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Silke
05-13-2006, 07:36 AM
I've just read a wonderful task report at the Academy that made me smile and also started my think tank running.
The basic idea was to conciously please your Master/Mistress a certain number of times throughout the day. Now, while I'm sure this sounds simple enough at first glance, I thought it was a wonderful idea to become more aware of what it is that makes our SO happy and in turn what are the little things that put a smile on our own faces, get that warm feeling inside, etc. Do we even realise it most of the time? And do we let our partners know how they made us happy with just a glance, a touch, a word...?
So, for the subs - what is it that you do to please your Dom/mes? Anything counts! And what in return makes you a happy sub?
And for the Dom/mes - What puts a smile on your face? And do you know what little things make your sub's heart leap with joy?
Those are just a few guideline questions that I had in mind...I'm looking forward to whatever input you may have. Wishing you many happy thoughts and maybe just an idea or two...:)
Silke
The little things...mean so much.
Emails in the morning, wearing something for me one night a week.
Making me laugh, giving me feelings I've never had.
Knowing I can give her something she needs.
As for what makes her heart leap, well I can only hope it's the fact that I care. That I'm there for her & love her no matter what.
Tojo
What makes me happy that she does? Thats a very difficult question to narrow down to put into a post.
When she makes me coffee in the morning.
When she snuggles to me at night.
When she cleans the house for me, things are just so much more enjoyable to come home to that way.
When she cleans my clothes.
When she does her little pouting thing, trying to get me to agree to something.
When she wants to go on walks with me.
When she compliments me on my accomplishments, regardless of how little and insignifcant they are.
When she submits to me, all of her stubborness and assertivness gone, and she is mine to enjoy how I want.
These are just a few of the things that I can think of that I enjoy, that makes me happy, that she does.
V/R
ID
katie_21
05-14-2006, 08:26 AM
The little things...mean so much.
Emails in the morning, wearing something for me one night a week.
Making me laugh, giving me feelings I've never had.
Knowing I can give her something she needs.
As for what makes her heart leap, well I can only hope it's the fact that I care. That I'm there for her & love her no matter what.
Tojo
It is the fact that you care
And I also love making you laugh!!! :)
Avarice
05-14-2006, 08:50 AM
Frikkin' awe. What a good task :) I might write down all the things my creature does for me that make my heart smile, then randomly hide it someplace where he'll find it. ...If it doesn't convince him that I've done something wrong and make him completely paranoid, anyhow >>
when he kisses my knees
when he says, "would you like me to run you a hot bath?" when I know he's really thinking, "fuck, she's PMS'ing again"
how he returns movies to the rental place because he knows i'll forget
the way he gets really into his reading and sometimes mouths the words
how he laughs when the baby makes a face at him
how he squirms when i tie him to the bed and sit on his face
Ah, l'amour :whip2:
Silke
05-14-2006, 04:55 PM
The little things...mean so much.
Oh yes...I couldn't agree more! To me it's basically what keeps two people together. It's not the big present for a birthday or the super surprise, but it's what makes me feel good, appreciated, cared for, loved throughout each and every day. There have been enough times where I forgot those little things, they just faded into the back of my mind and I took them for granted. That's one of the reasons I opened this thread...I think looking at what I can do to make my SO happy and what I get in return works some strange magic. :)
And I love the "little things" that all of you guys have come up with so far...makes me smile, too. Thanks for sharing and keep 'em coming! :)
Today, it was all about cuddling with Nat after our wonderful playtime yesterday.
Cuddling, giggling, give each other our undivided attention, then being distracted by life and being able to laugh about it.
In the end, it's always the little things that make our relationship stronger.
Sharing our hopes, dreams, fears and fantasies.
Receiving a special e-mail, just because.
Opening my snail mail box and finding a movie or book that he selected just for me.
Viva the little things!
His_pita
05-14-2006, 07:24 PM
Oh I like this topic! Things I love that my Dom does to make me happy are:
~The way he wakes me up in the morning with such patience and then goes to make my cup of tea.
~The feel of that first morning hug and kiss as he tells me what the weather is going to be.
