House Rules?

[violetgem]

My Master and I were discussing His "general rules", the ones I should know are in effect at all times, unless stated otherwise. This got me thinking about all of you out there, in a bdsm relationship of any kind, I am curious to know what kind of rules you follow or expect others to follow. Such as if a Dom, what rules do you expect your sub to follow, or if not involved with anyone at the time what rules do you know you would lay down? And as a sub, what rules does your Dom expect you to follow or wish they would enforce, and if not involved with anyone what rules would you like your Dom to set? I am trying to keep it a more open ended question and so I am not leaving anyone or anything out, so if my wording is off I do apologize.

[His_blizzard]

This was definitely food for thought.
I just now realized that I have very few set rules. Other than my 10:30 curfew on work nights, I am simply expected to do what I am told, when I am told to do it, treat him with respect, accept his judgement and be patient. Sounds way too easy right? NOT! Especially that foul "P" word. :30: ~blizz~

[Guest 91108]

blizz, those are pretty much the same rules I have.
I think there may be many that are sort of understood though.
I won't go into those though. chuckles.

[TomOfSweden]

Our list gets longer and longer every day. She loves rules.

Always naked and with a dog collar.
She must come straight home from work.
Whenever she's alone at home she must clean or cook for me.
If she needs to interupt me with anything she has to get down on all four by my feet and hope that I notice her.
She makes breakfast and pours the bath for me each morning.

All of these I can change at any time, which I do a lot.

And then it's a much longer list of how I like to have my things done to me. Like how I like my tea and coffee.

[Dragon's muse]

One rule: What Dragon wants, Dragon gets.

who needs rule 2.

[gagged_Louise]

Dragon's muse:: I'm sure that would work great in real-life relations when you live in the same town or the same house, but online relations (which many of us are in) do take more rule-building.

[Mishka]

For online...

Rhabbi's rules seemed reasonable to me


A few rules:

You have the right to say no.
You set the times so that your vanilla life is not affected.
These rules can be revoked by you at any time.
Any other rules desired must be agreed to by Me.

ADDITIONAL RULES THAT I INSIST UPON.
Any yelling at the Master by the slave must be punished.
Passion is acceptable, but if I am close minded, tease Me and I will listen.
Mind changes are acceptable, but as a matter of courtesy will be mentioned by the party that changes their mind.
Other rules may be added at my whim.

[TomOfSweden]

Dragon's muse:: I'm syure that would work great in real-life relations when you live in the same town or the same house, but online relations (which many of us are in) do take more rule-building.

I think that's a bit too generall. I think it's as simple as, some people are into it and some aren't. Me personally, I'm so hyper in my life that I need rules or nothing gets done. I live by them as if I'd been a slave even if it's my rules.

[Dragon's muse]

It is what works for us, because Dragon is just not a micromanager. i know my purpose, to make his life easier and meet his needs, preferably without him having to point them out.

(before anyone accuses him of wanting me to be a mind reader, we have been Owner and property for nearly 15 years)

In the early stages of our relationship, we went through a "rules" stage, but their importance decreased as time went by, and the mindset of simply being his took over.

So, i guess you could say that i have simply internalized the rules. But they don't feel like rules. i do not sit at his feet and hold his drink while he reads the paper in the evening because it is or ever was a rule, i do it because it feels natural and right and it puts a smile on his face.

[annie]

i know in my relationships i have had assorted items that have been required or requested. Would i call them rules... some yes, some no. Either way it was what worked for U/us and kept growing and changing as W/we grew and explored together... Sometimes additional items being added, other time items being dropped. Just what ever worked for U/us at that time.

Personally... i think the important thing to remember is that each relationship will have their own set of rules for what works for that relationship. Just as no ones kinks are the same no one's rules are the same either. And, i have seen situations where one Dom/me with 2 (or more) subs may have different rules for each sub... because that is what worked for the relationship and most importantly for the subs involved.

And everyone's definition of what a "rule" is will vary as well. Some may see a standing request as just that a request and not a "rule" where as to others that is a hard and fast "rule." i'm not sure i can define any certain "rule" although i know i have had to meet set expectations...

Different kinks... different rules... different definitions... fun for those involved! That is what's important!

Just my two cents worth....

[Warbaby1943]

The only rules I would insist on is a mutual respect for each other's feelings. I don't want to have to set up any rules for her to live by other than to be herself. After all, that is what attracted me to her in the first place and that is what will keep us together.

[His_blizzard]

:
One rule: What Dragon wants, Dragon gets.

who needs rule 2.

Yeah...what she said! :p ~blizz~

[TheDeSade]

Was just sitting here thinking of what hard and fast, carved in stone rules I have set. . . . .

email journal to me once a day

a few very general clothing rules

[Ironwulf]

My rules really come down to the following three things.

Be Honest
Be Respectful
Be Attentive

I do not do online BDSM, but they would proably be the same.

[Guest 91108]

I like the be attentive rule adds it.

[precious]

Was just sitting here thinking of what hard and fast, carved in stone rules I have set. . . . .

email journal to me once a day

a few very general clothing rules

*wonders... do i tell Him i don't see those as rules but more of the...

"technical" (since how else would He know what was going on and provide me with the level of control i desire without the communication)

and

"desire to please" (if He likes certain clothing changes why would i NOT do it?)

aspects of O/our relationship or do i let Him keep considering them rules???? hmmmmm

Guess it is all in the perspective... grinz*

[violetgem]

Different kinks... different rules... different definitions... fun for those involved! That is what's important!
.

I liked how you put that, that is what I was trying to get out of people, their rules based on their definitions and kinks…

[Hime]

In a living-together relationship...

I wear my harness for him every other day and am expected to have it on when he gets home.
I do the dishes (although that's more for vanilla reasons, since we chose chores based on which ones we'd prefer to do) and cook when we eat in.
I tell him how I feel about our experiences. I am not allowed to answer a question with a question or otherwise try to say what he wants to hear.

There are other things that happen off-and-on, but those are the really hard and fast rules.

