My Last Post

[katie_21]

Just wanted to let everyone know that I will not be back here on the forums again. It's nothing that anyone's done wrong, or that I'm mad at anyone. I just wanted to thank you all for being so nice and open and welcoming towards me. I felt very comfortable here but time has come to where I must move on with my life. I never in a million years would've dreamed that I would be into BDSM, and I'm glad this was my first step in realizing what I wanted out of foreplay. I wish everyone the best and hope that life brings you all much deserved happiness. I will miss you all.

[Silke]

katie....I'm sorry to see you go. So sorry. I wish you all the best for your future and wherever you'll go for whatever reasons - be happy and keep the sunshine with you. I'll miss you, hon. *hugs and still hopes that katie will visit every now and again*...

[MajesticFae]

Aww! I'm sad to see you go as well, katie!! I never knew you personally, but it's always sad to lose a family member, and that's what we all seem to be in this community, a family. I wish you the best of luck in the future. =)

[Talia]

ohh hell Katie....you WILL be missed very much!

[Timberwolf]

Wherever you are moving on to, I wish you all the best.

May your sailing be smooth and the wind at your back.

[Tojo]

Yeah I might be a bit quiet myself for a while- I'll check my PMs though if anyone wants me.


Tojo

[Qmoq]

Aww bye Katie and Tojo, if and when you want to come back, you'll be welcomed with opened legs and arms.

Q xx

[cariad]

Katie, a very gentle and caring farewell to you. Although we have only communicated occasionally I feel very fond of you. I wish you every joy in all aspects of your life, and if you ever wish to return here be assured there will be a warm welcome awaiting you. Please remember the love you have experienced here, and remember it was given quite simply because of whom you are.

cariad



Tojo, huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuug

[suchaminx]

Katie

Take care and be happy in whatever you do ~love and hugs~ minx x

Tojo - please be happy too ~hugs and a smile~

[cookiecat]

katie, i don't know you at all but have read your posts....it seems a sad moment for some but as always with change comes good things and I wish this for you. take the very best of care.

cookiecat

[poetic_justice]

I'm sorry to see you leave the forums Katie, but I wish you all the best in your future endevours and hope that you find your happiness wherever you end up. Good luck sweetheart.

Damnit Tojo, you can't leave too!! :(
I'm sorry to see you go (hopefully only temporarily) but I hope you find your happiness

- pj

[Talia]

Yeah I might be a bit quiet myself for a while- I'll check my PMs though if anyone wants me.


Tojo

oooohhh no....you're not going too...

[Sir_G]

Yeah damn! I've been avoiding posting here all day. It's sad to see someone go and I've enjoyed reading your posts katie.

Tojo - ya gotta do what you gotta do, we'll be here, you know it just don't stay away too long.

Love to you both
Greg

[Silke]

One sad story *sighs*...I really hope you won't leave us for long, Tojo. Losing one person is bad enough, I'm not sure I could stand two wonderful people leaving. I hope you'll both find peace and strength in your time outs...and know that we'll be here for you if you need an open ear or a comfy shoulder. You know where to find me. *hugs*

[maddie]

Katie, I'm sorry to see you leave us. I hope you find much happiness in your life. You seem like a fabulous person and I wish you all the best in life.

Tojo, big hugs to you and I hope you'll be back with us soon.

[Nikita]

Don't think of this as goodbye Katie, but a break. All of us, at one time or another have taken time off to move on with our lives.

IMO, bdsm is not something you grow out of or move away from. It will be in your mind, dormant at times, but always there, like an addiction.

Come back when you need to. This is a safe place to share your bdsm thoughts and feelings and whatever else crosses your mind.

Tojo, I understand dealing with someone who is departing is very, very hard. I'll be sending positive cyber thoughts your way.

[dzire2pleeze]

katie...i don't know you. except for reading your posts, i've never talked to you...but i sense a very tender heart; a spirit that is searching. i trust you will find that which you seek. If it's not's out there...please come back and grace us with your fine wit....you are a hoot.

[cariad]

Katie - I do hope you are reading these messages of support, and trust you are encouraged by them. If you would ever like to mail me about anything or nothing, please use the one from the site, it will always find me, although maybe up to a day late.

Hugs
cariad

[Asia]

The times they are a-changing.... I wish you well in your life's adventures, if it feels right, then it is right - will be missed, you're one hellava woman ...
*kiss*
Asia
xxx

[MsUther]

I am sorry you feel you have to leave the forum. But if thats what you need to do, i wish you happy and safe times to come. Thank you for letting us in on this part of your life, both your staying and going.
I hope you are well and I hope good things will pile up ahead of you.

