Elghinn
11-19-2008, 08:34 AM
Hello,
I'm a 30 year old dominant, and on rare occasions submissive, male, 5'11" tall, 175 lbs. My wife and I live the lifestyle whenever we can juggle it around our vanilla lives and our 1 year old daughter.
BDSM, or at least some various aspect of it, has been a part of my life since I was in my early teens. It took me a while to really learn what my interests were, but started learning more about all the various fetishes that fall under the broad scope of BDSM when I was in my early twenties. Luckily, quite recently, with the help of the owner of a public dungeon I frequent, the people I've met there and the various resources now available on the web, I'm working towards fine-tuning my level of knowledge in my various fetishes, specifically, but not-limited to, rope-bondage. The other fetishes that you could say that I practice frequently would be collaring and leash play, flogging, crops, fire play and sensory deprivation.
Practicing BDSM, for me, feels like I'm able to be myself, especially in my current location where conservative thought reigns supreme. It's a way for me to express myself, it helps build confidence and brings me closer to my wife on so many levels. I also feel like it allows for a lot of diversity in and out of the bedroom, keeping the relationship fresh and exciting, not to mention exercising the imagination. I believe the foundation of a healthly relationship is having the ability to be sexually close with your partner. I see a lot of examples in my area, as well as in past experiences, of where people have let the passion and/or sexuality go out of their relationship, and to me, you're not living if you don't have passion or sexuality.
As far as what I'm looking for....what does any heteroflexible dominant man want? A harem of adoring submissive females and the occasional man. Is that too much to ask? Hehe, seriously, what elsbet and I would love is to be around like-minded individuals, have a safe place to go to practice our fetishes with friends, and of course have play partners join us for sexual and non-sexual fun. We have had the experience of having other women join us in the bedroom and we've enjoyed it, and would love to have the experience again. So, ideally, we would love to be with a bisexual woman who would be involved with both of us sexually. We would be interested in select bi or bi-curious couples, select bi or gay men, transgender and T-girls. I suppose an easier way of saying that is we're up to being with anyone we're attracted to, regardless of gender and sexuality. But in all of these situations, the most important thing to us is friendship. We'll never play with anyone unless we know you, know you well, and get along with each other. Play partners we're looking for are people that we can have fun with both in and out of the bedroom. Safe sex is always practiced, though we haven't been sexually active with other individuals for many years now. We also do regular disease screenings for ourselves, which we generally ask for anytime blood is drawn for whatever medical reasons.
I would consider myself as a novice Dom, and a compassionate one at that, though I can be very firm, and somewhat sadistic if I'm with a sub that "allows" me to be. I take my role very seriously, but not so seriously as to completely remove any joy from play sessions. I really enjoy the role, and I enjoy being able to bring pleasure to those I have the honor of Domming. I occasionally do a 180 and love being extremely submissive...which I generally only do once in a blue moon, or with the right person(s). I love partners that enjoy role-playing, are very vocal as well as passionate. I enjoy partners that can forget their worries and let themselves be lost in pleasure.
I would also consider myself a geek, growing up playing D&D, in the marching band, was an actor in high school and college theater, etc. I'm also a computer geek, love computer gaming and generally anything to do with computers. I love Anime. I tend to dress somewhere between gothic, punk and industrial. I love people that are not afraid to express themselves, publicly and in private, be it tatoos, piercings, dyed hair, knee-high boots, stockings, make-up, you name it. I'm typically drawn to people who express themselves in that way, don't know why, but in my experience, they tend to be the people I generally get along with as well as they tend to be the type of people I would consider being the most down-to-earth. This of course is not always the case, but typically.
What turns me on? Don't know if there is enough room here. Girls dressed as playful kittens. A good cuddle. A gangbang. A good pair of leather boots. Latex and Rubber clothing. Heavy polished metal objects. Horses. A naughty look from a stranger. A shy girl. A nerdy girl. Glasses. An open mind. Curiosity. Romance. Someone who speaks their mind. Long hair. Short hair. Girls with Pixie cuts. Rope. The look on a gay man's face when he learns I'm not always heterosexual. Exhibitionism. Being admired. Riding crops. 17th century clothing. Teachers. Backs of necks. Someone tied up (consensually of course, if it's not that's more tragic than a turn on). A good glass, or even bottle of Merlot. Intellect. A non-conformist.