[wolfs_lilgirl]

umm... i dont have many rules... just to..obey my Sir...
oh never pout!
i have a curfew...
very simple ones... like adrress him by Sir... and never backtalk...i dunno i dont remember blushes lol!!

[Guest 91108]

smiles. She's a very Good Pet usually. grins.

[***Kate***]

Rules.
Being a 24/7 relationship like many others we started out with many rules. How to dress. How to serve.
How I liked things done. What words he could or could not use. What furniture he could or could not sit on. What bed did he sleep in.. What car could he drive and so on. But after 7 years these are not considered as rules more as day to day living.

The house rules for all that visit that are in this way of live.. ALL submissive be they slave or sub they will serve all Dominates be they Master or Mistress.. All submissive will beg to gain entry in to My home. They will also wear collars when in my home.
I do not allow any sub/slave to use the excuse but you’re not My owner /Mistress that is no excuse not to serve.

Family /work rules.. Family all ways come first.. work.. our way of life does not and should not interfere with work life.

My home my Rules … And I will and can change them as I see fit.

[Dongthong2005]

I have a submissive house cleaner in southern africa where I live part of the time who is into pain, and my wife is also a sub who's addicted to humiliation. For my wife and I there rules start once our kids are in bed. two times a week she must create games for us to play that center around humiliation and punishment, and I too can choose upto three nights where I decide how she will be used. She is not allowed to wear anything that prevents access to her pussy, tits, and ass. Also, she must keep a list of her wrong doings, which we assess on the weekends and determine extra, fun punishment based on the degree of naughtyness. As for my house cleaner, I admit the rules are not really set in stone. However, she knows that when standing next to me she must keep her hands on her head, and legs apart. She loves to have her pussy lips pulled hard and spanked. I often walk around the house with her in a headlock and her tits, ass, and pussy exposed for punishing or groping for the fun of it, while I assess her work. This is now a rule, but it wasn't at firts, and she little by little accepted. She cooks for me and knows to grab her ankles, spread her legs when I take my first bite. If it is too salty, then wham.

dongthong

[J's blu]

***Kate*** * The house rules for all that visit that are in this way of live.. ALL submissive be they slave or sub they will serve all Dominates be they Master or Mistress.. All submissive will beg to gain entry in to My home. They will also wear collars when in my home.*

may i ask please? what if it is a married lifestyle couple, does the sub/slave still have to serve Others if the Dom/me Master Mistress does not wish them to? would this cause a problem?
although,
*My home my Rules … And I will and can change them as I see fit.*
probably covers that, so i would then assume it is up to the Dom/me Master/Mistress to discuss this with You before hand?

[***Kate***]

Greetings J"s blu>>may i ask please? what if it is a married lifestyle couple, does the sub/slave still have to serve Others if the Dom/me Master Mistress does not wish them to? would this cause a problem?
although, ..

To answer your questions.. As serving in my home is required it would be a problem .however I can not see it being a problem as the serving I talk about is a none sexual manner.:pray:

>>>>so i would then assume it is up to the Dom/me Master/Mistress to discuss this with You before hand?

Yes. For me there is no shades of grey .its black or white. sub/slave or not.
I have yet to come across one that has not been permitted to serve other Master/Mistresses.

some slave/sub may not like it.but it is a good way to see how ones sub or slave are with others. It also can be a lot of fun for all.
Master/Mistress can view others in how they serve and that is good way to learn maybe new things.
Other sub/slaves may want to share information on how they serve and teach or help others learn new ways.
It is very pleasing to see your girl /boy serve others it also can push limits or even see if there are limits in this area.
Having said all that if a Master or Mistress found that this was a hard limit then he or she has only got to say so.
the idea is to have fun learn and share. not to push on hard limits..

***Kate***

[J's blu]

Mistress Kate, i thank You for that clarification, and understand Your rule better now.
respectfully blu

[Jim]

i am curious .. as what would be a good rule to begin with in a house ... that would set the tone of things to come ..

[J's blu]

i would guess that would depend on what it is that You want to come? as in, if You have a path mapped out of how you would like things to develop, then the first rule should reflect a first step along that path.

[fantazmaster]

I may have shared this some of the members before as a matter of interest,This is a list of Demands from a Male Dom To Fem Sub which contains numerous rules
among the Demands of his.I found this back before there was a Net and it is still out there floating around almost 20 years after it was first written. Funniest comment I ever received after sharing this with a femsub online was her calling me a "Male Sexist Montah". Well at least she got the gender down correctly,but her spelling on the last word,well I gave her an "F"!

Archive-name: Slaves/demands.txt

Archive-author: Master Steve

Archive-title: One Master's Instructions to his slave....



Slave,


Know this:


You are not my wife. You will never become my wife. You have no claim on

my assets or my income. You are not expected to cook for me, or keep house

for me, or sew for me, or bear my children, or rear them. You are solely

my sex slave.


Your goal and purpose in life from now on is to serve my sexual pleasure.

You will concentrate all your attention and initiative toward attracting,

arousing, stimulating, intensifying, and satisfying my sexual lust.


You will at all times wear a slave collar symbolizing your status as my

personal property. You will not handle or attempt to remove a slave collar

other than at my direct command.


You will submit to any brands or tattoos that I choose to place on your

body to proclaim your slave status or to enhance your appearance.


You will acknowledge that you are a sex slave and that I am your master

whenever you are asked. You will identify me as your master when making

introductions.


You will greet me with the words "Master, please fuck me!" whenever you

meet me, whether in your apartment or elsewhere. You will answer the

telephone in your apartment with the words "Sex slave" and your name.


You will come quickly to me and kneel before me whenever I enter your

apartment.


You will strip and remain naked whenever you are in your apartment. While

there you will wear nothing that covers or conceals any part of your

breasts, your pubes, or your buttocks.


You will shave or otherwise remove the hair from your pubic area as well as

your legs and your axillae. You will keep these areas smooth and

stubble-free at all times.


You will never wear panties, pantyhose, or any undergarment that covers or

conceals any part of your shaved cunt.


You will never wear a bra or any undergarment that covers your nipples.

Some clothes may require support or shaping of your breasts for best

effect; you will wear stick-ons or an open-front bra for this purpose.


