Why did you join this Forum?

[cariad]

I understand the work that a really good piece of prose requires. I also understand that I have a lot to learn and a lot to practice. I am hoping that I can find here some help with constructive criticism and suggestion as I work on improving this part of my craft. So, please bear with me as I practice on you all.

Then you must join the writers' block! Now some of the technical stuff such as commas (looks, at, Aussiegirl, and, sticks, out, my, tongue) is covered but so is much, much more. It is encouraging supportive environment where you can hone your skills.

Welcome to forums, and I am sure I am not the only one looking forward to reading your work.

cariad

[Ozme52]

Welcome DeSade

[moptop]

Well I've managed to stick my nose in just about everywhere in the last week (wanted or not, sometimes I'm not too sensitive about these things) (but I would be if I realised, I'm just a bit slow on the uptake), but there is still so much more to find, and I've only just found this.

So - yes! why I came to this site - because I had encoutered a glorious revolution, revelation in me, through the imagination, role-play and spanking of a good man - finally meeting someone who was not only into BDSM (which is not new to me), but also joyously, frankly, happily and very, very enthusiastically into it. And into me. And into me being into it. All my little supressed subby feelings came tumbling out big time, oh my, and I went through a very, very frenzied patch. And found this place. Initial reaction: cries for help, understanding, comfort, information - all freely given. Next reaction - hang on - this is a bunch of people having FUN! and very often being FUNNY! and, my God, wow, there is a not inconsiderable and lively literary community here too! Wow wow wow wow I can write again, and share!

Why I stay - well, see above. Met fine company of fun folk, who seem to be remarkably tolerant of garrulous newbies flinging themselves around wildly with no control and are even actively encouraging. Still expecting someone to slap me down at some point (or is that just wishful thinking?). But, oh, so good to be able just to be myself!

[BeKind]

I stumbled upon one of the stories from this site...and was intrigued, so I followed a few urls and found my way here. I read a few stories, realized I wasn't the only freak (After reading the posts here...I realize none of us are freaks..in a negative since anyhow;). So I wanted to know what the other people who felt like this were like, so I started looking at the forums to get a taste of the personalities. I really had some misconceptions.

I have began to come back more frequently because I find the subject matter interesting, the people wonderful and this site reassures me I'm not crazy or bad for loving everything that is BDSM. This is my second post...and I hope to make more as I become braver.

[Guest 91108]

I dropped by on an invite from someone who wanted me to understand her.
I thought i did , turns out i did. but i liked the site so much i just added to all my other addictions .. like sex, certain people..... chuckles.

[vampyres{ID}]

Been reading the stories for a while now, kept thinking about joining the forums, so I finally did, and now I am staying because you all seem pretty interesting, and it seems to be a good place to learn and get new ideas.

[punishmeplease]

I am new to this site only joined it yesterday but I would say that I joined to learn more about the lifestyle and to hear from others who love the same things my Master and I do... Though I am somewhat shy about speaking up right now I enjoy reading the stories and visiting the chatrooms... And that is why I will be back...

[The Master]

I enjoy reading others peoples thoughts on a variety of matters, seeing likewise minds and what other people go through. We come from many different places, we all have much what goes on but here we all can share who we are here. That for some is very important since they got no where else to do so. It is always great to see someone become who they are meant to be.

[satincuffs]

I joined because I've been enjoying a lot of the stories here, and wish I had a little more writing talent to put some of my own ideas down on paper (or LCD, at least..)

It bothers my conscience not to thank the authors of good (free!) fiction for the works they've made available, and tell them what I liked or didn't.

What'll keep me coming back? Fun discussions. Being able to laugh about how our son raised his hand and said that we had plenty of rope at home at a scout meeting when they asked for stuff for some training class or other. (yeah, there were some giggles, and I think we might have turned just a liiiiiiiiiiittle red!)

[floydpolgar]

Okay, I'm not sure I'm a one day wonder or not. I got my kicks by writing a story. It's been sitting on my hard drive for over a year. At last I thought, Oh, hell why not put it out there for everyone to read? So that meant I had to sign up.

The problem for somebody like me is the embarrasment factor. It is kind of weird, though. I see the posts on the political sites, and so many of the posts are just so stupid - I don't see why those people aren't embarrassed by them. So why not post here? The postings in these forums are generally thought out - unlike the postings on the politics - it's just the general subject matter that is embarrasing.

[Havensov]

Why I came here?

To learn, to share, to teach, to explore, to wonder, and to help....

Why have I stayed?

For all of those reasons and more. I am lucky enough to have come to grips with my own desires and being raised in such a way that i am not ashamed or embarrassed by them. So i joined, looked around.... and found my self posting multiply times in just my first few hours of joining.

I have found the people here helpful, inviting, funny, warm, and friendly. Even when i have seen disagreements they have been fair, well worded, and for the most part helpful. I have been able to see 2 or more takes on each subject and been able to use that knowledge for my own uses.

To all new members, please, post your questions, comments and feelings. Even if you don't think that anyone wants to hear your take, only by adding your thoughts to the mix do we all grow.

Next....

[Mishka]

I first came out of curiosity. A woman on another forum wrote an excellent, personal piece about her realization that even though she is commanding in R/l, when it comes to her sex life, she wants more domination. Through her I found words for what I was feeling.

So I came to read and learn. (I don't like chat rooms, no offense, can't follow the conversations) But I stayed because the information was more than I'd hoped, the people are friendly enough, but give well thought out answers and intelligent responses (mainly, haven't noticed any negative).

I also stayed because my friend and Sir, Wolfscout. It's worked well for us as we continue to learn...

[santasurprise]

Rabbit1, you've been Santaed... no, "Santaed", not "sainted".*gg*

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/attachment.php?attachmentid=10056&d=1166769451

[frankee]

Thank you for santaing me (lol, new word for the dictionary) whoever you are.
It gave me a good giggle!!

[polarbear9889]

Why did you join this Forum?
i would think i was the potential one day wonder... now that i have some idle time to reflect on it... i am curious about this lifestyle. tbh, it used to freak me out. literally! (check out movie title "8 mm")
i've been lurking around the library since April 2006 and enjoying many excellent stories (non-gory ones), which get me relatively warm and lead me to the other dimensions. *wink wink* :hubba:
it took me 7 months to find out about the Forums and work up the courage to register. (duhh! lol) :p

brought up in a fairly restrictive culture, this topic is anathema to the society and a stigma, which is frowned upon ~ even though i do think everyone secretly wants to know more/practise such a forbidden yet delicious topic.

a large portion of my r/l is occupied by work, which i like very much. it constantly takes me to beautiful places around the world. it's fairly hectic & exciting. nevertheless, the daily approach tends to be too methodical, technical & analytical. hence, i am sometimes accused of being a control freak @ work. :icon277:
personally, i am a cheeky brat who is shy, introvert, and cautious to the brink of being a chicken. (not to mention a spoiled brat :)) i sometimes wonder whether i am the only "paradox" one out there... Fortunately, the Forums indicate that i'm not. Yay!

What keeps you coming back?
i kinda agree with the saying "Curiosity kills the cats... but satisfaction brings 'em back..." In the Forums, i found a lot of helpful articles and discussions. Many people offer sincere advice, with humor here & there. No judgment nor ridicule. These gestures are truly warm & encouraging and make me feel free & safe to learn and indulge my unexplored side.
Fearing y'all are in the brink of falling asleep, i would like to :ty all for making the Forums such a great place.

~polarbear

[wolfs_lilgirl]

i join cuz i was.. searching.. about this life style and got very interested.. then... i got to chat and meet new people here i met my master! smiles! and well i like the place.. and.. that is why i keep coming... people is very nice..

[Sextoymaker]

I joined because this is a really cool place for people of like minds it seems. It also seems very well done and has a entire community with fun in mind....PLUS a large percentage of these authors are very talented folks with a flair to keep you reveted to your reading.

[poppy_gal]

A friend showed me this site because Im bored, on holiday and broke because of Christmas overspending.

So, basically Im here for sex.

:)

[Sextoymaker]

A friend showed me this site because Im bored, on holiday and broke because of Christmas overspending.

So, basically Im here for sex.

:)

Sounds like a good reason. Do you have a attachment on your computer to have sex with though?
Just kidding Welcome!

[Elana1981]

Oh, I joined because I was bored and couldn't access the picture boards.

