scotsgirl
01-22-2012, 04:14 PM
Well, now that I've lurked for several days, I'll stand up and say hi to everyone. :)
I am 35 years old and don't have any true real life experience. During the past year I have read quite a bit of fiction that involved characters in a D/s relationship and it made me realize what I was missing in my own. I've attempted to introduce aspects of D/s to my husband in an attempt to save an already failing marriage, but after some awkward moments and quite a bit of soul searching, I've come to the conclusion that he is not capable of being as strong as I need. While I want to retain control over my public life, I don't want to have to be the one that makes the decisions about everything. I want the freedom to give up control about certain aspects of my life without fear that if I do, things will be left undone.
I know it's pretty cliche, but I am not the same person I was when we met 16 years ago, and not just because I'm older! LOL Since deciding to explore this side of my personality, I feel more at peace.
If there are any submissives (female or male) who have gone through a divorce after figuring out that the status quo just doesn't do it for them anymore, I would love to hear about your experience and any advice you are able to give. I am sure I am not the first to have gone through this.
Sorry for the book, but this probably provides the best insight into where I am coming from and where I hope to go.
I am 35 years old and don't have any true real life experience. During the past year I have read quite a bit of fiction that involved characters in a D/s relationship and it made me realize what I was missing in my own. I've attempted to introduce aspects of D/s to my husband in an attempt to save an already failing marriage, but after some awkward moments and quite a bit of soul searching, I've come to the conclusion that he is not capable of being as strong as I need. While I want to retain control over my public life, I don't want to have to be the one that makes the decisions about everything. I want the freedom to give up control about certain aspects of my life without fear that if I do, things will be left undone.
I know it's pretty cliche, but I am not the same person I was when we met 16 years ago, and not just because I'm older! LOL Since deciding to explore this side of my personality, I feel more at peace.
If there are any submissives (female or male) who have gone through a divorce after figuring out that the status quo just doesn't do it for them anymore, I would love to hear about your experience and any advice you are able to give. I am sure I am not the first to have gone through this.
Sorry for the book, but this probably provides the best insight into where I am coming from and where I hope to go.