different limits

[J's blu]

ok, so, i did a search and found nothing that matched what i wanted to say, so i had to start one myself.

the other day while talking with my Master, He took a drink, and i said oooh yuk Dr.Pepper. it wasnt in fact , but Dr.Pepper is His most favourite drink. i said that you would not get me to drink it!! uh no way!! :yuck:
well, that was the wrong thing to say wasnt it?
a discussion ensued as to whether or not i would infact ingest Dr.Pepper. ;)


so, my question is this.. .. .. .. .. .. what different/straight sort of things would you put on your limits list?

Dr.Pepper is the top of mine!!

[Ruby]

An interesting topic, J's blu.

Virtual Slut Ruby in Lord Mobius's Dungeon has less hard limits, but I found it interesting that all of the dungeon folk agree to the same no no's in our writing: beastiality, scat, water sports, and under-age play are at the top of the list.

The kind sirs that run the dungeon even created a color coded collaring system so everyone could respect a basic set of limits for each other.

Ruby, the real life wimp, has got lots and lots of hard limits. ;)

While for some, causing permanent harm/damage isn't a hard limit, it's a hard limit for T, Nat and me. For us, that limit includes things like piercing, tattooing, scarring, or branding.

In real life, I've got some hard limits that not everyone would guess.

For example, I'm allergic to sulfa, so drinking most any alcoholic beverage is a very hard limit for me. It's the same thing with Aspartame - the artificial sweetener - even drinking a diet cola could make me sick. Would I drink one for T? He wouldn't ask.

I'm sure other folks have allergies or phobias that they wouldn't want used against them.

As a caution, your partner must know these things if they are to protect you and we often forget to ask or tell.

Now about those subs/masters who have an allergy to "housework", that I find a tough sell. :D

[charlestudor]

I think hard limits are very personal in nature. Each person develops their own tastes in life, and I think that leads to those things which they find are impossible to do.

I think some people have limits which relate to one of their five senses. Certainly, most of us in this forum are testing tactile limits (such as whips, cbt, slapping, etc.). But taste and smell are also senses. If J's blu has developed senses that are abhorrent to her, then so be it. She should be able to define her own hard limits, rather than attempt to, and have someone say, "Oh we don't recognize that limit, so it doesn't count."

ct

[Woodchuck]

I think it's obvious that not recognizing a subs limits leads to a sub quickly not recognizing authority.

However, I don't see myself as a very submissive person, but I get highly turned off by tickling. It's a quick way to utterly ruin my day.

[alura]

Roaches.....that's a major hard limit for me. If my dom asked me to play with a roach, I'd say no. I wouldn't care what he did to me.
I know that sounds dumb, but I can't help it. Those critters freak me out!

[Katmandu]

Actually, my straight hard limits are being pushed continually. Not that I get punished for them (we don't ever play with punishments, ours is an "accept each other as we are" type relationship), but He keeps trying!

It is, that He wants me to wear skimpy clothes (ie. see-through shirts) and expose myself in public. My reaction? HELL NO! LOL, I'm too old and worn to be able to pull off dressing like I was 18 again! :eek: :D

[J's blu]

Kat, you just found another one for me. clever girl you!! :p
i dont have a problem with it in private, but public!! YIKES i am thinking that could be more of a punishment for others!! :D
and i am with Alura with the bug thing! dont like bugs much. :eek:

i am not going to mention any of these things though. i just KNOW it would put ideas in His head!
J's blu