Hard limit questionaire for both Doms and subs to help them find long term partners

[Sir_Russell]

First I have used as a beginning point a list done by someone else, and I have altered and tweaked it to be better, I think.

This is intended to assist in negotiations and to show if the 2 of you are compatible. I have alter the list so that one is for the Dominate and the other is for the submissive though each cover the same issues.

I would request that once you take this please send me or post here a copy of it so that I can improve upon it. I will also give you my opinion of how you fit into the life from your responses.

Russell

:tunes78: :crawlgirl :crawlgirl :crawlgirl :638: :old: :wow_nbs: :11_2_102:

[Sir_Russell]

The one for sub/slaves

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion:
Age play:
Anal sex:
Anal plugs (small):
Anal plugs (large):
Anal plug (public, under clothes):
Animal roles:
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):
Asphyxiation:
Auctioned for charity:
Bathroom use control:
Bestiality:
Beating (soft):
Beating (hard):
Blindfolds:
Being serviced (sexual):
Being bitten:
Breast/chest bondage:
Breath control:
Branding:
Boot worship:
Bondage (light):
Bondage (heavy):
Bondage (multi-day):
Bondage (public, under clothing):
Bondage and Sex:
Breast whipping:
Brown showers (scat):
Cages (locked inside of):
Caning:
Catheterization:
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):
Chastity belts:
Chauffeuring:
Choking:
Clothespins breast/nipples:
Clothespins labia lips/clit:
Clothespins body:
Cock worship:
Collars (worn in private):
Collars (worn in public):
Competitions (with other Subs):
Corsets (wearing):
Cuffs:
Cuffs (metal):
Cutting:
Dilation:
Double penetration:
Electricity:
Enemas:
Enforced chastity:
Examinations (physical):
Exercise (forced/required):
Exhibitionism (friends):
Exhibitionism (strangers):
Eye contact restrictions:
Face slapping:
Fantasy abandonment:
Fantasy rape:
Fantasy forced deep throat:
Fantasy forced cunt licking:
Fantasy forced rape anal:
Fantasy gang-rape:
Fisting (anal):
Fisting (vaginal):
Flogging:
Following hand signals:
Following orders:
Foot worship:
Forced dressing:
Forced homosexuality:
Forced masturbation:
Forced nudity (private):
Forced nudity (around others):
Forced servitude:
Full head hoods:
Gags (cloth):
Gags (penis shaped):
Gags (rubber):
Gags (tape):
Gates of Hell:
Genital sex:
Given away to another Dom (temp):
Given away to another Domme (temp):
Given away to another Dom (perm):
Given away to another Domme (perm):
Golden showers:
Greetings rituals:
Hairbrush spankings:
Hair pulling:
Hand jobs (giving):
Hand jobs (receiving):
Harems (serving w/other subs):
Harnessing (leather):
Harnessing (rope):
Having food chosen for you:
Having clothing chosen for you:
Head (giving cunnilingus):
Head (giving fellatio):
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only):
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship:
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):
Hot oils (on genitals):
Hot waxing:
Housework (doing):
Human puppy dog:
Humiliation (private):
Humiliation (public):
Hypnotism:
Ice cubes:
Infantilism:
Initiation rites:
Injections:
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:
Interrogations:
Kidnapping:
Kneeling:
Leather clothing:
restraints chains:
restraints leather:
restraints rope:
Lectures for misbehavior:
Licking (non-sexual):
Manacles & Irons:
Manicures (giving):
Massage (giving):
Massage (receiving):
Medical scenes:

Modeling for erotic photos:
Modeling for erotic videos:
Mouth bits:
Mummification:
Nipple clamps:
Nipple cloths pins:
Nipple weights:
Oral/anal play (rimming):
Over-the-knee spanking:
Orgasm denial:
Orgasm control:
Outdoor scenes:
Outdoor sex:
Phone sex (serving Dom):
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):
Piercing (permanent):
Prison scenes:
Pony slave:
Public exposure:
Public tasks:
Pussy/cock whipping:
Pussy worship:
Riding crops:
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):
Rituals:
Religious scenes:
Restrictive rules on behavior:
Rubber/latex clothing:
Rope body harness:
Saran wrapping:
Scratching – getting:
Scratching – giving:
Sensory deprivation:
Serving:
Serving as art:
Serving as ashtray:
Serving as furniture:
Serving as a maid:
Serving as toilet:
Serving as waitress/waiter:
Serving orally (sexual):
Serving other Doms (supervised):
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):
Sexual deprivation (short term):
Sexual deprivation (long term):
Shaving (body hair):
Shaving (head hair):
Shaving (pubic hair):
Sleep deprivation:
Sleep-sacks:
Slutty clothing (private):
Slutty clothing (public):
Spanking in private:
Spanking in public:
Spanking in bdsm parties:
Spanking pleasure:
Spandex clothing:
Speech restrictions (when, what):
Speculums (Anal):
Speculums (vaginal):
Spreader bars:
Standing in corner:
Stocks (adjustable):
Stocks (fixed):
Straight jackets:
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):
Strapping (full body beating):
Suspension (upright);
Suspension (inverted):
Suspension (horizontal):
Supplying new partners for Dom:
Swallowing semen:
Swallowing urine:
Swapping (with one other couple):
Swinging (multiple couples):
Tattooing:
Teasing:
Tickling:
Triple penetration:
Triple penetration by 3 males:
Uniforms:
Including others:
Vaginal dildo:
Verbal humiliation:
Vibrator on genitals:
Voyeurism (watching others):
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others):
Video (watching others):
Video (recordings of you):
Water torture:
Wearing symbolic jewelry:
Whipping:
Wooden paddles:
Wrestling:

[Sir_Russell]

The one for Dom/Masters

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a Dom and provided to their sub/slave before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0
to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: yes 3
Age play: no 2
Anal sex: yes 5 this is a must, but done correctly for enjoyment for both
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large):
Anal plug (public, under clothes):
Animal roles:
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):
Asphyxiation:
Auctioned for charity:
Bathroom use control:
Bestiality:
Beating (soft):
Beating (hard):
Blindfolds:
Being serviced (sexual):
Being bitten:
Breast/chest bondage:
Breath control:
Branding:
Boot worship:
Bondage (light):
Bondage (heavy):
Bondage (multi-day):
Bondage (public, under clothing):
Breast whipping:
Brown showers (scat):
Cages (locked inside of):
Caning:
Catheterization:
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):
Chastity belts:
Chauffeuring:
Choking:
Clothespins:
Cock worship:
Collars (worn in private):
Collars (worn in public):
Competitions (with other Subs):
Corsets (wearing):
Cuffs:
Cuffs (metal):
Cutting:
Dilation:
Double penetration:
Electricity:
Enemas:
Enforced chastity:
Examinations (physical):
Exercise (forced/required):
Exhibitionism (friends):
Exhibitionism (strangers):
Eye contact restrictions:
Face slapping:
Fantasy abandonment:
Fantasy rape:
Fantasy gang-rape:
Fisting (anal):
Fisting (vaginal):
Following orders:
Foot worship:
Forced dressing:
Forced homosexuality:
Forced masturbation:
Forced nudity (private):
Forced nudity (around others):
Forced servitude:
Full head hoods:
Gags (cloth):
Gags (rubber):
Gags (tape):
Gates of Hell (male) N/A
Genital sex:
Given away to another Dom (temp):
Given away to another Dom (perm):
Golden showers:
Hairbrush spankings:
Hair pulling:
Hand jobs (giving):
Hand jobs (receiving):
Harems (serving w/other subs):
Harnessing (leather):
Harnessing (rope):
Having food chosen for you:
Having clothing chosen for you:
Head (giving fellatio):
Head (receiving fellatio)for males only
High heel worship:
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):
Hot oils (on genitals):
Hot waxing:
Housework (doing):
Human puppy dog:
Humiliation (private):
Humiliation (public):
Hypnotism:
Ice cubes:
Infantilism:
Initiation rites:
Injections:
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:
Interrogations:
Kidnapping:
Kneeling:
Leather clothing:
restraints:
Lectures for misbehavior:
Licking (non-sexual):
Manacles & Irons:
Manicures (giving):
Massage (giving):
Massage (receiving):
Medical scenes:
Modeling for erotic photos:
Mouth bits:
Mummification:
Nipple clamps:
Nipple weights:
Oral/anal play (rimming):
Over-the-knee spanking:
Orgasm denial:
Orgasm control:
Outdoor scenes:
Outdoor sex:
Phone sex (serving Dom):
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):
Piercing (permanent):
Prison scenes NO 0
Pony slave:
Public exposure:
Pussy/cock whipping:
Pussy worship:
Riding crops:
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):
Rituals:
Religious scenes:
Restrictive rules on behavior:
Rubber/latex clothing:
Rope body harness:
Saran wrapping:
Scratching – getting:
Scratching – giving:
Sensory deprivation:
Serving:
Serving as art:
Serving as ashtray:
Serving as furniture:
Serving as a maid:
Serving as toilet:
Serving as waitress/waiter:
Serving orally (sexual):
Serving other Doms (supervised):
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):
Sexual deprivation (short term):
Sexual deprivation (long term):
Shaving (body hair):
Shaving (head hair):
Sleep deprivation:
Sleepsacks:
Slutty clothing (private):
Slutty clothing (public):
Spanking:
Spandex clothing:
Speech restrictions (when, what):
Speculums (Anal):
Speculums (vaginal):
Spreader bars:
Standing in corner:
Stocks (adjustable):
Straight jackets:
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):
Strapping (full body beating):
Suspension (upright);
Suspension (inverted):
Suspension (horizontal):
Supplying new partners for Dom:
Swallowing semen:
Swallowing urine:
Swapping (with one other couple):
Swinging (multiple couples):
Tattooing:
Teasing:
Tickling:
Triple penetration:
Uniforms:
Including others:
Vaginal dildo:
Verbal humiliation:
Vibrator on genitals:
Voyeurism (watching others):
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others):
Video (watching others):
Video (recordings of you):
Water torture:
Wearing symbolic jewelry:
Whipping YES 4
Wooden paddles:
Wrestling:

[Sir_Russell]

For an example MINE and I retake it often because I keep changing.

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a Dom/Master and provided to their sub/slave before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.


For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if the Dom/Master has done this to his sub/slave.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0
to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your submissive/slave.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your sub/slave to know. There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: yes 3
Age play: no 2
Anal sex: yes 5 this is a must, but done correctly for enjoyment for both
Anal plugs (small): yes 4
Anal plugs (large): yes 4
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 4
Animal roles: no 3
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): yes 4
Asphyxiation: yes 2
Auctioned for charity: no 2
Bathroom use control: yes 3
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): Yes 4
Beating (hard): no 2
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: no no I enjoy light biting of my sub/slave but no in return
Breast/chest bondage: yes 4
Breath control: yes 2
Branding: no 3
Boot worship: yes 3
Bondage (light): Yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): yes 4
Bondage (public, under clothing): yes 5
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 3
Brown showers (scat): no no
Cages (locked inside of): no 3
Caning: yes 2
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): yes 3
Chastity belts: no 3
Chauffeuring: yes 4
Choking: yes 2
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 4
Clothespins labia/clit: yes 3
Clothespins body: yes 2
Cock worship: yes 5
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): yes 5
Competitions (with other Subs): yes 4
Corsets (wearing): yes 5 again on the sub/slave
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: no no
Dilation: yes 4
Double penetration: yes 4 device or with a male sub following my directions
Electricity: yes 4
Enemas: no no
Enforced chastity: yes 5 short term in preparation of a scene
Examinations (physical): no 3
Exercise (forced/required): yes 5
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 4
Exhibitionism (strangers): yes 3
Eye contact restrictions: yes 3
Face slapping: yes
Fantasy abandonment: yes 2 mostly for punishment
Fantasy rape: yes 3
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 4
Fantasy forced cunt licking: yes 3
Fantasy forced rape anal: yes 4
Fantasy gang-rape: no 2
Fisting (anal): no 1
Fisting (vaginal): yes 4
Following hand signals by sub/slave: yes 4
Following orders by sub/slave: yes 5
Foot worship: no 3 would use as punishment mostly unless sub craves
Forced dressing of sub: yes 5
Forced homosexuality: yes 3
Forced masturbation: yes 5
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): yes 5
Forced servitude of sub: yes 4
Full head hoods: yes 4
Gags (cloth): no 3
Gags (penis shaped): yes 4
Gags (rubber): yes 5
Gags (tape): yes 2
Gates of Hell: No 2
Genital sex: yes 5
Given sub away to another Dom (temp): yes 3
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 3
Given sub away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no 1
Greetings rituals: yes 4
Hairbrush spankings: yes 4
Hair pulling: Yes 4
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5 to female sub/slave only
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): yes 3 had 2 slaves for 3 years live in
Harnessing (leather): yes 4
Harnessing (rope): yes 3
Having food chosen for sub: yes 4 I order at restaurants always
Having clothing chosen for sub: yes 4 I set dress codes and for special events
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): no no
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): n/a
Head (receiving fellatio male only): yes 5
High heel worship: no 2 having sub worship Domme/or selected play partner
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): yes 3
Hot oils (on genitals of sub): yes 3
Hot waxing of sub: yes 4
Housework (sub doing): yes 5 this depends on living conditions
Human puppy dog: Yes 3
Humiliation (private): yes 4
Humiliation (public): yes 3
Hypnotism: yes 5
Ice cubes: yes 5
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: yes 5 includes greetings and house rules & ceremony
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes 3
Interrogations: yes 2 done as part of punishment for offense
Kidnapping sub: yes 4
Kneeling sub: yes 5 part of private greeting ritual and at command
Leather clothing: yes 5
restraints chains: yes 4
restraints leather: yes 4
restraints rope: yes 3
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 4
Licking (non-sexual): yes 3
Manacles & Irons: yes 5
Manicures (giving): yes 3
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 2
Modeling for Dom’s erotic photos: yes 4
Mouth bits: yes 3
Mummification: yes 4
Nipple clamps: yes 4
Nipple cloths pins: yes 3
Nipple weights: yes 3
Oral/anal play by sub (rimming): yes 4
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 5 Orgasm with permission only, for 1 day preceding scene
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: yes 5
Outdoor sex: yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 3
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no no
Piercing (permanent): yes 4
Prison scenes yes 3
Pony slave: no 2 some growing interested in this
Public exposure: yes 3
Public tasks: yes 4
Pussy spanking: yes 5 at least lightly
Pussy whipping: yes 4 lightly
Pussy worship: yes 4 only when order to a Domme or female sub by the Dom
Riding crops: yes 4 can be part of play or much harder for earned punishment
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): yes 3
Rituals: yes 5 important to establish relationship on going
Religious scenes: no no
Restrictive rules on sub behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: yes 2
Rope body harness: yes 3
Saran wrapping: yes 2
Scratching – getting: yes 2
Scratching – giving: yes 3
Sensory deprivation: yes 5
Serving by sub: yes 5
Serving as sub art: yes 3
Serving as sub ashtray: no no possibly as punishment for gross offense
Serving as sub furniture: yes 2
Serving as a sub maid: yes 3
Serving as sub toilet: no no
Serving as sub waitress/waiter: yes 3
Serving orally by sub (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): yes 3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): yes 2 has to be agreed upon by sub
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 4
Sexual deprivation (long term): yes 2 only as punishment so far
Shaving (body hair): yes 5 shave wax or lazored for arm pits and legs
Shaving (head hair): no 2
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 5
Sleep deprivation: yes 2
Sleep-sacks: yes 3
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): yes 3
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: yes 3
Spanking in bdsm parties: yes 3
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: yes 3 sub wearing it
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 4
Speculums (Anal): yes 3
Speculums (vaginal): yes 3
Spreader bars: yes 5
Standing sub in corner: yes 3
Stocks (adjustable): yes 4
Stocks (fixed): yes 4
Straight jackets: no 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 3 only if shared with Domme
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 3 only if shared with Domme
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): yes 3 only if shared with female sub/slave
Strapping (full body beating): yes 1
Suspension (upright); yes 4
Suspension (inverted): yes 4
Suspension (horizontal): yes 4
Supplying new partners for Dom: yes 3 again must be agreed upon by sub
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: no no possible as punishment
Swapping (with one other couple): yes 3 not a requirement agreement only
Swinging (multiple couples): yes 3 not a requirement agreement only
Tattooing of sub for ownership purposes: yes 3 not a requirement agreement only
Teasing: yes 4
Tickling: yes 3 reserve the right under any condition as punishment
Triple penetration of sub: yes 3 if agreed to by sub
Triple penetration of sub by 3 males: no 2 if agreed to by sub and under my control
Uniforms: yes 4
Including others: yes 3 if agreed to by sub and under my control
Vaginal dildo: yes 5
Verbal humiliation: yes 2 punishment unless sub/slave desires it
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): yes 3
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of sub): yes 4
Water torture: no 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 5
Whipping YES 3 flogging but harsh whipping needs to be discussed
Wooden paddles: yes 4
Wrestling: yes 2

[tessa]

This is why this place is so great! Always learning, always discovering. I love it here!!

Thanks, Sir Russell! :)

[DrGeordie]

thanks for posting these Sir_Russell. I'll definitely be taking some time to go through these carefully.

[Sir_Russell]

Thank you both. Remember you must have your partner fill out the appropriate questionaire and then compare them to learn. Also remember that things do change if your partners hard limit seems to be a deal breaker then question it see if it really is, learn about it before you say NEXT

Russell

:tunes78: :crawlgirl :crawlgirl :crawlgirl :638: :nobitching_nbs: :crop: :11_2_102:

[DrGeordie]

Sir_Russell, and anyone else who's reading,

I've filled in my set of questions. I did find the instructions on the one for doms a bit confusing since they're written as if a sub was filling it out. I've answered in such a fashion that I would be giving where it makes sense to for a Dom to give and receiving where it makes sense of a Dom to receive as I understand it. As noted in other posts I am quite inexperienced as a Dom, so there are a lot of No's in the have you tried this column. I've answered on instinct for a lot of these. I expect this list to change quite a lot as I try some of these activities. In particular I think many of the 4's might become 5's once I've tried them. Equally a lot of the 1's could become 0's but I don't believe I should rule out anything I haven't tried unless I'm sure it's an absolute certain NO.

I'm open to any feedback people want to give. There is no partner to fill in the sub questions yet, hopefully that will change. But I'm quite comfortable with laying my cards on the table, so to speak. If any of my answers don't make sense I'm happy to clarify (I've probably just misunderstood the question). Enough rambling, here are my answers

Abrasion: NO 3
Age play: NO 2
Anal sex: YES 5
Anal plugs (small): NO 4
Anal plugs (large): NO 4
Anal plug (public, under clothes): NO 4 only with the explicit consent of the submissive and dependent on specifically where 'public' is
Animal roles: NO 1 only if this was a strong turn on for the sub
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): NO 3
Asphyxiation: NO 1 not at this time, at my level of experience it would be unsafe
Auctioned for charity: NO 1
Bathroom use control: NO 1
Bestiality: NO NO hard limit.
Beating (soft): NO 3/4
Beating (hard): NO 1 only if it was something the sub specifically wanted and then only with thorough planning and a _lot_ of precautions
Blindfolds: YES 5
Being serviced (sexual): YES 5
Being bitten: NO 3
Breast/chest bondage: NO 4
Breath control: NO 5
Branding: NO NO
Boot worship: NO 2/3
Bondage (light): YES 5
Bondage (heavy): NO 5
Bondage (multi-day): NO 3
Bondage (public, under clothing): YES 4 wherever 'public' is involved, only where the sub is also interested
Breast whipping: YES 4
Brown showers (scat): NO NO
Cages (locked inside of): NO 2/3
Caning: NO 4
Catheterization: NO 1
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): NO 2/3
Chastity belts: NO 2
Chauffeuring: NO 1
Choking: NO 1
Clothespins: NO 4
Cock worship: NO 4
Collars (worn in private): NO 5
Collars (worn in public): NO 4 again 'public' so only with explicit consent
Competitions (with other Subs): NO 2
Corsets (wearing): NO 3
Cuffs: NO 4
Cuffs (metal): NO 4
Cutting: NO NO I would not feel safe doing this at this time
Dilation: NO 3
Double penetration: NO 4
Electricity: NO 1
Enemas: NO 2
Enforced chastity: NO 3
Examinations (physical): NO 4
Exercise (forced/required): NO 3
Exhibitionism (friends): NO 4
Exhibitionism (strangers): NO 1
Eye contact restrictions: NO 1
Face slapping: NO 2
Fantasy abandonment: NO 1
Fantasy rape: NO NO
Fantasy gang-rape: NO NO
Fisting (anal): NO 3
Fisting (vaginal): NO 3
Following orders: NO 4
Foot worship: NO 2
Forced dressing: NO 4
Forced homosexuality: NO 2
Forced masturbation: NO 4
Forced nudity (private): NO 5
Forced nudity (around others): NO 2 only if the others were people we both knew well
Forced servitude: NO 3
Full head hoods: NO 2
Gags (cloth): YES 4
Gags (rubber): NO 4
Gags (tape): NO 4
Gates of Hell (male) N/A
Genital sex: YES 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): NO 1
Given away to another Dom (perm): NO NO
Golden showers: NO NO
Hairbrush spankings: YES 5
Hair pulling: NO 3
Hand jobs (giving): YES 4
Hand jobs (receiving): YES 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): NO 4
Harnessing (leather): NO 3/4
Harnessing (rope): NO 3/4
Having food chosen for you: NO 4
Having clothing chosen for you: NO 4
Head (giving fellatio): N/A
Head (receiving fellatio)for males only YES 5
High heel worship: N/A
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): NO 4
Hot oils (on genitals): NO 3/4
Hot waxing: NO 3
Housework (doing): NO 2
Human puppy dog: NO NO
Humiliation (private): NO 4
Humiliation (public): NO 2/3
Hypnotism: NO 1
Ice cubes: NO 4
Infantilism: NO 1
Initiation rites: NO 3
Injections: NO 1
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: NO 3/4
Interrogations: NO 2
Kidnapping: NO 1
Kneeling: NO 5
Leather clothing: NO 3
restraints: NO 4
Lectures for misbehavior: NO 3
Licking (non-sexual): NO 3
Manacles & Irons: NO 4
Manicures (giving): NO 1
Massage (giving): YES 4
Massage (receiving): YES 3
Medical scenes: NO 1
Modeling for erotic photos: NO 4
Mouth bits: NO 1
Mummification: NO 1
Nipple clamps: NO 5
Nipple weights: NO 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): NO 3/4
Over-the-knee spanking: YES 5
Orgasm denial: NO 4/5
Orgasm control: NO 4/5
Outdoor scenes: NO 4 only in a carefully chosen location
Outdoor sex: NO 4/5 as above
Phone sex (serving Dom): NO 3/4 recieving from a sub obviously
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): NO 3/4 as above
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): NO 1
Piercing (permanent): NO 1
Prison scenes NO 1
Pony slave: NO NO
Public exposure: NO 2/3
Pussy/cock whipping: NO 3/4
Pussy worship:
Riding crops: NO 4/5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): NO 3
Rituals: NO 4
Religious scenes: NO 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: NO 4
Rubber/latex clothing: NO 3
Rope body harness: NO 3/4
Saran wrapping: NO 3
Scratching – getting: NO 2
Scratching – giving: NO 2
Sensory deprivation: NO 3
Serving: NO 4 recieving service from a sub for all of these
Serving as art: NO 4
Serving as ashtray: NO NO
Serving as furniture: NO 2/3
Serving as a maid: NO 4
Serving as toilet: NO NO
Serving as waitress/waiter: NO 4
Serving orally (sexual): YES 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): NO 2/3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): NO 1
Sexual deprivation (short term): NO 3/4
Sexual deprivation (long term): NO 2
Shaving (body hair): NO 4
Shaving (head hair): NO 1
Sleep deprivation: NO 1
Sleepsacks: NO 1
Slutty clothing (private): NO 4/5
Slutty clothing (public): NO 3
Spanking: YES 5 giving obviously
Spandex clothing: NO 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): NO 3
Speculums (Anal): NO 3
Speculums (vaginal): NO 3
Spreader bars: NO 4
Standing in corner: NO 4
Stocks (adjustable): NO 4
Straight jackets: NO 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): N/A
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): NO NO
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): NO 0
Strapping (full body beating): NO 1
Suspension (upright); NO 3
Suspension (inverted): NO 3
Suspension (horizontal): NO 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: N/A
Swallowing semen: NO 4
Swallowing urine: NO NO
Swapping (with one other couple): NO 1
Swinging (multiple couples): NO 1
Tattooing: NO NO too permanent at this time
Teasing: NO 4
Tickling: NO 4
Triple penetration: NO 4
Uniforms: NO 3
Including others: NO 2
Vaginal dildo: N/A
Verbal humiliation: NO 3
Vibrator on genitals: NO 4 administering
Voyeurism (watching others): NO 2
Voyeurism (your slave w/others): NO 2 depends on who the others are
Video (watching others): NO 3
Video (recordings of you): NO 3
Water torture: NO 2
Wearing symbolic jewelry: NO 4
Whipping NO 4
Wooden paddles: NO 4/5
Wrestling: NO 2

[Rhabbi]

Thanks for the post Sir Russell, we need to be aware of these things.

[Sir_Russell]

Thank you Doc

First you have a lot NO experience in many of the areas that you have expressed interest in. You show concern and care for the sub/slave in very important areas and that is a great trait for a good Dom/Master.

My advice is that you do a lot of research and ask a lot of questions. Ask for what are the hidden problems of each. In example, many pictures show a young lady hanging off the ground by her wrists, shoulders are a very weak point and most none gymnasts can't take more then 5 to 9 minutes of this. Then there is a the hidden problem that suspension cuffs are made differently for standard cuffs to protect the wrist or ankles.

You will need to plan carefully for each scene, be a chess master in that you will consider "what ifs" at each step and have a plan for each. Always remember that it is rare that anyone plans to actually harm their sub but yet it happens.

My personal opinion is that you have what it takes to be good caring Dom/Master.

Russell

[DrGeordie]

Thank you for the feedback. Every post of yours I have found on these forums I've found myself nodding at your wisdom. A positive comment from you gives me assurance that I am going in the right direction, even if I have a long way to go.

There will certainly be more questions in the future. Right now I'm just absorbing as much information as I can get from the questions that have been asked already.

R

[cariad]

Well that looks a pretty good hand you have laid out there. Thinks somewhere there is a sub who is going to enjoy an exciting journey with you.

cariad

[BorderCollie]

I am happily married sub to Border Collie.

Abrasion: No 5
Age play: No 5
Anal sex: Yes 1
Anal plugs (small): Yes 1
Anal plugs (large): Yes 1
Anal plug (public, under clothes): Yes 3
Animal roles: No 5
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): Yes 2
Asphyxiation: No 5
Auctioned for charity: No 5
Bathroom use control: Yes 3
Bestiality: No 5
Beating (soft): Yes 1
Beating (hard): No 1
Blindfolds: Yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): Yes 1
Being bitten: Yes 1
Breast/chest bondage:Yes 1
Breath control: No 5
Branding: No 5
Boot worship: Yes 1
Bondage (light): Yes 1
Bondage (heavy): Yes 1
Bondage (multi-day): Yes 3
Bondage (public, under clothing): Yes 3
Bondage and Sex: Yes 1
Breast whipping: Yes 3
Brown showers (scat): No 5
Cages (locked inside of): No 5
Caning: No 5
Catheterization: No 5
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): No 5
Chastity belts: Yes 1
Chauffeuring: No 5
Choking: No 5
Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes 1
Clothespins labia lips/clit: Yes 1
Clothespins body: No 5
Cock worship: Yes 1
Collars (worn in private): Yes 5
Collars (worn in public): No 1
Competitions (with other Subs): Yes 3
Corsets (wearing): Yes 2
Cuffs: Yes 1
Cuffs (metal): No 1
Cutting: No 5
Dilation: No 5
Double penetration: Yes 1
Electricity: Yes 3
Enemas: Yes 3
Enforced chastity: Yes 1
Examinations (physical): No 5
Exercise (forced/required): Yes 3
Exhibitionism (friends): Yes 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): No 5
Eye contact restrictions: Yes 2
Face slapping: No 1
Fantasy abandonment: Yes 3
Fantasy rape: Yes 1
Fantasy forced deep throat:Yes 1
Fantasy forced cunt licking: Yes 1
Fantasy forced rape anal: Yes 1
Fantasy gang-rape: No 5
Fisting (anal): No 5
Fisting (vaginal): Yes 1
Flogging: Yes 2
Following hand signals: No 5
Following orders: Yes 1
Foot worship: Yes 1
Forced dressing: Yes 1
Forced homosexuality: Yes 1
Forced masturbation: Yes 1
Forced nudity (private): Yes 1
Forced nudity (around others): Yes 2
Forced servitude: Yes 3
Full head hoods: Yes 5
Gags (cloth): Yes 1
Gags (penis shaped): Yes 1
Gags (rubber): Yes 1
Gags (tape): Yes 1
Gates of Hell: No 5
Genital sex: Yes 3
Given away to another Dom (temp): No 5
Given away to another Domme (temp): No 5
Given away to another Dom (perm): No 5
Given away to another Domme (perm): No 5
Golden showers: Yes 3
Greetings rituals: Yes 2
Hairbrush spankings: No 5
Hair pulling: Yes 2
Hand jobs (giving): Yes 1
Hand jobs (receiving): Yes 1
Harems (serving w/other subs): No 3
Harnessing (leather): Yes 3
Harnessing (rope): Yes 3
Having food chosen for you: Yes 2
Having clothing chosen for you: Yes2
Head (giving cunnilingus): Yes 1
Head (giving fellatio): Yes 1
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): Yes 1
Head (receiving fellatio male only): Yes 1
High heel worship: Ohhhhh Yes 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): Yes 1
Hot oils (on genitals): No 3
Hot waxing: No 3
Housework (doing): Yes 1
Human puppy dog: No 5
Humiliation (private): Yes 1
Humiliation (public): No 5
Hypnotism: No 1
Ice cubes: Yes 3
Infantilism: No 5
Initiation rites: No 5
Injections: No 5
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: Yes 2
Interrogations: No 5
Kidnapping: No 5
Kneeling: Yes 1
Leather clothing: Yes 1
restraints chains: Yes 1
restraints leather: Yes 1
restraints rope: Yes 1
Lectures for misbehavior: Yes 2
Licking (non-sexual): Yes 2
Manacles & Irons: Yes 3
Manicures (giving): Yes 2
Massage (giving): Yes 1
Massage (receiving): Yes 3
Medical scenes: No 5

Modeling for erotic photos: Yes 1
Modeling for erotic videos: Yes 1
Mouth bits: Yes 1
Mummification: No 3
Nipple clamps: Yes 1
Nipple cloths pins: Yes 1
Nipple weights: Yes 1
Oral/anal play (rimming): YES YES 1
Over-the-knee spanking: Yes 3
Orgasm denial: Yes 3
Orgasm control: Yes 3
Outdoor scenes: Yes 3
Outdoor sex: Yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom): Yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): No 5
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): No 3
Piercing (permanent): Yes 1
Prison scenes: No 5
Pony slave: No 5
Public exposure: Yes 1
Public tasks: Yes 1
Pussy/cock whipping: Yes 1
Pussy worship: Yes 1
Riding crops: Yes 1
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): Yes 1
Rituals: No 5
Religious scenes: No 5
Restrictive rules on behavior: No 5
Rubber/latex clothing: Yes 1
Rope body harness: Yes 1
Saran wrapping:No 5
Scratching – getting: No 5
Scratching – giving: No 5
Sensory deprivation: Yes 1
Serving: Yes 1
Serving as art:Yes 1
Serving as ashtray: No 5
Serving as furniture: No 5
Serving as a maid: Yes 1
Serving as toilet: Yes 3
Serving as waitress/waiter: No 5
Serving orally (sexual): Yes 1
Serving other Doms (supervised): No 5
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): No 5
Sexual deprivation (short term): Yes 1
Sexual deprivation (long term): yes 1
Shaving (body hair): Yes 1
Shaving (head hair): No 5
Shaving (pubic hair): Yes 1
Sleep deprivation: No 5
Sleep-sacks: No 5
Slutty clothing (private): Yes 1
Slutty clothing (public): Yes 1
Spanking in private: Yes 1
Spanking in public: No 5
Spanking in bdsm parties: Yes 3
Spanking pleasure: Yes 3
Spandex clothing: No 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): No 5
Speculums (Anal): Yes 1
Speculums (vaginal): Yes 1
Spreader bars: Ohhhhhh Yeah !
Standing in corner: Yes 1
Stocks (adjustable): Yes 1
Stocks (fixed): Yes 1
Straight jackets: No 5
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): Yes 1
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): Yes 1
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): Yes 1
Strapping (full body beating): No 5
Suspension (upright); Yes 1
Suspension (inverted): No 5
Suspension (horizontal): Yes 1
Supplying new partners for Dom: No 5
Swallowing semen: Yes 1
Swallowing urine: No 5
Swapping (with one other couple): Yes 1
Swinging (multiple couples): No 5
Tattooing: No 5
Teasing: Yes 1
Tickling: Yes 1
Triple penetration: Yes 1
Triple penetration by 3 males: No5
Uniforms: yes 3
Including others: No 5
Vaginal dildo: Yes 1
Verbal humiliation: Yes 2
Vibrator on genitals: Yes 3
Voyeurism (watching others): Yes 1
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): Yes 1
Video (watching others): Yes 1
Video (recordings of you): Yes 1
Water torture: No 5
Wearing symbolic jewelry: Yes 1
Whipping: Yes 1
Wooden paddles: Yes 1
Wrestling: No 5

[jeanne]

Sir_Russell,
Thanks for posting these checklists - they are helping me see my frantic desires a little more clearly and objectively. I am praying to get up the nerve to fill one out and actually give it to my husband <gasp> in the hopes that it will alleviate his fears about hurting me in a way I don't like. (Which I suspect is his main objection to this part of our sexuality and life.) Now if I could just get over this darn shyness! (Not shy in the rest of my life activities, like work, friendships, etc. but I am way too worried about what he'll think of me :32: )
Have a wonderful day!

[pixie_dust]

Thanks for sharing these, Sir_Russell. They definately help open the door of discussion for lots of folk interested in this lifestyle, especially those who find it difficult to express their fantasies and desires. I'm sure they will be well received by many.

[Sir_Russell]

sub to Border Collie.
Unusual questionaire response. You are intrigued with things you haven't done. Yet you are willing to do things for your Master/Dom that you have little or no interest in, and that is commendable. The next step is for Border Collie to do the Dom part of this so the two of you can compare and then he can plan to surprise you.

Russell.

[Sir_Russell]

his_j take the questionaire and print out the other one for him to take. Leave them where he will find them with some instructions.

Have you talked about this at all with him. I see your shy do you have a set of handcuffs is not buy a set, even the kids type with the lever to release you, then put on his favorite sexy wear or nude if he prefers. Then put on the cuffs behind your back and go kneel in front of him with mouth open or even better use your mouth to open his pants. Tell him to control how you suck by grabbing your head or hair.

If that doesn't work at least he knows a little of what you want.

Russell

[blossom]

Abrasion: no 0
Age play: no 1
Anal sex: yes 5
Anal plugs (small): no 3
Anal plugs (large): no 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 4
Animal roles: no 4
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 5
Asphyxiation: no 4
Auctioned for charity: no 3
Bathroom use control: yes 3
Bestiality: no.
Beating (soft): yes 5
Beating (hard): no 4
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 3
Breast/chest bondage: no 5
Breath control: no 4
Branding: no.
Boot worship: no 2
Bondage (light): yes 3
Bondage (heavy): no 4
Bondage (multi-day): no 5
Bondage (public, under clothing): yes 5
Bondage and Sex: no 5
Breast whipping: no 2
Brown showers (scat): no 2
Cages (locked inside of): no 5
Caning: no 4
Catheterization: no 0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 5
Chastity belts: no 5
Chauffeuring: no 2
Choking: yes 3
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 5
Clothespins body: no 4
Cock worship: no 5
Collars (worn in private): no 5
Collars (worn in public): no 5
Competitions (with other Subs): no.
Corsets (wearing): no 5
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 3
Cutting: no.
Dilation: no 0
Double penetration: yes 5
Electricity: no 3
Enemas: no 2
Enforced chastity: no 5
Examinations (physical): no 4
Exercise (forced/required): no 5
Exhibitionism (friends): no 0
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 1
Eye contact restrictions: no 4
Face slapping: yes 4
Fantasy abandonment: no 5
Fantasy rape: no 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: yes 5
Fantasy gang-rape: no 3
Fisting (anal): no.
Fisting (vaginal): no 0
Flogging: no 5
Following hand signals: no 4
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: no 2
Forced dressing: no 5
Forced homosexuality:no 3
Forced masturbation: no 2
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no 5
Forced servitude: no 5
Full head hoods: no 5
Gags (cloth): yes 3
Gags (penis shaped): no 5
Gags (rubber): no 4
Gags (tape): yes 3
Gates of Hell: n/a
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp):no 5
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 5
Given away to another Dom (perm): no 1
Given away to another Domme (perm): no 1
Golden showers: no 0
Greetings rituals: no 5
Hairbrush spankings: no 2
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 3
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 2
Harnessing (leather): no 5
Harnessing (rope): yes 5
Having food chosen for you: no 5
Having clothing chosen for you: no 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): no 3
Head (giving fellatio): yes 4
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): no 3
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: no.
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 2
Hot oils (on genitals): no 4
Hot waxing: no 5
Housework (doing): yes 5
Human puppy dog: yes 5
Humiliation (private): no 4
Humiliation (public): no 0
Hypnotism: no 0
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism: no 3
Initiation rites: no 3
Injections: no no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 5
Interrogations: no 3
Kidnapping: no 5
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: no 4
restraints chains: yes 4
restraints leather: yes 5
restraints rope: yes 3
Lectures for misbehavior: no 5
Licking (non-sexual): yes 2
Manacles & Irons: no 4
Manicures (giving): no 2
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 0

Modeling for erotic photos: no 5
Modeling for erotic videos: no 4
Mouth bits: no 4
Mummification: no 5
Nipple clamps: yes 4
Nipple cloths pins: no 3
Nipple weights: no 0
Oral/anal play (rimming): no 2
Over-the-knee spanking: no 5
Orgasm denial: (unable to have them)
Orgasm control: (^^^^^^^^^^^)
Outdoor scenes: no 5
Outdoor sex: no 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 3
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 0
Piercing (permanent): no 0
Prison scenes: no 4
Pony slave: no 4
Public exposure: no 1
Public tasks: no 3
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 0
Pussy worship: no 0
Riding crops: yes 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 3
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 5
Rope body harness: no 5
Saran wrapping: no 3
Scratching – getting: no 2
Scratching – giving: yes 4
Sensory deprivation: yes 5
Serving: no 0
Serving as art: no 3
Serving as ashtray: no.
Serving as furniture: no 4
Serving as a maid: no 5
Serving as toilet: no.
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 4
Serving orally (sexual): no 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 5
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 1
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 5
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 5
Shaving (body hair): yes 5
Shaving (head hair): no.
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 5
Sleep deprivation: no 4
Sleep-sacks: no 5
Slutty clothing (private): no 5
Slutty clothing (public): no 4
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no 4
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 5
Spanking pleasure: yes 4
Spandex clothing: no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 5
Speculums (Anal): no 2
Speculums (vaginal): no 2
Spreader bars: yes 3
Standing in corner: no 5
Stocks (adjustable): no 4
Stocks (fixed): no 4
Straight jackets: no 5
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 0
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 1
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 0
Strapping (full body beating): no 3
Suspension (upright); no 2
Suspension (inverted): no 2
Suspension (horizontal): no 2
Supplying new partners for Dom: n/a
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: no 2/3
Swapping (with one other couple): no 3
Swinging (multiple couples): no 0
Tattooing: no 2
Teasing: yes 4
Tickling: no 3
Triple penetration: no 0
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 0
Uniforms: no 3
Including others: no 3
Vaginal dildo: yes 4
Verbal humiliation: no 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): no 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 5
Video (watching others): yes 4
Video (recordings of you): no 0
Water torture: no 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 2
Whipping: yes 4
Wooden paddles: no 4
Wrestling: yes 4

[Sir_Russell]

blossom you certainly have a lot of potential and you will make some Dominate a very interesting challenge. You have a very open mind to the life. May I wish that you find a wonderful experienced Dominate to show you the ropes, chains and leather.