Which is a strange thing for me to do, as I normally never join a board that doesn't let me look around before I ger registered.

[Dorkalicious]

I started reading the stories a while back and got interested. I didn't know there was a forums section for a long while after. I've joined because I believe I can learn something here. :) And of course the people I "meet" here is a plus, hehe.

[J's blu]

i joined originally so i could review stories, then i read some threads to learn and listen to people who were living the lifestyle hands on, flesh to flesh. i actually joined the academy if i remember rightly, but have not been there for a long time.

why do i keep comming back? the library still has some of the best reading around for free, the threads are varied and interesting, the member base is large enough that if i just feel like lurking for a while no-one gets upset, but if i want to say something i wont be howled down. i live in a fairly small country town, with not much chance of meeting people face to face, so for me, this forum is a life saver.

[H Dean]

....the member base is large enough that if i just feel like lurking for a while no-one gets upset, but if i want to say something i wont be howled down. i live in a fairly small country town, with not much chance of meeting people face to face, so for me, this forum is a life saver.I never liked lurkers. Especially those who talk like you do. Man, people like you make me so mad!:26:

[J's blu]

:pray: oh please dont get mad Sir, i would much rather You just ;pank
or even maybe :crop: or how about :pd,
but hey ;) i knowz You luv me!! lol

[H Dean]

Tramp.

[J's blu]

:bigkiss: and proud of it!!

[smilie]

I came here because i was looking for knowledge and i keep comming back because i found it here, I have found that there is a fountain of information and i want to use all i can

[Can's Peaches]

I joined at the suggestion of Sir. In fact he signed me up. He had already joined and had read some of the forums. I am newbie to the life style and he thought I could learn alot from the forums. I have to admit that he was right. I love this site. Everyone is so nice and it is so informative.

[floffe]

A typical reason that any person would decide not to stay at a forum is simply that he/she feels that it's hard to get into a group since everybody seems to know everybody where as the new guy/girl knows nobody. Getting across past that is the hardest part for new people at a forum.
At least thats how i feel atm. But then, its part of being new, and hopefully I too can find someone inhere to talk to :)

Oh... And i joined the forum because i was tired of not knowing anyone to whom i could talk to about bondage and bdsm... Which gets kinda annoying quite fast. ;)

[cariad]

Hello floffe, and welcome to forums.

I can understand how daunting it must feel arriving as the new person and not knowing anyone. But please do linger. We really are delighted when new members arrive and start posting, and we really do want to include everyone in our community.

Well done on taking the plunge and making your first post, and I hope it will be the first of many.

cariad

[Amberxiao]

Well.

I joined because I'm curious and opinionated... which is the reason I join most forums, I suppose. I tend to be very shy in real life, but on forums, I tend to post a lot.

I've never "stayed" at any forum, though I'm hoping I'll stay at the writing forum for at least the next two years, since to do otherwise would mean I'd given up on a goal. The main reason I don't stay with a forum is that I have a lot of different interests, but tend to be rather singleminded about them. Right now, although I wasn't intending it to be the case, BDSM is the one I'm currently somewhat fixated on. I've been (barely) managing to keep up with the writing one, but I come here more often. The point is, though, that usually, I can only stay at one forum at a time, and I tend to post a lot on that forum when I'm there. Then, something will happen, and I'll either get interested in another topic and try to do the two or more forums thing or I'll get behind and feel I *need* to catch up (which is silly, I realize), but not want to do so, and then end up finding a new forum.

In any case, it's (so far) only been in one case that the actual forum was bad. I tend to be good at picking forums :) Incidentally, that forum was mainly devoted to people much younger than myself (i.e. teens) and there were a lot of difficult-to-read posts and a lot of stupid contests. Most of the time, I move on to a new forum because the new topic is more exciting than the old one. And I have been known to come back to old forums when the topic is interesting again.

[floffe]

The first post isnt really such a huge landmark... The first thread with many replies however, that's something :)

Until then, im just gonna be a lurker and check the site ;)

[Rhabbi]

I first joined this forum a while age, but as one of those 1 day wonders. I did not wnat to puit any effort into this. My guess is that is why most of those who do not stick around leave, it is work to make a presence here. Plus, I am sure there are some wannabe's who thought this woul;d be an easy place to find sex.

Personally, I decided to stick around because I am who I am. I make mistakes, and I would like to have someone to talk about them with. It always helps to know people who will not call you stupid because you forgot to feed your pet, or because you left your slave in the closet to long. Things happen, and we need to know this so that we can grow and learn.

[Dark_One]

Hi everyone....

The reason I joined the site is because I was put onto it by FireWoman, another relative newbie.

I have always been facinated with BDSM and when I logged in for the first time I thought, "Where has this forum been hiding?"...

I enjoy nearly every pic I have seen so far and plan on taking some of my own for the very first time. I am a BDSM newbie and will enjoy sharing experiences with all of you.

I feel at home here already and have no doubt I will be here for a while to come...

[firewoman]

hello all...sorry l missed this thread earlier...

l'm here because l was invited by the delicious Wolfscout...he knows what a curious little mind l have and that l enjoy unleashing my inner kink every now and then

[daeira]

As i said in my introduction i have been away for awhile and thought this would be a great starting point to jump back in and hopefully meet others and form friendships...but i must admit i am kinda quiet at first but will always answer any questions anyone may have..

dae

[Rhabbi]

As i said in my introduction i have been away for awhile and thought this would be a great starting point to jump back in and hopefully meet others and form friendships...but i must admit i am kinda quiet at first but will always answer any questions anyone may have..

dae
Hello dae,

Probably not the best thing to say, I would answer most any question from most people, and almos any question from a few people, and any question from one or two people, but that is just me.

[Eponine]

When you say "why did you join this _forum_?", do you mean the whole website? or are you supposed to join a particular forum within the website...
confused...
But if i take your question to mean why do some people join and never return- i can answer that-
I generally don't have the time it takes to learn how to navigate around- not that it's not easy- it's a SUPER site, it's just there's SO much, which is again, SUPER, but i wish i had more time. SO I always end up just going to read stories, b/c i enjoy that and I know how to do it, so i can get to where i want quickly.
...so please let me know if i'm supposed to sign on with a certain forum??... i would choose bdsm library in that case.

[gagged_Louise]

ThisGirl: I guess the idea was to ask "what brought you here to the BDSM forum, how did you discover it and what were the things that made you stay around?" Too bad if you haven't found the time to discover the rich variety of people and discussions here; 98% of us have vanilla lives claiming time too but the feel;ng that this is actually a community, at once open to new people and caring and warm, not just an on-and-off discussion forum, has made it a vital part of my kinky lifestyle sphere.

As for myself, I came here in the beginning, nine months ago, over the library page - I was looking for some stories and noticed there was a discussion froum attached. As I moved around through the forum, the Games and RP boards began taking my attention and I realized I felt at home with the mix of inventive pain, civilized and relaxed language (I don't feel really at home discussing things that matter in the kind of chatty myspace lingo u hear frm ppl who pretty, like, grew up prancing da web & lol R converting all nubies - it works better in actual chat but I guess I need to write the way I've been used to doing). good spirits and nice people that made this forum live and breathe.

Before long I was getting in touch with Dominants, subs and slaves on the site (including my present Domme) and the closeness this room projects has kept me around; some of the people around here I think of as everyday friends even if I've never seen a real-life photo of any of them.

[Pete Moss]

I join because this site makes blood rush to my penis....after that I enjoy all the cool stuff.

PM

[Eponine]

I have been spending more time reading posts in the forums and I can see it truly is a community here...

It really is too bad that since the date I joined till now I missed out.

But I would like to change that now.

And to answer the original thread question:

What brought me here too was a search for bdsm stories and I was absolutely enthralled with the number of stories available. I was actually somewhat intimidated by the rest of the site- the forums, not really understanding how to get around. Now I've found it's not that scary, and there is so much to enjoy here too! I will keep coming back because this site offers the link to others like me... in the d/s world- whether currently living it or not... just reading words from other subs and from Masters and Mistresses makes me feel... comforted... that's a good word.
:wave: :ty

[blossom]

i`ve been visting this site and reading the stories for ages now(but only just signed up), ive really wanted to become part of something different, i wanted to make my dreams reality and to meet people like me, and who wouldnt think me stupid. ive only posted a couple of times but already i feel accepted with the replies i had and as long as i feel welcome i will keep coming back. i love it here already.