You will dress to keep your breasts on display to the limit of the law; at

all times it must be possible for a casual observer to see the full shape

of your breasts and the condition (erect or not) of your nipples. You will

wear low-cut blouses or tops to expose much of your breasts most of the

time. You will wear see-through blouses whenever socially acceptable.


You will dress to keep your ass on display to the limit of the law; at all

times it must be possible for a casual observer to see the full shape of

your buttocks, hips and thighs.


You will wear only miniskirts no longer than midway between your cunt and

the top of your kneecaps. I will place a tattoo mark on your thigh which

your skirts must never cover.


You will wear only pants or shorts that are completely skin tight,

specifically in the crotch, conforming to and revealing the shape of your

mons and labia and the division between them and conforming to your

buttocks and the division between them.


You will wear stockings that are shiny or patterned to emphasize the curves

of your legs. You will choose stockings that cling to your thighs, or wear

round elastic garters. You may keep stockings on in your apartment.


You will wear high-heeled shoes or boots (four inches or higher) at all

times, including when in your apartment, except for sleeping and for

exercising at a gym. You will wear shoes with ankle straps that close with

small padlocks to display your slave status. You will wear boots that are

perfectly skin-tight, conforming to the curves of your ankles and calves.


You will dress for all social gatherings outside your apartment to be the

most sexually provocative female present. Exception: you will keep one

conservative outfit for dealing with government officials.


You will expose and display your naked breasts or shaved cunt to anyone at

any time at my command. You will not deliberately expose your nipples or

cunt in public at other times.


You will wear mostly leather clothing. You will choose leather that is

thin, soft, and glossy, not bulky or stiff. You will also wear shiny,

stretchy fabrics, shiny soft silks, sheer fabrics, stretchy lace, and very

soft clinging knits.


You will dress mostly in bright red, white, gold, or black. You will wear

hot-pink hot-pants with matching thigh-high boots.


You will wear, whenever possible, garments that could be removed from your

bound spread-eagled body without your active cooperation. You will find or

have custom-made leather jeans, shiny stretch pants, and thin nylon shorts

all with full-length zippers down both outer seams; blouses with

full-length zippers, buttons, or lacing on both sleeves; and other garments

with similar features that make it obviously easy to strip you naked.


You will actively seek out and present for my approval sexually provocative

clothing and accessories. You will maintain a collection of catalogs of

Command:

sexy clothing. You will study the art of clothing design, and

actively create new designs for sexually provocative garments.


You will acquire waist nipper corsets that reduce your natural waist

measurement by six inches. You will wear them with certain outfits that I

select.


You will acquire a grope suit designed to tickle and stimulate your cunt

and breasts and keep you in a state of intense sexual arousal.


You will wear anything I place on you, whether clothing, jewelry, corsetry,

or restraints, until I remove it or order you to remove it.


You will undergo surgical sterilization to permanently avoid becoming

pregnant.


You will keep your cunt, your asshole, your mouth, and your entire body

scrupulously clean and free of bad odor at all times.


You will at all times wear perfume; you will choose perfumes that are bold,

provocative, and sexually suggestive; you will use moderate amounts.


You will wear your hair very long, and will style and maintain it to

enhance your attractiveness and sex appeal.


You will acquire and maintain a deep, uniform suntan.


You will use facial makeup sparingly, choosing subtle combinations. But

you will wear red lipstick as a visible symbol of your sexual openness

(representing the flush on sexually aroused cuntlips).


You will wear a two-foot light flexible spreader bar between your legs when

sleeping to establish the habit of keeping your legs spread and remaining

sexually vulnerable and available for fucking at all times.


You will exercise regularly to meet the strength and endurance requirements

I establish for you, because fucking, cock-sucking, bondage, and punishment

are physically demanding activities. The initial requirements are 10

pushups (from toes), 30 situps, 3 chinups, and 30 minutes for a two mile

run.


You will control your weight and measurements and clothing sizes to meet my

requirements. You will neither gain nor lose more than five pounds or more

than one inch at bust, waist, hips, or thighs, or one shoe size.


You will maintain good posture at all times, keeping your head up, your

back straight, your shoulders back thrusting your breasts up and forward,

and your tummy in. You will never slump or slouch.


You will study and practice the female arts of sexual intercourse in all

their variations. You will work at enhancing my pleasure in fucking you.

You will learn to stop all motions at my command. You will learn to move

your hips in perfect synchronization with my fucking strokes, and to adjust

your movements as my rhythm changes.


You will exercise your vaginal and anal muscles to meet the size, strength,

endurance, and control requirements I establish for you. You will learn to

squeeze with your cunt and your ass in many ways. You will practice and

record your progress using instrumented dildoes.


You will study male sexual anatomy, physiology, and psychology. You will

apply what you learn to enhancing my sexual pleasures.


You will study my body, my penis, my other erogenous and sensitive areas,

my sexual likes and dislikes, my emotional triggers, the pace and timing of

my arousal and orgasms, and my moods. You will learn to maintain me at a

high level of sexual arousal for extended periods, and to bring me to

orgasm rapidly upon command.


You will record and study your own sexual responses, erogenous and

sensitive areas, ticklish areas, the pace and timing of your arousal and

orgasms, and moods. You will tell me all these things about yourself.


You will study and practice the art of fellatio in all its variations. You

will learn and practice the deep-throat technique. You will learn to

retain my semen in your mouth or to swallow it at my command. You will suck

my cock on command or at my gesture. You will acknowledge that you are a

practiced and frequent cock-sucker whenever asked by anyone.


You will always refer to my penis as your God. You will kneel whenever you

see my penis to worship it by kissing, licking, and sucking it. You will

keep a fullsize rubber replica of my erect penis prominently on display in

your apartment, and will kneel to kiss and suck it immediately upon

entering.


You will study and practice the arts of massage, including all ways of

sexually stimulating me with your hands. You will become expert at

stroking and squeezing my penis and scrotum with your hands. You will

become expert at massage for relaxing me. You will acquire and maintain a

collection of creams, oils, and lotions for use in massaging my body.


