The joys of anal

[scandalous pleasure]

Yes, it seemed kind of slow on here so I'm posting some new threads. ..

I don't know why, but I feel compelled to state for the record that I LOVE GETTING FUCKED IN THE ASS.

It is becoming my absolute favorite thing in the world. . .(well, after hugging my children. . .)

It makes me feel full. It makes me feel dominated, opened up, overpowered and more truly submissive than anything else. It makes me so aware of my body. Strangely enough, it makes me feel beautiful and feminine.

And,yes, I love that it always always begins for me with a little bit of fear and some measure of discomfort--I have to completely relax completely trust completely submit to overcome that discomfort.

I love that all the men (just three) who have fucked me in the ass have loved it so much. I always ask why and I love the answers they have given me: "because it is so tight." "because it is so naughty and dirty and forbidden." " because I love your ass." and once, even, "because it hurts you a little and you are willing to feel plain for my pleasure." (see my "I love sadism" thread).

But I'm torn: one of the things I've loved about being sodomized is thinking of myself as unusual, out-there, adventurous for being a woman who asks for this (the other night I nearly begged) regularly. Will the fun of it fade as it goes mainstream? Or will there just be a lot more happy and fulfilled people walking around?

And has anyone read Toni Bentley's Surrender? Should I? Is there something in there I don't already know--because I already believe that if there is a god, taking it up the ass does bring you closer to him.

[allalone46]

Finding a slave is hard one willing to be fucked up the ass is harded. As for why I love fucking a slave up the ass it is the smae for the pussy and mouth. Oh on the mouth I am not talking about her giving me head but fucking her in the mouth. It is pleasher.

[MMark]

I would say my interest in anal is at least partly fueled by it's taboo status. It's similar to the fascination with oral sex. They were a big turn-on until they started to become more of a regular foreplay, though I guess whether swallowing has lost it's taboo is debatable. If it got to a point where one could walk down a high school hallway and hear common talks of anal sex acts, then I think I"d have to move on to something further out of the mainstream. (Maybe that SM stuff you mentioned?) Just a psychological issue that I can't be the same as the rest. Another part of it, maybe stemming from the taboo idea, is the amount of trust and giving up of control that it involves.

[scandalous pleasure]

Finding a slave is hard one willing to be fucked up the ass is harded. As for why I love fucking a slave up the ass it is the smae for the pussy and mouth. Oh on the mouth I am not talking about her giving me head but fucking her in the mouth. It is pleasher.

Hmmmnn. . .interesting distinction you make between "her giving me head" and "fucking her in the mouth," AllAlone.

I, too, think there is a big difference. . .I've never really loved giving blow jobs--I used to spend all my time worrying about him coming in my mouth and it also makes my jaw sore. (I still do it for him, though.)

But we've changed things a bit--sometimes, anyway--I lie back with my head over the edge of the bed, he fucks me in the mouth, he's now free to come there --begged to come there, actually, and I love receiving it and swallowing it--the whole thing has become much more pleasurable for me.

Giving blow jobs is so. . .ordinary, and it's hard work. But getting fucked in the mouth--now that's submissive slut pleasure!

Glad to hear there are dom men out there who enjoy fucking their sub's mouths as much or more than receiving blow jobs.

How important is it to you that she swallows?

--SP

[allalone46]

Well thee is a difference. Hveing a woman giving me head is one thing but a slave shood be fucked in her mouth. Sex for her is to please her Master. In this she acheves her pleasure. Not in pleasing her self instead of her Master. Oh she has to swallow all her Masters cum. And if there are two or more slaves they have to eat there Maasters cum out of the other slaves other holes when finished. That is both hoes.

[RhondaLee]

Yes, it seemed kind of slow on here so I'm posting some new threads. ..

I don't know why, but I feel compelled to state for the record that I LOVE GETTING FUCKED IN THE ASS.


But what if his cock is in your mouth after he fucked your ass? There is a "taste" issue, unless you rinse your inside before the intercourse.