[pyarrie]

well lets see i joined today however i really really want to learn about me and my nature and how to please my master and i enjoyed the site and see the interactiveness of the people on the forum. Like everyone else I came in search of the stories. Found the academy and am trying to get involved with that and now with this forum I think I finally have the tools I need to get comfortable with this side of my life. I definetely think I will be back

[broadmeadow]

I joined because I'm genuinely curious and hungry. I don't want to be a one day wonder. I want to grow and explore.

[metoo]

I joined because I am very interested in the lifestyle...My other half and I have experimented with it quite a bit and I find I really enjoy being bound..and all that goes with it. I am hoping to find new and exciting ideas to make his life better....:rolleyes:

[Msub44f]

I find the site very interesting and it keeps my dark side alive

[MMI]

...Easy - to find out what this is all about, because I've always wondered but never found anyone who seemed interested. I have no interest in being dominated or enslaved (but I might be intersted the other way round). So who wants to take my hand and show me around? :)

[ashsoul]

Well, first of all I knew all my life that something is "different" in me, as years passed I learned more and more about this little dirty secret. I am not in the "scene" however if inner bdsm life does not count:)

As I got permanent access to the world wide web, I instantly found myself in a virtual community of bdsm-ers viewing a lot of nasty sites I found matching
to my desires.

As I was searching for bdsm stories, I came upon this site via the google search engine listing...and since then I am here, lurking for new stories for my liking. Besides I found the chat-room very appealing. It is great to interactively share ideas with people who are "suffering" in the same disease:)

So I keep coming back, but yet I am a newbie to the forums which I only lately discovered. It seems that on each occasion I come here I feel more and more comfortable to be amongst you, folks!

As for why some people come and go? I think they do not really got that "disease" which needs feeding...

Joyfully yours,
ashsoul

ps. sorry for my english

[angelic.zest]

"hellooooo waves hi to all the new comers* i stated coming here through reading. stories and one day i wanted to post a reply, and needed to make an account...so i'm here and loving every minute of it. Meet some really nice ppl *smirk* that i sooo enjoy, and im sure you will also. Welcome again to all the new comers!

kurixxx :smilie_orange1:

[sme6068]

For years I have read stories on BDSMLibrary, and have even tried to submit one or two, although my writing skills are marginal. For as long as I can remember I have had submissive, and in fact rather violent, fantasies. Forums such as this have seemed to be a way to satisfy my submissive cravings without "socially unacceptable" behavior. Now I find that I really want to discuss and share my fantasies with others. I guess I want some confirmation that I am not insane for having these feelings and desires.

[Rhabbi]

Hello and welcome sme

[jasmine69]

i found this site while searching for information as i am a sub. in training. i am allowed to research information but not allowed to actively participate in conversations without permission from my Master. All of the individuals on this site look so diverse and kind. thank you for allowing me to enter.

[Eponine]

I have to say now I keep coming back because it's one of the few places I can share openly my joy, you know...

It's funny b/c I started out on the stories side only, and now I'm just a forum junkie.

It's the best place! And everyone (mostly) here is so great!

[mystikal_in_KY]

Hi all
I started reading the stories and joined to reply to a post( was so long I dont remember what it was though. LOL !!! Just discovered a few years ago that although in everyday life NOBODY tells me what to do! I really really really LOVE being sub/slave in private. I have been gone for too long due to the fact that I had to get a new comp. and new internet but hopefully am back to stay. So be watching for me Y'all

[DrVideogame]

I just recently joined up a few days ago and what i have noticed is that this is one of the friendliest place u could meet anyone who is interested in what u are interested in and so far no one has judged me one bit on anything. i have not met one rude person yet. i started out on the story side of this site as well and then i jumped to the forums and found some cool things

[Rhabbi]

Hello and welcome, we try to help where we can.

[amandine]

Hi all

i have been reading the stories for years but actually never got involved in any of the other programs on bdsm until i got involved online as a submissive and now am seriously contemplating the possibilities of getting involved in r/l. A Mistress approached me lately and we are presently discussing such a relationship and possibly that i will be coming here more often, ....surely that i will as i will want to read everything that i can involving a submissive. i know that being online is much more different that in real life and want to learn all about it and realize what i am getting involved into.

i will be here more often and hope that i will be getting advice from you

amandine

[Rhabbi]

Hi all

i have been reading the stories for years but actually never got involved in any of the other programs on bdsm until i got involved online as a submissive and now am seriously contemplating the possibilities of getting involved in r/l. A Mistress approached me lately and we are presently discussing such a relationship and possibly that i will be coming here more often, ....surely that i will as i will want to read everything that i can involving a submissive. i know that being online is much more different that in real life and want to learn all about it and realize what i am getting involved into.

i will be here more often and hope that i will be getting advice from you

amandine

Hello and welcome to the forums amandine

[nk_lion]

Heyhey Amandine...this is an awesome place to learn

[MajesticFae]

I joined in the first place to learn and grow... and just make some awesome friends. =)

I'm back because I missed you guys!

[Patty45]

I joined because I am curious about the life style. My girl friend is quite domme and I enjoy being with her when we can arrange it. I am unready to change my life as it is. I have her permission to explore more of my feelings here.

[MajesticFae]

Welcome to the forums, Patty45. Feel free to jump in anywhere =)

[Rhabbi]

I joined because I am curious about the life style. My girl friend is quite domme and I enjoy being with her when we can arrange it. I am unready to change my life as it is. I have her permission to explore more of my feelings here.

:welcome: Patty

[caitstuart]

... I joined as it seemed a comfortable place (so far, smile) to learn more about the lifestyle....and hey, i love it when people LOVE to discuss! As for coming back, hopefully, i will continue to find reasons to do so!

[Widget]

Welcome and Hello to all the new people I see here

[Rhabbi]

... I joined as it seemed a comfortable place (so far, smile) to learn more about the lifestyle....and hey, i love it when people LOVE to discuss! As for coming back, hopefully, i will continue to find reasons to do so!

:welcome:

hello caitstuart

[dakota95]

I joined out of curiosity and have found it very interesting and informative.
So much to see and do it will fill many odd moments.
Thanks

[Rhabbi]

I joined out of curiosity and have found it very interesting and informative.
So much to see and do it will fill many odd moments.
Thanks

Hello and :welcome:

[*gia*]

I joined this site because a close friend of my mine recently joined and she recommended it to me. I haven't had a chance to look around a great deal yet, but....it seems like a real site filled with real lifestyle people, not just those into notches in their belts, making it a safe place to learn and grow.

[MajesticFae]

I joined this site because a close friend of my mine recently joined and she recommended it to me. I haven't had a chance to look around a great deal yet, but....it seems like a real site filled with real lifestyle people, not just those into notches in their belts, making it a safe place to learn and grow.


Welcome to the forums sweetheart. I hope you learn and grow with us. Don't be afraid to jump in, we don't bite, unless of course you want us to!

[dom.4.you]

I recently found myself free to explore my desire to experience a dominant lifestyle. Many years in a vanilla relationship are behind me now and I hope to find out what I've not been able to experience before. I found a link to this site many probably do, through a google search, and am glad I did. My first few minutes reading some suggestions to novices such as myself was very encouraging.
So, here I am, like a kid in a candy store, soaking it all in...
Thanks for having me.
Kind regards,

[yln5010lp]

I am very apologetic . My English level is very bad . I originate Chinese Jiangsu Nanjing
The use is interpreted software for being living always . Please therefore pardons in the unclear and coherent somewhat space of sentence .
The first time catchs sight of on the Web Site joint that is here man from Taiwan through .
I become intoxicated go drunk in the autistic thinking room that writer put up in here only . Meet down the wish which in the actual life being living not achieved .
My actual life is very perfectly satisfactory . I possess a good-looking wife who feels quite pleased myself . This year has possess a son only a short while ago . In story that yet I discover to be living here . Particularly to be deeply love with to the quality that adjust lady tyrannical to death beats damages to me . Whether did I get ill ?
Is this the disease in one kind of essence ?

[Widget]

Welcome to all the new members and yln5010lp, I know we have members from China, perhaps one of them will get in touch with you to help out with your posts. See you around the forums!!

[Rhabbi]

Hello and Welcome to the forums.

