Oral Sex and Domination

[Friday]

I'm curious on thoughts for this one.

What is your take on giving oral as a dominant? Should it be done? Is it a "special occasion" thing for you, simply a "whenever works", or a never?

[Ragoczy]

I view it primarily as just another pleasurable sensation the dominant can give to the submissive -- as a reward, special occasion or simply because he wants to. I happen to enjoy it, so "never" wouldn't be an option, because then I'd be depriving myself of something I enjoy doing.

In talking with female dominants with male submissives about this, though -- admittedly years ago, so outlooks might have changed -- it was common for it to be viewed as a submissive act, so was less common in that context (<listening to all the male submissives screaming "you fucking bastard!">).

But I'm not sure I agree with that (<listening to all the male submissives heaving a sigh of relief>">) -- because aside from any aspects of submissiveness, it also puts the dominants teeth in contact with some sensitive bits that can be used to reinforce the dominant aspect -- emphatically, if deemed necessary (<listening to all the male submissives screaming "you fucking bastard!">).

[WyldWyl]

I agree with Rago. Oral is too fun for me not to want to perform it as a dom- I may perhaps only use it to tease, but it's still part of the fun. It does also make a good reward.

I think the relative dominance/submissiveness of the act is more in how it's performed. For example, whilst in dom-space I would not feel inclined to get on my knees before an unbound sub to perform oral on them. But if they were lying under me, or suitably restrained, then it becomes a dominant act in my mind.

And I completely agree with Rago about the whole teeth issue.

[IAmCanadian]

I'm curious on thoughts for this one.

What is your take on giving oral as a dominant? Should it be done? Is it a "special occasion" thing for you, simply a "whenever works", or a never?

I'm a dom, I occasionally perform oral, and I think of it as consumption rather than service- using a slave's body to satisfy some insatiable hunger for twat. In that context it jibes perfectly with the atmosphere of service, humiliation and objectification in which I like slave to exist.

That pussy is my property, if I want to, I can eat it like a fresh apple pie that's still window-sill warm. I can jam my tongue inward and upward like I'm prospecting for gold, or turn my head sideways and play it like a harmonica, if the mood suits me. I'm as entitled to do that as I am to just leave it alone and tell her to suck my cock and then go make me a sandwich.

It's all in the tone of the encounter. If I leave her there quaking like a little bitch, then kiss her aggressively to share with her the taste of her own quivering quim, then finally spit in her face and callously leave the room- there's nothing submissive going on on my end.

She's the one spreading her legs and getting devoured. I'm not empowering her by catering to her whims- she's serving her most intimate places up to me like she was a piece of meat. In this capacity she has all the dignity of a roasted pig on a silver platter, ready for consumption, with an apple jammed into its mouth. Which is to say, no dignity at all.

- FS

[denuseri]

LMAo,For years I used to have a problem with dominants that wanted to go down on me, for some reason i felt it somhow diminished thier position.

My husband has broken me of that assumption (winks)

The worst for me was the dom that wanted me to nail him with a dildo.

(which i did much to his chagrin with zeal ;we broke up very shortly after that.)

[Ozme52]

What's submissive about straddling her face, pulling and hooking her legs under my arms, and in essence turning her upside down... tormenting her all the while with my mouth but still not giving her permission to cum?

What's submissive about tying her legs wide open, stretched out and unable to move, drawing my chair up to the table... and dining?

What's submissive about suspending her by the ankles, legs apart, making her swallow me and hold on with only her lips and suction... eaten for doing so... whipped whenever she loses contact?

So many games, so little time. ;)

[IAmCanadian]

The worst for me was the dom that wanted me to nail him with a dildo.


I tried searching for the passage that justifies this as dom behaviour, but sadly Dildo-Wielding Subbies Of Gor isn't part of the official canon.

- FS

[WyldWyl]

That pussy is my property, if I want to, I can eat it like a fresh apple pie that's still window-sill warm. I can jam my tongue inward and upward like I'm prospecting for gold, or turn my head sideways and play it like a harmonica, if the mood suits me.

Pure gold.

But, as regards the subbie using a dildo- that can still be a submissive thing. If I, just to take an example, put a strap on around my sub's waist and then wish her to nail me with it, that's not necessarily a case of her domming. She's topping, but it's to my instruction. I'm inviting and allowing her into my body, using hers as an implement of MY pleasure.

Yes, I'm just rationalising because I like to have my arse fucked. What of it? :D

[IAmCanadian]

But, as regards the subbie using a dildo- that can still be a submissive thing.

You're right of course- I was just using the stigma around that act to fuel a joke. ;D

- FS

[WyldWyl]

Oh, I know, FS...I know.