[allalone46]

But what if his cock is in your mouth after he fucked your ass? There is a "taste" issue, unless you rinse your inside before the intercourse. That one of the resons why a slave keeps her self clened out in both holes. And yes I would also fuck my lsave in the ass than have her clean my cock off in her mouth after.

[scandalous pleasure]

That one of the resons why a slave keeps her self clened out in both holes. And yes I would also fuck my lsave in the ass than have her clean my cock off in her mouth after.

Ass to mouth is very very unsafe. It's a great way of catching all sorts of bacteria, parasites, etc.

We don't do that.

[allalone46]

Ass to mouth is very very unsafe. It's a great way of catching all sorts of bacteria, parasites, etc.

We don't do that. Yes it is, and nothing is foolproof, and that is also why I stated that the slaveneeds to keep herself cleaned out with enamas. And before plave and as part of it the first thing would be to do a though cleaning of the slaves holes. All holes.

[Herne the Hunter]

Yes, it seemed kind of slow on here so I'm posting some new threads. ..

I don't know why, but I feel compelled to state for the record that I LOVE GETTING FUCKED IN THE ASS.

It is becoming my absolute favorite thing in the world. . .(well, after hugging my children. . .)

It makes me feel full. It makes me feel dominated, opened up, overpowered and more truly submissive than anything else. It makes me so aware of my body. Strangely enough, it makes me feel beautiful and feminine.

And,yes, I love that it always always begins for me with a little bit of fear and some measure of discomfort--I have to completely relax completely trust completely submit to overcome that discomfort.

I love that all the men (just three) who have fucked me in the ass have loved it so much. I always ask why and I love the answers they have given me: "because it is so tight." "because it is so naughty and dirty and forbidden." " because I love your ass." and once, even, "because it hurts you a little and you are willing to feel plain for my pleasure." (see my "I love sadism" thread).

But I'm torn: one of the things I've loved about being sodomized is thinking of myself as unusual, out-there, adventurous for being a woman who asks for this (the other night I nearly begged) regularly. Will the fun of it fade as it goes mainstream? Or will there just be a lot more happy and fulfilled people walking around?

And has anyone read Toni Bentley's Surrender? Should I? Is there something in there I don't already know--because I already believe that if there is a god, taking it up the ass does bring you closer to him.

I love to have anal sex with women because it's tight, because it's "forbidden", and yes, because it hurts her, but she's willing to put up with it anyway. And for another reason too - the grunts girls make as they are being sodomised. I think sound has a lot to do with my pleasure with anal sex, and bdsm sex in general. Who doesn't like the sound of a whip striking flesh?

[Misanthrope]

Good thread Scandolous.

I'm rather fond of anal sex myself. I think it's something only to be done occasionally, but it is a nice treat when my partner and I do it.

And, I thought I'd offer another perspective to this thread. I love taking it up the ass. Now for the record, I am straight, and when I say "it" I mean a toy being weilded by my Domme. It stimulates my prostate, feels damn good, and it's a good and fun way for me to submit to her. Again, I don't do this often, I don't want to mess anything up down there, and I am still pretty inexperienced, so it takes a little bit of coaxing to get started. But, once it gets going, I lose the ability to talk, and make intelligent thought processes. :D

I'm a bit nervous admitting this, since it has quite a stigma attached to it, but hey, this is one of the most open minded places I know.

[Sweet Tiger]

It makes me feel full. It makes me feel dominated, opened up, overpowered and more truly submissive than anything else. It makes me so aware of my body. Strangely enough, it makes me feel beautiful and feminine.

And,yes, I love that it always always begins for me with a little bit of fear and some measure of discomfort--I have to completely relax completely trust completely submit to overcome that discomfort.

I have to agree with you on so many points here. This is one of the few times where I willingly want to be dominated, there is no better way of enjoying anal sex than if you are being dominated and pulled deep onto your partners penis and having your hair and head pulled back.

