A Question of Age.

[Walker_In_The_Wild]

It's been awhile since I've posted anything, or even been on the forums. I've had a very busy week with still more to come. So, I thought I might drop in with a question:

Do you relate well with people within your own age bracket? Sexually or otherwise.

And if everyone wouldn't mind elaborating on their answer.
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I may as well go first.

I, unfortunately, at 19 have very little in common with most within my age bracket. Part of that may be related to my upbringing, but I have always preferred the company of those older than myself.
Sexually the same way, no need to elaborate upon what is as simple as women over girls.

Unfortunately that’s all I have time for.

I hope to drop in later.

-Vic

[Butkus]

I don't think about it. I'm 56 and loving a sub who is a little younger than I but even if she were older,she is still the same person. Personally, I will take maturity anyday because I damn sure am not in the nursing home yet. You hear that,babe!

[MissRora]

I am a 20yr old female. Relating to people my age is near impossible. The people I keep around me are usually 5-10 years older then me, now THEY get me.. I have always been told by my parents, since a very young age, that I was years beyond my real age. It always seemed to baffle them when a 5yr old was writing poetry that was symbolic of things that maybe a 15yr old would experience.

I guess I have delt with this my entire life. I never had any friends till I was out of school. I know it can be hard at times but you will eventually "fit"<3

If you ever want to chat, since we're in the same boat, I would love to talk to you<3

*huggles*
-Rora xx

[sisterhoney61 {RW}]

Well, considering that I am 47 and my Master/husband is 27, I don't have a problem relating to people younger than myself. And when I had my last job we had people there in a range of 18-55 and I didn't have a problem with any of them because of their ages.

[naomi57 {ukMC}]

hello welcome to the forum i have a Master who is my partner he is 37 and i am 51 so the age gap is 14 years

[Remia]

At 19 years old I'm a bit of a contradiction, because while I'm always told that I'm mature for my age I also feel and act quite young, too. I get along well with people who are kindhearted, so I don't get along with many people at or beneath my age bracket because, honestly, kids are mean! But I don't believe in labeling a person based on age (or much else really), and have found many wonderful people of all ages. I could probably give a more complete answer if I could remember, but I really never consider a person's age as all that important. ^.^

[Hime]

I'm 23. I have friends and lovers pretty much everywhere between 20 and mid-thirties. Younger than that, I don't have much interest in sleeping with someone, and older than that I have some hangups about sexual relationships.

Generally it's easier for me to make friends with people who are a few years older than me.

[canadapiratem]

Hey, I'm 20, and although I have some friends who are my own age, I am always most comfortable with people who are older, or younger than me. I'd love to find some people my own age who I can relate to sexually, because most people who I connect with are at least 10 years older than me, or about 2 years shy of legal. so if any 19-25 year olds want someone to relate to, I'd love to find someone new to meet.

[sipgirl]

I have never dated anyone my own age and hubby/Master is 6 years older. I am the oldest of 5 siblings and as such, always took on a more mature role. Every guy I have ever been with ir dated has been a minimum of 3 years older, sometimes much more. The only person in my life (besides my younger siblings) I have a friend-type relationship with who is younger is one of my best friends who happens to be very mature for his 23 years. I am a mother of 5 at 31 so I guess I am mature for my age, but it has always been that way. Being mature I also know how to cut loose and when the time comes around for a girls night out....BEWARE LOL!!

[Bound to be]

I get on with people of any age, my close friends, I am 29 and my close friends range from 21 - 42(ish) although partners tend to be closer my own age, I find that a similar outlook and sense of humour are the things that really bind me to my friends.

[amosse85]

23 here, and I've felt considerably more mature than my "peers" since high school. Unfortunately this doesn't always manifest itself in a positive manner, and I have enough trouble identifying with people as it is.

[DowntownAmber]

I have friends of all ages; anywhere from teenagers to folks older than my parents. We certainly relate to each other in different ways, but there is clearly something in each dynamic that is worthwhile to pursue.

