Feedback from new subs?

[Tojo]

It would be nice to hear back from a few more subs new to the lifestyle.

How it's going? What's good or bad? Are we supportive enough & not too overbearing?

I often wonder what happens to the ones we answer questions from & wonder if they're OK.

Have you found that perfect Dom/me?

I for one really appreciate the thanks I get- you guys are all special. Remember without subs, being a Dom would be pretty damn pointless.... :wel


Tojo

[Tojo]

I'm waiting......

[chattel69]

I'm not new but I will give you my feedback

How it's going? What's good or bad? Are we supportive enough & not too overbearing?
Overbearing is good for some of us. I'm looking for someone who is willing and able to take complete control and not afraid to assert his authority

Have you found that perfect Dom/me?
I am talking with a gentlemen now, we have been together for 6 months so it seems to be going well.

I enjoy coming here and seeing all the different points of view.

[katie_21]

oh geez Tojo, I really don't know what to say lol

As far as I know, I think the site is great for asking questions and getting ideas :) Not to mention the wonderful stories on here. I've only came in contact with a few weirdos, but they mainly stay in the chatroom.

And I do believe I have found a perfect Master, I'm enjoying it....but I guess you already know that huh?

[Tojo]

Thanks for that guys, yes we do seem to have something special katie. Real special. :)


I just notice that a few subs come to the forum & introduce themselves, then we never seem to hear from them.

Tojo

[Silke]

Tojo -

yes, I've noticed that, too! People come in, wave hello, ask a question or introduce themselves and then either go back to hiding or disappear completely. I seriously hope we don't scare them off somehow...;)

So, to everyone out there - there's no right or wrong thing to say, no question too weird to ask...we really love to hear from you! The more the merrier. :)

Thanks Tojo for bringing this up - I love the topic and I really hope you'll get tons of feedback! :)

[vistana]

well, I guess I'll throw my 2 cents in here.

I've been hanging around this site for quite a while, longer than most of you guys actually! I just tend to not talk that much, most questions I'd have get answered before I think to ask them :)
i'd still call myself a new sub though, as i've only been actually doing anything BDSM related for the past 6 months or so, and that infrequently.

I'm far from finding a perfect Dom, I've got a good friend with a sadistic/dominant side I've managed to coax out and I play with him, but he'll never be a real Dom for me. He's great and i'm having an excellent time with him, but i'd never call him my Dom. the biggest problem being that he likes to switch while it's very rare for me to have any desire at all to do so.

I love this site and the people on it, I keep learning a lot even if I rarely speak up and say so.

[virginpussy]

HOLY CRAP! I just joined this forum today cause I thought I would have access to more of the stories! You people are really doing that sub/dom stuff???!!! WTF??!!!

[KermitsKeeper]

Tojo, I was only allowed to post if Master Evan permitted it, so there were many times I would have said something, but couldn't reach him for permission. Since the start of his study break he has not restricted me in that way, so I've been more free to write (I like being able to talk to all of you, so I hope that it continues!). Anyway, this type of restriction could be happening with other subs....

[Silke]

I was only allowed to post if Master Evan permitted it, so there were many times I would have said something, but couldn't reach him for permission.

Oh my GOD....that would really kill me! What did you do to deserve that I wonder?

[Tojo]

HOLY CRAP! I just joined this forum today cause I thought I would have access to more of the stories! You people are really doing that sub/dom stuff???!!! WTF??!!!


Hi & welcome virginpussy, thanks for introducing yourself.

Yes I believe people really do such things, to varying degrees of course. My involvement is mostly online, as I'm happily married. I do hope to meet a young lady for some intensive play though. I've played with my wife a little over the years, but she sure as heck ain't a true sub.

It may seem bizarre, but remember we're not all into cattle prods & bullwhips. My idea of punishment is to say I'm disappointed in one of my girls.

We're all different, if you choose to experiment you need to find someone to do it at your own pace & not rush you. Enjoy.

Tojo

[Aesop]

It may seem bizarre, but remember we're not all into cattle prods & bullwhips.

Don't go bad-mouthing cattle prods and bullwhips! ;)

[Mistress M]

Hello Tojo:

I'm new here as you know and I'm not any kind of expert on D/s, but I'm surprised that the obvious questions have not been asked of new subs.

For instance:


What do you expect from a dom? It is a power exchange.
Do you know what a hard and a soft limit is? Do you know what to do in case you are asked to do something that is a hard limit?
If you currently have a dom, do you feel there is a safety net when he/she asks you to do something that pushes your limits?
Do you feel comfortable enough to ask these questions without fear of being judged?


If you don't know the answers to the above questions, then it should be food for thought. Doms don't have a handbook and neither do subbies, but resources are available. When in doubt 'ask.'

[Tojo]

Don't go bad-mouthing cattle prods and bullwhips!

Oh you beast Aesop!

Thanks for that Mistress M- some excellent points to remember.
We do have a lot of info in the 'Knowledge' section, for new people- and those just wishing to learn more.


Tojo, I was only allowed to post if Master Evan permitted it

Thanks for that Kate, a very good point I had forgotten about. Just goes to show how different we all are.

:ty


Tojo

[Tojo]

Ah found it!

