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Mizar
02-23-2009, 09:56 AM
So something occurred to me. If you had a limit on something, scat, water sports, etc. but your sub wanted to try it or do it. would you push past your own limits and likes for them? I know that I would, if most likely on the condition of "only once" but still. would you move past it for them?

SilverWulf
02-23-2009, 04:09 PM
If I had something as a soft limit, it would depend on what the activity was and why I had it as a limit. If my partner could present a well reasoned explanation as to why they wanted said activity I would consider pushing past my own self imposed limit to satisfy their desire.

If I had something as a hard limit, no amount of begging or reasoning could make me break it.

Ozme52
02-23-2009, 11:36 PM
Also... depending on the nature of the play and the reason for it being a limit.

But if she wanted it enough, I would consider bringing in a specialist.

jeanne
02-24-2009, 06:34 AM
Also... depending on the nature of the play and the reason for it being a limit.

But if she wanted it enough, I would consider bringing in a specialist.

Searching my mind....nope, no need for a specialist. I have exactly what's perfect for me, thanks to You.

:bigkiss:

Flaming_Redhead
02-24-2009, 08:28 PM
It would completely depend on why it's a limit for me. If it's something I don't know how to do, I'd find someone who does know how to do it so he could experience it. I'd attend demos or find a mentor to learn how to do it if it's something he really likes and not unduly complicated. If, however, it's a hard limit because it seriously squicks me out, the answer would be "not no, but hell no!"

bpqueen
02-25-2009, 04:35 PM
Master didn't want to post, but when I asked him, he stated that he would indeed endeavor to challenge his own limit and explore with me why it was a limit and if it should remain so if I so desired. In his view, all limits have the ability to be challenged, if even only once. I, however, have no real desire to explore any of his hard limits...

Tantalus
02-25-2009, 05:42 PM
If she wanted something I would strive to make it happen, but if I did not enjoy it I would be certain to talk to her about it afterward and let her know, and we would then decide how to proceed. If I did end up enjoying it (and she did too) then we would have yet another item in the toolbox, so to speak, to use again in future sessions.