[speedoflife751]

I joined to read articles, and to learn what most peoples appropriate boundaries are, and for ideas. I have a new GF who wants to explore BDSM, and I do as well, and want to learn

[Rhabbi]

Hi and :welcome: to the forums

[Dick Tickles]

Hello,

Why did I join this site? Let me see, I’m new to the opening and finding out new things in my new life. I'm divorced and have live an I guess "Vanilla Lifestyle" for he most of my life. I enjoy discovering new things about people in my life and new things with people that don't seem to be on the kinky side or find different interests that they have that are in common with me. I like this site, it helps me find certain things that might perk my interest to something and so far the overall I’ve been much perked. hehehe I look forward to a long membership here and have lots of fun in here and meet new people. Thank-you have a good one!!!

[Rhabbi]

Hello,

Why did I join this site? Let me see, I’m new to the opening and finding out new things in my new life. I'm divorced and have live an I guess "Vanilla Lifestyle" for he most of my life. I enjoy discovering new things about people in my life and new things with people that don't seem to be on the kinky side or find different interests that they have that are in common with me. I like this site, it helps me find certain things that might perk my interest to something and so far the overall I’ve been much perked. hehehe I look forward to a long membership here and have lots of fun in here and meet new people. Thank-you have a good one!!!
:wave: hello and :welcome: to the forums.

[cbtok]

I joined because I did a Google search that called up this forum -- actually an archive that no longer displays. I didn't know it was around and I do miss the days of the collegial atmosphere in the USENET Newsgroups (like alt.soc.bdsm and so on).

[MajesticFae]

I joined because I did a Google search that called up this forum -- actually an archive that no longer displays. I didn't know it was around and I do miss the days of the collegial atmosphere in the USENET Newsgroups (like alt.soc.bdsm and so on).


Welcome!!

[Rhabbi]

I joined because I did a Google search that called up this forum -- actually an archive that no longer displays. I didn't know it was around and I do miss the days of the collegial atmosphere in the USENET Newsgroups (like alt.soc.bdsm and so on).


:wave: Hello and :welcome: to the forums

[green_eyed_bliss]

am here looking for old friends and maybe new ones . the places where i use to chat are gone sooo i am here.looking forward to meeting.

[Rhabbi]

:wave: Hello greeneyedbliss, :welcome: to the forums

[lazarus_M]

Hi!
I found you all through a Google search. I was just starting to get active in a UK based forum, the Ice Castle, but it has since vanished. (had a variety of good resources on it too). Interested in seeing what you have here. I may lurk a bit, but I have opinions and a bit of experience, so you may see me more than once.

[jeanne]

greeneyedbliss, lazarus_M - hello and welcome!

[nk_lion]

hi greeneyedbliss, hi lazarus_M, welcome

[isabeau6]

i joined to find out all i could about the lifestyle and meet others who are in that type...and also i've been visiting the bdsm library for two years now and finally realized they had a forum lol

isabeau

[Rhabbi]

i joined to find out all i could about the lifestyle and meet others who are in that type...and also i've been visiting the bdsm library for two years now and finally realized they had a forum lol

isabeau

lol

:welcome: to the forums again isabeau6

[sunnycynic]

Joined because I've realised the older I get the more twisted I get. I have no idea what you're all about but hope to get some new ideas?? lol x

[jeanne]

Welcome, sunnycynic - ideas abound here... Have fun!

[Rhabbi]

Joined because I've realised the older I get the more twisted I get. I have no idea what you're all about but hope to get some new ideas?? lol x

:wave: Hello sunnycynnic and :welcome: to the forums

[george14641]

I was hoping to find some people into a similar lifestyle as my wife and I are. We are not a typical Dom/sub couple. I have been chaste for most of the 19 years we have been married. Not with a device, but just by holding back my orgasims. We call it "being good." My wife loves it. Less from a kinky perspective and more from a point of view that it is something that makes our relationship stronger. I am always very affectionate and loving. However, I would not say she is dominate. I love giving her orgasims. We have a great sex life and I give her orgasims a variety of ways, including penetration. I am always very careful to withdraw before orgasim. I had an accident a number of years ago, but since then I have only had the occasional wet dream. By holding back I feel it make me closer to my wife and really allows me to focus on her pleasure. She sys it makes her excited to know how dificult it is for me to always hold back I believe it is a constant demonstration of my commitment to her. There are periods where is is very difficult to remain good, but overall I would not want it otherwise. In fact, the more dificult it is the more committed to it we are.

[Rhabbi]

:wave: Hello george

[Venom]

Good evening, everybody!

I'm Venom, I'm new and I didn't had an idea how this forum works until half an hour ago. I read stories on this side since january and posted already two of my own, but today it's the first time I'm active here in the forum.

[Rhabbi]

Good evening, everybody!

I'm Venom, I'm new and I didn't had an idea how this forum works until half an hour ago. I read stories on this side since january and posted already two of my own, but today it's the first time I'm active here in the forum.

:wave: Hello and :welcome: to the forums Venom.

[MajesticFae]

Welcome loves.

[want2lurn]

For the Rabbit 'stew'. Why else?

Ass for cumming back.
Why for all the tasty concocktions that are available for consumption.

Yummy, Yummy, Yummy.
I got love in my tummy,
And I feel like a-lovin you:
Ooooo, you're such a sweet thing,
Good enough to eat thing
And that's just a-what I'm gonna DO!...blush!

[Hammer101]

[SIZE="6"]i believe b4 making any changes that gathering knowledge, research, and familiarity are essential. in order to be a useful member of any group you have to believe in what the group stands for. Warren Buffet describes risk as "not knowing what you're doing"!:whip: :whip: :whip: :whip:


why will i come back? for developement, entertainment, fulfillment, and the opportunity to give something back to the group.

[MajesticFae]

Welcome, loves.

[shipo1066]

i joined this forum like a lot of people for knowledge, i spent a while going through the threads and deided in my mind that there was a huge knowledgfe base on this site and people seemed only too happy to help others and share that knowledge, i think i will stay for the enrichment and entertainment and also hopefully so one day i can help someone else in my situation, and give something back to the forum.

ultimate goal. to get over my own inhibitions and fullfill both my own and my partners deepest and most secret fantasy's.

[Rhabbi]

:waze: You are in the right place shipo1066

[KoTe]

Reasons:
1. To seek advice
2. To learn more
3. To share expirience

[Venom]

Maybe it's a silly question, but: How do you get your personal pictures beside your text? (By the way: very sweet, KoTe !)

[sassy]

hi i joined this site because i wanted to learn more and thought this would be a great place to start :-)

[Pertez]

Welcome sassy :wave:

[Pertez]

Maybe it's a silly question, but: How do you get your personal pictures beside your text? (By the way: very sweet, KoTe !)

Hi Venom
at the top af this page you see "User CP"
press it to go to your profile and choose a Avatar from the list or upload one yourself

[MajesticFae]

Venom - What Pertez said. User CP can be a bit hard to navigate, but it's not too terrible, just look for something with the word "Avatar".

Warm welcomes and cookies to everyone I missed. =)

[Rhabbi]

:wave: Hello and :welcome: to the forums sassy

[midi]

I joined this forum today so that I could expand on my knowledge. It seems there is much to learn here. As I have some time on my hands this summer, here I find myself.

Am in real life relationship w/ my best friend in the world. He and I share many aspects of D/s lifestyle and I am encouraged to connect with others to share experiences, gain knowledge and to grow as a person. I hope this helps!

[Rhabbi]

I joined this forum today so that I could expand on my knowledge. It seems there is much to learn here. As I have some time on my hands this summer, here I find myself.

Am in real life relationship w/ my best friend in the world. He and I share many aspects of D/s lifestyle and I am encouraged to connect with others to share experiences, gain knowledge and to grow as a person. I hope this helps!

:wave: Hello again midi. Ask any questions, there are plenty of answers.

[midi]

Hello Rhabbi. Thanks again for the warm welcome. There is so much information here that i think i will be doing much reading at first, but in time it's good to know there is an open forum of friendly members to converse with. :)

[snowflake]

Well Rabbit I came here because of a few reason that you already know about..

And it was you that told me of this place..hehehe.. Which i thank you very much for..

I keep coming back because i am having alot of fun in chat and will keep coming back as i do enjoy...

It is fun to play on the net.. It allows me an outlet for my yearnings that i have had strongly as of late.. and allows me to be a little sassy as well which i love to be from time to time..

I also enjoy wriiting poetry at times.. So i think in the futue i will post some

But all and all it seems to be a very freindly site and that i always truly enjoy as you well know..

