Hi!

[Amethyst]

I'm a 20 year old girl and have next to no experience as i have never really been in a relationship where i feel i can experiment. I have had boyfriends in the past, who ended up being no more than friends because i felt as if i was being put in the dominant role which i really didn't enjoy. Sometimes i feel as if i'm just asking too much but on the other hand i don't want to ignore the submissive tendencies i feel i have. I can remember having submissive thoughts really quite young but i'm not sure if i can really call them fantasies. Is it actually possible to be aware of/enjoy the idea of bdsm at a young age?

Thanks x

[Guest 91108]

Hello and welcome to the forums. I hope to see more of your posts.
hrm i think you can be aware of tendencies at a young age and i don't think it's wrong to seek those whom you need to be dominant so you can explore those tendencies. Good luck.. go slow and patiently. you'll find him/her.

[Amethyst]

thanks wolfscout...not sure how i managed to post it twice though ooops

sorry i've never really been on a forum before, but i'll get used to it i guess

[TheDeSade]

Hello and Welcome amethyst. This is a great place to explore and learn. Lots of good information and a wide expanse of experience and knowledge. But, watch out for the wolves.. . . they bite!

[Eponine]

I wanted to tell you i have had my submissive thoughts and sexual fantasies since i was very young also (9) when i began entering puberty, and they have never once changed in 22 years so far, so to answer your question, YES, i believe you can definitely know from a young age.

i hope you find the right people with whom to explore, because it's very important. i don't find it's something i can ignore in me, although at times i thought i could.

you are who you are- be proud. stand tall as you kneel, when the time comes :)

by the way, i like your pretty nick.

[hilliardbttm]

Welcome as well. I am new here as well but I already feel at home

Twenty is not too young! I was aware some time around 14 that I was submissive…or at least I was not like other boys and men. I may not have had a name for it at that time though. It is a blessing to be aware of your desires and to be able to put those desires into words.

[Amethyst]

Thisgirl...thank you for your lovely and reassuring comment! I think i may have been around the same age when my submissive thoughts started.

Hope to speak to you more sometime x

[frankee]

Welcome Amethyst,

There is a wealth of knowledge here.

A good place to start would 'Knowledge Base', great info there. Take your time and have a look around.

[Stone]

hello and welcome and yes when i think back i allways had dominant thoughts and mannerisms and a young age

[BaronVonWinger]

Hi & welcome, youre in a good place here to be yourself

[Mishka]

Warm welcome Amethyst.
I believe there are others here who have also shared their desires for Dom/me or submissive roles from a young age. No rushing or experience necessary, just learning and trusting your instincts...everything will come when it's supposed to. (no pun intended) :)

[BaronVonWinger]

Hi & welcome

[cariad]

Hello Amethyst, was so interesting reading your introduction, it could have been myself when I was 20. Yes, I think it is possible to be aware of your needs, I know with hindsight that I was, although you are way ahead of me in that you have identified them. Congratulations. I hope you soon find the man to whom you can, and before whom you wish to kneel.

:wel

cariad

[slaveangel{HM}]

Welcome to the forums amethyst. I hope yo enjoy your time here and learn alot of new things about yourself and also the lifestyle. There are many friendly people here to assist you if needed. Don't forget to drop by the chatroom and meet us.

Now that I too think about it..I began to explore my submissiveness at 17. Age is no boundary, when seeking knowledge, if you know where to look!

[crikey_2004]

Hi amethyst, welcome! TDS and Wolfescout have both posted information that has helped me learn about myself and you'll find that everyone here seems to be very supportive and helpful (I know I've found that!), so don't be afraid to ask the basic questions if they're not already answered somewhere... I've been on for HOURS today and there's so much more to see!

Mike

[Flaming_Redhead]

:wel:

The more you read and learn, the more you'll discover about this lifestyle as well as yourself.

[sexmaster_dom]

Welcome to this extremely intersting world! There is vast information here for you! Enjoy yourself!