In the 'Personals' section on this forum is a thread 'The Acid Test' which has a ton of info for new subs- or old ones...

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=3647

Hard work to read the whole thing, but if you browse through it, just about everything is there.
Also good for Doms to read. :noprobs:

Tojo

[Weena]

I have been "lurking" for awhile now. I really like this forum. All the people here seem friendly and knowledgeable. I have been learning a lot. Most of my questions get answered before I post. Thanks to the plethora of knowledge here. I find myself visiting here everyday. Thanks to everyone, who has posted. ~weena~

[Evan_]

Kate. Post here, address the issue to your heart's desire. Feel free to leave responses and answer questions between the time you read this and 72 hours forward. ;)

No, Tojo, this isn't punishment. This is control. As she earns it, she may get more freedom, but since my time is freed up now, she may only do as she is told, once again. She's struggling, but I'm proud of how mush shorter it takes her to "see things my way" these days. If you ask nicely, she may share the Great Restriction I put upon her today. ;)

HUG for Kate. :)

[Tojo]

No, Tojo, this isn't punishment

Don't think I said it was Evan? I sure don't see it as a punishment.

One of my girls has to go for a walk each week now- I think she sees that as a punishment......

Tojo

[katie_21]

walking a punishment?? No way!! lol

Geez, I'm obsessed huh? :) I'm up to 3 miles a day now hehe.

[Silke]

Kate. Post here, address the issue to your heart's desire. Feel free to leave responses and answer questions between the time you read this and 72 hours forward. ;)

No, Tojo, this isn't punishment. This is control. As she earns it, she may get more freedom, but since my time is freed up now, she may only do as she is told, once again. She's struggling, but I'm proud of how mush shorter it takes her to "see things my way" these days. If you ask nicely, she may share the Great Restriction I put upon her today. ;)

HUG for Kate. :)

I think it was me who thought it was punishment, Evan. ;) And believe me, for me it would feel like it, lol

I do understand you idea behind it, though...just wouldn't like it for myself. *grins*

[maddie]

What do you expect from a dom? It is a power exchange.
Do you know what a hard and a soft limit is? Do you know what to do in case you are asked to do something that is a hard limit?
If you currently have a dom, do you feel there is a safety net when he/she asks you to do something that pushes your limits?
Do you feel comfortable enough to ask these questions without fear of being judged?


These are interesting questions. I'm not a 24/7 sub and never could be (just doesn't float my boat, nor does it interest my husband), so my answers would probably be very different from those who are.

When we're in a scene, I expect him to control me, but not tell me to do something he knows that I won't enjoy or be comfortable doing. He knows my limits; I've made sure of that. And we have our safeword, which he respects.

Honestly, I think the one problem we have is that, right now, he's having trouble keeping up with me. We're in our late 30s/early 40s and he's starting to slow down some while I'm definitely more interested than ever. I'm trying to guide him some, which I think is a perfectly legitimate thing for a good sub to do, not to mention a good partner. He loses momentum, creativity, and aggression after he has an orgasm, which frustrates me to no end. There are times when I'd be happy to "play" all day, so I'm trying to get ideas for him of what he can do in his "down times", for lack of a better term.

[Mistress M]

He loses momentum, creativity, and aggression after he has an orgasm, which frustrates me to no end.

It takes a lot of time and patience to adjust to the different levels of D/s you are both willing/desiring to engage in and you are not alone. Most couples rarely reach the same level of desire and method of engaging in it.

D/s isn't always about physical orgasm, that is why I understand your frustration. Some subs reach subspace on the mental rush of submission. Apparently your partner's goal is reaching physical orgasm when in the process of domming you. He should be paying careful attention to his sub at this critical level of play. He can catch up to his orgasm once you have reached 'that place.'

I hope you both engage in the all important 'aftercare.'


There are times when I'd be happy to "play" all day, so I'm trying to get ideas for him of what he can do in his "down times", for lack of a better term.

I don't know how much of a newbie you are, because D/s is an ongoing learning experience. If you haven't checked already, look for a thread on tasks. You may already know about the purpose of tasks, in your case, it should help you 'play' all day. If he cannot decide or choose one for you, task yourself and offer it to him. :whip2:

Good luck in your journey.

[KermitsKeeper]

I think it was me who thought it was punishment, Evan. ;) And believe me, for me it would feel like it, lol

I do understand you idea behind it, though...just wouldn't like it for myself. *grins*

I don't really care for the restriction (which is back on shortly). :( However, I hated it even more when Master Evan was taking a study break (although I totally understood why and supported it) so I would rather be restricted than "alone." Happily, I am not alone any more! :woohoo:

[Silke]

I don't really care for the restriction (which is back on shortly). However, I hated it even more when Master Evan was taking a study break (although I totally understood why and supported it) so I would rather be restricted than "alone." Happily, I am not alone any more!

Oh, yes...I understand that and I'm glad that the time alone for you is over. :)

Hope you'll earn a lot of exceptions to the posting restriction, though...we'll miss you otherwise! ;)

[KermitsKeeper]

Thanks! Know that even if I am not writing, I am here reading and thinking of you all. I am so happy Master Evan brought me here! This is an outstanding community of caring people, and I feel very at home in it. :)

[maddie]

I don't know how much of a newbie you are, because D/s is an ongoing learning experience. If you haven't checked already, look for a thread on tasks. You may already know about the purpose of tasks, in your case, it should help you 'play' all day. If he cannot decide or choose one for you, task yourself and offer it to him.

