Looking for some on line friends...

[Willsubmit2]

I've been putting myself out there by answering different forum topics and adding would like to be friends, but no one is willing...what's the problem with everyone? I don't bite---hard---or is everyone so wrapped up in what they are doing that they don't wish to have any new friends...hmm....:wave:

[Ozme52]

Sometimes it happens quickly, sometimes it takes some time.

[Logic1]

Friends where? As in on your "forum wall of friends". I dont have particularly many and frankly that doesnt matter all that much to me either. Frankly to me it is just some "Facebookish" feature that I dont really need to know who I would consider friends. It´s fun and all but to what use? and NO I dont have Facebook either ;)

OR do you mean friends like somebody to chat to via msn/yahoo or something?

[DowntownAmber]

It wasn't clear to me if you're just mentioning in your posts that you would like to be friends or if you're inviting people directly through their profiles. I also wasn't totally clear as to what you consider an "online friend." Someone to chat with here on the site, someone to IM and email with, or something more substantial?

Bear my confusion in mind as this response may wander a ticky off topic as a result.

First, good for you for posting and getting into discussions here on the forums - great first step. If you're only offhandedly mentioning your desire to be friends in these posts, however, you might just be approaching this a little too passively. Sometimes, people need to be slapped upside the head with what you want from them before they will accommodate. Post an add in the personals section stating clearly what you're looking for - that section can be for friends as well as romantic relationships. Of course...lol...this post may be just as good to get the point across...

If you are sending friend requests through other user's profiles, start by striking up a conversation in the person's comment section first. I must turn down three friend requests a week because I have never spoken to the person one on one, even if I have seen them around. On the other hand, if they leave me a comment as to why they're dropping by my profile, I'll respond and we can chat a bit. I'm one of those funny people that just happen to like to know a persona little bit before friending them.

One other suggestion is to respond to new users' introduction posts. Say "hi" and offer to add them as a friend if they're interested - that's a great way to get together with other folks just finding their feet in the community.

Good luck!

[shayna{L_D}]

great advice DowntownAmber, and also Ozme, along with the others.

sometimes it takes a while, like Ozme said.

have you tried coming into the chat? thats where i made most of my friends here on the library. I also made some close friends by particapating in the Fun And Games sections.

Good luck! :)