As far as lovers and relationships? ALWAYS with older men, anywhere between a ten to a nearly thirty year age split. I don't consciously seek out men that age, we simply seem to click. Careers, goals, overall compatibility - it seems to work for us.

[Walker_In_The_Wild]

Simply wonderful. While I never expected that I was alone I am happy to see so many like-minded individuals out there.

I am curious if position within our own families adds a greater chance of maturity and what we see as a desirable maturity level in our mates. As Sipgirl pointed out, she is the eldest of her family. As am I.

How about the rest of you?

Thank you.

-Vic

[DowntownAmber]

Middle child here.

[sisterhoney61 {RW}]

I'm the youngest child.

[LadyAznTiger13]

Also the eldest.. of 3.
I do have trouble even listening to ppl of my age group.. their stupidity sometimes amazes me... partners tend to b close to my age but I relate to people older/younger

[AdrianaAurora]

My husband is 19 years older than me and a lot of people took issues with that. They mistake older for old, (you can see in my profile how geriatric He looks at 43, lol). Its not an age fetish, I am attracted to a certain mental wiring that seems to be more common in older men, but I was once or twice attracted to younger men (2 and 3 years respectfully) who had that dominant mentality already prominent.

When we had met I pegged Him to be a lot younger (one of these days I am going to find that Dorian Grey picture He keeps in the attic, rotflmao). When He told me His real age, I was worried He was going to think I am too young so for a long time I left Him under the impression that I am a lot older than I truly was (I skipped grades so that was easy).

His age was just a fact, it had nothing to do with my attraction to Him. Age is just a number, more important is the maturity/personality of the partners. People told me it was unseemly for us to be together, but to me it would have been unseemly to break up with someone I already liked so much and with whom I have so much in common for the frivolous fact of the year He was born in. Of course a word of caution - once, it may be true love; but repeatedly - cradle chaser.

I have friends of all age groups, I get along with those who are older and those in my own age bracket just as well.

[bip0lar]

i'm the youngest--and the other two are brothers 10 years older than i am. I think that's what kinda pushed me into pursuing friendships [and, well..you know] with older guys. School and high school were pure hell so no, i never made friends there. The people I'm close to range from 20somethings to mid-30s. Not that i have a problem with anybody, it's just that whether i like it or not when a person hears my age [almost 19], they just won't take me as seriously as they ought to--i think you know the drill.
Several shrinks later, i don't care. *giggles* I get along with those worth my time and effort, regardless of their ages.

[deigja]

hi
only child and 24 years old, here.
I do not get along very well with people of my own age group, and I cannot really tell you why. i usually connect best with people about 5-10 years older than me. still I´m sexually attracted to people of about 3 years my junior to 5 years my senior. my bf/master is 3 years older than I am and my best friend is a couple of years younger.
some people say I´m mature for my age (I was told this as a teenager as well) but I also easily connect with teenagers and kids, better now than when I was at their age... it kinda brings out the child in me ...

[twilight(Whippett)]

I'm the youngest of two.- My closest non online friends(excluding my Master) are within 10 years of my age (youngest non online close friend is 26 and oldest is 37- I'm 34.) - closest online friends tend to be more diverse in age. So I relate well to all ages-tends to be interests that attract with age being secondary.

Sexually it's chemistry rather than age- but my sexual partners aside from one have all been older than me- my Master is 26 years older than me and we definitely relate on *all* levels.

[Ozme52]

I've always been attracted to women in their 30's and 40's.

When I was a youngster, I made a lot of older women extremely happy.

Now, as I approach my 'dirty old man' years. :rolleyes: I'm finding I have the experience to make a lot of younger women... extremely happy.

It's all good!!

[Wickedlust]

im 21 and my sub is 27. i'm not very social so i have virtually no friends besides very few close knit friends that are also into the scene. but i must say the people i like tend to be dirty old men :D twinks :D :D and pretty and chubby girls :D :p i know looks dont matter but im a heavy girl and all my girly friends are like me.. hehe.