You will study and practice the arts of erotic body kissing. You will

learn to stimulate me by nibbling, kissing, and sucking my nipples, my

neck, and other sensitive areas of my body.


You will study and practice the art of French kissing. You will always

accept kisses with your mouth open and you will never break a kiss. You

will invite intrusion by my tongue, and use your tongue to stimulate my

mouth. When I kiss you in a standing position, you will raise your hands

above your head thus raising your arms and opening your body for fondling.


You will study and practice the arts of exotic erotic dancing, including

strip-tease, tassel-twirling, belly-dancing, and go-go. You will maintain

a collection of appropriate recorded music to accompany your dancing.


You will study and practice the art of sexually provocative walking. You

will swivel your hips, strut, and flaunt your femaleness whenever you walk

in my presence or in public.


You will adopt a variety of sexually provocative postures for standing,

sitting, and lying down, both clothed and naked. You will at all times

keep your legs and your lips at least slightly parted to symbolize your

constant sexual availability to me. You will actively seek out and invent

new sexy poses.


You will practice kneeling to acknowledge your slavery in the proper

sex-slave posture: knees apart, back straight, hands on outer thighs,

elbows back, breasts lifted and thrust forward.


You will keep your eyes lowered, directed below my waist, when in my

presence.


You will study and practice the feminine arts of flirting and cock-teasing.

You will exercise these arts toward me whenever you are in my presence, and

you will flirt with other men at my command.


You will study and practice the arts of double-entendre and sexy wordplay.

You will practice the use of teasing sexy talk before and during punishment

to enhance my pleasure.


You will study and practice the arts of erotically stimulating moans and

exclamations and colorful language during sex play and intercourse.


You will research aphrodisiac and stimulating foods and drugs, for yourself

and for me. You will acquire and use those your researches and experiments

find most effective.


You will acquire and maintain a collection of sex toys, including hand

vibrators, dildoes, dildo vibrators, anal probes, anal vibrators, cock

rings, penis vibrators, breast squeezers, nipple suction devices, nipple

vibrators, french ticklers, clit suction devices, clit ticklers, ben-wa

balls, clitoral vibrators, penis pumps, mechanical fucking devices, rubber

clothing, and chemical stimulants.


You will study and practice the uses of all of your sex toys, and offer

them to me for use whenever appropriate. You will actively seek out new

sex toys and suggest them to me.


You will submit to bondage at any time and any place. You will place

yourself in bondage or restraints at my command.


You will acquire a collection of bondage equipment, including leather

helmets, head boxes, leather blindfolds, ball gags, penis gags, bits, jaw

spreaders, bridles, thumb cuffs, wrist cuffs, elbow cuffs, ankle cuffs,

single gloves, arm binders, neck cuffs, posture collars, spreader bars,

racks, stocks, waist nippers, crotch belts, partial penetrators, butt

plugs, labia spreaders, harnesses, ropes, straps, buckles, pulleys, chains,

and locks. You will actively seek out ideas for new forms of erotic

bondage and suggest them to me.


You will have installed and maintain a variety of anchor bolts, eyes, and

pulleys for bondage and suspension in the ceiling, walls, and floor of your

apartment, in the playroom, in the bedroom, on the bed, in the living room,

and on the patio.


You will help me design and construct a sex altar: a leather-covered padded

bench with attachment points enabling me to bind a woman's body completely

immobile and spread totally open and available for feeling and fucking. You

will clean, maintain and repair the sex altar and keep it ready for use at

all times. You will arrange yourself for binding on the sex altar at my

command.


You will help me design, build, and test a rape rack: a device with

movable, adjustable arms to hold a woman's wrists, ankles, neck, waist, and

other body parts in whatever position I choose to place her. You will

clean, maintain and repair the rape rack and keep it ready for use at all

times. You will adjust the rape rack to any specified posture and lock

yourself into it at my command.


You will keep all bondage equipment neatly stored and ready for use. You

will clean, maintain, and repair all bondage equipment.


You will help me design, build, test, and improve a sex machine that will

arouse, stimulate, maintain, intensify, and control a woman's sexual

responses and induce, control, and time her orgasms automatically or by

remote control while keeping her body fully on display.


You will submit to punishment at any time and any place. You will place

yourself in position for punishment at my command.


You will acquire and maintain a collection of sexual punishment equipment,

including whips, cat-o-nine-tails, crops, canes, switches, paddles, tit

whips, pussy whips, breast clamps, nipple clamps, nipple weights, labia

clamps, clitoris clamps, cunt stretchers, anus stretchers, tight corsets,

electrical prods, cunt shockers, remote controls, mace, chemical irritants,

cold packs, heat probes, and enema nozzles. You will actively seek out

ideas for new forms of erotic punishment and suggest them to me.


You will keep all punishment equipment neatly stored and ready for use.

You will clean, maintain, and repair all punishment equipment.


You will remember punishments I impose on you, remind me of them, and

request performance of them. You will administer punishments to yourself

at my command. You will wetly kiss each whip and each piece of punishment

equipment when offering it to me for use or before using it upon yourself,

and before storing it after use. You will thank me each time I punish you.


You will submit to piercing of your nipples, of your nasal septum, of your

labia majora, of your clitoris, and of whatever other parts of your

body I choose to pierce. You will carefully maintain your piercings,

keeping them open and disinfected at all times.


You will at all times unless I tell you otherwise wear small gold rings

through your nipples and your nose, and a barbell stud through your

clitoris. You will wear a small gold ring through your pierced cuntlip

bearing a silver tag engraved with your name and International Sex Slave

Registry number.


You will acquire and maintain a collection of jewelry for calling attention

to your sex slave piercings, including gold chains to pass between your

nipple rings, to pass from your nipple rings around your neck pulling your

breasts up by the nipples, to pass through your nipple rings and your nose

ring holding your head bowed, and to pass through both nipple rings and

your cuntlip ring.


You will acquire and maintain a collection of pierced nipple jewelry,

including large brilliant solitaire gems, rings of gems to surround your

areolae, gold disks with open centers to display your nipples, shiny chain

dangles, and colorful tassels.


