destination

[singletaillover]

does it ever worry you when your Dom/Master/Domme goes away for a couple of days and does not contact you to let you know that he/she has arrived at there destination, as i know that it does me as my Master has gone away for a couple of days and has not let his slave know that Master has arrived safely at the destination. Now i am worried sick and fretting i have sent Master a few text messages but no reply back from Master. It makes my brain run away and think horrible thoughts like car accident or something worse. Does it with you if so how do you cope with it?

[denuseri]

My Owner is on active duty and sometimes he cant let me know anything when they deploy, but if its within his power to do so, he does. He understands what kind of anguish it can put me through.

Unfortunately some people seem to think that just becuase they call themselves a dominant that they may ignore or disregard such common courtesy and dont bother letting those who care about them know that they are allright.

At other times Ive seen this kind of thing done (especially by online dominants) as some kind of test or way of attempting to train a girl to not be so needy for contact etc, which is really sad especially if not informed before hand, becuase all it does is drive a wedge and show how much they don't care.

Unfortunately all one can do is go about their business when this happens and wait.

I shall pray that you find enough faith and solace in waiting patiently in this my sister and that your dominant isnt neglecting you on purpose or anything.

I do know that dwelling on it only makes it worse.

[asiangirl]

Is this a common behavior from his part or is this a one time incident? Have you and your Master had a clear communication on establishing what to expect when you are apart from each other? If this said incident is completely out of character of him, I would say that you have every reason to be worried. Given the pervasiveness of technologies nowadays, one should be able to find some way to communicate except under very specific circumstance. If this is a common behavior, then I would suggest you bring your concerns up to your Master and hopefully the two of you will find a way to address those concerns for future events. D/S relationship or not, respect should always be mutual.

[Ozme52]

I try to pre-warn my girl if I'm going to be incommunicado.

But while everyone "worries" it's unfair to assume the worst or even assume a callous disregard.

I live rurally and lose services all the time. My cell here, even with the red map, is spotty. Plus I can't tell you how many times when on the road I just don't have service. There are family venues where I mute the ring-tone or just turn it off all together. And plenty of times where I can't plug in the recharger so I save my batteries.

Then there is the whole issue of being an independent soul. The "connected-paradigm" has changed. You may be part of the more current generation who feels out-of-sorts being out of touch. But some of the older generations, myself included, couldn't wait for our independence from parental oversight (back before cell phones ;) heheh ) and I find myself still rebelling against requirements to stay in touch. It takes a concentrated effort on my part to "check in".

[asiangirl]

I try to pre-warn my girl if I'm going to be incommunicado.

But while everyone "worries" it's unfair to assume the worst or even assume a callous disregard.

I live rurally and lose services all the time. My cell here, even with the red map, is spotty. Plus I can't tell you how many times when on the road I just don't have service. There are family venues where I mute the ring-tone or just turn it off all together. And plenty of times where I can't plug in the recharger so I save my batteries.

Then there is the whole issue of being an independent soul. The "connected-paradigm" has changed. You may be part of the more current generation who feels out-of-sorts being out of touch. But some of the older generations, myself included, couldn't wait for our independence from parental oversight (back before cell phones ;) heheh ) and I find myself still rebelling against requirements to stay in touch. It takes a concentrated effort on my part to "check in".

Point well taken. Like most things in life, what it always comes down to is managing our own expectations.