Thanks for the advice, Mistress M. He does seem to respond nicely if I offer suggestions, and we did talk recently about how he loses the scene after orgasm. He was open to suggestion, particularly if it got him back "in the mood", so there's hope for me yet.

We're not exactly newbies to this, but I'm hoping to move beyond the little bits that we've tried. I know that patience is a virtue and will be rewarded, so I'm trying to not to push him too much to go past his limits, just as much as I hope that he wouldn't do that to me.

The task idea is particularly appealing. I'm going to go look for that now.

[Tojo]

This may seem like a silly question Maddie, but re your 'losing interest after an orgasm' question- couldn't he just wait? Until the end of the scene I mean.

Just my thoughts- I kinda thought being a Dom was about control, not just of one's sub.

Don't take the question too seriously, I'm faaaaar from being an expert.

(BTW- I love your avatar & your sig, Weena.)

Tojo

[maddie]

No worries, Tojo. We're just starting to explore this more. Extending the time of a scene is something that's definitely on my list of things to work on. I'm hoping to lead him toward taking his role as my Dom a little more seriously and exploring the whole control/self-control thing more. I'm trying to be careful, though, because I'm starting to sense that he feels like I'm pushing a little more than he'd like.

In a sense, I kind of feel like I'm controlling the whole thing right now, which is a little odd, because I'm most definitely a sub. But I tend to think that being a sub, being able to give over like that to another person in a consensual relationship, is the ultimate form of control. I say who gets to control me and who doesn't and what they get to do.

Anyway. I'm hoping that he'll start taking the reins a little more over time. Good things come to those who wait. :-)

[Tojo]

To my mind giving control to someone is certainly the ultimate power. I don't see anything odd about the sub being ultimately in control, especially in the early stages of a relationship. After all you'll be the one hurt/upset/scared or whatever if things go wrong.

One of the reasons it worked so well with katie was the way she let me know how she was, what was OK & what wasn't.

How else was I supposed to know?

Thanks for that Maddie, good to hear how it's going from a few subs- I just might learn something....

Dare I say we all might?? :)

Tojo

[Warbaby1943]

Tojo,

Thanks for the link although it was mostly for females. I do have to take exception to one quote and maybe I should have done so in that post but I think it is apropos here also.

Quote: "I'm Married, my wife can't know about us"
If I have to explain this one too you, you've got problems. I have played
with many married submissives in my time, but ONLY with the express permission (and more often than not, participation) of their husbands. Safe D/s requires complete honesty.

You can't build a good Scene on lies. There are plenty of people that will
be willing to tell you differently; but please note, they will all turn out to be
adulterers (and hence, liars) themselves." End quote.

What I disagree with is that I am not an adulterer and have gone to great lengths to assure that I remain that way. I am a liar by omission due to the fact that I can't and won't tell my wife but I am up front with whomever I talk to about this BDSM stuff. If known up front then the scene, I believe, is not being built on lies, at least not to the participants. See it is probably best I stick with paid professionals. That way there is no long term commitment to think about.

I wasn't going to post in this thread because I have told my story in other parts of this forum. After following your link, I felt I had to chime in. If inappropriate please accept my apologies.

[Tojo]

Yeah geez did you read the whole thread Warbaby? I just had a bit of a look to be honest.

Tojo

[Warbaby1943]

Yeah geez did you read the whole thread Warbaby? I just had a bit of a look to be honest.

Tojo
Tojo,

Yeah I read the entire thread. Even followed the links it offered. I can't dispute most of what was said but, as stated earlier, I do not consider myself an adulterer for having visited a professional. I wonder how others feel about that statement. Maybe I'll start another thread with a question along those lines.

[Neil]

Well I'm new here, and you guys seem great. I've joined a couple of other BDSM sites in the past but they all seemed very cliquey, not too friendly to newbies and in some cases quite hostile to switches so I never ended up staying for long. I was pleased at the warm welcome I got here and feel that when I find my way around more I'll end up learning a hell of a lot, and making some good friends.



What do you expect from a dom? It is a power exchange.
Do you feel comfortable enough to ask these questions without fear of being judged?


I don't think I fully know what I expect as I'm not that experienced. I know I expect to be cared for, to be pushed to my limits but never over them, to be able to talk openly about everything and to retain some small level of choice. Beyond that I don't really know?

Yes. And to anyone who is fearful of being judged, remember; your own judgement is the most important.

[Warbaby1943]

Well I'm new here, and you guys seem great. I've joined a couple of other BDSM sites in the past but they all seemed very cliquey, not too friendly to newbies and in some cases quite hostile to switches so I never ended up staying for long. I was pleased at the warm welcome I got here and feel that when I find my way around more I'll end up learning a hell of a lot, and making some good friends.

I just recently joined and I also found these people very friendly and most helpful.

If you have questions which they can help you with, all you have to do is ask. Enjoy.

