Men: Orally speaking.

[just_ine]

simply have to ask this...
I was reading an article in which men wrote about not being willing to kiss their partner after oral sex. Especially if she 'had to swallow'. They were adamant that the partner had to wash her teeth first!

At the same time, theses men explained how they expect kissing after giving their female partners oral sex.

So, what is it? Why do some feel it i sexy and ok for women to taste their own juices, but is it such a no-no for men to?

Is it perhaps on par with some Dom's saying they would never treat a sub to oral sex... It is unDomly (whatever that might mean?!), Or that might be a totally different issue?


Any thoughts or insights would be greatly appreciated.

[twitch]

I think a lot of it may simply be social stigma in the male mind. Much like how many men believe male homosexuality is wrong, but those same men will watch Lesbian porn, or the like.

There seems to be a disconnect in their thinking, or the simple for you and not for me mindset.

Personally, I would not expect my partner to do anything that I would not be willing to do as well.



To the issue of some Dom's saying they would never treat a sub to oral sex - I believe that is a different issue, and due to the perception that it would be a power exchange in favor of the sub, and that they, being the dominant, would not wish to change that dynamic.

[slaveboy 6]

I have kissed my partner after giving her head, and she has kissed me after sucking my cock. So we know each other's cum tastes like. It's not a big deal to me.

[just_ine]

To the issue of some Dom's saying they would never treat a sub to oral sex - I believe that is a different issue, and due to the perception that it would be a power exchange in favor of the sub, and that they, being the dominant, would not wish to change that dynamic.

Do you mind explaining this more, please? How does oral sex tip the scales in favor of the sub? Surely control is control...Whether a Dominant uses his fingers, his cock or (gasp)his tongue to drive the sub crazy.

I respect each persons right to do as they believe is best, I'm simply trying to understand better.

[Misschief]

first, i want to express to the Doms/Dommes out there who "would never treat a sub to oral" what a huge mistake You are making.. nothing is more shy-making, nothing lays me open with my bare self in the hands of my significant other than when He is between my legs, doing what pleases Him with my body.. He loves licking me.. and when i cum so hard and thoroughly from this sacred act of thoroughly giving me to Him, the closeness we share is unparalleled.. i have never been so attracted and in love with another person.. i know the way he makes me feel has a lot to do with this ..

but..

ill never forget this, it was so fucking hot.. right at the end of vanilla sex with a partner, we were in missionary position, and he pulled off his condom, jerked off on my stomach and breasts, ran his tongue from my mons pubis to my sternum (licking up some of his cum in one swath) and then kissed me deeply.. so, so fucking sexy..

i always make more of a big deal about brushing after He cums in my mouth out of respect for Him, given the generic male perspective on tasting their own cum.. plus, when He does do it, it is always at the back of my throat and it goes straight down without even touching my tongue.. doubt any actual cum would traverse my lips..

[TheDeSade]

I think that many who set themselves up as Dominants really have no idea what it means to take the responsibility for another persons happiness, well-being and safety. I think for many of these it is a personal and psychological power trip. They want to be dominant (little d intended). They want to be in charge. They want to enjoy the position of power and the supplication of a submissive. What they don't understand is that a true Dominant personality is so self assured and so self aware that they never even give a second thought to the idea that they might not be in control all of the time.

Refusing to perform any act, be it sexual or otherwise, that they construe to be "giving power up to the sub" is, for me, a sure indication that the person in question does not understand Domination, does not have the correct emotional and psychological strength to be a Dominant, and, in some cases, may be running from submissive or switch tendencies that scares the living daylights out of them.

Again, I am no psychologist nor am I an expert. This is more opinion than anything else. And opinions are a lot like arm pits. Everyone has a couple and most of them stink.

TDS