Russell

[jeanne]

Sir Russell,

Thanks for the encouragement! :wave:
Well, the checklist is in his hands...we'll see how it goes!
The handcuffs/bj idea - I've actually been doing that - not with actual hardware, just clasping my hands behind my back while.. hmmm.. servicing him. Gets him (and me) going every time. Also - he's getting more aggressive sexually and beginning to share some fantasies of his own, so I have lots of hope for the future.

[tessa]

Well, the checklist is in his hands...we'll see how it goes!
The handcuffs/bj idea - I've actually been doing that - not with actual hardware, just clasping my hands behind my back while.. hmmm.. servicing him. Gets him (and me) going every time. Also - he's getting more aggressive sexually and beginning to share some fantasies of his own, so I have lots of hope for the future.

~hugs and grins~ I'll hope for you, too! Glad to hear both of you are moving forward in your dream.

tessa :hihi:

[kisskinky]

well here goes...im a little hungover and ive found it quite difficult to do but heres my answers. i fear i may have contradicted myself in places but have tried to go over it and alter some a second time. anyhow, im am a bit of a contradiction sometimes lol

feedback welcomed :)



Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no no
Age play: no 3
Anal sex: yes 4
Anal plugs (small): yes 4
Anal plugs (large): no 0
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 1
Animal roles: no no
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): i dont know what these are so cant comment
Asphyxiation: no no
Auctioned for charity: no no
Bathroom use control: no no
Bestiality: no 0
Beating (soft): no 1
Beating (hard): no no
Blindfolds: yes 4
Being serviced (sexual): no 4
Being bitten: yes 4
Breast/chest bondage: no 3, light
Breath control: yes 3/4
Branding: no no
Boot worship: no 1
Bondage (light): yes 3
Bondage (heavy): no 3
Bondage (multi-day): no no
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 1
Bondage and Sex: yes 3
Breast whipping: no no no no
Brown showers (scat): nope no
Cages (locked inside of): no no
Caning: no 1
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no no
Chastity belts: no no
Chauffeuring: i cant drive
Choking: yes 3, as in hand around my throat firmly
Clothespins breast/nipples: no no
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no no
Clothespins body: no no
Cock worship: no 1
Collars (worn in private): no 4
Collars (worn in public): no 3
Competitions (with other Subs): no no
Corsets (wearing): no 5
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 4
Cutting: nope no
Dilation: no no
Double penetration: no 0
Electricity: no 0
Enemas: no no
Enforced chastity: no no
Examinations (physical): no 2
Exercise (forced/required): yes 5, a few more stone to lose yet :)
Exhibitionism (friends): no 1
Exhibitionism (strangers): no no
Eye contact restrictions: no no
Face slapping: yes 3
Fantasy abandonment: no no
Fantasy rape: yes 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 3
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 3
Fantasy gang-rape: no 4
Fisting (anal): no no
Fisting (vaginal): no no
Flogging: no 3
Following hand signals: not sure what this means
Following orders: no 3
Foot worship: no 1
Forced dressing: no 1
Forced homosexuality: n/a
Forced masturbation: no 1
Forced nudity (private): no no
Forced nudity (around others): no no
Forced servitude: no no
Full head hoods: no no
Gags (cloth): no 3
Gags (penis shaped):no no
Gags (rubber): no 2
Gags (tape): no 2
Gates of Hell: no idea what this is
Genital sex: er yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 2
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 2
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: yes 3
Greetings rituals: i dont know what this is
Hairbrush spankings: no 3/4
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no no
Harnessing (leather): no 2/3
Harnessing (rope): no 2/3
Having food chosen for you: no 3
Having clothing chosen for you: no 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 2
Hot oils (on genitals): no no
Hot waxing: no 2
Housework (doing): no no lol
Human puppy dog: no no
Humiliation (private): no 0
Humiliation (public): no no
Hypnotism: no 2
Ice cubes: yes 3/4
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: not sure what this is
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no no
Kidnapping:no 3
Kneeling: yes 3
Leather clothing: no 3
restraints chains: no 3
restraints leather: no 5
restraints rope: no 3
Lectures for misbehavior: no no
Licking (non-sexual): no 2
Manacles & Irons: no no
Manicures (giving): yes 3
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 1

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 5
Modeling for erotic videos: no 0
Mouth bits: no no
Mummification: no no
Nipple clamps: yes 3
Nipple cloths pins: no no
Nipple weights: no no
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking: no 5
Orgasm denial: no 0
Orgasm control: no 0
Outdoor scenes: no 0
Outdoor sex: yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no no
Piercing (permanent): no no
Prison scenes: no 1
Pony slave: no no
Public exposure: no 1
Public tasks: no 1
Pussy/cock whipping: no no
Pussy worship: no 3
Riding crops: no 1
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no no
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 1
Rubber/latex clothing: no 1
Rope body harness: no 3
Saran wrapping:no no
Scratching – getting: yes 3
Scratching – giving: yes 3
Sensory deprivation: no no
Serving: no no
Serving as art: no no
Serving as ashtray: no no
Serving as furniture: no no
Serving as a maid: no no
Serving as toilet: no no
Serving as waitress/waiter: no no
Serving orally (sexual): yes 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no no
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 3
Sexual deprivation (long term):no no
Shaving (body hair): yes 5
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair):yes 5
Sleep deprivation: no no
Sleep-sacks: no idea what this is
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): no 3
Spanking in private: no 5
Spanking in public: no 3
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 3
Spanking pleasure:no 5
Spandex clothing: no no
Speech restrictions (when, what): no no
Speculums (Anal): no no
Speculums (vaginal): no no
Spreader bars: no 5
Standing in corner: no 0
Stocks (adjustable): no 2
Stocks (fixed): no 2
Straight jackets: no no
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 3
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 3
Strapping (full body beating): no no
Suspension (upright); no no
Suspension (inverted): no no
Suspension (horizontal): no no
Supplying new partners for Dom: yes 4
Swallowing semen: yes 3
Swallowing urine: no 0
Swapping (with one other couple): yes 3
Swinging (multiple couples): yes 3
Tattooing: yes 5
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: no 3
Triple penetration: no no
Triple penetration by 3 males: no no for all at the same time, but yes 5 for seperatley
Uniforms: yes 2
Including others: yes 3
Vaginal dildo: yes 5
Verbal humiliation: no 0
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 5
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): yes 5
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of you): no 0
Water torture: no no
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 4
Whipping: no 3
Wooden paddles: no 3
Wrestling: no 0

[boytoy2mistress]

Abrasion: no no
Age play: no 0
Anal sex: no 4
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large): no 1
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 5
Animal roles: no 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 4
Asphyxiation: no no
Auctioned for charity: no 2
Bathroom use control: no 0
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): yes 3
Beating (hard): no 0
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 3
Breast/chest bondage: no 2
Breath control: no no
Branding: no no
Boot worship: no 2
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): no 5
Bondage (multi-day): no 4
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 4
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: n/a
Brown showers (scat): no no
Cages (locked inside of): no 2
Caning: no 0
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 1
Chastity belts: no 3
Chauffeuring: no 3
Choking: no no
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit: n/a
Clothespins body: no 2
Cock worship: no no
Collars (worn in private): no 4
Collars (worn in public): no 2
Competitions (with other Subs): no 0
Corsets (wearing): yes 5
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: no no
Dilation: huh?
Double penetration: no 2
Electricity: no no
Enemas: no 2
Enforced chastity: yes 3
Examinations (physical): no 0
Exercise (forced/required): no 1
Exhibitionism (friends): no 5
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 4
Eye contact restrictions: no 1
Face slapping: no 1
Fantasy abandonment: no no
Fantasy rape: no no
Fantasy forced deep throat: no no
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 3
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 0
Fantasy gang-rape: no 1
Fisting (anal): no no
Fisting (vaginal): n/a
Flogging: no 4
Following hand signals: no 1
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: no 3
Forced dressing: yes 4
Forced homosexuality: no no
Forced masturbation: yes 4
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no 4
Forced servitude: yes 4
Full head hoods: no 3
Gags (cloth): yes 5
Gags (penis shaped): no 5
Gags (rubber): no 5
Gags (tape): no 2
Gates of Hell: no 3
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no no
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 4
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no 0
Golden showers: no no
Greetings rituals: no 3
Hairbrush spankings: no 3
Hair pulling: no 1
Hand jobs (giving): no 0
Hand jobs (receiving): no 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 3
Harnessing (leather): no 4
Harnessing (rope): no 3
Having food chosen for you: no 0
Having clothing chosen for you: no 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): no no
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): n/a
Head (receiving fellatio male only): yes 5
High heel worship: no 4
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): yes 5
Hot oils (on genitals): no 0
Hot waxing: no 0
Housework (doing): no 1
Human puppy dog: no 0
Humiliation (private): no 4
Humiliation (public): no 3
Hypnotism: no no
Ice cubes: no 3
Infantilism: no 0
Initiation rites: no 2
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no 0
Kidnapping: no 0
Kneeling: yes 4
Leather clothing: no 3
restraints chains: no 5
restraints leather: no 4
restraints rope: no 4
Lectures for misbehavior: no 0
Licking (non-sexual): yes 5
Manacles & Irons: no 5
Manicures (giving): no 2
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): yes 3
Medical scenes: no 0
Modeling for erotic photos: no 3
Modeling for erotic videos: no 3
Mouth bits: no 4
Mummification: no 0
Nipple clamps: no 4
Nipple cloths pins: no 4
Nipple weights: no 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): no 2
Over-the-knee spanking: no 3
Orgasm denial: yes 5
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: no 5
Outdoor sex: no 5
Phone sex (serving Domme): yes 5
Phone sex (serving Domme's friends): no 5
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no no
Piercing (permanent): no no
Prison scenes: no 1
Pony slave: no 1
Public exposure: no 4
Public tasks: no 5
Pussy/cock whipping: no 3
Pussy worship: yes 5
Riding crops: yes 5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): huh?
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no no
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 5
Rope body harness: no 4
Saran wrapping: no 0
Scratching – getting: yes 3
Scratching – giving: no 1
Sensory deprivation: no 3
Serving: yes 5
Serving as art: no 2
Serving as ashtray: no 0
Serving as furniture: no 2
Serving as a maid: no 4
Serving as toilet: no no
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 4
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Dommes (supervised): no 5
Serving other Dommes (unsupervised): no 2
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 5
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 3
Shaving (body hair): no 0
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair): no 0
Sleep deprivation: yes 2
Sleep-sacks: no 1
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): yes 3
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no 3
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 5
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: no 3
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 3
Speculums (Anal): no 0
Speculums (vaginal): n/a
Spreader bars: no 5
Standing in corner: no 1
Stocks (adjustable): no 4
Stocks (fixed): no 4
Straight jackets: no 3
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): n/a
Strapping (full body beating): no 1
Suspension (upright); no 2
Suspension (inverted): no 2
Suspension (horizontal): no 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 0
Swallowing semen: no 0
Swallowing urine: no no
Swapping (with one other couple): no 3
Swinging (multiple couples): no 3
Tattooing: no no
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: yes 4
Triple penetration: n/a
Triple penetration by 3 males: n/a
Uniforms: yes 3
Including others: no 4
Vaginal dildo: n/a
Verbal humiliation: no 1
Vibrator on genitals: no 3
Voyeurism (watching others): no 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 3
Video (watching others): yes 4
Video (recordings of you): no 4
Water torture: no no
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 4
Whipping: yes 5
Wooden paddles: no 4
Wrestling: no 2

[wingsofanangel]

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.




Abrasion: no - 0
Age play: Maybe 1
Anal sex: Yes 4
Anal plugs (small): yes 4
Anal plugs (large): Yes 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 4
Animal roles: No 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): Never tried. 2
Asphyxiation: No no no HARD no!
Auctioned for charity: No no no Hard No
Bathroom use control: In the middle. 2/3
Bestiality: No no no Hard no!
Beating (soft): yes 4
Beating (hard): Yes 2
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 2
Breast/chest bondage: Yes 5
Breath control: No No NO hard no!
Branding: No 0
Boot worship: No 1/2
Bondage (light): yes 4
Bondage (heavy): Yes 4
Bondage (multi-day): No 1
Bondage (public, under clothing): Yes 4
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: Yes 2/3
Brown showers (scat): No No No hard no
Cages (locked inside of): no 1/2
Caning: Yes 2/3
Catheterization: No.. but slightly intrigued.
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): No .... but curious.
Chastity belts: Yes 2/3
Chauffeuring: I don't understand this question.
Choking: NO NO NO hard no
Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: Yes 4
Clothespins body: Yes3
Cock worship: Yes 3
Collars (worn in private): Yes 4/5
Collars (worn in public): Yes 3/4
Competitions (with other Subs): no
Corsets (wearing): yes 5
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: No no no Hard no!
Dilation: No... 0 ? I may try it once if Dom really wanted it.
Double penetration: Yes 4 .. but with one man and toys.. ***
Electricity: Yes, 3/4 Curious..
Enemas: Yes 1/2
Enforced chastity: yes 1/2
Examinations (physical): Yes 1/2
Exercise (forced/required): Yes 3/4
Exhibitionism (friends): no Hard.
Exhibitionism (strangers): no Hard.
Eye contact restrictions: yes 2/3
Face slapping: No
Fantasy abandonment: no 0/1
Fantasy rape: no 0/1
Fantasy forced deep throat: Yes 3/4
Fantasy forced cunt licking: No hard limit.
Fantasy forced rape anal: No 0/1
Fantasy gang-rape: No hard limit
Fisting (anal): no 1/2 .. curious
Fisting (vaginal): yes 2/3 ... curious
Flogging: Yes..... 3/4
Following hand signals: I don't know what this is exactly
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: no 1/2
Forced dressing: yes 3/4
Forced homosexuality: No no HARD limit.
Forced masturbation: yes 4
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no Hard limit
Forced servitude: yes 3/4
Full head hoods: no 0
Gags (cloth): No 0
Gags (penis shaped): no 2
Gags (rubber): no 2
Gags (tape): no 3
Gates of Hell: N/A
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no no
Given away to another Domme (temp): no
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no
Golden showers: Curious 2
Greetings rituals: Yes 2/3
Hairbrush spankings: Yes 4
Hair pulling: Yes 4
Hand jobs (giving): YES 5
Hand jobs (receiving): n/a
Harems (serving w/other subs): no HARD limit
Harnessing (leather): Yes 3
Harnessing (rope): Yes 3
Having food chosen for you: No 0/1
Having clothing chosen for you: no 1/2
Head (giving cunnilingus): No hard limit
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): Yes.. 3.. .had it once.. it hurt
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: no
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): I don't know what this is.
Hot oils (on genitals): Yes 1/2
Hot waxing: Yes 1/2
Housework (doing): Yes 4
Human puppy dog: No
Humiliation (private): no 1
Humiliation (public): no
Hypnotism: no hard limit
Ice cubes: Yes 3
Infantilism: no 0
Initiation rites: Do not know about this
Injections: No....
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: Yes 4
Interrogations: yes 2/3
Kidnapping: Yes 2
Kneeling: yes 4
Leather clothing: Yes 4
restraints chains: Yes 4
restraints leather: Yes 4
restraints rope: Yes 4
Lectures for misbehavior: Yes 3
Licking (non-sexual): yes 1/2
Manacles & Irons: Yes 3
Manicures (giving): Yes 3
Massage (giving): yes 3
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: Yes 4
Modeling for erotic photos: Yes 4
Modeling for erotic videos: Yes 4
Mouth bits: no 3
Mummification: no 0
Nipple clamps: YES 5
Nipple cloths pins: YES 5
Nipple weights: yes 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): No 1
Over-the-knee spanking: Yes 4
Orgasm denial: yes 5
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: no 1/2
Outdoor sex: no 2
Phone sex (serving Domme): no
Phone sex (serving Domme's friends): no
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): Yes 3/4
Piercing (permanent): nYes 3/4
Prison scenes: Yes 3/4
Pony slave: no
Public exposure: no hard limit
Public tasks: Yes 3
Pussy/cock whipping: Yes 2
Pussy worship: No
Riding crops: yes 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): uhmm... sounds interesting.
Rituals: do not know what these are.
Religious scenes: no no
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: Yes 3/4
Rope body harness: Yes 4
Saran wrapping: Yes 2
Scratching – getting: yes 2
Scratching – giving: Yes 4
Sensory deprivation: Yes 2
Serving: yes 5
Serving as art: Yes 3
Serving as ashtray: no Hard limit
Serving as furniture: Yes 2
Serving as a maid: Yes 4
Serving as toilet: no.
Serving as waitress/waiter: Yes 2
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 4
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 3
Shaving (body hair): Yes 5
Shaving (head hair): no no hard limit
Shaving (pubic hair): Yes 5
Sleep deprivation: No. 0
Sleep-sacks: no
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): yes 3
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no
Spanking in bdsm parties: Yes 2/3
Spanking pleasure: yes 2
Spandex clothing: No...
Speech restrictions (when, what): Yes 2/3
Speculums (Anal): No... 2
Speculums (vaginal): No 2
Spreader bars: Yes 4
Standing in corner: Yes 3
Stocks (adjustable): yes 2/3
Stocks (fixed): Yes 2/3
Straight jackets: no
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes4
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): yes 3
Strapping (full body beating): no 0
Suspension (upright); no
Suspension (inverted): no
Suspension (horizontal): no
Supplying new partners for Dom: no
Swallowing semen: Yes 3
Swallowing urine: no 1
Swapping (with one other couple): no hard limit
Swinging (multiple couples): no hard limit
Tattooing: Yes 2
Teasing: Yes 3
Tickling: No 0
Triple penetration: Yes 3
Triple penetration by 3 males: No.hard limit
Uniforms: yes 4
Including others: no hard limit
Vaginal dildo: Yes 4
Verbal humiliation: no 0/1
Vibrator on genitals: YES 5
Voyeurism (watching others): no 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): No hard limit
Video (watching others): yes 4
Video (recordings of you): no 0/1
Water torture: no soft limit.. no submersion HARD limit
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 3
Whipping: yes 4
Wooden paddles: Yes 4
Wrestling: Yes 1


I hope I answered these right.. I pretty much meant .. I would or wouldn't do by Yes or No.. and then used the 0-5 on how hard it was...

I am willing to try almost anything one time.. except my hard limits.... those are pretty set....

-hopes she makes sense!-

Anya

[cazee]

Abrasion: no - 0
Age play: no1
Anal sex: no 4
Anal plugs (small): no 4
Anal plugs (large): no 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 4
Animal roles: No 1
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 2
Asphyxiation: No no no no!
Auctioned for charity: No no no No
Bathroom use control: no 2/3
Bestiality: no 1
Beating (soft): yes 4
Beating (hard): no 2
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: no 2
Breast/chest bondage: no 5
Breath control: No No NO no!
Branding: No 0
Boot worship: No 1/2
Bondage (light): yes 4
Bondage (heavy): no 4
Bondage (multi-day): No 1
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 4
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: no 2/3
Brown showers (scat): No No No no no
Cages (locked inside of): no 1/2
Caning: no 2/3
Catheterization: No 1
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 1
Chastity belts: no 1
Chauffeuring: I don't understand this question.
Choking: NO NO NO no no
Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 4
Clothespins body: no 0
Cock worship: Yes 5 yum yum lol
Collars (worn in private): no 4/5
Collars (worn in public): no 3/4
Competitions (with other Subs): no 1
Corsets (wearing): yes 5
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: No no no no no!
Dilation: dont know what this is
Double penetration: no 5 Dom+toy
Electricity: no 0
Enemas: no 1/2
Enforced chastity: no 1/2
Examinations (physical): Yes 5
Exercise (forced/required): no 0
Exhibitionism (friends): no 3.
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 3.
Eye contact restrictions: yes 2/3
Face slapping: No 0
Fantasy abandonment: no 0
Fantasy rape: no 0
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 3/4
Fantasy forced cunt licking: No 1
Fantasy forced rape anal: No 2
Fantasy gang-rape: No 2
Fisting (anal): no 4
Fisting (vaginal): no 3
Flogging: no 2
Following hand signals: I don't know what this is exactly
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: no 1
Forced dressing: yes 3
Forced homosexuality: no 2
Forced masturbation: yes 4
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no 3
Forced servitude: yes 3/4
Full head hoods: no 0
Gags (cloth): No 0
Gags (penis shaped): no 2
Gags (rubber): no 0
Gags (tape): no 0
Gates of Hell: N/A
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 0
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 0
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no000000000000
Given away to another Domme (perm): no 0
Golden showers: yes 3
Greetings rituals: Yes 2/3
Hairbrush spankings: no 3
Hair pulling: no 1
Hand jobs (giving): YES 5
Hand jobs (receiving): n/a
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 2
Harnessing (leather): no 2
Harnessing (rope): no 2
Having food chosen for you: No 2
Having clothing chosen for you: no 2
Head (giving cunnilingus): no 2
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 2
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): I don't know what this is.
Hot oils (on genitals): no 1
Hot waxing: no 1
Housework (doing): Yes 4
Human puppy dog: No 1
Humiliation (private): no 1
Humiliation (public): no 1
Hypnotism: no 0
Ice cubes: Yes 3
Infantilism: no 1
Initiation rites: would have to know more
Injections: No 00000
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 1
Interrogations: no 2
Kidnapping: no 2
Kneeling: yes 4
Leather clothing: no 4
restraints chains: no 4
restraints leather: no 4
restraints rope: Yes 4
Lectures for misbehavior: Yes 3
Licking (non-sexual): no 1
Manacles & Irons: no 3
Manicures (giving): no 3
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: Yes 4
Modeling for erotic photos: no 4
Modeling for erotic videos: no 4
Mouth bits: no 2
Mummification: no 0
Nipple clamps: YES 5
Nipple cloths pins: YES 5
Nipple weights: no 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): No 4
Over-the-knee spanking: Yes 4
Orgasm denial: no 5
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: no 3
Outdoor sex: no 2
Phone sex (serving Domme): no 0
Phone sex (serving Domme's friends): no 0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): Yes 3
Piercing (permanent): no 0
Prison scenes: Yes 3
Pony slave: no 1
Public exposure: no 2
Public tasks: no 3
Pussy/cock whipping: no 3
Pussy worship: no 2
Riding crops: no 2
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 1
Rituals: do not know what these are.
Religious scenes: no no
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 3
Rope body harness: no 4
Saran wrapping: no 2
Scratching – getting: no 1
Scratching – giving: no 1
Sensory deprivation: Yes 2
Serving: yes 5
Serving as art: no 3
Serving as ashtray: no Hard limit
Serving as furniture: no 2
Serving as a maid: Yes 4
Serving as toilet: no 3
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 2
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 3
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 2
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 2
Shaving (body hair): Yes 5
Shaving (head hair): no no hard limit
Shaving (pubic hair): Yes 5
Sleep deprivation: No. 0
Sleep-sacks: no 0
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): no 3
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no 2
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 5
Spanking pleasure: yes 2
Spandex clothing: No 0.
Speech restrictions (when, what): Yes 2/3
Speculums (Anal): No... 2
Speculums (vaginal): No 2
Spreader bars: no 4
Standing in corner: no 3
Stocks (adjustable): no 3
Stocks (fixed): no 3
Straight jackets: no 0
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): yes 5
Strapping (full body beating): no 0
Suspension (upright); no 0
Suspension (inverted): no 0
Suspension (horizontal): no 0
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 0
Swallowing semen: Yes 3
Swallowing urine: no 4
Swapping (with one other couple): no 4
Swinging (multiple couples): no 4
Tattooing: no 02
Teasing: Yes 3
Tickling: No 0
Triple penetration: no 3
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 2
Uniforms: yes 4
Including others: no 2
Vaginal dildo: Yes 4
Verbal humiliation: no 0
Vibrator on genitals: YES 5
Voyeurism (watching others): no 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 2
Video (watching others): yes 4
Video (recordings of you): no 0
Water torture: NO absolutely not ever!
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 3
Whipping: no 3
Wooden paddles: no 4
Wrestling: Yes 1
i hope i did this right!
and when do we start doing all of this then?????

[Sir_Russell]

My goodness I go off-line and suddenly a lot of activety. First a few definations.

Armbinders are long leather 2 arm or 2 legs devices that cover most of the arms or legs and normally laced tightly.

Sleep sacks are large bags normally secured around the neck of the sub to sleep in, some are of vinyl and can be vaccuumed to be form fitting restricting most movement. Please be aware that these are dangerous to wear for more the half an hour.

[Sir_Russell]

kisskinky

Just my opinion but you are a borderline sub. You have potential if you find a good Dom and experiment with thoses no 3-5. Then no 0-2.

I think you are new to the life and are concerned with pain. Remember that once the body is aroused to a high level it will sense pain as pleasure, most call this sub space.

I would direct you to my thread in the Gallery erotic pictures to see some the things you are uncertain of and to read some of my histories and rants to get a better idea.

Russell

[Sir_Russell]

boytoy2mistress

Your new and fairly inexperienced, not a bad thing we all were at one time, You seem to be very open to most things and that should make some Domme very happy.

You have a few area's that you may find it worth wild to test yourself in when you find that right Mistress. Good luck to you and choose her wisely

[Sir_Russell]

Anya

All in all I would love to have as a sub and I think you would end up being very good slave. My morgan though would not like it at all.

You do have a few spots where a good Dom might be able to take you that currently you think you would not enjoy, I say this because you want to please the Dom/Master that you choose.

Oh see my response to kisskinky above.

Hope to chat with you sometime

[Sir_Russell]

cazee

You have a lot of potential, I would say that you dabbled in the life but have not found your Dom/Master that can lead you and teach you.

I hope you find someone that will be willing to take the time and show the restraint that you will need to find out more about yourself in the life.

[wingsofanangel]

Anya

All in all I would love to have as a sub and I think you would end up being very good slave. My morgan though would not like it at all.

You do have a few spots where a good Dom might be able to take you that currently you think you would not enjoy, I say this because you want to please the Dom/Master that you choose.

Oh see my response to kisskinky above.

Hope to chat with you sometime

*honored*

thank you!

I don't know exactly why you say what you do, but thank you. That means a lot to me. I do not mind pain, not at all. I just, have never tried a lot of that list for real. Much of it sounds interesting, but I do not know if I would like it or not. I would try any of it once except for my HARD no. I do not enjoy being traded, having multiple partners, or animals... other than that.. I am pretty much open. I wanting to pleae so badly, that... I had a hard time saying no to too many of them.

and, feel free to PM or IM me anytime.. of course only if your Morgan is okay with it.

-Anya-

[Daes]

Felt like filling it out, didnt see fireplay so added it in since i won't do it >.> Most of the things listed I do with my Doms only - as I don't usually take casual play partners.


Abrasion: yes 3
Age play: no 0
Anal sex: yes 2
Anal plugs (small): no 1
Anal plugs (large): no 0
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 0
Animal roles: no 2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 2
Asphyxiation: no 1
Auctioned for charity: no 2
Bathroom use control: yes 4
Bestiality: no 0
Beating (soft): yes 5
Beating (hard): yes 3
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 4
Being bitten: yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: yes 3
Breath control: yes 5
Branding: no No
Boot worship: no 1
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 3
Bondage (multi-day): no 1
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 0
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 3
Brown showers (scat): no No
Cages (locked inside of): no 3
Caning: no 2
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 2
Chastity belts: no 2
Chauffeuring: yes 2
Choking: yes 0
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 3
Clothespins body: yes 2
Cock worship: yes 3
Collars (worn in private): no 5
Collars (worn in public): no 5
Competitions (with other Subs): no 0
Corsets (wearing): yes 2
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): no 3
Cutting: no No
Dilation: no 0
Double penetration: no 2
Electricity: no 2
Enemas: no 0
Enforced chastity: no 3
Examinations (physical): yes 4
Exercise (forced/required): no 2 (haven't tried but would like to)
Exhibitionism (friends): no 4
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 3
Eye contact restrictions: yes 5
Face slapping: yes 4
Fantasy abandonment: no 0
Fantasy rape: no 2
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 0
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 0
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 0
Fantasy gang-rape: no 3
Fireplay: no No
Fisting (anal): no 0
Fisting (vaginal): no 0
Flogging: yes 5
Following hand signals: yes 4
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: yes 2
Forced dressing: yes 4
Forced homosexuality: no 0
Forced masturbation: yes 3
Forced nudity (private): yes 3
Forced nudity (around others): no 3
Forced servitude: yes 4
Full head hoods: no 1
Gags (cloth): yes 5
Gags (penis shaped): no 1
Gags (rubber): no 3
Gags (tape): yes 3
Gates of Hell: ??
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 4
Given away to another Dom (perm): no* (this really depends on whos involved)
Golden showers: no 0
Greetings rituals: yes 5
Hairbrush spankings: yes 2
Hair pulling: yes 4
Hand jobs (giving): yes 2
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): no No
Harnessing (leather): no 3
Harnessing (rope): yes 3
Having food chosen for you: yes 5
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): no 0
Head (giving fellatio): yes 2
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 4
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): yes 3
Hot oils (on genitals): yes 2
Hot waxing: yes 1
Housework (doing): yes 4
Human puppy dog: yes 2
Humiliation (private): yes 4
Humiliation (public): no 3
Hypnotism: no 2
Ice cubes: yes 2
Infantilism: no No
Initiation rites: no 4
Injections: no No
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 2
Interrogations: yes 5
Kidnapping: no 3
Kneeling: yes 4
Knife play: yes 1
Leather clothing: no 2
restraints chains: no 3
restraints leather: yes 3
restraints rope: yes 4
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 4
Licking (non-sexual): yes 4
Manacles & Irons: no 2
Manicures (giving): no 0
Massage (giving): yes 2
Massage (receiving): yes 3
Medical scenes: no 2

Modeling for erotic photos: no 0
Modeling for erotic videos: no No
Mouth bits: yes 1
Mummification: no 0
Nipple clamps: no 1
Nipple cloths pins: yes 1
Nipple weights: no 1
Oral/anal play (rimming): no 2
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 3
Orgasm denial: yes 3
Orgasm control: yes 3
Outdoor scenes: no 1
Outdoor sex: no 1
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 1
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 0
Piercing (permanent): no No
Prison scenes: no 2
Pony slave: no 2
Public exposure: no 2
Public tasks: yes 4
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 3
Pussy worship: no 0
Riding crops: no 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 2
Rituals: yes 5
Religious scenes: no 2
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 1
Rope body harness: yes 2
Saran wrapping: no 1
Scratching – getting: yes 2
Scratching – giving: yes 1
Sensory deprivation: yes 5
Serving: yes 5
Serving as art: no 2
Serving as ashtray: no 0
Serving as furniture: no 1
Serving as a maid: yes 4
Serving as toilet: no No
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes 4
Serving orally (sexual): yes 3
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 3
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 3
Shaving (body hair): yes 2
Shaving (head hair): no No
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 2
Sleep deprivation: yes 1
Sleep-sacks: no 2
Slutty clothing (private): no 1
Slutty clothing (public): no 0
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: yes 4
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 4
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: no 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 5
Speculums (Anal): no 1
Speculums (vaginal): no 1
Spreader bars: yes 4
Standing in corner: no 4
Stocks (adjustable): no 2
Stocks (fixed): no 2
Straight jackets: no 0
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 0
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 1
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 0
Strapping (full body beating): yes 2
Suspension (upright); no 1
Suspension (inverted): no 0
Suspension (horizontal): no 1
Supplying new partners for Dom: no No
Swallowing semen: yes 3
Swallowing urine: no No
Swapping (with one other couple): no 1 (really depends)
Swinging (multiple couples): no No
Tattooing: yes 1
Teasing: yes 2
Tickling: yes 2
Triple penetration: no 1
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 1
Uniforms: no 0
Including others: yes 0
Vaginal dildo: yes 2
Verbal humiliation: yes 3
Vibrator on genitals: yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 0
Video (watching others): yes 1
Video (recordings of you): no 0
Water torture: no 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 3
Whipping: yes 4
Wooden paddles: no 2
Wrestling: no 2

[kisskinky]

kisskinky

Just my opinion but you are a borderline sub. You have potential if you find a good Dom and experiment with thoses no 3-5. Then no 0-2.

I think you are new to the life and are concerned with pain. Remember that once the body is aroused to a high level it will sense pain as pleasure, most call this sub space.

I would direct you to my thread in the Gallery erotic pictures to see some the things you are uncertain of and to read some of my histories and rants to get a better idea.

Russell

thanks russell, im inclined to agree with you on all points. i am new to this and i am concerned with pain (as in i dont want to be in it lol) but i do understand the link between pain and pleasure and i am willing to explore everything with the right person. some of my ideas are far from the reality and once i balance them out i think my answers will change. and a with good dom to assist me im sure i will be ok.

[Sir_Russell]

Daes

Very interesting responses. I think you have a limited amount of experience and mostly with Tops or new Doms, nothing wrong with that but when you find your One I think you will find a lot of 2 and 3 going to 4 and 5.

Thank you for adding fire to the list, I don't know how I missed it because I do like it.

[Sir_Russell]

Anya

When I can I will answer the why I said what I said, if you look at my posted listed of my preferences I think you will see why.

Like any worthy Dom I neither expect a sub to be my mirror and look forward to pushing limits that she really needs pushed, and the training is most of the fun of it.

[Sir_Russell]

To all who are interested

morgan and I are opening a business in Colorado that is for the BDSM community offering services, seminars, lectures, advice and training.

look at our free site if you have the time and offer us any input you want

speciallovenetwork com of course add the www

[virginSub]

This is very new to me. I have never been a Sub but feel the desire to be one at least in the fantasies that I have. I have no experiance with anything, not really into pain but I feel as though i would love "strong" control. Its 2007 and I even ha to admit it but I do have rape fantasy thoughts. I was guided here by the chat room so let me know if i did this right.

[Rhabbi]

This is very new to me. I have never been a Sub but feel the desire to be one at least in the fantasies that I have. I have no experiance with anything, not really into pain but I feel as though i would love "strong" control. Its 2007 and I even ha to admit it but I do have rape fantasy thoughts. I was guided here by the chat room so let me know if i did this right.

Depends on what you wanted to do.

You made your first post to the boards so I want to say :welcome: As I said in chat, you should fill out the questionaire and use it to learn more about yourself. i know most of this stuff is new to you, but thare are things that happen that I do not know about. I know of no one that knows everything about BDSM, so feel free to ask questions.

