Why are handcuffed BJ's better?

[Voyeur21]

Heres a thing. A kink of mine that's currently puzzling me as I cant quite figure out what element is turning me on.

When playing with my girlfriend, I (like possibly the great majority of men) like her to kneel or sit at crotch-height and perform oral sex- she'll use her hands and such for balance, to pull back the foreskin and to stimulate.


But for some reason I cant quite identify, I find that her blowjob while her hands are handcuffed or tied behind her back so much more incredibly arousing. I dont know whether its the explicit subissiveness of that situation, the presence of bondage (the handcuffs), the sadistic element of watching her struggle or whether its the necessity of committing to the blowjob more intensely to avoid falling?

So for those of you both giving and recieving- why do you find a handcuffed blowjob more arousing than a hands-available one?

Thx.

V.

[Ozme52]

Well, I enjoy both. Variety you know.

The hands-bound BJ is definitely erotic for all the reasons you've mentioned.

I also prefer it for training my girl to work harder with her mouth and tongue... and it is excellent for teaching her to open her throat up. Without her hands to push herself away, she must force herself to succeed in order to breathe.

[lucy]

Having my hands tied behind my back usually doesn't fail to put me into a submissive state of mind. So i actually prefer it, even if the job is more difficult to accomplish. ;)
And my Master loves it for all the reasons you mentioned.

[fetishdj]

You are forgetting her state of mind in all the above. How much effort she puts in will depend on how turned on she is and that affects the overall intensity. As Lucy says, having her hands tied makes her more submissive and for many this makes them feel more erotic and this makes them more likely to give good head.

So I would say it was a combination of you enjoying the look of the thing and her enjoying the feeling of the thing.

Damn... I wish now that I was a Dom so I could enjoy this for myself... :)

[Flash]

All of what's said above is true. Also, she is putting all her concentration on pleasing you with her mouth. She isn't going anywhere, she isn't using her hands for anything, just her wet mouth sucking... Also of course it's a big turnon just to have a handcuffed girl on her knees in front of you giving you a BJ in the first place.

[angela_shy]

Having my hands tied behind my back usually doesn't fail to put me into a submissive state of mind. So i actually prefer it, even if the job is more difficult to accomplish. ;)
And my Master loves it for all the reasons you mentioned.

i must agree... *blushing*