13'sbadkitty
01-29-2010, 09:18 AM
i am not sure where to post this so i am sorry if this is the wrong spot. i just feel compelled to let the community know me better and get some feedback if anyone has it as it may or may not relate. i usually form questions better after some discussion anyways.
i am a 44 year old single mother of 3 who until my Master lived a vanilla, though quite crazy life. i had little to no knowledge of bdsm except when i was 20 there was a woman who when drunk would complain of how she lost respect for her subs after a while. i have been in many an abusive relationship though and have never been safe or comfortable in my life with anyone.
i met my Master about 7 or so years ago in a vanilla way and W/we dated for a brief while and when i asked He showed me His toybox and lightly demonstrated to me some things He had. i did not stay with Him at that time and playing was not a part of O/our relationship at that time.
i was almost completely ignorant of this life and only having had that brief introduction to it didn't have any exposure to it at all. i fantasized about rough sex and bondage but imagined it was better to remain a fantasy.
When my daughter who is bisexual and i marched in the NYC pride parade 2 years ago, it was the first time i heard words like polyamorous, saw men wearing leather thongs and boots (my 3 yr old said mommy, those guys underwear is up their butt :D ) We marched behind them and in front of the sex workers.
When my Master and i reconnected and started dating i asked for Him to play with me and He obliged of course. i was so naive to so much. i had never heard of using clothes pins on anything but clothes, never had wax dripped on me or experienced flame play. i had no idea that i would love breathplay. i was willing to try almost anything He showed me on those limit things, although i was freaked by some of things i love today.
He moved in here with me last September and as October rolled around i requested to be "collared" all the time as i feel safe and calm when He is Master rather than just my boyfriend. i had surgery in November and he wanted the collar off for a while because He wasn't sure i would respect my bodies limits if collared. i was uneasy and after a strong commitment from me, He and i began living in this fashion. W/we began with the idea that when kids where here or W/we were out that it was going to be that W/we would be vanilla. Somehow W/we have moved to the TPE thing as it seems right for us now.
W/we are learning how to live like this with kids in the house. i searched and searched and found a word for Master that i could use and the kids would never figure it out.
i am learning how to submit while being an authority for kids at the same time. i am learning how to joke and play with Him in a way that doesn't end up being disrespectful to Him as my Master. All the fine line stuff is being ironed out as W/we move through this.
i am pleased to say that i have gained a new respect for His collar that i wear and that He allows me to submit to Him. i have removed my "no, sorry not doing that" from my vocabulary as i have gained enough trust in Him to know He would never do anything to truly damage me. i would like to thank this community because it has been so helpful to me to have a place that i don't feel like a crazy person. It has been here that i was able to work on accepting that i like some things that society has deemed wrong. i want to thank everyone who has helped U/us grow in this way as W/we are so much happier this way.
i am a 44 year old single mother of 3 who until my Master lived a vanilla, though quite crazy life. i had little to no knowledge of bdsm except when i was 20 there was a woman who when drunk would complain of how she lost respect for her subs after a while. i have been in many an abusive relationship though and have never been safe or comfortable in my life with anyone.
i met my Master about 7 or so years ago in a vanilla way and W/we dated for a brief while and when i asked He showed me His toybox and lightly demonstrated to me some things He had. i did not stay with Him at that time and playing was not a part of O/our relationship at that time.
i was almost completely ignorant of this life and only having had that brief introduction to it didn't have any exposure to it at all. i fantasized about rough sex and bondage but imagined it was better to remain a fantasy.
When my daughter who is bisexual and i marched in the NYC pride parade 2 years ago, it was the first time i heard words like polyamorous, saw men wearing leather thongs and boots (my 3 yr old said mommy, those guys underwear is up their butt :D ) We marched behind them and in front of the sex workers.
When my Master and i reconnected and started dating i asked for Him to play with me and He obliged of course. i was so naive to so much. i had never heard of using clothes pins on anything but clothes, never had wax dripped on me or experienced flame play. i had no idea that i would love breathplay. i was willing to try almost anything He showed me on those limit things, although i was freaked by some of things i love today.
He moved in here with me last September and as October rolled around i requested to be "collared" all the time as i feel safe and calm when He is Master rather than just my boyfriend. i had surgery in November and he wanted the collar off for a while because He wasn't sure i would respect my bodies limits if collared. i was uneasy and after a strong commitment from me, He and i began living in this fashion. W/we began with the idea that when kids where here or W/we were out that it was going to be that W/we would be vanilla. Somehow W/we have moved to the TPE thing as it seems right for us now.
W/we are learning how to live like this with kids in the house. i searched and searched and found a word for Master that i could use and the kids would never figure it out.
i am learning how to submit while being an authority for kids at the same time. i am learning how to joke and play with Him in a way that doesn't end up being disrespectful to Him as my Master. All the fine line stuff is being ironed out as W/we move through this.
i am pleased to say that i have gained a new respect for His collar that i wear and that He allows me to submit to Him. i have removed my "no, sorry not doing that" from my vocabulary as i have gained enough trust in Him to know He would never do anything to truly damage me. i would like to thank this community because it has been so helpful to me to have a place that i don't feel like a crazy person. It has been here that i was able to work on accepting that i like some things that society has deemed wrong. i want to thank everyone who has helped U/us grow in this way as W/we are so much happier this way.