town, dressed for the clubs we pulled into a convience store in two different vehicals, everyone got out and milled in the parking lot while little ole me (looking one step away from a hooker) had to go inside in plain view while all the guys catcalled etc, and purchase two whole boxes of condums ,,,,it was especially deliciously humiliating

variations abound on the shopping trip humiliation tasks of course, the only limits are you and her's imajination,

you may even want to plumb her mind by having her write down like twenty ideas she is willing to try someday, then shelfing them for a while and modifiying them at your convience and later after she thinks nothing is coming introduce one of them as a task

Hime
08-26-2008, 03:17 PM
How about going out to dinner with her wearing a skirt, and having her go to the restroom, remove her panties and put them in her purse? That's a classic. :)

Or if you have a friend who is interested or involved in the lifestyle, you can take things a bit further by having her perform tasks for you in front of the friend.

of course, it all depends on both of your limits.

MasochisticAngel
09-18-2008, 11:21 AM
what you should do is fuck her tothe point were she has cum dripping down her legs and on her face and hair.
then make her go out in public wearing a short short skirt
then sit back and watch.

sissymaid
10-12-2008, 05:44 PM
give her a enema and plug her butt with a buttplug to hold the water in.then go out for a drive with her somewere and then have her empty her arse outside. could do it infront of people in a very public place but i wouldnt recoment that unless you want to be arrested lol.i would do it somewere quiet but with chance of passersby.

sissymaid
10-12-2008, 05:45 PM
or what about locking a nappy on her and giving her some laxatives and then sending her out shopping or somthing.

Ozme52
10-12-2008, 06:35 PM
Shopping rocks.

Elsewhere I've suggested creating a shopping list of bottom shelf items... and send your sub out in a short skirt, no panties, and not allowed to bend her knees.

A shopping list of sexual items, such as lube, and required to ask a male clerk his opinion of the various choices.

Shoe shopping in a short skirt, again pantiless of course.

Go lingerie shopping and insist she model the choices for you... out where she can be observed... even better if you can arrange someplace classy... and have the salesperson "assist" her making quick changes so you can compare colors... without having to wait while she would otherwise disappear into a dressing room.

Go furniture shopping... like for a dining room table... and have her test the height by leaning over the table... or over the back of a couch...

hopperboo
10-12-2008, 06:40 PM
one that envolved several people was when a group of my owners buddies were in town, dressed for the clubs we pulled into a convience store in two different vehicals, everyone got out and milled in the parking lot while little ole me (looking one step away from a hooker) had to go inside in plain view while all the guys catcalled etc, and purchase two whole boxes of condums ,,,,it was especially deliciously humiliating





A shopping list of sexual items, such as lube, and required to ask a male clerk his opinion of the various choices.

Go furniture shopping... like for a dining room table... and have her test the height by leaning over the table... or over the back of a couch...
Those are hot idea's! :icon176:

LordMarco85
10-12-2008, 07:28 PM
...stick her some needles under her toenails. Very painful *gg*

Is any (female) sub here who would like this?

Marco

TheDeSade
10-12-2008, 07:34 PM
My opinion is the very first place to start is to get inside your submissives head. Until you know him/her and understand well what makes the submissive tick, what it is that he or she fears or really finds humiliating, can you begin to formulate tasks which will actually push those psychological buttons that bring true humiliation and discomfort.

star_sparkle
10-13-2008, 09:22 PM
^
What he said
:)

denuseri
10-13-2008, 09:52 PM
...stick her some needles under her toenails. Very painful *gg*

Is any (female) sub here who would like this?

Marco

This has everything to do with pain and nothing to do with humiliation.

I dont know if anyone here would like that paticular torture. I for one would not.

Oak
10-15-2008, 12:11 AM
We once went out to buy a new riding crop and did of course go to a quite fine "horse" stuff shop and selected a very nice one. I made her bend over, lifted up her skirt- she's pantiless of course and gave just one stroke, asked if it's good, which it was turned to the very surprised, her jaw was on the floor, cashier, and bought it.
Make a nice breast bondage and let her wear a tanktop or similar that shows it.
Slutty or very misplaced clothes or all to young for her age.
Lead her around in a collar and a leash, maybe combined with the hands cuffed together.
Using a remote controlled dildo and enjoy her reactions when you turn it on.
Using butt- plug and dildo at the same time. Gives a very nice gait.
Else just use your imagination and remember to stay inside the subs limitations.

