K - the use of Kiss in BDSM

[Guest 91108]

ok.. We're not talking Keep It Simple Stupid here. That's no fun in BDSM. -- chuckles.

We're talking the use of a kiss in BDSM.

Perhaps we are trying to build their trust for an upcoming scene and need to help encourage them to "get into it" .

Perhaps we are using the simple kiss and the rest of the more complex things to torment and tease one in a loving and nurturing relationship.

The use of lips, tongue perhaps nips and nibbles to add to the sensations of perhaps a bound submissive.

What starts most sex acts and entices one to think of more and wanting more than the intimacy of a kiss?


Looking for input.

Hrm...
OK going on a limb from the start.
Nothing much gets my motor purring more than a kiss, combine that with some neck play with lips. " MMmm , You want what when ? "

So, I'm assuming perhaps I'm the only one here willing to admit that most of my scenes erupt from the start of things that heated up from the very unsimple kiss that stirred my whole being .. all the way up to the complicated things we both can do with our lips, tongues and teeth upon our partners.

All this we can consider part of that simple kiss and it's developement. grins

Comments ?

[IDCrewDawg]

A kiss is a very powerful motivational tool. To excite, to entice, to seduce. A kiss to different parts of the body can inflame desires. Can spur the feelings of the one being kissed so they feel more emotion, more adoration. To use it in a scene (depending on the scene) can provide gentle contrast to measured sadism.

Say for instance the submissive and yourself are engaging in face slapping. A gentle kiss to a reddened cheek could provide a nice contrast to the pain being inflicted. In the same manner you would rub the area where you cane/flog, when doing impact play to the submissives ass.

[Wolven_Vixen]

Perhaps we are using the simple kiss and the rest of the more complex things to torment and tease one in a loving and nurturing relationship.


Oh yess...the torment and tease part. When he leaves you begging for that kiss. He has you all wound up then grabs your hair, pulling your head back, and puts his face so close to yours that you feel the warmth of his breath. You want that kiss so much, it hurts, but he won't give it to you. You have to earn it. You try to reach toward him, but you can't because you're bound too tightly....oh please Sir, just one kiss...

**whispers**... don't tell him I told you....it drives me nuts!

[Guest 91108]

"Ok, I won't tell him. " smiles that smile you love.

[Eponine]

a kiss can be great mind control... i remember when a mistress i had once suddenly kissed me like a vanilla girlfriend might, but of course given the entire context, it wasn't vanilla.. and it threw me way off course... and it was as i was seeing her off on a two-week vacation when i was already going to miss her...

[vistana]

I love being told to kiss him. He might have just been slapping me, calling me names, I could be in pain, in tears, but he says 'Kiss me' and I can't help it, I'm all over him. makes me feel very horny & very submissive.

umm, I could probably think of more intelligent things to say about this, but I'm too busy daydreaming now...

[cariad]

Busy trying to decide what a vanilla kiss is, within the context of a lifestyle relationship. I can only think of the often quick farewell kiss he gives me in the morning which definitely does not have any lifestyle elements to it. Beyond that one, each kiss is either a tease, a gesture of appreciation, a token of his protection or as ID said, a gentle poignancy during play.

cariad

[Guest 91108]

Busy trying to decide what a vanilla kiss is, within the context of a lifestyle relationship. I can only think of the often quick farewell kiss he gives me in the morning which definitely does not have any lifestyle elements to it. Beyond that one, each kiss is either a tease, a gesture of appreciation, a token of his protection or as ID said, a gentle poignancy during play.

cariad

a vanilla kiss i would imagine wouldn't cause you to want to be taken, absorbed into his being, to be passionately and lustfully devoured.

A vanilla kiss wouldn't cause you to have tingles all though your body or begin you on the process of a long boiling sensation.

a vanilla kiss merely shows you a calm almost unconcerned kiss that is barely more than a handshake or a kiss from family. It's very far removed and unrelated to what i would do for you. < WEG > smiles

I think an unvanilla kiss would ignite the fires and kick the tires of your deepest most darkest desires to make you act.

[cariad]

*checks that the wolf is nowhere to be seen, slips out shopping list, and puts 'non vanilla' in big letters before kiss*

cariad

[Guest 91108]

*checks that the wolf is nowhere to be seen, slips out shopping list, and puts 'non vanilla' in big letters before kiss*

cariad

* watches from around the corner. *

she will most definitely be due one of those. :)

[bip0lar]

heh, i have to admit that i've only kissed one person in my life. I mean, i may have given head or played around, but kissing, for me, is the most intimate thing one can do--at least in a vanilla relationship. It expresses more than lust and carnal need, even if it's the quick, rough, passionate kiss i've seen in movies lol. But, i have to admit, that right now the only person i want and need to kiss is master... *drools*

[Tojo]

To kiss someone in a D/s context IMO is to leave them wanting more.

Just a light touch, 5% kiss & 95% tease. :)

[icey]

im probably the odd one out but i absoloutely detest kissing ! all i can think of is saliva and germs.
it leaves me cold and nothing can turn me off more, i have an actual fear of it and it makes me feel claustrophobic and panicky.

i do like to be kissed,petted and stroked during play,the soothing reassuring type of kiss on my head etc but not the open mouth to mouth and tounge stuff.

[newgirl33]

I'm with you,icey!

[isis646]

I think an unvanilla kiss would ignite the fires and kick the tires of your deepest most darkest desires to make you act.
purrs in agreement..A kiss can be such a (devious) motivation. His kiss always kicks my tires and lets me know (& him) how we are both feeling and what we desire with no words exchanged.

[fyregrrrl]

God I want to be kissed now!!!!!!

[Mr.FixIt]

OK! I agreed with you in another thread, but I must disagree with you now. A kiss is intimate. A kiss means I love you. A kiss means...well, it just means a lot! If you don't mean it then don't kiss! There's a lot of shit out there for play, but a kiss means something more. If you don't mean it, then don't do it. Period.

[IDCrewDawg]

A kiss means I love you.

Completely disagree.

Have you never kissed on the first date when you started dating (remember first base?)? Have you never kissed the hand of a woman you admire? Have you never kissed the cheek of female friend?

[fetishdj]

Why am I reminded of John Cleese lampooning sex education in Monty Python 'The clitoris!? Go for the clitoris!? Give her a kiss boy! Thats the way to get the juices flowing! Don't go diving straight for the clitoris!' :)

The lips are among the most sensitive areas of the body and are also the most sensitive areas that are on display and easily accessible. Well, in most social contexts anyway. After all, we rarely walk around with our nipples and genitals on display... :) So the social and intimate nature of kisses is understandable - any contact of lips to skin or lips to lips or even the slight pressure of air as someone whispers close to your ear can be incredibly erotic. It also implies a level of trust. After all, who do you kiss? Friends, family, lovers. People you tend to trust more than strangers. Bear in mind, in order to kiss you, you are letting them get close enough to attack you and, yes Icey you are right, allowing them to potentially infect you with viruses and bacteria. Though I have to say that the chances of getting anything infectious is usually moderated by the antiseptic nature of saliva and other protective factors.

Watch dogs, they do the same thing. Though for them 'kissing' is more sniffing - both the face and the behind. To allow another dog to sniff means that you are not overtly hostile to them. Most dogs when they meet for the first time will be wary - they'll watch each other and sniff cautiously. They need to know they can trust the other enough to get close enough to be intimate. Then they get more enthusiastic about it and go for the arse :)

[claire]

Between the various descriptions especially Wolf's, and PRO DOM's AV I am about to jump somebody's bones. Keep the unwilling safely inside. :o:


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