~That he is always so supportive and attentive during our workouts making sure that I am doing OK and motivating me to keep going.
~The way he tells me what to do when it's time to play and the aftercare he gives me once were done.
~Sitting on the deck, drinking our tea, and holding hands after we have had dinner.
~Hanging out in our computer room together in the evenings.
~The way he treats me like I'm smart and worth so much effort.
~The way he stops in the middle of a sentence to tell me that I'm beautiful.
~Going to bed at the same time with him curled around my back, with his cock pressed against my bare ass and his hand wrapped around one of my breast.
~How he whispers how much he loves me and tells me that he will own me forever.
Silke
05-26-2006, 10:07 PM
Ok, time for me to add something ;) I kept a low profile because I didn't think I could add a lot. But just today I've realised how the little things have invaded my life...and I'm so happy about it.
The way he sneaks up on me when I least expect it.
That he finds something positive even when I think I messed everything up.
That we can laugh a lot together - he always brings a smile to my face.
The way he quietly entered my life, step by step, without me even being aware of it until I was in way over my head.
That he always gets worried when I take too long to get back to him after play. (We're online, can't really blame him, I guess) ;)
The first time he called me his little girl.
*sighs* and so much more. :)
Sweet dreams everyone! *smiles*
It's so nice to see the D/s community isn't all about whips & chains- that the level of caring seems to be more complete than in a straight relationship.
Oh no, I'm still a romantic, there's no hope for me....
Tojo
MsUther
05-27-2006, 02:33 AM
All those little things you have posted, you have made my heart soft and my chest warm:ty
He is my Dom in my mind, he just havnt realised that he is yet. Oh i so hope im not wrong about him.
Here`s a few:
- When he ask about the well being of my family
- When i see that he holds his breath and bites hes lip when he sees me
- The way hes face is tuned in and focused on me
- When he stole back the chocolate he just so sensually had shared with me
- When he washes my long hair in the shower
- When he told me he had been looking at me sitting infront of my laptop, pretending he was a sleep on my sofa
- The way he`s eyes gets heavy and soft when he shares his food with me
- When he is right and i admit it and i see his eyes filles with emotions
I had an online Dom about six months - a year ago. What pleased me most was when after i had done what he told me to and i was in limbo waiting for his response, he filled my world with words of comfort and expressing how pleased he was with my submissivness to him. Thats probably a little off topic, cause its no small thingy, but it wanted to be said :)
And the explotion of emotions in that moment makes my throat feel tight just thinking about it.
And when he e-mailed me from across the world telling me he was going to have to do a double shift at work and was going to be a little late, i was sold.
I look forward to follow this lovely thread:rose:
Aww yes I love the little things too. This thread is so adorable, I was smiling as I read everyone’s responses so far. I have to add to this too. Here are some of the little things he does that bring a smile to my face:
-When he randomly brings me cute desserts like strawberry shortcake and eats the rest when I can’t finish it.
-How sometimes he’ll call me during lunch at school to ask if I want to come home early because he misses me.
-How he tells me to “shut the fuck up” when I say I look ugly and then tells me I always look beautiful.
-When he tells me things in french and doesn’t explain what it means, leaving me to guess whether it’s romantic or really dirty.
-How he switches between french and english when addressing me.
-When he smiles at my silly drawings.
-Cuddling! And how he has his arm over me when we’re in bed.
-The way he cleans me up after “intensive play”.
-When I don’t have to explain to him why I’m upset because he already knows.
Silke – I’m happy for you that you’ve found someone who makes you feel like that. Sounds wonderful.
MsUther – I hope he turns out to be the Dom you want too! He sounds pretty great from what you’ve said.
I hope more people add onto this thread – it’s really fun to read!
Well seeing as you guys are all mushy, I'll add one.
She's not my sub- yet- but she will be someday. I talk to her every day, & if her boyfriend is there she emails me.
I told her I was sad because of something with another of my girls. She probably thought 'You're better off without the bitch' but instead was understanding & caring.