[~faerie~]

I am a 20yr old female. Relating to people my age is near impossible. The people I keep around me are usually 5-10 years older then me, now THEY get me.. I have always been told by my parents, since a very young age, that I was years beyond my real age. It always seemed to baffle them when a 5yr old was writing poetry that was symbolic of things that maybe a 15yr old would experience.



I guess I have delt with this my entire life. I never had any friends till I was out of school. I know it can be hard at times but you will eventually "fit"<3

If you ever want to chat, since we're in the same boat, I would love to talk to you<3

*huggles*
-Rora xx

i get that alot. i tend to relate more to ppl alot older than myself. My mom always said i was an old soul. i write poetry as well :)


I have friends of all ages; anywhere from teenagers to folks older than my parents. We certainly relate to each other in different ways, but there is clearly something in each dynamic that is worthwhile to pursue.

As far as lovers and relationships? ALWAYS with older men, anywhere between a ten to a nearly thirty year age split. I don't consciously seek out men that age, we simply seem to click. Careers, goals, overall compatibility - it seems to work for us.

i completely agree i am 30, my Master is 60. We click on a level i had never imagined possible. older men are sooo much sexier.


My husband is 19 years older than me and a lot of people took issues with that. They mistake older for old, (you can see in my profile how geriatric He looks at 43, lol). Its not an age fetish, I am attracted to a certain mental wiring that seems to be more common in older men, but I was once or twice attracted to younger men (2 and 3 years respectfully) who had that dominant mentality already prominent.

When we had met I pegged Him to be a lot younger (one of these days I am going to find that Dorian Grey picture He keeps in the attic, rotflmao). When He told me His real age, I was worried He was going to think I am too young so for a long time I left Him under the impression that I am a lot older than I truly was (I skipped grades so that was easy).

His age was just a fact, it had nothing to do with my attraction to Him. Age is just a number, more important is the maturity/personality of the partners. People told me it was unseemly for us to be together, but to me it would have been unseemly to break up with someone I already liked so much and with whom I have so much in common for the frivolous fact of the year He was born in. Of course a word of caution - once, it may be true love; but repeatedly - cradle chaser.

I have friends of all age groups, I get along with those who are older and those in my own age bracket just as well.

alot of ppl were uncomfortable with the age gap between Him and myself as well. but i more interested in a persons character and sense of trustworthiness and honor. you predominitely find that more in older men. i have found very few men my age who even had a clue. Its sad really.


I'm the youngest of two.- My closest non online friends(excluding my Master) are within 10 years of my age (youngest non online close friend is 26 and oldest is 37- I'm 34.) - closest online friends tend to be more diverse in age. So I relate well to all ages-tends to be interests that attract with age being secondary.

Sexually it's chemistry rather than age- but my sexual partners aside from one have all been older than me- my Master is 26 years older than me and we definitely relate on *all* levels.

chemistry is awesome but the age factor does it for me as well. I never thought it would but i look at all these 20-30s guys and i just dont see past the facade. they all seem very focused on looks and not personality or character. they are great to have as friends to hang with and joke around with but there is no real depth.


i like the fact that when i am with some one older they can see the real me. because they have learned throughout their years that (as cheesy as it sounds) there is more than meets the eye.
but maybe that is just me.

[MollysMaster]

Myself, 34, It depends on what mood I am in. I have always enjoyed younger subs because I like when then are pushed to a new level and to see their excitment. I am searching for someone a bit older, thinking mid 40's. I have always been interested in playing with someone older, though I have not had the opportunity yet.

[denuseri]

my owner and loving husband is ten years my senior

i have an older half brother and sister from my fathers marrige previous to my mommy and a younger paternal sister

i think people that get hung up on age (other than where it legally gets involved i would never condone child molestation) are just being close minded

love doesnt care how old you are

[star_sparkle]

My Master is quite older than myself as well. similiar to ShyGreenEyedGrl's.
i better relate to people older than myself, but i have a few friends that are a bit younger and we get on fine. i guess im pretty versatile.

