What Do You Admire About Your Dominant?

[Flaming_Redhead]

VoodooMan and I had been emailing back and forth last night when it suddenly stopped. I figured he'd fallen asleep as it was his usual bedtime. This morning, our conversation resumed. I'd asked him about a research project he'd been working on last year. He emailed me the link to a magazine article which detailed his success as well as the possible future implications of his discoveries. I was quite literally awestruck. In my mind, he's a rock star, but his attitude is even more astonishing. He doesn't go out of his way to talk about his successes. In fact, he practically avoids discussing it and seems puzzled by my praise. His being humble only adds to my admiration of him because, let's face it, no one likes to hear how great you are all the time. Even though I think he deserves it, he will never be sitting in the lap of luxury. He loves teaching, which we all know doesn't pay nearly enough, and his business ethics do not allow him to charge what others in the private sector do. He may not like rich people, but he refuses to overcharge them simply because they're ignorant of the actual cost.

This got me to thinking. Part of the reason I love him is because he is a truly great man capable of doing great things, but I also see his flaws and love him in spite of them....or maybe because of them since it makes him human. I tend to think he's Superman, although he assures me he is not. I will never enable anyone to find a cure for cancer nor save an endangered species or the environment, so I can't help but put him up on a pedestal sometimes and wonder exactly what it is he sees in me...as I do not aspire to greatness.

Anyway, I was wondering if anyone else ever felt like worshipping the ground your dom walks on and what they do to deserve your adoration?

[lozzy]

I'm not sure I could name any one thing which I admire about my boyf. He's just the most amazing thing to ever happen to me, and nearly everything he does I admire.

I hate it when he does the dishes though, he sucks at it.

I think I zdmire him most for how well he deals with other people when they're angry or upset or stressed. He's like a gorgeous scrummy blanket of calm and reasoning.

/end of gush

[jeanne]

I admire His love of life. I admire that He was able to put Himself in a position to retire early. I admire His confidence. I respect His knowledge and savvy - and use Him as a sounding board for work-related issues once in a while.

[Pearlgem]

I admire his superhuman patience, the fact that he gets me and encompasses and handles my more emotional character with his matter of factness in a way I really respond to and is very good for me, and the fact that he accepts and likes all of me, even the stuff I think is whiny and unattractive.

[BryansGrrrl]

I admire His strength. His ability to be vulnerable. His patience and understanding. His methods of teaching. His way of speaking and relating to others. His way of protecting those he loves. His honesty. So many things... :)

[Flaming_Redhead]

I hate it when he does the dishes though, he sucks at it.

LMAO!

I love the way Voodoo believes in me. I love that he knows just what to say when I'm having a "moment." I admire his ability to use logic and remain calm. I admire his cooking skills.....but his cleaning and organizational skills are...um....well.....he sucks! hahahahahahaha I can't say much since I'm messy, too. I just try to help him with that as much as I can. :rolleyes:

[caligirl{Rob}]

What a nice thread Red!

MR from the moment we first met filled me with His confidence. He has an attitude about life and the need for balance that I admire with all my heart. He has done so many brave and honorable things in His life but He never seeks recognition and the tremendous honors He has received are appreciated by Him but never bragged over. The word "can't" is rarely in His vocabulary. His friendships are long and enduring. His smile and laugh light up a room. His enthusiasm for His passions and His care for those around Him are just who He is. He is open and honest, strong and caring, wise and open to learning more always. To know Him is a wonderful gift, to be wanted by Him is an honor beyond words.

but quietly must add Him to the list of messy Dom's (smiles ever so sweetly)

[sinful_desires {Nikon}]

I admire his patience and understanding. His loyalty, his honesty, his strengths, his passion. I admire his intelligence. I admire so many things about him. I am proud to be his :)

[bpqueen]

I worship my Master like the God he is - and because of how much like a Goddess he makes me feel when we are together. I admire the caring, compassion, and love of life that he always has...in ALL situations. I also admire the dedication and care that he takes in everything that he does. He is an all or nothing type of person, and the knowledge that he is designing and making my color, in addition to toys and accessories, fills me with a fierce pride. Master is completely honest with me, and knowing his personal sexual history, I am completely amazed that he has devoted himself to me and my training, especially when I have to split my time between him and my husband. Therefore, I also admire his patience with and belief in me.