It stimulates your vagina from a rare angle that feels great, as well as allowing your vagina to open up not only from your position but even more so as you get aroused and wetter and wetter, making your vagina desperate to be filled and allowing your clit to swell the more you get turned on. Not to mention that the position can leave your clit open to easy access and manual stimulation, your breasts can either drop and bounce or if you lean back sit proud and perky - looking great either way ;)

So yeah I'm with you on this one anal sex feels great and strangely enough does make you feel very feminine. I don't know about whether the fact that it's supposedly taboo that adds a little spice to it, but I don't think I would want to do it on a regular basis; I like to keep it as a special treat for both of us, plus the fact that I like having full control of my colon and bowel movements. :(

[Marco]

Dear Scandalous (Pleasure),

Being sodomized for a girl (in terms of her receptive feelings) might not differ substantially from a boy's receptive feelings when being sodomized, but ... beyond the "internal tactiles" (sodomizing partner's arched erection inserted "with" the rectum's "curve" [girls and boys on their backs] and arched erection inserted "against" the internal "curve" [girls and boys on "all fours" or some variant]), I believe there might be a very significant psycho- sexual feeling distinguishing girls' fulfillment from the act. Granted that both girls and boys experience submission (willing or otherwise), and granted that both experience a near requirement for focus on physical control of their respective sphincters, and even granted only the girl might receive physical pleasure (potential orgasm) from indirect stimulation of her "G-spot" (Granffenberg spot.), and further granted only the boy receives direct stimulation of his prostate. Granted all of these, it seems that only the girl (whose sexual organs offer side-by-side the penetrator two different apertures of substantially different pleasure) "compares" in her mind the distinctions between one "type" of penetration within her vis-a-vis the other different type.

And herein, in my view, lays part of her unique psycho-sexual comprehension of anal penetration. When she submits to sodomization she doesn't mere submit in a "role reversal" in the only manner possible as does a boy (oral intercourse aside as combining some sort of assertiveness by the "submitting" party). Quite the contrary, the girl submits regardless of whether her penetrators elects to "use" her vagina or her sphincter/rectum aperture and canal. For the girl then it would seem a matter of "election" between one or another submission rather than a role reversal, and in voluntarily submitting to anal penetration the girl's election would seem one of selfless self-denial (Perhaps it is part of the symbolism in "O" having been rendered so often a "0" [zero] by Sir Stephen.). In her self-reduction to zero the girl almost certainly comprehends that her unique ability to become pregnant (As well as that little "inducement", her clitoris!) are co-opted, indeed "relegated" to meaninglessness, as she offers herself in selfless and pure "sacrifice" to the male's pleasure and her penetrator's ultimate liberation to masturbate himself with her body's most intimate place without thought of any reciprocity. Indeed, "reciprocity" by sodomizer to the one submitted to sodomy, while not impossible, is without artifice and contortion a practical improbability. (Really, only in staged pornography does there seem to be the "rabid" and desparate manipulation of the submissive's clitoris ... as if such is actually supposed to facilitate "relaxation", or even more rediculously the simulated forced entry of unlubricated erections!)

Wherefore my postulate: that only the girl "elects" to deny her very being's "raisson d'etre"; that only the girl makes this "election" without substantially altering her sexual "role" and without employing role reversal; and that only the girl has a psycho-sexual realization of utter selfless self-denial and sex objectification almost entirely without a pleasureable inducement analogous to the boy's prostate. Herein then, if my postulate proves meritorious, lies a profound epiphany: in this one act, where her physical purpose remains the same without role reversal, the girl entirely reverses her purpose from generative being who "employs" males to objectified being who is "employed" by males. (It is a theory.)

Respectfully submitted,
... Marco. :)

[Misanthrope]

Will there be a quiz on this?

[Jadetiger]

Will there be a quiz on this?
I sure hope not I haven't studied for it. ;)

[Misanthrope]

I sure hope not I haven't studied for it. ;)
Me neither, but I suppose that is one form of homework I could get into.

[sm1277]

More homework, I just graduated from college, I was hoping I would get a break.
Oh well, in the pursuit of education we must sacrifice!!

[Marco]

Dear Misanthrope,

>Will there be a quiz on this?