[SilvieA]

I can relate to most people, but the way that I usually relate to people me age is in the "I remember going through that a few years ago" way.
Most of my time is spent with those who are significantly older than me. The way my life has gone it has just ended up that way. I went to college four years early, and I play Ultimate Frisbee, which is still predominantly an older scene. Also I travel a shitload and have significantly more life experience than my age would attest to.
Of course, there are always those people that you click with and form an immediate, intimate bond with. For me, those people tend to be my age or just a few years older or younger. Because no matter what any of us may think, we aren't as mature and unusual as we think, lol, thank god :-) There are always others that can keep up. You just need to find them :-)

Bisous,
Silvie

[Sally51{CS}]

I do not have a problem with age...I am however attracted more toward men that are my age or older. As older I don't care how much older...could be years. And as my nic says I am 51.

[ces3]

My sub and my lovely wife are one and the same. She is 6 years younger than I. She is very much more mature than I am though. She still knows who master is. My friends are all within 2 to 3 years of my own age. Just the way its always been.

[MasochisticAngel]

I'm 19 as well.
I have a 21 year old master and I love it.
I wouldnt like a youger master because they lack expierience sometimes.

[shayna{L_D}]

Like Downtown Amber, i have friends of all ages. I can get along with someone who is very young and then i can get along great with someone older. I am 23 years of age, and dont think that age is a problem in a relationship or friendship.

I tend to mold to whomever i am speaking with, if its someone who is young and immature then i can also tend to act the same way. If its someone older and wiser then i mold to fit then. Its not that im not myself its just im very open honest and understanding.

when it comes to the issue of sex and age. There is no problem, personally in my eyes. But i have not been sexual with someone who is more then 3 years older then me. I do not think of someone older as 'wow i want to fuck them' or 'i could really submit to them'. I just cant, younger i can see submitting and be sexually with.

To make this short. I see no problem when it comes to an age thing (as long as its legal), but to me personally i could never be with someone who is considerably older then me, considerably as in 40^. I would view them to much as a mentor or expert who i am not worth to be with, just yet.

[Sea_Hunter]

As one of the oldest of the old, a few insights. Mental age is much different than life age. I see so many young subbies who are desperate for someone to understand their feelings and thoughts. Unfortunatly young Doms generally lack that ability. The problem with age is that older understanding persons have an older circle of friends and they have concerns that young people don't share. They can also (ahem) have something of an energy problem. (Thank God for ******). Perhaps the best of both worlds is the older mentor, and the younger stud.

[damyanti]

Perhaps the best of both worlds is the older mentor, and the younger stud.

That would be lovely, ;)...except you forget that dom or not, boys will be boys...and sooner or later such situations lead to c*ck fight, no?

[Ozme52]

As one of the oldest of the old, a few insights. Mental age is much different than life age. I see so many young subbies who are desperate for someone to understand their feelings and thoughts. Unfortunatly young Doms generally lack that ability. The problem with age is that older understanding persons have an older circle of friends and they have concerns that young people don't share. They can also (ahem) have something of an energy problem. (Thank God for ******). Perhaps the best of both worlds is the older mentor, and the younger stud.


Sea Hunter. "Bad!! Bad!!" :rolleyes: LOL

Ladies, old mentors can be quite nice in the energy arena. We don't get "overexcited". ;)

But I will agree that the lack of areas of overlapping 'vanilla' interests makes it more difficult, for me, to relate to the very young.

[star_sparkle]

Well i guess you older Doms havent been talking to the right young subbies *wink wink*

too bad i am taken :)
i certainly dont find Him with an energy problem. lol

[submissive_1]

Wow... I wish I could respond... but it's been so long since I've made friends. :\

Had two really good friends my age (21-22) in my old hometown, and several okay friends. When i graduated high school I discovered that those Okay friends weren't really friends. Then the military has moved hubby and I several times. So now I have one good friend at current location. She is my age, but it is still difficult to get along well, cause she has three kids, and I don't have any.

Not to hijack the thread, but does any one else find that is sucks when all of your friends all have young kids, and you can't go out last minute any more? Or after a certain time?