You will acquire and maintain a collection of jewelry for your pierced

nose, for your pierced cuntlips, and for your pierced clitoris. You will

acquire chain leashes that can be clipped to your nose, nipple, or cunt

rings.


You will maintain and wear in public a collection of slave earrings,

necklaces, bracelets, anklets, and pins depicting explicitly sexual

figures, images, and symbols. These will include penises, testicles,

vaginas, breasts, and nipples, and figurines engaged in fucking,

cocksucking, bondage, and whipping.


You will maintain and wear in public a collection of slave earrings,

necklaces, bracelets, anklets, and pins with punning or explicitly sexual

words and figures, including the slogans "Sex Slave", "Sex Toy", "Slave

Girl", "In Stocks and Bonds", "Boy Toy", "Feel Me", "Fuck Me", "Feel the

Pink", "Plug My Socket", "Pussy", "Gang Bang Girl", "Round Heels", "Hot

Lips", "Hot'N'Wet", "Hot Ass", "Always Open", "Do It Now!", "Forever

Fuckable", "Whip Me", "69", "Cocksucker", and "I Suck Cock".


You will study the art of jewelry design. You will actively seek out and

create new designs for public slave jewelry, for pierced nipple, pierced

nose, and pierced cunt jewelry and present them to me.


You will maintain a collection of punishment jewelry that clips painfully

on your nipples, your cuntlips, or your clitoris and has sparkling or

brightly colored dangles or tassels to display your condition for my

enjoyment. You will actively seek out and create new designs for

punishment jewelry and present them to me.


You will actively recruit other women for my sexual use and pleasure, and

assist me in seducing them, arousing them, binding them, fucking them,

punishing them, dominating them mentally and emotionally, videotaping them,

and inducing them to return for more. You will keep records of the women

you recruit for me and those you assist me in enjoying.


You will study female sexual anatomy, physiology, and psychology. You will

apply what you learn to enhancing my sexual pleasures with other women

through advice, demonstration, and participation.


You will actively attract, tease, pursue, seduce, suck, fuck, confuse, and

abandon the husband or boyfriend of any other women in order to separate

him from the women as an aid in recruiting her for my sexual use and

pleasure.


You will actively aid me in forcibly abducting other women for my sexual

use and pleasure, and assist me in finding, choosing, capturing,

transporting, brainwashing, fucking, punishing, stimulating, controlling,

keeping, and returning them.


You will study the arts of female lesbian domination. You will dominate,

bind, fondle, squeeze, suck, dildo-fuck, and punish any woman at my command

as if she were a sex slave owned by you, as a display for my amusement and

pleasure.


You will submit yourself to any man I designate for his sexual pleasure,

for cocksucking or fucking or bondage or punishment. You will obey such a

man as you would me, and actively work to sexually arouse, stimulate, and

satisfy him. You will remember and record the actions and responses of all

such men.


Immediately after being fucked by any other man, you will douche carefully

with a disinfectant detergent solution.


You will submit yourself to any woman I designate for her sexual pleasure,

for sucking or bondage or punishment. You will obey such a woman as you

would me, and actively work to sexually arouse, stimulate, and satisfy her.

You will study the methods of lesbian sexual intercourse and apply them to

such women. You will remember and record the actions and responses of all

such women.


You will masturbate on command, to orgasm or multiple orgasms, with or

without the use of vibrators, dildoes, and other sex toys, on command, for

my amusement. You will stop masturbating on command.


You will study and practice the arts of on-camera sexual performance for

video recording. You will actively cooperate with video recording of your

sexual performances.


You will study and practice the arts of on-stage sexual performance before

live audiences. You will actively seek out opportunities to perform live

sex acts on stage.


You will study the arts of scripting, planning, and directing erotic and

pornographic movies, videos, and live stage productions.


You will model each new outfit of clothing and strip it off teasingly at

least twice, showing front and rear views. You will model the use of each

new sex toy, each new piece of bondage equipment, and each new piece of

punishment equipment. You will model each new piece of jewelry for your

sex slave piercings, each new piece of public slave jewelry, and each new

piece of punishment jewelry. You will script, plan, direct, and perform

these displays for maximum sexual impact. You will perform these displays

in my presence and will record them on videotape.


You will model and perform each new kind of erotic dance, sexually

provocative walk, and sexually provocative pose that you learn. You will

script, plan, direct, and perform these displays for maximum sexual impact.

You will perform these displays in my presence and will record them on

videotape.


You will keep a slave diary recording everything that you do and everything

that I do to you, and your feelings, moods, and reactions. You will

record in it all observations and researches that I may require of you.

You will keep this diary available to me at all times.


You will practice the arts of erotic storytelling and short-story writing.

You will rewrite each specifically sexual event from your diary twice,

first making it as erotically titillating and arousing as you are able for

masculine readers, and then again for feminine readers. You will actively

invent fictional sexual situations and sex acts, and write them for my

pleasure.


You will acquire, maintain, index, and study a library of erotic books,

magazines, photographs, posters, sculpture, audiotapes, videotapes, and

catalogs. You will include in the library all photographs and videotapes

of yourself and your sexual performances. You will actively seek out new

works of erotica. You will be prepared to describe to me the style and

content of any selection, and to select the best examples of any style of

erotic action.


You will decorate your apartment with sexually explicit, provocative,

erotic, and suggestive paintings, photographs, posters, quotations, and

sculpture. These will include likenesses of yourself and of me. You will

actively seek out and acquire such works and vary the selection on display

frequently.


You will select and mix a long recording of yourself and other women being

teased, tickled, and fucked, sighing, moaning, and crying out with sexual

excitement, need, and frustration, begging for release through orgasm; and

of yourself and other women being whipped and erotically punished,

squealing and crying with pain and begging for mercy. You will continually

add to this recording as new material becomes available. You will play it

as constant background music in your apartment.


You will prominently display at the entrance to your apartment, facing the

front door, an 11x17-inch framed copy of your International Sex Slave

Registration certificate listing your name, my name, and the text of your

vows of submission.


