captainawesome
06-05-2011, 05:26 PM
I am a 23 year old male living in New York looking for a female sub. I'm a fan of honesty, and do my best not to bullshit people. So, I should tell you that I am not intentionally looking for something serious; However, I am not opposed to the idea of something more serious developing if we have a genuine connection. If you are the type of sub that is looking to learn, or just experience some interesting things (I love being creative with what I do), then read on.
My bdsm interests include orgasm control, sensory deprivation, humiliation, spanking, restraint, and electro amongst other things. Whether or not you hit any or all of those items on the list is not particularly a deal breaker. I have a wide range of interests, and my primary pleasure is getting into my sub's head. I'm a big fan of psychology, and love keeping whomever I play with constantly looking forward to what will happen next - be it with a sense fear, or with joy. Keeping them in a constant state of sexual arousal is something else I love doing. Many subs I meet confuse dominance with being a jerk, which is not something you will find with me. In other words, just because I'm the type of guy that holds the door open for a lady, do not think I will hesitate to tear her clothes off without warning the second the door is closed; I can be as cruel as I can be kind. If you are looking for a "douchebag wannabe dom", you're reading the wrong post.
I'm a fairly well rounded person outside of bdsm as well. I read a book nearly everyday across a wide range of subjects, workout daily and keep in shape, love playing the guitar, and have my moments of hilarity (I think). Career wise, I am a senior engineer and do volunteer work as time permits. Despite the analytical nature of what I do, I try to maintain a balance between being analytical and creative; Existing only in one extreme is a dangerous thing. My schedule can be volatile at times which may affect the frequency of our time together.
As for what I am looking for in a sub: My first requirement is a woman that holds herself to a standard. You should be the kind of person that expects a lot from yourself, and is not afraid of challenging yourself to be better - not solely for the sake of how others see you, but for how you see yourself. I believe that personality trait has repercussions throughout character as a whole, and leads to many other personality traits that I find desirable. One of those repercussions is a woman with some feistiness to her. Subservience is nice, but I also enjoy feistiness both in and out of the bedroom. Also, I would like someone that I can actually have a conversation with. Chemistry is important to me, and conversation is important to that. If I had to sum up my ideal girl, it would be an old soul with a young heart and a timeless mind.
I think it's slightly absurd to just meet up with someone online without first spending some time getting to know each other. Actually, if you are reading this - especially if you are a sub - and you are okay with doing that, I highly suggest you reconsider your concept of safety. Online play as we get to know each other is ideal. Being open to exchanging pictures or a cam is preferable, but not necessary. I am fortunate enough to have a career that permits me to travel to where I want, when I want (to a certain degree), so location is not a major issue if we progress that far.
I am always up for meeting new people, so even if you think we might just hit it off as friends but not something more, I'm still okay with talking with you. Either way, send me a PM if you want to talk more; Just make sure to tell me a bit about yourself.
Last but not least, my name is not a self-reference - it is a tv show character. I am not referring to myself as the captain of awesome despite having my moments of awesomeness.
My bdsm interests include orgasm control, sensory deprivation, humiliation, spanking, restraint, and electro amongst other things. Whether or not you hit any or all of those items on the list is not particularly a deal breaker. I have a wide range of interests, and my primary pleasure is getting into my sub's head. I'm a big fan of psychology, and love keeping whomever I play with constantly looking forward to what will happen next - be it with a sense fear, or with joy. Keeping them in a constant state of sexual arousal is something else I love doing. Many subs I meet confuse dominance with being a jerk, which is not something you will find with me. In other words, just because I'm the type of guy that holds the door open for a lady, do not think I will hesitate to tear her clothes off without warning the second the door is closed; I can be as cruel as I can be kind. If you are looking for a "douchebag wannabe dom", you're reading the wrong post.
I'm a fairly well rounded person outside of bdsm as well. I read a book nearly everyday across a wide range of subjects, workout daily and keep in shape, love playing the guitar, and have my moments of hilarity (I think). Career wise, I am a senior engineer and do volunteer work as time permits. Despite the analytical nature of what I do, I try to maintain a balance between being analytical and creative; Existing only in one extreme is a dangerous thing. My schedule can be volatile at times which may affect the frequency of our time together.
As for what I am looking for in a sub: My first requirement is a woman that holds herself to a standard. You should be the kind of person that expects a lot from yourself, and is not afraid of challenging yourself to be better - not solely for the sake of how others see you, but for how you see yourself. I believe that personality trait has repercussions throughout character as a whole, and leads to many other personality traits that I find desirable. One of those repercussions is a woman with some feistiness to her. Subservience is nice, but I also enjoy feistiness both in and out of the bedroom. Also, I would like someone that I can actually have a conversation with. Chemistry is important to me, and conversation is important to that. If I had to sum up my ideal girl, it would be an old soul with a young heart and a timeless mind.
I think it's slightly absurd to just meet up with someone online without first spending some time getting to know each other. Actually, if you are reading this - especially if you are a sub - and you are okay with doing that, I highly suggest you reconsider your concept of safety. Online play as we get to know each other is ideal. Being open to exchanging pictures or a cam is preferable, but not necessary. I am fortunate enough to have a career that permits me to travel to where I want, when I want (to a certain degree), so location is not a major issue if we progress that far.
I am always up for meeting new people, so even if you think we might just hit it off as friends but not something more, I'm still okay with talking with you. Either way, send me a PM if you want to talk more; Just make sure to tell me a bit about yourself.
Last but not least, my name is not a self-reference - it is a tv show character. I am not referring to myself as the captain of awesome despite having my moments of awesomeness.