[AdrianaAurora]

I admire the way He has managed to build His company in less than ten years, from two people operation to a globally successful organization. Everything He has comes only from His own hard work (the were no rich parents or uncles). I am amazed by the way He creates opportunities if there are none and He does it without bringing other people down to build Himself up. He pretends to be though and impenetrable, but really He always helps anyone who needs it and never seeks thanks. He is such an amazing father and I admire that. I admire the control He has over Himself, the minimalist way He speaks (always to the point and littered with, at times incredulous, understatements). His pet causes are preserving the nature of His homeland from industrial wasteland and providing assistance dogs to disabled persons free of charge to help facilitate their social integration, and He has been supporting both for decades with a lot of money and time.

[SubmissiveDoll]

I admire his mind most of all. He has the ability to learn anything he sets his mind too. I have never seen him fail at anything he really cared about. Though if you ask him he fails at everything.

I also admire how he is never threatened by me in anyway. When I do well he praises me, when I do bad he encourages me to do better. I'm always free to speak my mind, and share my thoughts. He loves that I'm opinionated and loud when I feel I need to be.

Almost every man that was in my life before my Master weren't strong enough to handle me. Most of them either left or became passive. He has never faltered and is still very accepting. Nor has he weakened. If anything, in my eyes, he is stronger than he was before. I will love and submit to him for as long as I am able.

[wind_dancer{W_W}]

First off i am going to have to say that i dont think i could possibly list all the things i admire about my Lord... so i will say a few deep ones and a few kinda silly ones...

i admire...
His ability to make me see myself for who i am. The fact that, while administering apt punishment for my mistakes He can also find the good in them. The fact that He accepts me for who i am. He has showed me that the most unappealing pieces of my past have helped me become the slave i am.... His slave. The simple fact that He can handle me and has actually managed to tame me.... something i used to think no one had the power to do... He showed me i was wrong. His ability to make me smile with a single word. His ability to talk so confidently while on the phone with me.... i am soo shy and i wish i could steal even a little of His confidence. The amazing fact that He took me... someone that never used to believe that love was possible..... and made me fall in love with Him by doing nothing but being Himself. He has the mental strength that i sometimes lack. How hard He works when He wants something. Most of all i admire His ability to love me for who i am.

i love my Lord and i could make this list go on forever lol

[manda]

I admire His intelligence and His fairness -how he can see both sides of a problem and work through it until it is solved. I admire His patience and understanding - especially when trying to teach me something new. I admire His sense of humour and his ability to make my day better by telling me something that will make me smile throughout my day. I am so proud he chose me!

[angelic.zest]

I admire that my Daddy is mild mannered, very calm, cool and collective.. I am sure if anyone were to see him on the street. You wouldnt think, He has one of the most sadistic minds out there. I also admire that Hes like a rock, Hes sweet, lovable and very sincere in his affection towards me. As well as the fact that Hes been in the lifestyle for so long but doesnt boost about it. Doesn't feel the need to be validated for his accomplishments within the lifestyle. He's a strong man, and I am very proud to know Him. Even if we dont work out, I know He's a sweetheart, a cuddly man, a big Meanie head...(dont tell him i said that Lol)

[love2serve]

What do i admire.......... his patience, his thoughtfulness. The way he remembers even the smallest thing that i have mentioned in passing, how very much he has helped me with my self-esteem always building on the positives and never dwelling on my faults. How, no matter how busy he is, he finds time to keep in touch as much as he can and to surprise me whenever possible. I admire his calm nature and his controlling voice, the deep look of dominance he has as he stares into my eyes and makes me melt and the way he makes me feel every time we meet. He has helped me begin my journey into submission, and, regardless of wether we finish the journey together or not I love and admire him for that more than anything. (I thought I was a lost cause - he has proved that I am not) Thank you Master.

[ShadePayne]

What I admire most about MasterStone............the way he is able to make me wet with one word and knowing when to use that one word.

[Hisangeldoll {MM}]

What do i admire? His compassion everytime i screw things up, the way He loves me even when i was unsure. After all the things He's been through He still deals with the same crap with a smile on His face. He's honest, smart, and sweet. i'm very luck to have Him as my Dom. There's no one else i could ask to help me learn about myself than Him, because He's as perfect as can be.

[love2serve]

What do i admire? His compassion everytime i screw things up, the way He loves me even when i was unsure. After all the things He's been through He still deals with the same crap with a smile on His face. He's honest, smart, and sweet. i'm very luck to have Him as my Dom. There's no one else i could ask to help me learn about myself than Him, because He's as perfect as can be.

That was beautifully put xx

[Kahlann]

I wasn't in the best place when I got together with my Master. I had just been dumped a while ago by my fiance after being attacked at a friends house. My ex blamed me. School had also kicked me out cause my bipolar was out of control. Needless to say I was not a happy camper.