After I logged off & checked my mailbox I found a card with 'sending you a warm hug' from her.
She's really something.
Tojo
shins
05-27-2006, 06:25 AM
I like this thread :) It's a pleasant thing to see so early in the morning.
- When she asks how my day is going and i know she really wants to know.
- When she flirts with me and gets my blood boiling.
- When she provokes a secret from me and accepts it as a part of me without judgement.
- When i see her packrat tendencies and i and know that she really does intend on using the things somehow, someday.
- When she goes out of her way to spend time with me, because she's concerned that i might be needing her attention.
- When she shares an intimate secret with me and i know that she trusts me enough to say it.
- The frustration that she confides in me when others in her environment are creating chaos that she cant control.
- The way that she doesnt hesitate to let someone know what she thinks about something that they've said or done.
- The joy that she shows when she's subjecting me to a new iniquity.
- Knowing that i mean enough to her that she's considering giving up the stabilities of her life to be with me.
Silke
05-27-2006, 07:38 AM
All those little things you have posted, you have made my heart soft and my chest warm
MsUther - I know...I get those feelings from reading your post, too. And even thinking about and posting my own 'little things' did this for me. That's what I consider the magic in it. Glad you found this also. And I hope your Dom will soon realise the special place he has in your heart and accepts it. :)
Silke – I’m happy for you that you’ve found someone who makes you feel like that. Sounds wonderful.
Lol, Mina...I love his use of french, such a tease! And not a bad language either - even swearing sounds romantic in french! ;) And yes, about finding this special person...it IS wonderful, I still get butterflies just thinking about how lucky I was that he found me. :)
Tojo - she sounds wonderful *sighs*. Good luck with making her yours.
I like this thread It's a pleasant thing to see so early in the morning.
shins - YES, you caught me...I've been a bit selfish with posting this thread. *grins* I get the same feeling. But I do like to share, so I'm glad you get some happy feelings out of it, too. ;)
And...I'll add another one...just a quickie....
...his reaction when he found out about my last post. It was my happy thought when I went to bed last night and the first thing I remembered when I woke up. :)
Have a nice day y'all!
Well she's only going to be mine for a week...but it's going to be a nice week.
The only one who will ever truly be mine is the lovely katie, I think.
Tojo
katie_21
05-27-2006, 08:10 PM
Oh gee golly Tojo :cool17:
learningtopleez
05-27-2006, 09:59 PM
Silke, this thread was a beautiful idea! And so many beautiful little things that make us all so happy! It has been such a pleasure to read them all!
I thought I would throw in a couple that were from that now infamous last r/l relationship...yeah...with Max! :rolleyes:
How he always opened the door for me, and if I forgot and opened it myself, I would get that stern Dom look, and quickly close it again! :D He always laughed when I did that!
How he always tells me how beautiful I am, even now, when we occasionally e-mail or chat on the phone.
How he always made sure I ate right, exercised, and drank water!
How he would hold my hand, or put his arm around me, while we were out walking around some where!
How he loved all of me, not just parts of me.
How he would run his fingers through my hair, eventually pulling it into a ponytail when I was giving him a bj, so that he could control my movements and hold me in place when he came! *melts*
Guest013109
05-31-2006, 09:39 PM
When wifey and I are in 'BDSM-mode', little things are always important...
When I Dom her, I love the cute smile she has while bound. Also, the cute mppphing sound she makes gagged and being stimulated. Her beautiful naked body. The begging. All the above.
When she Domme's me, I adore her cute voice trying to be mean. Love the interesting positions she bounds me in. Also, her sweet kitty kat in my face. Yum.
her_Joe
06-01-2006, 01:28 PM
It's not that this is hard to do, it's just that the list is endless ... after all, that's what a day is, a whole bunch of little stuff in a row:
-when she stops and says "Thanks" for no apparent reason.
-when she bends over knowing I'll see.
