How can a Couple find a Local F-Sub?

[Shadoom]

My wife and I are thinking of finding a female sub. Our requirements are a bit restrictive, given that we need to keep this relatively quiet from our three daughters.

My wife is a submissive who would like to try dominating another woman; however, she has always had lesbian fantasies -- and I'm rather fascinated with the thought of her playing with another woman.

We haven't a clue as to how to go about locating such a person, especially in our local area (Clearwater, FL, near Tampa-St.Pete).

My thought is to pursue this online, perhaps in chat rooms, getting building an initial relationship before getting physical. My wife is terrified that someone will find out about her desires; she was raised Catholic, and has all the associated guilts.

Any suggestions?

[mythicat]

Well...my understanding is that there's a pretty good-sized BDSM community in the Tampa/St. Pete area if you would want to start attending munches or anything like that. (I think there may be a group specifically in Clearwater too.)

But if you're wanting to start online only then maybe try a search engine for Tampa + BDSM + chat? I know there used to be a Tampa channel on irc.bondage.net, but no idea if it's still there. Fraid I havent been in a chat room in far too long to be of much help.

[kittenfemme]

Fabulous advice mythicat. I highly recommend attending a munch or two (http://www.tampamunch.org/) in your local area. They're a great way to meet other kinky peeps without it being too obvious. If that's too tame, what of a good fetish party (http://www.tampafetishparty.com/)? :D

If that isn't fruitful, try alternative newspapers. Almost every big city has one or two. Try placing a discreet ad and see where that leads you. Of course, there are online sites such as collar me (http://www.collarme.com) and alt (http://www.alt.com) but they can be a pain. Still, they're a resource.

Personally, I recommend a munch. There's one this weekend if I'm not mistaken.

[Shadoom]

Well...my understanding is that there's a pretty good-sized BDSM community in the Tampa/St. Pete area if you would want to start attending munches or anything like that. (I think there may be a group specifically in Clearwater too.)

I had a Very Bad Experience with a munch once in Denver, so I tend to be cautious about such gatherings. There is a monthly munch nearby, in Clearwater; I may check it out next month.

[Dngnkeeper]

Of the two munches Tampa's is generally the bigger of the two and would probably have more of what you seek. A couple of other Central Florida resources are the Orlando Munch (http://www.orlandomunch.com),which attracts people from all over the state. Also if you have any interest in BDSM events you could look into the Orlando Bash (http://www.orlandobash.com). It has a mix of workshops and play and attracts many of it's attendees from around the state, not to mention the nation and a few from abroad.

[Dngnkeeper]

Fabulous advice mythicat. I highly recommend attending a munch or two (http://www.tampamunch.org/) in your local area. They're a great way to meet other kinky peeps without it being too obvious. If that's too tame, what of a good fetish party (http://www.tampafetishparty.com/)? :D
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Personally, I recommend a munch. There's one this weekend if I'm not mistaken.

kittenfemme does this mean we might see you popping up in my back yard soon :D :woohoo:

[Alaric's pet]

It is interesting to me that this topic came up here today. Alaric and I were just talking about the need to find friends who have (ahem..) similar interests. Most of my close friends know that our relationship is a little "wilder" than most but at the same time, they are not interested in knowing/talking about anything specific. Lately, I've found myself longing to have a friend who understands about the way I feel and the things I like to do. So many things are shared with Alaric of course....but its not the same as having a girl to talk to... you know?

We've talked about attending a munch and may do that. I think the next one in Orlando is not until January? Is that correct?

[Shadoom]

It is interesting to me that this topic came up here today. Alaric and I were just talking about the need to find friends who have (ahem..) similar interests. Most of my close friends know that our relationship is a little "wilder" than most but at the same time, they are not interested in knowing/talking about anything specific.

Speaking of friends, my wife has tossed a new ingredient into the mix...

My wife has worked for several years at a Big Name Charitable Organization. One of her co-workers is a late-20-something; my wife is rather close to this young lady, helping her through grad school and otherwise sharing intimate details. As in...

We're watching a movie, and the topic of piercings comes up. Her friend has several piercings in each ear, a matter which has caused some problem in their conservative workplace.

"So has 'M' been harassed about her piercings recently?" I asked.

"No, " my wife replies. "But they don't know about all her piercings."

"Oh really?" I say.

"Her nipples and 'down there'," my wife says, pointing to her nether regions.

"And you discussed this?"

"Of course," my wife said. "I've seen them. They're rather cute."

Now, my wife has expressed interest in women; she enjoys my collection of female-only porn, for example. And now she's discussing intimate body piercings with a friend of hers... add to that my wife's recent concern that 'M' is distressed about a lack of romantic options, and my own nasty fantasies -- and, well, you get the picture.

Now, do womenfolk generally share their "private" piercings with each other, or am I correct in reading "something" into my wife's sudden discussion of a "friend"?

And I haven't a clue as to how to broach the subject of a 3-way liason.

[Dngnkeeper]

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We've talked about attending a munch and may do that. I think the next one in Orlando is not until January? Is that correct?

Correct. The Orlando Munch, as well as many others, is not held in December. the next one will be the 4th Sat in Jan. I think thats the 22nd.

[Alaric's pet]

Shadoom,
I don't think its surprising or strange or "encouraging" that the conversation of piercings has come up with your wife and a coworker. I think people who are comfortable with each other and work together talk about a lot of things. I know we do at my place of business. (Of course, we just TALK....I can't imagine SHOWing...) So maybe there is a little somethin'/somethin' cooking there. :D

[Alaric's pet]

Dngnkeeper,
Thanks for the confirmation on the Munch. Would you mind sending Alaric or me a message about what to expect. Its at Gator's right?

[Shadoom]

Shadoom,
I don't think its surprising or strange or "encouraging" that the conversation of piercings has come up with your wife and a coworker. I think people who are comfortable with each other and work together talk about a lot of things. I know we do at my place of business. (Of course, we just TALK....I can't imagine SHOWing...) So maybe there is a little somethin'/somethin' cooking there. :D

The types of conversation depend on your workplace; my wife's organization is very Christian/Republican and run by ex-military folk; they don't talk about mundane topics like who voted for whom, so I doubt very much they openly carry on about body piercings. This is, after all, an organization with a mandated dress code straight out of the 1950s...