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[if1can]

Hi, I was surfing around looking for info on spanking when I came across this site. In the past year my partner and I have been getting into spanking and biting and I have found I love it. She recently asked if I would be ok with dripping candles on me and since I love the sting of the flogger I think I might. Since I am still relatively new at this I was wondering what some of your thoughts might be on this.

[Guest 91108]

Hello, if1can. Welcome to the forums.
check on this thread on wax play. http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=748&highlight=candle

enjoy yourselves.

[cariad]

Smiles - hello ifIcan, and welcome to this site and our community. There is lots of information about all sorts of things already in the Knowledge Base and My BDSM Life, and if you can't find what you are looking for - just start a new thread in the same way you have here.

With any activity please remember that safety comes first. There is nothing exciting about completing a session in the accident ward of a hospital. I would recommend taking anything new slowly, don't let common sense go out of the window, and then have fun!

cariad

[Rhabbi]

Welcome if1can.

As for canldes, just remeber to give the wax enough time to cool before it hits you. This varies depending on differeent things, so have her start high and work closer slowly.

[if1can]

Thank you for the replies. I just got back from buying some "emergency" candles since I heard their best to start out with. I've already tried them on myself and found out that they have a pleasant stinging sensation. I look forward to trying them out with her.

[Mishka]

Warm (no pun intended) welcome. And so glad your first posting received such good advice that worked. Hope to see more of you. :)

[angelic.zest]

welcome to the forum!!!!

[suchaminx]

~smiles~

Hello and welcome to the forums, one piece of advice - have fun :)

minxy

[poetic_justice]

Welcome to the forums!

Mmmm... wax play. I'm sure you'll enjoy it. Have fun. :wave:

[slaveangel{HM}]

Welcome to the Forums. I hope you have a great time here and are able to learn all you can!

[if1can]

I have a question. I wouldn't say that my partner and I are into the BDSM lifestyle but we do seem to have a dominant and submissive thing going on between us. She says it turns her on to spank me and bite me and I know I see a delicious grin on her face while she is doing this. I also know that at one time she was involved with someone who was very much into receiving pain. And I know that I am quite intrigued with and turned on by erotic pictures of torture. I definitely want to do the candles because I know it will bring her pleasure and me as well. She loves for me to figure out what it is she likes rather than just telling me. What I would like to know is if anyone else has ever had this situation and how you went about finding out what they liked.

[Flaming_Redhead]

:wel:

How are you going to know what you like unless you try something new? Try something once, maybe twice to make sure, and if you don't like it just move on to something else. There are many ideas to be found in the Knowledge Base and My BDSM Life sections.

[BaronVonWinger]

Hi & welcome

[if1can]

WOW! My partner used the candles on me and it was exquisite. I have never been so turned on in my life. I noticed the closer she got to my body with them the better the sting felt. Thanks for the links to the good advice. We will be making use of them a lot from now on. A new question for you all. I really love the stinging effect and we have played with what's called a rubber tickler. What type of leather flogger would give a good sting but little damage?

[tessa]

Hi there and welcome! From all the responses you've already received, I hope you can tell what a wonderful place this is. :)

I will reiterate what cariad said. Since this is the Introduction section, you may not get as much of a response to your question as you would if you posted in My BDSM Life or in Knowledge Base. I'm sure if you posted your flogger question in one of those places, you'd get a great response from people who have the information you want. You can also look at the following thread:

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=1576&highlight=flogging (http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=1576&highlight=flogging)

Hope this helps!

tessa :wave:

[gagged_Louise]

Hi and welcome, if1can. So nice to see you here, and like redhead said ,if you wouldn't try new things in BDSM, where would you?