How is your happiness [Archive]

Aussiegirl1

07-15-2006, 09:52 PM

I have to say I am happy with having made some wonderful new friends on this site who have just added so much to my life.

Subwife, hang in there, I know you will find happiness again soon.

Tojo

07-15-2006, 11:29 PM

Well my r/l is going pretty well, I have a lovely wife & some excellent friends.

My true happiness in the world of D/s has pretty much slipped away, & with it much of my interest in 'playing.' However I still have my lisa & am managing to keep going with the help of a few dear friends.

I'm also lucky to have found someone who understands my reluctance & is happy to keep things going along quietly for the present. As usual I seem to be able to find just what I need when I most need it.

Tojo

chattel69

07-16-2006, 06:04 AM

I'll get back to you on this...I haven't seemed to have found it yet.

submissivewife

07-16-2006, 06:08 AM

As usual I seem to be able to find just what I need when I most need it.

Tojo

Isn't this amazing....the ones you need the most, when you most need them seem to crawl out from the wood work. Yep...I know what you mean.

subwife

Silke

07-16-2006, 08:50 AM

I personally think happiness can be found when you look at what you have and what is working at any present time, instead of being overly caught up in what is lost and what you don't seem to have yet. It's more of an attitude than anything. And every time I adopt this attitude I see just how much is actually wonderful in my life. Granted, it can always be better, but I'm happy. :)

Things that make me smile - my family and friends (online and offline...it's good to feel loved and love back)...my Master *smiles*...yes, I think it's the people in my life who make me happy. :)

To everyone who's still on the search for happiness...a big HUG and :)

hawk_fann

07-16-2006, 09:31 AM

I think happiness starts with liking yourself (since your self is pretty hard to shake) and having friends and family that keep it interesting and help you to grow as a person. After you have those things in place, you figure out how to fill in the gaps. For me, being a member of this community is a way to fill in a gap in my life - given that my wife does not share my bdsm interests. If it were not for you people, I would not have anyone to visit with about these desires. The people here make me happy with their posts, stories, word games, etc. Thank you all for having me.

Timberwolf

07-16-2006, 10:14 AM

Learning to be cool with who I was as a person took me a long time. I won't say I've wound my way all the way down the road of happiness just yet, but at least learning that hating myself was the most destructive thing imaginable was a huge step.

Misato36

07-16-2006, 01:52 PM

Happiness can be found in small doses. I look for the small things that make me happy each day. If you find something small everyday which makes you happy then it is hard to be disappointed.

StillBehindBlueEyes

07-16-2006, 01:57 PM

Isn't this amazing....the ones you need the most, when you most need them seem to crawl out from the wood work. Yep...I know what you mean.

This is so true. Master released me, I thought I'd sink in to a hole and I was pulled out and set back on my feet by people here. I tremble thinking what I would have done if I had not taken the time to visit the forum.
I remember seeing Aesop's post at the Academy, Does the forum smell; or something like that and just had to come peek.
I wouldn't say I'm happy yet but I don't feel devistated anymore. (Thanks both H's :wave: )

Aussiegirl1

07-17-2006, 02:52 AM

I personally think happiness can be found when you look at what you have and what is working at any present time, instead of being overly caught up in what is lost and what you don't seem to have yet. It's more of an attitude than anything. And every time I adopt this attitude I see just how much is actually wonderful in my life. Granted, it can always be better, but I'm happy. :)

Silke, you are so right. As they say, you can't change the past and you don't know what the future will bring. It is the here and now we have to enjoy.

There is a saying we have been using at work and it is "choose your attitude" and it is amazing how it feels when you try to do that. You realise you do have some control over how you are feeling, though it is not always easy.

I also agree you have to like yourself and be yourself before you can be happy.

Love reading everyone's responses

Aussiegirl

Aussiegirl1

07-17-2006, 02:58 AM

This is so true. Master released me, I thought I'd sink in to a hole and I was pulled out and set back on my feet by people here. I tremble thinking what I would have done if I had not taken the time to visit the forum.
I remember seeing Aesop's post at the Academy, Does the forum smell; or something like that and just had to come peek.
I wouldn't say I'm happy yet but I don't feel devistated anymore. (Thanks both H's :wave: )

Sbbe, it is so good to hear you are on the way to feeling better. It just goes to prove to me yet again what an amazing community this really is.

Hoping that you continue to feel better every day. :)

Aussiegirl

StillBehindBlueEyes

07-17-2006, 04:03 AM

Hummmm, yes. Every single day I've felt a little happier. I love coming here and giggling.