[TeddyBearGaySlave]

Abrasion: don't know what that means and translator makes no sense SORRY
Age play: See Abrasion confused:
Anal sex: 5
Anal plugs (small): 4
Anal plugs (large): 4 Not done yet
Anal plug (public, under clothes): 5 Not done yet
Animal roles: 5
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): See Abrasion
Asphyxiation: 0 No, that is too risky for me. I love breathing
Auctioned for charity: 5 Not done, but HOOOT
Bathroom use control: 5 Done, great
Bestiality: 5, loved it
Beating (soft): 4, done, But Harder is better
Beating (hard): 5 done and loving it
Blindfolds: 5, done
Being serviced (sexual): Don't get that, sorry! :confused:
Being bitten: 5, yes
Breast/chest bondage: 5, yes
Breath control: 0, not being done to me. ever! (bad experience as a kid )
Branding: 5 if Brandings can completely heal away. Otherwise 0
Boot worship: 1, done. and baaah, is it boooring
Bondage (light): 3, done. heavy Bondage is better
Bondage (heavy): 5 :>
Bondage (multi-day): Not done yet, but would definietly like to try that one :> 4
Bondage (public, under clothing): 5, sound HOT. not done yet
Bondage and Sex: 5 nothing to say about it. i LOVE it
Breast whipping: 5 (I think I can call my man tits breasts )
Brown showers (scat): 0 NEVER NEVER NEVER EVER!
Cages (locked inside of): 5 turns me one! done is some times too
Caning: 5 hehe done of course
Catheterization: 5 but never done. sounds very hot if it isnt unhealthy
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): 1 sounds boring. never done
Chastity belts: 5 yeaaah, absolutely turn on! my record: 4 weeks
Chauffeuring: Don't get this one either. Sorry
Choking: 0 NO!
Clothespins breast/nipples: 5 YEEEES please
Clothespins labia lips/clit: N/A
Clothespins body: 2 Do not like those very much. Those are a REAL punishment for me
Cock worship: 5 I LOVE cocks
Collars (worn in private): 5 yes. done. loved it
Collars (worn in public):5 NOT done, would probably love it
Competitions (with other Subs): 5 oh that is sooo hot. Done it a few times already and it was a great great time.
Corsets (wearing): 0 No way Sir
Cuffs: 5 Also a turn on for me. Done of course
Cuffs (metal): 5 see above
Cutting: 1 - 2 Dont really think I can like this one. But as long at it isnt risky, why not? not done
Dilation: 3 Sounds hot too. Not done yet.
Double penetration: 5 Not done, but would love too!
Electricity: 4 Done a few times, and liked it very much. Cook my balls please
Enemas: 5 Really big enemas that make me cramp: Want to! Done
Enforced chastity: 5 5 5 5 Loved it very much. Done many times
Examinations (physical): 5 Yes please. Done!
Exercise (forced/required): 5 OHHH YES, that is one of my most most favorite turn ons. Driving me to the edge of what I am physically able to do. Hotness!!!
Exhibitionism (friends): 5 sounds soooooooo hot. being to afraid to do yet though.
Exhibitionism (strangers): 5 Done and it was great.
Eye contact restrictions: 1 Sounds stupid to me. But maybe I would begin to like it. I always look everyone in his eyes, I do not like it any other way.
Face slapping: 3 Done. Also one of the things that really punishes me.
Fantasy abandonment: 1 I dont know, really. Not done
Fantasy rape: 5 Yes big turn on. Not done yet
Fantasy forced deep throat: 5 Done yet, had a hard time but liked it.
Fantasy forced cunt licking: 1 No, PLEASE NOT! Not done yet.
Fantasy forced rape anal: See forced Rape
Fantasy gang-rape: 5 TURN ON!!! Not down yet
Fisting (anal): 1 I am afraid of it, but I might try it with a person who knows what he is doing. Not done.
Fisting (vaginal): NA
Flogging: 4 Hot! Done
Following hand signals: 1 Sounds strange? Not done
Following orders: 3 If I am slave, of course I follow orders.
Foot worship: 2 Do not love feet, but do not hat them either.
Forced dressing: 1 Bores the hell out of me. Done
Forced homosexuality: N / A I am gay.
Forced masturbation: 3 Done that, liked that. But was not THAT great. But infront of other people it is 5!
Forced nudity (private): 5 Yes please! Done a LOT.
Forced nudity (around others): 5 Yes please. Done that a LOT too! BIG BIG BIG Turn on.
Forced servitude: 3 Done.
Full head hoods: 5. Like those very much. Done.
Gags (cloth): 5 Gags are on of my BIGGEST fetish!
Gags (penis shaped): 5 Gags are on of my BIGGEST fetish!
Gags (rubber): 5 Gags are on of my BIGGEST fetish!
Gags (tape): 5 Gags are on of my BIGGEST fetish!
Gates of Hell: 5 Oh the Gates of Hell are a GREAAAT toy! Done!!
Genital sex: Sorry? :confused:
Given away to another Dom (temp): 5 Done it. LOVED it!
Given away to another Domme (temp): 5 Would LOVE if that would be doen to me!!! Not done yet
Given away to another Dom (perm): 0 Noo Not done, dont want to either!
Given away to another Domme (perm): 0 Noo See above
Golden showers: 4 Yes, I like those! Done a lot
Greetings rituals: 2 Yeah would do that. Not exciting though. Not done.
Hairbrush spankings: 3 Sounds hot! Not done, but it is a good idea :>
Hair pulling: 5 Pubic hair, facial hair, body hair pulling: GREAT! Done.
Hand jobs (giving): 5 Love that, especially to unknown people. Done.
Hand jobs (receiving): 5 Done. What a question.
Harems (serving w/other subs): YES, turn on for me! Not really done yet.
Harnessing (leather): Dont now what it is. Transloter doesnt say anything.
Harnessing (rope): See above.
Having food chosen for you: 3 Like that! Done.
Having clothing chosen for you: 3 Could be hot. Not done.
Head (giving cunnilingus): 3 Yeah, would hate it. And therefore love it.
Head (giving fellatio): 5 Yes please. Done a LOT!
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): NA
Head (receiving fellatio male only): 4 Love it of course
High heel worship: 1 Boring as hell to me. Makes no sense for me and I cannot understand that.
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): Dont understand what that is.
Hot oils (on genitals): 5 ! Sounds very hot! No pun intended. Not done
Hot waxing: 0 !!! Forced waking/ Forced shaving are TABOO! :dont:
Housework (doing): 2 Done
Human puppy dog: 4. liked it very much. Done
Humiliation (private): 5 YEEEES PLEASE
Humiliation (public): 5 even more YEES PLEASE ...drools...
Hypnotism: NO IDEA. Could be interesting. Not done
Ice cubes: 4 Those are great. Done
Infantilism: 2 I dont really know. Not done.
Initiation rites: Sorry?
Injections: 3 As long as they arent permantly harmfull. Not done.
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: 5 Yes please. Not done.
Interrogations: 5 Yes, done. And oooh how I loved it!
Kidnapping: 3 I dont really know. Not down?
Kneeling: 2 done
Leather clothing: 5 love love love it.
restraints chains: 5 love bondage things. done
restraints leather: see above
restraints rope: see above
Lectures for misbehavior: 5 Very important for me! Done
Licking (non-sexual): No scat or piss. Other wise yes. Cannot rate that.
Manacles & Irons: 5 done
Manicures (giving): 1 Not done
Massage (giving): 3 Could be hot. Not really done.
Massage (receiving): 5 yeaah give me massage pls! :> done
Medical scenes: 5 big turn on! Done

Modeling for erotic photos: 5 not done
Modeling for erotic videos:5 not done
Mouth bits: Dont know what you mean
Mummification: Dont know what you mean
Nipple clamps: 5 done a lot!
Nipple cloths pins: 5 done a lot! ooooh the pain
Nipple weights: 4 done
Oral/anal play (rimming): 3 not a BIG turn on for me but can be fun! done
Over-the-knee spanking: 5 Spank me! PLease :D Done
Orgasm denial: 5 Oh YES YES YES that really drives me crazy. Done a LOT
Orgasm control: 5 see above
Outdoor scenes: 5 Love nature! And when people are looking: I love embarrasment!!! DONE
Outdoor sex: 5 Love nature! not done yet .(
hone sex (serving Dom): 2 Bores me. Done
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): 2 Bores me. Done
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): 4 Yeah, we could DEFINITELY try that. Not done
Piercing (permanent):4 Yeah, we could DEFINITELY try that. Not done
Prison scenes: 5 oh I would really dig that. Not done :(
Pony slave: 5 Make me collapse unter your burden! Done
Public exposure: 5 Oh the shame, oh the humiliation. What a turn on. Done a lot!
Public tasks: 5 Done and hated it. I mean loved it, erm hated it. You get the point! ;)
Pussy/cock whipping: 5 Done. Need more.
Pussy worship: 2 I hate pussies. Could use it as a punishment!
Riding crops: 5 big torn on. Done
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): 5. Done. Get horny just about thinking it.
Rituals: 2
Religious scenes: 3 Could be intersting. Not done.
Restrictive rules on behavior: 5 I am slave. Done
Rubber/latex clothing: 1 If I really need to. :/ Not done.
Rope body harness: Dont know what that means. Sry!
Saran wrapping: 1 if you need it, why not? Not done.
Scratching – getting: 3 Could be great. Not done.
Scratching – giving: 2 not done.
Sensory deprivation: 5 DONE! It was great.
Serving: 5 I am a slave. Done of course.
Serving as art: 4 could be great. Not done.
Serving as ashtray: 3 Done.
Serving as furniture:5 Done. HOTNESS!
Serving as a maid: 1 I am proud of being a mean. Things like that bore me.
Serving as toilet: 0 No, never ever.
Serving as waitress/waiter: 1 If I have too. Not done.
Serving orally (sexual): 5 of course! Done
Serving other Doms (supervised): 5 of course! Done!!!
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): 5 Not done yet
Sexual deprivation (short term): 5 Absolutely necessary Done a lot
Sexual deprivation (long term): 5 Oh it was hell. Loved it! Done
Shaving (body hair): 0 !!!!! NEVER EVER!
Shaving (head hair): 0 !!!!! NEVER EVER!
Shaving (pubic hair): 0 !!!!! NEVER EVER!
Sleep deprivation: 4 Would LOVE to try that. Not done
Sleep-sacks: 2. sorry?
Slutty clothing (private): 1 Naaah, boring.
Slutty clothing (public): Define slutty please.
Spanking in private: 5 HOT! Done
Spanking in public: 5 HOT! Done
Spanking in bdsm parties: 5 HOT!!! NOT DONE
Spanking pleasure: Dont get that one. Sorry.
Spandex clothing: 2 Dont like it, but dont hate it either.
Speech restrictions (when, what): 3 Lets try it! Not done.
Speculums (Anal): 3 Not tried yet.
Speculums (vaginal): N / A
Spreader bars: 5 I love those thingies. Done
Standing in corner: 3 That really is a punishment for me, especially if other people are around. Done (only naked :) )
Stocks (adjustable): BIG TURN ON 5 Done
Stocks (fixed): BIG TURN ON 5 Done
Straight jackets: 2 Those are not appealing to me. Not done.
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): 1 Bores me, sorry. Not done.
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): 2 Sounds a bit more interesting, but still boring.
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): 1 I have, why would I wear such a thing? Not done.
Strapping (full body beating): 5 yes please Done !
Suspension (upright); 5 big turn on, Done
Suspension (inverted): 3 Do not like that too much, which makes it a great punishment. Done
Suspension (horizontal): 5 yes pf course, Done
Supplying new partners for Dom: ?
Swallowing semen: 5 Hehe, I am a slut. Done a lot
Swallowing urine: 0 Nope, not going to happen. Sorry. Not done
Swapping (with one other couple): 2 not done
Swinging (multiple couples):2 not done
Tattooing: 3 Maybe! Not done.
Teasing: 5 LOVE THAT. Done
Tickling: 5 I nearly die of tickling, great thing to punish me. Done
Triple penetration: N/A
Triple penetration by 3 males: N/A
Uniforms: 2 Do not matter for me. Not done.
Including others: 5 Yes please. Done
Vaginal dildo: N/A
Verbal humiliation: 3 , done
Vibrator on genitals: 4, done
Voyeurism (watching others): 3 done
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): Sorry?
Video (watching others): 3 Hehe, done
Video (recordings of you): 5 Please do that. And than show my friends. HOT! not done
Water torture: 5, would love to but never done.
Wearing symbolic jewelry: 1 Naaah, not done
Whipping: 5 Have been done until I was all bloody, unbelievable pain. HOT! done
Wooden paddles: 5 of course
Wrestling: 5 very interesting idea. Not done :(





my god, thinking of what I have done already really made me hard. thanks :D hope some of you have a nice read. if any questions arise, go ahead!

[Sir_Russell]

Greetings to all I made it to Colorado, but can't seem to get my puter on line yet. Any geeks that can help me problem solve would be greatly appreciated.

virginSub,

Rhabbi is right no one is an expert in this life it is way to big with many different avenues to self awareness.

If you will fill out and post the questionaire for subs I may be able to advise you. It is a great tool for self discovery. If you are shy about your answers email the questionaire to me or pm it from here. So that only I see it. Also you may go to our site for more information and links to other sites. Speciallovenetwork com use the www first of course.

[Sir_Russell]

TeddyBearGaySlave

Lol, a bit of a pain slut aren't you. OH slut means a lose easy woman but in this context it works too.

Arm binder are a leather glove that fits both hands into one sleeve normally tied behind your back. Sleep sacs are like sleeping bags that tie at the throat encovering the whole body, made of leather, vinyl or cloth. The plastic ones can be vaccuumed of air making them skin tight and next to impossible to move in, those are dangerous if used for to long a time.

enjoy your life, you will make one or more Doms very happy

[Soomey]

Very interesting questionnaire Sir Russell! I sent you my responses.

[Sir_Russell]

My response is in a return pm

[Sir_Russell]

If anyone is interested I could post a blank contract form that morgan worked out for the D/s life.

[cream _(DNW)]

ok well I took it and I had fun doing it
Abrasion: no 1
Age play:yes 5
Anal sex:yes 4
Anal plugs (small):no 1
Anal plugs (large):no 1
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no1
Animal roles:no 1
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 1
Asphyxiation: no 1
Auctioned for charity:yes 4
Bathroom use control: no 1
Bestiality: no 1
Beating (soft): yes 5
Beating (hard):yes 2
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 6
Breast/chest bondage: yes 4
Breath control: no 1
Branding: no 1
Boot worship: yes 5
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 4
Bondage (multi-day): no 1
Bondage (public, under clothing):no 1
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 5
Brown showers (scat): no 1
Cages (locked inside of): no 1
Caning: yes 5
Catheterization:no 1
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 1
Chastity belts: yes 4
Chauffeuring: no 1
Choking: yes 3
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 3
Clothespins body: no 1
Cock worship:yes 5
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public):yes 5
Competitions (with other Subs): no 1
Corsets (wearing): yes 4
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: no 1
Dilation: no 1
Double penetration: yes 5
Electricity: no 1
Enemas: no 1
Enforced chastity:no 1
Examinations (physical): yes 3
Exercise (forced/required): no 1
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 5
Exhibitionism (strangers):yes 5
Eye contact restrictions: no 1
Face slapping: yes 4
Fantasy abandonment: no 1
Fantasy rape: yes 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: yes 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 1
Fantasy gang-rape:no 1
Fisting (anal): no 1
Fisting (vaginal): no 1
Flogging: yes 6
Following hand signals: no 1
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship:no 1
Forced dressing: no 1
Forced homosexuality: yes 5
Forced masturbation: yes 4
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): yes 4
Forced servitude: no 1
Full head hoods:no 1
Gags (cloth): yes 4
Gags (penis shaped):no 1
Gags (rubber): no 1
Gags (tape): yes 4
Gates of Hell:no 1
Genital sex: yes 4
Given away to another Dom (temp): yes 4
Given away to another Domme (temp): yes 4
Given away to another Dom (perm): no 1
Given away to another Domme (perm): no 1
Golden showers: no 1
Greetings rituals:no 1
Hairbrush spankings:yes 3
Hair pulling: yes 4
Hand jobs (giving): yes 4
Hand jobs (receiving): n/a
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 1
Harnessing (leather): no 1
Harnessing (rope): no 1
Having food chosen for you: no 1
Having clothing chosen for you: no 1
Head (giving cunnilingus):???
Head (giving fellatio): ???
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): ???
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): yes 4
Hot oils (on genitals): no 1
Hot waxing: no 1
Housework (doing):yes 3
Human puppy dog: no 1
Humiliation (private):yes 2
Humiliation (public): yes 2
Hypnotism: no 1
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism: no 1
Initiation rites:no 1
Injections:no 1
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 1
Interrogations:no 1
Kidnapping: no 1
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: yes 4
restraints chains: yes 4
restraints leather: yes 5
restraints rope: yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior: no 1
Licking (non-sexual): yes 5
Manacles & Irons: no 1
Manicures (giving): no 1
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 1

Modeling for erotic photos: no 1
Modeling for erotic videos: no 1
Mouth bits: no 1
Mummification: no 1
Nipple clamps: yes 5
Nipple cloths pins: yes 5
Nipple weights: no 1
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: no 1
Orgasm control: yes 3
Outdoor scenes: no 1
Outdoor sex: no 1
Phone sex (serving Dom):yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 1
Piercing (permanent): yes 3
Prison scenes: no 1
Pony slave: no 1
Public exposure: yes 2
Public tasks: yes 2
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 4
Pussy worship: yes 5
Riding crops:yes 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 1
Rituals:no 1
Religious scenes: no 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 1
Rubber/latex clothing: no 1
Rope body harness:no 1
Saran wrapping:no 1
Scratching – getting:yes 2
Scratching – giving:yes 2
Sensory deprivation: no 1
Serving: yes 3
Serving as art: no 1
Serving as ashtray: no 1
Serving as furniture:no 1
Serving as a maid: yes 2
Serving as toilet: no 1
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes 2
Serving orally (sexual): yes 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): yes 2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 1
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 1
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 1
Shaving (body hair): yes 4
Shaving (head hair): no 1
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 4
Sleep deprivation: no 1
Sleep-sacks:no 1
Slutty clothing (private): yes 3
Slutty clothing (public): no 1
Spanking in private: yes 3
Spanking in public: yes 4
Spanking in bdsm parties:no 1
Spanking pleasure:yes 3
Spandex clothing: no 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 1
Speculums (Anal): no 1
Speculums (vaginal): yes 2
Spreader bars: yes 2
Standing in corner: no 1
Stocks (adjustable):no 1
Stocks (fixed): no 1
Straight jackets:yes 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 1
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): yes 3
Strapping (full body beating): no 1
Suspension (upright); yes 3
Suspension (inverted): no 1
Suspension (horizontal):no 1
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 1
Swallowing semen: yes 4
Swallowing urine: no 1
Swapping (with one other couple): no 1
Swinging (multiple couples): no 1
Tattooing: yes 4
Teasing:yes 5
Tickling: yes 4
Triple penetration:yes 3
Triple penetration by 3 males: yes 2
Uniforms: yes 3
Including others: yes 2
Vaginal dildo:yes 4
Verbal humiliation: yes 2
Vibrator on genitals: yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): no 1
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 1
Video (watching others): yes 3
Video (recordings of you): no 1
Water torture: no 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 1
Whipping: yes 3
Wooden paddles:yes 2
Wrestling:yes 4

[Logic1]

funny how things change. I did that a few years back and well preferences changes.
I am even less inclined to share my sub/gf with anybody now and some other changes.
I like this lil test but the Dom version seems to be written for a sub on some questions though.

Abrasion: yes 2
Age play: no 1
Anal sex: yes 5 and naturally for mutual pleasure
Anal plugs (small): yes 4
Anal plugs (large): yes 4
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 4
Animal roles: no 1
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 2
Asphyxiation: no 2
Auctioned for charity: no 2
Bathroom use control: no 3
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): Yes 3
Beating (hard): no 1
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 2
Breast/chest bondage: yes 5
Breath control: no 2
Branding: no 1
Boot worship: no 2
Bondage (light): Yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): no 3
Bondage (public, under clothing): yes 5
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 3
Brown showers (scat): no no
Cages (locked inside of): no 2
Caning: no 2
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 3
Chastity belts: no 3
Chauffeuring: no 2 (I do the driving :p)
Choking: no 2
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 4
Clothespins labia/clit: yes 3
Clothespins body: no 2
Cock worship: yes 4
Collars (worn in private): yes 3
Collars (worn in public): no 3
Competitions (with other Subs): no 3
Corsets (wearing): yes 5 on the sub ofc
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 4
Cutting: no no
Dilation: no 2
Double penetration: yes 4 device
Electricity: no 3
Enemas: no 3
Enforced chastity: yes 3
Examinations (physical): no 3
Exercise (forced/required): yes 3
Exhibitionism (friends): no 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): yes 3
Eye contact restrictions: no 2
Face slapping: no 2
Fantasy abandonment: dont know what it is so no idea
Fantasy rape: yes 3
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 4
Fantasy forced cunt licking: yes 4
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 3
Fantasy gang-rape: no 1
Fisting (anal): no 1
Fisting (vaginal): no 1
Following hand signals by sub/slave: yes 4
Following orders by sub/slave: yes 4
Foot worship: yes 2
Forced dressing of sub: yes 3
Forced homosexuality: no 2
Forced masturbation: yes 5
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no 2
Forced servitude of sub: yes 4
Full head hoods: no 3
Gags (cloth): no 2
Gags (penis shaped): no 3
Gags (rubber): yes 5
Gags (tape): yes 2
Gates of Hell: looks bad no 1
Genital sex: yes 5
Given sub away to another Dom (temp): no 1
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 2
Given sub away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no 1
Greetings rituals: yes 4
Hairbrush spankings: yes 3
Hair pulling: Yes 3
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 2
Harnessing (leather): no 3
Harnessing (rope): yes 4
Having food chosen for sub: no. she can eat whatever she likes
Having clothing chosen for sub: yes 4. can be real fun sometimes
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): no no
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): n/a
Head (receiving fellatio male only): yes 5
High heel worship: no 2
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): yes 3
Hot oils (on genitals of sub): no 3
Hot waxing of sub: yes 3
Housework (sub doing): yes 3 this depends on living conditions
Human puppy dog: no 3
Humiliation (private): yes 4
Humiliation (public): yes 3
Hypnotism: no 3
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: no 3 (havent found the right one for it)
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes 4 (I need more practice though, damn it is hard to make it good)
Interrogations: no 2
Kidnapping sub: yes 4
Kneeling sub: yes 4
Leather clothing: yes 3
restraints chains: yes 3
restraints leather: yes 4
restraints rope: yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 4
Licking (non-sexual): yes 3
Manacles & Irons: no 3
Manicures (giving): no 3
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 1
Modeling for Dom’s erotic photos: yes 4
Mouth bits: no 3
Mummification: yes 2
Nipple clamps: yes 5
Nipple cloths pins: yes 3
Nipple weights: yes 3
Oral/anal play by sub (rimming): yes 3
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 5 (for a scene)
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: yes 3
Outdoor sex: yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no no
Piercing (permanent): yes 4
Prison scenes no 2
Pony slave: no 3
Public exposure: yes 3
Public tasks: yes 4
Pussy spanking: yes 5 lightly
Pussy whipping: yes 2 lightly
Pussy worship: no 2 (by the sub to another sub or mistress i guess but not really interrested in sharing)
Riding crops: yes 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 2
Rituals: yes 5 important
Religious scenes: no no
Restrictive rules on sub behavior: yes 3
Rubber/latex clothing: yes 4
Rope body harness: yes 4
Saran wrapping: yes 3
Scratching – getting: yes 4
Scratching – giving: yes 4
Sensory deprivation: yes 4
Serving by sub: yes 5
Serving as sub art: no 3
Serving as sub ashtray: no no no
Serving as sub furniture: no 1
Serving as a sub maid: yes 3
Serving as sub toilet: no no no
Serving as sub waitress/waiter: no 3
Serving orally by sub (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 1
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no no
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 2
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 1
Shaving (body hair): yes 5 shave wax or lazored for arm pits and legs
Shaving (head hair): no 1
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 5
Sleep deprivation: no no (I like my girls well rested :))
Sleep-sacks: yes 2
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): yes 3
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no 3
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 3
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: yes 3 not for me
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 3
Speculums (Anal): no 2
Speculums (vaginal): no 2
Spreader bars: yes 5
Standing sub in corner: yes 3
Stocks (adjustable): no 3
Stocks (fixed): no 3
Straight jackets: no 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):by the sub no 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): sub is penetrated no 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 2
Strapping (full body beating): no 1
Suspension (upright); yes 3
Suspension (inverted): no 3
Suspension (horizontal): no 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: yes 3, must be agreed upon by sub
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: no no
Swapping (with one other couple): no 2
Swinging (multiple couples): no 1
Tattooing of sub for ownership purposes: no 2 agreement only
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: yes 3
Triple penetration of sub: no 3 if agreed to by sub
Triple penetration of sub by 3 males: no 1
Uniforms: yes 4
Including others: no 2
Vaginal dildo: yes 5
Verbal humiliation: yes 2 punishment unless sub/slave desires it
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 3
Video (watching others): yes 4
Video (recordings of sub): yes 4
Water torture: no 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 5
Whipping YES 3 flogging but harsh whipping needs to be discussed
Wooden paddles: yes 3
Wrestling: yes 2

[Sir_Russell]

BrookLynn
I see you are a switch and that sorta explains why your answers seem to be a bit all over.

You have strong tendencies toward being a pain slut, but I also see a desire to submit. I get that from the absence of NO NO or NO 0 answers.

I bet that the ones you share with are well pleased with you.

[Sir_Russell]

Logic1
Went back and reread the Dom instructions and you are right, I forgot to include that these were things you enjoyed doing to your submissive.

Also from what I read here we are a lot alike in our life choices

[cream _(DNW)]

BrookLynn
I see you are a switch and that sorta explains why your answers seem to be a bit all over.

You have strong tendencies toward being a pain slut, but I also see a desire to submit. I get that from the absence of NO NO or NO 0 answers.

I bet that the ones you share with are well pleased with you.

yes the subs I have are very pleased with me as there domme.
My Master seems to be happy with how good I am doing as a sub,seeing how I just opened up to doing it after months of nothing but dommeing.Thank you for posting this it was a big help for me.And my Master was well pleased to see what I would do and how are I was willing to go.
look forward to talking with you some time

[Logic1]

Logic1
Went back and reread the Dom instructions and you are right, I forgot to include that these were things you enjoyed doing to your submissive.

Also from what I read here we are a lot alike in our life choices

yes that is how I interpreted it and answered accordingly.

got the sleepsack wrong though :p couldnt get what could be sexy about a sleepingbag but sex in one is warm and close and cramped and nice and sweaty lol.
should then have been a NO 3 but *shrugs*

[gagged_Louise]

I guess the sleeping bag is to be seen as a form of bondage mummification - having your sub totallly enclosed and with ropes both on his/her body and outside the bag. Ball gag and hood could be added.

I've seen that kind in pics a few times, can't say it's a very hot turn-on to me though. Latex hood on the other hand is something I'd love to try...

[Sir_Russell]

Oh my a sleep sack is a latex or plastic bag that is vacuumed till it is skin tight.

[mysc]

Here is mine...



Abrasion: Yes 3 Mostly it's a side effect
Age play: Yes 3
Anal sex: Yes 5 yes please... and more..
Anal plugs (small): Yes 4
Anal plugs (large): Yes 4
Anal plug (public, under clothes): No 4
Animal roles: No No
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): No 4
Asphyxiation: Yes 4
Auctioned for charity: No No *maybe a 2 as a fantasy play..but not for real*
Bathroom use control: Yes 4
Bestiality: No No
Beating (soft): Yes 5
Beating (hard): Yes 5/6
Blindfolds: Yes 4
Being serviced (sexual): Yes 2
Being bitten: Yes 4
Breast/chest bondage: Yes 4
Breath control: Yes 5
Branding: No 1
Boot worship: No 0
Bondage (light): Yes 5
Bondage (heavy): Yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): No 1
Bondage (public, under clothing): Yes 3
Bondage and Sex: Yes 5
Breast whipping: Yes 4
Brown showers (scat): No No
Cages (locked inside of): No 3
Caning: Yes 4
Catheterization: No No
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): Yes 3
Chastity belts: No 3
Chauffeuring: No and if I get my drivers license it is a 2 prob.
Choking: Yes 3
Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: Yes 4
Clothespins body: Yes 4
Cock worship: Yes 4
Collars (worn in private): Yes 5
Collars (worn in public): Yes 4
Competitions (with other Subs): No 0
Corsets (wearing): Yes 4
Cuffs: Yes 5
Cuffs (metal): Yes 5
Cutting: No 1
Dilation: Yes 3
Double penetration: Yes 4
Electricity: No 2
Enemas: Yes 4
Enforced chastity: Yes 3
Examinations (physical): Yes 4
Exercise (forced/required): No 1
Exhibitionism (friends): No 2
Exhibitionism (strangers): Yes 2
Eye contact restrictions: Yes 3
Face slapping: Yes 4
Fantasy abandonment: No 3
Fantasy rape: No 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: No 4
Fantasy forced cunt licking: No 3
Fantasy forced rape anal: No 4
Fantasy gang-rape: No 3
Fisting (anal): No No
Fisting (vaginal): Yes YES! ehm 5
Flogging: Yes 5
Following hand signals: No 3
Following orders: Yes 4
Foot worship: No 3
Forced dressing: No 4
Forced homosexuality: No... no need to
Forced masturbation: Yes 4
Forced nudity (private): Yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): No 2
Forced servitude: No 2
Full head hoods: No 1
Gags (cloth): Yes 4
Gags (penis shaped): No 4
Gags (rubber): Yes 4
Gags (tape): No 3
Gates of Hell: NA
Genital sex: Yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): No 1
Given away to another Domme (temp): No 1
Given away to another Dom (perm): No No
Given away to another Domme (perm):No No
Golden showers: Yes 2
Greetings rituals: No 4
Hairbrush spankings: Yes 4
Hair pulling: Yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): Yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): Yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): No 1
Harnessing (leather): Yes 4
Harnessing (rope): Yes 5
Having food chosen for you: No 3
Having clothing chosen for you: No 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): Yes 3
Head (giving fellatio): Yes 4
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): Yes 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): NA
High heel worship: No No
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): Yes 3
Hot oils (on genitals): No 3
Hot waxing: No 3
Housework (doing): No 4 (if forced... normally it would be a 1 haha)
Human puppy dog: No 2
Humiliation (private): Yes 4
Humiliation (public): No 2
Hypnotism: No No
Ice cubes: No ...ehm I really hate cold... but then again do I have a choice? ..
Infantilism: No No
Initiation rites: No 3
Injections: No 1
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: Yes 4
Interrogations: No 3
Kidnapping: No 3
Kneeling: Yes 4
Leather clothing: Yes 4
restraints chains: Yes 4
restraints leather: Yes 4
restraints rope: Yes 4
Lectures for misbehavior: Yes 4
Licking (non-sexual): Yes 3
Manacles & Irons: No 3
Manicures (giving): No 2
Massage (giving): Yes 4
Massage (receiving): Yes 4
Medical scenes: No 3

Modeling for erotic photos: Yes 3
Modeling for erotic videos: No 2
Mouth bits: No 3
Mummification: No 3
Nipple clamps: Yes 4
Nipple cloths pins: Yes 4
Nipple weights: Yes 3
Oral/anal play (rimming): Yes 4
Over-the-knee spanking: Yes 4
Orgasm denial: Yes 4
Orgasm control: Yes 4
Outdoor scenes: No 4
Outdoor sex: Yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom): No 2
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): No No
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): No No
Piercing (permanent): Yes 3 (have one...)
Prison scenes: Yes 4
Pony slave: No 2
Public exposure: No 1
Public tasks: No 2
Pussy/cock whipping: Yes 4
Pussy worship: No 2
Riding crops: YES 5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): Yes 4
Rituals: No 3
Religious scenes: No 2
Restrictive rules on behavior: Yes 4
Rubber/latex clothing: Yes 3
Rope body harness: Yes 4
Saran wrapping: No 3
Scratching – getting: Yes 5
Scratching – giving: Yes 2
Sensory deprivation: Yes 4
Serving: Yes 3
Serving as art: ... in doubt lol 3
Serving as ashtray: No No
Serving as furniture: No 2
Serving as a maid: Yes 3
Serving as toilet: No No
Serving as waitress/waiter: No 2
Serving orally (sexual): Yes 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): No 2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): No 1
Sexual deprivation (short term): No 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): No 1
Shaving (body hair): Yes 5
Shaving (head hair): No No
Shaving (pubic hair): Yes 5
Sleep deprivation: No 2
Sleep-sacks: No 3
Slutty clothing (private): Yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): Yes 4
Spanking in private: Yes 5
Spanking in public: No No
Spanking in bdsm parties: No Yes
Spanking pleasure: Yes 5
Spandex clothing: No 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): No 4
Speculums (Anal): No 3
Speculums (vaginal): Yes 4
Spreader bars: No 4
Standing in corner: Yes 4
Stocks (adjustable): Yes 4
Stocks (fixed): Yes 4
Straight jackets: No 3
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): No 3
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): Yes 4
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): No 2
Strapping (full body beating): Yes 4
Suspension (upright); Yes 4
Suspension (inverted): No 2
Suspension (horizontal): No 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: No No
Swallowing semen: Yes 5
Swallowing urine: Yes 2
Swapping (with one other couple): Yes 2 (ages ago)
Swinging (multiple couples): Yes 2 (same.. good ol days)
Tattooing: Yes 4
Teasing: Yes 4
Tickling: No ... NOOooooooooooooooooooo
Triple penetration: Yes 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: YAY.. yes.. 5
Uniforms: Yes 3
Including others: Yes 3
Vaginal dildo: Yes 4
Verbal humiliation: Yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: Yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): Yes 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): Yes 3
Video (watching others): Yes 3
Video (recordings of you): Yes... 2
Water torture: No 4
Wearing symbolic jewelry: Yes 5
Whipping: Yes 5
Wooden paddles: Yes 5
Wrestling: No 1

[Sir_Russell]

Where were you when I was searching.

Mysc, I think you would make 98% of the Dominants out there very happy.

Find a good one and live happy.

[mysc]

Thanks Sir Russel :)
I have one... just need to be patient ... (see "am I driving myself crazy")

[Xanthos]

asterisks apply everywhere, just so you know ;)


Abrasion: yes 4
Age play: no 1
Anal sex: yes 5
Anal plugs (small): yes 4
Anal plugs (large):no 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes):no 2
Animal roles:no 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):no 4
Asphyxiation:yes 3-4
Auctioned for charity:NO
Bathroom use control:yes 2 - she asks, when we're "on". That's what it's about - no further desire to deny her this - but she asks nicely.
Bestiality:NO
Beating (soft):yes 4
Beating (hard):yes 4
Blindfolds:yes 4
Being serviced (sexual):yes 3
Being bitten: yes 3 ( and I DO bite back, whaddayathink!)
Breast/chest bondage:no 1 The extreme bind-em-till-they-turn-a-funny-color version that is. As part of a full-torso bondage, that's...different ;)
Breath control:yes 3-4. See asphyxiation
Branding:NO
Boot worship:no 0
Bondage (light):yes 4-5
Bondage (heavy):yes 3-4
Bondage (multi-day):no 2
Bondage (public, under clothing):yes 3
Breast whipping:yes 3
Brown showers (scat):NO
Cages (locked inside of):no 2-3
Caning:yes 4
Catheterization:no 1
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):no 1
Chastity belts:no 3
Chauffeuring:no 2 (get a licence, you! - Like I'm gonna let anyone else drive...)
Choking:yes 3 (see asphyxiation)
Clothespins: yes 4
Cock worship: yes 3
Collars (worn in private):yes 4
Collars (worn in public):yes 3
Competitions (with other Subs):NO
Corsets (wearing):yes 3
Cuffs:yes 4
Cuffs (metal):yes 4 (just the collar, mind)
Cutting:NO
Dilation:no-aside from side effects of fun things...1
Double penetration:yes 4
Electricity:no 2
Enemas:yes 3
Enforced chastity:no 2
Examinations (physical): well naturally! Oh, you mean playing a doctor? no. 2.
Exercise (forced/required):no 2
Exhibitionism (friends):no 0
Exhibitionism (strangers):NO
Eye contact restrictions:yes 3 (although I wonder if she actually experiences it that way)
Face slapping:yes 3-4
Fantasy abandonment:no 1
Fantasy rape:no 1
Fantasy gang-rape:NO
Fisting (anal):no 0
Fisting (vaginal):yes 4
Following orders:yes 3
Foot worship:no 0
Forced dressing:yes 3
Forced homosexuality:NO
Forced masturbation:yes 3
Forced nudity (private):yes 3
Forced nudity (around others):NO
Forced servitude:yes 2-4. Depends on the moment, strangely enough.
Full head hoods:no 3
Gags (cloth):no 3
Gags (rubber):yes 3
Gags (tape):no 2
Gates of Hell (male) n/a
Genital sex:yes 4 through 6
Given away to another Dom (temp):NO
Given away to another Dom (perm):NO
Golden showers:no 0
Hairbrush spankings:yes 4
Hair pulling:yes 4
Hand jobs (giving):yes 4
Hand jobs (receiving):yes 4
Harems (serving w/other subs):NO
Harnessing (leather):yes 3
Harnessing (rope):yes 4 (plus)
Choosing food for sub:no 2
Choosing clothing for sub:yes 2
Head (giving fellatio):yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio): yes 5
High heel worship:no.0.
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):no 1
Hot oils (on genitals):no 2
Hot waxing:yes 3
Housework (doing):hell no. haha ;) 1
Human puppy dog:no 0
Humiliation (private):yes 3
Humiliation (public):no 0
Hypnotism:no 0
Ice cubes:yes 4
Infantilism:no 0
Initiation rites:no 2
Injections:NO
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:yes 4
Interrogations:no 1
Kidnapping:no 2. well, 3.
Kneeling:yes 3
Leather clothing:yes 3
restraints:yes 4
Lectures for misbehavior:yes 3
Licking (non-sexual):yes 2
Manacles & Irons:no 3-4
Manicures (giving):no 1
Massage (giving):yes 4
Massage (receiving):yes 5
Medical scenes:no 1
Modeling for erotic photos:yes 4
Mouth bits:no 2
Mummification:no 2 (curious tho')
Nipple clamps:yes 5
Nipple weights:no 3
Oral/anal play (rimming):yes 3
Over-the-knee spanking:yes 3
Orgasm denial:no 2
Orgasm control:yes 4
Outdoor scenes:no 2
Outdoor sex:no 3
Phone sex (serving Dom):no 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):NO
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):NO
Piercing (permanent):no 2
Prison scenes no 0
Pony slave:no 0
Public exposure:no 2
Pussy/cock whipping:yes 3-4
Pussy worship:yes. I adore my sub.
Riding crops:yes 3-4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):no 2
Rituals:no 2
Religious scenes:NO
Restrictive rules on behavior:yes 3
Rubber/latex clothing:yes 3
Rope body harness:yes 3
Saran wrapping:no 3 (curious)
Scratching – getting:yes 3-4
Scratching – giving:yes 4-5
Sensory deprivation:yes 3-4
Serving:yes 2-3
Serving as art:no 0
Serving as ashtray:NO
Serving as furniture:no 1
Serving as a maid:yes 2-3
Serving as toilet:NO
Serving as waitress/waiter:yes 2
Serving orally (sexual):yes 4
Serving other Doms (supervised):NO
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):NO
Sexual deprivation (short term):yes 3
Sexual deprivation (long term):NO
Shaving (body hair):yes 4-5
Shaving (head hair):yes 0
Sleep deprivation:no 0
Sleepsacks:no 1
Slutty clothing (private):yes 3
Slutty clothing (public):yes 3
Spanking:yes 4
Spandex clothing:no. not a big BonJovi fan. 1
Speech restrictions (when, what):yes 3
Speculums (Anal):no 0
Speculums (vaginal):no 0
Spreader bars:no 4
Standing in corner:yes 3+
Stocks (adjustable):no 3-ish
Straight jackets:no 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):yes 4
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):yes 4
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):yes 4
Strapping (full body beating):no 3
Suspension (upright);no 3
Suspension (inverted):no 2
Suspension (horizontal):no 2-3
Supplying new partners for Dom:NO
Swallowing semen:yes 4
Swallowing urine:NO
Swapping (with one other couple):no 0
Swinging (multiple couples):NO
Tattooing:yes 3. Not as part of a game, though.
Teasing:yes 5 (grin)
Tickling:yes. yeeeeeesss...
Triple penetration: yes 4 (w/dildo's etc)
Uniforms:no 3
Including others:no 0
Vaginal dildo:yes 5
Verbal humiliation:yes 4
Vibrator on genitals:yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others):no 2
Voyeurism (your sub w/others) NO
Video (watching others):no (not together) 2-3?
Video (recordings of you):no 3
Water torture:no 3 (4?) (intrigued)
Wearing symbolic jewelry:yes 4
Whipping yes 4
Wooden paddles:yes 4
Wrestling:yes 3 (in good fun, not serious)

[wingsofanangel]

I've been away.. but coming back re-reading this and seeing your answer Sir Russell.. I still got happy lil chill bumps on my neck ..

-giggles-

thanks again.

[Sir_Russell]

Xanthos
Your kinks differ quite a bit from mine but that is what makes the life so large.

I think well of you as a Dom since you adore your sub/slave great part of the life that far too many miss

[Xanthos]

Sir Russel,
the compliment is greatly appreciated.
I made a conscious choice not to read Mysc's list before I filed out mine, and although I'm always a bit conservative when scores are concerned it actually looks okay. It's nice to put these lists together!