[tired.of.vanilla{DJ}]

But, as regards the subbie using a dildo- that can still be a submissive thing. If I, just to take an example, put a strap on around my sub's waist and then wish her to nail me with it, that's not necessarily a case of her domming. She's topping, but it's to my instruction. I'm inviting and allowing her into my body, using hers as an implement of MY pleasure.

Yes, I'm just rationalising because I like to have my arse fucked. What of it? :D

*giggles* talk about pure gold! lol Love it~

[denuseri]

OMG (whispers) the name of Wylds love in his ear while i strap my monster anal invader on!!! (winks)

luv ya boo, now bend over please sir so i can F#@% that bueatiful bottom of yours like only a submissive can. lol

Gasps!! And I swear there was a book called Dildotrix of Gor somewhere?

[samm]

But, as regards the subbie using a dildo- that can still be a submissive thing.

It sure is when a Domme lets her male sub wear a strapon and then uses the strapon to climax instead of her subbies equipment. So why couldn't it be a submissive thing? ;)

But to answer the TS, I'd say that giving oral as a dominant is perfectly acceptable for teasing, rewarding or for the Dom(me)s own pleasure as many have already said here.
It doesn't mean that the Dom(me) can't demand his/her sub to give oral to them to get their pleasure out of using their sub.

[LadyAznTiger13]

It sure is when a Domme lets her male sub wear a strapon and then uses the strapon to climax instead of her subbies equipment. So why couldn't it be a submissive thing? ;)

LOL amazing samm.. I'm gonna have to use that idea =p

[WyldWyl]

I always aim to entertain whilst I make a point, TOV.

And as for you, Denu...-runs away. fast-

[denuseri]

shakes my nuaghty finger at cha sir, and chases you with my strap on bobbing like a real erection lmao

[AdrianaAurora]

I'm curious on thoughts for this one.

What is your take on giving oral as a dominant? Should it be done? Is it a "special occasion" thing for you, simply a "whenever works", or a never?

Depends on a submissive and people involved. For me it was very difficult to accept it, to give up control so much that I become aroused beyond anything else to center me. On more than one occasion, I was threatened and on a few of those indeed tied down so He could get on with it, ;). Yes, I get to feel it, but it is for His pleasure. It gives Him a kick and a sense of power. Not to mention it is an ultimate torture when you are not allowed to come (without permission).

[leo9]

I'm curious on thoughts for this one.

What is your take on giving oral as a dominant? Should it be done? Is it a "special occasion" thing for you, simply a "whenever works", or a never?

As a bi dom, it depends. One of my favourite ways to dominate women is to make them come till they beg for mercy, and if I find one who responds best to oral, I'll be down on her like a cat in a bowl of cream.

But I wouldn't feel right sucking a sub's cock, and most of the malesubs I've known would agree. The equation penetration=domination is hard to get past.

[fetishdj]

It sure is when a Domme lets her male sub wear a strapon and then uses the strapon to climax instead of her subbies equipment. So why couldn't it be a submissive thing? ;)


Perfectly agree with this. Making a sub use a dildo or a strap on could be the domme saying 'sorry, your pathetic bits are not good enough for me. To get an orgasm I need a big dildo inside me. However, if you are a good boy, I will let you wear that dildo so you are at least involved'. Its a form of degredation and humiliation. There are also humiliating gags which have dildos as part of them that the sub wears while the Mistress straddles his face. Can also be combined with queening/suffocation.

I think any form of stimulation can be a reward or even a punishment. A domme can give a male sub oral sex (very nice) but then stop if he has not performed to his best in some task or other before the climax. Spoiled orgasm is a common technique in femdom.

Also, if you have a male sub bound and helpless, you can tease him any way you like for as long as you like and make him beg for release... of course if the sub is gagged you may not hear him beg so clearly... :)

[AdrianaAurora]

As a bi dom, it depends. One of my favourite ways to dominate women is to make them come till they beg for mercy, and if I find one who responds best to oral, I'll be down on her like a cat in a bowl of cream.


You and Hubby must have attended the same Dom school, ;).

[DiablosLittleOne]

What's submissive about straddling her face, pulling and hooking her legs under my arms, and in essence turning her upside down... tormenting her all the while with my mouth but still not giving her permission to cum?

What's submissive about tying her legs wide open, stretched out and unable to move, drawing my chair up to the table... and dining?

What's submissive about suspending her by the ankles, legs apart, making her swallow me and hold on with only her lips and suction... eaten for doing so... whipped whenever she loses contact?

So many games, so little time. ;)

*giggles*

I think I'm in love. :D

[Ozme52]

*giggles*

I think I'm in love. :D

;)

[star_sparkle]

i love sucking His cock. i dont know who enjoys it more..me or Him :)

[leo9]

You and Hubby must have attended the same Dom school, ;).