Oak
10-15-2008, 12:15 AM
This has everything to do with pain and nothing to do with humiliation.

I dont know if anyone here would like that paticular torture. I for one would not.
I wouldn't even like doing it

FatherTimejr
10-18-2008, 07:27 AM
I agree with needing to understand and commmunicate to figure out whats best but... couple ideas come to mind...

Start with, and I dont know much about rope bondage but its something im learning about, could do a set where you bind her up in some while not incredibly uncomfortable, maybe so when she moves a knott rubs her clit, or squeezes her breasts, and have her put that under a dress and go out to dinner at some fairly nice resteraunt. While at the same time perhaps have a vibe egg in her ass or pussy with remote you control.

Also could get her like a (baby) bottle to have her drink out of while in public.

make her wear a vibrating clit clip/ring which you have control of.

(as you can tel alot of mine are -in public- things)

have her carry a paddle in her purse, and if she does something bad, naughty, what not, you could have her bend over and you give her a swift paddeling whereever you are.

for something around the house, make her wear really kinky bondage lingerie, ones that expose her breasts, or crotch area, maybe frilly type maid set with that whenever shes around the house, and only let her put on a see through nighty to answer the door.

Some ideas, really though alot of its in her mind, and you need to delve into that. I think someone else posted the idea of making her write up a list to give to you, thats a good idea. Hope some of my ideas might come in handy!

FTjr

Ozme52
10-18-2008, 03:41 PM
...stick her some needles under her toenails. Very painful *gg*

Is any (female) sub here who would like this?

Marco

Clearly off topic. Humiliation is a mind game...

DarkHorseSr
10-18-2008, 04:43 PM
Have her drink several large glasses of water over a short time. Don't let her use the bathroom. Dress her in short tight shorts take her to the mall shopping still not letting her relieve herself. While at the mall have her drink more water, ect. After a time you can guess what will happen. When she does wet herself make her still walk around the mall shopping.

hopperboo
10-18-2008, 05:05 PM
When she does wet herself make her still walk around the mall shopping.
That seems a little...TMI. Not everyone in public wants to "play" this too.

LordMarco85
10-29-2008, 06:08 AM
Well, sorry, misread the title. English isn't my mothers speak so I'm sorry :) I know it's a special fetish with those needles ;) Oh dear, I'm missing InSex so much :(

Greetings

DesertDom
11-07-2008, 06:38 AM
We had a vibrator with a wireless remote control that was very nice. Would go to a restaurant or a shopping mall and turn it on at opportune times. It was loud enough for the server to hear a low hum and always wonder about the noise. If asked, my girl was required to answer truthfully and in detail about what the noise was and what it was doing.

She always loved that, no matter how much she hated it.

flying66
11-09-2008, 08:00 PM
wow you guys are all about the public humiliation thing >.> I'd worry about running into my boss or potential employer or being arrested for public indecency.
well that's just me anyways lol

E.C. Holland
11-09-2008, 09:18 PM
A very safe public humiliation is making the slave ask for specific items at an adult bookstore. Make her introduce herself and say that her master sent her, and then have her ask specific questions about butt plugs, etc. For fun you can make her ask (while keeping a straight face) about their return policies on sex toys.

Much less of a threat of involving people who'd rather not be exposed to your perversions, since the clerks at most porno shops have seen it all.

thepast
11-09-2008, 09:42 PM
Ok folks... Friendly reminder from your neighborhood admin...

The point of this thread is to solicit humiliation tasks & the like for a female sub. That includes ALL things related to humiliation--public, private, physical, verbal, etc. Just because YOU don't consider something humiliation, or YOU don't agree with it, doesn't mean it isn't "fine." As always, YOUR opinion is yours & yours alone... everyone else is entitled to theirs!