[zasvig]

this is a good stuff ill be filling one out tonight and giving it to my mistress

[zasvig]

Abrasion:no no
Age play:
Anal sex:yes 5
Anal plugs (small):yes 5
Anal plugs (large):no 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes):no 5
Animal roles: no no
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 3
Asphyxiation:yes 4
Auctioned for charity:no 1
Bathroom use control:no 2
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft):yes 5
Beating (hard):no 3
Blindfolds:yes 4
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: no 4
Breast/chest bondage:no 4
Breath control: no 4
Branding: no no
Boot worship:no 3
Bondage (light):yes 5
Bondage (heavy):no 5
Bondage (multi-day):no 3
Bondage (public, under clothing):no 4
Bondage and Sex:yes 5
Breast whipping:n/a
Brown showers (scat):no no
Cages (locked inside of): no 3
Caning:no no
Catheterization:no 1
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):no 3
Chastity belts:no 5
Chauffeuring: donno
Choking:no 4
Clothespins breast/nipples:no 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit:n/a
Clothespins body: no 3
Cock worship:no 1
Collars (worn in private): no 3
Collars (worn in public):no 2
Competitions (with other Subs): no 2
Corsets (wearing): n/a
Cuffs: yes 3
Cuffs (metal):no 3
Cutting:no no
Dilation:
Double penetration:n/a
Electricity: no 4
Enemas:no 4
Enforced chastity:no 5
Examinations (physical):no 1
Exercise (forced/required):no 1
Exhibitionism (friends):no 2
Exhibitionism (strangers):no 2
Eye contact restrictions:no 3
Face slapping:no 3
Fantasy abandonment:no 3
Fantasy rape:n/a
Fantasy forced deep throat:no 1
Fantasy forced cunt licking:yes 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 2
Fantasy gang-rape:no 1
Fisting (anal): no no
Fisting (vaginal):n/a
Flogging:yes 4
Following hand signals:no 2
Following orders:yes 5
Foot worship:no 3
Forced dressing:no 3
Forced homosexuality:no 1
Forced masturbation: no 3
Forced nudity (private):no 3
Forced nudity (around others):no 3
Forced servitude:no 3
Full head hoods: no 1
Gags (cloth):no 1
Gags (penis shaped):no 3
Gags (rubber): no 4
Gags (tape):no 1
Gates of Hell:yes 3
Genital sex:donno
Given away to another Dom (temp):no 0
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 3
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no 1
Greetings rituals:no 2
Hairbrush spankings:no 2
Hair pulling:yes 3
Hand jobs (giving):no 1
Hand jobs (receiving):no 3
Harems (serving w/other subs):no 1
Harnessing (leather):no 5
Harnessing (rope):no 5
Having food chosen for you:no 3
Having clothing chosen for you:no 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): no 1
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only):n/a
Head (receiving fellatio male only):yes 2
High heel worship: no 3
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):no 4
Hot oils (on genitals):no 4
Hot waxing:no 4
Housework (doing):yes 3
Human puppy dog: no 0
Humiliation (private):no 5
Humiliation (public):no 3
Hypnotism:no 1
Ice cubes:no 3
Infantilism:no 0
Initiation rites:donno
Injections:no 3
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:no 4
Interrogations:no 3
Kidnapping:no 1
Kneeling:no 4
Leather clothing:no 5
restraints chains:yes 5
restraints leather:yes 5
restraints rope:yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior:no 2
Licking (non-sexual):yes 4
Manacles & Irons:no 3
Manicures (giving):no 3
Massage (giving):yes 4
Massage (receiving):yes 4
Medical scenes: no 1

Modeling for erotic photos:no 3
Modeling for erotic videos: no 3
Mouth bits: no 4
Mummification: no 1
Nipple clamps: no 4
Nipple cloths pins: no 4
Nipple weights: no 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking: no 5
Orgasm denial: no 5
Orgasm control: no 5
Outdoor scenes: no 5
Outdoor sex:yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 2
Piercing (permanent): no 1
Prison scenes: no 2
Pony slave: no 0
Public exposure: no 2
Public tasks: no 2
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 5
Pussy worship: no 5
Riding crops: yes 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 3
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 3
Rubber/latex clothing: no 4
Rope body harness: no 4
Saran wrapping: no 3
Scratching – getting: yes 5
Scratching – giving: no 3
Sensory deprivation: no 3
Serving: no 5
Serving as art: no 4
Serving as ashtray: no 3
Serving as furniture:no 4
Serving as a maid: no 3
Serving as toilet:no 0
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 3
Serving orally (sexual): no 3
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 3
Shaving (body hair): no 2
Shaving (head hair): yes 3
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 3
Sleep deprivation: no 3
Sleep-sacks: no 1
Slutty clothing (private): no 3
Slutty clothing (public): no 2
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no 3
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 4
Spanking pleasure: no 4
Spandex clothing: no 3
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 3
Speculums (Anal): no 2
Speculums (vaginal): n/a
Spreader bars: no 5
Standing in corner: no 3
Stocks (adjustable): no 4
Stocks (fixed): no 4
Straight jackets: no 3
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 2
Strapping (full body beating): no 3
Suspension (upright); no 5
Suspension (inverted): no 3
Suspension (horizontal): no 4
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 1
Swallowing semen: no 1
Swallowing urine: no 0
Swapping (with one other couple): no 2
Swinging (multiple couples): no no
Tattooing: yes 5
Teasing: yes 4
Tickling: yes 3
Triple penetration: n/a
Triple penetration by 3 males: n/a
Uniforms: no 3
Including others: no 3
Vaginal dildo: n/a
Verbal humiliation: no 3
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): no 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 3
Video (watching others): no 3
Video (recordings of you): no 3
Water torture: no 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 3
Whipping: yes 5
Wooden paddles: no 4
Wrestling:[/QUOTE] no 3

ok here it is that was fun and informative even for myself thank you for putting this together

[Sir_Russell]

zasvig
Try to get her to take the Dom/me on before you give her yours. that way you have a beggining point without prejudicing her responses.

You will do well as a sub remember that male subs have a tougher time of it then do the female subs.

[Sir_Russell]

Xanthos
remember they are starting points for negotiating limits and hopefully a full contract

[TomOfSweden]

It's not a very romantic/erotic list is it?

[Sir_Russell]

it was never intended to be romantic but it is damn erotic

[jon73]

Might want to consider adding "vacuum bed..."

[ladysinaz]

There is alot of ish and i dunno in filling this out )



Abrasion: no 2
Age play:no no
Anal sex:yes 3
Anal plugs (small):yes 3
Anal plugs (large):no 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 1
Animal roles: no 1
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 2
Asphyxiation: no 2
Auctioned for charity: no 2
Bathroom use control: no 1
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): yes 3
Beating (hard): no 2
Blindfolds: yes 3
Being serviced (sexual): yes 3
Being bitten: yes 4
Breast/chest bondage: no 1
Breath control: no 1
Branding: no no
Boot worship: no no
Bondage (light): yes 4
Bondage (heavy): no 3
Bondage (multi-day): no 1
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 1
Bondage and Sex: yes 4
Breast whipping: no 1
Brown showers (scat): no no
Cages (locked inside of): no 1
Caning: no 2
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 1
Chastity belts: no 1
Chauffeuring: no 1
Choking: yes 3
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 1
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 1
Clothespins body: no 1
Cock worship: not sure if worship would be the correct term but---yes
Collars (worn in private): yes 4
Collars (worn in public):yes 4
Competitions (with other Subs): no 2
Corsets (wearing): no 1
Cuffs: no 2
Cuffs (metal): no 2
Cutting: no 1
Dilation: no ?
Double penetration: no 3
Electricity: no 2
Enemas: no 1
Enforced chastity: no 1
Examinations (physical): no 1
Exercise (forced/required): no 2
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 2
Exhibitionism (strangers): yes 2
Eye contact restrictions: no 2
Face slapping: no no
Fantasy abandonment: no 1
Fantasy rape: no 3
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 1
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 1
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 1
Fantasy gang-rape: no 1
Fisting (anal): no no
Fisting (vaginal): yes 2
Flogging: no 3
Following hand signals: no 2
Following orders: yes 2
Foot worship: no no
Forced dressing: no 3
Forced homosexuality: no 3
Forced masturbation: no 3
Forced nudity (private): no 3
Forced nudity (around others): no 3
Forced servitude: no 3
Full head hoods: no 1
Gags (cloth): no 1
Gags (penis shaped):no 1
Gags (rubber): no 1
Gags (tape): no 1
Gates of Hell: ?? n o
Genital sex: yes 4
Given away to another Dom (temp): ish 2
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 2
Given away to another Dom (perm): no 1
Given away to another Domme (perm): no 1
Golden showers: no no
Greetings rituals: no 2
Hairbrush spankings: no 3
Hair pulling: yes 4
Hand jobs (giving): yes 4
Hand jobs (receiving):
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 3
Harnessing (leather): no 3
Harnessing (rope): no 3
Having food chosen for you: no 2
Having clothing chosen for you: no 2
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 3
Head (giving fellatio): yes 3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 1
Hot oils (on genitals): no 3
Hot waxing: yes 3
Housework (doing): not for play  3
Human puppy dog: no 1
Humiliation (private): no 2
Humiliation (public): no 2
Hypnotism: no no
Ice cubes: yes 2
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: no 1
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 1
Interrogations: no 1
Kidnapping: no 1
Kneeling: yes 4
Leather clothing:yes 3
restraints chains: no 3
restraints leather: yes 3
restraints rope: yes 3
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 4
Licking (non-sexual): no 2
Manacles & Irons: no 3
Manicures (giving): no 3
Massage (giving): yes 3
Massage (receiving): yes 4
Medical scenes: no 1

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 3
Modeling for erotic videos: yes 3
Mouth bits: no 1
Mummification: no no
Nipple clamps: no 1
Nipple cloths pins: no 1
Nipple weights: no 1
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 3
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 4
Orgasm denial: yes 3
Orgasm control: no 3
Outdoor scenes: no 2
Outdoor sex: no 1
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 1
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 1
Piercing (permanent): no 1
Prison scenes: no 1
Pony slave: no 1
Public exposure: no 2
Public tasks: no 2
Pussy/cock whipping: no 3
Pussy worship: no 3
Riding crops: yes 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 3
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 3
Rubber/latex clothing: no 3
Rope body harness: no 3
Saran wrapping:no 3
Scratching – getting: no 3
Scratching – giving: yes 3
Sensory deprivation: no 3
Serving: no 3
Serving as art: no 3
Serving as ashtray: no 1
Serving as furniture: no 3
Serving as a maid: no 3
Serving as toilet: no no
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 3
Serving orally (sexual): yes 3
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 2
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 2
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 2
Shaving (body hair): yes 3
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 4
Sleep deprivation: no 1
Sleep-sacks: no 1
Slutty clothing (private): yes 3
Slutty clothing (public): yes 3
Spanking in private: yes 4
Spanking in public: no 2
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 3
Spanking pleasure: yes 3
Spandex clothing: no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 2
Speculums (Anal): no 1
Speculums (vaginal): no 1
Spreader bars: no 3
Standing in corner: no 3
Stocks (adjustable): no 1
Stocks (fixed): no 1
Straight jackets: no 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 2
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 2
Strapping (full body beating): no 1
Suspension (upright); no 1
Suspension (inverted): no 1
Suspension (horizontal): no 1
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 2
Swallowing semen: no 1
Swallowing urine: no no
Swapping (with one other couple): no 2
Swinging (multiple couples): no 2
Tattooing: have some but not for scenes
Teasing: yes 3
Tickling: yes 3
Triple penetration: no 2
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 1
Uniforms: yes 3
Including others: yes 2
Vaginal dildo: yes 3
Verbal humiliation: no 2
Vibrator on genitals: yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 4
Video (watching others): yes 3
Video (recordings of you): yes 2
Water torture: no 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 1
Whipping: no 3
Wooden paddles: no 3
Wrestling:no 3

[Sir_Russell]

ladysinaz

Fairly unusual in that you have not selected any 5 and only a few 4s. Are you new to the life?

I was impressed with the lack of no no shows that you are open to experiences.

A bood Dominant may open you up and show you the joy of the Life.

[Gr1m'sGirl]

Abrasion: yes 3
Age play: yes 3
Anal sex: yes 2
Anal plugs (small): yes 4
Anal plugs (large): yes 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 2
Animal roles: yes 1
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): yes 2
Asphyxiation: yes 3
Auctioned for charity: no
Bathroom use control: no
Bestiality: yes 5
Beating (soft): yes 5
Beating (hard): yes 1
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 3
Being bitten: yes 2
Breast/chest bondage: yes 4
Breath control: yes 0
Branding: NO
Boot worship: yes 0
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 3
Bondage (multi-day): yes 2
Bondage (public, under clothing): yes 0
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 1-2
Brown showers (scat): no
Cages (locked inside of): yes 0
Caning: yes 5
Catheterization: no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): yes 0
Chastity belts: yes 0
Chauffeuring: yes 0
Choking: yes 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 3
Clothespins body: yes 1
Cock worship: yes 5
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): yes 5
Competitions (with other Subs): yes 0
Corsets (wearing): yes 5
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: yes 4
Dilation: no
Double penetration: yes 5
Electricity: yes 0
Enemas: yes 1
Enforced chastity: yes 0
Examinations (physical): yes 0
Exercise (forced/required): yes 0
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 5
Exhibitionism (strangers): yes 5
Eye contact restrictions: yes 1
Face slapping: yes 3
Fantasy abandonment: yes 0
Fantasy rape: yes 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: yes 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: yes 5
Fantasy gang-rape: yes 5
Fisting (anal): yes 0
Fisting (vaginal): yes 2
Flogging: yes 4
Following hand signals: yes 0
Following orders: yes 4
Foot worship: yes 2
Forced dressing: yes 5
Forced homosexuality: yes 3
Forced masturbation: yes 1
Forced nudity (private): yes 4
Forced nudity (around others): yes 4
Forced servitude: yes 5
Full head hoods: yes 0 (Afraid of having head fully covered.)
Gags (cloth): yes 2
Gags (penis shaped): yes 2
Gags (rubber): yes 2
Gags (tape): yes 4
Gates of Hell: n/a
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): yes 1
Given away to another Domme (temp): yes 1
Given away to another Dom (perm): no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no
Golden showers: no
Greetings rituals: yes 3
Hairbrush spankings: yes 5
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 4
Hand jobs (receiving): Fingering, yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no
Harnessing (leather): yes 5
Harnessing (rope): yes 5
Having food chosen for you: yes 0
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 2
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: yes 0
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): yes 0
Hot oils (on genitals): yes 1
Hot waxing: yes 1
Housework (doing): yes 1
Human puppy dog: yes 0
Humiliation (private): yes 4
Humiliation (public): yes 4
Hypnotism: yes 0
Ice cubes: yes 1
Infantilism: yes 0
Initiation rites: yes 1
Injections: no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes 4
Interrogations: yes 1
Kidnapping: yes 4
Kneeling: yes 2
Leather clothing: yes 4
restraints chains: yes 3
restraints leather: yes 5
restraints rope: yes5
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 1
Licking (non-sexual): yes 1
Manacles & Irons: yes 2
Manicures (giving): yes 1
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: yes 1
Modeling for erotic photos: yes 5
Modeling for erotic videos: yes 5
Mouth bits: yes 1
Mummification: yes 0
Nipple clamps: yes 3
Nipple cloths pins: yes 3
Nipple weights: yes 1
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 1
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 1
Orgasm control: yes 4
Outdoor scenes: yes 2
Outdoor sex: yes 2
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): yes 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): yes 1
Piercing (permanent): yes 4
Prison scenes: yes 3
Pony slave: yes 1
Public exposure: yes 4
Public tasks: yes 3
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 4
Pussy worship: yes 3
Riding crops: 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): 3
Rituals: yes 2
Religious scenes: yes 5
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 4
Rubber/latex clothing: yes 2
Rope body harness: yes 5
Saran wrapping:yes 5
Scratching – getting: yes 3
Scratching – giving: yes 4
Sensory deprivation: yes 1
Serving: yes 3
Serving as art: yes 3
Serving as ashtray: yes 1
Serving as furniture: yes 3
Serving as a maid: yes 4
Serving as toilet: no
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes 1
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): yes 4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): yes 2
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 1
Sexual deprivation (long term): yes 0
Shaving (body hair): yes 2
Shaving (head hair): no
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 2
Sleep deprivation: yes 3
Sleep-sacks: yes 1
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): yes 4
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: yes 2
Spanking in bdsm parties: yes 5
Spanking pleasure:yes 5
Spandex clothing: yes 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 2
Speculums (Anal): yes 0
Speculums (vaginal): yes 0
Spreader bars: yes 5
Standing in corner: yes 1
Stocks (adjustable): yes 2
Stocks (fixed): yes 2
Straight jackets: yes 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 4
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 4
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): yes 3
Strapping (full body beating): yes 2
Suspension (upright); yes 2
Suspension (inverted): yes 3
Suspension (horizontal): yes 4
Supplying new partners for Dom: yes 0
Swallowing semen: yes 2
Swallowing urine: no
Swapping (with one other couple): yes 1
Swinging (multiple couples): yes 3
Tattooing: yes 3
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: NO.
Triple penetration: yes 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: yes 5
Uniforms: yes 4
Including others: yes 5
Vaginal dildo: yes 4
Verbal humiliation: yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 5
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): Not quite understanding this one, my dom with other people and me watching or them watching me?
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of you): yes 3
Water torture: yes 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 5
Whipping: yes 4
Wooden paddles: yes 4
Wrestling:yes 4


Yes means I will try it or have tried it, No means no chance. 1-5 on how much I enjoy it.

I am happily owned by Gr1m. :)

[Sir_Russell]

and you should make him very happy. Very nice responses.

For others please remember the no no is no fucking way.

[ladysinaz]

yes Sir Russel,
i am new to it all, not so much in my head and had some minor experiences with a dominating type a few yrs back. I have very little Real life experience with most things on the list. If i am fully submitted i am willing to at least try most things.. I always say, try everything once, twice usually just to make sure you didn't like it the first time :)

[sub-butterfly]

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: Yes 4
Age play: No 1
Anal sex: No 1
Anal plugs (small):Yes 2
Anal plugs (large): Yes 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): Yes 2
Animal roles: No 1
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): No 4
Asphyxiation: Yes 5
Auctioned for charity: No 3
Bathroom use control: Yes (slightly) 3
Bestiality: No No
Beating (soft): Yes 4
Beating (hard): No 3
Blindfolds: No 4
Being serviced (sexual): No 4
Being bitten: Yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: Yes 5
Breath control: No 4
Branding: No 2
Boot worship: No 1
Bondage (light): Yes 5
Bondage (heavy): Yes 4
Bondage (multi-day): No 4
Bondage (public, under clothing): No 4
Bondage and Sex: Yes 5
Breast whipping: No 4
Brown showers (scat): No No
Cages (locked inside of): No 2
Caning: No 3
Catheterization: No 1
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): No 2
Chastity belts: Yes(brief) 4
Chauffeuring: No 3
Choking: No 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes 5
Clothespins body: Yes 4
Cock worship: Yes 4
Collars (worn in private): No 4
Collars (worn in public): No 4
Competitions (with other Subs): No 2
Corsets (wearing): No 5
Cuffs: Yes 4
Cuffs (metal): No 4
Cutting: No 2
Dilation: No 3
Double penetration: No 2
Electricity: No 3
Enemas: No 2
Enforced chastity: No 3
Examinations (physical): No 3
Exercise (forced/required): No 4
Exhibitionism (friends): No 2
Exhibitionism (strangers): No 1
Eye contact restrictions: Yes 3
Face slapping: No 4
Fantasy abandonment: No 3
Fantasy rape: No 2
Fantasy forced deep throat: No 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: N/A
Fantasy forced rape anal: No No
Fantasy gang-rape: No 1
Fisting (anal): No 1
Fisting (vaginal): No 2
Flogging: No 4
Following hand signals: No 3
Following orders: Yes 4
Foot worship: No 1
Forced dressing: No 3
Forced homosexuality: No 1
Forced masturbation: Yes 4
Forced nudity (private): Yes 4
Forced nudity (around others): No 2
Forced servitude: No 3
Full head hoods: No 2
Gags (cloth): Yes 4
Gags (penis shaped): No 3
Gags (rubber): No 4
Gags (tape): No 4
Gates of Hell: No 2
Genital sex: Yes 4
Given away to another Dom (temp): No 1
Given away to another Domme (temp): No 1
Given away to another Dom (perm): No No
Given away to another Domme (perm): No No
Golden showers: No No
Greetings rituals: No 3
Hairbrush spankings: No 4
Hair pulling: Yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): Yes 4
Hand jobs (receiving): N/A
Harems (serving w/other subs): No 2
Harnessing (leather): No 3
Harnessing (rope): Yes 4
Having food chosen for you: No 2
Having clothing chosen for you: No 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): N/A
Head (giving fellatio): Yes 4
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): Yes 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): N/A
High heel worship: N/A
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): No 3
Hot oils (on genitals): No 2
Hot waxing: Yes 3
Housework (doing): Yes 3
Human puppy dog: No 1
Humiliation (private): Yes 3
Humiliation (public): No 2
Hypnotism: No 2
Ice cubes: Yes 5
Infantilism: No 1
Initiation rites: No ?
Injections: No No
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: Yes 5
Interrogations: No 2
Kidnapping: No 2
Kneeling: Yes 3
Leather clothing: No 3
restraints chains: No 4
restraints leather: No 4
restraints rope: No 4
Lectures for misbehavior: No 2
Licking (non-sexual): No 3
Manacles & Irons: No 2
Manicures (giving): No 2
Massage (giving): Yes 4
Massage (receiving): Yes 4
Medical scenes: No 2

Modeling for erotic photos: No 4
Modeling for erotic videos: No 4
Mouth bits: No 3
Mummification: No 3
Nipple clamps: No 4
Nipple cloths pins: Yes 5
Nipple weights: No 3
Oral/anal play (rimming): No 2
Over-the-knee spanking: No 3
Orgasm denial: Yes 4
Orgasm control: Yes 4
Outdoor scenes: No 3
Outdoor sex: Yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): No 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): No 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): No 3
Piercing (permanent): No 1
Prison scenes: No 3
Pony slave: No 2
Public exposure: No 2
Public tasks: Yes 3
Pussy/cock whipping: No 3
Pussy worship: N/A
Riding crops: No 2
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): No 2
Rituals: No 2
Religious scenes: No 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: Yes 3
Rubber/latex clothing: No 4
Rope body harness: Yes 5
Saran wrapping: No ?
Scratching – getting: Yes 4
Scratching – giving: Yes 3
Sensory deprivation: No 3
Serving: No 4
Serving as art: No 3
Serving as ashtray: No 2
Serving as furniture: No 3
Serving as a maid: No 3
Serving as toilet: No No
Serving as waitress/waiter: No 3
Serving orally (sexual): No 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): No 2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): No 1
Sexual deprivation (short term): No 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): No 1
Shaving (body hair): Yes 3
Shaving (head hair): No No
Shaving (pubic hair): Yes 3
Sleep deprivation: No 1
Sleep-sacks: No 2
Slutty clothing (private): Yes 4
Slutty clothing (public): No 3
Spanking in private: Yes 4
Spanking in public: No 2
Spanking in bdsm parties: No 4
Spanking pleasure: Yes 4
Spandex clothing: No 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): No 3
Speculums (Anal): No 1
Speculums (vaginal): No 1
Spreader bars: Yes 4
Standing in corner: Yes 2
Stocks (adjustable): No 3
Stocks (fixed): No 3
Straight jackets: No 3
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): N/A
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): N/A
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): No 1
Strapping (full body beating): No 2
Suspension (upright); No 4
Suspension (inverted): No 4
Suspension (horizontal): No 4
Supplying new partners for Dom: No 1
Swallowing semen: Yes 4
Swallowing urine: No No
Swapping (with one other couple): No 1
Swinging (multiple couples): No 1
Tattooing: Yes 4
Teasing: Yes 4
Tickling: Yes 3
Triple penetration: No 1
Triple penetration by 3 males: No 1
Uniforms: No 20
Including others: No 3 (prefer female)
Vaginal dildo: Yes 4
Verbal humiliation: No 3
Vibrator on genitals: Yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): No 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): No 2
Video (watching others): Yes 4
Video (recordings of you): No 2
Water torture: No 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: No 4
Whipping: No 4
Wooden paddles: No 2
Wrestling: No 2

[sub-butterfly]

i am quite new to this and so the ones marked ? mean i do not know what they are. very good list. i am happily owned by my r/l Master Coldblue, not registered here.

butterfly
xxxxxxxx

[Sir_Russell]

sub-butterfly

You will do your Master proud. your open to most things and I can see your hard limits and them are certainly consistant.

Learn and grow

[annie]

The one for sub/slaves

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: yes 4
Age play: yes 0
Anal sex: yes 5
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large): yes 4
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 5
Animal roles: yes 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 5
Asphyxiation: yes 2
Auctioned for charity: no 1
Bathroom use control: yes 3
Bestiality: no 2
Beating (soft): yes 5
Beating (hard): yes 4
Blindfolds: yes 3
Being serviced (sexual): yes 1
Being bitten: yes 3
Breast/chest bondage: yes 5
Breath control: yes 4
Branding: no 3
Boot worship: no 0
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): no 4
Bondage (public, under clothing): yes 4
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 3
Brown showers (scat): no 0 (possible change to NO after trying it)
Cages (locked inside of): no 4
Caning: no 4
Catheterization: no 0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 4
Chastity belts: no 5
Chauffeuring: no 0
Choking: yes 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 5
Clothespins body: yes 5
Cock worship: yes 4
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): no 2
Competitions (with other Subs): no 0
Corsets (wearing): yes 3
Cuffs: yes 4
Cuffs (metal): yes 4
Cutting: no 3
Dilation: no 0
Double penetration: yes 5
Electricity: no 3
Enemas: yes 3
Enforced chastity: yes 3
Examinations (physical): yes 0
Exercise (forced/required): yes 1
Exhibitionism (friends): no 0
Exhibitionism (strangers): no NO
Eye contact restrictions: yes 4
Face slapping: yes 4
Fantasy abandonment: no 0
Fantasy rape: no NO
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: yes 0
Fantasy forced rape anal: yes NO
Fantasy gang-rape: no NO
Fisting (anal): no 3
Fisting (vaginal): no 3
Flogging: yes 5
Following hand signals: yes 3
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: yes 0
Forced dressing: yes 4
Forced homosexuality: no 1
Forced masturbation: yes 4
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): yes 1
Forced servitude: no 1
Full head hoods: no 5
Gags (cloth): yes 5
Gags (penis shaped): no 5
Gags (rubber): yes 5
Gags (tape): yes 5
Gates of Hell: n/a
Genital sex: yes 2
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 0
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 0
Given away to another Dom (perm): no 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): no 0
Golden showers: no 0 (possible change to NO after trying it.)
Greetings rituals: yes 4
Hairbrush spankings: yes 4
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 4
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): yes 2 (depends on the subs!)
Harnessing (leather): no 4
Harnessing (rope): yes 4
Having food chosen for you: yes 4
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 4
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 3
Head (giving fellatio): yes 4
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 2
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: no 0
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 0
Hot oils (on genitals): yes 3
Hot waxing: yes 5
Housework (doing): yes 3
Human puppy dog: yes 0
Humiliation (private): yes 4
Humiliation (public): yes 1
Hypnotism: yes 0
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism: no 0
Initiation rites: no 1
Injections: no 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes 4
Interrogations: no 0
Kidnapping: no 0
Kneeling: yes 3
Leather clothing: no 1
restraints chains: no 4
restraints leather: no 4
restraints rope: yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 4
Licking (non-sexual): no 0
Manacles & Irons: no 4
Manicures (giving): no 1
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): yes 2
Medical scenes: no 0
Modeling for erotic photos: no NO
Modeling for erotic videos: no NO
Mouth bits: no 4
Mummification: no 4
Nipple clamps: yes 5
Nipple cloths pins: yes 5
Nipple weights: yes 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 3
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 4
Orgasm control: yes 4
Outdoor scenes: yes 2
Outdoor sex: yes 2
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 2
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 0
Piercing (permanent): no 0
Prison scenes: no 0
Pony slave: no 0
Public exposure: yes 0
Public tasks: yes 2
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 4
Pussy worship: yes 2
Riding crops: yes 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 5
Rituals: yes 4
Religious scenes: no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 4
Rubber/latex clothing: no 2
Rope body harness: yes 4
Saran wrapping: no 3
Scratching – getting: yes 2
Scratching – giving: no 0
Sensory deprivation: yes 3
Serving: yes 4
Serving as art: no 0
Serving as ashtray: no 0
Serving as furniture: no 0
Serving as a maid: no 0
Serving as toilet: no 0 (possible NO after trying)
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 0
Serving orally (sexual): yes 3
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 1
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 2
Sexual deprivation (long term): yes 2
Shaving (body hair): yes 2
Shaving (head hair): no NO
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 3
Sleep deprivation: no 0
Sleep-sacks: no 3
Slutty clothing (private): yes 3
Slutty clothing (public): yes 1
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no 1
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 3
Spanking pleasure: yes 3
Spandex clothing: no 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 4
Speculums (Anal): no 0
Speculums (vaginal): no 0
Spreader bars: yes 4
Standing in corner: yes 1
Stocks (adjustable): no 4
Stocks (fixed): no 4
Straight jackets: no 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 0
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 4
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 2
Strapping (full body beating): no 4
Suspension (upright); no 4
Suspension (inverted): no 4
Suspension (horizontal): no 4
Supplying new partners for Dom: yes 0
Swallowing semen: yes 3
Swallowing urine: no 0 (possible to NO after trying)
Swapping (with one other couple): no NO
Swinging (multiple couples): no NO
Tattooing: no 0
Teasing: yes 4
Tickling: yes NO and HELL NO!
Triple penetration: yes 4
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 4
Uniforms: no 0
Including others: yes 2
Vaginal dildo: yes 4
Verbal humiliation: yes 4
Vibrator on genitals: yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 2
Video (watching others): no 0
Video (recordings of you): yes 0
Water torture: yes 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 1
Whipping: no 4
Wooden paddles: yes 4
Wrestling: yes 4

*NOTE: some of the items I think it depends on the "definition" used and that would still need to be discussed with the dominate. The list if extensive but I still perceived a few gray spots.*

[Sir_Russell]

annie,
You have one lucky Dom, I must say that I am a little jealous. You understood the list and answered about as well as any that has taken it.

[annie]

annie,
You have one lucky Dom, I must say that I am a little jealous. You understood the list and answered about as well as any that has taken it.

*blushes* thank you Sir Russell. Coming from you that is a true compliment.


*debates kidnapping annie and turning Domme*....

*dies laughing knowing how well THAT would work out!*

[Arria]

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no - hard limit
Age play: no - hard limit
Anal sex: yes - 5
Anal plugs (small): no - 2
Anal plugs (large): no - 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no - 2
Animal roles: no - hard limit
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no - 1
Asphyxiation: yes - 5
Auctioned for charity: no - one of my favourite fantasies, but doubt I would want it r/l.
Bathroom use control: no - hard limit
Bestiality: no - hard limit
Beating (soft): yes - 2
Beating (hard): yes - 5
Blindfolds: yes - 3 to 4
Being serviced (sexual): yes - 1 (if it is not done in a submissive way...)
Being bitten: yes - 5
Breast/chest bondage: no - too small I think, lol
Breath control: yes - 5
Branding: no - idea fascinates me, but I am scared.
Boot worship: no - would love to try, though (me doing the worship, lol);
yes - had it done once (got worshipped). Liked it a lot but need not have it again (I could not feel submissive during it...).
Bondage (light): yes - 1 (love to have my hands tied and fixed above me)
Bondage (heavy): no - I doubt I would like it.
Bondage (multi-day): no - hard limit
Bondage (public, under clothing): no - I doubt I would like it, I hate to feel hindered in any way publicly.
Bondage and Sex: no - the one guy who bound me naked had no better use for me than TICKLE me - idiot...
Breast whipping: yes - 3 to 4 (love to have my back whipped most of all!)
Brown showers (scat): no - hard limit
Cages (locked inside of): no - unsure about this one. Dom would not be allowed to leave me alone during it!
Caning: yes - 4
Catheterization: NO HELL - hard limit
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no - locked up alone is a hard limit
Chastity belts: no - no interest at all.
Chauffeuring: no - eye sight too bad to drive (lack of depth perception)
Choking: yes - 5
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes - 1 (prefer clamps, dislike the dull pain of clothes pins)
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes - see above
Clothespins body: yes - see above
Cock worship: I worship my Dom´s cock pretty much, lol
Collars (worn in private): yes - 5
Collars (worn in public): yes - I wear mine always, it is unobtrusive, so 5.
Competitions (with other Subs): no - hard limit
Corsets (wearing): yes - 3
Cuffs: yes - 5 (get that too rarely)
Cuffs (metal): yes - 5 (see immediate above, lol)
Cutting: yes - 5 (wish I did not scar so easily)
Dilation: not sure?
Double penetration: no - favourite fantasy of mine, but I doubt I would like it r/l, and I want no other man in my bed. If hubby could clone himself, I would be willing!
Electricity: yes - nice, but don´t need it all the time
Enemas: no - would die if someone watched me
Enforced chastity: no - dislike that idea; I am good when my Dom is not around, but chastity while he IS around? Hell no.
Examinations (physical): no - does not attract me
Exercise (forced/required): no - does not attract me
Exhibitionism (friends): yes - depends on the situation
Exhibitionism (strangers): no - unless you count that one time I walked stark naked through a 80-bed dormitory in Amsterdam when I was 20 *cough*, but I did that for fun, it was not ordered by anyone, I was single then.
Eye contact restrictions: no - the idea attracts me hugely, though (though I like to look at my Dom very much, drools)
Face slapping: yes - 5
Fantasy abandonment: no - hard limit, being abandoned alone
Fantasy rape: no - 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: no - 4
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no - hard limit
Fantasy forced rape anal: no - 4
Fantasy gang-rape: no - again, favourite fantasy, but think I would not like it r/l.
Fisting (anal): no - hell ouch - haven´t made my mind up about that one.
Fisting (vaginal): yes - loved it during it - hated it the 3 days afterwards. Did it only once.
Flogging: yes - 5
Following hand signals: no - have not made my mind up regarding it, but would be willing to try.
Following orders: yes - (sexual context) - 5
Foot worship: noyesnoidea, I like to lick his feet when I am in the mood, does that count?
Forced dressing: no - hard limit
Forced homosexuality: no - hard limit (forced, that is)
Forced masturbation: no - have been too much of a chicken for that so far.
Forced nudity (private): I prefer to be naked, so it does not count.
Forced nudity (around others): forced, no. volunteering: depends on the situation.
Forced servitude: no - would be willing to try, though
Full head hoods: no - hard limit
Gags (cloth): yes - 3
Gags (penis shaped): no - I think not.
Gags (rubber): no - I think not.
Gags (tape): no - would be willing to try.
Gates of Hell: n/a
Genital sex: yes (rolls my eyes) - 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): yes, but only for a few beatings, and my Dom MUST stay present during it! depends on the situation/person, really.
Given away to another Domme (temp): no - never had a r/l Domme - find the idea very exciting online, though.
Given away to another Dom (perm): no - hard limit
Given away to another Domme (perm): no - hard limit
Golden showers: *BLUSH* rarely, liked it.
Greetings rituals: no - depends on the ritual, I guess.
Hairbrush spankings: no - hard limit (I don´t like to be ridiculed)
Hair pulling: yes - 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes - not really exciting if it is only hands...
Hand jobs (receiving): yes - quite exciting, but want something else after a while.
Harems (serving w/other subs): no - hard limit - *bites other bitches away* lol!
Harnessing (leather): no - 1
Harnessing (rope): no - 2
Having food chosen for you: no - hard limit
Having clothing chosen for you: yes - for parties; we try to find a compromise, though (if I stand before him in high heels and collar, I only get a "why would you want to wear anything more?" anyway, rolls my eyes)
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes - only like it if I like the woman allover
Head (giving fellatio): yes - 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes - liked it a lot
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: see boot-worship, those were high-heeled boots. lol
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no - does not attract me, or rather it always gets sexual with me rather quick. lol
Hot oils (on genitals): no - 0
Hot waxing: yes - 2-3
Housework (doing): boring. except having him watch when I scrub the floor on my knees half-naked, then I could almost like it.
Human puppy dog: no - not attractive to me
Humiliation (private): yes - I am exploring into that direction at present - lol!
Humiliation (public): no - might be interesting with BDSM friends around, not in general public or with vanillas around, though.
Hypnotism: no - scary, but attractive fantasy
Ice cubes: yes - with a lady once - loved that... would not want it often with a man, though, but would be willing to try.
Infantilism: no - hard limit
Initiation rites: no - (I am not sure what kind of rites in a BDSM context?)
Injections: no - I do enjoy donating blood very much, though.
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes - once - that was the guy who tickled me. I found the whole experience somewhat pointless. God damn, if I allow a man to tie me naked, he should realize I want him to touch me! shakes my head...
Interrogations: no - I feel attracted to the idea/situation, but have no idea what I would be interrogated about.
Kidnapping: no - favourite fantasy, but somewhat difficult to realize in a fun way, I guess.
Kneeling: yes - depends on the situation if I like it. I love to kneel when giving a blowjob, though.
Leather clothing: yes - yes - yes - or did I already say yes? LOL
restraints chains: yes - 3
restraints leather: yes - 3
restraints rope: yes - 3
Lectures for misbehavior: Hm. verbal lectures - NO, hard limit. Physical punishment - yes, gladly, often, 5!
Licking (non-sexual): As I said, licking always gets sexual with me.
Manacles & Irons: yes - liked it a lot - but it is uncomfortable! lol
Manicures (giving): no - does not sound exciting
Massage (giving): yes - 3
Massage (receiving): yes - 4 :-)
Medical scenes: no - no turn-on at all.

