Amberxiao
01-30-2007, 10:00 PM
Hello, I'm Amber.
I can't promise I'll be very vocal in the future, but as you will soon see, I have a tendency to ramble and write a lot. I tend to only frequent one forum at a time, however, and much as I like BDSM, writing is more important to me at the moment, so I've been spending most of my time at a writing forum. When I get too tired for that (as it is intellectually demanding), I look for something else.
I'm a switch, and am not looking for a partner at present. I live alone, though, and that gives me a lot of time to think. I've seen some people post their percentage of sub/dom tendencies, but I can't really say what mine would be. In particular, I've come to realize that different parts of me want different things. I'm also very much a feminist, to the point that I could not see myself being 100% submissive to any man. We'd have to switch, or I'd have to be the dominant in the relationship (and get my submission needs met by a woman or another switch). And I *can* switch with the same person - frankly, that is my preference. I realize this is unusual, both the switching with the same person AND the preference of F-me-m to M-me-f, but what can I say, I've never claimed to be normal ;).
There are times when I question myself, when I wonder if I'm really one or the other... and every single time I do that, something happens in the other that turns me on to such a point that I no longer have any doubt. It seems, generally, that I'd rather be dominant in day-to-day life and submissive in bed, but it's really not that cut and dried.
I've done a lot more reading/imagining than practice (though I have had some) because in general, I'm happier being single than with the wrong person and I tend to be attracted to people who are already my friends. It also takes me a long time to trust someone just at the kissing level, so getting to the trust needed for BDSM is not easy or something I'm willing to skimp on. I also have a very vivid imagination, and so far, have never let myself down.
In other areas: I love languages and hope to teach French and or Russian at the college level some point in the future: I'm currently working with people who have developmental disabilities. I also write, so I'm definitely interested in the Writer's Block. At the moment, I'm working on several projects, but few of them are really erotica. In fact, one of the reasons I'm interested in the Writer's Block is that although I'm very good with the actual domination/submission/pain stuff, I can't write actual sex scenes for the life of me! And I generally find them boring when I read them, too.
It seems that more people are posting their own introduction posts (like this) than in the general introductions thread, so I hope I'm in the right place.
Amber.
I can't promise I'll be very vocal in the future, but as you will soon see, I have a tendency to ramble and write a lot. I tend to only frequent one forum at a time, however, and much as I like BDSM, writing is more important to me at the moment, so I've been spending most of my time at a writing forum. When I get too tired for that (as it is intellectually demanding), I look for something else.
I'm a switch, and am not looking for a partner at present. I live alone, though, and that gives me a lot of time to think. I've seen some people post their percentage of sub/dom tendencies, but I can't really say what mine would be. In particular, I've come to realize that different parts of me want different things. I'm also very much a feminist, to the point that I could not see myself being 100% submissive to any man. We'd have to switch, or I'd have to be the dominant in the relationship (and get my submission needs met by a woman or another switch). And I *can* switch with the same person - frankly, that is my preference. I realize this is unusual, both the switching with the same person AND the preference of F-me-m to M-me-f, but what can I say, I've never claimed to be normal ;).
There are times when I question myself, when I wonder if I'm really one or the other... and every single time I do that, something happens in the other that turns me on to such a point that I no longer have any doubt. It seems, generally, that I'd rather be dominant in day-to-day life and submissive in bed, but it's really not that cut and dried.
I've done a lot more reading/imagining than practice (though I have had some) because in general, I'm happier being single than with the wrong person and I tend to be attracted to people who are already my friends. It also takes me a long time to trust someone just at the kissing level, so getting to the trust needed for BDSM is not easy or something I'm willing to skimp on. I also have a very vivid imagination, and so far, have never let myself down.
In other areas: I love languages and hope to teach French and or Russian at the college level some point in the future: I'm currently working with people who have developmental disabilities. I also write, so I'm definitely interested in the Writer's Block. At the moment, I'm working on several projects, but few of them are really erotica. In fact, one of the reasons I'm interested in the Writer's Block is that although I'm very good with the actual domination/submission/pain stuff, I can't write actual sex scenes for the life of me! And I generally find them boring when I read them, too.
It seems that more people are posting their own introduction posts (like this) than in the general introductions thread, so I hope I'm in the right place.
Amber.