Please refrain from making snide or snarky comments about other peoples' ideas; if you don't like them, you don't have to use them!

subserviant
11-15-2008, 05:46 PM
teke yr sub to a restaurant find a table thats kind of out of the way make her take off her bra while still having her top on have her lay it on the tablethen have her expose her breast to u then have her remove her panties ,lay them on the table have her stand lifting her skirt to her waist ,only at the front so u can see but not others

star_sparkle
11-17-2008, 10:45 PM
just my own private humiliation task. Being made to cum on your food and then to eat it off the floor.

sirbootnocka
11-23-2008, 02:34 PM
This one is for those privately minded: Make her into a piece of furniture, like have her sit on a big vibe, in the middle of the room. Make sure that it's one of those days that something you really like is playing on tv. Then have her hold a tray of your favorite snacks. Then pay her no attention other than to eat your snacks.

sirbootnocka
11-23-2008, 02:35 PM
You should also blindfold her so that she isn't watching tv as well.

hotblackchick
11-23-2008, 06:56 PM
Whisper sweet nothings in her ear while you are penetrating her...Then blend in praises about her being your good girl, a great slut, and tell her what a whore she is for letting you fuck her any way that you want. Don't forget to remind her that she is Your whore! :)

his_girl_l
11-23-2008, 07:59 PM
Spank her over your knee and check how wet she is. Then tell her how naughty she is for getting so turned on. So of course she needs another spanking. Then another for being so naughty and dirty for being so turned on by it. And so on and so on......

his_princessx
12-08-2008, 05:22 PM
don't give him any ideas!


:blurp_ani

openlyrefined
01-05-2009, 09:54 PM
I like where this is going, DarkHorseSr!!

Have her drink several large glasses of water over a short time. Don't let her use the bathroom. Dress her in short tight shorts take her to the mall shopping still not letting her relieve herself. While at the mall have her drink more water, ect. After a time you can guess what will happen. When she does wet herself make her still walk around the mall shopping.

hopperboo, I have had this discussion with many people on this & other forums.




When she does wet herself make her still walk around the mall shopping.
That seems a little...TMI. Not everyone in public wants to "play" this too.

I’d be willing to bet most people don’t even notice when someone wets themselves. It’s the aftermath they notice.
1) How many people have you actually seen publicly urinate whilst walking in a mall? Probably none. Ever.
2) How many times have you seen people who have already wet themselves?

I think a common misconception is that we aren’t responsible adults.

Humiliation, does not have to be sexual & obviously we wouldn't be dressing in full harness for a force fuck buttake in the middle of Santa's village.

mrlibido
03-25-2010, 03:58 PM
Cane and belt her ass and thighs very hard. Then, go with her to nudist beach. At evening, go to with her to some private non-bdsm party and order her to make a striptease in front all the people.

TexasGhost
03-25-2010, 09:08 PM
Have her go to a grocer store and purchase a cucumber and nothing else but some ky jelly for lubricant is a good one an been said in this post already ,how'er add a twist to this .Once she gets back have her return it ,with reason the cucumber is to small an its the wrong lub.

MstrShimoda
04-04-2010, 01:44 PM
Have her grow her armpit hair for the summer...that should get her attention

piper8189
04-27-2010, 06:08 PM
A very safe public humiliation is making the slave ask for specific items at an adult bookstore. Make her introduce herself and say that her master sent her, and then have her ask specific questions about butt plugs, etc. For fun you can make her ask (while keeping a straight face) about their return policies on sex toys.

