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[PropertyOfMasterJoey]

Hey Y/yall, sorry if this is in the wrong section. As Y/yall know since Ike the power has been out. This was particularly troubling for me because i was expecting results back from my doctor. Well, i got the results and it's really troubling and i'm kinda scared. i had been having problems with my period and hormones and stuff (sorry if it's tmi) so i went to find out what's up. They did an ultra sound and blood work and such, and found cysts on my ovaries, and on top of that apparently my ovaries are too big for my frame. (once again sorry if this is tmi but i figured W/we're all adults here) Anyways, to make a long story short they say it's likely i'll never be able to get pregnant. Needless to say i was shocked. i have three younger brothers. i was concieved two days after my parents were married. Lets just say my mom had no trouble at all getting pregnant, so i had never really worried about it. i'm really upset because i absolutely adore kids, i always have. Sure, i don't want them yet, but one of these days i do. i know adoption and such is an option, but i really want my own kids. Besides, the idea that i can't experience the miracle of creating life makes me feel...i dunno like less of a woman if that makes sense. i called Master this morning to tell Him, and He tried to reassure me He didn't mind and He loves me for me, but i could tell He was really disappointed and that hurt most of all. i dunno why i'm posting this, considering there's really nothing any of Y/yall can do, i guess i just need someone to talk to. Sorry for taking so much of Y/your time.

[damyanti]

Your Master was probably just shocked, as you said he loves you and there are other options.

The most important thing for you to do is not to panic and to stay calm. Doctors often get it wrong. They told my mum she wont be able to have children because of the problem much like yours - she gave birth to three. The same thing (ovaries) with my cousin - she had a girl recently. Dont give up! Ask for second opinions. Investigate yourself...no doctor knows everything...there are often other treatments available, both classic and alternative medicine (like herbal tea mixtures that helped my mum).

[PropertyOfMasterJoey]

Thanks hun, i guess i'm just having trouble with the initial shock. i know there are ways to treat it, even if i can't cure it. Hopefully everything will work out, i guess i'm just terrified by the idea of not being able to bring a child into the world. i've wanted kids since i was really young and i was raised in a big family with lots of kids so i can't imagine it any other way.

[Euryleia]

Sorry that you got bad news but damyanti is right. Doctors sometimes get it wrong and just having cysts on your ovaries does not mean that you can get pregnant or that you can't harvest your eggs for in ivtro fertilization. Both my Mom and sister had them and had children. It just might take some more effort.

Go see a women's reproductive health spe******t and get a second opinion and to hear more options.

[~kay~]

My mom was told something similar all of her life by several doctors. And so was I. My mom was told she would absolutely never be able to conceive kids naturally. When she was in her 20s she went on birth control to control her period. A few years later, my brother was born. 2 years after that, I was. On bc, and being told she would never have children, she still had my brother and me.

Just goes to show you, even the best doctors make mistakes (Although I haven't gotten pregnant yet, I guess that will be the real test ^.^)

[PropertyOfMasterJoey]

so yeah i went to get a second opinion...same results. blew a shit load of money.

[jeanne]

I'm so sorry to hear your news. It's a bitter blow for sure. But, they didn't say 'never'.

You have my sympathies and best wishes for the life you have hoped for.

[angela_shy]

so sorry for your shock and bad news. just re-iterating that it's "unlikely", but not necessarily "impossible".

hope you're finding a way to deal with all this, somehow... plenty of hugs and reassurance

angela

[hopperboo]

Hey Y/yall, sorry if this is in the wrong section. As Y/yall know since Ike the power has been out. This was particularly troubling for me because i was expecting results back from my doctor. Well, i got the results and it's really troubling and i'm kinda scared. i had been having problems with my period and hormones and stuff (sorry if it's tmi) so i went to find out what's up. They did an ultra sound and blood work and such, and found cysts on my ovaries, and on top of that apparently my ovaries are too big for my frame. (once again sorry if this is tmi but i figured W/we're all adults here) Anyways, to make a long story short they say it's likely i'll never be able to get pregnant. Needless to say i was shocked. i have three younger brothers. i was concieved two days after my parents were married. Lets just say my mom had no trouble at all getting pregnant, so i had never really worried about it. i'm really upset because i absolutely adore kids, i always have. Sure, i don't want them yet, but one of these days i do. i know adoption and such is an option, but i really want my own kids. Besides, the idea that i can't experience the miracle of creating life makes me feel...i dunno like less of a woman if that makes sense. i called Master this morning to tell Him, and He tried to reassure me He didn't mind and He loves me for me, but i could tell He was really disappointed and that hurt most of all. i dunno why i'm posting this, considering there's really nothing any of Y/yall can do, i guess i just need someone to talk to. Sorry for taking so much of Y/your time.

My deepest sympathy to you and your Master.

It truly comes from my heart. I have had two of my close friends that have had hard situations where they were unable to get pregnant, or carry a baby to full term.

It's heart breaking to hear about and know there is nothing anyone can do other than give you a hug.

Lots of them for you if you want them. (((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))

[PropertyOfMasterJoey]

Thanks E/everyone for your support. i think though there's a silver lining to it. My Master stayed with me despite His hopes to have children one day. i feel like if W/we can get through this kind of shock W/we can get through almost anything. As i've mentioned before, W/we're still young and hopefully have a full life ahead of U/us together and i feel like this was one of those obstacles that seperate love and lust.

[leah06]

Life can be very tragic, and the true blessing that God has given us is love. I understand why you doubted your relationship at this difficult time, but it is possible for you to support each other and for your relationship to become stronger. If you give each other time and support to grieve what is absolutely a loss to you now, you might find that there are other ways to fulfill your desire for a certain kind of family structure. Just don't rush it - allow yourself to feel whatever you're feeling now.

My thoughts are with both of you.

[TheDeSade]

Don't give up hope. I don't know what kind of doc's you saw, but at the med school here, they have a several reproductive specialists who do some amazing things for women with problems much worse than yours. Find a really top notch specialist and see if there aren't alternatives.

[denuseri]

aww huggels boo, i am sad to hear this has passed.

i so know what its like to be told you will never be able to give birth to your own baby.

my prayers for you sisa

hugs and kissess
denuseri

[skp2bear]

This Texas sub strongly agrees with Madter DeSade and heartily encourages yo to seek a doctor who is on the faculty of a medical school if you have not done so already. This doctor is required to be very up-to-date on the latest treatments and research. My preyers and thoughts are with the both of you.