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[skye67]

Oh dear, that man! I have been his slave for a couple off weeks now his take is to make it official now, that means public showing and a couple of other things including shaving of my hair, that being said, I have about 60cm long light brown hair I am somewhat found off, I don’t care a lot about other Dom´s playing with me as long as he is right there (and he is). Fuck me, he say’s a shaved head is sexy (not) and he will shave my head himself( not that that helps a lot). and yes before sighing the contract I knew what in for but I thought I had more time to prepare! And no its not about consent, its to prove his dominance over me which he has. Who am I to tell him no ( tried that once, lets just say I wont again :eek:)! I am after all his slave! Call me shallow but if I find a way around having my head shaved I will!
Just saying

[Archeon]

You say you have been his slave for 2 weeks now, how long were you together before you were collared and signed a slave contract?

You say you knew this was coming, if you had a problem with it, why didn't you negotiate it before being collared?

How does he expect you to function in the real world with a shaved head as a woman?

Do you trust his judgment? Do you trust him to make decisions in the best interest of both of you, not just what he wants?

Just saying.

[skye67]

Valid points Archeon !
Thanks for caring enough to ask :)
We known each other forever but are “us” only about 6 month! Did I know before the contact and why did I not negotiate? ? Yes, he was very clear about what was expected of me and no there are things that he will not be budged from (talk about old school)!! I always have the choice of saying no and leave ( as if I would)!
How am I able to cope in life with a shaved head? I always am able to cope and he is very aware of that (I am rather good being unusual)
Having said that, I do understand were you are coming from and thanks again for being concerned, I am 42 years old I have been always different, people expect it of me!
I am in no way shape or form a victim here but fuck ….my hair!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i am sure its a girl thing!

[trueangel]

you've been his slave for 2 weeks? you knew it was coming but said nothing in the very beginning of negotiations? my opinion would be that you SHOULD have THEN said something not now. Sorry if i sound harsh or hard hearted but the beginning is when you negotiate is it not?
i agree with Archeon's comment about functioning as a woman with a shaved head. How do you plan to do that?
Trust is huge and as Archeon said, is it for the better of BOTH of you or just something he himself wants?
i have to say, i am a bit vain and would have negotiated the shaved head. i love my long hair(to my waist) and could not do as you are being instructed.

His true

[skye67]

it does grow back you know, even if i wont be able to wiggle out of that one!
ang given the choice of him as my Master and my hair i´ll take him anyday!
its not anything to get really upset about, like i said i knew it was coming its just that it is rather soon to be told that it will be soon!
just needed to vent, no more

[trueangel]

i guess i must have sounded harsh. That wasn't my intention. i didn't realize you were only venting. my mistake.

[CuntyVonTwatington]

good luck!! buy lots of warm hats cuz to shave your head in winter is ........... noticably chillier even if you live somewhere warm.......... and maybe you could also donate the hair to a cancer wig program?? i shaved my head or a dare about 11 years ago and it definately does grow back :) and i had fun mucking with ppls heads since so many of them assumed i was either a militant lesbian or had cancer........ the one thing noone ever asked is if i did it for a man lmao!

[skye67]

lol yea its one of these things...
the idea to have a wig made for cancer victims is a great one, thank you!

[skye67]

trueangel you didn´t sound harsh :) i should first think how i phrase things to avoid that others misunderstand
point taken

[asian bitch]

hello, there?

[satisfied]

skye67

google locks of love, that is the program that makes wigs for kids with cancer. i have donated about 13 inches three times over the yeears. Also you do not have to send it in yourself. You can likely find a local salon that works with Locks Of Love. You can simply have your Master braid your hair before cutting it off and take the braid into the salon and they are happy to send it in for you.

Good luck.

Sire has threatened to shave my head. Kind of sounds like He's joking, not sure, but He is aware that it would do some serious emotional damage to me. So based on that He likely won't do it. He has however cut it way shorter than it's ever been, turns out i really like it! It's this really cool kind of punk style, which my personality allows me to pull of quite well.

[phedrea]

It's funny before I read this thread I thought to myself would I be willing to cut off my hair for a Master? And the answer was NO! Rethinking it if I found the right Master and it was a choice between him and my hair I'd let go of my hair.It would really fuck me up though. My hair is down to my waist too and it's very wrapped up in my identity.

[skye67]

i know what you mean, never thought i would agree to someting like that before he claimed my heart! As i said it was out in the open from the start, that if he would accept me as his slave what would happen when he makes it official. We are part of a traditional community and that is part of what all new slaves have to go through when being presented, besides some other fun things ;)
i love the idea that my hair can make someone in a bad situation feel better tho, so its not all bad

[fetishdj]

Are we talking a permanent situation here - i.e. you cut it and shave and your task is to keep shaving your head for ever more - or is it a one off, shave the head and then be allowed to regrow it? Because hair is relatively easy to regrow if it is only a one off and I am sure you can put up with the discomfort for a short while. If it is an ongoing thing then I am not sure I could handle it myself... its bad enough that nature is taking away what I once had :)

[skye67]

The agreement is once only, truth to be told he is having a hard time with it himself.

[fetishdj]

If he is also having trouble then maybe you need to talk about it and decide what to do?