I'm here on bdsmlibrary to be with like-minded individuals. To learn more about my various fetishes and to continue my education, as well as being able to bring what I've learned to those who would like to learn. I would like to help those that are interested in the lifestyle, but have no real knowledge of it, or would like a teacher to show them the basics of various fetishes....because I would have loved for someone to have done that for me. Then give them all the various resources available to take it in whatever direction suits them. I'm here to make friends, hopefully life-long friends, play-partners, teachers, mentors, and maybe some students as well.
Fetishes into
Anal Sex (everything to do with it)
Ass Play (everything to do with it)
Blindfolds (watching others wear)
Bondage (giving)
Chains (watching others wear)
Cross Dressing (wearing)
Dildos (everything to do with it)
Hair Pulling (everything to do with it)
Latex (everything to do with it)
Leather (everything to do with it)
Lingerie (everything to do with it)
Making Home Movies (everything to do with it)
Masks (everything to do with it)
Masochism (giving)
Masturbation (everything to do with it)
Mutual Masturbation (everything to do with it)
Nipples (everything to do with it)
Oral Sex (everything to do with it)
Role Play (everything to do with it)
Rubber (everything to do with it)
Sensory Deprivation (giving)
Strap-ons (everything to do with it)
Talking Dirty (everything to do with it)
Toys (everything to do with it)
Vibrators (everything to do with it)
Whips (giving)
High Heels (watching others wear)
Pantyhose/Stockings (everything to do with it)
Rimming (giving)
Spanking (giving)
Biting (everything to do with it)
Collar and Lead/Leash (giving)
Scent (everything to do with it)
Exhibitionism (everything to do with it)
Power Exchange (everything to do with it)
Fetishes curious about
Breast/Nipple Torture (giving)
Caging/Confinement (giving)
Discipline (giving)
Electrotorture (everything to do with it)
Enemas (everything to do with it)
Gangbangs (everything to do with it)
Humiliation (giving)
Master/Slave (everything to do with it)
Chastity Devices (watching others wear)
Sadism (giving)
Erotic Photography (everything to do with it)
Voyeurism (everything to do with it)
~Elghinn
P.S. I have what I would consider my main profile at fetlife.com as username Elghinn, my wife there is elsbet. It's a free site, just like this, and we have several pictures posted there. Come say hi sometime.
I'm a 30 year old dominant, and on rare occasions submissive, male, 5'11" tall, 175 lbs. My wife and I live the lifestyle whenever we can juggle it around our vanilla lives and our 1 year old daughter.
BDSM, or at least some various aspect of it, has been a part of my life since I was in my early teens. It took me a while to really learn what my interests were, but started learning more about all the various fetishes that fall under the broad scope of BDSM when I was in my early twenties. Luckily, quite recently, with the help of the owner of a public dungeon I frequent, the people I've met there and the various resources now available on the web, I'm working towards fine-tuning my level of knowledge in my various fetishes, specifically, but not-limited to, rope-bondage. The other fetishes that you could say that I practice frequently would be collaring and leash play, flogging, crops, fire play and sensory deprivation.
Practicing BDSM, for me, feels like I'm able to be myself, especially in my current location where conservative thought reigns supreme. It's a way for me to express myself, it helps build confidence and brings me closer to my wife on so many levels. I also feel like it allows for a lot of diversity in and out of the bedroom, keeping the relationship fresh and exciting, not to mention exercising the imagination. I believe the foundation of a healthly relationship is having the ability to be sexually close with your partner. I see a lot of examples in my area, as well as in past experiences, of where people have let the passion and/or sexuality go out of their relationship, and to me, you're not living if you don't have passion or sexuality.
As far as what I'm looking for....what does any heteroflexible dominant man want? A harem of adoring submissive females and the occasional man. Is that too much to ask? Hehe, seriously, what elsbet and I would love is to be around like-minded individuals, have a safe place to go to practice our fetishes with friends, and of course have play partners join us for sexual and non-sexual fun. We have had the experience of having other women join us in the bedroom and we've enjoyed it, and would love to have the experience again. So, ideally, we would love to be with a bisexual woman who would be involved with both of us sexually. We would be interested in select bi or bi-curious couples, select bi or gay men, transgender and T-girls. I suppose an easier way of saying that is we're up to being with anyone we're attracted to, regardless of gender and sexuality. But in all of these situations, the most important thing to us is friendship. We'll never play with anyone unless we know you, know you well, and get along with each other. Play partners we're looking for are people that we can have fun with both in and out of the bedroom. Safe sex is always practiced, though we haven't been sexually active with other individuals for many years now. We also do regular disease screenings for ourselves, which we generally ask for anytime blood is drawn for whatever medical reasons.