I wouldn't think so. The point of my inquiry is to inquire into the submissive's experience of emotional feelings and psychological drive to experience such feelings rather than concentrate solely on stating what is "done" to the submissive, how it "feels" (i.e. physical sensation as opposed to psychological perception), how the submissive "feels" (ditto), what the assertive partner "does", what the submissive "does" (or is restrained from doing), etc. If an inquiry into deep psychological feelings (the introspective place where one is alone in the dark of night) was misplaced here, I apologize.

Sincerely,
... Marco. :)

P.S. By way of analogy to my post, note that the authoress, Pauline Reage, of "Story of O" ("O" has her "fair share" of being sodomized!) devoted considerable portions of text to introspections of "O's" psychological feelings, perhaps even as much as what "O" might have docilely experienced being "done" to her, what she "does" (or "doesn't do"), and whatever searing descriptions of physical "feelings" "O" might have. I think such an inquiry (into deep psychological motives) does have merit from the standpoints of both submissive recipient and assertive penetrator. Consider for a moment "O's" "Sir Stephen": while "O's" psychology is copiously set forth (She muses quite often in her private moments ... "in the dark of the night" et al.), "Sir Stephen's" interior motives, conflicts, psychological drives & needs, become the great mystery of the story. The ambiguous end (Of the original story, not the less qualitatively brilliant sequel.) lends no clarity to "O's" central question: while she "did" what she "did" as her psychology demanded she "do" for love, did "Sir Stephen" love her (or not)? Isn't this as valid a question by analogy to the greater body of experiences (actual or theorized) that are posted here at "the Library"? Or, is it better we not concern ourselves with "why" when there is the exhiliaration of the "doing" to occupy our stimulus level and pain threshold?

[Jadetiger]

Misanthrope & sm1277,
Yes we must all scarifice for the pursuit of knowledge. A little hands on experience may be a big help here in understanding the emotional feelings and psychological drive. Plus it could definately be fun. :D

[her_Joe]

I sure hope not I haven't studied for it. ;)

Note to self: Oh God, she's gonna get in trouble again.

lol


her_Joe

[Jadetiger]

:eek: Oh know you might be right. Damn my big mouth.

[scandalous pleasure]

Dear Scandalous (Pleasure),

Being sodomized for a girl (in terms of her receptive feelings) might not differ substantially from a boy's receptive feelings when being sodomized, but ... beyond the "internal tactiles" (sodomizing partner's arched erection inserted "with" the rectum's "curve" [girls and boys on their backs] and arched erection inserted "against" the internal "curve" [girls and boys on "all fours" or some variant]), I believe there might be a very significant psycho- sexual feeling distinguishing girls' fulfillment from the act. Granted that both girls and boys experience submission (willing or otherwise), and granted that both experience a near requirement for focus on physical control of their respective sphincters, and even granted only the girl might receive physical pleasure (potential orgasm) from indirect stimulation of her "G-spot" (Granffenberg spot.), and further granted only the boy receives direct stimulation of his prostate. Granted all of these, it seems that only the girl (whose sexual organs offer side-by-side the penetrator two different apertures of substantially different pleasure) "compares" in her mind the distinctions between one "type" of penetration within her vis-a-vis the other different type.

And herein, in my view, lays part of her unique psycho-sexual comprehension of anal penetration. When she submits to sodomization she doesn't mere submit in a "role reversal" in the only manner possible as does a boy (oral intercourse aside as combining some sort of assertiveness by the "submitting" party). Quite the contrary, the girl submits regardless of whether her penetrators elects to "use" her vagina or her sphincter/rectum aperture and canal. For the girl then it would seem a matter of "election" between one or another submission rather than a role reversal, and in voluntarily submitting to anal penetration the girl's election would seem one of selfless self-denial (Perhaps it is part of the symbolism in "O" having been rendered so often a "0" [zero] by Sir Stephen.). In her self-reduction to zero the girl almost certainly comprehends that her unique ability to become pregnant (As well as that little "inducement", her clitoris!) are co-opted, indeed "relegated" to meaninglessness, as she offers herself in selfless and pure "sacrifice" to the male's pleasure and her penetrator's ultimate liberation to masturbate himself with her body's most intimate place without thought of any reciprocity. Indeed, "reciprocity" by sodomizer to the one submitted to sodomy, while not impossible, is without artifice and contortion a practical improbability. (Really, only in staged pornography does there seem to be the "rabid" and desparate manipulation of the submissive's clitoris ... as if such is actually supposed to facilitate "relaxation", or even more rediculously the simulated forced entry of unlubricated erections!)