Thanks again for showing me this board and what you do ..

Hugs
Snowflake

[Rabbit1]

Welcome love glad you made it ----yep we are a friend group and love to play ----look forward to your posts

Hugs and and good caning

[Rhabbi]

Well Rabbit I came here because of a few reason that you already know about..

And it was you that told me of this place..hehehe.. Which i thank you very much for..

I keep coming back because i am having alot of fun in chat and will keep coming back as i do enjoy...

It is fun to play on the net.. It allows me an outlet for my yearnings that i have had strongly as of late.. and allows me to be a little sassy as well which i love to be from time to time..

I also enjoy wriiting poetry at times.. So i think in the futue i will post some

But all and all it seems to be a very freindly site and that i always truly enjoy as you well know..

Thanks again for showing me this board and what you do ..

Hugs
Snowflake

:welcome: again snowflake

[snowflake]

Thanks Rhabbi and rabbit1 means alot to me

hugs

[Logic1]

Well I joined due to having enjoyed lots of the stories here and wanted to learn from and perhaps share some thoughts of mine in this environment.
This was my first post here and I can pretty much guarantee that I will post more. Forums are a great way to share your thoughts and insights in many aspects of life.
Nothing beats RL though ;)
/Marcus

[Rhabbi]

:hihi: Hello and :welcome: to the forums Logic1. :wave: Reallly do hope to see you post some more.

[spammik]

I have been curious about about submission for a while. I found your site and started reading the stories. I joined the forum not too long ago. I am learning more about BDSM. My husband likes being dominate. We bought a house in the country last year about the same time as the last child at home moved out into his own apartment. Wow it was like being newly weds all over again, even though this is the second marriage for each of us. We live far enough out that I don't worry about anyone seeing us naked, the house is designed for minimal coverings on the windows. We do have fun switching from vanilla and then back. I am getting a better picture of what is normal for one couple is not enough for another couple, in other words there are no set rules for each couple. Thank you for helping me to learn and enjoy more about BDSM.

[Rhabbi]

:hihi: Hello there spammik.

[Sir_Russell]

Why did I join?

That is simple but yet involved.
First to learn, no matter how skilled and knowledgeable you are there is always more to learn. Knowledge is power and a very valuable coin.

Second to teach, after having well over 35 years as Dom I have some things to share. Those of you that have visited our site (speciallovenetwork) already know that I want a safer less fantasy source for the life.

Third to meet people, help and be helped, learn about not the life but the reasons people are drawn to this lifestyle.

[mount_sianni]

Why did I join:
Well I've been reading the stories here, on and off, for 3-4 years and get a lot of pleasure out of it. Now I'm single I fancy getting more in to the lifestyle/learning more about BDSM. I'm a bit shy which originally discouraged me from joining, plus what my vanilla GF would think, but now I figured - this is something I'm interested in, why not join?

Reading has also inspired me to think about writing a story myself, to put something back into the site which I have gotten a lot from.

What keeps me coming back:
Well I've only been registered a few days so time will tell if I keep posting. My hope is to meet new people and learn from them. Up til now though I come back for the stories - they are definitly the best on the web and the interface is userfriendly unlike other sites.

[Rhabbi]

:welcome: mount_sianni

[MajesticFae]

Welcome mount_sianni! aaaand Welcome to anyone else I missed!

[Subfortraining]

I just joined this site as a member and it didn't take me long after finding it. what made me become a memeber was all the different discussions going on. Now that im here and have said Hello i plan on staying because all the members (that i've talk to so far) Have been really friendly and helpful.

[damanottawa]

why did i join......
well thats a good question. i have been reading the stories for a while, just recently went into chat but didnt know what to say lol.
i would just like to talk to other people who enjoy the things i enjoy and mabey get a better understanding of who i am.

[MitchC]

I joined this forum due to the recommendation of a friend from another forum, who is a member here. I have been a member of other similar forums for a few years, and decided to check this site out. So far, it seems great. The people are very welcoming. I'm happy that I signed up.

Mitch

[freedom37803]

I'm sure I answered this many pages back but I'm too lazy to look it up. So here ya go....I joined because someone at another site recommended it...I hang around cause of the great stories and the admin is an awesome guy ;)

[bad_kitty_77]

Am not sure, is this where we introduce ourselves?

[jeanne]

bad_kitty - if you look just above and to the left of this "Sticky" thread in the Introduction/Welcome forum, you'll see a "New Thread" button. Choose that and use it to introduce yourself. Your thread will appear below the "Sticky" posts in this forum, and lots of folks will drop by to say Hi!

Let me be the first - hello and welcome!

[hussar]

I am always learning and searching for ideas.

[cbtboyuk]

It was the stories that first attracted me - and i've been reading them with great pleasure for sometime.

Now i'm trying to write and also give reviews to all the authors whose work i've enjoyed and have more or less stumbled on a delightful community of folk with a wide range of interests and discussions and experiences. i'm eager to learn from people and - who knows? - maybe make some new virtual/reallife friends!
:wave:

[Arria]

My husband recommended this page to me because he knows I like stories.

After having read many of them, I got curious about the people behind the stories and the page. :-)

Kind regards
A.

[Phantom]

I am here at the invitation of my sub, thrall. Looking around I can see that she was right, this is an interesting place. Thank you for the invitation thrall.

[thrall]

Thank you Sir.............

im happy you are here for me........

your thrall

[tanis]

It looked like an interesting place to me, too.

My curiosity mainly, is the reason I came, appreciation for the writing and art/photography contributions as well.

[pierceinyou]

I am here to have fun and meet people. I hope to build, embrace and enjoy long term relationships on any level of about any kind. A place where I could find intelligent, blunt, open and expressive like minded adults who might share many of the same interests I have. If that don’t work, if this isn’t it, I can always go check out the porn.

I have had an interest in controlling a partner or another with a partner for longer than I can remember. The trust and ability a partner has to submit to an S&M session with you must far outweigh the trust, love and compassion one would have in a vanilla marriage. I've been trying to imagine for too long.

I am curious if I should leave a working but not successful 8 year relationship to pursue casual short term relationships in S&M and soak up real life experience to introduce myself to what I have been missing. The relationship as a whole seems more rewarding, pleasing, exciting and intimate. I hope to find some information here.

[gumby]

I joined to learn as much as I can. I've recently been taken on as a sub, and while I'd known I wanted to explore this for quite some time, the opportunity had yet to present itself. Wanting to be able to do all I can to please Mistress I thought it would be good to find the most extensive knowledge base I could, and what better than learning from those that do. So thank you everyone ahead of time for any wisdom gleaned from those who know.

[angryinch]

Hello all! I've been lurking this forum/site for quite some time now and I thought it was finally time to register. I'm a domme lesbian in a committed relationship with my sub lady lover. I'm incredibly inexperienced and only very new to the world of BDSM, and I'm hoping you wiser ones might be able to help me find my feet. Thank you.

[Noontide]

i joined on the reommendation of some friends from another forum. i mostly read (the forum and sometimes the stories) and sometimes post. the first post i read when i looked this up was "having children" by TomOfSweden". when i read the reponses, i knew this was a good place, one that i cud relate to. it was like i saw all parts of my life fitting into a whole right in front of me.... in the lives of all those people who had posted their replies....

i've stayed (though it's a too short a time yet) because i'm always finding little nuggets of gold in what i read in the forums and because the people are so warm and friendly.

[bad_kitty_77]

I'm still tryin' to figure out the answer to this one... :)

[cariad]

Oh, I know why I joined - Uncle Ed nagged; bullied; put my arm behind my back and marched me in screaming for mercy. And then he threatened me with rhubarb stick insisted that I came back for more.

[Logic1]

Oh, I know why I joined - Uncle Ed nagged; bullied; put my arm behind my back and marched me in screaming for mercy. And then he threatened me with rhubarb stick insisted that I came back for more.

and then 2 seconds later you were hooked ;)

[cariad]

Seriously - two seconds later I was terrified. Was like walking into a party where everyone knew each other, and I knew nobody. However I took the plunge - or was I pushed - and started posting, had my ego massaged by a few nice Doms saying nice things - and then I was hooked.

The only thing I am yet to find is the exit door...it has to be here somewhere.....

cariad

[gagged_Louise]

The only thing I am yet to find is the exit door...it has to be here somewhere.....

cariad

I've heard they hid that door behind a locker full of whips and paddles. Never found it either...

