spicennice
02-26-2010, 05:13 AM
....or am I looking at a different set of dynamics. My apologies, my questions might be pretty basic for you. I apologize if that is the case but am struggling with this one.
I have been introduced to bdsm recently and know that I have always found a leaning towards it. I have researched a ton on this lifestyle and learned a ton. I like what I see in most ways. The theory seems sound, but I see the execution to be a wild card as we are all human and all make mistakes that could be devastating to one or the other parties involved. Sorry, back to the question.
I am not into humiliation, sadism, masochism, but crave instead a safe, loving relationship where I can give my all to my SO - to please without the fear that 'giving' is being abused. I am stupid self regulating (extreme 'good girl' cubed) because, I think, I am so incredibly intimidated by even just a harsh look. Bearing that in mind, I am completely unable to processes any type of harshness or demanding behaviour.
Is it too soon for me to be here? May I ask your opinions please?
I have been introduced to bdsm recently and know that I have always found a leaning towards it. I have researched a ton on this lifestyle and learned a ton. I like what I see in most ways. The theory seems sound, but I see the execution to be a wild card as we are all human and all make mistakes that could be devastating to one or the other parties involved. Sorry, back to the question.
I am not into humiliation, sadism, masochism, but crave instead a safe, loving relationship where I can give my all to my SO - to please without the fear that 'giving' is being abused. I am stupid self regulating (extreme 'good girl' cubed) because, I think, I am so incredibly intimidated by even just a harsh look. Bearing that in mind, I am completely unable to processes any type of harshness or demanding behaviour.
Is it too soon for me to be here? May I ask your opinions please?