Wherefore my postulate: that only the girl "elects" to deny her very being's "raisson d'etre"; that only the girl makes this "election" without substantially altering her sexual "role" and without employing role reversal; and that only the girl has a psycho-sexual realization of utter selfless self-denial and sex objectification almost entirely without a pleasureable inducement analogous to the boy's prostate. Herein then, if my postulate proves meritorious, lies a profound epiphany: in this one act, where her physical purpose remains the same without role reversal, the girl entirely reverses her purpose from generative being who "employs" males to objectified being who is "employed" by males. (It is a theory.)

Respectfully submitted,
... Marco. :)


Marco:

Your theory is a bit complicated, but, in a word: YES.

--SP

[salpecam]

...This is one of the few times where I willingly want to be dominated, there is no better way of enjoying anal sex than if you are being dominated and pulled deep onto your partners penis and having your hair and head pulled back.

...anal sex feels great and strangely enough does make you feel very feminine... I don't think I would want to do it on a regular basis; I like to keep it as a special treat for both of us, plus the fact that I like having full control of my colon and bowel movements. :(

I agree, there is no better way to dominate a woman. Hair pulling is an essential part of all rear-entry positions (as opposed to cowgirl, etc) when enetering her anus.
But I prefer to control the frequency and occurrence of anal visits. I insist my ladyfriends surrender their choice of when, where and into which hole. I also control the insertion and removal of her plug. If she is with me I don't allow her to do either, she has to ask me if she needs to go poop (I make her use that very phrase - "May I go poop now?")
Accordingly, I go inside my current gf's anus almost every day; sometimes more than once, with occasional relentless marathon poundings. This usually needs a fair bit or restraint for her.
With the careful use of enemas, I gain close to a situation of controlling her bowel movements too, although it occasionally goes embarrassingly wrong for her.

As such, I like to keep those few days without any cock in her anus as a special treat for her. On these days, though, the mouthfucking mentioned earlier comes into play.

[buzzy]

please harder Mistress, yes I'm just a slut. It turn my Mistress and me. It gets us both stimulated. I don't have a postrate but the stimulation is still there. Now, training and preperation are required for pleasure the more of each the more the pleasure. so clean up and out and enjoy

[rce]

Are there anyone here who have good tips on how to convince one's GF to take it anally? We have almost gotten there, but she backed out and won't talk about it anymore.

[_ID_]

Fear of the pain is usally what stops her from wanting to proceed. Pay lots of attention to her there. Licking kissing touching massaging. No penetration when doing any of this.

See what develops.

V/R
ID

[MsUther]

Another thing could be the fear of making a mess, on you or in bed. It always stress me a bit, so now I have decided to start enema training for some good clean fun :D

[moptop]

Be prepared to take it very slowly - back off if she tenses up, keep trying gently. Patience.

[SheepishJaina]

If i know that i plan to do things anal involved, time to break out the enema bag! Its easy enough (but boring!) to do alone. A considerate partner to help pass the time is fun though as well, and the enema itself can become part of the play. If you're into humiliation, its a HUGE plus.

[moptop]

I must admit, I've never used an enema (but have several times been complimented on having a very clean arse, so that's nice). I'm extremely wary of it because having suppositories in hospital before an op., to clear you out, make me feel so ill - shaking, sweating, urge to vomit, and of course urge to empty bowels, but at least that's meant to happen! - does anyone else find any negative side-effects like that from enemas? Thanks

[Ozme52]

Are there anyone here who have good tips on how to convince one's GF to take it anally? We have almost gotten there, but she backed out and won't talk about it anymore.

Get her used to it by introducing a small butt plug into your playtime.

Sometimes it's just slow going up the highway. :rolleyes:

[annie]

Are there anyone here who have good tips on how to convince one's GF to take it anally? We have almost gotten there, but she backed out and won't talk about it anymore.