-when she blushes because she knows what I'm thinking
-when she clings to me in the middle of the night and cries for joy
-when she gives up her independence the second I tell her
-when she drives herself to accept
-when she works hard on something for me because I've asked
-when she tries hard even though she's tired or frustrated or confused or feeling like a failure
But when she says I'm the reason she's succeeding, she's full of crap! :cae7gler:
HJ
submissivewife
06-01-2006, 07:42 PM
But when she says I'm the reason she's succeeding, she's full of crap! :cae7gler:
HJ
hahahahahahahahahahaha your just being modest
StillBehindBlueEyes
06-05-2006, 08:58 PM
So, for the subs - what is it that you do to please your Dom/mes? Anything counts! And what in return makes you a happy sub?
My very favorite thing is to make Master smile, to hear him chuckle.
I just love it when he calls me a term of endearment. Silly sub, little one, slut, it makes me feel as if his hand is caressing my head.
Uncle_Ed
06-06-2006, 04:37 AM
I've just seen this thread for the first time.
It is a thing of beauty and I'm proud to be a small part of this community.
There are so many little things, aren't there? If I have to choose one:
The way in which my wife looks at me. Every day looks are good-the special "Come and take me" look, though. That stops my breath.
angelfreak
06-18-2006, 05:04 PM
I just found this post so I thought I'd throw my two cents in.
Since, right now, things are just online between me and my potential Dom there aren't a whole lot of things I can do to really please him. But here's a few.
- Making sure I show how happy I am whenever we get a chance to chat
- Doing my best to submit even though my 'inner imp' wants to be rebellious at times
- Asking him how he's doing and really paying attention to his answer (showing him I really do care)
- Being patient with the pace we're moving at
Things that make me happy:
- When he calls me his pet
- Whenever he comes online just to check if I'm there
- When he tells me he's been thinking about me all day
- Knowing that, even though I'm being punished, he has my best in mind and he's punishing me to improve me as a submissive
Silke
06-18-2006, 05:17 PM
*sighs* always brings a smile to my face when I read a new post in this thread. Thank you for sharing, everyone. :) :) :)
wingsofanangel
06-18-2006, 06:26 PM
I don't have a Dom.. persay right now. BUT... one of my biggest little things is one a Dominant is fond of me and refers to me as "Lil One" .. It just melts my heart...
thats all I have right now... -sighs happily- its just.. yeah.. that one gets me everytime!
Anya
KermitsKeeper
06-19-2006, 04:49 AM
I'm not supposed to post without permission, but I couldn't wait to add to this... I love the way Master Evan calls me when he knows I am upset about something and then keeps me on the phone until I am laughing again... He's the best! :)
I love the way Master Evan calls me when he knows I am upset about something and then keeps me on the phone until I am laughing again... He's the best! :)
Aww that's so sweet!
Silke
06-19-2006, 06:54 AM
I'm not supposed to post without permission, but I couldn't wait to add to this... I love the way Master Evan calls me when he knows I am upset about something and then keeps me on the phone until I am laughing again... He's the best!
Must be the sweetest reason to break a rule *sighs*...hope you won't get into too much trouble about this, darlin'. Or if you do...well...that he'll make you laugh again afterwards. ;)
Warbaby1943
06-19-2006, 07:13 AM
It's so nice to see the D/s community isn't all about whips & chains- that the level of caring seems to be more complete than in a straight relationship.
Oh no, I'm still a romantic, there's no hope for me....
Tojo
Tojo,
Though my wife and I do not have a D/s relationship we do do most of the things mentioned in this thread for each other. It just seem the correct things to do when their is a bond of love between two people that is so strong it endures the test of time. Over 40 years now and we are still doing for each other whatever it takes to keep us happy and we are doing them without hesitation or even thinking about what we are doing for each other. It just sort of comes naturally and it is :exellent1 .
I believe you have the same type of commitment and relationship with your wife so I know you'll understand what I am saying is, in fact, true.