[frankee]

As a new sub, things are going great for me. That's not to say that there hasn't been a few hiccups along the way. For instance, one time W/we we're online chatting and my Domme asked me a question and i replied in a manner that was not pleasing to Her. She corrected me of course but when i hesitated to answer correctly again, She refused to speak to me and left Her computer for what seemd to me to be an eternity. At first, i sat there thinking, 'what just happened?' , then it dawned on me, i was being taught a lesson. i hate the silent treatment more than anything else (which i never told Her), but She knows me well enough, to know that would get my attention and give me a firm kick in the ass. lol
At times i know that i frustrate the hell out of Her and She does have Her hands full with me. i am very stubborn but She takes it all in stride and knows how to handle me. (but secretly i think She likes my fiestiness lol).
So, i am very grateful for Mistress' patience.
This Forum has been great and look forward to learning from all the experienced ones.
frankee

Proud sub of Mistress Cindy:rose:

[Warbaby1943]

frankee, I think you'll really like it here. It is a great place for like-minded people.:maniac:

[wkcbitch]

It would be nice to hear back from a few more subs new to the lifestyle.

How it's going? What's good or bad? Are we supportive enough & not too overbearing?

I often wonder what happens to the ones we answer questions from & wonder if they're OK.

Have you found that perfect Dom/me?

I for one really appreciate the thanks I get- you guys are all special. Remember without subs, being a Dom would be pretty damn pointless.... :wel


Tojo
First of all thank you for the inquary! I have only been a sub for a whild now and acutally have a hard time with submission. And I get in my punishment for it. You see though, I like getting the punishment and sometimes push buttons to get it. But then my master gets upset because I am trying his patients. I like to submit too but at times i feel alittle frisky!

No one has ever been too pushy or rude. I greatly like this place.....I feel comfortable here. And I agree if it weren't for subs...doms would have a lot of pent up aggression. LOL, which i adore!

;whip

[submissivewife]

. You see though, I like getting the punishment and sometimes push buttons to get it. I like to submit too but at times i feel alittle frisky!
;whip
I've see this on a few occasions....actually left her house on a few occasions because I knew she was in for it......*giggles* (should see the smile on her face later ;) )

[wkcbitch]

I've see this on a few occasions....actually left her house on a few occasions because I knew she was in for it......*giggles* (should see the smile on her face later ;) )

Master likes it too!! The smiles later that is. LOL!

[submissivewife]

Master likes it too!! The smiles later that is. LOL!

I bet he does! ;)

[wkcbitch]

I bet he does! ;)
LOL!

[bedlam_racin01]

i am a sub as well as new to the scene, i have done some bondage and punishment an sub mistress with a friend who has since moved away and have lost contact with her, i just found this site today and hop ei can be more active in the scen ethan i am now.


My name is cole and pm me anytime

cole

[submissivewife]

Welcome Cole (I just love that name). If you are seeking a Mistress post a personal...i'm sure you'll find some to interest you.

[Silke]

Hiya Cole and :wel to the forums. :)

[wkcbitch]

Welcome Cole! I am new too. I enjoy it here. EVERONE has been so pleasant and nice. Enjoy your stay here! (by the way my name is Kari)

[wkcbitch]

Welcome Cole (I just love that name). If you are seeking a Mistress post a personal...i'm sure you'll find some to interest you.


I want one too!:26:

[submissivewife]

I want one too!:26:

*giggles* if that is so sister dear, POST IT IN THE PERSONALS! But I think you are just being ornery!

[wkcbitch]

*giggles* if that is so sister dear, POST IT IN THE PERSONALS! But I think you are just being ornery!


It is a consideration though!! A pleasant thought...maybe I will be someones mistress someday.?

[Tojo]

Yeah well just look at subwife's avatar wkcbitch- you just never know what kind of evil persona you may end up with here.:eek:

Just remember to ask Master first....

Tojo

[wkcbitch]

Yeah well just look at subwife's avatar wkcbitch- you just never know what kind of evil persona you may end up with here.:eek:

Just remember to ask Master first....

Tojo


Ty Tojo...and I do have permission to have a mistress....and I do hope to end up with an "evil persona".

:whip2:

[Warbaby1943]

Ty Tojo...and I do have permission to have a mistress....and I do hope to end up with an "evil persona".

:whip2:
You go girl and good luck with your quest. Wow, I think I wish I had known you and your sister when I was much, much younger, I think I would have forgone my own submissive tendencies for twins like you two.

[submissivewife]

and I do hope to end up with an "evil persona".

:whip2:

end up? You are already there!

[wkcbitch]

You go girl and good luck with your quest. Wow, I think I wish I had known you and your sister when I was much, much younger, I think I would have forgone my own submissive tendencies for twins like you two.


TY! I am going to work on it.....guess I am discovering new things about me! Yeah!

[wkcbitch]

end up? You are already there!


Yea! So watch out BRAT!!!:whip2:

[dzire2pleeze]

I have yet to formally introduce myself, but - for over a month now - i have taken advantage of and enjoyed the information in the forums. Those that i have spoken to, mostly on technical issues, have graciously assisted me. Not once was i made to feel like the computer illiterate i am.
Having had only one dominant, i am relatively new at this. Nevertheless, I believe that i came to this life with a submissive spirit that lay dormant until my former dominant reached into the depths of my soul and defined me. For that I am grateful.
I am also appreciative of the dominant, who, in passing, referred me to this site. I have entertained myself with the stories and had great conversations with some (notice the word some) of the people in the chat room. Actually, most of the people. Not everyone can be perfect. ~smiling~ not even me.