This is what i would suggest...

When having foreplay as you tease her slowly introduce anal play. Start with simply teasing, working slowly (VERY slowly) up to occassionally inserting a well lubricated finger, then two, then start working towards the plugs and such. You should be able to tell her interest from the teasing and the finger play. Plus, if she does enjoy it the enjoyment might help her get past her inhibitions until she is asking for it to go futher!

[hugsnkisses]

I would agree with everything written above. Make sure you introduce everything SLOWLY. It doesn't always have to hurt or be uncomfortable if it is prepared (slowly) enough. Talk to her about it. Show her you are concerned that she is comfortable. Starting with fingers is definitely a good idea.. and make sure you are doing it while she is really hot for you already :) The worst thing you can do is rush things to much and cause pain she is not happy about. Good luck!

[Flaming_Redhead]

Will the fun of it fade as it goes mainstream? Or will there just be a lot more happy and fulfilled people walking around?

I've always thought anal was pretty mainstream, but I've been shocked to discover that a lot of people have never done it. I love it! The little bit of pain on penetration causes my clit to stand up and my pussy to get extremely wet. I cum faster and harder with anal than vaginal penetration. I don't like the mess factor which happens on occasion, usually from a hard pounding, but I've never tried enemas. Maybe I should...

[ChurchofVirus]

One way to help her relax when trying to warm up to anal is to have her play with her clit/pussy, it'll help her relax and take away focus from the actual anal play.

[Moth]

rce.......
my g/f has 2 seperate attitudes to anal. initially she shows no real interest in it, and on occasion has objected to me even going there. at first this was a real downer, for me, as i thought it might not ever happen, but what i soon found out was, by taking notice of her body language during sex, was that after plenty of foreplay and (vaginal) fucking, she was so much more receptive (anally).
I soon turned this situation around by very gradually lengthening the time before i would even touch here anus, during foreplay etc, and reducing the amount of touching. fingering etc to the point where eventually she started to "urge" me to touch her there. this would be in the most sublte way. just a little wriggle of the hips, or a slight push, or a moan.
i knew i was getting her to the point where she just needed to have her anus played with, and over time it did come to that.
i had endless fun just letting her know, with the odd touch here and there, what my intentions were, and before long she would always react strongly to me touching/probing her sweet little rim.
now it has become a large part of our sex play, she gets so hot during foreplay when i tease and tickle her anus, spreading her cunt juices around, giving her the message that she is being prepared to be fucked in the arse.
she has very strong orgasms with my cock in her arse,the strength of the grip of her sphincter around my cock is incredible as it pulsates through her orgasm, ....wow !
and the way she looks at me, her eyes pouring out her desire to be fucked in such a filthy manner.......priceless.

all of this has come with time, patience and cooperation, and a firm understanding of each other.

Moth

[~hellish one~]

Are there anyone here who have good tips on how to convince one's GF to take it anally? We have almost gotten there, but she backed out and won't talk about it anymore.
my advice for dealing with someone that is hesitant is the same as what everyone else is saying. take it slow! build up from fingers and plugs, but always go slow. and if you feel her tensing, don't try to force anything into her. just let her take a deep breath and try to relax again. eventually she will be ready for anal sex.

i'm probably one of the few people out there that doesn't like the whole "take it slow" approach. but that's just me, and how my body reacts to it. no one is the same. i personally just love to be grabbed from behind...pushed across a table...and have a nice hard cock shoved up my tight ass. ~shudders~ yes, there is the initial pain, but it is nothing compared to the pleasure soon to come! and i absolutely love that feeling of being 'taken'.

i agree with what red said! i always cum harder and faster from anal sex. i get lost in it and sometimes even start rattling off with dirty talk if i want it bad enough! ~blushes~ the world could be coming to an end, but if i was getting pounded in the ass at that particular time, i would be oblivious!


does anyone else find any negative side-effects like that from enemas? Thanks

the side effects i've felt from enemas have been very minimal. slight cold chills if it is a very large enema...and also depending on the enema's ingredients, there could be cramping of various intensitities. i know both of those side effects are well worth it for me when it comes to being comfortable during anal play. it's so much more enjoyable when you don't have to worry about the mess.

also, enemas can be enjoyable as play. (and no i'm not referring to scat play ~making a face~) for example being forced to hold an enema for a certain amount of time. also, the cramps associated with enemas can be used as part of play too. the pain from the cramps can be mild...all the way up to pretty damn intense! i've found that massaging my tummy during a cramp almost always makes it go away ~nods~ you can also use butt plugs to help control the amount of time you are able to hold an enema.