Modeling for erotic photos: would not excite me.
Modeling for erotic videos: no - hard limit
Mouth bits: no - not interesting, I guess
Mummification: no - hard limit or rather total bore
Nipple clamps: yes - 3, depends on my mood; I prefer clit clamps
Nipple cloths pins: yes - do not like clothes pins
Nipple weights: yes - did not like it very much
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes - it took me 9 years to learn to like it. *BLUSH* *BLUSH* *BLUSH*
Over-the-knee spanking: yes - it would have to be painful for me to like it. If it is only humiliating, I hate it.
Orgasm denial: no - not attractive
Orgasm control: no - I think; does "control" only stand for "not being allowed to"?
Outdoor scenes: no - would love to be in the woods once
Outdoor sex: yes - in a barley field - loved it, but need not have it again
Phone sex (serving Dom): no - doubt I could do it, I have a problem with speaking things, I rather write, and even for that I often refrain to English, which is not my mother tongue.
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no way! the lazy assholes should get their own bitches! lol
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): yes - loved it - would be willing.
Piercing (permanent): yes - had too many of them as a teenager, now I only have the tongue one left (and that is mainly to please hubby *smiles*)
Prison scenes: no - does not attract me.
Pony slave: no - hard limit
Public exposure: no - might be fun in a BDSM setting, but not in general public.
Public tasks: no - hard limit
Pussy whipping: yes - 5
Pussy worship: not sure about the meaning here
Riding crops: yes - not bad, but I SO prefer whips.
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): noyesno - have seen one, but not tried it - the idea is appealing, though.
Rituals: no - depends on the rituals, I guess
Religious scenes: no, I attended a Catholic Girls School, HARD LIMIT!!!
Restrictive rules on behavior: no - depends - I would be willing to try.
Rubber/latex clothing: yes - I hate the feeling/smell/texture of rubber, but it shapes the body so prettily. lol
Rope body harness: no - would give it a try if asked.
Saran wrapping: yes - once, overnight. It only annoyed me to be restrained. Would not want it again.
Scratching – getting: yes - 5
Scratching – giving: yes - sometimes
Sensory deprivation: yes - a bit - I loved it
Serving: no - would give it a try, I guess
Serving as art: no - sounds boring to me
Serving as ashtray: no - hard limit
Serving as furniture: no - sounds boring to me
Serving as a maid: no - I want my own maid, French costume and all! lol
Serving as toilet: no - hard limit
Serving as waitress/waiter: no - sounds boring to me
Serving orally (sexual): yes - 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no - I would not serve anyone but my husband, as I am not a very servile/docile person. One would have to earn that. Hubby did not ask for it yet.
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no - hard limit
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes, I guess? It made the following act very rewarding.
Sexual deprivation (long term): no - hard limit
Shaving (body hair): I dislike body hair on women - I remove mine - it does not stimulate me to do so, though, it is only aesthetic to me.
Shaving (head hair): The idea has a huge fascination, but I would not like the time it would take to grow back.
Shaving (pubic hair): see body hair
Sleep deprivation: no - hard limit
Sleep-sacks: no - hard limit
Slutty clothing (private): yes - can be fun
Slutty clothing (public): yes in a BDSM setting, but not in general public, unless I feel the urge to shock people.
Spanking in private: yes - liked it, as long as it is painful
Spanking in public: yes, in a BDSM setting, but not in general public
Spanking in bdsm parties: Oh, reading through first would be such a good idea... yes - 4
Spanking pleasure: I do not understand that question?
Spandex clothing: no - hard limit - absolutely not my thing, neither on me nor others.
Speech restrictions (when, what): no - hubby says if I die they will have to kill my mouth extra - might be interesting to try, though. Would most certainly be a cruel punishment for me! lol
Speculums (Anal): no - hard limit
Speculums (vaginal): no - hard limit
Spreader bars: yes - can be ok
Standing in corner: no - hard limit
Stocks (adjustable): no - not attractive
Stocks (fixed): yes - very attractive, I have some Medieval fancies. lol
Straight jackets: no - hard limit
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no - not attractive (seems pointless to me)
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no - I don´t know - the idea of getting that from a woman excites and scares me equally - I would have to like the woman a lot, mind.
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no - seems pointless to me
Strapping (full body beating): yes - liked it - with a whip, that is. Want more of it!!!
Suspension (upright); no - 0
Suspension (inverted): no - 0
Suspension (horizontal): no - 0
Supplying new partners for Dom: ??? If he gets tired of me, I would expect him to find his own new partners. no - hard limit, that is.
Swallowing semen: yes - 5
Swallowing urine: no - have been fantasizing about that - might be willing if in the proper mood (*!).
Swapping (with one other couple): no - hard limit
Swinging (multiple couples): no - hard limit (yes, I am a jealous bitch, got a problem with that? lol)
Tattooing: yes - I have mine for un-sexual reasons, though
Teasing: no - hard limit
Tickling: NO - ABSOLUTE AND VERY HARD LIMIT, DO NOT TRY IT IF YOU DO NOT WANT YOUR NOSE BROKEN.
Triple penetration: no omg
Triple penetration by 3 males: no omg
(the latter two are favourite fantasies, but I doubt I would like it r/l)
No man but my husband has touched me sexually during the last 9 years. I need to feel owned. If someone else touched me that way, I would lose the feeling of belonging, and that would do fatal damage to our relationship, I think.
Or if not that, things would not be the same for me afterwards.
If I ever got bored with him, I might consider the idea, but I am not anywhere near that point yet.
(To be really honest: I would make an exception from that rule for Vin Diesel. In return, I would not expect my hubby to be good if his favourite movie star offered herself to him. Both are unlikely to happen, though. *lol*)
Uniforms: no - the only time I fancied that was a very hot lesbian friend of mine in a police uniform - drools.
Including others: to watch - yes; to participate - only another Dom for me, and only for beatings. No touching of my privates wanted by me.
Vaginal dildo: yes - loved/hated it
Verbal humiliation: works only along with sexual/physical one, and I have to be in the mood, but then I can like it a lot;
Vibrator on genitals: no - (HONESTLY, I have close to no experience with toys of that sort)
Voyeurism (watching others): I like to watch other people play, but not have sex
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): Men watch all the time anyway *shrugs* lol.
Or does it mean: Me watching my Dom playing with others? That happens over my rotten corpse. Jealous bitch, as I said.
Video (watching others): All amateur films I saw were horribly bad with ugly people - so no thanks, I´ll pass.
Video (recordings of you): no - hard limits, mainly because you never know where those might end up!
Water torture: no - being pushed underwater is a hard limit.
Wearing symbolic jewelry: I wear my collar and an ankle chain all the time, I am not fond of other jewellery (yes, I know, unusual for a woman)
Whipping: yes - 5
Wooden paddles: no - not attractive to me
Wrestling: I like to be overwhelmed, and get not anywhere enough of that. But given hubby´s size, the fight would not last longer than a minute, anyway. lol

[Stone]

Abrasion: yes 3
Age play: no 0
Anal sex: yes 5 nothing like rough anal sex
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large):yes 5
Anal plug (public, under clothes): hmmm yes 3
Animal roles:no 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):no 0
Asphyxiation:yes 5
Auctioned for charity:no 0
Bathroom use control:no 2
Bestiality:no hard limit
Beating (soft):yes 5
Beating (hard):yes 5
Blindfolds:yes 3
Being serviced (sexual):yes 5
Being bitten:yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: no 3
Breath control:yes 4
Branding:no 4
Boot worship:no 0
Bondage (light): yes 3
Bondage (heavy):yes 3
Bondage (multi-day):no 1
Bondage (public, under clothing):no 2
Breast whipping:yes 4
Brown showers (scat):no hardlimit
Cages (locked inside of):no 0
Caning:yes 5
Catheterization:no 0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):no 1
Chastity belts:no 2
Chauffeuring: yes 1
Choking:yes 5
Clothespins:yes 3
Cock worship: yes 3
Collars (worn in private):yes 3
Collars (worn in public):yes 4
Competitions (with other Subs):no 3
Corsets (wearing):yes 5
Cuffs:yes 3
Cuffs (metal):yes 3
Cutting:no 4
Dilation:no
Double penetration:no depends on if toy and cock counts if that way 4
Electricity:yes 4
Enemas:yes 3
Enforced chastity:yes 3
Examinations (physical):no 0
Exercise (forced/required):no 3
Exhibitionism (friends):no 1
Exhibitionism (strangers):no 1
Eye contact restrictions:yes 2
Face slapping:yes 5
Fantasy abandonment:no 0
Fantasy rape:yes 5
Fantasy gang-rape:no 0
Fisting (anal):no 0
Fisting (vaginal):no 0
Following orders:yes 4
Foot worship:no 0
Forced dressing:no 1
Forced homosexuality:hmmm no but 4 on her of course
Forced masturbation:yes 5
Forced nudity (private):yes 4
Forced nudity (around others):no 2
Forced servitude:yes 4
Full head hoods:no 0
Gags (cloth):no 3
Gags (rubber):no 3
Gags (tape):no 3
Gates of Hell (male) N/A
Genital sex:yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp):no 0
Given away to another Dom (perm):no 0
Golden showers:yes 1
Hairbrush spankings:no 3
Hair pulling:yes 5
Hand jobs (giving):yes 4 on her of course
Hand jobs (receiving):yes 2
Harems (serving w/other subs):no 0
Harnessing (leather):no 2
Harnessing (rope):no 2
Having food chosen for you:no 0
Having clothing chosen for you:no 0
Head (giving fellatio):na
Head (receiving fellatio)for males only yes 5
High heel worship:no 0
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):yes 3
Hot oils (on genitals):yes 3
Hot waxing:yes 4
Housework (doing):no 0
Human puppy dog:no 0
Humiliation (private):yes 5
Humiliation (public):yes 5
Hypnotism:no 0
Ice cubes:yes 4
Infantilism:no 0
Initiation rites:yes 2
Injections:no 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:no 0
Interrogations:yes 3
Kidnapping:no 3
Kneeling:yes 3
Leather clothing:no 3
restraints:yes 3
Lectures for misbehavior:yes 4
Licking (non-sexual):no 2
Manacles & Irons:no 2
Manicures (giving):no 0
Massage (giving):yes 3
Massage (receiving):yes 3
Medical scenes:no 0
Modeling for erotic photos:no 0
Mouth bits:yes 3
Mummification:no 0
Nipple clamps:yes 4
Nipple weights:yes 3
Oral/anal play (rimming):no 1
Over-the-knee spanking:yes 4
Orgasm denial:yes 5
Orgasm control:yes 5
Outdoor scenes:no 3
Outdoor sex:no 3
Phone sex (serving Dom):na
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):no 0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):no 3
Piercing (permanent):no 3
Prison scenes NO 3
Pony slave:no 0
Public exposure:no 0
Pussy/cock whipping:yes 4
Pussy worship:no 2
Riding crops:yes 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):no 0
Rituals:yes 3
Religious scenes:no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior:yes 3
Rubber/latex clothing:no 1
Rope body harness:no 0
Saran wrapping:no 0
Scratching – getting:yes 4
Scratching – giving:yes 5
Sensory deprivation:no 0
Serving:no o
Serving as art:no 0
Serving as ashtray:no 0
Serving as furniture:no 0
Serving as a maid:no 0
Serving as toilet:no 0
Serving as waitress/waiter:no 0
Serving orally (sexual):yes 3
Serving other Doms (supervised):no 0
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):no 0
Sexual deprivation (short term):yes 3
Sexual deprivation (long term):no 0
Shaving (body hair):yes 4
Shaving (head hair):no 0
Sleep deprivation:no 0
Sleepsacks:no 0
Slutty clothing (private):yes 4
Slutty clothing (public):yes 3
Spanking:yes 5
Spandex clyesothing:no 0
Speech restrictions (when, what):yes 3
Speculums (Anal):no 0
Speculums (vaginal)no 0:
Spreader bars:no 2
Standing in corner:no 0
Stocks (adjustable):no 2
Straight jackets:no 0
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):no 0
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):no 0
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):no 0
Strapping (full body beating):yes 3
Suspension (upright);no 0
Suspension (inverted):no 0
Suspension (horizontal):no 0
Supplying new partners for Dom:na
Swallowing semen:her swallowing my load of course 5
Swallowing urine:no 0
Swapping (with one other couple):no 0
Swinging (multiple couples):no 0
Tattooing:no 3
Teasing:yes 5
Tickling:yes 1
Triple penetration:no 0
Uniforms:no 0
Including others:no 3
Vaginal dildo:yes 4
Verbal humiliation:yes 4
Vibrator on genitals:yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others):yes 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others):na
Video (watching others):yes 3
Video (recordings of you):no 3
Water torture:no 0
Wearing symbolic jewelry:yes 3
Whipping YES 5
Wooden paddles:yes 5
Wrestling:no 2

[Sir_Russell]

not sure what to say seems that you took the sub one and I do need to work more on the Dom one. You are making it up as you go which is what we all do.

[Arria]

Aww, I worked very hard to expose myself here, and I get no reply at all?
*pouts, hoping Myst will not notice*
laughs

[Sir_Russell]

arria,
first sorry to have missed your post it is unusual to have 2 in one day, but still my fault.

Second, I must say I was surprised at your responses but then the life is very large. The important thing is that your Master is pleased with you and I believe that he is. I do appreciate the honest answers and explanations it helps my study of the life.
Being a bondage freak it all ways strikes me hard that not everyone is into it. Course I do not let a lovely such as yourself have a lot of time to think about being restrained.

Thanks for you input.

[cadence]

I thought I would give this a try


Abrasion: no 3
Age play: no 0
Anal sex: yes 5
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large): yes 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 5
Animal roles: no 0 *
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 4
Asphyxiation: NO hard limit
Auctioned for charity: no 3 I have self esteem issues I don't know how I would feel about it really until I experienced it
Bathroom use control: yes 2 I am not a big fan of it, although I do try hard *
Bestiality: no 0 * I would make this a hard limit, but I don't really have a problem with it
Beating (soft): no 5
Beating (hard): no 3 I don't know how much pain I can actually take, but I would like to find out
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: yes 5 I have only done this on my own, so I can't really guage as to how it would really feel, however I would still like it.
Breath control: no 0 * I would like to try, but I have a panic attack when I have to hold my breath.
Branding: no 1 I don't know why, but I like the idea of this, I am unsure though how much I would like it
Boot worship: no 0 It does nothing for me at all, I don't understand it
Bondage (light): yes 5 again I have only tried it out on myself
Bondage (heavy): no 3 I want to try, but I would have to start off slow with it
Bondage (multi-day): no 3 same as heavy bondage
Bondage (public, under clothing): yes 5 I like to wear ropes under clothing, and even sometimes accidentally show it
Bondage and Sex: no 5 I would like nothing better than to try this
Breast whipping: yes 5, again on my own, you can't hit yourself as hard though
Brown showers (scat): NO hard limit
Cages (locked inside of): no 5 I would love the opportunity to do this
Caning: no 1, I want to try it, but don't know where my pain threshold is
Catheterization: NO hard limit
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 5 I would like this too, even with some bondage
Chastity belts: no 0 I want to try, but I think that I would have to start off in small doses
Chauffeuring: no 5 I would like doing this
Choking: no 0 I can't say it's a hard limit, I would try it though first to see how it felt
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 5
Clothespins body: yes 5
Cock worship: no 0 * I don't really understand it
Collars (worn in private): yes 4, I have now come to the understanding of what it means to wear a collar, I would loveto wear one now for the right reasons
Collars (worn in public): yes 3, it all depends on the type of collar to be worn.
Competitions (with other Subs): no 0, I would say it is a hard limit, but I could do it just because, I feel like I am in a competition with other submissives all the time anyway
Corsets (wearing): no 0 I am not a fan of corsets, I don't like them
Cuffs: no 5
Cuffs (metal): no 5
Cutting: no 0 * It doesn't hold appeal
Dilation: no 3 I would like to try
Double penetration: yes 5
Electricity: no 0 I am on the fence with this, I would have to at least try it
Enemas: no 0 I am deathly afraid of enemas, but want to try them with a person who will be able to be with me
Enforced chastity: NO hard limit, I don't think I would be a very happy person with that, although I should try it first
Examinations (physical): no 0 *I wouldn't like it
Exercise (forced/required): yes 5 I do better when I am forced into it
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 5, but only a few friends
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 3, it depends on the situation involved
Eye contact restrictions: no 5
Face slapping: yes 5
Fantasy abandonment: no 5
Fantasy rape: no 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 5
Fantasy gang-rape: no 2
Fisting (anal): no 0
Fisting (vaginal):no 3
Flogging: no 3
Following hand signals: no 4
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: no 0
Forced dressing: no 0
Forced homosexuality: no I am bisexual, so it doesn't count
Forced masturbation: no 5
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no 5 it would depend on the situation
Forced servitude: no 3
Full head hoods: no 0
Gags (cloth): yes 3
Gags (penis shaped): no 1
Gags (rubber): no 2
Gags (tape): no 2
Gates of Hell: NA
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 5
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 5
Given away to another Dom (perm): NO hard limit, I don't understand this
Given away to another Domme (perm): NO hard limit, I don't understand this
Golden showers: no 5
Greetings rituals: no 5
Hairbrush spankings: no 5
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): NA
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 0
Harnessing (leather): no 3
Harnessing (rope): yes 3
Having food chosen for you: yes 3
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): yes 4
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): NA
High heel worship: no 0
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 0
Hot oils (on genitals): no 3, have to try it first
Hot waxing: yes 5
Housework (doing): yes 5
Human puppy dog: no 0
Humiliation (private): yes 5!!!!
Humiliation (public): no 1
Hypnotism: no 0
Ice cubes: yes 5 - vaginal 5 anal 0
Infantilism: no 0
Initiation rites: no 2
Injections: no 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no 3
Kidnapping: no 4
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: no 0
restraints chains: no 4
restraints leather: no 2
restraints rope: no 4
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 3
Licking (non-sexual): no 1
Manacles & Irons: no 3
Manicures (giving): no 0
Massage (giving): NO hard limit
Massage (receiving): NO hard limit
Medical scenes: no 0

Modeling for erotic photos: no 2
Modeling for erotic videos: no 2
Mouth bits: no 1
Mummification: no 0
Nipple clamps: yes 5
Nipple cloths pins: yes 5
Nipple weights: yes 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking: no 5
Orgasm denial: yes 2
Orgasm control: yes 2
Outdoor scenes: no 1
Outdoor sex: no 1
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 2*
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 1*
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 2
Piercing (permanent): NO hard limit
Prison scenes: no 0
Pony slave: no 0
Public exposure: no 0
Public tasks: no 0 it depends on the task involved
Pussy/cock whipping: no 0
Pussy worship: no 0
Riding crops: no 1
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 5
Rituals: yes 4
Religious scenes: no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 0
Rope body harness: yes 5
Saran wrapping: no 2
Scratching – getting: no 1
Scratching – giving: no 1
Sensory deprivation: no 5
Serving: no 5
Serving as art: no 0
Serving as ashtray: NO hard limit
Serving as furniture: no 5
Serving as a maid: no 3
Serving as toilet: no 2
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 1
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 3*
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 0
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 0
Shaving (body hair): NA, well I have to shave some things, it's not like I am doing it special
Shaving (head hair): NO hard limit
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 1 I would rather wax
Sleep deprivation: yes 0
Sleep-sacks: no 0
Slutty clothing (private): no 0
Slutty clothing (public): no 0
Spanking in private: no 5
Spanking in public: no 0
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 5
Spanking pleasure: no 5
Spandex clothing: no 0
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 2
Speculums (Anal): no 1
Speculums (vaginal): no
Spreader bars: no 5
Standing in corner: yes 5
Stocks (adjustable): no 5
Stocks (fixed): no 5
Straight jackets: no 3
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): yes 5
Strapping (full body beating): no 3
Suspension (upright); no 3
Suspension (inverted): no 3
Suspension (horizontal): no 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: yes 0
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: yes 5
Swapping (with one other couple): no 3
Swinging (multiple couples): no 2
Tattooing: no 2
Teasing: yes 2
Tickling: NO NO NO hard limit
Triple penetration: no 5*
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 5*
Uniforms: no 0
Including others: no 0*
Vaginal dildo: yes 3
Verbal humiliation: yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 5
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 3
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of you): yes 0
Water torture: no 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 5
Whipping: no 3
Wooden paddles: no 5
Wrestling:no 0

Most things I haven't yet tried, I rated on how much I wanted to try them or the appeal of wanting to do them

[Beatrice]

Abrasion:
Age play:
Anal sex:
Anal plugs (small): no, 3
Anal plugs (large): no, 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no, 0
Animal roles: yes, 2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): yes, 3
Asphyxiation: yes, 0
Auctioned for charity: no, NO
Bathroom use control: yes, 0
Bestiality: no, NO
Beating (soft): yes, 1
Beating (hard): no, NO
Blindfolds: yes, 3
Being serviced (sexual): yes, 4
Being bitten: yes, 1
Breast/chest bondage: no, 4
Breath control: yes, 2
Branding: no, NO
Boot worship: no, 3
Bondage (light): yes, 3
Bondage (heavy): yes, 3
Bondage (multi-day): no, 0
Bondage (public, under clothing): no, NO
Bondage and Sex: yes, 3
Breast whipping: no, 0
Brown showers (scat): no, 0
Cages (locked inside of): yes, 5
Caning: no, 0
Catheterization: no, 0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): yes, 3
Chastity belts: no, 3
Chauffeuring: yes, 2
Choking: no, 0
Clothespins breast/nipples: no, 0
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no, 0
Clothespins body: no, 0
Cock worship: yes, 3
Collars (worn in private): yes, 5
Collars (worn in public): no, NO
Competitions (with other Subs): no, 0
Corsets (wearing): yes, 3
Cuffs: yes, 3
Cuffs (metal): yes, 3
Cutting: yes, 0
Dilation: no, 0
Double penetration: yes, 2
Electricity: no, NO
Enemas: no, 0
Enforced chastity: no, 0
Examinations (physical): no, 3
Exercise (forced/required): no, 5
Exhibitionism (friends): no, NO
Exhibitionism (strangers): no, NO
Eye contact restrictions: no, 3
Face slapping: no, 0
Fantasy abandonment: no, 1
Fantasy rape: yes, 3
Fantasy forced deep throat: no, 2
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no, 2
Fantasy forced rape anal: no, 2
Fantasy gang-rape: no, 2
Fisting (anal): no, 0
Fisting (vaginal): no, 0
Flogging: no, 0
Following hand signals: no, 2
Following orders: yes, 3
Foot worship: no, 2
Forced dressing: yes, 5
Forced homosexuality: no, 3
Forced masturbation: no, 0
Forced nudity (private): no, 3
Forced nudity (around others): no, NO
Forced servitude: no, 5
Full head hoods: no, 2
Gags (cloth): no, 2
Gags (penis shaped):no, 3
Gags (rubber): no, 3
Gags (tape): no, 3
Gates of Hell: no, 2
Genital sex: yes, 3
Given away to another Dom (temp): no, NO
Given away to another Domme (temp): no, NO
Given away to another Dom (perm): no, NO
Given away to another Domme (perm): no, NO
Golden showers: no, 1
Greetings rituals: no, 2
Hairbrush spankings: no, 1
Hair pulling: no, 4
Hand jobs (giving): yes, 3
Hand jobs (receiving): yes, 3
Harems (serving w/other subs): no, 1
Harnessing (leather): no, 4
Harnessing (rope): no, 5
Having food chosen for you: no, 3
Having clothing chosen for you: no, 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes, 3
Head (giving fellatio): yes, 3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes, 3
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship: yes, 3
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no, 2
Hot oils (on genitals): no, 0
Hot waxing: no, 0
Housework (doing): yes, 5
Human puppy dog: no, 3
Humiliation (private): yes, 3
Humiliation (public): no, NO
Hypnotism: no, 0
Ice cubes: no, 2
Infantilism: yes, 4
Initiation rites: no, 2
Injections: no, 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no, 3
Interrogations: no, 3
Kidnapping: no, 3
Kneeling: yes, 4
Leather clothing: no, 2
restraints chains: yes, 2
restraints leather: no, 2
restraints rope: no, 2
Lectures for misbehavior: yes, 5
Licking (non-sexual): yes, 2
Manacles & Irons: no, 3
Manicures (giving): no, 2
Massage (giving): no, 2
Massage (receiving): no, 2
Medical scenes: no, 1

Modeling for erotic photos: no, 2
Modeling for erotic videos: no, 1
Mouth bits: no, 5
Mummification: no, 1
Nipple clamps: no, 1
Nipple cloths pins: no, 0
Nipple weights: no, 0
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes, 1
Over-the-knee spanking: yes, 4
Orgasm denial: no, NO
Orgasm control: no, NO
Outdoor scenes: no, 2
Outdoor sex: no, 2
Phone sex (serving Dom): no, 0
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no, NO
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no, 2
Piercing (permanent): no, NO
Prison scenes: no, 2
Pony slave: no, 5
Public exposure: no, NO
Public tasks: no, NO
Pussy/cock whipping: no, 2
Pussy worship: no, 2
Riding crops: no, 2
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no, 0
Rituals: no, 2
Religious scenes: no, 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: no, 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no, 1
Rope body harness: no, 2
Saran wrapping: no, 1
Scratching – getting: yes, 3
Scratching – giving: yes, 3
Sensory deprivation: no, 2
Serving: yes, 3
Serving as art: no, 2
Serving as ashtray: no, 1
Serving as furniture: no, 5
Serving as a maid: no, 5
Serving as toilet: no, NO
Serving as waitress/waiter: no, 3
Serving orally (sexual): yes, 3
Serving other Doms (supervised): no, NO
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no, NO
Sexual deprivation (short term): no, 0
Sexual deprivation (long term): no, NO
Shaving (body hair): yes, 2
Shaving (head hair): no, 0
Shaving (pubic hair): no, 0
Sleep deprivation: yes, 2
Sleep-sacks: no, 1
Slutty clothing (private): yes, 5
Slutty clothing (public): no, NO
Spanking in private: yes, 4
Spanking in public: no, NO
Spanking in bdsm parties: no, 2
Spanking pleasure: yes, 3
Spandex clothing: no, 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): no, 5 (temporarily, during specified scenes, specifics can vary)
Speculums (Anal): No, 1
Speculums (vaginal): No, 1
Spreader bars: No, 2
Standing in corner: No, 5
Stocks (adjustable): No, 4
Stocks (fixed): No, 4
Straight jackets: No, 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): Yes, 3
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): Yes, 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): Yes, 2
Strapping (full body beating): No, 0
Suspension (upright); No, 2
Suspension (inverted): No, 1
Suspension (horizontal): No, 2
Supplying new partners for Dom: no, NO
Swallowing semen: yes, 2
Swallowing urine: no, NO
Swapping (with one other couple): no, NO
Swinging (multiple couples): no, NO
Tattooing: no, NO
Teasing: yes, 3
Tickling: yes, 2
Triple penetration: no, 2
Triple penetration by 3 males: no, 0
Uniforms: yes, 5
Including others: no, NO
Vaginal dildo: yes, 3
Verbal humiliation: yes, 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes, 2
Voyeurism (watching others): yes, 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): yes, 4
Video (watching others): yes, 3
Video (recordings of you): no, 2
Water torture: no, 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes, 4
Whipping: no, 1
Wooden paddles: no, 2
Wrestling: yes, 3

[Sir_Russell]

Ladies I just discovered your posts and will respond today after work, since I don't have enough time before work to properly analyze and comment.

A quick scan though seem to show that bathroom control is not a favorite. Remind me to tell you about my version of it may cause you to rethink.

[Wedjat]

That reminds me, I should probably re-do mine one of these days - you've given me a lot to think about : )

[Beatrice]

I'm not really looking for anything right now, just sharing.

[Sir_Russell]

cadence,
For a lady that I have been impressed with for quite some time I learned a lot about you. I think you would make a very good sub for any Dom and I think I could make you into a wonderful slave. Keys are things that you haven't done, are afraid of but willing to try and I am sure for a loved Master most of these would become favorites.

I thank you for you honesty and courage taking my list and doing it openly.

[Sir_Russell]

Beatrice,

I know very little about you now so I will make just general statements.

First I think your very new to this but have dreamed of it for some time. Second you have a tendency to be a bondage slut and that is a good thing for a lot of us, I for one am primarily a bondage Dom that grew into Life and my joy with it spread with each new skill acquired. Enjoy your journey and proceed with both caution and joy.

[Sir_Russell]

Wedjat,
Yes it is time for you to retake the list. See how many things now interest and intrigue you that only seems scary before

[Wedjat]

I cut and pasted this because I'd done it a few months ago, so hopefully, I can tweak here and there. It's still gonna take a while. Some of the things I rate low may be because I've never done them, and they don't sound appealing, but, like you said, it's subject to change. One thing, on some issues about gags and things of that sort, I rate low because (a) I broke my nose when I was 5 , and (b) I've also had sinus issues and surgery on them a couple of times. I don't get sinus infections like I once did, but I really don't get as much air through my schnozz as I would like sometimes, either. Having something in my mouth with no ability to take it out really scares the crap out of me because of that. It's probably partly mental, since I don't like getting dunked either, (really freaked out a boyfriend in high school once, when I came up screaming after what he considered a playful dunk - I didn't know I'd react like that either, though.) Also, I don't think sounding like Felix Unger from the Odd Couple would be very sexy.

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners. I started to do this, but I probably wouldn't do much of this with somebody I didn't know pretty well.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no 1
Age play: no 1
Anal sex: yes 5 Sir, your comments about safety on this one were greatly appreciated
Anal plugs (small): yes 3 only tried once
Anal plugs (large): no 2 worries me a bit : )
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 3 sounds interesting
Animal roles: no 1 I'd feel damned silly
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 3
Asphyxiation: no 1 depends on how it's done, I've heard some about it, but not breathing is a serious issue for me - see above comments.
Auctioned for charity: no 1
Bathroom use control: no 2-3 this is one I upgraded a bit, after you described how you go about it
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): no 1
Beating (hard): no no
Blindfolds: yes 2-3 only did this once, but it was interesting, don't think I'd want it all the time - I'm a pretty visual person.
Being serviced (sexual): no 4
Being bitten: yes 5 surprised me that I like this as much as I do, to the point of leaving marks
Breast/chest bondage: yes 3 only once, not sure if I liked it at the time, but certainly was interesting . Don't think having them turn purple & fall off would be in anybody's best interest : ) .
Breath control: no 1
Branding: * no 3 had a fantasy about this -certainly not for casual though
Boot worship: no 1
Bondage (light): * yes 5 knew I could get out of it, if need be.
Bondage (heavy): * no 3
Bondage (multi-day): * no 1 this doesn't sound like much fun at all, actually
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 3 could see where this would be interesting
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 2 - maybe, not hard
Brown showers (scat): no no
Cages (locked inside of):* no 3 I can see where this could be interesting too
Caning: no 2 - not really that much into pain
Catheterization: no no (only once when I had my c-section -hurt like hell!)
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 1 I could see a cell, maybe, but not a closet
Chastity belts: no 2
Chauffeuring: no 2
Choking: no 1
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 3-4 this is one I upgraded
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 3 ditto - less thrilled with this idea than the nipple clamps though
Clothespins body: no 1
Cock worship: no 3-4
Collars (worn in private): no 5
Collars (worn in public): no 2-3 depends on the collar - I upgraded this one a bit too
Competitions (with other Subs): no no
Corsets (wearing): yes 4-5 (only as a pirate, for now, on outside of clothes. Really like this idea though.
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): no 4
Cutting: no no
Dilation: no 1
Double penetration: no 4- 5 (I have fantasies about this one : )
Electricity: yes 3 violet wand, only a couple of times - interesting, not a huge turn on - has possibilities though
Enemas: no 1 (not counting medicinal purposes as a kid)
Enforced chastity: no 3 could see it if it's not TOO long : )
Examinations (physical): no 3-4
Exercise (forced/required): no 2 I know, I know, I want to get to the gym, but I'd rather do it on my own
Exhibitionism (friends): no 2-3
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 1
Eye contact restrictions: no 1
Face slapping: no no - no, I would leave - not into abuse
Fantasy abandonment: no 1
Fantasy rape: no 2
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 3-4 (I have finally figured out how to do that ; )
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no no - I'd leave from this one too
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 2-3
Fantasy gang-rape: no 2
Fisting (anal): no no - I have see pics of what this can do to a person - it ain't pretty
Fisting (vaginal): no 1 (seems counterproductive- I had a c-section for my daughter, and have always been rather happy that it wasn't all stretched out of shape. Things can TEAR down there!)
Flogging: yes 3 liked lightly, heavier not so much
Following hand signals: no 2-3 , not really sure if I'd like this or not
Following orders: yes 3 depends
Foot worship: no 1
Forced dressing: no 2-3 depends
Forced homosexuality: no no - so NOT going to happen. Again, major deal breaker for me.
Forced masturbation: no 3-4
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no 2 depends on situation, I guess.
Forced servitude: no 1 depends, not wild about it
Full head hoods: no 2 - I DO so like to breath
Gags (cloth): no 1
Gags (penis shaped): no 1
Gags (rubber): no 1
Gags (tape): no 1
Gates of Hell: no n/a
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 1 have to think about this one
Given away to another Domme (temp): no no
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no 1
Greetings rituals: no 2 -4 , not sure since I've never done it, but I've upgraded this one a bit
Hairbrush spankings: no 3
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no no not gonna happen
Harnessing (leather): no 4
Harnessing (rope): no 3-4
Having food chosen for you: no 1- having the dom do the ordering, after I'd picked something at a restaurant I can see, but I'm a pretty picky eater.
Having clothing chosen for you: no 2-3
Head (giving cunnilingus): no no again, SO not gonna happen
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: no N/A
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 2-3 not real certain about this one, sounds ok though
Hot oils (on genitals): no 3 - um, how hot are we talking here? Might be interesting, just don't know
Hot waxing: no 1
Housework (doing): yes 1 do enough already : )
Human puppy dog: no no - the feminist in me rebels
Humiliation (private): no no (my ex was very critical of, well, a ot of things. This really doesn't do much for me
Hypnotism: no 3-4 (you explained this one to me, sounds very interesting the way you do it !)
Ice cubes: no 3
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: no 3 depends, I guess
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no 1
Kidnapping: no 3 I can see that this could be kind of fun
Kneeling: yes 3-4
Leather clothing: yes 3 (just my pirate corset, would like more)
restraints chains: yes 4
restraints leather: no 4
restraints rope: yes 4 once
Lectures for misbehavior: no 1 - does anybody LIKE this? I just don't see it
Licking (non-sexual): no 4
Manacles & Irons: no 4
Manicures (giving): no 1 ?
Massage (giving): yes 5 not always sexual, but nice too
Massage (receiving): yes 5 My teenager won't stand near me when I sit in one of the massage chairs at the mall because I "make too much noise" : ) You just can't get too many massages, sexual or not, in my opinion - our version of primate grooming, I think
Medical scenes: no 3
Modeling for erotic photos: no 2
Modeling for erotic videos: no 2 mostly just worried about either of this or the last one getting into wrong hands
Mouth bits: no 1
Mummification: no 1
Nipple clamps: no 3-4 might like them a lot, but never tried them.
Nipple cloths pins: no 3-4 ditto
Nipple weights: no 1-2 still pretty dang perky - especially for my age -don't really want to help gravity any more than necessary
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 4-5 not in a long time
Over-the-knee spanking: no 4-5 (I had this rated lower, but I've read about your "pleasure spankings')
Orgasm denial: no 3-4
Orgasm control: no 4-5 This was rated lower before too, but again, I've read some of your comments about it - makes a lot more sense!
Outdoor scenes: no 3-4
Outdoor sex: yes 4 not since a teenager though. it was fun then!
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 2-3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 1 not sure I could do this
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 1 ow
Piercing (permanent): no 1 again, ow! depends
Prison scenes: no 1
Pony slave: no 1
Public exposure: no 1
Public tasks: no 1 again, depends
Pussy/cock whipping: no 2, not hard though
Pussy worship: no n/a
Riding crops: no 2 not sure on this one either
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 3 -4 depends on how it's done and who's doing it
Rituals: no 2-3
Religious scenes: no no
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 1-3 again, depends
Rubber/latex clothing: no 3 never done it, might be good, might chafe : )
Rope body harness: yes, once 3
Saran wrapping: no 1-3 just can't quite get behind this one
Scratching – getting: yes 3 some, lightly
Scratching – giving: yes, 3 need fake nails though *sigh*
Sensory deprivation: no 2 other than blindfold, not sure
Serving: no ? is this a heading for what follows, or a description on it's own?
Serving as art: no 1 I'd feel really silly
Serving as ashtray: no no- not in this lifetime
Serving as furniture: no 1 - really doubt it
Serving as a maid: no 1 - doesn't being a mom count? : )
Serving as toilet: no no, oh HELL no
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 2 - again, done enough of that as a mom : )
Serving orally (sexual): yes (if I understand this ) 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 4 Have fantasies about more than one fella (not bi-curious at all, sorry).
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 2 not quite sure how this would work,
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 1 -Does the 5 year dry spell I had at the end of my marriage and after count towards good behavior?
Shaving (body hair): yes, 3-4 never done this sexually though
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 4 Not done to me, I trim up a bit
Sleep deprivation: no no I have enough of that as it is : )
Sleep-sacks: no 1 I just can't quite picture this one as being much fun
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): no 3 depends on where, I spose, and whether people I work with would see me, or family
Spanking in private: yes 4
Spanking in public: no 1
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 1 never been to one, so I have no clue
Spanking pleasure: yes 3 - although your description of a pleasure spanking sounds like a definite 5
Spandex clothing: no 2 just my gym shorts. I'm in pretty good shape for my age, but not sure it's a good idea on a 53 y.o. body : )
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 1 having trouble even picturing this one
Speculums (Anal): no 1
Speculums (vaginal): yes 2 not for fun, just the yearly checkup
Spreader bars: no 3-4
Standing in corner: no 1
Stocks (adjustable): no 3-4
Stocks (fixed): no 2-3
Straight jackets: no 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 1
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 0
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 1 I'd feel silly
Strapping (full body beating): - no 1
Suspension (upright); no 2 -4 I'm assuming, off the floor? depends on how it's done
Suspension (inverted): no 2 - not sure my sinuses would make this a very sexy experience for anybody : )
Suspension (horizontal): no 3-4 depends, I guess, again, how and who
Supplying new partners for Dom: no no
Swallowing semen: yes 3 been a while, though
Swallowing urine: no no - again, hell no
Swapping (with one other couple): no 1 thinking about it, really not sure
Swinging (multiple couples): no 1 -see above
Tattooing: no 3 none on me, but it can be kind of sexy
Teasing: no 3 well, depends
Tickling: yes 3, again, not since a teenager
Triple penetration: no 5 fantasy land again, never done it
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 5 same as above
Uniforms: no 2
Including others: no 5 never done it, so it might be better or worse than my fantasies
Vaginal dildo: no 4
Verbal humiliation: no no
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5 - not much though
Voyeurism (watching others): no 1
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 1
Video (watching others): no 2 might be ok
Video (recordings of you): no 1, again , nervous about who sees it
Water torture: no 2
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 4
Whipping: no 3 light flogging ok,
Wooden paddles: yes 3, stings a bit - makes me jumpy
Wrestling: no 3 well, maybe as a teenager : )

[cadence]

cadence,
For a lady that I have been impressed with for quite some time I learned a lot about you. I think you would make a very good sub for any Dom and I think I could make you into a wonderful slave. Keys are things that you haven't done, are afraid of but willing to try and I am sure for a loved Master most of these would become favorites.

I thank you for you honesty and courage taking my list and doing it openly.


Thank you Sir_Russell for the compliment.

I do hope that one day, I will be able to have the opportunity to be submissive to a Dominant, and while the word used to bother me at one point in time, I would even relish the opportunity to be a slave to someone else.
I hope as well to try more things and push my limits even further than I already have done so.