Anyway, i suppose this is a formal introduction (albeit in the wrong place), but I wanted to let others know that I am here and now you are stuck with me. I will not disappear. The end.

dzire.

[submissivewife]

:welcomebo dzire2pleeze hope you enjoy....Thanks for your introduction. It's great when you have a mentor to help guide you along. For that I am eternally grateful to Sir for teaching me and being my friend. Enjoy!

[submissivewife]

Yea! So watch out BRAT!!!:whip2:


:nana:

[wkcbitch]

I have yet to formally introduce myself, but - for over a month now - i have taken advantage of and enjoyed the information in the forums. Those that i have spoken to, mostly on technical issues, have graciously assisted me. Not once was i made to feel like the computer illiterate i am.
Having had only one dominant, i am relatively new at this. Nevertheless, I believe that i came to this life with a submissive spirit that lay dormant until my former dominant reached into the depths of my soul and defined me. For that I am grateful.
I am also appreciative of the dominant, who, in passing, referred me to this site. I have entertained myself with the stories and had great conversations with some (notice the word some) of the people in the chat room. Actually, most of the people. Not everyone can be perfect. ~smiling~ not even me.

Anyway, i suppose this is a formal introduction (albeit in the wrong place), but I wanted to let others know that I am here and now you are stuck with me. I will not disappear. The end.

dzire.


Hello Dzire, I look forward to getting to know you. I to am new to this lifestyle...(sadly, I will mention we ended our relationship this morning) and feel I still have more to learn to. It is glad to meet you I hope you enjoy it here. Everyone is very pleasant. (just watch out for subwife:icon176: )

[Warbaby1943]

dzire2pleeze hi and :wel You'll enjoy it here. Glad to have you aboard.

[submissivewife]

Hello Dzire, I look forward to getting to know you. I to am new to this lifestyle...(sadly, I will mention we ended our relationship this morning) and feel I still have more to learn to. It is glad to meet you I hope you enjoy it here. Everyone is very pleasant. (just watch out for subwife:icon176: )

that's not nice to say about your sister!

[Warbaby1943]

...(sadly, I will mention we ended our relationship this morning) (just watch out for subwife:icon176: )
Sorry to hear about that. Twins, now you know you must not bicker.:span:

[wkcbitch]

Sorry to hear about that. Twins, now you know you must not bicker.:span:

But I so love picking on her! *pouting*

[Warbaby1943]

But I so love picking on her! *pouting*
OK but isn't it like picking on yourself? :pray:

[submissivewife]

OK but isn't it like picking on yourself? :pray:

good point!

*running off*

[wkcbitch]

that's not nice to say about your sister!


Just what ya going do about it? I have to get you over here somehow.:dont:

[wkcbitch]

OK but isn't it like picking on yourself? :pray:

Na. She loves it.:)

[wkcbitch]

*running off*


Chicken!:blurp_ani

[submissivewife]

Just what ya going do about it? I have to get you over here somehow.:dont:

ok....we have now hijacked the thread....we'll have to take this somewhere else sissy dear.

[Tojo]

I think we're going to have to get you two in the ring together to sort this out.

Preferably with a rubber mat & a few litres of baby oil.... :rolleyes:

I'll referee the match- you won't even have to pay me.



Tojo

[submissivewife]

I think we're going to have to get you two in the ring together to sort this out.

Preferably with a rubber mat & a few litres of baby oil.... :rolleyes:

I'll referee the match- you won't even have to pay me.



Tojo

LMAO

[Tojo]

ok....we have now hijacked the thread....we'll have to take this somewhere else sissy dear.


Oh but this is feedback from new subs? I see no problem at all. :confused:


Tojo

[submissivewife]

Oh but this is feedback from new subs? I see no problem at all. :confused:


Tojo

Since you put it that way.....

Sissy Dear, I'll be right over....I'll be bringing my riding crop!:crop:

[wkcbitch]

Since you put it that way.....

Sissy Dear, I'll be right over....I'll be bringing my riding crop!:crop:


Promises...Promises.....!?

[wkcbitch]

I think we're going to have to get you two in the ring together to sort this out.

Preferably with a rubber mat & a few litres of baby oil.... :rolleyes:

I'll referee the match- you won't even have to pay me.



Tojo


LMAO! You can help me concur subwife then. :pray:

[wkcbitch]

Oh but this is feedback from new subs? I see no problem at all. :confused:


Tojo

Thank You Tojo. I agree. You wanted feedback...and she is just jealous becuase I started picking on her first. :blurp_ani

[Tojo]

No riding crops, no hair pulling or eye gouging, just a good clean wrestle, girls.

Well I don't know if 'clean' is the word...all that baby oil. :rolleyes:

Tojo

[Warbaby1943]

No riding crops, no hair pulling or eye gouging, just a good clean wrestle, girls.

Well I don't know if 'clean' is the word...all that baby oil. :rolleyes:

Tojo
I don't know Tojo, I think these little ones are out of control. You better get over here and straighten them out. I'm probably within 8 mile of them and I can't do it. Better book the flight, I think they need your guidance.:cae7gler: :scare:

[dzire2pleeze]

I appreciate those of you who welcomed me.