[Uncle_Ed]

Oh, I know why I joined - Uncle Ed nagged; bullied; put my arm behind my back and marched me in screaming for mercy. And then he threatened me with rhubarb stick insisted that I came back for more.

Aww...you say the nicest things, angel...*grins-teeth gleaming*

[Sheilu]

I joined because I know what I'm doing for half of the time... The other half, I know what I'm doing for a fourth of the time. :horny:

[Noontide]

I joined because I know what I'm doing for half of the time... The other half, I know what I'm doing for a fourth of the time. :horny:

And so on Ad Infinitum.... :) though thats how i feel on a whole lotta days!!!

[sub-butterfly]

:) Hi, I joined this forum because I am very new to this and wanted to get some help and advice on doing the right thing for my partner. He is my boyfriend as well as my Dom and we also are currently living together but not in a 24/7 relationship. I would like some advice from other subs on their experiences of their fall.

Thanks

Butterfly

[Austerus]

*gasp* A thread I haven't posted in?

*stomp stomp stomping mud into the nice carpet*

I joined the forum because it's been too long since I have been involved with a BDSM community outside the tiny tiny one that exists inside my house and the large, twisted one that exists inside my head. I missed the warmth and humor and sense of community of the types that would make my older, more conservative relatives faint and/or disown me.

I also decided to start flinging words to page like a monkey slinging poop, and it's always nice to have an audience who is willing to point and laugh at the silly monkey.

[Logic1]

:) Hi, I joined this forum because I am very new to this and wanted to get some help and advice on doing the right thing for my partner. He is my boyfriend as well as my Dom and we also are currently living together but not in a 24/7 relationship. I would like some advice from other subs on their experiences of their fall.

Thanks

Butterfly
much welcome here butterfly.
fall of the subs lol :)
I would rather call it their rise into joyous events

[painspleasure]

hi

i joined this site (only yesterday) as i am newly into a M/s relationship and wanted somewhere where i felt comfortable talking or listening to people who are also involved, somewhere where i wont be judged.

i hope as my confidence improves to post to the forums on a regular basis, i may not have a wealth of experience but its always interesting to hear others opinions.

tori

[White Rabbit]

I am just entering into the BDSM scene, though I've been playing privately for a few months. I'd love to learn more from experienced people; what works, what doesn't. Maybe find someone in my area to get a coffee with or something (I'm not for sale though, currently owned by The Tigress). I'm excited to experiment with just about anything, the world awaits!

[princess_of_pain]

Welcome painspleasure & White Rabbit. :wave:

I kind of feel that this place is the virtual, BDSM version of Hotel California:

You can check out any time you like
But you can never leave

Of course I mean that in the best possible way. :)

[crazy_grrluk]

well what can I say??? I am disappointed with myself for not posting here and here I am almost at the 20k mark... bad bad cg *hangs my head low*

I have been in this lifestyle that we all love and cherish for 10 years real time now. Only seems like yesterday I discovered why i was "different"
I joined this forum to learn...to read about other peoples experiances...to offer help as and when needed and also to share my own experiances.
I am slave to my Master Sadistic1.

hello and a big welcome to everyone who has joined this wonderful lil community

cg

[denboy]

And what keeps you coming back?

These are two questions that I would like a response to. As I am going thru member profiles to check on birthdates I am noticing a lot of what I call one day wonders---people who join for one day and never return. So I am on a quest to find out why some members do this while other do not.

Maybe thru member input we can make this a more friendly place to new members.


Thanks

:ra

hi
I think some are unsure ,that to let others know that they are into kinky things ,they like reading the stories and as it been said are shy hoping that they can communicate at a later date.
this is my first time expressing myself about my submissiveness to anyone,but I hope to open out more in time and make friends at the same time,but who knows...

[angelic.zest]

welcome to everyone!

[seriouslynosn]

I joined this forum a year ago in the hopes of finding a Dom for me to aggravate (only the way S/He would like of course). Then I disappeared for a while due to some hardships in my life. I lost interest in everything I enjoyed (even sex!). My first return was after my ex and I got back together. I was hoping to morph him into some sort of Dom that he isn't. Of course, that didn't work very well.

Well, now I'm back. I'm still with my nonDom boyfriend, but I'm learning slowly what it was that drew me to him. He might be a bit vanilla in bed (although he loves to bite, scratch, and squeeze) and it bothered me for a while. Until I realized that the initial thing I enjoyed about him was his calm, his dignity, and his way of making me feel safe. He doesn't exactly understand the world of bdsm, but I'm willing to live this version.

And so here I am, enjoying the relationship I have for what it is. But I also realize there are things being unfulfilled. I feel I can get the support I need with this group.

And so I'm back!

A little about me: I love to go on and on about myself. There's a link to my blog in my profile that will prove it. I consider myself to be The Supreme Ruler of all the land (only to be knocked off my pedestal whenever my love deems fit). I'm always up for a chat, but I have been conditioned to not speak until spoken to. If you expect to chat with me you have to let me know.

Some say that I'm smart. I'm not sure that I believe them, but I am currently working on my PhD at the University of Washington for computational chemistry. I like long ridiculously difficult math problems only done via computer coded calculation programs.

I enjoy politics, music, movies, reading, writing, math, logic puzzles, painting, sewing, cooking, and sex. I'm going through hobby withdrawal since I just moved to Seattle with my Man in my tiny Saturn and three cats. There was not much room for much more than the computers and some clothes.

I can't spell to save my life. I have already fixed about fifty errors Mozilla is nice enough to point out for me. I'm always hot, unless it is cold. Then I'm freezing. I love fresh tea, especially rose bud. You can use it as a bath perfume as well!

I guess that's enough.....sorry about the long winded post. I told you I love to go on and on!

[princess_of_pain]

:wave: Welcome back seriouslynosn! So glad you decided to return.


Some say that I'm smart. I'm not sure that I believe them, but I am currently working on my PhD at the University of Washington for computational chemistry. I like long ridiculously difficult math problems only done via computer coded calculation programs.

:eek: Holy cow, that qualifies as "smart" in my book!


I enjoy politics, music, movies, reading, writing, math, logic puzzles, painting, sewing, cooking, and sex. I'm going through hobby withdrawal since I just moved to Seattle with my Man in my tiny Saturn and three cats. There was not much room for much more than the computers and some clothes.

You've come to the right place when it comes to political discussions & sex! :rolleyes:

Lucky duck, gettin' to live in Seattle--provided you actually want to live there, of course. :) I bet you just need a little time and you'll find your groove. Can't wait the "hear" more from ya!

[serpentouflard]

Hi guys,
I join this forum because I like everything about bdsm

I'll try to share some good links with you

cheers

[rach]

I joined the forum about 2.5 years ago because as I wanted to learn about something I realised I needed in my life- but wasn't really sure exactly what I was looking for. I found far more than I had hoped for and have had a much more fulfilling time here than I ever expected when I first joined!

[KateHeld]

The erotically captivating stories led me here at first. I'm trying to explore the site as I go along. Another reason was to play online with other women. I'm a submissive so I'd love to be their snatched little slave. I can be a painslut's toy or a domme's pet. Doesn't matter, but the idea of being bound, gagged, blindfolded and being reduced to a toy by another female makes me feel tingly inside. There's a slight embarrasement to it but it also adds to the tingly feeling.

[NikkiKat]

Honestly, I typed in a search for "BDSM Chatrooms" and this site was one of the first results. Ever since I've lost contact with my D/s friends, I've felt disconnected with a part of my life.

In order to feel more connected with the lifestyle, I searched for a chatroom, and it seems I've found a forum as well!

It is already obvious to me that I will not be a "one day wonder." From the rules of the forum to the everyday conversations, this is my kind of place.

-Nikki

[Chromie]

I just joined the site today and am already pleased that I have. I am new to the lifestyle and am looking to learn more and be able to serve my Master properly. I am not for sale, I belong to Master John. He is quite pleased with me already for wanting to learn more. I do hope to make some wonderful friends along the way.

[deva]

why did i join in and why would i stay in the story?
well, well, well... as the poet would say.
getting older means less exitment on ordinary things. having had (only ) two s/m relationships, and holding the souvenir dear, i feel it's time to come back in a space which was not only unnecessary at the time but also a bit scary
"it's just that demon life which hold us in it's sway".
in other words, ordinary sex got boring and before leaving the story alone, it's time to explore a bit more of the poetic.
bowing to you, deva

[pstpat]

First of all, thank you for the happy birthday I received from you.