You will also display at the same location two 24x32-inch photographs of

yourself: one a close-up of your face, taken at the moment of orgasm, wet

with sweat, mouth open, lost in violent sexual pleasure; the other a

close-up of your naked shaved cunt, flushed with sexual arousal, wet with

your own lubricating secretions, spread wide to show your throbbing erect

clitoris and your eager vaginal lips.


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[~hellish one~]

my god that wore me out just trying to read it. ~laughs~

[annie]

lol.... me too hellish... me too!

(Although the sleeping with a spreader bar was interesting.... weg)

[Guest 91108]

Can you imagine the nut case the woman would be after 6 months to a year of that ? chuckles to self.

[Sinful]

Wow..

If I had to remember all that, I'd probably forget memories from ages seven through fifteen.

[gagged_Louise]

Wow, have to agree with Wolf. It would be pretty wearing on the Master to break in a slave according to those rules... :rolleyes:

[fantazmaster]

Glad you and baby girl got some enjoyment out of these Demands,in fact thank you one and all for your comments and discussion this list.I am going to agree with those that pointed out that this list of Demands would be a strenous exercise for both parties.There again I suppose it is the very comprehensive nature of these Demands that makes the list a classic if you will of lifestyle writing.Many that I have shared this list with over the years have used this as a sort of an idea incubator if you will and picking and choosing among the numerous rules and demands to tailor it to their own situation.
Another interesting feature is that the list covers many of the more controversial topics I have seen discussed in various lifestyle forums over the years with the topics of public apparel and appearence,exhibition on demand,sterilization,shaving piercings and her having to aggresively recruit other females for his pleasure being the more noteable items of debate.

lol.... me too hellish... me too!

(Although the sleeping with a spreader bar was interesting.... weg)

[Sir_Russell]

It has been a while since I reviewed these but these are my standard house rules that I refine for the sub/slave to better fit her.

Always wear a smile

Always present a slight smile with your lips just slightly parted. If you come into direct contact with another person smile wider, always happy and always enthusiastic. This is all the time at home, at work, in the car, shopping and even walking down the street.


Be Proud

You are finally in your nature, your true self! If you have agreed to this life style you have come to terms with your spirit. Now you can truly be adored for that inner beauty. You are precious and I as your Master will be honoured by your submission. It will be an indication of our superior characteristics.

In all things, exhibit dignity. metered movements, not fast or jerky, not slow and sloppy but metered. Eyes opened and looking lovingly at your Master or the world we live in, but chin high. You are submissive and you are swollen with pride, glow from the reality it suggests.

In all things, be the best you can be, and be proud. This is not a suggestion, this is a command.


Honest in All Things

Be honest in all things large or small. Many a sub/slave has fallen to this trespass. Why have they fallen, truth be told they did not see that one small error in a tiny white lie could and often does snowball into many sometimes out of even the sub/slave’s control. Being honest in all things is a grace given that will be received by me, and thus given the same accord in your training. Dishonesty in any form is not only a breach of trust at the foundation level, but something that will be harshly punished at the very least if it does not leave you striped and fully released.


Elegance and Eroticism

Elegance and Eroticism are seemingly opposing and yet complimentary concepts.

To be sensually and sexually exciting but with great refinement and style is our goal.

I speak of this within our environment and in fact it is the careful balance of these concepts of style and wanton lust I value highly in my slave.

The brain being the most important sexual organ, you will be well advised to develop these skills.



Being Healthy for Master

Since your health is a prime concern of mine you will be expected to tell me about feeling ill. I will expect you to keep me informed of treatment and their level of success.


Willingness to Learn Masters Way

When I ask you to change in any way and you have agreed to it, I will expect you to do your best to comply. I will listen to your concerns, judge its merits, decide and then you must be willing to do it the way I require. Core changes will not be asked for if there is no real pressing need, These changes will take time and I will only be looking for progress toward the change.


Requesting a Day Off

You have the right to request a day off. Master reserves the right to refuse such a request if he has made commitments that require the your participation and you have agreed to it.


Collar of submission

Your collar will be worn at all times. You wear this collar as a reminder of your submission.

The collar is a symbol and its actual form is fluid and will be appropriate to the situation. You may change the actual physical form of your collar but you will always be in contact with it.

Grooming needs are the exception.


Cleansing your body and mind

I know you will present a clean willing body to me to use, abuse and love. Empty your mind of worldly things and fill your mind with the wonder of your submission and love of your Master.


Clothing

Your clothing you will select to be appropriate for each occasion but all ways with an eye to pleasing your Master, and within the dress code.


House wear

Your standard clothing for `private` wear is as follows:

Collar of submission
Any of the outfits I have all ready seen and approved of including sexy nighties
YOU WILL BE EXPECTED TO ADD TO YOUR WARDRODE AS FINANCES ALLOW THE FOLLOWING:
Open nipple bra or demi-cup
Garter belt or harness
Stockings or Thigh Highs unless specifically allowed to wear socks, never wear panty hose without my direct command
Heels for normal usage these heels can be as little as an inch but I reserve the right to request higher heels or even high-heeled boots
You may wear a short translucent or lace (see through) skirt if you desire.
I may request different wear for sessions or to suit my mood.


Bring home a sub

From time to time you will encounter someone who wishes to be a submissive or wants further information on serving. You will of course invite, with Sir Russell’s approval, them to spend time with Master. If they wish to be a sub, you will instruct them on how to behave properly in Sir Russell’s presence. You shall also instruct them that I am not looking for a sub or slave to own, that you are my one and only one.

They will be instructed to kneel in my presence and not to sit on furniture unless directed by Sir Russell. They will be instructed on properly addressing Sir Russell. They will be assured that service requested by Sir Russell will be preformed only if they desire to perform and comply. Their refusal to perform will terminate any session with Sir Russell and can continue only on a friendly basis if Sir Russell permits.

As slave to Sir Russell you will always be looking for potential subs and Doms to introduce to the lifestyle.


Sex in Public

When away from home there will be times when Sir Russell will command you to perform a sexual task, this must be performed with no resistance. It may be a task you will perform on him or it maybe one that he performs on you. It could even be one that is done together or with friends. You will perform with no concern about being viewed by others. Your only concern will be pleasing Sir Russell in what ever manner he has requested

A standing house rule is that when driving alone with Sir Russell you will offer to suck his cock. Sir Russell may require you to be naked for long car trips alone with him.