Big hugsss to both you and Tojo.
:o

[His_pita]

Best of luck Katie. :)

[little_rose]

I'm sorry to see you both go (katie and Tojo).
I don't know either of you that well--but i do know from reading your posts that you are both thoughful and wonderful people. And if you should ever need a friend, i'm sure many people would be happy to lend you a shoulder to lean on.
Go in peace guys.

xx

[shins]

Good luck to you both. I'll miss reading your posts. They are always warm and considerate. *crosses fingers* hoping that you will grace us with your presence in the future.

[MajesticFae]

I know I've already posted on here but...

Both of you will be missed, but I hope that katie has atleast logged back on and sees the numerous replies to this post as to how much we'll miss her (and Tojo, as it seems he will be gone for a while, only temporarily, we can hope). If you are reading this katie, I wish you the best and I hope you will never forget your experiences and the friends you've made throughout your journey with us. =)

[Tojo]

Thanks for the overwhelming support for both of us. It means a lot to me at least. Thanks especially for the multitude of PMs & emails.

Yes if katie stays away from me for good as she's threatened to, my life will never be the same again. I've never met anyone like her- she's a pain the ass sometimes, but has made me feel alive like I never thought possible.

I'm not going anywhere- I'm not one to give up easily, I'll just be a bit quiet for a while.

I have my dear friend Jane to talk to- her bf left for no apparent reason as well, so we have found solace in each other as usual.

As for you katie, if you ever read this- I'll be here waiting for you.
I could never forget you. :rose:

Tojo

[Talia]

My heart breaks for both of you.

[mina]

My heart breaks for both of you.

Me too SB. I'm sad to see you go as well, katie, you seem like a really sweet person. Good luck though, and hopefully you'll change your mind and come back one day.

Tojo, I can understand why you'd be quiet for awhile now, but I will miss reading your posts! You can always talk to me if you need someone and no one else is online. Big hugs from me too.

[Ozme52]

Katie, good luck. I hope you that at some point you find yourself able to return. If not, you will be missed.


Tojo, I know exactly how you feel right now. It is probably the hardest thing we do... Doms like you and I. We invest ourselves all too heavily in our submissives, whether formally or informally, we put all we are into them. Take your time... but don't stay away too long.

[cariad]

Ozme and Tojo - it is what makes you great Doms.

Part of prayer of mine might be protect me against non great Doms, but another might be protect me even more against the really great ones!

Thinking back to an online relationship which ended in tears for both of us. It was just so perfect. The relationship was too organic to be able to halt in one place, so it had to either blossom into a full blown real life one, or we had to say our goodbyes. We had this great plan which was that we would step it down to just being good friends. Hmmmmph. Each time we tried that it failed completely. The history and the mutual care and attraction was just too strong. A complete separation was the only way we managed it. It is my sincere hope that we will one day be able to resume an exchanging Christmas cards/birthday cards and outline news type of relationship because it would mean so much to me to know what he is doing, and I think I really would dance for joy if I heard he had found the perfect woman for him. But right now, as I type this I can only once again feel that pain of separation, and know for certain that a complete break was the only way we could do what we both had to do.

cariad

[pttwyn]

Things that are necessary, are often not the easiest.
All my best to you.

[Tojo]

Thanks Oz, that's nice.

Tojo

[wingsofanangel]

katie, sorry I am late on this.. if you are reading.. you are missed. I know that its not always easy to deal with this lifestyle.. and I cannot imagine what you are going through or why you are leaving.... but listen to your heart...

I too struggle with my being here... I never thought I would find myself at a place like this... I don't know how long I will be here ... or when my time will be up... but I know that I have great friends here and have learned a lot.

With any situation in life it can be used to learn and grow... i hope you take something away from your time here and use it to better learn yourself and what you want from life.

Never look back... never regret... always forgive... remember forget... words to live by...

Tojo... my heart is with you. Seperating from a Dom or sub is never easy. May time and friends ease your pain.

Blessed be,

Sera

[Warbaby1943]

katie, sorry I am late on this.. if you are reading.. you are missed. I know that its not always easy to deal with this lifestyle.. and I cannot imagine what you are going through or why you are leaving.... but listen to your heart...

I too struggle with my being here... I never thought I would find myself at a place like this... I don't know how long I will be here ... or when my time will be up... but I know that I have great friends here and have learned a lot.

With any situation in life it can be used to learn and grow... i hope you take something away from your time here and use it to better learn yourself and what you want from life.

