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upupandaway
11-06-2011, 12:29 PM
Hi everyone just have a few questions for those with some experience. Im new to the lifestyle and this weekend i went to a local dungeon to meet some like minded people. The first night I played with the dungeon master and it was fun and he showed me all sorts of new thins. The second night I was playing with one guy all night (6hours) and it was fantastic. We are totally into the same sort of things. I had many endorphine rushes and after he was wonderful about holding me aand talking about everything that had happened. OK heres my question... is it normal (mabye because of the endorphins and all) to have really intense feelings for this man? Like thats all i can think about, and i want he and i to be exclusive. I want a relationship with him not just the bdsm stuff. I also want want to incorporate sexual stuff into our play. Im just not sure if this is normal, or even appropriate. Any advise would be appreciated please its kinda fucking me up.

peach
11-06-2011, 06:45 PM
I would say with any new thing, you are having intense feelings because it is brand new and you have not experienced it before. 6 hours is a long time to play for a brand new first time experience. Entirely normal to be smitten with someone who has showed you new and exciting things that are out there.

Maybe you have gotten lucky and found someone you really click with, but need to talk to him about it before you start seeing hearts, flowers and condom packages. He may or may not be interested in an exclusive or sexual relationship. May already be in a relationship or otherwise taken. Talk to him is the best advice i can give but be prepared to not get the answer you are looking for.

upupandaway
11-07-2011, 06:21 AM
Thank you this is all new so my usual logical mind is of no use to me lol