Mizar
01-31-2009, 03:00 PM
Ok so not BDSM in anyway really except that my girl is my sub. This is more I am completely lost and I have no idea where to turn (wonderful how it seems like every thread I start is because I dont know where else to turn because of problems).
So I was with my girl for three years, she said no sex until marriage and she actualy convinced me that it sex should only ever be given to the ONE person who means the most to you and who you love and is not something to just be....given out. Previously I was like every guy practicaly, sex didnt mean much, I wouldnt push for it ever or anything but it was like if I get sex great but w/e. I was still a virgin because of that stand point when we started going out, so was she. We went out for awhile and ended up sleeping with eachother because we were so in love with eachother when it happened.
We went through rough times and dealt with so many problems and always came out the worse for wear but we dealt and were ok. Then a few months ago...the day before I ask her to marry me, she leaves me. I try to get her back for two weeks till she asks me to leave her alone. So I stop talking to her for a little bit. Then she asks me to be with her. I told her the best answer I could give was I would think about it, I was still so in love with her but I was afraid of her leaving again and I wanted to make sure we were both ready. Then a week later she asks again, I give the same answer. Between the two my "best friend" who I had asked to make sure she was ok etc. because I couldnt be there....hung out with her and started making out with her and then had sex with her, she says that she didnt stop it but feels horrible for it etc. and...I do believe her but...still...now...I cant seem to get over it and I want it to be ok, I want us to be together and happy but I dont know if I can do that anymore because of that simple thing.
Its causing so many problems because I lash out and make her feel horrible and I cant seem to get over it. And Im going to lose her again and forever Im right on the brink because this morning I was the fool that got so angry and upset that in my anger I called her a dumb cunt. So I dont know how to respond I lost control and I have no control over anything and the only thing I have control over is myself and I dont think, after this morning plus the fact that I cant get over what she did (only once) that Im not even in control of myself. If anyone can say anything that would be so...utterly appreciated.
So I was with my girl for three years, she said no sex until marriage and she actualy convinced me that it sex should only ever be given to the ONE person who means the most to you and who you love and is not something to just be....given out. Previously I was like every guy practicaly, sex didnt mean much, I wouldnt push for it ever or anything but it was like if I get sex great but w/e. I was still a virgin because of that stand point when we started going out, so was she. We went out for awhile and ended up sleeping with eachother because we were so in love with eachother when it happened.
We went through rough times and dealt with so many problems and always came out the worse for wear but we dealt and were ok. Then a few months ago...the day before I ask her to marry me, she leaves me. I try to get her back for two weeks till she asks me to leave her alone. So I stop talking to her for a little bit. Then she asks me to be with her. I told her the best answer I could give was I would think about it, I was still so in love with her but I was afraid of her leaving again and I wanted to make sure we were both ready. Then a week later she asks again, I give the same answer. Between the two my "best friend" who I had asked to make sure she was ok etc. because I couldnt be there....hung out with her and started making out with her and then had sex with her, she says that she didnt stop it but feels horrible for it etc. and...I do believe her but...still...now...I cant seem to get over it and I want it to be ok, I want us to be together and happy but I dont know if I can do that anymore because of that simple thing.
Its causing so many problems because I lash out and make her feel horrible and I cant seem to get over it. And Im going to lose her again and forever Im right on the brink because this morning I was the fool that got so angry and upset that in my anger I called her a dumb cunt. So I dont know how to respond I lost control and I have no control over anything and the only thing I have control over is myself and I dont think, after this morning plus the fact that I cant get over what she did (only once) that Im not even in control of myself. If anyone can say anything that would be so...utterly appreciated.