I have to say, I can't relate to the idea of orgasm denial as a torture for femsubs. Any vanilla slob can =not= give a woman an orgasm, where's the fun in that?

[Diablo]

I quite enjoy giving oral sex and even giving foot massages.

Does this make me any less of a Dom?

Not at all, I am taking pleasure for myself and my sub is also receiving pleasure. And she knows that it is a way of me thanking her for her gift of submission as I get what I want as well. The main difference as has been said in earlier posts is in how it is done.

[AdrianaAurora]

I have to say, I can't relate to the idea of orgasm denial as a torture for femsubs. Any vanilla slob can =not= give a woman an orgasm, where's the fun in that?

LOL, I do kind of feel a little wanton or spoiled here sometimes. The concept of "cum restriction" was completely foreign to me before I came here, *huge Cheshire cat's grin* - it still is.

[Master Will Tupper]

For me, it's a dominant pleasure as much as any other. But then, I enjoy the taste of slavegirl. If she likes it, too, that's just the cherry on top of the sundae. And submissive orgasms bind her tighter than the strongest chains. So for me it's like, "Spread, sweetmeat! Dinner is served."

[Daumon]

A Dom should feel in control of himself and his charge. For me preforming oral sex with my sub is still a matter of control. I do so when I wish, how I wish to do so and either to tease or to give pleasure. A dom should not deny themself or their sub from something they both enjoy. To simple not do so for fear of diminishing ones 'image' is to admit your self image already needs real work.

For myself I enjoy teasing a sub to a nearly mindless state of pleasure and dragging that state out over a very long period of time. To savior a subs desire and need for release and their struggle for self restraint as you wish.
It is a sweet game that a talented toung can make last far lounger than almost any other method.

Daumon

[SilverWulf]

Performing oral on a girl is definitely a form of control and in no way diminishes my Domliness. I can make her cum at any time, or make her wait, and wait, and wait. I love to make a girl cum until her body just gives out completely, and then take My pleasure in other devious, twisted, and perverted ways while she lays there only moderately conscious (consensually of course), only to start again when she recovers enough to begin forming coherent thoughts. A most pleasant way to pass the weekend.

[HisKitty]

I have to agree... I was giving my Master a really slooow blow job once, really drawing it out just because it was fun and he was really enjoying himself and relaxing on the couch. And my playful-kitty side suddenly came out >_> There was inner giggling that he was like, waiting on me... and afterwards I told him how I had felt an element of control that I don't usually feel and I felt kind of bad but he said it was okay, lol. That he was enjoying me just lavishing him while he relaxed. Aaaand that kitties totally have a devious, playful side that can't help but manifest sometimes xD

[aussiesubgirl]

What's submissive about straddling her face, pulling and hooking her legs under my arms, and in essence turning her upside down... tormenting her all the while with my mouth but still not giving her permission to cum?

What's submissive about tying her legs wide open, stretched out and unable to move, drawing my chair up to the table... and dining?

What's submissive about suspending her by the ankles, legs apart, making her swallow me and hold on with only her lips and suction... eaten for doing so... whipped whenever she loses contact?

So many games, so little time. ;)

Just PERFECT Sir...that has made me melt

[efwb2]

Hi Fatishdj

So true and is there any thing you dont know on this topic, so much info.

thankyou

El

[Sir Phat Daddy]

I myself do enjoy giving the female sub oral but it all depends on my mood and how long shes been around me. It doesnt in my mind fit in with the SM I prefer but more of a reward for being a good pet.

[Kargan3033]

Hello people nice to see you all here.
I have found this topic and your replys most informtive.
Here's a bit of info I wish to share with my fellow Dom/mes.
I'm a novice Dom, I have a very basic and I do mean basic understandong of a Dom/sub relationship, I have never had a real life subby/slave and I could use all the advice I can get.
As for for oral sex and Domination this topic has given me a few ideas for not only controling my real life slave when I finaly find her but it has given me a few idea to spice up some of my more kinkyer stories.
Again thanks for the engrossing topic.
I look forward to hear from you all.
Peace.
Kargan3033

[Matin]

i thought denial of orgasms was common lol. she's not even allowed to get herself off without permission.

she has to call or text me. so if i tie her to the bedposts and eat her till she's flopping around and begging - or not; gags are fun - isn't that domination? *shrug* works for me!