Silke
06-19-2006, 07:19 AM
Oh Warbaby, I couldn't agree more...the little things are what makes any relationship a strong bond in my mind, it's not limited to D/s. And I'm sure you must have tons of the little magic to keep your marriage alive and thriving for 40 years. It's a time span that is almost unbelievable to grasp for me. Congrats!! :)
Warbaby1943
06-19-2006, 07:59 AM
Oh Warbaby, I couldn't agree more...the little things are what makes any relationship a strong bond in my mind, it's not limited to D/s. And I'm sure you must have tons of the little magic to keep your marriage alive and thriving for 40 years. It's a time span that is almost unbelievable to grasp for me. Congrats!! :)
Silke,
It creeps on you faster than you can even imagine. I really don't know where the last 40 years have gone, but it was fun getting here. Can't seem to slow it down now even though I'd like to.:marvin:
KermitsKeeper
06-19-2006, 08:12 PM
Must be the sweetest reason to break a rule *sighs*...hope you won't get into too much trouble about this, darlin'. Or if you do...well...that he'll make you laugh again afterwards. ;)
Yes, Mina and Silke, I did get in trouble for this. I openly told Master Evan that I had posted without permission. He was disappointed in me, which made me cry. I had hoped he would be pleased enough with what I said to let it slide. He did not, but was quick to forgive and forget. :)
Later in the day he had me perform for him. We have a game where he says "go" and I drop everything and run to insert a toy, one that has a remote control. Usually his instructions come via IM, but this time he called and just said go. I was surprised, but responded correctly. He quickly brought me to 2 orgasms using a few well written IMs, the vibrations of the toy, and a deep amount of concentration on my part. In the past, it would take me a long time to get there (sometimes I couldn't at all), and now it is almost as soon as he tells me to. He let me come down from those, and then gave me instructions to call him, say nothing, bring myself to orgasm (without his words or the toy) as quickly as I could, and then hang up. He said he wanted to listen to me breathe. When I was done, he told me how proud he was of me and my progress. I was able to come in less than a minute! As a reward for this progress, he gave me 2 days to post freely. :ty
So, happily, I have been forgiven AND have been given another couple of days to be able to talk about how wonderful he is. Since this is the only place where I can talk about him, this is a fantastic gift to me. And things like these fit nicely in this thread! Thank you, my sweet Master! (Uh oh... hope THAT doesn't get me in trouble now!) ;)
Silke
06-19-2006, 09:09 PM
*sighs* I had a feeling you'd get into trouble, Kate - sounds strangely familiar...and I get really down when he's disappointed, too. Good to know that both of you made up in such an amazing way afterwards, though. His treats seem to be very special indeed. :)
Thank you for sharing and I'm glad we'll hear a bit more from you over the next couple of days!!! YAY!!! :D
Misato36
07-02-2006, 10:57 PM
My master and I used to lay in bed together (naked) and talk together. We would list each other's best characteristics. It was nice because at that moment it was not about sex or control. It was about two individuals who understood and cared for each other.
Oh now that's lovely Misato :)
Tojo
nastywolf
07-05-2006, 01:54 AM
A very nice idea - Silke - congratulations
and - very nice answers - as a newbie i enjoyed reading very much.
so - this little thing (thread) - made me feeling nicely.
Silke
07-05-2006, 05:52 AM
My master and I used to lay in bed together (naked) and talk together. We would list each other's best characteristics. It was nice because at that moment it was not about sex or control. It was about two individuals who understood and cared for each other.
You know, this struck me as especially beautiful, Misato, since most of the other experiences you shared were so...harsh. It was a real eye opener to help me understand why you stayed in that relationship. What a wonderful thing...:)
nastywolf - glad you enjoy the thread! I get the same feeling when I read the posts here. *smiles*
Silke
07-07-2006, 03:12 PM
*sighs* I miss him so much...so maybe bringing those little things back to mind helps...
...when he says he's proud of me for things that I had considered normal or not so significant at all
...him calling me by the name he's chosen for me
...when he bursts out that he wants to take me right now, just out of the blue while talking about other stuff...damn, I feel sexy then! *grins*
...when he says 'shut up' after I've been silent for a while *giggles*
...his sensitivity to my moods - he always seems to know that something's on my mind even if I have been trying to keep a low profile
...how we can both make wild plans and enjoy living in those castles we built in the sky, even when we both know most of them will hardly ever happen
...him saying that he's been thinking of me during the day, wondering what I've been up to
...when he's tired but tells me he doesn't want to leave...and the times he actually stayed up all night to be with me. Not a little thing at all, but something that blew my mind at the time. That he MAKES time for me in his tight schedule. *smiles*
I feel better now *nods and smiles*
wingsofanangel
07-07-2006, 03:25 PM
being called his precious Sera...