Sleeping with Master

You will be allowed to sleep with Sir Russell in his bed and allowed to smuggle with him.


Sitting at Master’s Feet

When tasks are finished or at Sir Russell’s command you will quietly enter the room where Sir Russell is, ask if there is anything he wants you to do. When Sir Russell indicates that you are finished you shall sit at his feet and place your head in his lap.


Sir Russell says - Kneel wench

When I say "Kneel wench" wherever you are and whatever you are doing, you are to safely and swiftly move to your Master, if I am seated you will go to my front to the side of my legs and feet quickly kneel, if I am standing you will go to my front of feet, in both cases your eyes will be directed to my cock and your hands will be behind your back. You will remain there long enough for me to touch your head or face, never long enough to cause discomfort unless being punished.


Nudity on Demand

When Sir Russell commands you to be nude to any extent you will disrobe to that extent. To complain or beg or delay will only earn a serious punishment.

If Sir Russell chooses to inspect your body you will allow it and place your body in whatever positions Sir Russell requests.


When alone with Master

When alone with me you will, when not otherwise instructed, join me in the bed. You will keep your breasts available to be touched, caressed, squeezed and nipple pinched at my sole discretion.

Sir Russell may at any time use your hair to guide you in whatever manner or pleasure he wishes you to perform. No verbal command needs to be given and you will be expected to understand his wants and perform.


Smooth for Master

When you are physically with Sir Russell you will be required to be hairless everywhere but on your head. You may do this by shaving, waxing, lasering or any other method that leaves you smooth and hairless. You will apply lotion at least once a day to all affected areas.

You will be required upon command from Sir Russell to display hairless areas at his discretion. You will take pride in displaying yourself to show your submissiveness to him.


Washing for Master

You shall wash your self before any session with Sir Russell unless directly order otherwise. Your natural clean sent is all that you will be allowed. You will pay particular attention to your mouth, breasts, neck, pussy and ass since these areas are favorites of your Master.

You will completely wash your self at least once a day for hygiene and to please me. Use of perfumes in his presence will only be at Master’s direct command.


Walking with Master in public

When walking with Sir Russell in public you will always be in physical contact with him. You will hold onto his arm unless he offers you his hand to hold, or commands you to perform differently.

Since I do not believe that slave need to walk three steps behind that will only be used as punishment. When being punished you will not be allowed to touch my person and will be required to walk directly behind me with eyes down.


Sharing the Master

If Sir Russell commands you to share another slave, sub and/or guest with him, you will focus all your talents on giving pleasure to all involved without hesitation, abandoning any inhibitions. You will only be concerned about using all forms of sex on each person with the exclusion of anal sex.

I exclusively reserve the right to offer you to others but never will without direct discussion with and approval from you.


Accept punishment

You will be expected to accept punishment without resistance.

The reason for this punishment will be fully explained by me and then you will respond to explanation with "Thank you, Master".

Upon completion of the punishment you will say "Thank You Master".

Refusal of any punishment will immediately stop all BDSM life styling or activities. If punishment is not voluntarily accepted after a time you will be released.

Climaxing

You are never to climax without permission!

When you climax you will do so as loudly as possible under the circumstances. After each climax you will say “Thank you my Master for my climax”, after each one no matter if I am with you or not, or if you are building to another. The only exception to this rule is when my cock is in your mouth and then you will moan as loudly as you can to both excite me and to let me know you have climaxed. As soon as my cock is out of your mouth you will give the required thanks.

You are to learn to respond with your whole body as you climax, holding nothing back letting your energy flow to the furtherest extremities.


Hope this helps someone, they are my requirements but all rules are part of the negotiation process leading to the Domination/submission contract.

[elyse]

...Always wear a smile...

and

...Honest in All Things...


i am a creature of smiles and laughter, but even I would find these these rules mutually exclusive.

~elyse

[Sir_Russell]

elyse

Your right, I suppose that I will have to alter all ways wear a smile to fit those times that she must show her real fealings.

Thank you

Russell

[Guest 91108]

I think a creature such as Elyse would require a whole new set of rules. :)

[joely]

never having been in a real life D/s relationship, many things struck me throughout this thread. i especially liked this from Sir Russell:


Be Proud

You are finally in your nature, your true self! If you have agreed to this life style you have come to terms with your spirit. Now you can truly be adored for that inner beauty. You are precious and I as your Master will be honoured by your submission. It will be an indication of our superior characteristics.

In all things, exhibit dignity. metered movements, not fast or jerky, not slow and sloppy but metered. Eyes opened and looking lovingly at your Master or the world we live in, but chin high. You are submissive and you are swollen with pride, glow from the reality it suggests.

In all things, be the best you can be, and be proud. This is not a suggestion, this is a command.

however, some items from Sir Russell and fantazmaster seem almost stereotypically BDSM - almost what most vanilla folks would describe all this "kinky stuff" as....wenches kneeling nude, being shared, wearing slutty clothes at work... does real life not preclude or get in the way of some of the more intricate rules? or - as a relationship progresses - do these rules become more ingrained as a way of life?

obviously a virgin sub. thanks.

joely

[Ozme52]

never having been in a real life D/s relationship, many things struck me throughout this thread. i especially liked this from Sir Russell:



however, some items from Sir Russell and fantazmaster seem almost stereotypically BDSM - almost what most vanilla folks would describe all this "kinky stuff" as....wenches kneeling nude, being shared, wearing slutty clothes at work... does real life not preclude or get in the way of some of the more intricate rules? or - as a relationship progresses - do these rules become more ingrained as a way of life?

obviously a virgin sub. thanks.

joely

As you grow, you'll learn to love it. Got a prized possession? Do you hide it away or put it on display. That's kind of how dom/mes feel about their subs. As a sub, you come to realize being put on display is a sign of their pride in you which in turn makes you yearn for it.