The questions you ask,for some maybe a simple answer. I am, lets just say 40ish, and have been married for 17 years. "Vanilla" sex holds no excitment. But trying to figure out where you want to be is another whole story. I have a good job that I have a lot of control over a lot of people, but would like, no maybe the word for it is "need" to let someone else take control every so often. My husband would be more than happy to let me take control of our sex life or take control himself. He is up for anything as long as sex is involved. As far as submission, I think maybe the idea of it has more appeal to me the actually submitting. So some of us out here are just looking to change.

[segelgirl]

I joined because I have a lot of questions and had no where to go for answers. I thought that talking to others more experienced in this lifestyle that until now I have only fantasized about would help me decide where to go from here. I guess I'll keep coming back until all my questions are answered.

[~faerie~]

I have been interested for a while and did some experimenting with a long time partner. Which unfortunately didn't work out, and we are no longer together. I'm just looking to meet some new people and learn a little bit more about what I want and how to blend it into the life I have.

[deva]

hello, a new member, and a bit why.
male, white, french, post graduate in demography, sociology and litterature.
in other words a lucky amateur who managed to spend over 30 years out of europe, mainly in india where i spent 25 years of my life.
what a freedom! mostly in goa, of course and 11 years with the sex guru osho (rajneesh) learning meditation his way.
i have a poor experience of bdsm, only two relationships this way. a lot to learn.
back in france, teaching tai-chi and organising parties,(trance) i feel older and less and less captivated by straight sex. time to move on.
well, enough for today, deva

[Thestral]

I needed a place to "get away from it all". Take my hair down, go barefoot, read, talk, enjoy about a part of my life I only discovered a few years ago.

I do have a Dom, (a lovely one, too but He's not here...yet), and have had the rare opportunity to switch.

I like what I see and hope to get to know you, or as many of you as is reasonable, very well.

[biluriess]

I'm looking for ways to explore my desires. I've been into self-bondage as long as I can remember. I switch and like both genders, but am not social enough to actually find partners. As the chat rooms are shut down, I need to find new places to get ideas.

[Isabelle90]

I really searched myself before I posted on this thread. I've been "circling" this lifestyle choice for almost 10 years. Unsure what to do, I tried to hide my thoughts and feelings from EVERYONE. Almost a year ago I read a book that involved the BDSM lifestyle and I once again found myself craving it more than ever. Yeah! for the Internet. I did some research and found this site. I began circling it as well, until I finally joined.

Yeah, again, for the people on this site. It's so nice to find a community of real people that share the same thoughts and feelings....Some get the reality too!!!

Also, because it is a REAL community, it includes topics outside the realm of BDSM. It all helps to form connections and make others (me) feel more comfortable in the decision to open up and be a part of it all.

[Tufty]

Hello :wave:

I was originally looking for some FemDom stories and found this website. For as long as I can remember, I've been turned on by those 'Sadistic Dommes' - even as a teenager, I'd beg/borrow/buy FemDom magazines. I like the BDSM things generally.

As I started to look around the website, it became a lot more intriguing. I'd had one amazing FemDom experience so decided to write about it and share it.

I'm not really one for Internet chat rooms etc but this place looks a bit different from the others.

I keep coming back because I want to read new BDSM/FemDom stories and find out what other people think about the subject. I'm not a 'lifestyle' player in the true sense but I have some amazing fantasies which, sadly, are just dreams...but we can all dream, can't we? :)

[psg76]

I joined the forum about a month ago to learn about BDSM as my husband/Master are new to it. I have been lurking but have read a lot of posts and learned a lot. Everyone here seems to be really helpful and friendly and that's why I am still here; even if I haven't asked a lot of questions it's because you all have done such a great job of answering them already in previus posts. So I'll go back to lurking for awhile because I'm still so new, but I will eventually speak up and try not to be shy!

[ladychipmunk]

I found the site searching for stories to read. Found the writer's garret and joined. I love the feedback and I think it's helping me to stretch myself from reading into writing.

Thanks Muse et al

[jep33]

I have been writing stories for a few years under the name JEP. All of the situations in them are created from my imagination - not from first-hand experience. I am sure that some of my stories are a bit off the mark due to a lack of real-world knowledge. I came to the forum in anticipation of reading about those who have actually participated.
JEP33

[Avicularia]

I found this site by accident on a google search for photos and such related to BDSM, started reading the stories and never realized there was a forum until, well...a week ago. I just really like that I've found a site where I can meet others with my same interests.

[Wedjat]

I suppose everyone's story is different but this is mine. I've had submissive fantasies on and off for years (dating back to my first kiss, shoved back against the shelves in a band practice room. I still think fondly of that practice room *sigh*)

I was separated for about 3 years and then widowed over a year ago. I was just beginning to date again as a single adult but with a teenager in the house - it's a whole new ball game. I'm over 50, but still in pretty good shape and I figured out that if I was to ever act on my fantasies I'd better do so now. I started out chatting online on another site, and have made some very good friends there.

They post pictures of new members, and I saw one pic of a very attractive man. I read his profile, but didn't think there was much chance of getting to know him since he lived 1000 miles away. He could see that I had checked out his profile, and apparently then read MY profile. He messaged me back saying that I seemed like an "amazing woman". THAT got my attention : ) He was very up front that he was very involved in the BDSM life and might scare me off. Well, he didn't. We started corresponding and he told me about this site. I've learned a lot. I lurked for a bit, but I've started posting some comments and have gotten very positive comments. My friend and I would now like to meet some time, and he's got me intrigued about a lifestyle I hadn't even really considered before. Wish us luck.

[daddiesgirl16]

:crawlgirl I am glad to be able to have access to such a wide variety of information
to research and learn and share with others. I have been interested in submission for a very long time and wish to keep learning more so that it will possibly enhance my service for my master. I am living the life I've dreamed of for years. I only want to live it to the fullest now! :crop:

[daddiesgirl16]

I joined this forum because I wanted to try and learn as much as possible about the D&S lifestyle. I love that there are so many things to offer new insights and ideas involved with D&S. It's good to be allowed access to the differing opinions and aspects of this lifestyle. I wanted to meet like-minded people and converse with those that have simular desires also.

[orangeblossoms]

Because unfortunetly even though Im completely open about the kind of things Im into its hard to find people in real life who are into the same thing, how would one of those conversations even get started in real life???!!! Plus where else can you find a thread about deepthroating and ask another sub if she likes getting beaten as much as you do. Enjoy!

[Widget]

Welcome to the forums and have fun here

[Dick Tickles]

Hello and welcome to all the new members!! Those that i have missed in the past, i do appologize and extend an EXTRA DEEP HELLO AND I"M SORRY!!! I hope you find all that you are lookingfor and meet new people here!

I will keep up here in the future!!

[Playfulsub]

I initially found this site after googling bdsm erotic. Since I've started writing it, I've been looking for publishers for this genre. Then I found the stories, and that was all she wrote, so to speak. ;-) I decided to join the forum to have some interaction with like-minded folks. This is one of the friendliest, most helpful, and non-cliquesh forums I've ever experienced. Everyone is so down to earth and real, which is rare in bdsm forums, in my experience.

Also, since my husband of 12 years is discovering his dominant side as I discover my submissive side (what a great coincidence!), it's proving to be a very helpful site as we explore our new life together.

[SandmanII]

Well.. as you can see from my join date and this being my first post in the forums, I'm someone who joined and then wondered away. In my defense I don't think I was in the right place, personally, to get much or contribute here. I'm here because I now think I am and hope to learn much from the many here that are more experienced than me.

[jeanne]

Welcome back!

[itarilde {Master KHL}]

...Morbid curiosity.

[maidjoanna]

I .am a submisive french maid working for Mywife/Mistress CEDWEN
Found this site surfing. My Mistress gave me permision to become a member

I have also submited my true age.

blessings

[redlegtiger]

I Joined this forum so I could respond to fans of my stories, Karen and Michelle's Sad Story and Cynthia Palmer's New Life. I look forward to corresponding with you fans. Sorry it has taken so long to get on the forum.

[likes_it_rough]

found this site awhile back like it so I want join so i did

[sexysubbie]

hello everybody

[annie]

Great to have you all here! WELCOME!

