Eraser
12-01-2004, 04:06 AM
A short post, I've got the end of year work blues (budgets, taxes, etc) so I have not been around much. But resently I had a conversation with a friend about varing degree's of people involved in BDSM. During my explanation I came up with an anology that I felt would be nice to share.
In reading many topics on the board and many first timer comments, I hear alot of people saying how they are not as extreme as another person. Then I also hear the chest beaters out there talking about "True" this and "Real" that. One thing about this lifestyle is it has its foundations and its methods to varying degree's which some people think is incomprehenceable and only this way or that way is the "right" or "best" way.
In our society we have another group of lifestyle people we may be able to draw a simularity to. vegetarians. There are 3 primary types of vegetarians.
1> Light Vegetarians: eat no red meat
2> Vegetarian: eats NO meat products
3> Vegan: its no animal or animal byproduct
As you can see a significantly varing degree. With D\s you could lump us into one of three catagories.
1> kinksters/fethishest: revolve around a paticular kink or fetish activity.
2> Player (don't take it wrong I'm making these up as I go): Someone that whole heartedly engages in a BDSM activity with a partner usually at intervals.
3> Lifestyle: BDSM effects every portion of their life.
Between the two (Veg vs BDSM) I see a simularity. No paticular way is anymore right or wrong then the other. It is merely personal prefrance as to the degree, but is no less real then the other. I do not like the labels I thought up as I Do not feel they totally apply as I know many weekend/cyber players that call themselves lifestyle or old guard. But I also see the condemnation in both directions. I see little point in it, each person has there own version of the lifestyle and though there is an average of acceptability in each group no one group is no more "real" or "true" then the other.
and the spellchek isn't working :help:
In reading many topics on the board and many first timer comments, I hear alot of people saying how they are not as extreme as another person. Then I also hear the chest beaters out there talking about "True" this and "Real" that. One thing about this lifestyle is it has its foundations and its methods to varying degree's which some people think is incomprehenceable and only this way or that way is the "right" or "best" way.
In our society we have another group of lifestyle people we may be able to draw a simularity to. vegetarians. There are 3 primary types of vegetarians.
1> Light Vegetarians: eat no red meat
2> Vegetarian: eats NO meat products
3> Vegan: its no animal or animal byproduct
As you can see a significantly varing degree. With D\s you could lump us into one of three catagories.
1> kinksters/fethishest: revolve around a paticular kink or fetish activity.
2> Player (don't take it wrong I'm making these up as I go): Someone that whole heartedly engages in a BDSM activity with a partner usually at intervals.
3> Lifestyle: BDSM effects every portion of their life.
Between the two (Veg vs BDSM) I see a simularity. No paticular way is anymore right or wrong then the other. It is merely personal prefrance as to the degree, but is no less real then the other. I do not like the labels I thought up as I Do not feel they totally apply as I know many weekend/cyber players that call themselves lifestyle or old guard. But I also see the condemnation in both directions. I see little point in it, each person has there own version of the lifestyle and though there is an average of acceptability in each group no one group is no more "real" or "true" then the other.
and the spellchek isn't working :help: