Any realistic sites out there

[walkingdude225]

To whom ever reads this,

Thank you for your time and forgive me if i sound odd in saying this; however, it dose kinda bothers me. I am intresting in bdsm (as some of have on i have played around with this site for a while now). Yet, i have been hard press to find site other then this one that dose parttake in the most extreme parts of this cluture. In short, are their any pron sites that newbies can ease into. I know this sounds sad and weak on my part. Yet, i just dont feel right about some of the other sites that are out there and there extreme nature.

thank you for your time

[skittish doe]

I don’t know about other sites to recommend, but I just felt compelled to say that you should not do anything you do not wish to do. No one has the right to push you past where you want to be. There is nothing wrong with not enjoying the more extreme parts of this lifestyle. In fact, learning about yourself and knowing your own limits is all good.

I do think there are a lot of folks who are into the more mild aspects of BDSM. Perhaps they do not call attention to themselves, and so are not as easily spotted. There is nothing wrong with being extreme, and neither is there anything wrong with enjoying something mild. You are not weak and your post did not make me think you are sad. I thought you brave to post your thoughts. Good luck to you in your journey, and I hope you find it fun along the way.

[_ID_]

Are you asking about Porn, or activities?

This one is good, Fetlife is good, and mydugneonspace is good. The last seems to be having an inactivity problem though.

[walkingdude225]

I don’t know about other sites to recommend, but I just felt compelled to say that you should not do anything you do not wish to do. No one has the right to push you past where you want to be. There is nothing wrong with not enjoying the more extreme parts of this lifestyle. In fact, learning about yourself and knowing your own limits is all good.

I do think there are a lot of folks who are into the more mild aspects of BDSM. Perhaps they do not call attention to themselves, and so are not as easily spotted. There is nothing wrong with being extreme, and neither is there anything wrong with enjoying something mild. You are not weak and your post did not make me think you are sad. I thought you brave to post your thoughts. Good luck to you in your journey, and I hope you find it fun along the way.

thank for your kind words and i will keep that in mind for now.


This one is good, Fetlife is good, and mydugneonspace is good. The last seems to be having an inactivity problem though.

and thank for your post aswell i will keep those sites in mind

[fetishdj]

Unfortunately, porn tends to cater to the extreme ends and a lot of it is fantasy based. I suspect what you want is a site where real people discuss their lives in kink? In that case, I think this one is the best I have found. Others (like fetlfe) are great as well, though seem more geared to a wider (and so less discerning) audience and heavily personal ad based.

There are some milder porn sites out there, though. I suggest you look for 'bedroom bondage' which is a site I know was out there a few years ago (no idea if it is stil active). This site was mainly M/f and mostly involved photos of models either fully clothed or in lingerie tied up with rope and using cloth gags. Not much extremity there and was mainly good for looking at tying methods.

[walkingdude225]

thanks fetishdj and you are right.I would like to see a site where real people talk about their kink as you put it. I will look into bedroom bondage and see what i find

-thanks agian

[skittish doe]

^ It sounds like an excellent topic to raise in the chatroom here, IMHO.

[Losalt]

Aye, if you can spare the time you might want to click on the button labeled "chat" near the top of this page :-)
There's some rather nice people in there and together with this forum that might help you out a bit.
I just joined fetlife (fetlife.com/) myself so I've yet to familiarize myself with the site, but the first impression is good.

[Zarine13]

As IDC said fetlife is good... If you can find a good active group you'll find what you are looking for as far as people talking about their kink. There are plenty of groups for those who are new.. and groups newbies can ask those more experienced questions as well.

[Silouette]

I agree with the suggestions above. Being new to all of this myself, I was suggested to go to fetlife. Besides being here, I am very greatfull for the suggestion as it has become easier to find people locally who are interested in the same things your/I are.

Hugs and gl.

[mistik]

I'm glad this post came up. I'd never heard of Fetlife before & am excited to check it out. I also wanted to add that my Master & I recently began a blog where we write about our own personal BDSM journey together. It's an external privately hosted site however & not a blog through here (too much risk of loosing everything) but you can find the link to it by checking out my blog on here and then just follow the link to our external one (I don't want to post the link directly here because I'm not sure what the rules are but I was told by an admin that it was ok for me to post the link within a blog post on here). Anyways, O/our blog is not a discussion forum style like here however so if that's what your looking for then you're probably happiest just doing what your doing but your welcome to come visit & see if it's something you're interested in or not. Regardless I do hope you find what it is you're looking for & think you've already been given some great suggestions within the previous replies.