Much less of a threat of involving people who'd rather not be exposed to your perversions, since the clerks at most porno shops have seen it all.

i'm new to all of this and my Master just did this one to me today...very humiliating for new subs...trust me

TxEric
11-15-2010, 01:08 PM
Have a private party with some of your Dom friends. Simply have your sub serve drinks and snacks on a silver tray. She is of course naked with perfect makeup applied and wearing her collar. She is instructed to allow anyone ( male or female ) at the party to do anything they like to her. Do NOT tell the guests. Then you may observe how bold they get as the night goes on. You may punish her later for any slow service or for being a slut who allows anyone to have her, etc.

maryrobyn
01-13-2011, 07:42 PM
My sub once was about 56yrs old. I gave her a huge enema, plugger her up & made her put ona tight dress & she looked pregnant. Then took her in public, made her go into drug store & buy KY jelly & also pack of cigarettes. Then outside she lit a cigarette & smoked it while going to car a block away. She was humiliated on several levels, pregnant & over 50 & smoking too. Also had to buy lube. The we rode around for an hour & finally home for her to run to bathroom!

graptolite
01-14-2011, 09:28 AM
Make her go to a webcam site like camfuze.com and show her boobs.

(she doesn't have to show her face, so it is anonymous.)

You can also make her show ass or make her ask for money to show boobs so that she feels like a cheap slut

Grapto

MasterJames92
09-30-2011, 06:46 AM
How about taking for to porn shop and having her suck off who ever is there

Misschief
11-10-2011, 04:21 PM
Whisper sweet nothings in her ear while you are penetrating her...Then blend in praises about her being your good girl, a great slut, and tell her what a whore she is for letting you fuck her any way that you want. Don't forget to remind her that she is Your whore! :)

Fairly close to what I had in mind.. Why everyone feels as though humiliation needs to transpire outside the house is both interesting and frustrating to me.. Something as simple as arousing a sub and then verbally deriding her/him about said arousal sounds perfectly conflicting (humiliating/arousing) to me..

ksst
11-10-2011, 04:38 PM
Collar, leash..

iucundavi
11-11-2011, 12:23 AM
It really depends on your sub....if she enjoys spankings/canings/etc., then make it more psychological. I like the idea of intermingling humiliation with adoration while using her body.

ksst
11-11-2011, 06:33 AM
I think there are good ways to humiliate and some not so good ways. If he were to call me a stupid idiot in front of my friends (which he wouldn't) that would be bad humiliation, and not arousing at all. It would just make me want to kick him in the shins.
When he ties me up naked, standing up, and gets me so aroused without touching that I am running rivers down my legs, that is all together good humiliation.

Oldskool454
11-21-2011, 10:44 AM
My sub enjoys being made to wear a plug and told to go shopping or run errands. I made a bra for her that had exposed nipples and made her wear that on several occasions and prohibited her from wearing a jacket so her nipples were very visible.
I force her to undergo ass training at random times when the thought occurs to me, more often than not when I know she would rather not, like going to a school concert for her kids, the more inappropriate the better it seems.

As far as domestic situations, she has been made to act as a foot stool for me while I watch TV, any complaints or whimpering resulted in some riding crop corrective measures.

She has been kept in a dog kennel in the corner of the living room with a ball gag and hood on for extended periods of time, or in a closet confined and restrained while I went about my usual household tasks or watched TV.

All of the above are ideas or thoughts that she has expressed though and I put into action for her.

brace [EDQ]
01-08-2012, 12:22 PM
Have her get a bra that is at least 3 cup sizes too large. Have her wear it with water balloons in to fill in the remaining space and a tight top. Your call whether you want the balloons to show or not. Then take her out in public where the guys can stare at her enhanced boobs.

Tie a string from each hand, under the hem of her skirt, then up to her waist. If she lifts her arms, her skirt goes up. Then take her shopping.

Hooker heels, such as http://www.thefashionpolice.net/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/taylor-momsen-tip-jar-shoes.jpg . Of course, the "tips" section would have some coins.

Give her an enema in private. She is to hold it until you give permission. As the cramps set in, she will eventually be reduced to begging and pleading to be allowed to poop. Different enema additives may speed the process.

Conner
01-13-2012, 12:36 AM
I like where this is going, DarkHorseSr!!


hopperboo, I have had this discussion with many people on this & other forums.


I’d be willing to bet most people don’t even notice when someone wets themselves. It’s the aftermath they notice.
1) How many people have you actually seen publicly urinate whilst walking in a mall? Probably none. Ever.
2) How many times have you seen people who have already wet themselves?

I think a common misconception is that we aren’t responsible adults.