~glancing up~ boy did i ramble!! ~grin~ sorry bout that!

[Phantome]

I don't like the mess factor which happens on occasion, usually from a hard pounding, but I've never tried enemas. Maybe I should...

You might enjoy having your significant other administer your enema, too. He can hold it in with a butt plug to warm you up, while giving you a nice spanking to entertain you both. *mmmm*
-Phan

[Psynymph]

i use to be terrified of anal sex.....tried it once, when i was really young and it was just an all around bad experience. so that kinda scared me off of it.

communication is key when introducing anything new into your sexual life with another person. you have to be comfortable, especially with something like anal sex. because (for me at least) anal sex is extremely personal. i mean, like the taboo suggests, that "forbidden" place. so it's a big deal, sometimes, when someone is willing to let you err....umm...hehe invade that space so to say.

definitely a warm up is in order. in fact get her to cum a couple good times. and LUBE!!!! then, just like most everyone says, go nice and slow. be patient.

but with me, i had to basically forced into it. because it does hurt, especially the first time. it's a very different, unusual feeling, especially to someone who was hesistant about it to begin with. my Trainer ate me out, fucked me good and hard, then initiated anal play. W/we had discussed it before hand and in a couple different convos. i had my safeword. it hurt, i wanted to cry, and i tried to get away, push Him off. but i didn't say the safeword, so He didn't stop. He coached me through it. and then the pain became that wonderful "ohmygod it hurts so good!" kinda pain. then i thought i was gonna cry from sheer pleasure. it was beyond good. it was great. absolutely....just.....AHHHHH YESSS!!!.

i'm addicted. it hurts still because He only does it occasionally, but i honestly think it's better than vaginal sex.

ok so yeah thats my take on anal sex.....hehe.

[buzzy]

Being Mistress Jadetiger's male slut, I've come to love anal sex. I wouldn't trade it to submitting to her floggers, whips, etc. but the act itself of submitting as a man to getting fucked in the ass is so hot. The feel of my Mistress's hips slamming into my ass, driving that cock into me over and over again, being her slut damn hot!!!!!!!!

[Havensov]

Ok, i need some lube suggestions. We have been slowly trying to introduce anal fun into our play and we have been taking very slowly. Now we have gotten all the way to anal sex, but that was once awhile ago.

Heres the problem, all the lubes we have tried have had a slight to mild burning sensation when in her ass, but not vaginally. We have tried KY gel and regular, a tub called Anal Pleasure, and one other that escapes me right now.

So, what lubes have you used that have worked?

[_ID_]

Astroglide seems to be rather popular, and worked rather well for us.

ID

[lily27]

KY is awful.

I like Astroglide, or a product just called "Wet". There is also Wet Platinum, but it breaks down condoms and is hard on toys (so says the sex shop lady), so keep that in mind if you require it for either of those two uses.

[rce]

Thanks for the tips, I guess I will make use of most of them.

What positions are the best? Is it from behind while she is on all fours, or are there positions more gentle?

[Rectangle66]

Thanks for the tips, I guess I will make use of most of them.

What positions are the best? Is it from behind while she is on all fours, or are there positions more gentle?

The X wife and I would do this on occasion. I always liked having her on
her back, so I could watch her face. The pain...then pleasure look
she would get. I'll have to ask my X girlfriend which position she liked
best when doing that to me.

[moptop]

Just caught up on this thread again and thanks, hellish, for the feed back. I have bought an anal douche which seems a good place to start - at least get the cavity clean! less scarey than enema.