His_pita

07-17-2006, 06:42 AM

For me happiness has been found in the arms and under the whip of my Joe. He is my everything and the reason that life is happy. I used to have so much rage and depression. He is bringing that out of me and helping me to become whole for once in my life. What a joy it has been. :)

Happiness can also be found in a jacuzzi as I just learned this last week while we were on vacation. :icon176:

dzire2pleeze

07-17-2006, 09:12 AM

This is so true. Master released me, I thought I'd sink in to a hole and I was pulled out and set back on my feet by people here. I tremble thinking what I would have done if I had not taken the time to visit the forum.
I remember seeing Aesop's post at the Academy, Does the forum smell; or something like that and just had to come peek.
I wouldn't say I'm happy yet but I don't feel devistated anymore. (Thanks both H's :wave: )

I understand your devastation and I also understand first-hand the support and tremendous love of the people on this site. They were there for me, too.

Curious George

07-17-2006, 10:28 AM

A few years back I was going through a bad time (not for the first time in my life either) and bought this book:
The Art of Happiness: A Handbook for Living - Dalai Lama & Howard C. Cutler.

Makes an awful lot of sense when things aren't going as well as you'd like, I'd recommend it to anyone who needs a shot of something good in their life. The one-line take home message from it is that we frequently go after things which will only bring temporary pleasure rather than real happiness, and we need to be able to tell these apart.

Me, well I'm on cloud nine these days, I'm not rich, my car is very ordinary and I'm currently between jobs, but I've got my perfect partner and she's as crazy about me as I am about her, and for the first time in a long while I really looking forward to the future :)

StillBehindBlueEyes

07-17-2006, 10:32 AM

Smiles
Isn't it such a strange thing that so many of us find such happiness in a place that's core is the application of pain. Giggle.

frankee

07-17-2006, 10:35 AM

Smiles
Isn't it such a strange thing that so many of us find such happiness in a place that's core is the application of pain. Giggle.

Good point..never really thought about it. Funny that, huh?:)

Warbaby1943

07-17-2006, 10:44 AM

Smiles
Isn't it such a strange thing that so many of us find such happiness in a place that's core is the application of pain. Giggle.
I have thought about exactly that, given it a lot of thought actually, and can't come up with an explanation other than I'm weird, kinky, or whatever else one may want to call me. Why I don't know and why now is even more puzzling. It is something I ma just trying to accept and live with as best I can. I'm am glad for this forum because it affords the opportunity to read about others of like mind.

frankee

07-17-2006, 11:20 AM

my happiness increased quite a bit today, my Mistress gave me an unexpected phone call this morning. *really big grin* i am going to have a damn good day today:) YAY for me!

Widget

07-17-2006, 11:37 AM

my happiness increased quite a bit today, my Mistress gave me an unexpected phone call this morning. *really big grin* i am going to have a damn good day today:) YAY for me!

How nice. Its always nice when something like that happens :)

frankee

07-17-2006, 11:54 AM

Thanks widget. i'm still grinning like an idiot:)

The Good Girl

07-17-2006, 03:24 PM

Since meeting my very nearly hubby-to-be (three days and counting to legality!) I am (and some will say an 'ingenue') a firm believer in my personally developed no holds barred theory where I give myself completely to CG and he recognises this in all that I do and say - he is first and foremost in my mind and heart, hurting myself more if I hurt him either thoughtlessly or needlessly.

Of course, there's the second ideology that 'life is pain, get used to it' which upon discovering a mutual understanding with CG, we then decided to change to 'if life is pain, might as well enjoy it!' :)

Now, how happy am I with my extreme pain threshold!

GG xx

Tojo

07-17-2006, 03:39 PM

I understand your devastation and I also understand first-hand the support and tremendous love of the people on this site. They were there for me, too.

Shouldn't that be *are* there d2p? :)

Tojo

submissivewife

07-17-2006, 07:55 PM

:woohoo: Sissy's back from vaca.....gotta call her....that's my happiness this week...

For me happiness has been found in the arms and under the whip of my Joe. He is my everything and the reason that life is happy. I used to have so much rage and depression. He is bringing that out of me and helping me to become whole for once in my life. What a joy it has been. :)

Happiness can also be found in a jacuzzi as I just learned this last week while we were on vacation. :icon176:

dzire2pleeze

07-18-2006, 08:51 AM

Shouldn't that be *are* there d2p? :)

Tojo

I stand corrected.

Aussiegirl1

07-19-2006, 02:14 AM

Smiles
Isn't it such a strange thing that so many of us find such happiness in a place that's core is the application of pain. Giggle.

I have found that the most amazing thing too, but I think it has a lot to do with the fact that people here just seem to think and care about others so much. I know I never expected to find such good friends as I have here.