[DowntownAmber]

The one for sub/slaves

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no: I would need to know more of what this entails before answering accurately, it's not something I'm especially familiar with.
Age play: yes: 1
Anal sex: yes: 4: love the idea, and love the limited experience I've had but it is something that becomes very painful for me very quickly, so I am thinking it will take some time...
Anal plugs (small): no: not sure until I try, but I am anticipating a 4
Anal plugs (large): no: 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no: 4
Animal roles: no: 2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no: 4
Asphyxiation: yes: 3: I am probably overlapping this with breath control, perhaps I am not 100% positive of the differences
Auctioned for charity: no: sexy fantasy, but how far would it go? 2
Bathroom use control: no: 2
Bestiality: no: no
Beating (soft): yes: 5
Beating (hard): yes: 4: the cane was a little much at first, but it caused quite the "high" for a time
Blindfolds: yes: 3
Being serviced (sexual): yes: 3
Being bitten: yes: 3
Breast/chest bondage: no: 3
Breath control: yes: 4
Branding: no: 2: VERY erotic idea, but the reality is still frightening
Boot worship: no: 1
Bondage (light): yes: 5
Bondage (heavy): yes: 5
Bondage (multi-day): no: 3
Bondage (public, under clothing): no: 5
Bondage and Sex: yes: 5
Breast whipping: yes: 4
Brown showers (scat): no: no
Cages (locked inside of): no: 2
Caning: yes: 3: this would be a four because I do very much enjoy it when I hit a particular pain "high," but I know to expect that level of response on a regular basis would be unrealistic
Catheterization: no: no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no: 2
Chastity belts: no: 4
Chauffeuring: no: again, not sure how this would play out, but 3
Choking: yes: 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes: 5: Mmmm...
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes: 3: I like this, but it gets very painful very quickly and I lose focus as a result
Clothespins body: yes: 3
Cock worship: yes: 4
Collars (worn in private): yes: 5
Collars (worn in public): yes, but under clothes: 5: LOVE to have J-Go's "mark" on me
Competitions (with other Subs): no: 0
Corsets (wearing): yes: 3
Cuffs: yes: 4
Cuffs (metal): yes: 4
Cutting: no: 3: very erotic idea, but the 3 may change after experiencing
Dilation: no: 0
Double penetration: no: 3
Electricity: no: 2
Enemas: no: 0
Enforced chastity: yes: 4: I love the discipline of this, love the orgasms afterward
Examinations (physical): yes: 2
Exercise (forced/required): no: 2
Exhibitionism (friends): no: 1
Exhibitionism (strangers): no: 0
Eye contact restrictions: yes: 4
Face slapping: yes: 4
Fantasy abandonment: no: 1
Fantasy rape: no: 1
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes: 4
Fantasy forced cunt licking:
Fantasy forced rape anal: no: 0
Fantasy gang-rape: no: no
Fisting (anal): no: no
Fisting (vaginal): no: no
Flogging: yes: 5: big fan, mmm.
Following hand signals: no: 3
Following orders: yes: 5
Foot worship: no: 1
Forced dressing: yes: 4
Forced homosexuality: no: 1
Forced masturbation: yes: 4
Forced nudity (private): yes: 5
Forced nudity (around others): no: 1
Forced servitude: no: 3
Full head hoods: no: 2
Gags (cloth): yes: 4
Gags (penis shaped): no: 4
Gags (rubber): yes: 4
Gags (tape): yes: 3
Gates of Hell: not even sure what this one is.
Genital sex: yes: 4
Given away to another Dom (temp): no: I like the idea, but can't think of anyone yet that I or my Dom would trust? 3 under the right circumstances.
Given away to another Domme (temp): no: 0
Given away to another Dom (perm): no: no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no: no
Golden showers: no: no
Greetings rituals: yes: 5: adore the ritual of greeting
Hairbrush spankings: yes: 4: Hell, spankings of most sorts!
Hair pulling: yes: 5: can there be a 6 for this?
Hand jobs (giving): yes: 4
Hand jobs (receiving): yes: 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): no: 0/1: I really like being the center of my Dom's attention
Harnessing (leather): no: 4
Harnessing (rope): yes: 4
Having food chosen for you: yes: 4: perhaps this is not what this is referring to, but I adore when my Dom selects dinner or even the drinks/wine
Having clothing chosen for you: yes: 4
Head (giving cunnilingus):
Head (giving fellatio): yes: 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes: 5: this was barely a 3 before meeting my Dom
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship:
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no: 2
Hot oils (on genitals): yes: 3
Hot waxing: yes: 4
Housework (doing): no: my Dom and I don't live together, so I'm sure this will change when it applys to us
Human puppy dog: no: 0
Humiliation (private): yes: 4
Humiliation (public): yes: 0
Hypnotism: no: 2
Ice cubes: yes: 3
Infantilism: no: 0
Initiation rites: no: 3
Injections: no: no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes: 4
Interrogations: no: 2
Kidnapping: no: 2
Kneeling: yes: 4
Leather clothing: no: 2
restraints chains: no: 4
restraints leather: yes: 4
restraints rope: yes: 4
Lectures for misbehavior: yes: 4: not that I like to or try to misbehave, but I rate this a 4 because when I need to be talked to, well, I need to be talked to
Licking (non-sexual): can licking BE non sexual? ;o)
Manacles & Irons: no: 4
Manicures (giving): no: 2
Massage (giving): yes: 4
Massage (receiving): yes: 4
Medical scenes: no: 0
Modeling for erotic photos: yes: 4
Modeling for erotic videos: no: 4
Mouth bits: no: 4
Mummification: no: 2
Nipple clamps: yes: 5: mmmm...
Nipple cloths pins: yes: 5
Nipple weights: no: 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes: 3
Over-the-knee spanking: yes: 5
Orgasm denial: yes: 4
Orgasm control: yes: 5
Outdoor scenes: yes: 3
Outdoor sex: yes: 3
Phone sex (serving Dom): no: 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no: 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no: 2
Piercing (permanent): no: 2
Prison scenes: no: 2
Pony slave: no: 0
Public exposure: no: 1
Public tasks: yes: 4
Pussy/cock whipping: yes: 4
Pussy worship:
Riding crops: yes: 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no: not totally sure what this is yet.
Rituals: yes: 5
Religious scenes: no: 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes: 4
Rubber/latex clothing: no: 2
Rope body harness: no: 4
Saran wrapping: no: 2
Scratching – getting: yes: 2
Scratching – giving: yes: 2
Sensory deprivation: no: sounds interesting, but I would have to try before rating
Serving: yes: 4
Serving as art: no: need more specifics
Serving as ashtray: no: 0
Serving as furniture: no: 0
Serving as a maid: no: 2
Serving as toilet: no: no
Serving as waitress/waiter: no: 2
Serving orally (sexual): no to anyone other than my Dom, serving my Dom, however? BIG 5.
Serving other Doms (supervised): no: erotic idea, but there would have to be HUGE trust in place, even supervised.
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no: no
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes: 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no: 2
Shaving (body hair): yes: 3
Shaving (head hair): no: 0
Shaving (pubic hair): yes: 4
Sleep deprivation: no: 0
Sleep-sacks: no: 1
Slutty clothing (private): yes: 4
Slutty clothing (public): yes: 2
Spanking in private: yes: 5
Spanking in public: no: 1
Spanking in bdsm parties: no: 3
Spanking pleasure: yes: 4
Spandex clothing: no: 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes: 4
Speculums (Anal):
Speculums (vaginal):
Spreader bars: yes: 4
Standing in corner: yes: 4: I love the anticipation of standing and waiting and listening as my Dom "gets ready" and not knowing quite what he's up to as I'm facing the wall.
Stocks (adjustable): no: 3
Stocks (fixed): no: 3
Straight jackets: no: 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no: 1
Strapping (full body beating): yes: 4
Suspension (upright); no: 3
Suspension (inverted): no: 3
Suspension (horizontal): no: 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: no: 0
Swallowing semen: yes: 4
Swallowing urine: no: no
Swapping (with one other couple): no: no
Swinging (multiple couples): no: no
Tattooing: no: 0
Teasing: yes: 4
Tickling: yes: 2
Triple penetration: no: 3
Triple penetration by 3 males: no: no
Uniforms: no: 3
Including others: no: 2
Vaginal dildo: yes: 3
Verbal humiliation: yes: 4
Vibrator on genitals: yes: 4
Voyeurism (watching others): no: 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no: 1
Video (watching others): yes: 3
Video (recordings of you): no: 3
Water torture: no: 2
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no: 4
Whipping: yes: 4
Wooden paddles: no: 4
Wrestling: yes: 4

I'm sure my answers will change over the next few months, but this is a great place to start. Thank you, Sir Russell.

[J-Go]

Abrasion: no 1
Age play: no 0
Anal sex: yes 5 huge turn on - only if sub is willing
Anal plugs (small):no 4
Anal plugs (large): no 4
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 5
Animal roles:no 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 3
Asphyxiation:no 3
Auctioned for charity:no 3
Bathroom use control:no 0
Bestiality:NO
Beating (soft):yes 4
Beating (hard):yes 4
Blindfolds:yes 4
Being serviced (sexual):yes 5
Being bitten:yes 3
Breast/chest bondage:no 3
Breath control:yes 4
Branding:NO
Boot worship:no 1
Bondage (light):yes 3
Bondage (heavy):yes 5
Bondage (multi-day):no 3
Bondage (public, under clothing):no 4
Bondage and Sex:yes 6
Breast whipping:yes 4
Brown showers (scat):NO
Cages (locked inside of):no 3
Caning:yes 4
Catheterization:NO
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):no 3
Chastity belts:no 3
Chauffeuring:no 4
Choking:kind of 3
Clothespins breast/nipples:yes 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 5
Cock worship: yes 4
Collars (worn in private):yes 5
Collars (worn in public):yes 5 +
Competitions (with other Subs):no 3
Corsets (wearing):no 1
Cuffs:no 4
Cuffs (metal):no 4
Cutting: no 0
Dilation:no ??
Double penetration:no 5
Electricity:no 3
Enemas:NO
Enforced chastity: no 3
Examinations (physical):no 2
Exercise (forced/required):no 2
Exhibitionism (friends):no 3
Exhibitionism (strangers):no 3
Eye contact restrictions:yes 3
Face slapping:yes 4
Fantasy abandonment:no 2
Fantasy rape:no 4
Fantasy forced deep throat:yes 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking:no 5
Fantasy forced rape anal:no 3
Fantasy gang-rape:as a fantasy 5 in reality NO
Fisting (anal):NO
Fisting (vaginal):NO
Flogging:yes 4
Following hand signals:no 3
Following orders:yes 5
Foot worship:No 1
Forced dressing:yes 4
Forced homosexuality:again she would have to be willing girl on girl oh yea 5
Forced masturbation: yes t
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others):no 3
Forced servitude:no 4
Full head hoods:no 2
Gags (cloth):yes 3
Gags (penis shaped):no 4
Gags (rubber): yes 3
Gags (tape): yes 3
Gates of Hell:???
Genital sex:yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 1
Given away to another Domme (temp):no 3
Given away to another Dom (perm):NO
Given away to another Domme (perm):NO
Golden showers:NO
Greetings rituals:I like this idea hmmmmm
Hairbrush spankings:yes 5
Hair pulling:yes 5
Hand jobs (giving):yes 4
Hand jobs (receiving):yes 4
Harems (serving w/other subs):no but as a fantasy I'd have to give this a 5
Harnessing (leather):no 4
Harnessing (rope):yes 4
Having food chosen for you:yes 3
Having clothing chosen for you:yes 3
Head (giving cunnilingus):yeees 5
Head (giving fellatio):love to get it
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only):
Head (receiving fellatio male only):yes 5
High heel worship:no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):why?
Hot oils (on genitals):
Hot waxing:yes 4
Housework (doing):no it would be nice!
Human puppy dog:NO
Humiliation (private):yes 4
Humiliation (public):yes 4
Hypnotism:no 1
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism:NO
Initiation rites:no 3
Injections:NO
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 4
Interrogations:no 4
Kidnapping:no 4
Kneeling:yes 4
Leather clothing:no 4
restraints chains:no 5
restraints leather:yes 5
restraints rope:yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior:yes 3
Licking (non-sexual):again why?
Manacles & Irons:no 5
Manicures (giving):no 1
Massage (giving):yes 4
Massage (receiving):yes 4
Medical scenes:no 1

Modeling for erotic photos:yes 5
Modeling for erotic videos:no 5
Mouth bits:no 4
Mummification:no 0
Nipple clamps:yes 5
Nipple cloths pins:yes 5
Nipple weights:no 4
Oral/anal play (rimming):yes 5 (giving gotta be clean!)
Over-the-knee spanking:yes 5
Orgasm denial:yes 5
Orgasm control:yes 5
Outdoor scenes: no 4
Outdoor sex:yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom):n/a
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):no 2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):no 1
Piercing (permanent):no 1
Prison scenes:no 3
Pony slave:no 0
Public exposure:no 4
Public tasks:yes 3
Pussy/cock whipping:yes 4
Pussy worship: every day!
Riding crops:yes 5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):no 4
Rituals:no 4
Religious scenes:no 1
Restrictive rules on behavior:yes 3
Rubber/latex clothing:no 4
Rope body harness:no 4
Saran wrapping:no 3
Scratching – getting:yes 4
Scratching – giving:yes 4
Sensory deprivation:no intereting
Serving:no 4
Serving as art:no 5
Serving as ashtray:NO
Serving as furniture:no 1
Serving as a maid:no 4
Serving as toilet:NO
Serving as waitress/waiter:no 4
Serving orally (sexual):yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised):no 4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):NO
Sexual deprivation (short term):yes 3
Sexual deprivation (long term):no 0
Shaving (body hair):no 1
Shaving (head hair):no 0
Shaving (pubic hair):yes 5
Sleep deprivation:NO
Sleep-sacks:no 0
Slutty clothing (private):yes 5
Slutty clothing (public):yes 3 if I am there. If not NO!
Spanking in private:yes 5
Spanking in public:no 4
Spanking in bdsm parties:hmmmm
Spanking pleasure:yes 5
Spandex clothing:no 3
Speech restrictions (when, what):yes 4
Speculums (Anal):
Speculums (vaginal):
Spreader bars:yes 5
Standing in corner:yes 5
Stocks (adjustable):no
Stocks (fixed):no
Straight jackets:no
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):no 4 (see girl on girl)
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):no R
Strapping (full body beating):yes R
Suspension (upright);no 4
Suspension (inverted):no 4
Suspension (horizontal):no 4
Supplying new partners for Dom:would have to be a very special trusting thing with my Pets full OK otherwise NO
Swallowing semen:yes 3
Swallowing urine:NO
Swapping (with one other couple):no 2
Swinging (multiple couples):NO
Tattooing:no 0
Teasing:yes 3
Tickling:yes 2
Triple penetration:no 5
Triple penetration by 3 males:again nice fantasy but no 1
Uniforms:yes love the little school girl
Including others:no 4
Vaginal dildo:yes 4
Verbal humiliation:yes 4
Vibrator on genitals:yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others):no 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others):na
Video (watching others):yes 4
Video (recordings of you):no 5
Water torture:no 0
Wearing symbolic jewelry:no 4
Whipping:yes 5
Wooden paddles:yes 5
Wrestling:No 0

[Sir_Russell]

good J-Go,
I think the two of you will do well together but seeing as both of your answers tell me your new to the life be careful.

Plan out your scenes and plan out what to do if anything goes wrong. That means each time something could go wrong you have at hand and in mind what to do to fix or relieve the problem.

Compare both of your lists and then talk

[BrownGrizzly]

Hi Sir Russell..

just writing to say many thanks for the list .. it certainly has given me lots of things to think about... have only stumbled on this eye opening lifestyle and i have filled out your list in private ..will look at it again in a few months and see if it changes and if i have settled into a realisation of what i want....

but also discovered that i have done several of those things before in vanilla .. just didn;t know that it was classed as bdsm... er they are

Anal sex: yes
Anal plugs (small): yes
Blindfolds: yes
Being serviced (sexual): yes (both giving and reciving)
Being bitten: yes (both giving and reciving)
Bondage (light): yes
Cuffs: Yes (the fluffy pink ones :28: )
Hair pulling: Yes
Head (receiving fellatio): yes
Ice cubes: yes
Over-the-knee spanking: yes
Outdoor sex: yes
Shaving (body hair): yes (pubic hair)
Slutty clothing (private): yes
Spanking: yes 5
Vaginal dildo: yes

it seems that maybe i was on the path all along, but just didn't realise it :) .. but i was wondering .. is there a difference when doing these things in a 'dom / sub way' versus 'in a vanilla way'

thanks

brown grizzly

[Ozme52]

Well BG, it's not so much that some of these things are necessarily classed as bdsm... unless you are commanding your partner do them. That's about the power exchange.

There is certainly nothing special (per se) about vaginal dildos... unless your partner does it specifically upon request.

My girl never owned one but bought one and brought it with her to our last rendezvous, at my request/command. I used it on her and verbalized my thoughts, ideas, and pleasure at bringing her off with it. Alternately fucked her and fucked her with the dildo... now, at home, when I direct her to use it and how... it's as if I'm there with her and her orgasms with it are exceptionally intense. THAT's the D/s... not the dildo itself.

Don't forget... the puritans amongst us, (well, not us,) would classify the doggie position as perverse. LOL

It's a great tool though, the list. Expecially when you get to compare yours to your partner's list. That alone can be very sensual. Especially if you make your submissive relate theirs outloud to you. Or if the dominant forces the submissive to sit and listen to all the things he will do to her from his list.

Yeah... I think I'll have to dig ours out and update them next time we're together. :blurp_ani

[BrownGrizzly]

now, at home, when I direct her to use it and how... it's as if I'm there with her and her orgasms with it are exceptionally intense. THAT's the D/s... not the dildo itself.


:idea: :ty :)

[Sir_Russell]

your welcome BrownGrizzly. I did not make this list I just added to it to make it more complete.
Oz is right though it isn't any tool or specific act that makes you part of the Life but the attitude and power exchange that happens.

I can ask mine sweetly and she knows it is a command and that makes her wet. I can look at her and watch her know she is in trouble or watch her melt for me. All without saying anything.

[jan]

This seemed like a good way to re-introduce myself! Here goes.
NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).


Abrasion:no 5
Age play:yes 5
Anal sex:no 2
Anal plugs (small):no 2
Anal plugs (large):no 1
Anal plug (public, under clothes):no 2
Animal roles:no 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):no 1
Asphyxiation:no no
Auctioned for charity:no 3
Bathroom use control:no 1
Bestiality:no 2
Beating (soft):no 4
Beating (hard):no 3
Blindfolds:yes 3
Being serviced (sexual):yes 2
Being bitten:yes 4
Breast/chest bondage:yes 4
Breath control:no 1
Branding:no 5
Boot worship:no 1
Bondage (light):no 4
Bondage (heavy):no 5
Bondage (multi-day):no 4
Bondage (public, under clothing):no 4
Bondage and Sex:no 5
Breast whipping:no 5
Brown showers (scat):no no
Cages (locked inside of):no 1
Caning:no 5
Catheterization:no 3
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):no 2
Chastity belts:no 3
Chauffeuring:no 1
Choking:no 1
Clothespins breast/nipples:yes 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit:yes 3
Clothespins body:yes 3
Cock worship:yes 3
Collars (worn in private):no 3
Collars (worn in public):no 3
Competitions (with other Subs):no 4
Corsets (wearing):no 3
Cuffs:no 3
Cuffs (metal):no 3
Cutting:no 5
Dilation:no 5
Double penetration:no 4
Electricity:no 5
Enemas:yes 3
Enforced chastity:no 3
Examinations (physical):no 5
Exercise (forced/required):no 5
Exhibitionism (friends):no 4
Exhibitionism (strangers):no 5
Eye contact restrictions:no 3
Face slapping:no 3
Fantasy abandonment:no 1
Fantasy rape:no 5
Fantasy forced deep throat:no 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking:no 4
Fantasy forced rape anal:no 5
Fantasy gang-rape:no 5
Fisting (anal):no 1
Fisting (vaginal):no 2
Flogging:no 5
Following hand signals:no 1
Following orders:no 1
Foot worship:no 2
Forced dressing:no 3
Forced homosexuality:no 3
Forced masturbation:no 4
Forced nudity (private):no 5
Forced nudity (around others):no 5
Forced servitude:no 3
Full head hoods:no 2
Gags (cloth):no 1
Gags (penis shaped):no 2
Gags (rubber):no 1
Gags (tape):no 1
Gates of Hell:n/a
Genital sex:yes 3
Given away to another Dom (temp):no 2
Given away to another Domme (temp):no 2
Given away to another Dom (perm):no 1
Given away to another Domme (perm):no 1
Golden showers:no no
Greetings rituals:no 1
Hairbrush spankings:no 1
Hair pulling:no 1
Hand jobs (giving):yes 2
Hand jobs (receiving):n/a
Harems (serving w/other subs):no 3
Harnessing (leather):no 1
Harnessing (rope):no 1
Having food chosen for you:yes 1
Having clothing chosen for you:no 3
Head (giving cunnilingus):no 3
Head (giving fellatio):yes 3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only):yes 2
Head (receiving fellatio male only):n/a
High heel worship:no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):no 2
Hot oils (on genitals):no 4
Hot waxing:no 5
Housework (doing):no 2
Human puppy dog:no 1
Humiliation (private):no 1
Humiliation (public):no 1
Hypnotism:no 1
Ice cubes:no 3
Infantilism:no 1
Initiation rites:no 4
Injections:no 5
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:no 4
Interrogations:no 5
Kidnapping:no 4
Kneeling:no 4
Leather clothing:no 4
restraints chains:no 4
restraints leather:no 4
restraints rope:no 4
Lectures for misbehavior:no 3
Licking (non-sexual):no 3
Manacles & Irons:no 5
Manicures (giving):no 1
Massage (giving):yes 3
Massage (receiving):yes 2
Medical scenes:no 5

Modeling for erotic photos:no 5
Modeling for erotic videos:no 5
Mouth bits:no 3
Mummification:no 2
Nipple clamps:yes 4
Nipple cloths pins:yes 4
Nipple weights:yes 4
Oral/anal play (rimming):no 2
Over-the-knee spanking:no 2
Orgasm denial:no 1
Orgasm control:no 2
Outdoor scenes:no 4
Outdoor sex:no 4
Phone sex (serving Dom):no 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):no 4
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):yes 5
Piercing (permanent):no 5
Prison scenes:no 5
Pony slave:no 2
Public exposure:no 3
Public tasks:no 3
Pussy/cock whipping:no 5
Pussy worship:no 2
Riding crops:no 5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):no 5
Rituals:no 5
Religious scenes:no 5
Restrictive rules on behavior:no 2
Rubber/latex clothing:no 1
Rope body harness:no 2
Saran wrapping:no 1
Scratching – getting:no 4
Scratching – giving:no 1
Sensory deprivation:no 1
Serving:no 1
Serving as art:no 3
Serving as ashtray:no 5
Serving as furniture:no 3
Serving as a maid:no 4
Serving as toilet:no no
Serving as waitress/waiter:no 1
Serving orally (sexual):yes 4
Serving other Doms (supervised):no 4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):no 4
Sexual deprivation (short term):no 2
Sexual deprivation (long term):no 1
Shaving (body hair):no 5
Shaving (head hair):no no
Shaving (pubic hair):no 5
Sleep deprivation:no no
Sleep-sacks:no 1
Slutty clothing (private):no 5
Slutty clothing (public):no 5
Spanking in private:no 2
Spanking in public:no 1
Spanking in bdsm parties:no 3
Spanking pleasure:no 2
Spandex clothing:no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what):no 1
Speculums (Anal):no 2
Speculums (vaginal):no 5
Spreader bars:no 5
Standing in corner:no 1
Stocks (adjustable):no 4
Stocks (fixed):no 4
Straight jackets:no 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):no 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):no 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):no 1
Strapping (full body beating):no 4
Suspension (upright);no 4
Suspension (inverted):no 5
Suspension (horizontal):no 4
Supplying new partners for Dom:no 2
Swallowing semen:yes 5
Swallowing urine:no no
Swapping (with one other couple):no 2
Swinging (multiple couples):no 2
Tattooing:no 4
Teasing:no 2
Tickling:no 2
Triple penetration:no 2
Triple penetration by 3 males:no 3
Uniforms:no 2
Including others:no 1
Vaginal dildo: yes 4
Verbal humiliation:no 2
Vibrator on genitals:no 4
Voyeurism (watching others):no 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others):no 2
Video (watching others):no 3
Video (recordings of you):no 4
Water torture:no 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry:no 3
Whipping:no 5
Wooden paddles:no 4
Wrestling:no 2

[MG_cleo]

For those who are "in negotiation" it is perhaps useful to have your own copy, which I am happy to provide from our website.

The following link, for a checklist http://www.seekers.org.uk/checklist1.htm gives a choice of either a downloadable word document or a pdf file (select the appropriate link) which can be filled in, mailed etc. Checklists, as has been said are great for testing compatibility, as well as creating talking points between partners. There will likely be stuff on the list you dont understand or have never heard of: that way you can extend your knowledge and go and google it or find out what the activity entails. Our site has a dictionary too, but there are many other resources as well.

MG

[Sir_Russell]

Jan,
I would say at this point your more of a bottom then a sub yet some of your answers lead me to believe that you could become a good sub. It is probably that you seem to have little real life experience and so many things scare you.

[wingsofanangel]

I thought it was time I revisted this thread and took this quiz again. Its almost been a year since I last took it. And I have had more experiences now... lets see whats new!


0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: 2 to 3
Age play:2
Anal sex:5
Anal plugs (small):5
Anal plugs (large):5
Anal plug (public, under clothes): 5
Animal roles: 2 to 3 because sometimes I do day dream about this a bit.
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): 4 haven't had them but would very much like them.
Asphyxiation: Did for the first time .. LOVED it. 4
Auctioned for charity: 0 I like being in a commited relationship. Though this has been a day dream of mine. Turns me on to think about it.
Bathroom use control: 3 to 4. I like the power that is held in the Dominant's hands there.
Bestiality: 0. I do daydream about it, but would never do it.
Beating (soft): 5
Beating (hard): 4
Blindfolds: 6
Being serviced (sexual): 5
Being bitten: 5
Breast/chest bondage: 5
Breath control: 4
Branding: 3 to 4
Boot worship: 2 to 3
Bondage (light): 5
Bondage (heavy): 5
Bondage (multi-day): 3
Bondage (public, under clothing): 5
Bondage and Sex: 5
Breast whipping: 5
Brown showers (scat): 0
Cages (locked inside of): 4
Caning: 4
Catheterization: 2 or 3 again used in my daydreaming
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): 3
Chastity belts: 5
Chauffeuring: 2
Choking: 3 to 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: 5
Clothespins body: 5
Cock worship: 5
Collars (worn in private): 5
Collars (worn in public): 5
Competitions (with other Subs): 2
Corsets (wearing): 5
Cuffs: 5
Cuffs (metal): 5
Cutting: 1
Dilation: 1
Double penetration: 5
Electricity: 5
Enemas: 1 to 2
Enforced chastity: 5
Examinations (physical): 4
Exercise (forced/required): 5 I hate to do it, but I LOVE the power behind it.
Exhibitionism (friends): 2
Exhibitionism (strangers): 1
Eye contact restrictions: 4
Face slapping: 4
Fantasy abandonment: 4
Fantasy rape: 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: 5
Fantasy gang-rape: 4
Fisting (anal): 4 to 5 see below
Fisting (vaginal):5 even though I know it would hurt like a b*tch!
Flogging: 4
Following hand signals: 4
Following orders: 5
Foot worship: 2
Forced dressing: 5
Forced homosexuality: 0
Forced masturbation: 5
Forced nudity (private)5:
Forced nudity (around others): 3
Forced servitude: 5
Full head hoods: 2
Gags (cloth): 5
Gags (penis shaped):5
Gags (rubber): 5
Gags (tape): 5
Gates of Hell: I don't think this applies.
Genital sex: 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): 0
Given away to another Domme (temp): 0
Given away to another Dom (perm): 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): 0
Golden showers: 4
Greetings rituals: 5
Hairbrush spankings: 5
Hair pulling: 5
Hand jobs (giving): 5
Hand jobs (receiving): 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): 0
Harnessing (leather): 4
Harnessing (rope): 4
Having food chosen for you: 5
Having clothing chosen for you: 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): 0
Head (giving fellatio): 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): 0
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: n/a
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): Not sure what this is.
Hot oils (on genitals): 4
Hot waxing: 3
Housework (doing): 4
Human puppy dog: 2
Humiliation (private): 5
Humiliation (public): 4
Hypnotism: not sure
Ice cubes: 4
Infantilism: 1
Initiation rites: 2
Injections: not sure what this is.
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: 5
Interrogations: 4
Kidnapping: 3 to 4
Kneeling: 5
Leather clothing:5
restraints chains:5
restraints leather: 5
restraints rope: 5
Lectures for misbehavior: 4
Licking (non-sexual): 3
Manacles & Irons: 5
Manicures (giving): 3
Massage (giving): 4
Massage (receiving): 5
Medical scenes: 4

Modeling for erotic photos: 4
Modeling for erotic videos: 3
Mouth bits: 2
Mummification: 2
Nipple clamps: 5
Nipple cloths pins:5
Nipple weights: 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): 3 I have not done it, but would like to.
Over-the-knee spanking: 5
Orgasm denial: 5
Orgasm control: 5
Outdoor scenes: 4
Outdoor sex: 2
Phone sex (serving Dom): 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): 5
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): 4
Piercing (permanent): 5
Prison scenes: 4
Pony slave: 2
Public exposure:2
Public tasks: 4
Pussy/cock whipping:5
Pussy worship: n/a
Riding crops: 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): 4
Rituals: 5
Religious scenes: 4
Restrictive rules on behavior: 5
Rubber/latex clothing: 4
Rope body harness: 5
Saran wrapping:3
Scratching – getting: 4
Scratching – giving: 1 to 2
Sensory deprivation: 4
Serving: 5
Serving as art: 3
Serving as ashtray: 1
Serving as furniture: 4
Serving as a maid: 4
Serving as toilet: 4
Serving as waitress/waiter:4
Serving orally (sexual): 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): 1
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): 4
Sexual deprivation (long term): 3
Shaving (body hair): 5
Shaving (head hair): 0
Shaving (pubic hair): 5
Sleep deprivation: 1 ... i really... really.. love sleep
Sleep-sacks: 3 very interested but not sure how I feel about it.
Slutty clothing (private): 5
Slutty clothing (public): 3
Spanking in private: 5
Spanking in public: 4
Spanking in bdsm parties: 4
Spanking pleasure:5
Spandex clothing: 1 ew... does anyone really look good in spandex???
Speech restrictions (when, what): 5
Speculums (Anal): 5
Speculums (vaginal): 5
Spreader bars: 5
Standing in corner: 4
Stocks (adjustable): 4
Stocks (fixed): 4
Straight jackets: 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): 4
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):4
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): 2
Strapping (full body beating): 3
Suspension (upright); 4
Suspension (inverted): 1
Suspension (horizontal): 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: 0
Swallowing semen: 5
Swallowing urine: 3
Swapping (with one other couple): 0
Swinging (multiple couples): 0
Tattooing: 3
Teasing: 4
Tickling: 1
Triple penetration: 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: if I was into multi partner, yes. I do day dream about this.
Uniforms: 4
Including others: ?
Vaginal dildo: 4
Verbal humiliation: 4
Vibrator on genitals: 5
Voyeurism (watching others): 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): 0
Video (watching others): 5
Video (recordings of you): 3
Water torture: 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: 5
Whipping: 5
Wooden paddles: 5
Wrestling:5


Not sure how much has changed.. I need to compare. :)

Anya

[Sir_Russell]

wingsofanangel
Very nice, you have really blossomed and I bet you make your Dom very proud, with the big smile that is hard to whip off his face.

[gettinghorny]

thats a hell of a list

[Warbaby1943]

I thought it was time I revisted this thread and took this quiz again. Its almost been a year since I last took it. And I have had more experiences now... lets see whats new!


0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: 2 to 3
Age play:2
Anal sex:5
Anal plugs (small):5
Anal plugs (large):5
Anal plug (public, under clothes): 5
Animal roles: 2 to 3 because sometimes I do day dream about this a bit.
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): 4 haven't had them but would very much like them.
Asphyxiation: Did for the first time .. LOVED it. 4
Auctioned for charity: 0 I like being in a commited relationship. Though this has been a day dream of mine. Turns me on to think about it.
Bathroom use control: 3 to 4. I like the power that is held in the Dominant's hands there.
Bestiality: 0. I do daydream about it, but would never do it.
Beating (soft): 5
Beating (hard): 4
Blindfolds: 6
Being serviced (sexual): 5
Being bitten: 5
Breast/chest bondage: 5
Breath control: 4
Branding: 3 to 4
Boot worship: 2 to 3
Bondage (light): 5
Bondage (heavy): 5
Bondage (multi-day): 3
Bondage (public, under clothing): 5
Bondage and Sex: 5
Breast whipping: 5
Brown showers (scat): 0
Cages (locked inside of): 4
Caning: 4
Catheterization: 2 or 3 again used in my daydreaming
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): 3
Chastity belts: 5
Chauffeuring: 2
Choking: 3 to 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: 5
Clothespins body: 5
Cock worship: 5
Collars (worn in private): 5
Collars (worn in public): 5
Competitions (with other Subs): 2
Corsets (wearing): 5
Cuffs: 5
Cuffs (metal): 5
Cutting: 1
Dilation: 1
Double penetration: 5
Electricity: 5
Enemas: 1 to 2
Enforced chastity: 5
Examinations (physical): 4
Exercise (forced/required): 5 I hate to do it, but I LOVE the power behind it.
Exhibitionism (friends): 2
Exhibitionism (strangers): 1
Eye contact restrictions: 4
Face slapping: 4
Fantasy abandonment: 4
Fantasy rape: 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: 5
Fantasy gang-rape: 4
Fisting (anal): 4 to 5 see below
Fisting (vaginal):5 even though I know it would hurt like a b*tch!
Flogging: 4
Following hand signals: 4
Following orders: 5
Foot worship: 2
Forced dressing: 5
Forced homosexuality: 0
Forced masturbation: 5
Forced nudity (private)5:
Forced nudity (around others): 3
Forced servitude: 5
Full head hoods: 2
Gags (cloth): 5
Gags (penis shaped):5
Gags (rubber): 5
Gags (tape): 5
Gates of Hell: I don't think this applies.
Genital sex: 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): 0
Given away to another Domme (temp): 0
Given away to another Dom (perm): 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): 0
Golden showers: 4
Greetings rituals: 5
Hairbrush spankings: 5
Hair pulling: 5
Hand jobs (giving): 5
Hand jobs (receiving): 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): 0
Harnessing (leather): 4
Harnessing (rope): 4
Having food chosen for you: 5
Having clothing chosen for you: 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): 0
Head (giving fellatio): 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): 0
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: n/a
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): Not sure what this is.
Hot oils (on genitals): 4
Hot waxing: 3
Housework (doing): 4
Human puppy dog: 2
Humiliation (private): 5
Humiliation (public): 4
Hypnotism: not sure
Ice cubes: 4
Infantilism: 1
Initiation rites: 2
Injections: not sure what this is.
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: 5
Interrogations: 4
Kidnapping: 3 to 4
Kneeling: 5
Leather clothing:5
restraints chains:5
restraints leather: 5
restraints rope: 5
Lectures for misbehavior: 4
Licking (non-sexual): 3
Manacles & Irons: 5
Manicures (giving): 3
Massage (giving): 4
Massage (receiving): 5
Medical scenes: 4

Modeling for erotic photos: 4
Modeling for erotic videos: 3
Mouth bits: 2
Mummification: 2
Nipple clamps: 5
Nipple cloths pins:5
Nipple weights: 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): 3 I have not done it, but would like to.
Over-the-knee spanking: 5
Orgasm denial: 5
Orgasm control: 5
Outdoor scenes: 4
Outdoor sex: 2
Phone sex (serving Dom): 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): 5
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): 4
Piercing (permanent): 5
Prison scenes: 4
Pony slave: 2
Public exposure:2
Public tasks: 4
Pussy/cock whipping:5
Pussy worship: n/a
Riding crops: 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): 4
Rituals: 5
Religious scenes: 4
Restrictive rules on behavior: 5
Rubber/latex clothing: 4
Rope body harness: 5
Saran wrapping:3
Scratching – getting: 4
Scratching – giving: 1 to 2
Sensory deprivation: 4
Serving: 5
Serving as art: 3
Serving as ashtray: 1
Serving as furniture: 4
Serving as a maid: 4
Serving as toilet: 4
Serving as waitress/waiter:4
Serving orally (sexual): 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): 1
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): 4
Sexual deprivation (long term): 3
Shaving (body hair): 5
Shaving (head hair): 0
Shaving (pubic hair): 5
Sleep deprivation: 1 ... i really... really.. love sleep
Sleep-sacks: 3 very interested but not sure how I feel about it.
Slutty clothing (private): 5
Slutty clothing (public): 3
Spanking in private: 5
Spanking in public: 4
Spanking in bdsm parties: 4
Spanking pleasure:5
Spandex clothing: 1 ew... does anyone really look good in spandex???
Speech restrictions (when, what): 5
Speculums (Anal): 5
Speculums (vaginal): 5
Spreader bars: 5
Standing in corner: 4
Stocks (adjustable): 4
Stocks (fixed): 4
Straight jackets: 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): 4
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):4
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): 2
Strapping (full body beating): 3
Suspension (upright); 4
Suspension (inverted): 1
Suspension (horizontal): 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: 0
Swallowing semen: 5
Swallowing urine: 3
Swapping (with one other couple): 0
Swinging (multiple couples): 0
Tattooing: 3
Teasing: 4
Tickling: 1
Triple penetration: 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: if I was into multi partner, yes. I do day dream about this.
Uniforms: 4
Including others: ?
Vaginal dildo: 4
Verbal humiliation: 4
Vibrator on genitals: 5
Voyeurism (watching others): 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): 0
Video (watching others): 5
Video (recordings of you): 3
Water torture: 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: 5
Whipping: 5
Wooden paddles: 5
Wrestling:5


Not sure how much has changed.. I need to compare. :)

AnyaYou're so exciting I wish I could remember who you are.

[wingsofanangel]

wingsofanangel
Very nice, you have really blossomed and I bet you make your Dom very proud, with the big smile that is hard to whip off his face.

Thank you. I don't have a " Dom" persay.. just hubby... but he is happy to try much of this.


and Warbaby... please remember meee? I'm so great! Remember?!

[Warbaby1943]

Thank you. I don't have a " Dom" persay.. just hubby... but he is happy to try much of this.


and Warbaby... please remember meee? I'm so great! Remember?!How could I ever forget you? You are great.

[wingsofanangel]

Damn straight...

Sir.

-GRIN!-

[at_your_whim]

Thought I would give it a whirl, even though I am new here, as it is a very very interesting test. You have to do some soul searching...

