Reality vs. Fantasy: during first submission

[wind_dancer{W_W}]

Have you ever read a book that you loved so much and got so into that you started to almost "feel" the character's feelings and emotions....?

Well i am just beginning my slavery/ submission online and W/we will eventually turn to r/l (yay!) but becoming a 24/7 slave has been a fantasy of mine for YEARS! and now that i am not only owned but also am in love with my Lord :) i find that, bizarrely enough, my mind is trying to separate this new part of my life <3 like it does when i finish a good series...... it is asthough my mind doesn't want to accept it as reality

Has this happened to anyone else?
If so how did you stop the separation?
HELP in general!!!!

OWNED mind::body::soul::heart by Wind_Walker

[yama]

Perhaps you got answers privately, but as I see nobody posts publicly, so let me say something. I am not a 24/7 slave, in fact not a slave at all, just a submissive who enjoys being humiliated and tortured. But when I try to imagine a 24/7 slavery, I always find in it an irreal element, a fantasy play, so to speak. As if somebody goes about on all fours like a dog, and is treated like a dog, but she/he is still not a dog in reality. It is a fantasy play. Like this, when you try to give every part of your personality to your Master, you will still find a massive reality of yourself, and it can't be helped. Your mind is healthy if it can't accept the fantasy play as reality.

My dear, I wrote this exclusively because I saw your post wasn't answered. I may be in great error about your situation or about the nature of 24/7 slavery. Don't hesitate to correct me, I am just a beginner. I admit that I am not competent.

[BelovedPet]

I am so excited for you! Finding what you've desired after years of waiting is like falling in love for the first time all over again. I felt giddy,had a huge smile on my face, and felt just so happy. I would just caution you that fantasy and reality are of course, rather different. Just because you like to fantasize about a specific thing doesn't mean you will *love* it in real life - and that's okay. Things tend to go perfectly in a fantasy so be prepared for the foibles of real life. If something doesn't go as planned, don't get discouraged - learn from it.

Best of luck to you!

b

[lozzy]

Wow, congrats, first of all, but I just wanted to say that I agree with BelovedPet, about fantasy and r/l being completely different.

Just be careful not to let yourself be too dissapointed if it doesn't happen exactly as youd imagined.

Take care.

[bip0lar]

the very first time i separated fantasy from reality was the first time i felt the belt on my back. and the second time, and the third time. the pain was unbelievable, shockingly stinging; i remember i shouted out the first time it contacted my back, more because of the shock that i just mentioned rather than the pain--but i kid you not, the pain was something unimaginable. did i like it any less? heck no, it was amazing--but it was the first time i saw the difference between the two.
the second was a non-consensual incident i happened to live through. what made me feel horrible about it wasn't, in the most part, the humiliation of it nor the pain nor the violation. it was the fact that i had masturbated [and came] for years fantasising about forced encounters and what not. I didn't blame myself for anything, no, i took it much better than expected, but it was another time when my brain highlighted the difference between fantasy and reality.
lastly, because i feel like i've gotten a tad off topic here and excuse me if that's the case, when it comes to my submission my mind tries to make me believe it's not who i am, it's solely a small part of me. well it isn't. it's more than i'd like to accept, certainly more than i'd like to admit, but i saw that the more you plunge into it and live what you call 24/7 the reality will jump out soon enough. some things are just so utopic when we have them in our heads that when we actually live them out certain things come to the surface. Don't get me wrong, i'm like you, i crave to belong to somebody and call him my Master, but i'm looking for that One knowing that the reality will be a lot different than what i'm imagining it to be.
*steps back* does that even make sense?

[wind_dancer{W_W}]

its not so much the experiences that i am refering to but instead the lifestyle in general