My Master has taken care of me since then. He's rebuilt my trust in people. Slowly he's been helping me regain my self esteem. He gave me the confidence to reapply to school, classes start next Tuesday!! I'm finally recieving treatment for my bipolar. I'm not afraid to go out and face people. He's told me several times just say the word and he'll go take care of certain people. That wouldn't solve anything but it's nice to know he was bothered and wanted to protect me.

My Master has returned me back to who I used to be. He hass also brought out more of my submissive side. I've never been happier at any other point in my life. I feel secure and confident with him and because of him. I know he'll always be there for me.

[Mizar]

What do i admire? His compassion everytime i screw things up, the way He loves me even when i was unsure. After all the things He's been through He still deals with the same crap with a smile on His face. He's honest, smart, and sweet. i'm very luck to have Him as my Dom. There's no one else i could ask to help me learn about myself than Him, because He's as perfect as can be.

Thanks doll. I appreciate hearing this from you. And as many rough times as we've had...I'm glad I had them with you.

[Arria]

I had just been dumped a while ago by my fiance after being attacked at a friends house. My ex blamed me.

Sorry for being off topic, but I have to say that is the most utterly disgusting and cruel thing I ever heard. You can truly be glad that you are rid of him. *hugs*

I wish you all the best luck with school!

[Arria]

Ok, here is something on-topic as well... What I cherish about my dom is his patience... his knowledge of many things... his self-control... his letting me make my own experiences, good or bad, without rubbing it in too bad afterwards *g*... his way of never being grossed out at my desires, but always being encouraging and fulfilling them when he feels I am ready for them... his way of knowing better than myself if I can or cannot take something... his scent... his looks... his eyes... his hands... his voice... oh, I guess you get the picture. *smiles*

[bluemisty(Mw)]

My past, as with many submissives, is filled with things no one should ever go through. Master knows of them. Instead of pushing me away like so many have in my life, He pulled me closer to Him. His patience, his kindness and his caring for me are not measurable. His voice in my ear fills me with happiness, a sense of wonder, excitement and all kinds of the most delicious thoughts making me want to be the very best i can be for Him.

[moptop]

His eternal patience with me. He really needs it. And, even though I hate that he does it under running water (I can't STAND wasting water) I really admire that he does the washing up almost all the time (I guess I hate doing it even more than I hate wasting water...)

[shayna{L_D}]

I admire that he is MINE. :)

[miners_girl]

His honesty, his committment, his passion, his cooking, his patience,his eyes (drown in them) his voice....gah so many things!

[trikta]

I adore him for the fact that he knows me.

My problem in life is that when i get depressed i don't get violent against others, i self-destruct as best i can. And that's how i met him, i'll never tell a soul about the exact circumstance but i s'pose you can all imagine how i'd meet someone in an attempt to fuck myself up.

But he has a way of letting me know it was bad, making me ashamed of myself but not allowing me to feel that he's ashamed of me if that makes sense. I feel as though i must work hard for him because he comes across as a voice of incredible reasoning and understanding. He has a way of not only being dominant in sex, but also in our relationship. He takes total control but knows me so well that he can make decisions for me and have power over me, a sort of benevolence and romance mixed in.

Although don't get me wrong, i do have an equal say and opinion in the relationship.

I admire the fact that he is very insecure, but uses the fact that he has power over people not to manipulate or make them do what he wants, but simply for respect.

I love and respect him like no one before because he's real.

[Veralynne]

What do I admire most about Him?

He can take me from zero to orgasm in minutes. Less.
He is willing to take me down to the furthest depths of depravity and bring me back up again.
He maintains the highest standards of moral conduct in His own actions, and is not afraid to hold others to them as well.
He is there when I need Him.
In asking for all of me, He is not afraid to give all of Himself.
He is content with who I am, even were I to spend my life solely serving at His feet.
He always speaks of me kindly to others.
He is willing to push my limits, and His own.
He treats me with patience, and kindness, and understanding.

Mostly- when I was humiliated, and sobbing, degraded and covered in cum and spit and piss- He held me there in all my filth, and He still loved me.

[aussiesubgirl]

I will do my best not too wax on too much as well....but no promises (once I get started on my fave subject...hehehe!)