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners. I started to do this, but I probably wouldn't do much of this with somebody I didn't know pretty well.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no 0
Age play: yes 2
Anal sex: yes 5
Anal plugs (small): yes 4
Anal plugs (large): no 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 3
Animal roles: no no
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no? What is it
Asphyxiation: no 2*
Auctioned for charity: no 1
Bathroom use control: no 0
Bestiality: not yet 5 – working on it
Beating (soft): no no
Beating (hard): no no
Blindfolds: yes 3
Being serviced (sexual): no 3
Being bitten: no 2
Breast/chest bondage: no 2
Breath control: yes 3*
Branding: no 3* fantasy turn on but to really do it???
Boot worship: no 1
Bondage (light): yes 5.
Bondage (heavy): no 3* too Gerald’s Game?
Bondage (multi-day): no no
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 0
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 4
Brown showers (scat): no no and again, NO
Cages (locked inside of): no 1*
Caning: no 1 – there is such a thing as too much pain
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): yes no
Chastity belts: no 2
Chauffeuring: no 2
Choking: yes 3*
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 3-4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 3
Clothespins body: no 1
Cock worship: yes 3-4
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): no 2-3 depends on the collar
Competitions (with other Subs): no no
Corsets (wearing): no 1
Cuffs: yes 4
Cuffs (metal): no 2
Cutting: no no
Dilation: no ? What is this
Double penetration: yes 4- 5
Electricity: yes 3*
Enemas: no 1 unless private prep for heavy anal sex
Enforced chastity: no 2
Examinations (physical): no 1
Exercise (forced/required): no 1
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 4
Eye contact restrictions: no 1
Face slapping: no 2
Fantasy abandonment: no no no no no no
Fantasy rape: yes 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 3-4
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 1-4*
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 3
Fantasy gang-rape: no 3
Fisting (anal): no 2*
Fisting (vaginal): yes 3
Flogging: yes 4
Following hand signals: no 0
Following orders: yes 4 depends
Foot worship: no 2
Forced dressing: no 2
Forced homosexuality: no 0 not forced,.
Forced masturbation: no 3
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no 2-5 depends on who, I guess.
Forced servitude: no 2
Full head hoods: no no
Gags (cloth): yes no
Gags (penis shaped): no no
Gags (rubber): yes no
Gags (tape): yes no
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): yes 1 – to a man not a dom
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 1
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: yes 4
Greetings rituals: no ? again what is this
Hairbrush spankings: YES 1 - had too many as a child
Hair pulling: no 2
Hand jobs (giving): yes 3
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no no
Harnessing (leather): no 2
Harnessing (rope): no 3-4
Having food chosen for you: no 2
Having clothing chosen for you: no 2
Head (giving cunnilingus): no 3
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 5
High heel worship: no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 2
Hot oils (on genitals): no 2
Hot waxing: yes 2
Housework (doing): yes 1 do enough already
Human puppy dog: no no
Humiliation (private): yes no
Ice cubes: yes 3
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: no 0
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no 1
Kidnapping: yes 3
Kneeling: yes 2
Leather clothing: no no
restraints chains: yes 2
restraints leather: no 2
restraints rope: yes 4
Lectures for misbehavior: no no
Licking (non-sexual): no 1
Manacles & Irons: no 2
Manicures (giving): no 0
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 2
Modeling for erotic photos: no 2
Modeling for erotic videos: no 2
Mouth bits: no 0
Mummification: no no
Nipple clamps: yes 3-4
Nipple cloths pins: yes 3-4
Nipple weights: no 1-3
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 4-5
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 3
Orgasm control: yes 3
Outdoor scenes: no 2
Outdoor sex: yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 4*
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 2
Piercing (permanent): no 2-5*
Prison scenes: no 2
Pony slave: no no
Public exposure: no 2
Public tasks: no 1
Pussy whipping: yes 5
Pussy worship: no 1-4 Depends
Riding crops: yes 5
Riding the "horse" no ? What is this
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no no
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 1-3
Rubber/latex clothing: no 0
Saran wrapping: no 0
Scratching – getting: no 2
Scratching – giving: no 0
Sensory deprivation: yes 2-5*
Serving as art: no 0
Serving as ashtray: no no
Serving as furniture: no 1
Serving as a maid: no 2
Serving as toilet (scat): no no, oh HELL no (stole that answer, thank you)
Serving as toilet (piss) yes 4*
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 2
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 2.
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 1,
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 1 –
Shaving (body hair): yes, 3-4
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 4
Sleep deprivation: no no
Sleep-sacks: no no
Slutty clothing (private): yes 4
Slutty clothing (public): no 2
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no 1
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 4 never been to one, so I have no clue
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 1
Speculums (Anal): no 0
Speculums (vaginal): no 2
Spreader bars: no 3-4
Standing in corner: yes 2
Stocks (adjustable): no 2
Stocks (fixed): no 2
Straight jackets: yes 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 1
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 2
Strapping (full body beating): - no 2
Suspension (upright); no 2 -4
Suspension (inverted): no 2
Suspension (horizontal): no 3-4
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 0
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: yes 4*
Swapping (with one other couple): no 2-4
Swinging (multiple couples): no 2
Tattooing: no 1
Teasing: no no
Tickling: yes no
Triple penetration: no 2
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 2
Uniforms: no 1
Vaginal dildo: yes 5
Verbal humiliation: yes no
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): no 1
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 1-5
Video (watching others): no 0
Video (recordings of you): not yet, working on it 1-4*
Water torture: no 0
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 0
Whipping: no 2,
Wooden paddles: yes 3,
Wrestling: no 2

[Sir_Russell]

I have seen other lists like this normally means you are new to the Life, take your time and learn to enjoy

[at_your_whim]

Not sure if I am insulted, or if I should ask what makes you say that...

[delish]

I thought that since I wasn't bold enough to post my list, I'd at least share Sir_Russell's evaluation of it. :)



not bad at all. You have the adventurous heart that should make a good sub hell a great sub but I doubt that you would make a slave. Nothing wrong with that.

I responded that I thought he was being particularly kind when he said he doubted I'd make a slave-- I admire those who can, but it simply is not in my nature. I would downright suck at it... but I'm okay with that. :)

[Sir_Russell]

At your whim
I have been wrong before but it is what your list says to me lots of 2s and nos, if your very experience then that too is fine you know what you want

[SeaDogret]

Sir Russell, first thank you for this post, have copied them for myself and my sub, we are both new to this life, I will send her copies mine and hers, you have put some eye opening questions there to be considered by both of us.

[rivka]

When I was previously owned I had taken this before, I figured it was about time for me to fill it out again, since I have had a few changes in my out look. The ones I have put questions marks beside are the ones I'm not sure of what they are.

Abrasion: ?
Age play: yes 4
Anal sex: yes 5
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large): yes 4
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 4
Animal roles: yes 2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): yes 5
Asphyxiation: yes 3
Auctioned for charity: yes 2
Bathroom use control: yes 4
Bestiality: no
Beating (soft): yes 5
Beating (hard):yes 4
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 3
Being bitten: yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: yes 5
Breath control: yes 2
Branding: yes 4
Boot worship: yes 5
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): yes 5
Bondage (public, under clothing): yes 5
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 5
Brown showers (scat): no
Cages (locked inside of): yes 4
Caning: yes 5
Catheterization: no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): yes 3
Chastity belts: yes 4
Chauffeuring: ?
Choking: yes 5
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 4
Clothespins body: yes 3
Cock worship: yes 5
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): yes 5
Competitions (with other Subs): yes 4
Corsets (wearing): yes 4
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: yes 2
Dilation: ?
Double penetration: yes 5
Electricity: yes 2
Enemas: yes 2
Enforced chastity: yes 5
Examinations (physical): yes 4
Exercise (forced/required): yes 5
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 5
Exhibitionism (strangers): yes 5
Eye contact restrictions: yes 4
Face slapping: yes 5
Fantasy abandonment: yes 2
Fantasy rape: yes 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: yes 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: yes 5
Fantasy gang-rape: yes 5
Fisting (anal): yes 2
Fisting (vaginal): yes 2
Flogging: yes 5
Following hand signals: ?
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: yes 5
Forced dressing: yes 5
Forced homosexuality: yes 5
Forced masturbation: yes 5
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): yes 5
Forced servitude: yes 5
Full head hoods: yes 2
Gags (cloth): yes 5
Gags (penis shaped): yes 5
Gags (rubber): yes 5
Gags (tape): yes 5
Gates of Hell: ?
Genital sex: yes 4
Given away to another Dom (temp): yes 4
Given away to another Domme (temp): yes 4
Given away to another Dom (perm): no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no
Golden showers: yes 5
Greetings rituals: yes 5
Hairbrush spankings: yes 5
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 3
Harems (serving w/other subs): ?
Harnessing (leather): yes 5
Harnessing (rope): yes 5
Having food chosen for you: yes 4
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 4
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): yes 5
High heel worship: yes 2, on order of Dom.
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): ?
Hot oils (on genitals): yes 4
Hot waxing: yes 5
Housework (doing): yes 5
Human puppy dog: yes 5
Humiliation (private): yes 5
Humiliation (public): yes 5
Hypnotism: yes 2
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism: no
Initiation rites: yes 1
Injections: no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes 5
Interrogations: yes 3
Kidnapping: yes 5
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: yes 5
restraints chains: yes 5
restraints leather: yes 5
restraints rope: yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 5
Licking (non-sexual): yes 5
Manacles & Irons: yes 5
Manicures (giving): yes 5
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 3
Medical scenes: yes 2

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 5
Modeling for erotic videos: yes 5
Mouth bits: yes 2
Mummification: no
Nipple clamps: yes 5
Nipple cloths pins: yes 5
Nipple weights: yes 5
Oral/anal play (rimming):yes 2
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 5
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: yes 5
Outdoor sex: yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): yes 5
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): yes 5
Piercing (permanent): yes 5
Prison scenes: yes 5
Pony slave: yes 5
Public exposure: yes 5
Public tasks: yes 5
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 5
Pussy worship: yes 3, on order of Dom.
Riding crops: yes 5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): yes 5
Rituals: yes 2
Religious scenes: yes 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: yes 5
Rope body harness: yes 5
Saran wrapping: yes 2
Scratching – getting: yes 5
Scratching – giving: yes 3
Sensory deprivation: yes 2
Serving: yes 5
Serving as art: yes 5
Serving as ashtray: no
Serving as furniture: yes 5
Serving as a maid: yes 5
Serving as toilet: yes 2
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes 5
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): yes 5
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): yes 4, on order of Dom.
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 4
Sexual deprivation (long term): yes 4
Shaving (body hair): yes 5
Shaving (head hair): no
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 5
Sleep deprivation: yes 5
Sleep-sacks: yes 3
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): yes 5
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: yes 5
Spanking in bdsm parties: yes 5
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: yes 5
Speech restrictions (when, what): ?
Speculums (Anal): ?
Speculums (vaginal): ?
Spreader bars: yes 5
Standing in corner: yes 5
Stocks (adjustable): yes 5
Stocks (fixed): yes 5
Straight jackets: yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): yes 3
Strapping (full body beating): yes 5
Suspension (upright); yes 5
Suspension (inverted): yes 5
Suspension (horizontal): yes 5
Supplying new partners for Dom: yes 3
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: yes 5
Swapping (with one other couple): yes 4, upon order of Dom.
Swinging (multiple couples): yes 4
Tattooing: yes 5
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: yes 5
Triple penetration: yes 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: yes 5
Uniforms: yes 5
Including others: yes 5
Vaginal dildo: yes 5
Verbal humiliation: yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 5
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): yes 4
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of you): yes 5
Water torture: yes 5
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 5
Whipping: yes 5
Wooden paddles: yes 5
Wrestling: yes 2

[Cool Luke's Hand]

Disclaimer: I have not experienced these activities, and so these scores are nothing but theoretical. The activities involving penises (cock worship and such) are scored with respect to strap-ons; all activities strictly involving penises would get a Yes, 0 score from me.


Abrasion:
Age play: Yes, 3
Anal sex: Yes, 4
Anal plugs (small): Yes, 5
Anal plugs (large): Yes, 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): Yes, 4
Animal roles: Yes, 4
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): Yes, 2
Asphyxiation: NO
Auctioned for charity: Yes, 0
Bathroom use control: Yes, 1
Bestiality: NO
Beating (soft): Yes, 4
Beating (hard): Yes, 2
Blindfolds: Yes, 4
Being serviced (sexual): Yes, 1
Being bitten: Yes, 0
Breast/chest bondage: N/A
Breath control: NO
Branding: NO
Boot worship: Yes, 3
Bondage (light): Yes, 5
Bondage (heavy): Yes, 4
Bondage (multi-day): Yes, 0
Bondage (public, under clothing): Yes, 4
Bondage and Sex: Yes, 5
Breast whipping: N/A
Brown showers (scat): NO
Cages (locked inside of): Yes, 3
Caning: Yes, 4
Catheterization: NO
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): Yes, 3
Chastity belts: Yes, 1
Chauffeuring: Yes, 2
Choking: NO
Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes, 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: N/A
Clothespins body: Yes, 2
Cock worship: Yes, 0
Collars (worn in private): Yes, 5
Collars (worn in public): NO
Competitions (with other Subs): Yes, 4
Corsets (wearing): Yes, 3
Cuffs: Yes, 5
Cuffs (metal): Yes, 5
Cutting: NO
Dilation: NO
Double penetration: Yes, 3
Electricity: Yes, 0
Enemas: Yes, 3
Enforced chastity: Yes, 0
Examinations (physical): Yes, 4
Exercise (forced/required): Yes, 0
Exhibitionism (friends): Yes, 4
Exhibitionism (strangers): NO
Eye contact restrictions: Yes, 3
Face slapping: Yes, 2
Fantasy abandonment: N/A [Don't know what that is]
Fantasy rape: Yes, 3
Fantasy forced deep throat: Yes, 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: Yes, 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: Yes, 4
Fantasy gang-rape: Yes, 3
Fisting (anal): Yes, 1
Fisting (vaginal): N/A
Flogging: Yes, 3
Foot worship: Yes, 2
Forced dressing: Yes, 1
Forced homosexuality: NO
Forced masturbation: Yes, 3
Forced nudity (private): Yes, 4
Forced nudity (around others): Around friends, yes, 3. Around strangers, NO
Forced servitude: Yes, 2
Full head hoods: Yes, 0
Gags (cloth): Yes, 3
Gags (penis shaped): Yes, 5
Gags (rubber): Yes, 5
Gags (tape): Yes, 3
Gates of Hell: NO
Genital sex: As in...normal sex? Yes, 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): Yes, 0
Given away to another Domme (temp): Yes, 3
Given away to another Dom (perm): NO
Given away to another Domme (perm): Yes, 0
Golden showers: Yes, 1
Greetings rituals: Yes, 3
Hairbrush spankings: Yes, 4
Hair pulling: Yes, 2
Hand jobs (giving): Yes, 0
Hand jobs (receiving): Yes, 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): Yes, 4
Harnessing (leather): Yes, 3
Harnessing (rope): Yes, 3
Having food chosen for you: NO
Having clothing chosen for you: Yes, 4
Head (giving cunnilingus): Yes, 5
Head (giving fellatio): Yes, 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): N/A
Head (receiving fellatio male only): Yes, 5
High heel worship: Yes, 3
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): Yes, 4
Hot oils (on genitals): NO
Hot waxing: NO
Housework (doing): Yes, 1
Human puppy dog: Yes, 3
Humiliation (private): Yes, 5
Humiliation (public): Yes, 0
Hypnotism: NO
Ice cubes: Yes, 2
Infantilism: Yes, 3
Initiation rites: Yes, 2
Injections: NO
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: Yes, 4
Interrogations: Don't know what this entails
Kidnapping: Yes, 1
Kneeling: Yes, 4
Leather clothing: Yes, 5
restraints chains: Yes, 5
restraints leather: Yes, 5
restraints rope: Yes, 5
Lectures for misbehavior: Yes, 1
Licking (non-sexual): Yes, 2
Manacles & Irons: Yes, 5
Manicures (giving): NO
Massage (giving): Yes, 3
Massage (receiving): Yes, 3
Medical scenes: Yes, 2
Modeling for erotic photos: Yes, 0
Modeling for erotic videos: Yes, 0
Mouth bits: Yes, 4
Mummification: NO
Nipple clamps: Yes, 5
Nipple cloths pins: Yes, 4
Nipple weights: Yes, 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): Yes, 4
Over-the-knee spanking: Yes, 5
Orgasm denial: Yes, 3
Orgasm control: Yes, 3
Outdoor scenes: Yes, 1
Outdoor sex: Yes, 2
Phone sex (serving Dom): Yes, 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): Yes, 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): Yes, 2
Piercing (permanent): Yes, 0
Prison scenes: Yes, 4
Pony slave: Yes, 3
Public exposure: NO
Public tasks: NO
Pussy/cock whipping: NO
Pussy worship: Yes, 4
Riding crops: Yes, 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): N/A, I don't know if that can be done to a male sub
Rituals: Yes, 2
Religious scenes: Yes, 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: Yes, 4
Rubber/latex clothing: Yes, 5
Rope body harness: Yes, 3
Saran wrapping: NO
Scratching – getting: Yes, 2
Scratching – giving: Yes, 2
Sensory deprivation: NO
Serving: Yes, 5
Serving as art: Yes, 5
Serving as ashtray: NO
Serving as furniture: Yes, 5
Serving as a maid: Yes, 5
Serving as toilet: NO
Serving as waitress/waiter: Yes, 5
Serving orally (sexual): Yes, 3
Serving other Doms (supervised): Yes, 4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): Yes, 3
Sexual deprivation (short term): Yes, 2
Sexual deprivation (long term): Yes, 0
Shaving (body hair): Yes, 3
Shaving (head hair): NO
Shaving (pubic hair): Yes, 4
Sleep deprivation: NO
Sleep-sacks: NO
Slutty clothing (private): Yes, 5
Slutty clothing (public): Yes, 0
Spanking in private: Yes, 5
Spanking in public: NO
Spanking in bdsm parties: Yes, 4
Spanking pleasure: Yes, 5
Spandex clothing: Yes, 4
Speculums (Anal): Yes, 0
Speculums (vaginal): N/A
Spreader bars: Yes, 3
Standing in corner: Yes, 2
Stocks (adjustable): Yes, 3
Stocks (fixed): Yes, 3
Straight jackets: Yes, 0
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): Yes, 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): Yes, 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): NO
Strapping (full body beating): Yes, 0
Suspension (upright); Yes, 4
Suspension (inverted): NO
Suspension (horizontal): Yes, 2
Supplying new partners for Dom: Yes, 0
Swallowing semen: Yes, 3
Swallowing urine: Yes, 0
Swapping (with one other couple): Yes, 3
Swinging (multiple couples): Yes, 3
Tattooing: NO
Teasing: Yes, 4
Tickling: Yes, 3
Triple penetration: N/A
Triple penetration by 3 males: N/A
Uniforms: Yes, 5
Including others: Yes, 4
Vaginal dildo: N/A
Verbal humiliation: Yes, 3
Vibrator on genitals: Yes, 5
Voyeurism (watching others): Yes, 5
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): Yes, 5
Video (watching others): Yes, 5
Video (recordings of you): Yes, 1
Water torture: NO
Wearing symbolic jewelry: Yes, 4
Whipping: Yes, 2
Wooden paddles: Yes, 4
Wrestling: Yes, 2

[Sir_Russell]

rivka,
My you would make most any Dom very happy, if you come to Denver would love to met you and I think minx would like that too.

[Sir_Russell]

Cool Luke's Hand,
First I should say that I am not that good at understanding male subs, that is my hang up not yours, so what I will tell you may be worthless.
Second, I don't know your sexuality if it is straight, bi-sexual or homosexual so that too will make my replies suspect.

Here we go, I think that you will make a very good submissive but not a slave there are several no where slaves normal say 1 or 2 for.

I wish you well in your search for a Dominant and the best to you both.

[rivka]

Thank you, Sir Russell.

[aerodomain]

Here are my answers Sir Russell. Some of your instructions for the Master/Dom list was a little vague. I tried to answer them as best I can and honestly. I am a fairly new Dom with aspirations for Master/slave lifestyle.

Abrasion: no 0
Age play: no 2
Anal sex: no 3
Anal plugs (small): no 3
Anal plugs (large): no 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 3
Animal roles: no no
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 1
Asphyxiation: no no
Auctioned for charity: no 0
Bathroom use control: no 4
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): yes 4
Beating (hard): no 3
Blindfolds: yes 4
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: no 1
Breast/chest bondage: no 3
Breath control: no no
Branding: no 0
Boot worship: no 1
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): no 4
Bondage (multi-day): no 3
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 3
Breast whipping: no 0
Brown showers (scat): no no
Cages (locked inside of): no 2
Caning: no 3
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 2
Chastity belts: no 2
Chauffeuring: no 4
Choking: no no
Clothespins: no 2
Cock worship: yes 4
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): yes 5
Competitions (with other Subs): no no
Corsets (wearing): no 2
Cuffs: no 4
Cuffs (metal): no 4
Cutting: no 0
Dilation: no no
Double penetration: no 2
Electricity: no no
Enemas: no 3
Enforced chastity: no 3
Examinations (physical): yes 5
Exercise (forced/required): yes 5
Exhibitionism (friends): no 4
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 4
Eye contact restrictions: no no
Face slapping: no 1
Fantasy abandonment: no 1
Fantasy rape: no 3
Fantasy gang-rape: no 1
Fisting (anal): no 0
Fisting (vaginal): no 2
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: yes 5
Forced dressing: yes 5
Forced homosexuality: no no
Forced masturbation: no 4
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no 3
Forced servitude: yes 5
Full head hoods: no 1
Gags (cloth): no 3
Gags (rubber): no 3
Gags (tape): no 3
Gates of Hell (male) N/A
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 1
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Golden showers: no 0
Hairbrush spankings: no 3
Hair pulling: no 4
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 0
Harnessing (leather): no 3
Harnessing (rope): no 3
Having food chosen for you: no 5
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio)for males only N/A
High heel worship: yes 5
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): yes 4
Hot oils (on genitals): no no
Hot waxing: no 0
Housework (doing): yes 5
Human puppy dog: no 0
Humiliation (private): yes 5
Humiliation (public): yes 4
Hypnotism: no 1
Ice cubes: no 4
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: no no
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no no
Kidnapping: no no
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: no 3
restraints: no 4
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 4
Licking (non-sexual): no 4
Manacles & Irons: no 0
Manicures (giving): no 0
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: yes 5
Modeling for erotic photos: yes 5
Mouth bits: no no
Mummification: no no
Nipple clamps: no 2
Nipple weights: no 2
Oral/anal play (rimming): no 2
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 5
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: no 3
Outdoor sex: no 3
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no no
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no no
Piercing (permanent): no no
Prison scenes no no
Pony slave: no no
Public exposure: no 3
Pussy/cock whipping: no no
Pussy worship: yes 5
Riding crops: no 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no no
Rituals: no 3
Religious scenes: no 3
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 3
Rope body harness: no 2
Saran wrapping: no 0
Scratching – getting: no 2
Scratching – giving: no 2
Sensory deprivation: no 5
Serving: yes 5
Serving as art: no 3
Serving as ashtray: no no
Serving as furniture: no 3
Serving as a maid: no 5
Serving as toilet: no 0
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 5
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 1
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no no
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 5
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 4
Shaving (body hair): yes 5
Shaving (head hair): no 1
Sleep deprivation: no 1
Sleepsacks: no 0
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): no 4
Spanking: yes 5
Spandex clothing: no 3
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 5
Speculums (Anal): no 0
Speculums (vaginal): no 1
Spreader bars: no 3
Standing in corner: no 4
Stocks (adjustable): no 3
Straight jackets: no 0
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no no
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no no
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no no
Strapping (full body beating): no 2
Suspension (upright); no 1
Suspension (inverted): no 1
Suspension (horizontal): no 1
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 0
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: no 0
Swapping (with one other couple): no 0
Swinging (multiple couples): no no
Tattooing: no no
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: yes 5
Triple penetration: no no
Uniforms: yes 5
Including others: no 1
Vaginal dildo: yes 5
Verbal humiliation: yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): no 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 1
Video (watching others): no 2
Video (recordings of you): no 2
Water torture: no 2
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 5
Whipping yes 4
Wooden paddles: yes 4
Wrestling: no 3

[Sir_Russell]

Doing this again wrote a reply and lost it when the sight went down and I must say getting tired of that. Shame that it has become so unstable these days.

aerodomain
I find it refreshing that you admit to being new and I also think that it is brave and shows an honesty that will serve you very well as a Dom.

Your answers show that you are new so let me give you some advice that should help you in this journey. First though I want to remind not just you but everyone that at sometime the greatest Dominant ever was where you are now.

Now for the advice, first go back to the list and buy each of the pain devices you have shown interest in. These you will us on yourself to learn how they feel and how the pain is controlled. This is essential for you to overcome a fear of using them and to understand their potential for damage in the wrong hands.

Another reason that many so called Doms fail to do this is the fear of hurting themselves so they weld the clips, pin, pegs, paddles, whips, flogger and all the other without any real knowledge of them. Any idiot can use any of these but to use them well, to know how to blend them in to increase the pain pleasure takes a real in depth first hand knowledge.

Read what real Doms think is important, study that. Take those tenants that they expound on that seem right to you and learn all you can about them

After or while doing that look at photos to find out which things excite you then plan how you will do them to her in a safe sane manner.

Lastly when you plan don't stop at the how will I do this but take the most important step for a Dom. HOW WILL I RESPOND WHEN THINGS GO WRONG. They will be sure of that and when they do if you haven't a plan for what to do then your lost and she is hurt or worse. These include having keys close by when using locks, cutters for any type of bondage gear including bolt cutters for padlocks when they jam.

Good luck to you, be smart and you will do well.

[icey]

havnt taken this for a while so it will be interesting to compare any differences. , thankyou for posting it :)



Abrasion: yes 5
Age play: yes 5
Anal sex: yes 5
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large): yes 4
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 5
Animal roles: yes 5
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 4
Asphyxiation: yes 5
Auctioned for charity: no 4
Bathroom use control: yes 3
Bestiality: NO
Beating (soft): yes 5
Beating (hard): yes 3
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): n/a
Being bitten: yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: yes 5
Breath control: yes 5
Branding: no 3
Boot worship: yes 3
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): yes 5
Bondage (public, under clothing): yes 5
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 5
Brown showers (scat): NO
Cages (locked inside of): yes 5
Caning: yes 4
Catheterization: no 1
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): yes 5
Chastity belts: no 3
Chauffeuring: no (cant drive)
Choking: yes 5
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 5
Clothespins body: yes 4
Cock worship: yes 5
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): yes 5
Competitions (with other Subs): no 1
Corsets (wearing): yes 4
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: yes 5
Dilation: no 3
Double penetration: yes 5
Electricity: yes 1
Enemas: NO
Enforced chastity: yes 4
Examinations (physical): yes 5
Exercise (forced/required): yes 1
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 5
Exhibitionism (strangers): yes 5
Eye contact restrictions: yes 5
Face slapping: yes 5
Fantasy abandonment: yes 5
Fantasy rape: yes 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: yes 1
Fantasy forced rape anal: yes 5
Fantasy gang-rape: yes 5
Fisting (anal): no 1
Fisting (vaginal): yes 5
Flogging: yes 5
Following hand signals: yes 5
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: yes 3
Forced dressing: yes 5
Forced homosexuality: yes 1
Forced masturbation: yes 5
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): yes 2
Forced servitude: yes 5
Full head hoods: yes 2
Gags (cloth): yes 5
Gags (penis shaped): yes 3
Gags (rubber): yes 5
Gags (tape): yes 5
Gates of Hell: no 2
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 2
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 2
Given away to another Dom (perm): no 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): no 0
Golden showers: NO
Greetings rituals: yes 5
Hairbrush spankings: yes 5
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): n/a
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 3
Harnessing (leather): yes 4
Harnessing (rope): yes 5
Having food chosen for you: yes 5
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 2
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 3
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship: no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): yes 3
Hot oils (on genitals): yes 3
Hot waxing: yes 5
Housework (doing): yes 5
Human puppy dog: yes 5
Humiliation (private): yes 5
Humiliation (public): yes 5
Hypnotism: NO
Ice cubes: yes 5
Infantilism: yes 5
Initiation rites: yes 5
Injections: no 1
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes 5
Interrogations: yes 5
Kidnapping: yes 5
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: yes 1 (am veggie)
restraints chains: yes 4
restraints leather: yes 1
restraints rope: yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 1
Licking (non-sexual): yes 3
Manacles & Irons: yes 5 (i answered yes diy improvisations,not actual shop bought equip)
Manicures (giving): yes 2
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving):yes 1
Medical scenes: yes 4

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 5
Modeling for erotic videos: yes 5
Mouth bits: yes 4
Mummification: yes 5
Nipple clamps: yes 5
Nipple cloths pins: yes 5
Nipple weights: yes 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 5
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: yes 5
Outdoor sex: yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): yes 5
Piercing (permanent): no 5
Prison scenes: no 4
Pony slave: yes 4
Public exposure: yes 5
Public tasks: yes 5
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 5
Pussy worship: yes 1
Riding crops: yes 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): yes 5
Rituals: yes 5
Religious scenes: yes 4
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: yes 3
Rope body harness: yes 5
Saran wrapping: yes 5
Scratching – getting: yes 5
Scratching – giving: no 1
Sensory deprivation: yes 5
Serving:
Serving as art: no 2
Serving as ashtray: yes 3
Serving as furniture: yes 3
Serving as a maid: yes 5
Serving as toilet: NO
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes 5
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 1
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 1
Shaving (body hair): yes 5
Shaving (head hair): NO
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 5
Sleep deprivation: yes 0
Sleep-sacks: no 5
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): yes 5
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: yes 5
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 5
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: no 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 3
Speculums (Anal): no 0
Speculums (vaginal): no 1
Spreader bars: yes 5
Standing in corner: yes 5
Stocks (adjustable): no 4
Stocks (fixed): no 4
Straight jackets: no 5
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): yes 1
Strapping (full body beating): yes 5
Suspension (upright); yes 5
Suspension (inverted): yes 5
Suspension (horizontal): yes 5
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 2
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: NO
Swapping (with one other couple): yes 3
Swinging (multiple couples): yes 3
Tattooing: yes 4
Teasing: yes 4
Tickling: yes 3
Triple penetration: yes 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: yes 5
Uniforms: yes 5
Including others: yes(not in this r/ship) 4
Vaginal dildo: yes 5
Verbal humiliation: yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 4
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of you): yes 5
Water torture: yes 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 5
Whipping: yes 5
Wooden paddles: yes 5
Wrestling: no 4

[Sir_Russell]

icey
Hard to see where any Dom wouldn't be happy to own you. The few things you seem to be uninterested in are normally things that most of us don't care for.

Glad your one of us

[sub84]

Im new to this so I thought I would fill it out here and see if I could get some feedback. Also i was looking at Sir Russell's photo post and read about his website if you could give me the link to it I would greatly appriciate it.



Abrasion: no 2
Age play: no no
Anal sex: no 3
Anal plugs (small): yes 4
Anal plugs (large): no 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 3
Animal roles: no no
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 2
Asphyxiation: no 2
Auctioned for charity: no no
Bathroom use control: no no
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): no 3
Beating (hard): no 1
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 4
Breast/chest bondage: no 2
Breath control: no 2
Branding: no no
Boot worship: no 1
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): no 4
Bondage (multi-day): no 3
Bondage (public, under clothing):no 2
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: no 2
Brown showers (scat): no no
Cages (locked inside of): no no
Caning: no 1
Catheterization:no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):no 0
Chastity belts: no 0
Chauffeuring: no 2
Choking: no 1
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 1
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no1
Clothespins body: no 1
Cock worship: yes 3
Collars (worn in private): no 2
Collars (worn in public): no 1
Competitions (with other Subs): no no
Corsets (wearing): yes 4
Cuffs: yes 3
Cuffs (metal): no 3
Cutting: no no
Dilation: no 2
Double penetration: no 3
Electricity: no 1
Enemas: no 1
Enforced chastity: no 1
Examinations (physical: no 2
Exercise (forced/required): no 2
Exhibitionism (friends): no 0
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 0
Eye contact restrictions: no 3
Face slapping: no 0
Fantasy abandonment: no 1
Fantasy rape: no 3
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 2
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no no
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 0
Fantasy gang-rape: no no
Fisting (anal): no 0
Fisting (vaginal): no 0
Flogging: no 2
Following hand signals: no 1
Following orders: no 4
Foot worship: no 0
Forced dressing: no 1
Forced homosexuality: no no
Forced masturbation: no 3
Forced nudity (private): no 2
Forced nudity (around others): no no
Forced servitude: no 3
Full head hoods: no no
Gags (cloth): no 1
Gags (penis shaped): no 0
Gags (rubber): no 0
Gags (tape): no 0
Gates of Hell: dont know what this is?
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no no
Given away to another Domme (temp): no no
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no no
Greetings rituals: no 3
Hairbrush spankings: no 3
Hair pulling: yes 2
Hand jobs (giving): yes 3
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no no
Harnessing (leather): no 3
Harnessing (rope): no 3
Having food chosen for you: no 2
Having clothing chosen for you: no 2
Head (giving cunnilingus): no no
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only):yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: no 0
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 1
Hot oils (on genitals): no 2
Hot waxing: no 1
Housework (doing): yes 2
Human puppy dog: no 1
Humiliation (private): no 2
Humiliation (public): no 1
Hypnotism: no 0
Ice cubes: yes 3
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: no 3
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 4
Interrogations: no 3
Kidnapping: no 2
Kneeling: no 2
Leather clothing: no 2
restraints chains: no 3
restraints leather: no 3
restraints rope: no 3
Lectures for misbehavior: no 1
Licking (non-sexual): no 2
Manacles & Irons: no 3
Manicures (giving): yes 1
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 3

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 3
Modeling for erotic videos: no 3
Mouth bits: no no
Mummification: no 0
Nipple clamps: no 1
Nipple cloths pins: no 1
Nipple weights: no 1
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking: no 3
Orgasm denial: no 2
Orgasm control: no 2
Outdoor scenes: no 3
Outdoor sex: no 3
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no no
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no no
Piercing (permanent): yes 2
Prison scenes: no 3
Pony slave: no no
Public exposure: no no
Public tasks: no 1
Pussy/cock whipping: no 1
Pussy worship: no no
Riding crops: no 2
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 2
Rituals: no 3
Religious scenes: no no
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 3
Rubber/latex clothing: no 2
Rope body harness: no 3
Saran wrapping:no 1
Scratching – getting: yes 2
Scratching – giving: yes 3
Sensory deprivation: no 3
Serving: no 4
Serving as art: no 2
Serving as ashtray: no no
Serving as furniture: no 0
Serving as a maid: no 3
Serving as toilet: no no
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 2
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no no
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no no
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 2
Sexual deprivation (long term): no no
Shaving (body hair): yes 4
Shaving (head hair) no no
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 4
Sleep deprivation: no 0
Sleep-sacks: no 0
Slutty clothing (private): yes 4
Slutty clothing (public): no 0
Spanking in private: no 4
Spanking in public: no no
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 0
Spanking pleasure: no 5
Spandex clothing: no 0
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 2
Speculums (Anal): no 2
Speculums (vaginal): no 2
Spreader bars: no 3
Standing in corner: no2
Stocks (adjustable): no 3
Stocks (fixed): no 3
Straight jackets: no no
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no no
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no no
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 0
Strapping (full body beating): no 0
Suspension (upright); no 3
Suspension (inverted): no 3
Suspension (horizontal): no 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: no no
Swallowing semen: yes 4
Swallowing urine: no no
Swapping (with one other couple): no no
Swinging (multiple couples): no no
Tattooing: yes 5
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: yes 4
Triple penetration: no 1
Triple penetration by 3 males: no no
Uniforms: no 3
Including others: no no
Vaginal dildo: yes 3
Verbal humiliation: no 3
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): no no
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no no
Video (watching others): yes 2
Video (recordings of you): no 2
Water torture: no 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 3
Whipping: no 2
Wooden paddles: no 2
Wrestling:no 2

[silver9]

Ohhh... thought I'd fill it out :p

Abrasion: 0
Age play: 0
Anal sex: 2
Anal plugs (small): 1
Anal plugs (large): 1
Anal plug (public, under clothes): 2
Animal roles: 4
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): 1
Asphyxiation: 2
Auctioned for charity: no
Bathroom use control: no
Bestiality: no
Beating (soft): 4
Beating (hard): 2
Blindfolds: 4
Being serviced (sexual): 3
Being bitten: 2
Breast/chest bondage: 2
Breath control: 3
Branding: 0
Boot worship: 0
Bondage (light): 3
Bondage (heavy): 2
Bondage (multi-day): 2
Bondage (public, under clothing): 0
Bondage and Sex: 5
Breast whipping: 2
Brown showers (scat): no
Cages (locked inside of): 4
Caning: 2
Catheterization: no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): 4
Chastity belts: 4
Chauffeuring: 2
Choking: 0
Clothespins breast/nipples: 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: 2
Clothespins body: 2
Cock worship: 5
Collars (worn in private): 5
Collars (worn in public): no
Competitions (with other Subs): no
Corsets (wearing): 4
Cuffs: 4
Cuffs (metal): 4
Cutting: no
Dilation: no
Double penetration: 4
Electricity: 2
Enemas: no
Enforced chastity: 4
Examinations (physical): 2
Exercise (forced/required): 2
Exhibitionism (friends): no
Exhibitionism (strangers): no
Eye contact restrictions: 4
Face slapping: 4
Fantasy abandonment: 4
Fantasy rape: 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: 4
Fantasy forced cunt licking: 4
Fantasy forced rape anal: 4
Fantasy gang-rape: no
Fisting (anal): 1
Fisting (vaginal): 2
Flogging: 3
Following hand signals: 3
Following orders: 5
Foot worship: 0
Forced dressing: 0
Forced homosexuality: 3
Forced masturbation: 5
Forced nudity (private): 5
Forced nudity (around others): no
Forced servitude: 4
Full head hoods: 2
Gags (cloth): 3
Gags (penis shaped): 3
Gags (rubber): 3
Gags (tape): 4
Gates of Hell: 0
Genital sex: 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no
Given away to another Domme (temp): no
Given away to another Dom (perm): no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no
Golden showers: no
Greetings rituals: 4
Hairbrush spankings: 5
Hair pulling: 5
Hand jobs (giving): 4
Hand jobs (receiving): 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): 0
Harnessing (leather): 3
Harnessing (rope): 3
Having food chosen for you: 4
Having clothing chosen for you: 0
Head (giving cunnilingus): 3
Head (giving fellatio): 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): 3
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship: 0
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): 2
Hot oils (on genitals): 2
Hot waxing: 3
Housework (doing): 4
Human puppy dog: 5
Humiliation (private): 4
Humiliation (public): 4
Hypnotism: 0
Ice cubes: 4
Infantilism: no
Initiation rites: 1
Injections: 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: 1
Interrogations: 1
Kidnapping: 1
Kneeling: 5
Leather clothing: 2
restraints chains: 5
restraints leather: 4
restraints rope: 4
Lectures for misbehavior: 5
Licking (non-sexual): 3
Manacles & Irons: 3
Manicures (giving): 0
Massage (giving): 4
Massage (receiving): 5
Medical scenes: 0

Modeling for erotic photos: 3
Modeling for erotic videos: 3
Mouth bits: 3
Mummification: 0
Nipple clamps: 4
Nipple cloths pins: 4
Nipple weights: 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): 1
Over-the-knee spanking: 5
Orgasm denial: 5
Orgasm control: 5
Outdoor scenes: 2
Outdoor sex: 2
Phone sex (serving Dom): 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no
Piercing (permanent): no
Prison scenes: 2
Pony slave: 2
Public exposure: 0
Public tasks: 1
Pussy/cock whipping: 1
Pussy worship: 1
Riding crops: 2
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): 2
Rituals: 1
Religious scenes: 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: 5
Rubber/latex clothing: 1
Rope body harness: 1
Saran wrapping: 1
Scratching – getting: 1
Scratching – giving: 1
Sensory deprivation: 2
Serving: 5
Serving as art: 0
Serving as ashtray: 0
Serving as furniture: 4
Serving as a maid: 5
Serving as toilet: no
Serving as waitress/waiter: 3
Serving orally (sexual): 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no
Sexual deprivation (short term): 4
Sexual deprivation (long term): 0
Shaving (body hair): 4
Shaving (head hair): no
Shaving (pubic hair): 4
Sleep deprivation: 1
Sleep-sacks: 1
Slutty clothing (private): 5
Slutty clothing (public): 2
Spanking in private: 5
Spanking in public: 1
Spanking in bdsm parties: no
Spanking pleasure: 5
Spandex clothing: 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): 5
Speculums (Anal): 1
Speculums (vaginal): 1
Spreader bars: 2
Standing in corner: 3
Stocks (adjustable): 1
Stocks (fixed): 1
Straight jackets: 0
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): 3
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): 1
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): 0
Strapping (full body beating): 2
Suspension (upright); 2
Suspension (inverted): 2
Suspension (horizontal): 2
Supplying new partners for Dom: no
Swallowing semen: 4
Swallowing urine: no
Swapping (with one other couple): no
Swinging (multiple couples): no
Tattooing: 0
Teasing: 5
Tickling: 2
Triple penetration: 2
Triple penetration by 3 males: no
Uniforms: 4
Including others: no
Vaginal dildo: 4
Verbal humiliation: 4
Vibrator on genitals: 4
Voyeurism (watching others): no
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no
Video (watching others): 4
Video (recordings of you): 0
Water torture: 0
Wearing symbolic jewelry: 3
Whipping: 3
Wooden paddles: 3
Wrestling: 0

and all have the * for only with a partner :)

[Sir_Russell]

sub84 and silver9

silver9 it hard to get much of a read without the yes/no for experienced or not. Makes a true reading almost impossible, I will say that your new to life I think and a lot of what you have here will change once you find a real Dom to train you.

sub84 I do see you as being new with little experience and yet a desire that may take you deep into the lifestyle. To you I warn that you need to be very careful with the Dom you select if he is a hardcore Dom that can't scale back to teach you will be lost from the life.