Good Girl I hope all goes well for your big day.

YourThrone

07-20-2006, 06:09 AM

My happiness would be if in my lifetime I could find the Dominant woman of my dreams and be able to live an D/S lifestyle(I'm still searching and won't give up) but, man it's so frustrating lol In the meantime, I'm happy and content with my life thus far. I joined BDSM Library so life is good:)

katie_21

07-20-2006, 12:44 PM

My happiness left me a few years ago...I lost happiness and gained hips lol

Nicelips692

07-20-2006, 09:54 PM

Hi all, still new to the site but feel, for what it's worth, maybe some of us take happiness for granted or should I say take life for granted!

Shouldn't we be content with living in societies were we are able to communicte with likeminded souls! When I wake, one of my first feelings of happiness is just that, I've still got a pulse and I've woken:) , from then on it just gets better, I have the freedom to move when and where I like, with whom I like. I have the power to select who I wish to talk to and interact with.

Real happiness is a momentery feeling in the great scheme of things, but contentment can be with us 24/7. I felt real happiness when my Master and I played, when he had me in his power to do as he wishes. Alas we have parted our relationship but I can feel contentment remembering those times and also that hopefully I will meet someone for the future.

In finishing I wish you all a few moments of happiness each day and that yours smiles and laughter will keep you content when life dumps on you!

frankee

07-20-2006, 10:04 PM

In finishing I wish you all a few moments of happiness each day and that yours smiles and laughter will keep you content when life dumps on you!

That's a great wish for everyone. Thanks Nicelips:)

Nicelips692

07-21-2006, 02:15 PM

Your welcome Frankie:wave: , have a great weekend

YourThrone

07-26-2006, 07:47 PM

Well, on a positive note. I've been chatting with an Domme for the past 6 months from another country and she's working on moving here to the states to be with me. So, things are looking up in that regard.

frankee

07-26-2006, 08:20 PM

Sir_G

07-26-2006, 08:35 PM

I am fairly content at the moment. As Nicelips said I woke up, still had a pulse and all those things we take for granted.

But I wish I had a few friends who shared my interests to visit during the day, instead of sitting in front of this damned screen posting to people who live over the other side of the world. Don't get me wrong I really enjoy my time on the forums and think I'm starting to make some online friends here but nothing beats one on one contact.

I'm just venting and feeling lonely and sorry for myself at the moment and I know by sitting here typing I'm probably perpetuating the problem. I'll go and stick my head in a bag and yell really loudly and curse the world then come back and post some more.

frankee

07-26-2006, 09:36 PM

awww gregsta...sending you a big hug from the other side of the world.

Sir_G

07-26-2006, 09:54 PM

Thanks Frankee.

vistana

07-31-2006, 09:08 PM

Sir_G

07-31-2006, 09:27 PM

Know the feeling well vistana. Sometimes you've got to just keep putting one foot in front of the other. It's cold comfort I know and especially during the bitter watches when there's no one else around.

Know this, there's people here who care even though they're across the other side of the world and remember your focus determines your reality. Focus on good things, it helps.

Greg

Aussiegirl1

08-01-2006, 01:47 AM

my happiness is not so good right now...

feeling very isolated and sad for a few different reasons, none of which I know how to resolve. I'm ok-ish in company, but start feeling down as soon as I spend too much time with my thoughts. Which I do too often.
So I spend too much time feeling sorry for myself.

Normally my happiness is in great shape, gotta figure out how to kick-start it up again.

Hey there vistana,

I don't have any magic wand to wave to make you feel better, but I hope knowing you are not alone helps. I hope you get yourself back on track soon, but until then take care and maybe indulge yourself a little. You know you are worth it.:)

Aussiegirl

debbieh

08-01-2006, 03:05 AM

My happiness would be if I could openly talk about enjoying BDSM around my family and friends. But I can't. I hope some day to find a Dominant man or woman to help me learn to be submissive truly. Not that I mind being on the internet and role playing through IM, but it would be nice to have one on one contact.

Asia

08-01-2006, 07:42 AM

I usually feel good and can laugh in the face of adversity, but the last two days, I feel the pain of having let someone down, despite our disgreements and not having had the chance of saying and kissing and making up before they left for another and better world. Yet tomorrow brings another day, a brave day, and I will steal it away. I apologise for being sombre, just a temporary glitch.
Asia
xxx

Silke

08-01-2006, 01:44 PM

*sending out big hugs to all who feel the need for them* sometimes life just kicks you in the shins...but it'll get better, it always does...and you come out on the other side feeling stronger and better prepared for the next bump in the road. Lots of love and sunshine to y'all. :)