Leaving Marks

[Zen_]

I've owned my girl for some time and although I have been rough with her in the past, I am interested in trying to leave marks after a particularly rough session. I'd like to bruise her around the thighs and hips, etc, but don't want any breaking of the skin or cause any serious damage. We both find the idea of her being marked highly erotic and are eager to try, but her safety comes first. My questions are:

What are the best tools for this?

What are some of the best actions to take?

What kinds of marks do other doms enjoy leaving? Where? How do they go about it?

Are there any dangers we should be aware of?

Thanks in advance,

Zen

[Guera]

start off slow and take your time, when her skin is really warmed up and red, it will mark without as much force (as much impact to underlying tissues). The only dangers I would know enough to warn about, are one: don't do anything that might cut off her circulation/ cause numbness, like have her hold a very specific position for a long time, that can cause deeper damage than just bruising and two: make sure she is not going to ignore her own internal "comfort meter" just to please you. If you have never played rough enough to leave marks in the past, she may be the type who doesn't mark easily and the level of roughness you are both wanting, could actually be unsafe. Probably not, but just make sure she knows she can stop any time, if she needs to.

[MDamon]

Guera has offered excellent advice. It would be much easier to offer advice if you had provided more information on what you have tried in the past. I'd suggest slow incremental steps and remember that you don't need to strike harder to leave longer lasting marks. As an example, if you have beaten her ass with a paddle, try using a narrower implement, such as a long ruler. Striking with the same force, but on a narrower surface area will leave a longer lastimg bruise.

[Miner]

Just be aware that once you start leaving bruises, you will need to let the bruises heal completely before playing rough again. Repeated bruises on bruises cause sub-surface issues, including deadening of the nerves and thickening of the muscle tissue (they will feel like knots and bumps under the skin, and may become permanent).

Both of these effects (knots, and especially the deadened nerves) can lead to other, long term issues.

On the whole bruising might make you both feel special, but they do have health implications. Personally, I don't like marking my girl at all. A nice glow in the dark ass, that tingles for a day, and not a bruise in sight is much more satisfying for me - especially since I can do that day after day and not have to worry that I'm causing deep, long-term damage to her.

[AnticipatingPain]

From a submissive's point of view....... I love marks.

I like to look at them, touch them, hours, days after the scene.

I find my breasts mark easily and a cane leaves a lovely stripe across my arse.

[MaxxPayne]

damn! this thread is seriously corrupting me. Never thought I would want to see marks on a sub. But after going through this thread I am seriously considering it. Marks keep reminding the sub about the ordeal every time she looks at it or when she sees you looking at the marks on her.

[Guera]

you have no idea how hot it is to have someone look at you and tell you that it hurts to sit down, and just have that look of rapture on their face....

[singletaillover]

I love to feel marks like welts after a good session with a couple of single tails from my Master and a stinging sensation after the session. I am not saying to use a single tail as it takes years of practice to get the technique right, try using a flogger that leaves bruises and never hardly cuts the skin

[WifeMomSlave]

Mmmmmm.........love marks! I agree with the above statements, looking at them touching them, feeling the soreness.....all very good things for me.

As for how to get them, for me the crop and rope flogger work best...but I bruise easily :)

[leo9]

My late wife loved to see marks the day after, the only reason she minded being fat was that she was too well padded to bruise easily.

I love to see where I've been, my favourite toys all leave pretty red stripes, but I'd rather not leave long term bruises and welts: as Miner says, it limits what you can do the next day.

Before I had any hands-on experience of beatings, I realised that the line in "Story of O," where her Doms agree that they should keep her whip-marked all the time, was fantasy: in a month or two her back would be like leather, and where's the fun in that?

[Guera]

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sorry I hope that link works, carry on

[Jennifer Williams]

The easiest kind of mark is also a vanilla one- have you tried hickeys? You can leave nice, red or even purple that lasts for days and days, my sweetie loves them, reminds him I was there all day and night in case he misses me. Suck really hard for a really long time and it's completely safe.

[sweet_p]

Bite marks are lovely to look at days later and they last a long time.

[Snark]

Remember! Lots of water. Hydration speeds healing and helps the system remove dead cells, i.e. blood cells:bruises.

[katydidnt1]

As a sub I love love love marking. I agree with the others. I love the bite/sucking marks on my chest, neck, collar bone, inside thigh, groin, stomach. I like to look at them and touch them the next day or so and watch them fade in anticipation of another session with my master.

[IRON Master]

A YARD STICK - with sharp HEART (or other shape) Near the end makes an excellant OWNERS permanent mark! Practice days before striking the desire spot (I prefer the MONS VENUS) with the solid yard stick end! When ready strike the place very smartly so as to cause a blister. After the blister has puffed and there is clear pus visible - Lance with a steralized needle, Dab with cottonballed alcohol or other astringent! When healed the MARK will be there permantly!

[Diversified]

I am new to being a sub and I thought that I wouldn't want my mater to leave marks on me ... but in reading this thread I think I would like the idea of being able to see what had happened and have that constant reminder of him.

[IRON Master]

Dorry for the delayed reply - My lil ones have somehow appreciated being marked!

[scarlet_85]

The marks left behind on me are bite marks. The neck is our favorite spot. My Master refers to it as a "golden red" and the color usually sticks around for a couple days. Not to mention the sore, tingling feeling left behind is a constant reminder of Him. I love it. I feel bruising is a nice way to leave a reminder, however I agree that its something that needs to heal fully before spanking, biting, or caning happens again in that area.

Marks add to the feeling of being Owned for me. His ownership over me is my biggest turn on and so anything that adds to it is well worth it for me. :)

[Master_Nova]

Greetings, diversified, No True Master would ever harm his Preporty in any way, but I assure you , mypast subs/slaves have enjoyedcertain "marks' . A Real Master would make sure he did not do anything his charge did not want him to do.god luck in ytouryore bdsm search