More than just beating people up

[Beginning submissive]

Hello all. I'm new to this forum and very new to this lifestyle as well. I am married and my husband and I are exploring. After doing some reading, I decided I would like to be a sub. I will admit that I though BDSM was something that involved beating people for sexual pleasure for the person doing the beating only but when I read more about it, I realized it was much more loving and mutual.

[gagged_Louise]

Hi Beginning Submissive and warm welcome to the Forum. If you're into learning about bdsm, kinkyness and bondage and meeting intriguing Masters, slaves and switches who are happy doing this, then you've come to the right place. Hope to see you around the forum and in the chatroom too!

There's both newbies and people who have been doing this for ten years or more around here, so don't be afraid to engage in talk, to ask and listen.

[cariad]

Smiles and welcome to the site.

As gagged Louise said, this sounds like just the right place for you and your husband to be at the moment. As well as the numerous threads already here, please feel free to start your own as things occur to you, and most people are happy to chat move confidentially in PMs (Private Messages).

I hope you find this place both an invaluable resource and enjoy becoming part of a caring community.

cariad

[Guest 91108]

Hello and welcome to the forums. Glad you've changed your mind about what it's all about.
smiles.

[Flaming_Redhead]

:wel:

[MrDom]

hi and welcome


Mrdom

[Rhabbi]

:wave: :welcomebo

Looks like you took the first step, getting rid of stereotypes.

[Warbaby1943]

Hello all. I'm new to this forum and very new to this lifestyle as well. I am married and my husband and I are exploring. After doing some reading, I decided I would like to be a sub. I will admit that I though BDSM was something that involved beating people for sexual pleasure for the person doing the beating only but when I read more about it, I realized it was much more loving and mutual.

Welcome beginning submissive and enjoy. You are already ahead of the game by coming to the realization you have even before you originated this thread.

Of course BDSM is what you want it to be and that is for you and your partner to decide. It also can and often does involve much love, trust, and mutual respect within the relationship to truly make it work. A BDSM relationship can, and I believe should, have all the elements of a good marriage even if the couple in the BDSM relationship are not married to each other. You are again a step up because you already have that love, trust, and mutual respect for each other.

I personally would get nothing out of my relationship if my Aussiegirl wasn't truly happy. As her Master that is my goal to always make and keep her smiling and very happy. The biggest thing, in my opinion, that you can offer your partner is communication. You each must know what the other wants, needs, and expects out of a BDSM relationship. It will work if you keep the lines of communication open. It more than likely will be but does not always have to be sexual to get great satisfaction for both partners.

You will have a great time as you explore and learn together.

Hope this wasn't more than you wanted to hear right now but when I read your thread I couldn't help but remember that less than a year ago I too thought as you did before reading a little about this wonderful and fulfilling life style. I know now it is what you make it.

[TomOfSweden]

Welcome. If my slave wouldn't feel more loved each time I beat her, I would stop.

[Eponine]

Hi Beginning submissive-
i'm new to the forums myself, but i can say that every bdsm community i've had the fortune to encounter has been open, encouraging, welcome, and a whole lotta fun :)

[Ozme52]

heh heh, you're in for a lot of fun b/s

[slaveangel{HM}]

Hello and Welcome to the Forums, beginning submissive. You have indeed come to the right place. I do hope you learn alot and enjoy your time here on the Forums. Feel free to jump into the chatroom and say hello!

If you have any questions or wish to have a friendly chat do not hesitate to send me a PM.

angel xx

[elyse]

:welcome:

welcome to the forums, Beginning Submissive!

~elyse

[BaronVonWinger]

Hi & welcome

[sexmaster_dom]

Welcome to this forum! Enjoy your journey into BDSM!

[Stone]

hello and welcome and i agree its a much deeper connection than the vanilla lifestyle