Newbie

[spiritualwolfpup]

I am wondering how submissives who do not have Dommes expand and explore their own submission. I am having trouble with this i guess because i am so new to the community and lifestyle if anyone has any tips or anything i would very much appreciate it.

[Ozme52]

Go to a munch, meet people. Find others to talk to, subs and dominants. Network, eventually meet your match.

Find a mentor, either sub or dominant. Each can help you from different perspectives.

There are books, even a "workbook" for submissives (someone will remember and mention its name now that I've mentioned it.)

There's also a Tasking forum here that you can join.

[harleyman007]

i am very interested what is munch

[Dog's Lady]

A "mundane" meeting of people who are in the scene. As I understand, they meet at a coffeehouse or such, just to talk and meet new people. You do NOT dress up for this-you want to stay under the Muggle radar. I have not been to one yet, combo of time, courage and knowledge issues-but I have heard good things from people who have gone.
Stay with us on the Library-I have learned a lot since I joined, even if I didn't get to practice much of it, yet. Good Luck!

[harleyman007]

thank you i have sent you an email

[denuseri]

One can also find a public access "dungeon" or bdsm club in or near almost every major city in the USA.

PS: Sorry about not finding the workbook Oz....the only thing like it was some questionable online thingy.

[harleyman007]

thank you so much for your concern. i did go on line and found several clubs in NY, i also have read or reading several books on the lifestyle hope to keep in touch with you and other people that are truly into bdsm
thnx

[Ozme52]

It might be The Submissive Activity Book

http://books.google.com/books?id=PROppGUSnvQC&pg=PA1&lpg=PA1&dq=submissive+workbook&source=bl&ots=LAZqKityFw&sig=qA-yMJMwDrLxwywXTU-xhFC2Wds&hl=en&sa=X&ei=aGgPT96vI-a70QG1nM2JAw&ved=0CDQQ6AEwAg#v=onepage&q=submissive%20workbook&f=false

[harleyman007]

once again thnx so much, i love the fact that you guys are concerned and realy into helping people learn thnx again

[Dog's Lady]

Here is one of the best places to learn-or at least to get started. I've been here about a year, and learned a lot.