Humiliation, does not have to be sexual & obviously we wouldn't be dressing in full harness for a force fuck buttake in the middle of Santa's village.

This is very true... I've wet myself before because I have overactive bladder (this also makes this particular kink very interesting for me) and no one noticed til I mentioned it. I was at work when it happened. So yeah...

The public butt plug idea is appealing to me too, I've considered doing that myself but I haven't worked up the nerve. Bet she'd like that.

sexisubi
02-13-2012, 08:42 PM
Oh, have her be nothing but your "cock whore" and have her suck your dick all day but she isnt allowed to cum... or have her name her different areas something else, like what is your mouth for.. what is your yada yada yada... and have her respond the same way each time in perverted ways like for the mouth question to worship her Doms cock or something such as... or you can have her sit in the corner and have her mouth open the entire time so you can slip it in when you want... oh and off the head topic haha! you could also hogtie and gag her in the living and leave her for your viewing pleasure.

Sirdred
04-26-2012, 12:44 PM
The perfect humilation task is when her response is a shiver and a red face. One thought I had was to send her to a pet store to by a dog collar and then have it engraved with her slave name or initials.

Warmaster
02-09-2014, 02:29 PM
To preface the following, I will state that ALL my girls KNOW the safeword and are Secure in the knowledge that using it will bring things to an Immediate halt without exception.
Also, I know them very well, their Limits (Soft & Absolute).

Humiliation/Embarrassment is something that can be as subtle as simply reminding Lhana she has a great-looking ass (she's never really been comfortable in short skirts) in public and such never fails to get a good Blush and giggle.
When going out, they all wear very high heels that lock securely around the ankle with small chromed padlocks. People see the 'flash' and immediately notice when they look down that none of the girls can remove their footwear...ad there's NO mistaking the statement made.

Yes these are 'light' methods, but make no mistake...when a good number of folks notice locked-on footwear, attention focusses and the results are impressive.
Also, such runs no risk of arrest or similar hassles.
Add in sheer blouses, no bras, and skirts short enough to guarantee they flash their asses unless they are VERY mindful of such--and such 'light' methods can deliver a massive payoff.
If your girl/girls start getting wet enough that it starts down their legs, so much the better.
Have your car seats stain/scotchguarded, same with sofas and such. After a good bit of fun in public, some women are wetter than a waterslide at peak summer hours. ;)

It doesn't need to be Blatant, and it's mainly in the head, thus for the best results, plan your tactics around her Triggers.

Sirs_GoodGirl (Whyteknyght)
04-23-2014, 05:04 PM
from Warmasters preceding post on this thread:
When going out, they all wear very high heels that lock securely around the ankle with small chromed padlocks. People see the 'flash' and immediately notice when they look down that none of the girls can remove their footwear...ad there's NO mistaking the statement made.
Yes these are 'light' methods, but make no mistake...when a good number of folks notice locked-on footwear, attention focusses and the results are impressive.
Also, such runs no risk of arrest or similar hassles.
Add in sheer blouses, no bras, and skirts short enough to guarantee they flash their asses unless they are VERY mindful of such--and such 'light' methods can deliver a massive payoff.If your girl/girls start getting wet enough that it starts down their legs, so much the better.Have your car seats stain/scotchguarded, same with sofas and such. After a good bit of fun in public, some women are wetter than a waterslide at peak summer hours. ;)
HOW did you get ahold of my "dream diary, Sir??? Actually...kudos to you indeed as I'll be adding the simply incredibly sexy idea of little padlocks for heels....you are a genius and I cannot wait to send this to my Master in the hopes that he may think me worthy of such humiliation. I actually groaned with lust reading this post! And yes. I'm one of he ones you need to scotchguard against. As for a waterslide mention, that would be flowing down my thighs.
*Shivers and moans*
Truly, you Sir are one of the Good Ones.

dandom999
02-23-2015, 03:00 PM
I'm looking for some ideas to humiliate my female sub most of the stuff out there is for male subs does anyone have any ideas?

How about buying your bondage equipment at petsmart, and bring her along for a fitting