- I have NEVER felt safer and happier than when I am pressed against his chest and surrounded by his big strong arms...the first time he hugged me (on our first date) I felt like I had finally come home after travelling around the world on foot...I could happily stay there for ever

- EVERYONE knows when he walks into a room...he lights up any / every space with his confidence, sexual energy, fierce wit and intelligence....sounds cliche but it's true (and drives my green eyed monster insane ALL the time! *my issue, I know...working on that!*) men want to BE him and women want to be WITH him (and so do some of the men!) ;o) He has a physical and mental presence that attracts people to him without any effort on his part. He also has a sense of humour that makes me so turned on it drives me crazy...my favourite name for him is 'you cheeky bastard!' which he loves...and fuels his evil sense of humour further...

- OK, call me shallow but he is the best looking man I have EVER seen, with a body to die for - a real man's body, strength, muscles, that masculine smell, golden hair on his chest...sorry.....where was I....*phew* ok, dimples and a smile that can be both angelic and/or sardonically evil depending on his mood...light green eyes that can stare into your soul....(and a few other delicious physical attributes that I will leave to your avid and fertile imaginations!!!). I have never been one to focus on looks before EVER, but hell when the one you want on the inside happens to come wrapped in a deliciously gorgeous package on the outside - who's to complain?!....hehehe yes, I am DEEPLY shallow these days....but I DO admire that about him...in fact I could happily spend the next few months just 'admiring' him from every possible angle ;o)

- His personal, moral and emotional strength, sense of justice, integrity and willingness to fight for what he believes in....and that he is not afraid to BE himself at all times - no matter the consequences. He never lies, and holds himself and others to higher standards of honesty and self reflection than society generally demands, but also has the strength of character to forgive if someone fails but genuinely apologises and regrets the lapse (OK that was me...I fucked up *badly* he forgave me, and I have never been more grateful of anything. I will never make that mistake again and it taught me a very tough lesson but one that I needed to learn)

- His genuine desire to build my self-esteem and nurture my growth as a person both inside and outside of the BDSM 'realm'...after literally YEARS of dating men (and women) who controlled me by destroying what little self esteem I had, manipulated and turned me inside out so I didn't know which way was up and who I was...he will not allow it when I continue to relive their psychological abuse by believing/thinking/saying I am unattractive, stupid or useless...none of which is true, even I can logically see that now, but was so ingrained it took many months of mental re-training and gentle discipline when those thoughts polluted and overwhelmed my mind. No-one has ever cared enough about me to let ME care about me again.

- He has overcome every horrible, sad, soul destroying obstacle life has thrown at him, and still has more positive energy and love to give than anyone I have ever met. He is like a force of nature. He has made an incredible success of his life and seeks to help others do the same. He has even extended forgiveness to some of those that have hurt him beyond words when he was a child / teenager - something I wish I was strong enough to do, but am not yet.

- He is an amazing lover that is not afraid of anything or any reaction. No more needs to be said. I could not imagine ever finding a better match sexually. EVER.

- He listens to me. He pays attention. He anticipates my needs. He knows me better than I know myself.

- He is my equal or better in every way...and I could never respect, trust or submit to anyone that wasn't.

Yep...I could go on all night (looking at his stunning pic as we speak while I wait for him to get back from the other side of the world and get home to me once more....only 4 days to go after 8 weeks of longing and thousands of Euros in phone bills on either side...!!!)

If you are still awake, thanks for reading and sounds like we are some incredibly lucky ladies/guys on this site...it has given me faith there ARE wonderful people out there, even if they are so very hard to find sometimes

xxx

PS he is also a moody bastard, too smart for his own good and loves nothing more than to 'jerk my chain' some days just for his own twisted fun....and his job (working for the UN - yeah, saving the freakin world *makes me feel useless sometimes despite loving my own career*) takes him away from me for months at a time, to god-forsaken places with only a few days for ourselves when he returns....so ain't nobody perfect, but fuck he's the closest I have ever seen!! ;o)

[Pearlgem]

Phew! Does he replace the toilet seat too?

[jonnyi's_nia]

Oh wow, where do I start? He is the smartest, most loving and caring man I have ever met! He works his ass off to provide for His family, and will do whatever He must for His family. He makes me laugh, and holds me when I cry. He doesn't worry over the small stuff, He just assures me that everything will work out on it's own and carrys on.
He is an AWESOME father to our daughter (well, his from a previous marriage). That is what made me fall in love with Him, was how He was able to interact with her. It blows my mind how patient He is with her, and with me! I am not an easy person to live with, but I definately try my hardest to please Him. He is the love of my life, my everything. He is so damn hot, plus He takes me to places sexually I have never been!

[tastychococakes]

I can get a little rambunctious at times, so I definitely admire the way handles me...firm, but caring at the same time.