I love my slave name....
Sera (anya)
frankee
07-07-2006, 04:12 PM
Silke
i finally sat down and read all the posts in this thread, it's was wonderful reading them all. Gives me that warm and fuzzy feeling inside:)
i love when my Mistress and i finish a phone conversation, then she calls me back out of the blue
i love when she tells me that i am everything a woman should be *sigh*
i love that She checks up on me when i'm sick or haven't had enough sleep
i even love when She scolds me for not taking my cold meds ...lol
i love when She tells me that She's proud of me, even know i don't think it was all that great.
i love when we're in the middle of conversation and She tells me that She can't wait to get Her hands on me ...ah bliss!
i really love when She tells me that i better brace myself when i see Her next month
i love when i get a call from Her at the most unexpected time (i get very giddy when i see Her number on my caller id)
i love when She calls me and wakes me up because then it makes feel that She's right next to me in bed
i love when i tell Her that i'm going out on the town with my friends, and She tells me to 'be good and behave' *smiling*
and when i am out with my friends She texts me naughty little text messages;)
i love when i can make Her laugh and then She tells me that i'm so cute:)
my list could go on and on....but i'll give someone else a chance
Silke
07-07-2006, 04:25 PM
Angel...yeah, I know what you mean - it's special. *smiles*
frankee...glad you enjoy the thread, I get the same feeling when going through the posts. :) And thanks for sharing your 'little things'...I stumbled across one, lol
and when i am out with my friends She texts me naughty little text messages
A dom I knew before my Master used to do that, lol...made me blush big time and it was one of the things I loved about him. Turned out that the rest of him wasn't what I looked for at all - but the frequent reminders and flirts were a highlight. ;)
frankee
07-09-2006, 06:45 AM
A dom I knew before my Master used to do that, lol...made me blush big time and it was one of the things I loved about him. Turned out that the rest of him wasn't what I looked for at all - but the frequent reminders and flirts were a highlight. ;)
omg...the texts that i get...whew...make me blush to no end, lol. She knows how to get me everytime, but i love it.
Although, my friends are going to start to wonder about me:)
Silke
07-09-2006, 12:29 PM
omg...the texts that i get...whew...make me blush to no end, lol. She knows how to get me everytime, but i love it.
Although, my friends are going to start to wonder about me
*grins* yeah, I remember that, too. And at some point after tons of those messages, I had to go and use the bathroom...left the cell phone on the table...turned back and saw the curiosity glistening in my friend's eyes...how they exchanged knowing looks...went back...and grabbed the phone! *laughing* Too funny...and the comments I got afterwards *chuckles*
:D
Evan_
07-10-2006, 09:19 PM
the way she fights and bucks and finds reasons NOT to do things or finds ways to complain about them... then does them quietly, submissively, and completely. :) She is learning, and learning that it's ok to not be perfect.
nastywolf
07-11-2006, 01:29 AM
Big Smile .....
..... i have to buy a cell phone and to learn how to send sms .....
(Seriously - i never had a cell phone before - there was no reason for using one )
Curious George
07-11-2006, 04:01 AM
My favourite "little things":
the look in my partner's eyes which tells me she doesn't want to be anywhere else than with me;
Knowing that I can and do trust her wholeheartedly in every respect.
Oh and more practically over recent weeks, talking about what we'll do to make the wedding night extra, extra special (ten days to go! :woohoo:)
poetic_justice
07-11-2006, 04:35 AM
Little things I do to make my partner happy?
