MrJerseyGuy
06-23-2004, 01:24 PM
This might sound stupid, especially coming from a guy my age (45), but I'm going to post it anyway just to generate some dialogue and see if anyone has an interesting suggestion.
I'll start by describing what led me to post this in the first place. Those of you who know me from prior postings know that I've had a cute little sub girlfriend for the past year and a half. We have vanilla sex a couple times a week, but only have every other weekend to get into serious play. And that gets interrupted often by work schedules etc. Friday night we had our first good long weekend in a while starting. I had a whole agenda planned and we went to a nice place for dinner, then to a bar we frequent for a couple of cocktails. We got home to hit the sheets around 11pm. I like to get her a little worked up first...and did so. Then, just as I was getting ready to "go to work", I fucked up and got off. I was pulling out at the last second and "BLAM" I saw that first spurt hit her stomach. All I could think was "God dammit!". What I had expected to be a 2 or 3 hours session turned into 20 minutes! Human physiology such as it is, I was out of commision for a while. By the time I was good to go again, she was sound asleep and I just didn't have the heart to wake her and say "Gee honey...I'm ready to fuck you again now so wake up!" That would have just been rude. I was really upset with myself because I had all kinds of plans and a bunch of new toys to play with. As it turned out, something else came up Saturday evening that basically made the whole weekend a wash as far as any good bdsm play. So as it happens...the new whip, giant dildoe and butt plug stay in the closet for another two weeks.
Now I think most guys reading this would agree that in your teens and early twenties you have a hard time even looking at a pussy without cumming. I know I did. When I hit my thirties I started to get the hang of things and actually began to take pride in my ability for self control. I got to where I was able to give a girl quite the little ride before allowing myself to orgasm.
Its just that with this girl I get so excited in the anticipation, that it becomes a real chore to try to control it. Most of the time things are fine...but I want it to be ALL the time. We've experimented with cockrings and other devices that have worked pretty well.
I'm just curious to know if anyone else here has ever run into this issue and what methods you've tried for better control. I welcome contributions from the ladies out there as well.
I'll start by describing what led me to post this in the first place. Those of you who know me from prior postings know that I've had a cute little sub girlfriend for the past year and a half. We have vanilla sex a couple times a week, but only have every other weekend to get into serious play. And that gets interrupted often by work schedules etc. Friday night we had our first good long weekend in a while starting. I had a whole agenda planned and we went to a nice place for dinner, then to a bar we frequent for a couple of cocktails. We got home to hit the sheets around 11pm. I like to get her a little worked up first...and did so. Then, just as I was getting ready to "go to work", I fucked up and got off. I was pulling out at the last second and "BLAM" I saw that first spurt hit her stomach. All I could think was "God dammit!". What I had expected to be a 2 or 3 hours session turned into 20 minutes! Human physiology such as it is, I was out of commision for a while. By the time I was good to go again, she was sound asleep and I just didn't have the heart to wake her and say "Gee honey...I'm ready to fuck you again now so wake up!" That would have just been rude. I was really upset with myself because I had all kinds of plans and a bunch of new toys to play with. As it turned out, something else came up Saturday evening that basically made the whole weekend a wash as far as any good bdsm play. So as it happens...the new whip, giant dildoe and butt plug stay in the closet for another two weeks.
Now I think most guys reading this would agree that in your teens and early twenties you have a hard time even looking at a pussy without cumming. I know I did. When I hit my thirties I started to get the hang of things and actually began to take pride in my ability for self control. I got to where I was able to give a girl quite the little ride before allowing myself to orgasm.
Its just that with this girl I get so excited in the anticipation, that it becomes a real chore to try to control it. Most of the time things are fine...but I want it to be ALL the time. We've experimented with cockrings and other devices that have worked pretty well.
I'm just curious to know if anyone else here has ever run into this issue and what methods you've tried for better control. I welcome contributions from the ladies out there as well.