[Warmaster]

...having one, or all, my girls properly restrained, and enjoying how delightfully they wriggle at the flick of my tongue tip...what's not properly 'Dom' about it?
Done the right way, it can also be a really handy tool in the Dom's kit for punishment...like taking a girl right to the edge, and stopping. ;)
Also, there's times when I use it as a reward, or just for the simple sake of giving them pleasure.
But, they all KNOW that the nastier side of my tongue doesn't deal with words. ;)

[leo9]

I've never seen the point of orgasm denial, because any fool can not make a woman come. One of my ground rules is that you dominate men by not letting them come and women by making them come till they beg for it to stop. And yes, when she's fighting and trying to kick you away and you keep on licking till she loses it again... what's not dominant?

[Warmaster]

I've never seen the point of orgasm denial, because any fool can not make a woman come. One of my ground rules is that you dominate men by not letting them come and women by making them come till they beg for it to stop. And yes, when she's fighting and trying to kick you away and you keep on licking till she loses it again... what's not dominant?

A very good point, and one I do use now and then. ;) Also, I will say that taking them to the edge--then stopping and letting them just 'boil' has it's merits also.

[Oriana1981]

I've never seen the point of orgasm (http://theporndude.com/1287/gobdsm) denial, because any fool can not make a woman come. One of my ground rules is that you dominate men by not letting them come and women by making them come till they beg for it to stop. And yes, when she's fighting and trying to kick you away and you keep on licking till she loses it again... what's not dominant?

Well well, a guy who really knows how to handle a woman when it comes to oral sex! I had a bf who made me discover that I could lose it again! Now every new fuck buddy I have must do it! It is my way or the high way!:strawberry:

[Solorrman]

I realy like to be dominated by a teen

[Misschief]

... I think of it as consumption rather than service- using a slave's body to satisfy some insatiable hunger for twat. In that context it jibes perfectly with the atmosphere of service, humiliation and objectification in which I like slave to exist.

That pussy is my property, if I want to, I can eat it like a fresh apple pie that's still window-sill warm. I can jam my tongue inward and upward like I'm prospecting for gold, or turn my head sideways and play it like a harmonica, if the mood suits me. I'm as entitled to do that as I am to just leave it alone and tell her to suck my cock and then go make me a sandwich.

It's all in the tone of the encounter. If I leave her there quaking like a little bitch, then kiss her aggressively to share with her the taste of her own quivering quim, then finally spit in her face and callously leave the room- there's nothing submissive going on on my end.

She's the one spreading her legs and getting devoured. I'm not empowering her by catering to her whims- she's serving her most intimate places up to me like she was a piece of meat. In this capacity she has all the dignity of a roasted pig on a silver platter, ready for consumption, with an apple jammed into its mouth. Which is to say, no dignity at all.

- FS

yes.. yes.. yes.. my Master takes it from me and makes me squirt all over myself and thoroughly loves it for all of the same reasons You have detailed.. He literally says, "it is like I am taking it from you and I love it" and while i am so shy at the time, the fact that He gets off on taking it from me is so fucking hot.. its unbelievable.. and that is what i think about when He is doing it to me.. that He is drinking down my essence and my surrender makes Him stronger and diminishes my will, make me less of an individual and more of what i am meant to be: His.. His fuck slut.. His cum whore.. His toy.. that is all i want to be.. in every moment of every day, there is only the desire to be used for His u;timate enjoyment, truly.. and i get so wet sucking His cock that i feel selfish.. i love serving Him and if he desires my pussy in His mouth, it is my honor to provide Him with that for His amusement..

[Misschief]

double posted.. sorry..

[Tweek213]

I use oral as both. For me it can be as much about allowing my sub the pleasure of the sensation as it is about controlling the scene in the way that I see fit. I agree with Daumon in that it's always about how and when I choose. If anything it only reinforces my dominance.

[CharlesWolf77]

In a few of my femdom stories, oral sex is used by the dominant female either as a torture or because there's a consequence (my most recent story had the protagonist struggling not to cum while being held by a six-armed spider-succubus, that was fellating him.)

[Kevin Fox]

@leo9, no orgasm can make subbes beg just as it can subs... have you never been brought to the edge, only for your Dom to stop?! It takes skill to get a woman wet and then deny her.
@Adriana, Mae West lives!

[slaveboy 6]

As a submissive male, i love to be forced to suck pussy, and i have done so in many different positions.

[Solorrman]

I like to b dominated in a way that i must perform all kinky things to the mistress with no question whatsoever.
I like humiliation like spit in the mouth,snort eating, urinal consumption and oral going down eating all gooy snatch squart. I am looking for a mistress pls

[ISOMore417]

Just curious… Were you successful?

[jbond]

As a reward it feels pleasurable. Being in control in the relationship feels great. Oral sex it's really more enjoyable and just enjoying each other's body.

[subserviant]

Hi denuseri you can use me with a strap on any time you want :)

[subserviant]

Hi Den You can use the strapon dildo on me whenever you want :)