Wkcbitch - sorry to hear about the split. But glad to see that you haven't lost your spunk.

[Tojo]

Sorry I didn't even see you there amongst all the shennanigans dzire2pleeze.

Welcome & thanks for a lovely intro. We'll hold you to your promise & make sure you don't get away.

Nice to have you aboard, jump in & enjoy yourself- as you seem to be doing already.:wave:

Tojo

[Tojo]

I don't know Tojo, I think these little ones are out of control. You better get over here and straighten them out. I'm probably within 8 mile of them and I can't do it. Better book the flight, I think they need your guidance.:cae7gler: :scare:


I'd have to say my first landing would be in California, to see my dream girl WB, but then I'm off to referee these two- just as soon as I spend a week or two with katie.... :)


Tojo

[Warbaby1943]

I'd have to say my first landing would be in California, to see my dream girl WB, but then I'm off to referee these two- just as soon as I spend a week or two with katie.... :)


Tojo
Maybe we will have to team up on them to get them in line.:span:

[wkcbitch]

No riding crops, no hair pulling or eye gouging, just a good clean wrestle, girls.

Well I don't know if 'clean' is the word...all that baby oil. :rolleyes:

Tojo


ha ha! Kelly cant use her riding crop! Can I use my whip?:span:

[wkcbitch]

I don't know Tojo, I think these little ones are out of control. You better get over here and straighten them out. I'm probably within 8 mile of them and I can't do it. Better book the flight, I think they need your guidance.:cae7gler: :scare:


LMAO!

[wkcbitch]

I appreciate those of you who welcomed me.

Wkcbitch - sorry to hear about the split. But glad to see that you haven't lost your spunk.


Ty..dsire2pleeze. I even got myself started in going back to school today.:wave:

[submissivewife]

NO WHIPS EITHER! If I can't have my crop you can't have your whip....

[Warbaby1943]

NO WHIPS EITHER! If I can't have my crop you can't have your whip....
Damn, still dissension in the troops. Help Tojo!

[Warbaby1943]

Ty..dsire2pleeze. I even got myself started in going back to school today.:wave:
If you are trying to learn how to control submissivewife give it up.

[submissivewife]

If you are trying to learn how to control submissivewife give it up.

Only one shall concur me!

[Warbaby1943]

Only one shall concur me!
So we meat again. Good for you.

I know this isn't the right thread but here is a good lie. I didn't just get home from a night of drinking beer. Speaking of alcohol, where is Uncle Ed? :32:

[submissivewife]

So we meat again. Good for you.

I know this isn't the right thread but here is a good lie. I didn't just get home from a night of drinking beer. Speaking of alcohol, where is Uncle Ed? :32:


Uncle Ed is MIA!

[Warbaby1943]

Uncle Ed is MIA!
I sent him a PM. Mail box was full. I sent him an email and haven't heard from him. Hope he comes back.

[submissivewife]

He did just bury his mother...so be patient. I do hope he will be back.

[Warbaby1943]

He did just bury his mother...so be patient. I do hope he will be back.
I didn't know that. I thought it may have been for some other reason.

[submissivewife]

Yeah, from what I understand he's taking it very hard.

[Warbaby1943]

Yeah, from what I understand he's taking it very hard.
Thanks for the info.

[wkcbitch]

If you are trying to learn how to control submissivewife give it up.


She is a good girl...she listens to her elders..most of the time...we do stuff for each other all the time...and controll subwife...you are absolutely right..she is the MOST stubborn wench alive. LOL!:icon176:

[wkcbitch]

NO WHIPS EITHER! If I can't have my crop you can't have your whip....


I love you sissy..WEG!:blurp_ani

[submissivewife]

She is a good girl...she listens to her elders..most of the time...we do stuff for each other all the time...and controll subwife...you are absolutely right..she is the MOST stubborn wench alive. LOL!:icon176:
I'm not stubborn! ;)

[Warbaby1943]

I love you sissy..WEG!:blurp_ani
Now that's better. Tojo may not have to make that trip after all.:)

[dzire2pleeze]

Sorry I didn't even see you there amongst all the shennanigans dzire2pleeze.

Welcome & thanks for a lovely intro. We'll hold you to your promise & make sure you don't get away.

Nice to have you aboard, jump in & enjoy yourself- as you seem to be doing already.:wave:

Tojo
I am most definitely enjoying myself. thank you. But i think i will have to go back to school with Wkcbitch. Just can't seem to get the hang of avatars and all the other cute things this site has to offer.

Wkcbitch hope you enjoy your studies and, by the way, thanks for the warning about subwife.

[Tojo]

Click on 'User CP' up the top to find avatars dzire2pleeze. Then just click on 'edit avatar.' Any probs, please ask.


Tojo

[dzire2pleeze]

thank you kindly, Tojo. Found an avatar that is most appropriate for me. It wasn't my favorite, but it says a lot about me. I guess i'll just keep learning one thing at a time. appreciate your help.

[Tojo]

My pleasure d2p- to make a cool signature under each post, go to 'edit signature' in the User CP.

Ask away, we're happy to help.


