ropekitty
06-13-2010, 03:02 PM
Hello everyone,
This is my first post in this area, I hope that I am doing this correctly. It says My bdsm life. I’m thinking that is talking about how bdsm and my life work together. How I feel on topics. I finds that I am rather stubborn in my view points but my view points are ever changing and evolving. I like to learn and grow. Right now I’m in the process of a focused growing set. I’ll talk about that more later when I am further along in the process, it’s hard enough going through it let alone attempting to share it with others.
What I have to say pertains to my life and most of the time it won’t fit in with everyone and their lifestyles. I don’t want people to think I am some profession top whatever. That I think I know it all, most of the things that I talk about are things I want to get feed back on so I can help shape my opinion about it. Other things I’ve thought about for hours, talked and debated about with my friends and people who weren’t my friends.
I’d enjoy talking about a subject that is near and dear to my heart. At the same time some of the things I have to say about this subject are rather “harsh” and have upset people. This is just how I see it, I am open to change my mind someday, but this is how I see it at this moment. SSC, RACK, Edge play, and Rope.
When I first started out in the lifestyle, I had many friends and partners that would basically chant SSC at me/with me. I went along with that thinking that I must do things that are SSC and still kinky. I never really thought about what that meant to me. What those words and ideas mean. I also didn’t take the time to look at what I was doing. By that I don’t mean I did things with out thinking, I did things and labeled them something that wasn’t really the correct label.
Some of us talk about labels, love or hate them, they are out there. They are out there for different reasons. I believe in this case, the label SSC is there to make ourselves feel better, accepted, or another reason not listed by myself. Chanting SSC does not make something or some one safe, sane, or consensual. Edge play can never be SSC. It’s edge play. Do Y/you consider rope edge play? Hanging someone up from cords attached to a metal ring. I’ve listened to a few riggers out there in my passing through classes, events, and social outings. I’ve come to understand the idea that rope IS edge play. That is my opinion. That is what opinion I am writing this from.
It makes me feel odd to an extent because I know that still goes on today, Doms and subs out there chanting away to newbies SSC. I don’t find that fair to an extent. It's like schools only teaching: “Oh don’t have sex if you don’t want babies.” The idea that one way is right and that telling teenagers to not have sex will keep them from doing it. Giving out these long list of rules or guidelines also makes little sense for me at this point. I do have to say those rules and guidelines are very helpful to newbies who can handle them and if they don’t sent the person’s head spinning.
When I say makes little sense to me at this point I mean that I’ve come to learn enough about my kink and what I do that I will not be taking someone’s list of basics to heart and I tend to go as far as thinking that when someone writes or approaches me with the words: “One should never” or “one should always,” I tend to disagree with them. I read someone wrote in a general statement about bondage that when one is tying a person the person should be able to hold their own body weight up, never allow a tie to hold the person’s body weight. That leaves all suspensions out, that leaves all partial suspensions out. The statement/rule that person came up with was for a huge chunk of bondage false.
This ends part one of my thought process. I know I can go on for hours on these topics, so I’m going to stop here and post the rest later on. Have a lovely evening everyone.
~RK~
This is my first post in this area, I hope that I am doing this correctly. It says My bdsm life. I’m thinking that is talking about how bdsm and my life work together. How I feel on topics. I finds that I am rather stubborn in my view points but my view points are ever changing and evolving. I like to learn and grow. Right now I’m in the process of a focused growing set. I’ll talk about that more later when I am further along in the process, it’s hard enough going through it let alone attempting to share it with others.
What I have to say pertains to my life and most of the time it won’t fit in with everyone and their lifestyles. I don’t want people to think I am some profession top whatever. That I think I know it all, most of the things that I talk about are things I want to get feed back on so I can help shape my opinion about it. Other things I’ve thought about for hours, talked and debated about with my friends and people who weren’t my friends.
I’d enjoy talking about a subject that is near and dear to my heart. At the same time some of the things I have to say about this subject are rather “harsh” and have upset people. This is just how I see it, I am open to change my mind someday, but this is how I see it at this moment. SSC, RACK, Edge play, and Rope.
When I first started out in the lifestyle, I had many friends and partners that would basically chant SSC at me/with me. I went along with that thinking that I must do things that are SSC and still kinky. I never really thought about what that meant to me. What those words and ideas mean. I also didn’t take the time to look at what I was doing. By that I don’t mean I did things with out thinking, I did things and labeled them something that wasn’t really the correct label.
Some of us talk about labels, love or hate them, they are out there. They are out there for different reasons. I believe in this case, the label SSC is there to make ourselves feel better, accepted, or another reason not listed by myself. Chanting SSC does not make something or some one safe, sane, or consensual. Edge play can never be SSC. It’s edge play. Do Y/you consider rope edge play? Hanging someone up from cords attached to a metal ring. I’ve listened to a few riggers out there in my passing through classes, events, and social outings. I’ve come to understand the idea that rope IS edge play. That is my opinion. That is what opinion I am writing this from.
It makes me feel odd to an extent because I know that still goes on today, Doms and subs out there chanting away to newbies SSC. I don’t find that fair to an extent. It's like schools only teaching: “Oh don’t have sex if you don’t want babies.” The idea that one way is right and that telling teenagers to not have sex will keep them from doing it. Giving out these long list of rules or guidelines also makes little sense for me at this point. I do have to say those rules and guidelines are very helpful to newbies who can handle them and if they don’t sent the person’s head spinning.
When I say makes little sense to me at this point I mean that I’ve come to learn enough about my kink and what I do that I will not be taking someone’s list of basics to heart and I tend to go as far as thinking that when someone writes or approaches me with the words: “One should never” or “one should always,” I tend to disagree with them. I read someone wrote in a general statement about bondage that when one is tying a person the person should be able to hold their own body weight up, never allow a tie to hold the person’s body weight. That leaves all suspensions out, that leaves all partial suspensions out. The statement/rule that person came up with was for a huge chunk of bondage false.
This ends part one of my thought process. I know I can go on for hours on these topics, so I’m going to stop here and post the rest later on. Have a lovely evening everyone.
~RK~