I would consider myself as a novice Dom, and a compassionate one at that, though I can be very firm, and somewhat sadistic if I'm with a sub that "allows" me to be. I take my role very seriously, but not so seriously as to completely remove any joy from play sessions. I really enjoy the role, and I enjoy being able to bring pleasure to those I have the honor of Domming. I occasionally do a 180 and love being extremely submissive...which I generally only do once in a blue moon, or with the right person(s). I love partners that enjoy role-playing, are very vocal as well as passionate. I enjoy partners that can forget their worries and let themselves be lost in pleasure.
I would also consider myself a geek, growing up playing D&D, in the marching band, was an actor in high school and college theater, etc. I'm also a computer geek, love computer gaming and generally anything to do with computers. I love Anime. I tend to dress somewhere between gothic, punk and industrial. I love people that are not afraid to express themselves, publicly and in private, be it tatoos, piercings, dyed hair, knee-high boots, stockings, make-up, you name it. I'm typically drawn to people who express themselves in that way, don't know why, but in my experience, they tend to be the people I generally get along with as well as they tend to be the type of people I would consider being the most down-to-earth. This of course is not always the case, but typically.
What turns me on? Don't know if there is enough room here. Girls dressed as playful kittens. A good cuddle. A gangbang. A good pair of leather boots. Latex and Rubber clothing. Heavy polished metal objects. Horses. A naughty look from a stranger. A shy girl. A nerdy girl. Glasses. An open mind. Curiosity. Romance. Someone who speaks their mind. Long hair. Short hair. Girls with Pixie cuts. Rope. The look on a gay man's face when he learns I'm not always heterosexual. Exhibitionism. Being admired. Riding crops. 17th century clothing. Teachers. Backs of necks. Someone tied up (consensually of course, if it's not that's more tragic than a turn on). A good glass, or even bottle of Merlot. Intellect. A non-conformist.
I'm here on bdsmlibrary to be with like-minded individuals. To learn more about my various fetishes and to continue my education, as well as being able to bring what I've learned to those who would like to learn. I would like to help those that are interested in the lifestyle, but have no real knowledge of it, or would like a teacher to show them the basics of various fetishes....because I would have loved for someone to have done that for me. Then give them all the various resources available to take it in whatever direction suits them. I'm here to make friends, hopefully life-long friends, play-partners, teachers, mentors, and maybe some students as well.
Fetishes into
Anal Sex (everything to do with it)
Ass Play (everything to do with it)
Blindfolds (watching others wear)
Bondage (giving)
Chains (watching others wear)
Cross Dressing (wearing)
Dildos (everything to do with it)
Hair Pulling (everything to do with it)
Latex (everything to do with it)
Leather (everything to do with it)
Lingerie (everything to do with it)
Making Home Movies (everything to do with it)
Masks (everything to do with it)
Masochism (giving)
Masturbation (everything to do with it)
Mutual Masturbation (everything to do with it)
Nipples (everything to do with it)
Oral Sex (everything to do with it)
Role Play (everything to do with it)
Rubber (everything to do with it)
Sensory Deprivation (giving)
Strap-ons (everything to do with it)
Talking Dirty (everything to do with it)
Toys (everything to do with it)
Vibrators (everything to do with it)
Whips (giving)
High Heels (watching others wear)
Pantyhose/Stockings (everything to do with it)
Rimming (giving)
Spanking (giving)
Biting (everything to do with it)
Collar and Lead/Leash (giving)
Scent (everything to do with it)
Exhibitionism (everything to do with it)
Power Exchange (everything to do with it)
Fetishes curious about
Breast/Nipple Torture (giving)
Caging/Confinement (giving)
Discipline (giving)
Electrotorture (everything to do with it)
Enemas (everything to do with it)
Gangbangs (everything to do with it)
Humiliation (giving)
Master/Slave (everything to do with it)
Chastity Devices (watching others wear)
Sadism (giving)
Erotic Photography (everything to do with it)
Voyeurism (everything to do with it)
~Elghinn
P.S. I have what I would consider my main profile at fetlife.com as username Elghinn, my wife there is elsbet. It's a free site, just like this, and we have several pictures posted there. Come say hi sometime.