[precious]

As you grow, you'll learn to love it. Got a prized possession? Do you hide it away or put it on display. That's kind of how dom/mes feel about their subs. As a sub, you come to realize being put on display is a sign of their pride in you which in turn makes you yearn for it.

Well said Oz!!!!! i had started a response but couldn't get it expressed as eloquently or accurately so i deleted it... thanks for stating it in such a way!

[Ozme52]

You're most welcome precious.

[joely]

As you grow, you'll learn to love it. Got a prized possession? Do you hide it away or put it on display. That's kind of how dom/mes feel about their subs. As a sub, you come to realize being put on display is a sign of their pride in you which in turn makes you yearn for it.

Ozme - i agree with the idea of "being on display" and somehow, at even this new stage in the game, there's a little yearning going on... i guess i was referring to the rest of the rules.

fantazmaster did say that the rules were sort of a starting point. and i suppose that if the rules are clear - then there are no excuses for not knowing or not understanding.

yearning about! joely

[Sir_Russell]

joely,

Yes jobs come into play, I hate my sub/slave wearing pants but some work places require them or conditions do. These types of conditions are addressed when setting rules for the sub/slave. When ever possible I want thing done they way I want them but to be inflexible is a quick way to lose a sub/slave or cost her a job.

I also don't want her doing things in general public that would embarrass her or humiliate her. So I don't have her answering the door in house wear, a robe is kept by the door. So many ways to have your cake and eat it to if you use common sense.

Russell

[fantazmaster]

Yes a starting point joely as over the years the Demands list has served as a sort of an example of rules and demands , a database of items to draw upon and work from.Frankly I can not envision a "one list fits all" or universal set of rules that would accomodate all such relationships.As Sir_Russel has shown us with his sharing of his list of rules it takes some thought,negotiation and sensitivity to individual circumstances in order to render a workeable set of rules.
Ozme - i agree with the idea of "being on display" and somehow, at even this new stage in the game, there's a little yearning going on... i guess i was referring to the rest of the rules.

fantazmaster did say that the rules were sort of a starting point. and i suppose that if the rules are clear - then there are no excuses for not knowing or not understanding.

yearning about! joely

[joely]

Sir Russell and fantazmaster - Thanks for your replies. It does seem to me that a D/s relationship is definitely one that takes much thought, trust and communication. Certainly the same in any relationship but moreso here.

I appreciate that you took the time to answer.

joely

[Sir_Russell]

joely,

House rules are set after extensive negotiations and part of that is doing a check list and comparing it with the other side of the D/s relationship.
If you interested I would share with you my check list that I have been working on. Can't say that it is all mine but one that has been around for a long time that I am twiking.

Russell

[joely]

Thanks Sir Russell - i sent you a PM.

joely

[Eponine]

This thread has been a really great read!

Okay, I know the rules that FantazMaster (sorry sp) posted would probably be tedious and possibly be impossible in reality, but am i really the only one who got just a teensy bit turned on? :blurp_ani

Okay, maybe it is just me, i'm just a yearning wench...lol

And, finally, to answer the thread's question-
Some "rules" I had to go by in previous relationships have been mentioned thus far-
- keep eyes downcast
- no sitting on furniture, generally sitting at Mistress or Sir's feet
- kiss/ worship Mistress' feet after serving..whatever.. coffe.. tea.. etc...
- served (nonsexually) and was respectful to Mistress and Sir's (D/s) friends- kind of like what Kate said She has at Her house.
- of course no orgasm w/o permission or command
- dress code at home was no clothing permitted
- i walked behind Mistress, although Sir would open the doors for me, which i appreciated b/c i still like some old-fashioned male chivalry.

In public, i still addressed Mistress as so, and walked a slight step behind. There were times in a semi-public area, like getting out of the car in the parking lot of a regular store (walmart or whatever) that i would worship her feet right there.

I thought it would be way too embarrassing for me to do those things in public, but actually it was wonderful to just be myself. (Besides the fact that i always appreciate shock value, and she and i both shared the attitude that anyone who wanted to judge me or us could go f*** themselves

And similar to what Dragon's muse said, i felt these things were not like rules- sitting or kneeling at Mistress or Sir's feet with my head on their leg or in their lap being caressed affectionately like their pet was the sweetest bliss... so natural and comfortable and beautiful.

However, I do too enjoy rules (even very formal ones), like Tomof Sweden mentioned his sub/ slave does.

[Eponine]

Oh, and Sir Russell, by the way, I thought your rules seemed very well-thought-out, considerate to both Master and sub/ slave- they seem not simply rules, but more like ways to live that would facilitate growth and love in the relationship.

[Guest 91108]

Reading ThisGirl's post ,
i am always wrapped up in what someone says they feel while being submissive. thank you for sharing.

[Sir_Russell]

Thank you ThisGirl I did place a lot of thought into my house rules. They are not right for everyone but they suit me and allow her to grow and know what is acceptable when I am not there.

I feel they are realistic for the type of sub/slave I seek one that has strength, intelligence, wit and humor. She honors me by serving so I honor her by providing a framework for her to be safe and secure in.

Russell

[Eponine]

Glad to share, WS.
You're welcome, Russell.

I wanted to add another "rule" I had to follow with the first Dom i was really engaged in (although it was online and phone until i finally met him and spent three beautiful days in almost-heaven with him)-
i was a smoker at the time (well, i still am but took a 2yr hiatus when i was pregnant and breast-feeding) and everytime i wanted to have a cigarette, i was to ask permission. This may seem like a small thing, BUT, it definitely was not. He was very intuitive to command this. I mean, imagine having to suddenly ask someone permission to do something you do normally without a thought (i guess this would apply to any small task)... it was very difficult to give up that control and in fact, most of the time I chose to not smoke at all rather than have to ask! Which I think he may have surmised I would do- making this order even more insightful because then i smoked a lot less.

Sorry if i rambled, but it was something about which i had completely forgotten until i started thinking more on this question of "rules".

[goalt]

Mistress has these always-set rules:
Unless commanded specifically otherwise, I am to be naked.
I am to do what She commands.
Mistress is to be referred to as Mistress unless She commands otherwise.

Other rules vary from day to day