[ffion]

WOOHOO! this is my favourite thread on this site - it gives me licence to do something that i sooo longed to do... wax lyrical about the person who transforms my life from the misery of the mundane, into something exciting, with seduction, spark and friendship.

this man came into my life unexpectedly, saw something in me i didn't see in myself, and is leading me gently and erotically in my sexual evolution.

more than this, he is my better intellectually - this is a huge turn-on! he insists we are equals, but different; however, i trust his judgement more than my own - time and experience has shown him to be more often right than me or most other people. perhaps because he thinks more deeply than i do, reflects more thoroughly on any situation; i am bright enough but my thought patterns are fleeting and hurried. i wish i could be more like him.

we have great discussions, invariably resulting in me learning something!

and how often does he patiently explain some subtlety, then hear me making the same mistake over, then explain patiently again, over and over! the man is a saint! well maybe not quite :evil:

his style of humour is clever and saucy; he shows caring and responsibility to those he cares about; he has a sense of honour that runs right to his core, and a pride in his self and his nationality that inspires me.

he has never rushed me. he has never made me feel uncomfortable or distrusting, going to enormous lengths to make me relax with him, working with me to help me overcome my inadequacies and fears, to the point i am now opening up areas i've never revealed to anyone ever. i feel confidence that he does not condemn me for my freakish kinks :eek: ...in fact he helps me understand why i have them.

he is very well-travelled, worldly-wise, and experienced in many areas, not least sexually. in addition he has the sexiest smile...

i love spending time with him! i feel i don't deserve his attention, but i'm very, very grateful he chose me. :)

[ffion]

...drives my green eyed monster insane ALL the time! *my issue, I know...working on that!

i just hate that, don't you!



- He is my equal or better in every way...and I could never respect, trust or submit to anyone that wasn't.

well said

[StillLearning]

I love that when I came to Him, and asked Him to be more Dominant, to compliment my submissiveness, he didn't turn away from me. He agreed to try to learn, to please me. He is a fantastic dad to my daughter from a previous marriage, and I adore the way He worships my feminine ability to carry our child as my pregnancy progresses. I love that He trusts me enough that at the end of our play, He will lay His head on my breast and go to sleep. I'm sure I'll discover even more as we learn and progress together.

[wolfpup]

I admire my master's understanding. Before becoming a master he used to be a sub, and he treats me fairly. He's teaching me a lot also, which I really love :D.

[cfs]

There are a lot of things I admire in my Dom. The ones I can think of right now is his brain, his intelligence, his wit and sense of humor, and how he know to push my limits, how it seems he knows my body more than I do, how he makes me want to cum every so often and how he brings out my other side

[steelish]

I count myself very lucky. I met and fell in love with Forge long before he became my Dom. What attracted me to him? He has self-confidence without arrogance. He is masculine without being brutish. He has a natural dominance without being overbearing. He is intelligent tempered by an open mind and understanding.

In short, he is my soul mate in all things.

[egvgomez]

I was very interested in the topic, but after reading all the treads, i couldnt find any thing that is common in all responses. Maybe just that all are in a way grateful that they found that special somebody, but couldnt find anything in common. Anybopdy can help me with this?? Waht could you point that is commun and appears in all relations that make this person so good??. I got the same feelings when i ask question to my vanilla friends (girls) Same happends whith them, they answer me and when i go into teirs life, is a totally different situation. I first notice this, when sometimes i talk to my friends that were having a bad moment w their bf, they sound like they were going to dump him as soon as they see him again, but after several days, they were happy w him again. ????? Maybe is a girl thing, or maybe i should follow an old saying that states: Don`t try to understand women, u just have to love them.

[His little one]

I admire the way He treats people, His integrity, who He chooses to be, His loyalty and strength. I love that He can know and see me to the core of my being and love me unconditionally.

To egvgomez, I did not read the whole thread but, imho, (if I understand your statement...) the responses are all different because people are different. What we love and admire most and have found in another human being is unique to each.

[VaAugusta]

I think one common trait could be that if you look for the good in people you will find it.
Thanks for the posts people! I try to soak in all the advice I can take and this is one of the best threads to help be more reassured.

[nawteeone]

The fact that he wants ME.

[sinful_desires {Nikon}]

The fact that he wants ME.

I like this! :)

[tina2008]

The fact that he wants ME.

That quote bears repeating especially as I feel the same about Sir. The fact that He wanted me in spite of all my issues....actually, I have no words for how He makes me feel.

He's also able to keep me calm regardless of the situation and trust me, that's no small feat!!

[ladylookin09]

Master Fox is wonderful. He is kind, stern, demanding, giving, and His "good girl" makes me melt. He makes me happy.