[karin]

*blinks...reading this thread for the first time too! runsssssssss away and hides in the closet*

[ces3]

My slave has enjoyed my cock in her ass before. For me it is very pleasurable to make her feel the pain of it and knowing its not supposed to be. Also the noises my little whore makes when Im fucking her ass pleases me. Oh and by the way I really enjoy fucking her mouth too!

[rce]

Yesterday night, part of my foreplay was som anal finger fucking she did not object to. This is something to work on...

[wolfs_lilgirl]

im still... lookin and trying to be fucked.. in the ass.. im such a cry baby lol..

[Tasker]

Thanks to all that posted. Plenty of food for thought here.

Anal is something we have toyed with and are still exploring.

[Daes]

I didn't respond in this thread previously because, the first few times I tried it with an ex it was an absolutely Horrible experience, he got carried away, it was painful, I did not have fun- anways.

Recently this changed. I was very skeptical and weary about it at first, but I really don't want to judge the act from those few times with an amature, so I figured I'd give it another go, so to speak.

I was glad I did, he was very clean and slow, almost 'professional' about it in a strange way. He already knew how I felt about anal and got lots of lube, plastic gloves, wipes, my vibrator, a small butt plug, and a trash can for later use. I wasn't quite sure what to think of it all, I never really gave thought to any of the items he put on the table except for the lube. He told me straightaway that if there was any pain we would stop, as nothing good could come from that. He made me feel comfortable with the situation, and he had me bent over the bed and started from there, working up slowly.

It was still uncomfortable, but- it didn't hurt at all and eventually it was Okay. The vibe was used as a slight distraction, having it placed on my clit. In the end he was able to really fuck me and wow I had my cum leaking down my leg, covering my hand and vibe, and even dripping on the floor XD

I can happily say now that I'm more comfortable with anal than I ever had been previously =)

[Miraculix]

What "daes " says is just proof that when taken by professionals, slaves or subs enjoy anal sex immensely, even if scared, disgusted or simply overtaken by popular misjudgements.

Personally I had one woman tell me that she never believed it would ever become a pleasurable thing at all, and in our offline relationship she even told me that the only reason she was willing to go though it, is to please me.

Training, play-sessions, orgamsn restrictions for periods of time, sphincter
teasing, and something I call "floating in the water" (two beads encapsuled in a clean steel sphere and inserted in her ass for an entire day while she goes along with her workday) made the trick and today she -as she said herself- gets up in the morning thinking and craving of it, when she knows that on that day she will be taken anally.

[jeanne]

Another lubricant suggestion - pjur brand Eros Basic - we bought it at our local sex shop, very pricey but great and you don't need to use buckets of it! :)

How we minimize the pain: first entry until it hurts, then pull out, second entry a little farther, then out, third time is "all the way", wow! I feel it from the top of my head to the tips of my toes. Like an all over orgasm.

[eden]

There are many, many pleasures i am just so addicted to. Tit bondage, spankings, floggings (im sporting a few raised whelts given to me by my Owner before He left for work this morning, and of course funcking.

The best way i love to be fucked is by having a nice stiff cock fully up my arse, and being fucked like crazy. i love the domance my Owner has over me, i love how it makes me feel submissive, i love the pain when He first enters me, i love the way He puls my head back by my hair as He fucks me there, i love that its a forbidden pleasure, i love it when He cums in me, i love it when He slowly withdraws fom me, and i love the pleasure it gives Him when He fucks me this way.

Ooooooyesss i just simple love it.

[coookie]

I've always thought anal was pretty mainstream, but I've been shocked to discover that a lot of people have never done it. .


I agree with you ... i do not associate anal with bdsm out of my 5 "nilla" girlfriends, only one had not tried it. Now enemas ..well i have not spoken of this but i would be surprised if any of them had tried one.

I too have difficulties with reactions to lube and, not to sound all crude, i have found the best lube is good old fashioned spit ... i am not sure why no one ever recommends this but i find it very effective.

i found the most "comfortable" way of trying anal initially is to lay her flat on her tummy and yes go slow and watch her body for cues to go harder.

Good luck and have fun!!