what is a good way to meet a dom

[countryboy88]

i am 23 y/o male sub and i want to know a good way to meet a female dom

[Austerus]

You could try the Personals section here on the Library. If you have time to hang out and socialize (a good idea) you can also try the Chat room.

[denuseri]

Or maybe find a munch, bdsm club, etc in your local area and go there.

[Austerus]

Ahh yes indeed. Denuseri is completely wrong for finding online companionship, and I am completely wrong for finding real time, flesh and blood companionship :)

[denuseri]

I just thought in addition to online he may wish to look locally too. Forgive me if I was in error but He didnt specifiy which venue he prefered did he?

[Austerus]

You were absolutely right, and I felt embarrassed that I hadn't even thought of that. I meant for my response to be funny and to agree with yours, while teasing a little by saying we were both wrong. My apologies that it didn't come through properly.

[vanilla90]

erm, denuseri, how do you find bdsm clubs in ur local area exactly? or what is it you called it 'munch'?

[countryboy88]

i want to meet someone to do bdsm play in person

[vanilla90]

sign up to fetlife.com and then check out 'events near you'. well thats basically what i just did. but im new at this so im probably not the best source

[countryboy88]

sign up to fetlife.com and then check out 'events near you'. well thats basically what i just did. but im new at this so im probably not the best source

how much does it cost

[vanilla90]

its FREE

[countryboy88]

its FREE

thank you i will look at it

[denuseri]

or just use google...type the name of your city followed by the word "munch" or the words "bdsm club" or bdsm fetish ball" or "fettish convention" and poof...everything ever typed up online with those words for your city will pop up, and you didnt even have to join some site like fetlife or collarme etc.

[scarlet_85]

As denuseri said, you can google local organizations. Be sure to add your city and state in the search otherwise you'll end up with a slew of groups from all over. Personally, if you have intentions of having a r/l BDSM relationship, be sure to log in some time with that person prior to any play. I invested 6 months of communication into my Dom before we played. I would highly recommend that to everyone!! I have never participated in an online relationship and can't really give input on that. The people on this site are very respectful and nice. i'm sure you can meet a lot of Dommes here. I wish you the best of luck.

Oh!! And remember... make sure anything and everything you do is safe, sane, and consensual!!! :)