an introduction--searching for things fondly remembered

[softsmiles]

hello. my search for a good site where i could reconnect to my submissive past brought me to BDSM LIBRARY. my first visit was comfortable and fun. although i have "some" experience as a submissive on line and in real life, it was quite awhile ago. i am hoping to study and make new, like minded friends here. anyone have any advice on the best way to reconnect to the lifestyle after a considerable absence?

[karley]

Hi and welcome! Don't really have any advice I can give you about coming back after a long absence. But I hope you enjoy your time here and find what you're looking for! :)

[Liushka]

Welcome! I hope that you will enjoy the place. :)

[chipmunk_]

Hello, s.s.

Welcome to the Library! It seems to me that you've made a good first step towards reconnection by signing up here. This is a great place to gather some information and to meet some great people. I hope you enjoy your time here!

[denuseri]

Welcome to our kinky little corner of the internet!

[rosebud]

Hello and Welcome to the Library!

[softsmiles]

thank you all for the kind welcome....
i am excited about getting reacquainted with this side of myself
and getting to know all of you.

[softsmiles]

one thing i hope to do is rediscover my fetishes and desires.
is there a list here at the library to help me ... a have you done this;
do you like that; would you try the other sort of thing?

i have been reading profiles and so often i find myself saying, yes,
that's how i feel or that's what i like, but i have not been able to put in
my own words just yet. this quote especially spoke to me..."I am fascinated by the spell-like qualities of BDSM, the psychology, the addiction, the circle of power, etc. I did not go looking for this, but once it found me, it opened up a door inside of me that most likely had been there all along...I just didn't have words for it." obviously i still don't have my own words for my desires as yet but i think i am in the right place and among the right company to find them.

thank you for your input,
soft


(i hope the Person i quoted does not mind that i borrowed His words)

[karley]

I'm not sure if there is a list on here, however here's a site with a BDSM checklist. Hope this helps! :)

http://www.slave-kas.com/interests.html

[denuseri]

Here is a link to the thread right here in the library itself where we did a lot of checklisting:

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php/9385-Hard-limit-questionaire-for-both-Doms-and-subs-to-help-them-find-long-term-partners