[d_domus]

And what keeps you coming back?

These are two questions that I would like a response to. As I am going thru member profiles to check on birthdates I am noticing a lot of what I call one day wonders---people who join for one day and never return. So I am on a quest to find out why some members do this while other do not.

Maybe thru member input we can make this a more friendly place to new members.


Thanks

:ra
Hi Rabbit,

Why, because I am a BDSM fan and your histories are good.
What can keep me coming, a lot of friendly people in the chats and eventually someone special to intimate.

[Juan Baca]

I'm obviously too late technically to be a one-day wonder, but I don't really expect to be making any posts here other than this one, nor will I probably be visiting here particularly regularly, so I figured I'd write this. I joined because I'm into stories featuring sexual violence, rape, and sex slavery, and, while I'm not at all interested in BDSM, it just so happened that bdsmlibrary has a great deal of stories which match my tastes. So when I began to wonder about what these tastes may imply about me as an individual, I first checked out the literotica forums for discussions along the lines of what I was thinking about, and upon finding them too prudish, I came here, since it was stories found here which got me thinking in the first place. I was however turned off upon finding that the forum has less to do with the content of bdsmlibrary than I expected and more to do with the BDSM community. Given that the community is into the whole "SSC" thing, whereas I like stories which almost exclusively fall into the realm of unsafe/insane/nonconsensual and are only marginally related to BDSM, I concluded that this place probably isn't the best fit for me after all.

[d_domus]

I also find a kind of mismatch between the stories and the forums, chat,..., culture of the site.

[JCorey]

Big fan of this site for years and beginning to experiment in a personal relationship and just curious about the opinions and expericences of other newbies.

[LordGrizzly]

I joined because I was looking for a place BDSM oriented, but not so strictly formal as to not allow a few laughs. I find that the Lifestyle online can be a bit too formal, though prople in r/l groups are often as funny as they are Dedicated to the Lifestyle...This forum seems to fit the bill pretty well.

Thank you

[annie]

Great to have you all here! Join in the fun... as LG has found, we are fairly laid back for the most part!

If there are questions let me know! WELCOME!

[Joshsass]

The reason i joined was to learn. i also was told that you guys have some really cool members. so figured i would come say hi.

[mybondage]

I joined because it seems like one of the saner, most inclusive bdsm communities on the internet. BDSM is one of those "niche" things that I don't get to experience at the moment in my everyday life. Ya'll provide a moment of sanity, believe it or not, where I can be free to be very much myself in a world that usually looks at me askance and with wide, grossed out eyes when I even hint that BDSM-y things interest me, turn me on, or intrigue me.

So that's why I joined. :) Why I STAY could be something completely different!

[dream_evil]

I joined because I had an upbringing that really, really doesn't match the kind of personality I have, especially in the bedroom, so joining to chat and such is a way to get the kinks out, so to speak. Cheaper than therapy! lol

Actually, that's only part of it. Another reason why I'm here is because I love to write, and wanted to explore that here. So hi, everybody.

[sweetlady]

I am new to this site, found it while looking for D/s erotica. I have read and enjoyed quite a few stories :)
I am new to forums and chatting, and find responding to be a little intimidating, but I am intrigued so I keep coming back.
I have been welcomed personally by a couple of members, that has been a key factor in my deciding to return. The welcome wagon was unexpected, but very appreciated!
i look forward of getting know more of the folks here.
sweetlady

[emmelessa]

I started out just reading the stories. I love to read and found there just wasn't enough of what I wanted in most of the books you buy at the local bookstore. On this site however I kept finding things that turned me on.

I kept coming back because I was finally around people who wouldn't think I was a freak considering what turns me on. Plus there is always something around here that gets me hot!!!

[tina2008]

I joined this forum and have kept coming back as I'd read quite a few of the posts and I could see the kindness displayed when questions were asked. I have an account with another site and there have been times where I've wanted to ask questions or respond to a post, however, I didn't as some of the more "seasoned" lifestyle folks were often rude or ridiculed an honest question. I haven't seen that here and it's very refreshing. You guys are great.

[pyrogirl]

I joined this forum and have kept coming back as I'd read quite a few of the posts and I could see the kindness displayed when questions were asked. I have an account with another site and there have been times where I've wanted to ask questions or respond to a post, however, I didn't as some of the more "seasoned" lifestyle folks were often rude or ridiculed an honest question. I haven't seen that here and it's very refreshing. You guys are great.

Tina, I kept coming back for the same reason, this is the most welcoming site on the web. The people here are great and several I now proudly call my friends. Welcome!!

[Baby Girl Scarlet]

I joined because it looked like an interesting site with interesting people. I do not get to spend much time on here right now but hope to be able to catch up on the reading, and eventually contribute to the threads. I have spent some time looking around the site and enjoy what I have seen so that is why I keep coming back.

[daddysls]

I am quite new here, just a couple of days.
Why did I join?
I am Daddy’s Little Slut, as my name states, but Daddy is often far away, involved in his projects and pursuits and I get bored. He encourages me to play, would love to have me find some safe playmates nearby, but I am nervous about physical safety and first meetings. As a compromise, I decided to find some cyber friends and maybe a cyber Daddy/Dom to play with before jumping into a “real” play date. While looking for such opportunities, I came across this forum and decided to stay and visit. You all seem quite friendly and open. I like to talk to others, both subs and Dom/mes about what they like, what they don’t and how I can improve my own experiences.

Some of the hardcore call me a dilettante, but as I have been a Daddy’s girl for many years, I laugh when they try to make light of my feelings or experiences. I love being dominated but not humiliated. I want a Daddy or Sir, but not Master. I love light pain, heavy spanking, love the crop, adore anal sex, giving oral sex, light bondage, blindfolds but never gags. Basically, I love whatever Daddy wants me to.

[drummerbabe]

I joined because I love this lifestyle and I’ve lurked here for more than two years not really having the time to participate. Now I have a little more time I want to spend it with likeminded people and this site is the best there is for this sort of thing.

What keeps me coming back is the friends I’ve already made here. They are non judgemental people who don’t make you feel like an outsider. Thanks for making me feel welcome.

[delish]

I was one of the people who popped in for a week or so and then vanished. I came back because... well, I found a forum that I love, but where I don't feel comfortable discussing this aspect of my life. It made me realize that I do enjoy this medium again (and it's taken a lot of time) and that I need someplace to stretch my legs out, so to speak. It's entirely possible that I'll flake out and forget to check in for a time again, but for now, I am really enjoying being here. I love the feel of community, and I'm looking forward to being a part of it.

[Iphaedran]

I became a member of the Library and the Academy because I want to learn about and explore not only my ingrained role as a dominant but also the sublime state of submission from the submissives who are courageous enough to lay their emotions and their souls bare to the rest of us. This is a gift I value highly and I will endeavor never to take it for granted.

I've enjoyed wandering through the forums and being exposed to different ideas and viewpoints. I expect to participate more fully as time allows. I'm especially interested in developing my writing style and look forward to participating in the Writers Block. I love reading the stories in the Library!

A genuine need to explore my own boundaries brought me to the internet to research the BDSM lifestyle about three years ago. This is the only site, besides BDSM Cafe, that I regularly returned to for more information. I decided that I needed to participate in order to learn more about dominance and submission - reading is fun, but 'book-learning' only gets one so far.

:)

Phaedra

[Borgs_slave]

Well I just joined but I joined because I am tired of the flame wars and personal attacks that go on on other sites. I like to discuss things and see other points of view, not argue and fight.

[dewran59]

I join to have a look and to see what bdsm do as i am not familiar with it. Now i am grateful that i join the site. I am learning and exploring beyond my fantasy and finding out what really fetish i desire and also people are good . I deeply thanx ukslave for getting me interested in ...

[steelish]

Why did I join this forum?

Because after lurking in the shadows for six months or so as an observer, I felt like I had found an online home with a group of like-minded people.


What keeps you coming back?

Well, since my husband is rather vanilla, I return here to satisfy (as much as I can) the cravings I have for BDSM and it's lifestyle.

[lucy]

Why did you join this Forum?
My Master told me i should post the stories i wrote. So i did and i more or less accidentally clicked on the link to the forum and saw that there is a lot to learn here. And also very nice people.

And what keeps you coming back?
Because i feel welcome, because of being a taskee where i learn a lot and of course for the roleplaying.