Tojo

[wkcbitch]

I am most definitely enjoying myself. thank you. But i think i will have to go back to school with Wkcbitch. Just can't seem to get the hang of avatars and all the other cute things this site has to offer.

Wkcbitch hope you enjoy your studies and, by the way, thanks for the warning about subwife.

No prob! Thats what I am here for.:blurp_ani

[buzzy]

new sub, new to lifestyle, and loving it. I have a loving,caring and sadistic Mistress teaching me ways. Life is good.

[buzzy]

how's it going? Great, wonderful life has never been so full. I have a great Domme, who delights is teach me the ways of a sub and how to keep my mouth shut, less something "cheeky" comes out and she has to have a discussion with me. Then, sometimes being cheeky is so much fun for my sadistic, loving, tender Mistress. lol. Life is good, I enjoy the site and reading the many threads posted. some lack manners in the chat room but that happens. take care to all

[cadence]

I am still relatively new to this site, and have enjoyed it thus far.
I would like to join the Academy, but am unsure if I should or not, finding the time would be my biggest problem.
I would ask advice from people who do offer, but I always feel as if I am being a bother.

Everytime I log in to ask a question, I find that a similar question has already been asked in the newer posts. Complete with answers that are extremely helpful.
I hate to ask a similar question and be repetative.
I do find this site to be one of the better ones I have been on in regards to information and of course the people who are here.

[hugsnkisses]

Hey Tojo...
I've read a lot of your posts in the last few weeks...you're really sweet to be so concerned and helpful :)
I stumbled upon this site months ago, not knowing much about anything. Everyone has been very friendly, patient, helpful... I've had a ton of support on this interesting journey... couldn't be more pleased with all the people here! I think it can be intimidating for new people to post. I can count the number of posts I've had (not under Fun & Games) on one hand...took me months to start... not at all because of anyone here or from any negative feedback..just didn't feel like I knew enough to contribute anything to the forums. I think everyone here is doing a great job creating a very warm, caring, supportive community!!

[hugsnkisses]

aria...
You should definitely join the academy..especially if time is your biggest concern. If needed you can always put a note in your profile that you are limited on time and would prefer to request tasks when you have more time to perform. One of the nice things there is that you can be assigned tasks or you can ask for permission to perform certain tasks. You are not obligated to accept any that you are not comfortable with or don't have time for. You may also negotiate with the TMs if you need more time or something changed... I love it :) Definitely encourage you to try it...and if you dont' like it, then just take yourself out

[Tojo]

Thanks hugs&kisses- what a lovely thing to say. :)

A sub is a treasure.


Tojo

[Echoes]

I am much like hugsnkisses,
the support is wonderful here with so much warmth and openness, no hesitation in offering to help and to talk and so much to read, to learn...but I do know I don't know enough to be able to contribute anything and am still getting a feel from the newness.

I am not in a relationship and not submissive to anyone so I am not even sure if this alone would allow me to say I am one.
I only know what I dream of, how I feel inside and what I cannot stop feeling every day.

It is however a breath of relief to be embraced...for that is the feeling you all have given me and soon I hope to return this.
Thank you

[Tojo]

If you feel you're a sub, & dream about it, Echoes- to my mind at least, you are one. :)

There's always someone more experienced, who's 'more into the scene' or whatever. It's how you feel within that matters.


Tojo

[moptop]

I'm a new sub and new to the forum, and I don't want to disappear - but I'm certainly shy. Seeing this thread makes me feel a little better. I'm having a bit of trouble with the site - want to get onto the academy, can't, do I have to be a member, thought I was now I'd registered, confused?? anyway, am going off to browse the link Tojo provides here, thanks, Tojo.

[vampyres{ID}]

I am a new Sub (Well not really new but far from knowing everything, or even much)

I am not afraid of being Judged, never have been.

I have found the perfect husband who is trying to be the perfect master for me, What I expect of him is to push my limits, and rule my life, I expect to be diciplined as a reminder of what will happen should I missbehave. (I have no longing to be disobedient but I do so enjoy the punishment) I am far from Shy I love to be openly humiliated. Very much a turn on to be a half naked (Or completely naked) foot stool while there is company around, I have no qualms about being put on display or put out for use by others. Basically I want a master who will use me as he sees fit.

[tessa]

Thanks to Tojo for even asking. :) I am getting so much from this site, so I will give back, in this form at least.

"How it's going?" For me, it is going wonderfully. I have read some useful information that has helped my with my relationship. I've also read some really twisted ideas that has made play time pretty damn fun. ;)

"What's good or bad?" Good: everything is. The site is easy to navigate and user friendly, not to mention just fun. Bad: nothing from the site...I just get lost in all my wandering around.

Are we supportive enough? YES! I have found it amazing how helpful and kind everyone is. ~gives suchaminx a big hug for helping me so much~ Just to be around others who know what these feelings inside me are like...well, that's just the breath of life for me sometimes.

"not too overbearing?" Um, well...wouldn't mind that if it happened :o but no, not too overbearing.

"Have you found that perfect Dom/me?" No one is perfect (despite what I may have previously believed), but He is perfect for me.

I can't imagine how this helped, but hopefully in some way, maybe?