[Daddy's Naughty Girl]

I just have to say that when I was a teen I use to keep my head shaved. To feel someone's breath in an area so rarely exposed is highly arousing.

One of the guys I was with used to lick my bare head, sending shivers throughout my body.

I think you should embrace the novelty of the sensation. It can be quite a lot of fun!

[denuseri]

Open and honest comunication between one's dominant and oneself can be dificult at times, but is paramont to the growth of the relationship.

Fear of the opinion of ones peers is a very difficult thing to overcome while on a journey of submission.

In some circles shaving the head is considerd a punishment.

For others it can be a highly erotic experience.

I wish you the best of luck and hope that if he decides to insist upon it ( since it appears as if he is vacilating) and you comply that you will not see it as a punnishment but an opportunity to make a testament of your love for him with the gesture.

Perhaps you will be allowed to be shaved by his hands.

If my owner asked me to cut or shave my hair (for the time being he has prefered it to be long) I would beg such a privelage from him most ernestly.

I shall pray that regardless of the outcome (shaved or not) that the two of you will have a long and fruitful relationship together.

[skye67]

He will do the shaving, that is his wish as well as tradition.

I dont see it as a punishment at all, just sometimes i have that little voice inside my head asking wtf....why are you doing this? when i posted this i had one of those moments.
;)

[Daddy's Naughty Girl]

Open and honest comunication between one's dominant and oneself can be dificult at times, but is paramont to the growth of the relationship.

Fear of the opinion of ones peers is a very difficult thing to overcome while on a journey of submission.

In some circles shaving the head is considerd a punishment.

For others it can be a highly erotic experience.

I wish you the best of luck and hope that if he decides to insist upon it ( since it appears as if he is vacilating) and you comply that you will not see it as a punnishment but an opportunity to make a testament of your love for him with the gesture.

Perhaps you will be allowed to be shaved by his hands.

If my owner asked me to cut or shave my hair (for the time being he has prefered it to be long) I would beg such a privelage from him most ernestly.

I shall pray that regardless of the outcome (shaved or not) that the two of you will have a long and fruitful relationship together.

denusari - I just have to say that, after reading several of your posts, I truly enjoy how wise and gentle your words are. Whomever you're with is a tremendously lucky person!

I must admit that I never thought about the fact that head-shaving would be considered a punishment. I've hung around so many lesbians and punkers (and lesbian punkers) with little to no hair that it seems quite normal to me. In fact, I had used it as an empowering act of defiance on more than one occasion.

So I apologize for my ignorance and for shooting [my mouth off] from the hip (as I far too often do.) In the future, I will try to be more thoughtful (as you are) before I speak. Perhaps, one day, I too will be a wise and gentle person.


He will do the shaving, that is his wish as well as tradition.

I dont see it as a punishment at all, just sometimes i have that little voice inside my head asking wtf....why are you doing this? when i posted this i had one of those moments.
;)

skye67 - It sounds like you've made up your mind then. I can certainly relate to you when you speak of that little voice. I'm still not sure why I let Daddy treat me the way he does, except for the fact that I adore the way he does it.

I also hope (only because I don't pray, so hope is the best I can do) that you will both have a long & fruitful relationship together!

[denuseri]

Thank you for your kind words Daddy's Naughty Girl.

skye hugggggggs, we all have little moments like that where we want to howl at the moon, or get confussed and dont understand things, its perfectly allright, I vent sometimes myself with no rhyme or reason, no one ; and mean no one, is ever perfect.

The only wrong question is the one never asked.

[skye67]

hugggggggs right back

[Arria]

Dear skye,

First of all, I feel with you. I would not let go of my hair. Partly because I think shaved hair looks shitty on a woman who does not have a certain face-shape and head-shape (and I don´t have that face-shape - I had such short hair once, and it made me look very boyish. People often mistook me for a boy at that time - I was 17 y.o. and extremely skinny and liked baggy clothes, so...) Partly because part of my work is covering reception for a large international company - having my head shaved would not go over well at all.

Luckily, I knew even before we got together that hubby likes his girls long-haired. *smiles* He even encouraged me a lot when I got together with him (my hair was at that time chin-length, and we all know how hard growing the part between chin-long and shoulder-length is, because it looks really odd - too short to tie them in a ponytail, too long to create a nice short-haired style)!

I agree that you should have spoken to him when it first came up. I know that does not help the issue at hand anymore, but it might be a good thing to remember for the future.

Another point I´d make, even though it will probably make old-schoolers and their lot angry with me:
- You are not happy about having your hair cut. But as it´s a one-time thing, as you say you will not have trouble in your working/daily life because of it, etc., that would be acceptable for you, because you are willing to do it for him.
- What made me pause is the fact that your dom is not happy about the idea, either, but is willing to go through with it because it is a "rule" in your crowd.
Well.

Am I ever glad that I met a man who likes to do his own thing, without trying to fit into rules made by others!

What I really fail to understand is why your dom will submit to a rule made by others in an issue regarding his very own sub and lovelife.

One of the things I adore most about hubby is that he does with his life and decisions as he wishes, not as someone else wishes.

I don´t think I would respect him as much if I witnessed him doing things with me that he himself does not want, just in order to meet somebody else´s standards.
I really don´t.

Kind regards
Arria