Never look back... never regret... always forgive... remember forget... words to live by...

Tojo... my heart is with you. Seperating from a Dom or sub is never easy. May time and friends ease your pain.

Blessed be,

Sera
Sera,

You are wise beyond your years. I for one hope you never leave. Your youthful wisdom at times and your ageless advise at others would be sorely missed. Hoping to advert another tragic loss, I beg you to stay.

[Warbaby1943]

Thanks for the overwhelming support for both of us. It means a lot to me at least. Thanks especially for the multitude of PMs & emails.

Yes if katie stays away from me for good as she's threatened to, my life will never be the same again. I've never met anyone like her- she's a pain the ass sometimes, but has made me feel alive like I never thought possible.

I'm not going anywhere- I'm not one to give up easily, I'll just be a bit quiet for a while.

I have my dear friend Jane to talk to- her bf left for no apparent reason as well, so we have found solace in each other as usual.

As for you katie, if you ever read this- I'll be here waiting for you.
I could never forget you. :rose:

Tojo

Tojo,

I really feel for you but you know that already. You know you have a great number of friends. I've always said what good are friends if you can't use them. Do that now and heal quickly. You'll be missed in your absence.

[wingsofanangel]

Sera,

You are wise beyond your years. I for one hope you never leave. Your youthful wisdom at times and your ageless advise at others would be sorely missed. Hoping to advert another tragic loss, I beg you to stay.

Thank you Warbaby...I really do appreciate it. Not everyone is willing to accept advice or what have you from someone my age.. by I try hard to look at life and the world with open eyes and a sponge like mind. Its nice to be able to put it to use.. or atleast try to. I do not plan on leaving anytime soon, its just a struggle to deal with my feelings sometimes... as I was not raised to hang around a place like this... I hope that does not come across as offensive... its just hard to justify something when life was once so black and white for me.. and now there is so much grey matter.

Thanks again.

And lots of Hugs to Tojo and Katie.

Sera

[Tojo]

Yes an excellent point sera- the struggle to stay here. I may well have walked away myself this week if not for the support of my friends.
Thanks for the hugs, that means a lot.

The whole world tells us what we feel & what we do is wrong. It takes a lot to keep on track sometimes. Even the intensity of feeling seems wrong somehow.

I'd never desert lisa- I'm talking to her now, but getting back into a 'full blown' D/s relationship again is not going to be easy.

Let's hope katie does come back- the last 4 days have been dark & cold.


Tojo

[frankee]

You're never alone Tojo *big hug*

[Silke]

Let's hope katie does come back- the last 4 days have been dark & cold.

*Lights an ocean of candles for Tojo* Come into de-light, my friend. ;)

[Aussiegirl1]

Tojo

Big, warm, cosy hugs to you.

I know I can't just take away your pain, but I hope I can help to ease it in time.

[Warbaby1943]

Thank you Warbaby...I really do appreciate it. Not everyone is willing to accept advice or what have you from someone my age.. by I try hard to look at life and the world with open eyes and a sponge like mind. Its nice to be able to put it to use.. or atleast try to. I do not plan on leaving anytime soon, its just a struggle to deal with my feelings sometimes... as I was not raised to hang around a place like this... I hope that does not come across as offensive... its just hard to justify something when life was once so black and white for me.. and now there is so much grey matter.

Thanks again.

And lots of Hugs to Tojo and Katie.

Sera
Sera, we all struggle with our feelings at times. Realizing those feeling are real makes us what we are. A place like this is the last place I ever thought I'd find friendships but I was surely wrong. I love this place and one lady in particular. Do try to stay with us for a long time to come.

I'd venture to say that none of us or at least a very small percentage of us ever thought we'd end up here. We did and we found each other and all the support that is given is just amazing. Hang around lovely, one you'd missed in your absence.

[cookiecat]

its just a struggle to deal with my feelings sometimes... as I was not raised to hang around a place like this... I hope that does not come across as offensive... its just hard to justify something when life was once so black and white for me.. and now there is so much grey matter.

Sera

I too am sad to see Katie leave and how much that has touched Tojo's heart. I don't know either of them - or you Sera - but have come to know each of you through your posts and somehow feel vested in your stories.

Sera - I think we are in a similar place in that we acknowledge these submissive feelings and are trying to find out how to incorporate them into our real life. Is it our little secret? Do we eventually "come out?" Tojo says it too, that sometimes it's hard to have these feelings when the rest of the world looks down at you.