* Give him a back massage when he's tense
* Make him brekky on a Saturday morning
* Put my arm around him while we're sleeping, my hand on his chest/stomach
* Tell him in intense and arousing detail exactly what I want to do to him on the weekend when I see him again
* Get him a beer while he's watching the news
* Take back the rental movies for him, so he doesn't get a fine
* Clean and tidy the house while he's at work so he doesn't have to deal with the mess
* Cook dinner for him (or order, if I'm being a lazy girlfriend)
Scorpio'sWill2Power
07-11-2006, 06:39 AM
I like calling them when it's least expected.
Sending flowers to their work or home.
Surprising them with a little gift of some piece of jewelry
with uncommon gem stones in necklaces, earrings or
bracelets.
I guess a modernized version of "want some candy little girl?"
:4:
Caring for them when they're not up to par.
Washing their hair and bathing them as well.
Preparing a special meal now and again to say
I'm appreciative of all they do for me.
Being a ruthless bastard when the situation call for
that as well. :nobitching_nbs:
Snuggling them close and praising them for all the
special little things they do and never forgetting
what they've willingly shared with me!!!
Silke
08-11-2006, 07:50 PM
*smiles* washing hair, mmmmm. I remember the scene in 'Out of Africa' where Karin Blixen's lover washes her hair *sighs*, simply delicious! I'll keep that idea for future reference, Scorpio. Such an intimate act and it feels wonderful. :)
Alright, time to add more...
...finding a message simply saying 'I miss you.'
...that he knows just the right things to say and when to say them.
...his continued fascination with me. (Don't understand it, but love it anyway, lol)
...that he went out of his way tonight to contact me after a long day.
Sweet dreams, everyone! :)
Silke
09-26-2006, 10:50 PM
Just thought about something today that made me want to bump this thread back to the top.
I was chatting with Master and realized how blessed I am with such an attentive soul who cares about me. It suddenly hit me - this is a rare species, lol.
One of my best r/l friends is stuck in a relationship with someone she actually loves to bits, but who isn't really attentive towards her. In his mind, only the big things count. He told me once that he loves to see her happy but hardly ever has the time or money to really show her. For him, it's all about making big presents, dedicating whole days or even a holiday to her, buying a huge bunch of flowers.....when all she wants is maybe a little note saying he loves her pinned to the fridge when she gets up and he's already gone; for him to be really *with* her when they are together, in contrast to him juggling his computer, the tv and a phone call while trying to listen when she tells him how her day went; or maybe pick up a flower from the neighbour's garden instead of a huge buquet.
I actually told him what she said to me - and he wiped it off with a rough gesture and told me those little things weren't worth the effort. As much as I like him, but i think he couldn't be further from the truth. The little things make ALL the difference...
...when I asked him whether he knew how to make an avatar of my picture and he surprised me with not only doing it for me, but adding his name for me.
...when he shares his feelings with my so openly.
...when I was all giggly and hot to do a task today and he created one on the fly.
...when I read the task and realized he knows me so damn well.
...when he said he's proud to announce I call him Master.
The little things I try to do for him -
...getting over my awkward feelings and entertaining him with a story to help him unwind.
...taming my curiosity and respecting his privacy.
...considering his needs and wishes and putting them before my own.
...keeping my in-built smartass in check...sometimes, lol. (although that would probably run under 'saving my own ass'...;)
...creating an atmosphere where he can relax instead of playing the drama queen, lol
Long live the little things! :)
angelfreak
09-27-2006, 05:10 AM
Well, since I'm now living with my Master, my answer to this thread has changed a little bit.
Things I do to please...
- Try and make sure his water glass is always full when we eat
- Take the initiative in rubbing his feet when he gets home from work (not quite as good as I should be at this one)
- Making sure he always has clean clothes to wear (not really a little thing)
- Making sure the house is fairly tidy when he gets home
- Trying to make sure I light his cigarette before mine
Things he does that please me...
- When he lights my cigarette for me
- Handing me the ashtray when it's out of my reach
- Letting me cuddle with him on the couch when we watch tv
- Letting me sleep in when I wasn't feeling good the night before or we got to sleep really, REALLY late
Um...I'm sure there are a ton more things, but I'm still not fully awake yet. *grins*