:ty
tessa

[DrkRvn]

Things with my Lord and me are going very well... Mostly its been a matter of trying to find time to do anything big, but He gives me small tasks and instructions on how to behave everyday.

Currently he is trying to break me of a few bad habits, bitting my nails, sticking my tongue out at him. If I do so then I get spankings. I also am not aloud to play with myself while am am alone or cum with out permission... for that I get a cropping...

I've started a submissive journal which he like to read. I have never been great at journaling, but hopefully i will be able to keep this one up.

I already have a lot of ideas and fantasies and things I know i like or would want and Kishi is really still trying to figure alot of it out and how to do things, how to read my reactions, what sort of things he likes. Hopefully once school starts again and I am on a more regular schedule we will have evenings free to work on some more intricate things. I time deters us from trying some stuff right now.

[Can's Peaches]

As I have said in other post's I am a new sub. Just wanted to thank everyone for being so nice.

I have read alot of the threads and have learned alot about the lifestyle and about myself as well. Everyone has been so nice and I have finally found a place where I feel like I belong.

I have never felt comfortable in any relationship that I have found in the past. Never felt that I could be myself. Never really understanding what was missing from my life. Then I meet Sir and started learning more about the D/s lifestyle. It is like a light bulb went off in my head. I have always been a sub just didn't know what that was. I have found a relationship that feels so right and I can't wait to move to be with him.

I will let everyone know how it is going once I move. *kisses*

[jaylia]

How it's going? What's good or bad? Are we supportive enough & not too overbearing?So far most of the people here are great, i'm very shy and it takes me a bit to get a feel for any group before i feel comfortable to open up and participate, but i do lurk alot and my courage is building. Some people find online frees them up, but for me it's quite the opposite. When you are talking face to face you can pick up on all those little social cues(body language facial exspression, tone of voice and what not), where as online you can't.

I often wonder what happens to the ones we answer questions from & wonder if they're OK.

Have you found that perfect Dom/me?My Dom and i were married for 13yrs before our relationship took this new twist, there was always some D/s and bondage in the bedroom, and i always longed for more but so much of it for me is wrapped up in trust. Even though he's aways proven himself trustworthy it has taken a long time for me to reach the point where i felt i could completely bare my soul to Him(i have trust issues). So to make a long story short, yes i do believe i have found the perfect Dom.

So yes i'm okay and you will probably see me start to post more and more.

[moptop]

I just feel like coming back here for an update. After all, it was only August last year that I came to the realisation of my sub nature and needs, so it is still very new to me. I was just so lucky to find this site. I love it, it has become a great part of my life, not just for the advice and support you get from people like Tojo and Tom of Sweden (and many, many others), but for the friendship, and the artistic life I have also found here.

The man who brought me to this world has gone away, as I really always expected. I have had a couple of fun experiences in between - managed to pack a lot into a very short time - but I am now in the process of falling slowly and carefully but I think very very deeply for a wonderfully beautiful, mentally challenging, aesthetically demanding, behaviourally exacting, scarily intelligent, deeply romantic, wildly sexy, hugely interesting man here in France. Hell, I don't know many English men who can quote English poetry to me, let alone a French one... he's scary (in the best possible way). And I've never met anyone who has such a sense of building up the anticipation... brother, I'm in such trouble and loving it. More to the point, we are both in a first realisation of eachother - I met him on line, we had our first personal meeting yesterday, just lunch and talking - but we are both finding ourselves very drawn. He is not that experienced - 3 or 4 years - so we are going to be on a voyage of discovery together, I think. Early days, I know, but he has so many of what seem to me to be the right attitudes... above all, his firm belief is that it is the sub who makes the Dom, i.e. a Dom is nothing without a sub; he likes to be proud of his sub, for her to be proud of herself and what she is for him; and he believes that once you have the mind, the body will follow. Which absolutely works for me.

But, just in case - I know that I have a wonderful community of wise people and friends here, for advice and a shoulder to cry on (and I even have some wise friends, too! lol), in case it all goes horribly wrong, or just in case he pushes me too hard - I think he will push me very hard - and I'm feeling feeble.

So thanks, guys, for being here, and thanks, Tojo, for caring.

[shifha]

This is the only forum, anywhere on the web, that i have felt totally welcomed and free to voice opinions, thoughts and whatever. This means a lot to me, as i spent so much of my life repressing my feelings and thinking i was pretty crazy. It is just amazing to me to find a community of people who think and feel as i do, and who are really good, nice guys ( well, most, anyway, lol). i often dont write, even though i would like to, simply because there are lots of more expressive posters who say it better than i can.
As for how its going? i feel liberated, loved and satisfied, so either i have low expectations or my Master is doing something right!

[Dorkalicious]

Hum, let's see here. Nothing really to say about my sub life at the moment. I'm just kind of waiting for him I guess (eh, that could be viewed in two different ways).

The one friend back here that seems Domly is having a sort of dilemma right now...and I don't think it will work out.

I've met another Dom that seems very interesting, but I have no idea where that will go.

We shall see :) And I will update as I know more...

[muffdiver]

I am new to this lifestyle but I have met a Master from this site. We have only communicated online and the distance will keep it that way. He has aroused me and I will try to fulfill all his dreams if possible. I wish to learn so much more from him.