I can only say that since I'm a lifetime older than you, Sera, don't look back. Acknowledge what you know is a part of you. You have such a wonderful spirit and it's hard when those little doubts come creeping up on you. I wonder if Tojo would take away what he had with Katie in order to avoid the heartache? Probably not. (hope i'm not making any unwarranted assumptions here...)

This seems like a safe place to discuss uncertanties, to ask questions, to learn. Ok, done rambling................

[Tojo]

I wonder if Tojo would take away what he had with Katie in order to avoid the heartache? Probably not. (hope i'm not making any unwarranted assumptions here...)

I'd do it again tomorrow cookiecat- & I will too if I get the chance. I've told her to take her time & I'll wait til the end of the year.

Don't anyone ever think twice because you might get hurt- losing a love is painful, but never having one is a heck of a lot worse.

You don't get many chances in life- I'm going to be 47 years old in less than two months. I've had two chances in all that time, I married one 15 years ago, & I'm waiting for another to make her mind up.

Don't hold back & don't settle for less than the very best.


Tojo

[katie_21]

Thank you all for the wonderful words of encouragement.

wingsofanangel, yes you are very wise. But...I left the D/s relationship with him a few months ago, and it didn't get very far in the first place. I'm leaving so that we can distance ourselves, have time to think and hopefully when I decide to come back...we can just be friends.

Tojo, I don't do well when someone tells me that I have till such time to make up my mind. I've already told you my final decision.

I love my husband very much, and I don't want to do ANYTHING to jeopardize our marriage. To me...it was cheating. Thank God, I stopped it when I did. Before I did anything wrong.

[Tojo]

Guys, thanks for the kind words for me, but please let's keep this thread for katie.

Tojo

[Qmoq]

Katie, good luck again for the future. As sincere, warm and wonderful as these online things are, real-life is always more important. You're doing the right thing, but I do hope you can come back eventually.

Q x

[Timberwolf]

I hope that you all find your way down the path to where you needed to be. As long as you trust yourself, life has a funny way of working out like that in the end.

[katie_21]

Well, now I feel a bit silly for posting here after I just made this a big deal about being my last post.

I guess I should've said I'm taking a break instead. But, well here I am...I'm back. I realized I needed this place to share my kinkiness, cause well..everyone needs an outlet.

Thanks for all the nice comments that you sent my way everyone. It feels good to be back though.

[Silke]

katie...please, don't feel silly. You're always welcome here and I for one understand that things get a little weird or overwhelming from time to time. I'm glad that you seem to have figured out whatever made you leave...it's good to have you back, love. :)

[MajesticFae]

Welcome back katie. And you shouldn't feel silly. =) You just made a simple little typo. No one can ever fully escape their family. So... welcome back, sister. =)

[cariad]

It is lovely to see you here again Katie, and all the nice things apply even more now you are back.

Huuuuuuuuuugs, and hope you are feeling strong after your vacation from the forums.

cariad

[frankee]

Welcome back katie:)

[Timberwolf]

Welcome back.

[Warbaby1943]

Glad to have you back Katie.

[Tojo]

Someday you'll learn that I'm always right.... :wave:


Tojo

[Warbaby1943]

Someday you'll learn that I'm always right.... :wave:


Tojo
Tojo, you may not always be right but, like me, you're never wrong.

[KermitsKeeper]

Welcome back, Katie!!!

[Ozme52]

Nice to see you again katie.

[Sir_G]

Cool. Good to see tou Katie. Look forward to reading your stuff.

[suchaminx]

katie, welcome back, I'm sure it will soon feel like you have never been away

~smiles and a hug~ minx x

[riverwindsong]

welcome back! :)

[poetic_justice]

Its good to have you back with us :)

[MsUther]

Welcome back Katie :)
I just want to point out that its ROAST TOJO week:4:

[Talia]

ahhh Katie...it's great to have you back here. You have been missed! As MsUther pointed out...it is Roast Tojo Week! WEG

[Tojo]

I just want to point out that its ROAST TOJO week


She knows, Ms Uther....
Probably what she came back for. :rolleyes:


Oh & btw, welcome back too missy - it's good to have you back again.

Don't worry about feeling silly, I think most of have struggled with our feelings around this darn stuff. It only took me about 30 years to come to terms with it....


Tojo

[Rabbit1]

Welcome home love

[katie_21]

Thanks everyone :)

[elizabethlemon]

She's bbbaaaaaackkk

:) Hey everyone it's katie_21....I couldn't remember my email or password to log into my old account lol Typical right? Anyone still around?