[sub84]

sub84 and silver9


sub84 I do see you as being new with little experience and yet a desire that may take you deep into the lifestyle. To you I warn that you need to be very careful with the Dom you select if he is a hardcore Dom that can't scale back to teach you will be lost from the life.

thank you for your input you are correct hat i have very little experince in this lifestyle. ive had a few boyfriends that have balked and said i was just too wierd for them because of the things i was interested in lol such is life. it seems to be proving difficult for me to find a dom at all

[Lingeriebitchboy]

Abrasion: yes 3
Age play: no 1
Anal sex: no 3
Anal plugs (small): yes 4
Anal plugs (large): no 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 4
Animal roles: yes 2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 3
Asphyxiation: yes 3
Auctioned for charity: no 3
Bathroom use control: no 2
Bestiality: no 1
Beating (soft): yes 3
Beating (hard): yes 2
Blindfolds: yes 4
Being serviced (sexual): yes 3
Being bitten: yes 4
Breast/chest bondage: yes 3
Breath control: yes 2
Branding: no no
Boot worship: no 3
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 4
Bondage (multi-day): no 2
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 5
Bondage and Sex: yes 4
Breast whipping: no 3
Brown showers (scat): no 0
Cages (locked inside of): no 2
Caning: no 2
Catheterization: no 1
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 2
Chastity belts: no 2
Chauffeuring: yes 2
Choking: yes 2
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: n/a
Clothespins body: yes 4
Cock worship: no 2
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): no 3
Competitions (with other Subs): no 2
Corsets (wearing): no 4
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: no no no no no
Dilation: ?
Double penetration: no 3
Electricity: no 3
Enemas: no 3
Enforced chastity: no 2
Examinations (physical): no 3
Exercise (forced/required): no 2
Exhibitionism (friends): no 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 4
Eye contact restrictions: no 2
Face slapping: yes 3
Fantasy abandonment: no 2
Fantasy rape: no 3
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 4
Fantasy forced cunt licking: yes 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 4
Fantasy gang-rape: no 2
Fisting (anal): no 2
Fisting (vaginal): n/a
Flogging: no 2
Following hand signals: yes 3
Following orders: yes 3
Foot worship: yes 4
Forced dressing: yes 5
Forced homosexuality: no 3
Forced masturbation: yes 5
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no 3
Forced servitude: no 3
Full head hoods: no 2
Gags (cloth): yes 4
Gags (penis shaped): no 4
Gags (rubber): no 4
Gags (tape): yes 4
Gates of Hell:no 1
Genital sex: yes 4
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 2
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 3
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no 3
Greetings rituals: no 3
Hairbrush spankings: yes 4
Hair pulling: yes 3
Hand jobs (giving): no 3
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 3
Harnessing (leather): no 3
Harnessing (rope): no 3
Having food chosen for you: no 2
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 4
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): no 3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): n/a
Head (receiving fellatio male only): yes 4
High heel worship: no 3
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 3
Hot oils (on genitals): no 3
Hot waxing: yes 4
Housework (doing): yes 3
Human puppy dog: yes 3
Humiliation (private): yes 5
Humiliation (public): yes 4
Hypnotism: no 2
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism: no 1
Initiation rites: no 2
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no 2
Kidnapping: no 2
Kneeling: yes 3
Leather clothing: no 2
restraints chains: yes 4
restraints leather: yes 4
restraints rope: yes 4
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 3
Licking (non-sexual): yes 2
Manacles & Irons: no 3
Manicures (giving): yes 4
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): yes 4
Medical scenes: no 2

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 4
Modeling for erotic videos: yes 4
Mouth bits: no 2
Mummification: no 2
Nipple clamps: yes 4
Nipple cloths pins: yes 4
Nipple weights: yes 4
Oral/anal play (rimming):no 3
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 4
Orgasm denial: yes 4
Orgasm control: yes 4
Outdoor scenes: yes 3
Outdoor sex: yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 4
Piercing (permanent): no no
Prison scenes: no 3
Pony slave: no 3
Public exposure:no 4
Public tasks: yes 3
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 4
Pussy worship: yes 4
Riding crops: no 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):?
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no 2
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 3
Rubber/latex clothing: no 3
Rope body harness: no 3
Saran wrapping:yes 4
Scratching – getting: yes 3
Scratching – giving: yes 2
Sensory deprivation: yes 4
Serving: yes 4
Serving as art:no 2
Serving as ashtray:no 3
Serving as furniture: yes 3
Serving as a maid: no 3
Serving as toilet: no 3
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 3
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 2
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): yes 3
Shaving (body hair): no 3
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 4
Sleep deprivation: no 1
Sleep-sacks: no 1
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): no 3
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no 3
Spanking in bdsm parties:no 4
Spanking pleasure:?
Spandex clothing: no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what):yes 2
Speculums (Anal): no 3
Speculums (vaginal): n/a
Spreader bars: yes 4
Standing in corner: no 3
Stocks (adjustable): no 3
Stocks (fixed): no 3
Straight jackets: no 3
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):no 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 4
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 3
Strapping (full body beating): no 2
Suspension (upright); no 2
Suspension (inverted): no 2
Suspension (horizontal): no 2
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 1
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: yes 3
Swapping (with one other couple): no 2
Swinging (multiple couples): no 2
Tattooing: no no no no
Teasing: yes 4
Tickling: yes 3
Triple penetration: n/a
Triple penetration by 3 males: n/a
Uniforms: no 2
Including others: no 3
Vaginal dildo: n/a
Verbal humiliation: yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): no 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 3
Video (watching others): yes 3
Video (recordings of you): yes 4
Water torture: no 2
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 2
Whipping: yes 3
Wooden paddles: yes 3
Wrestling:no 2

[ShaynaUnderBondage]

The one for sub/slaves

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: No 2
Age play: No - No
Anal sex: Yes 5
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large): Yes 5
Anal plug (public, under clothes): Yes 4
Animal roles: No- No
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): No - 3
Asphyxiation: Yes - 4
Auctioned for charity: No- no
Bathroom use control: No - 3
Bestiality: No - no
Beating (soft): Yes - 5
Beating (hard): Yes - 5
Blindfolds: yes -5
Being serviced (sexual): Yes - 3
Being bitten: Yes - 4
Breast/chest bondage: Yes 5
Breath control: Yes - 5
Branding: No - No
Boot worship: No - 3
Bondage (light): Yes - 5
Bondage (heavy): Yes - 5
Bondage (multi-day): No -5
Bondage (public, under clothing): Yes 5
Bondage and Sex: Yes 5
Breast whipping: Yes - 5
Brown showers (scat): No - No
Cages (locked inside of): No -3
Caning: Yes - 3
Catheterization: No - No
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): No - 3
Chastity belts: No - 3
Chauffeuring: No - 3
Choking: Yes - 5
Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes - 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: Yes -5
Clothespins body: No - 3
Cock worship: No - 4
Collars (worn in private): no - 5
Competitions (with other Subs): No- No
Corsets (wearing): No - 3
Cuffs: Yes -5
Cuffs (metal): Yes -5
Cutting: Yes- 3
Dilation: No- No
Double penetration: Yes - 5
Electricity: No - 3
Enemas: No - 4
Enforced chastity: No- 3
Examinations (physical): No - 3
Exercise (forced/required): No - 2
Exhibitionism (friends): No - No
Exhibitionism (strangers): No - No
Eye contact restrictions: Yes - 5
Face slapping: Yes - 5
Fantasy abandonment: No - 3
Fantasy rape: No - 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: Yes - 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: Yes -5
Fantasy forced rape anal: yes - 5
Fantasy gang-rape: No - 4
Fisting (anal): Yes - 4
Fisting (vaginal): Yes - 5
Flogging: Yes - 5
Following hand signals: No - 2
Following orders: Yes - 5
Foot worship: No - 3
Forced dressing: No - 3
Forced homosexuality: No - 3
Forced masturbation: Yes -5
Forced nudity (private): Yes - 5
Forced nudity (around others): No - No
Forced servitude: No- 3
Full head hoods: No - 3
Gags (cloth): Yes - 5
Gags (penis shaped): No - 5
Gags (rubber): Yes - 5
Gags (tape): Yes - 5
Gates of Hell: No - No
Genital sex: Yes - 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): No -No
Given away to another Domme (temp): No - No
Given away to another Dom (perm): No - No
Given away to another Domme (perm): No -No
Golden showers: No - 3
Greetings rituals: No - 5
Hairbrush spankings: Yes - 5
Hair pulling: Yes - 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): NA
Harems (serving w/other subs): no- No
Harnessing (leather): No - 2
Harnessing (rope): No - 2
Having food chosen for you: No - 3
Having clothing chosen for you: No -3
Head (giving cunnilingus): No - 3
Head (giving fellatio): Yes - 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): Yes - 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): NA
High heel worship: No - 3
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): No - 3
Hot oils (on genitals): No - 4
Hot waxing: No - 3
Housework (doing): No - 3
Human puppy dog: No - 3
Humiliation (private): Yes - 5
Humiliation (public): No - No
Hypnotism: no - no
Ice cubes: Yes - 5
Infantilism: No -No
Initiation rites: No - 2
Injections: No - No
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: No - 2
Interrogations: No - 3
Kidnapping: No - 3
Kneeling: Yes - 5
Leather clothing: No - 2
restraints chains: Yes - 5
restraints leather: Yes -5
restraints rope: Yes - 5
Lectures for misbehavior: No - 4
Licking (non-sexual): No - 3
Manacles & Irons: No - 2
Manicures (giving): No - 1
Massage (giving): Yes - 3
Massage (receiving): Yes - 2
Medical scenes: No - 5

Modeling for erotic photos: No - No
Modeling for erotic videos: No -No
Mouth bits: No - 5
Mummification: No - 4
Nipple clamps: Yes - 5
Nipple cloths pins: Yes - 5
Nipple weights: No - 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): Yes - 5
Over-the-knee spanking: Yes - 5
Orgasm denial: Yes - 4
Orgasm control: No - 4
Outdoor scenes: No - No
Outdoor sex: No - No
Phone sex (serving Dom): Yes - 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): No - NO
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): No - No
Piercing (permanent): No - No
Prison scenes: No - 3
Pony slave: No -No
Public exposure: No - No
Public tasks: No -No
Pussy/cock whipping: No - 4
Pussy worship: No - 4
Riding crops: Yes - 5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): Yes - 5
Rituals: No - 5
Religious scenes: No - 3
Restrictive rules on behavior: No - 4
Rubber/latex clothing: No - 3
Rope body harness: No - 3
Saran wrapping: No - 4
Scratching – getting: Yes - 5
Scratching – giving: Yes - 5
Sensory deprivation: Yes - 5
Serving: No - 4
Serving as art: No - no
Serving as ashtray: No 2
Serving as furniture: No - 2
Serving as a maid: No - 4
Serving as toilet: No - No
Serving as waitress/waiter: No - 3
Serving orally (sexual): Yes 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): No - No
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): No - no
Sexual deprivation (short term): No - No
Sexual deprivation (long term): No No
Shaving (body hair): Yes 3
Shaving (head hair): No - No
Shaving (pubic hair): Yes - 4
Sleep deprivation: No - No
Sleep-sacks: No - 3
Slutty clothing (private): yes - 5
Slutty clothing (public): No and No
Spanking in private: Yes - 5
Spanking in public: no - no
Spanking in bdsm parties: no - no
Spanking pleasure: Yes - 5
Spandex clothing: No - 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): No, 2
Speculums (Anal): No - 4
Speculums (vaginal): No - 4
Spreader bars: yes 5
Standing in corner: No 5
Stocks (adjustable): No 4
Stocks (fixed): no 4
Straight jackets: no 4
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 2
Strapping (full body beating): no 4
Suspension (upright); no 4
Suspension (inverted): no 4
Suspension (horizontal): no 4
Supplying new partners for Dom: no no
Swallowing semen: yes 4
Swallowing urine: no 3
Swapping (with one other couple): no - no
Swinging (multiple couples): no - no
Tattooing: no- no
Teasing: yes- 5
Tickling: yes - 3
Triple penetration: no - 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: no -5
Uniforms: no -3
Including others: no - no
Vaginal dildo: yes -3
Verbal humiliation: yes - 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes - 5
Voyeurism (watching others): no - no
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no - no
Video (watching others): no - 3
Video (recordings of you): no - no
Water torture: no - 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no - 5
Whipping: yes - 5
Wooden paddles: yes - 5
Wrestling: no - 2

[Sir_Russell]

Lingeriebitchboy,
Please do not that this the wrong way but I have little experience with sub males. I would say though that your pretty new to the life but seem to have a willingness to expand your horizons. Since I don't know if your looking for a Dom or a Domme I am going to warn you to be careful in your selection. You need to be very open with any you are considering, show them you list and ask them to do one for you. Then talk about are they willing to train you at a pace you can handle safely.

[Sir_Russell]

SubbieTiedUp,
I get a strange reading from you not sure if your new with someone that asked for a lot in a short period or if your experienced but had a Dom that wasn't that creative or just knew what he liked.

You seem to be quite willing to try most things so I would say that you can become quite a good sub/slave for the right Dominant

[michaela1 (Sa)]

Activity Experience Willingness Activity Experience Willingness
Abrasion y 1 Injections: N N
Age play Y 2 Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: N 5
Anal sex: Y 5 Interrogations: N 1
Anal plugs (small) Y 4 Kidnapping: N 5
Anal plugs (large) N 1 Kneeling: Y 4
Anal plugs (under clothing in public) Y 2 Leather clothing: N 5
Animal roles Y 2 Restraints chains: Y 5
Arm & leg sleeves (arm binders): N 3 Restraints leather: Y 5
Asphyxiation: Y N Restraints rope: Y 5
Auctioned for charity: N 1 Lectures for misbehavior: Y 4
Bathroom use control: Y 2 Licking (non-sexual): y 3
Bestiality: N N Manacles & Irons: Y 5
Beating (soft): Y 2 Manicures (giving): N 3
Beating (hard): N 2 Massage (giving): Y 5
Blindfolds: Y 5 Massage (receiving): Y 4
Being serviced (sexual): Y 4 Medical scenes: N 5
Being bitten: Y 3 Modeling for erotic photos: Y 4
Breast/chest bondage: Y 5 Modeling for erotic videos: Y 4
Breath control: N 1 Mouth bits: N 4
Branding: Y N Mummification: Y 5
Boot worship: N 1 Nipple clamps: Y 5
Bondage (light): Y 5 Nipple cloths pins: Y 5
Bondage (heavy): Y 5 Nipple weights: N 4
Bondage (multi-day): N 5 Oral/anal play (rimming): Y 5
Bondage (public, under clothing): Y 5 Over-the-knee spanking: Y 5
Bondage and Sex: Y 5 Orgasm denial: Y 4
Breast whipping: Y 4 Orgasm control: Y 5
Brown showers (scat): N N Outdoor scenes: Y 4
Cages (locked inside of): N 4 Outdoor sex: Y 4
Caning: Y 4 Phone sex (serving Dom): Y 4
Catheterization: N N Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): N 3
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): Y 1 Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): N 5
Chastity belts: Y 3 Piercing (permanent): y N
Chauffeuring: Y 3 Prison scenes: N 1
Choking: N N Pony slave: N 2
Clothespins breast/nipples: Y 4 Public exposure: Y 2
Clothespins labia lips/clit: Y 4 Public tasks: Y 3
Clothespins body: Y 3 Pussy/cock whipping: Y 4
Cock worship: Y 4 Pussy worship: N 3
Collars (worn in private): Y 5 Riding crops: Y 4
Collars (worn in public): Y 5 Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): N 4
Competitions (with other Subs): Y 3 Rituals: N 3
Corsets (wearing): Y 2 Religious scenes: N N
Cuffs: Y 5 Restrictive rules on behavior: Y 4
Cuffs: (metal) Y 5 Rubber/latex clothing: N 4
Cutting N N Rope body harness: Y 5
Dilation: N N Saran wrapping: Y 5
Double penetration: Y 5 Scratching – getting: Y 3
Electricity: Y 1 Scratching-giving Y 3
Enemas: Y 1 Sensory deprivation: N 5
Enforced chastity: N 1 Serving: Y 5
Examinations (physical): Y 4 Serving as art: N 5
Exercise (forced/required): Y 1 Serving as ashtray: N N
Exhibitionism (friends): Y 2 Serving as furniture: y 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): N 1 Serving as a maid: Y 4
Eye contact restrictions Y 1 Serving as toilet: N N
Face slapping: N N Serving as waitress/waiter: Y 5
Fantasy abandonment: N 1 Serving orally (sexual): Y 5
Fantasy rape: Y 4 Serving other Doms (supervised): N 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: Y 3 Serving other Doms (unsupervised): N 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: N 3 Sexual deprivation (short term): Y 4
Fantasy forced rape anal: Y 2 Sexual deprivation (long term): N 3
Fantasy gang-rape: N N Shaving (body hair): N 1
Fisting (anal): N N Shaving (head hair): N/A N/A
Fisting (vaginal): Y N Shaving (pubic hair): Y 2
Flogging Y 4 Spanking in private: Y 5
Following hand signals: N 3 Spanking in public: N 4
Following orders: Y 5 Spanking in bdsm party: N 5
Foot worship N 2 Spanking pleasure: Y 5
Forced dressing: Y 5 Spandex clothing: N 4
Forced homosexuality: N 1 Speech restrictions (when, what): Y 4
Forced masturbation: Y 3 Speculums (Anal): N 1
Forced nudity (private): Y 5 Speculums (Vagina): N 4
Forced nudity (around others): Y 4 Spreader bars: y 5
Forced servitude: Y 5 Standing in corner: Y 4
Full head hoods: N 5 Stocks (adjustable): y 5
Gags (cloth): Y 5 Stocks (fixed): N 5
Gags (penis shaped): Y 5 Straight jackets: N 5
Gags (rubber): Y 5 Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): Y 5
Gags (tape): N 5 Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): Y 5
Gates of Hell: N/A N/A Strap-on-dildos (wearing): Y 5
Genital sex: N/A N/A Strapping (full body beating): N 2
Given away to another Dom (temp): N 2 Suspension (upright); y 5
Given away to another Domme (temp): N 2 Suspension (inverted): y 5
Given away to another Dom (perm): N 2 Suspension (horizontal): y 5
Given away to another Domme (perm): N 2 Supplying new partners for Dom: N 1
Golden showers: N N Swallowing semen: Y 1
Greetings rituals: Y 4 Swallowing urine: N N
Hairbrush spankings: Y 5 Swapping (with one other couple): y 1
Hair pulling: Y 5 Swinging (multiple couples): N 1
Hand jobs (giving): Y 4 Tattooing: y N
Hand jobs (receiving): Y 4 Teasing: Y 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): Y 5 Tickling: Y 5
Harnessing (leather): N 5 Triple penetration: Y 5
Harnessing (rope): N 5 Triple penetration by 3 males: y 4
Having food chosen for you: Y 5 Uniforms: N 4
Having clothing chosen for you: Y 5 Including others: Y 4
Head (giving cunnilingus): Y 4 Vaginal dildo: Y 5
Head (giving fellatio): N N Verbal humiliation: Y 3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): Y 4 Vibrator on genitals: Y 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): N N Voyeurism (watching others): Y 4
High heel worship: N 1 Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): Y 4
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): Y 1 Video (watching others): Y 3
Hot oils (on genitals): Y 4 Video (recordings of you): Y 4
Hot waxing: Y 4 Water torture: N 1
Housework (doing): Y 3 Wearing symbolic jewelry: N 4
Human puppy dog: N 3 Whipping: N 4
Humiliation (private): Y 3
Humiliation (public): Y 3
Hypnotism: N 3
Ice cubes: Y 5
Infantilism: N 1
Initiation rites: N 2

[tora]

Abrasion: Yes 1
Age play: Yes 3
Anal sex: No 0
Anal plugs (small):Yes 5
Anal plugs (large): Yes 5
Anal plug (public, under clothes): Yes 5
Animal roles: Yes 5
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): No 5
Asphyxiation: Yes 2
Auctioned for charity: No 2
Bathroom use control: Yes 5
Bestiality: No 3
Beating (soft): Yes 5
Beating (hard): Yes 4
Blindfolds: Yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): Yes 5
Being bitten: Yes 4
Breast/chest bondage: Yes 5
Breath control: Yes 4
Branding: No 3
Boot worship: No 3
Bondage (light): Yes 5
Bondage (heavy): Yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): Yes 5
Bondage (public, under clothing): Yes 5
Bondage and Sex: Yes 5
Breast whipping: Yes 5
Brown showers (scat): No 0
Cages (locked inside of): Yes 3
Caning: No 4
Catheterization: No 2
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): Yes 5
Chastity belts: No 4
Chauffeuring: No 2
Choking: Yes 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: Yes 3
Clothespins body: Yes 3
Cock worship: Yes 5
Collars (worn in private): Yes 5
Collars (worn in public): Yes 3
Competitions (with other Subs): Yes 2
Corsets (wearing): No 5
Cuffs: Yes 5
Cuffs (metal): Yes 3
Cutting: Yes 3
Dilation: No 2
Double penetration: Yes 5
Electricity: Yes 4
Enemas: Yes 3
Enforced chastity: No 4
Examinations (physical): Yes 3
Exercise (forced/required): Yes 3
Exhibitionism (friends): No (OL 4) (RL 2)
Exhibitionism (strangers): No (OL 4) (RL 1)
Eye contact restrictions: Yes 4
Face slapping: Yes 5
Fantasy abandonment: No 0
Fantasy rape: Yes No
Fantasy forced deep throat: Yes 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: No 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: No No
Fantasy gang-rape: No No
Fisting (anal): No 3
Fisting (vaginal): Yes 4
Flogging: Yes 5
Following hand signals: Yes 3
Following orders: Yes 5
Foot worship: Yes 2
Forced dressing: Yes 5
Forced homosexuality: No 4
Forced masturbation: Yes 5
Forced nudity (private): Yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): No 0
Forced servitude: Yes 5
Full head hoods: No 5
Gags (cloth): Yes 5
Gags (penis shaped): No 5
Gags (rubber): Yes 5
Gags (tape): Yes 5
Gates of Hell: n/a
Genital sex: Yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): No 4
Given away to another Domme (temp): No 4
Given away to another Dom (perm): No 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): No 0
Golden showers: Yes 1
Greetings rituals: Yes 4
Hairbrush spankings: Yes 5
Hair pulling: Yes 4
Hand jobs (giving): Yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): N/a
Harems (serving w/other subs): (RL no 3) (OL yes 4)
Harnessing (leather): No 5
Harnessing (rope): Yes 5
Having food chosen for you: Yes 3
Having clothing chosen for you: Yes 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): Yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): Yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): Yes 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: No 3
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): Yes 3
Hot oils (on genitals): Yes 3
Hot waxing: Yes 2
Housework (doing): Yes 1
Human puppy dog: No 2
Humiliation (private): Yes 5
Humiliation (public): Yes 3
Hypnotism: No
Ice cubes: Yes 4
Infantilism: No 4
Initiation rites: No 3
Injections: No 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: Yes 5
Interrogations: No 3
Kidnapping: No 0
Kneeling: Yes 5
Leather clothing: Yes 5
restraints chains: No 5
restraints leather: Yes 5
restraints rope: Yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior: Yes 2
Licking (non-sexual): Yes 2
Manacles & Irons: No 4
Manicures (giving): No 4
Massage (giving): Yes 5
Massage (receiving): Yes 3
Medical scenes: No 4

Modeling for erotic photos: Yes No
Modeling for erotic videos: Yes No
Mouth bits: No 4
Mummification: No 4
Nipple clamps: Yes 4
Nipple cloths pins: Yes 3
Nipple weights: Yes 3
Oral/anal play (rimming): Yes 2
Over-the-knee spanking: Yes 5
Orgasm denial: Yes 3
Orgasm control: Yes 5
Outdoor scenes: Yes 4
Outdoor sex: Yes 2
Phone sex (serving Dom): Yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): No 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): No 3
Piercing (permanent): No 2
Prison scenes: No 3
Pony slave: No 4
Public exposure: Yes 1
Public tasks: Yes 2
Pussy/cock whipping: Yes 4
Pussy worship: No 4
Riding crops: No 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): Yes 3
Rituals: Yes 4
Religious scenes: No 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: Yes 4
Rubber/latex clothing: No 5
Rope body harness: Yes 5
Saran wrapping: Yes 4
Scratching – getting: Yes 3
Scratching – giving: Yes 5
Sensory deprivation: Yes 5
Serving: Yes 4
Serving as art: No 2
Serving as ashtray: No 1
Serving as furniture: Yes 3
Serving as a maid: Yes 2
Serving as toilet: No 0
Serving as waitress/waiter: Yes 2
Serving orally (sexual): Yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): No 3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): No 1
Sexual deprivation (short term): Yes 4
Sexual deprivation (long term): Yes 3
Shaving (body hair): Yes 5
Shaving (head hair): No 2
Shaving (pubic hair): No 2
Sleep deprivation: Yes 2
Sleep-sacks: No 3
Slutty clothing (private): Yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): Yes 3
Spanking in private: Yes 5
Spanking in public: Yes 2
Spanking in bdsm parties: No 4
Spanking pleasure:Yes 4
Spandex clothing: Yes 3
Speech restrictions (when, what): Yes 4
Speculums (Anal): No 3
Speculums (vaginal): No 4
Spreader bars: Yes 5
Standing in corner: Yes 3
Stocks (adjustable): No 4
Stocks (fixed): No 4
Straight jackets: No 4
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): No 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): No 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): No 3
Strapping (full body beating): Yes 3
Suspension (upright); No 4
Suspension (inverted): No 3
Suspension (horizontal): No 4
Supplying new partners for Dom: No 1
Swallowing semen: Yes 5
Swallowing urine: Yes 0
Swapping (with one other couple): No 2
Swinging (multiple couples): No 2
Tattooing: No 2
Teasing: Yes 3
Tickling: Yes 2
Triple penetration: Yes 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: No 3
Uniforms: No 4
Including others: No 2
Vaginal dildo: Yes 5
Verbal humiliation: Yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: Yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): Yes 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): (No RL 0) (Yes OL 3)
Video (watching others): Yes 3
Video (recordings of you): Yes 0
Water torture: Yes 4
Wearing symbolic jewelry: Yes 5
Whipping: Yes 4
Wooden paddles: Yes 3
Wrestling: No 3

[subbie67]

xx

[boundbyu]

Thank You Sir Russell

Abrasion Y 1
Age play Y 2
Anal sex: Y 1
Anal plugs (small) Y 1
Anal plugs (large) N 1
Anal plugs (under clothing in public) Y 2
Animal roles N 2
Arm & leg sleeves (arm binders): N 3
Asphyxiation: Y N
Auctioned for charity: N 1
Bathroom use control: Y 2
Bestiality: N N
Beating (soft): Y 2
Beating (hard): N 2
Blindfolds: Y 5
Being serviced (sexual): N 4
Being bitten: Y 3
Breast/chest bondage: Y 5
Breath control: N 1
Branding: N N
Boot worship: N 1
Bondage (light): Y 5
Bondage (heavy): Y 5
Bondage (multi-day): N 5
Bondage (public, under clothing): Y 5
Bondage and Sex: Y 5
Breast whipping: Y 4
Brown showers (scat): N N
Cages (locked inside of): N 4
Caning: N 2
Catheterization: N N
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): N 4
Chastity belts: Y 3
Chauffeuring: Y 3
Choking: N N
Clothespins breast/nipples: Y 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: Y 4
Clothespins body: Y 3
Cock worship: Y 4
Collars (worn in private): Y 5
Collars (worn in public): Y 5
Competitions (with other Subs): Y 3
Corsets (wearing): N 2
Cuffs: Y 5
Cuffs: (metal) Y 5
Cutting N N
Dilation: N N
Double penetration: Y 5
Electricity: N 3
Enemas: Y 1
Enforced chastity: N 1
Examinations (physical): Y 4
Exercise (forced/required): Y 1
Exhibitionism (friends): Y 2
Exhibitionism (strangers): N 1
Eye contact restrictions Y 1
Face slapping: N N
Fantasy abandonment: N 1
Fantasy rape: Y 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: Y 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: N 3
Fantasy forced rape anal: Y 2
Fantasy gang-rape: N N
Fisting (anal): N N
Fisting (vaginal): Y N
Flogging Y 4
Following hand signals: N 3
Following orders: Y 5
Foot worship N 2
Forced dressing: Y 5
Forced homosexuality: N 1
Forced masturbation: Y 3
Forced nudity (private): Y 5
Forced nudity (around others): Y 4
Forced servitude: Y 5
Full head hoods: N 5
Gags (cloth): Y 5
Gags (penis shaped): Y 5
Gags (rubber): Y 5
Gags (tape): N 5
Gates of Hell: N/A N/A
Genital sex: N/A N/A
Given away to another Dom (temp): N 2
Given away to another Domme (temp): N 2
Given away to another Dom (perm): N 2
Given away to another Domme (perm): N 2
Golden showers: N N
Greetings rituals: N 2
Hairbrush spankings: Y 5
Hair pulling: Y 5
Hand jobs (giving): Y 4
Hand jobs (receiving): Y 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): Y 5
Harnessing (leather): N 5
Harnessing (rope): N 5
Having food chosen for you: Y 5
Having clothing chosen for you: Y 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): Y 4
Head (giving fellatio): N N
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only) Y 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): N N
High heel worship: N 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): Y 1
Hot oils (on genitals): Y 4
Hot waxing: Y 4
Housework (doing): Y 3
Human puppy dog: N 3
Humiliation (private): Y 3
Humiliation (public): Y 3
Hypnotism: N 3
Ice cubes: Y 5
Infantilism: N 1
Initiation rites: N 2
Injections: N N
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: N 5
Interrogations: N 1
Kidnapping: N 5
Kneeling: Y 4
Leather clothing: N 5
Restraints chains: Y 5
Restraints leather: Y 5
Restraints rope: Y 5
Lectures for misbehavior: Y 4
Licking (non-sexual): N 3
Manacles & Irons: Y 5
Manicures (giving): N 3
Massage (giving): Y 5
Massage (receiving): Y 4
Medical scenes: N 5
Modeling for erotic photos: Y 4
Modeling for erotic videos: Y 4
Mouth bits: N 4
Mummification: Y 5
Nipple clamps: Y 5
Nipple cloths pins: Y 5
Nipple weights: N 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): Y 5
Over-the-knee spanking: Y 5
Orgasm denial: Y 4
Orgasm control: Y 5
Outdoor scenes: Y 4
Outdoor sex: Y 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): Y 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): N 3
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): N 5
Piercing (permanent): N N
Prison scenes: N 1
Pony slave: N 2
Public exposure: Y 2
Public tasks: Y 3
Pussy/cock whipping: Y 4
Pussy worship: N 3
Riding crops: Y 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): N 4
Rituals: N 3
Religious scenes: N N
Restrictive rules on behavior: Y 4
Rubber/latex clothing: N 4
Rope body harness: Y 5
Saran wrapping: Y 5
Scratching – getting: Y 3
Scratching-giving Y 3
Sensory deprivation: N 5
Serving: Y 5
Serving as art: N 5
Serving as ashtray: N N
Serving as furniture: N 3
Serving as a maid: Y 4
Serving as toilet: N N
Serving as waitress/waiter: Y 5
Serving orally (sexual): Y 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): N 4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): N 3
Sexual deprivation (short term): Y 4
Sexual deprivation (long term): N 3
Shaving (body hair): N 1
Shaving (head hair): N/A N/A
Shaving (pubic hair): Y 2
Spanking in private: Y 5
Spanking in public: N 4
Spanking in bdsm party: N 5
Spanking pleasure: Y 5
Spandex clothing: N 4
Speech restrictions (when, what): Y 4
Speculums (Anal): N 1
Speculums (Vagina): N 4
Spreader bars: N 5
Standing in corner: Y 4
Stocks (adjustable): N 5
Stocks (fixed): N 5
Straight jackets: N 5
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): Y 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): Y 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): Y 5
Strapping (full body beating): N 2
Suspension (upright); N 5
Suspension (inverted): N 5
Suspension (horizontal): N 5
Supplying new partners for Dom: N 1
Swallowing semen: Y 1
Swallowing urine: N N
Swapping (with one other couple): N 1
Swinging (multiple couples): N 1
Tattooing: N N
Teasing: Y 5
Tickling: Y 5
Triple penetration: Y 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: N 4
Uniforms: N 4
Including others: Y 4
Vaginal dildo: Y 5
Verbal humiliation: Y 3
Vibrator on genitals: Y 4
Voyeurism (watching others): Y 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): Y 4
Video (watching others): Y 3
Video (recordings of you): Y 4
Water torture: N 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry: N 4
Whipping: N 4

[paola]

Abrasion: no 0
Age play: no 0
Anal sex: yes 2/3
Anal plugs (small): no 2
Anal plugs (large): no no
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 2
Animal roles: no 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 2
Asphyxiation: no 0
Auctioned for charity: no no
Bathroom use control: no 2
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): yes 3
Beating (hard): no 1
Blindfolds: no 4
Being serviced (sexual): yes 4
Being bitten: yes 3
Breast/chest bondage: no 2
Breath control: no 2
Branding: no no
Boot worship: no 0
Bondage (light): yes 4/5
Bondage (heavy): no 3
Bondage (multi-day): no 3
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 3/4
Bondage and Sex: yes 3
Breast whipping: no 2
Brown showers (scat): no no
Cages (locked inside of): no 2
Caning: no 2
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 2
Chastity belts: no 2
Chauffeuring: no 0
Choking: no 2
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 3/4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 2
Clothespins body: no 2
Cock worship: ?? I love cock
Collars (worn in private): no 4
Collars (worn in public): no 4
Competitions (with other Subs): no 1
Corsets (wearing): no 2
Cuffs: yes 3
Cuffs (metal): yes 3
Cutting: no no
Dilation: no 0
Double penetration: yes 3
Electricity: no 1
Enemas: no 1
Enforced chastity: no2
Examinations (physical): no 2
Exercise (forced/required): no 2
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 3
Eye contact restrictions: no 3/4
Face slapping: no 1
Fantasy abandonment: no no
Fantasy rape: no 4/5
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: no no
Fantasy gang-rape: no 2
Fisting (anal) no no:
Fisting (vaginal): no 0
Flogging: no 3
Following hand signals: no 3
Following orders: yes 3
Foot worship: no 0
Forced dressing: no 2
Forced homosexuality: no 3
Forced masturbation: yes 3
Forced nudity (private): yes 3
Forced nudity (around others): no 2
Forced servitude: no 3
Full head hoods: no 3
Gags (cloth): no 4/5
Gags (penis shaped):no 4/5
Gags (rubber): no 3
Gags (tape): no 3
Gates of Hell: whats this?
Genital sex: yes 4
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 3
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 3
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no no
Greetings rituals: no 4/5
Hairbrush spankings: yes 3
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 3/4
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 3
Harnessing (leather): no 2
Harnessing (rope): no 2
Having food chosen for you: no 2
Having clothing chosen for you: no 2
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship: no 2
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 0
Hot oils (on genitals): yes 4
Hot waxing: no 3/4
Housework (doing): yes 3
Human puppy dog: no 0
Humiliation (private): yes 1
Humiliation (public): no no
Hypnotism: no 0
Ice cubes: yes 2
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: no 2
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 2
Interrogations: no 2
Kidnapping: no 4/5
Kneeling: yes 3
Leather clothing: no 3
restraints chains: no 3
restraints leather: yes 3
restraints rope: yes 3
Lectures for misbehavior: no 0
Licking (non-sexual): no 0
Manacles & Irons: no 3
Manicures (giving):no 0
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): yes 3
Medical scenes: no 0

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 2
Modeling for erotic videos: yes 2
Mouth bits: no 2
Mummification: no 2
Nipple clamps: no 2
Nipple cloths pins: no 3
Nipple weights: no 2
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 3
Over-the-knee spanking: no 3
Orgasm denial: yes 3
Orgasm control: yes 3
Outdoor scenes: yes 4/5
Outdoor sex: yes 4/5
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 4/5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 3
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no no
Piercing (permanent): nipples maybe
Prison scenes: no 2
Pony slave: no 1
Public exposure: no 2
Public tasks: no 2
Pussy/cock whipping: no 3
Pussy worship: ?? I love pussy
Riding crops: mo 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 2
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no no
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 3
Rubber/latex clothing: no2
Rope body harness: no 2
Saran wrapping: no 2
Scratching – getting: no 1
Scratching – giving: yes 2
Sensory deprivation: no 1
Serving: yes 2
Serving as art: no 0
Serving as ashtray: no no
Serving as furniture: no 0
Serving as a maid: yes 2
Serving as toilet: no no
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes 2
Serving orally (sexual): yes 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): yes 3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 2
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 1
Sexual deprivation (long term): yes 1
Shaving (body hair): yes 3
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair): no 1
Sleep deprivation: no no
Sleep-sacks: no 2
Slutty clothing (private): no 2
Slutty clothing (public): no 1
Spanking in private: yes 3
Spanking in public: no 1
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 2
Spanking pleasure: yes 3
Spandex clothing:no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 3
Speculums (Anal): no no
Speculums (vaginal): no 0
Spreader bars: no 2
Standing in corner: no 1
Stocks (adjustable): no 2
Stocks (fixed): no 2
Straight jackets: no 0
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 4/5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 3
Strapping (full body beating): no 0
Suspension (upright); no1
Suspension (inverted): no no
Suspension (horizontal): no 1
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 3
Swallowing semen: yes 3
Swallowing urine: no no
Swapping (with one other couple): no 3
Swinging (multiple couples): no 3
Tattooing: yes 3
Teasing: no 3
Tickling: no 0
Triple penetration: no 3
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 2
Uniforms: no 2
Including others: yes 3
Vaginal dildo: yes 3
Verbal humiliation: no 0
Vibrator on genitals: yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 3/4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): yes 3
Video (watching others): yes 3
Video (recordings of you): no 2
Water torture: no no
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 3/4
Whipping: no 3
Wooden paddles: no 3
Wrestling: no 0

[nighttimestar]

Abrasion: no 1
Age play: no 2
Anal sex: no 2
Anal plugs (small): no 2
Anal plugs (large): no 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 4
Animal roles: no 1
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 3
Asphyxiation: no/ NO
Auctioned for charity: no 3
Bathroom use control: no 3
Bestiality: no 2
Beating (soft): yes 4
Beating (hard): no 2
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: no 3
Breath control: no NO/1
Branding: no NO
Boot worship: no 4
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): no 3
Bondage (multi-day): no 5
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 5
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: no 2
Brown showers (scat): no NO
Cages (locked inside of): No 3
Caning: no 3
Catheterization: no 1
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 3
Chastity belts: no 3
Chauffeuring: no 2
Choking: no NO
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 0
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 1
Clothespins body: no 1
Cock worship: no 3
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): no 5
Competitions (with other Subs): no 3
Corsets (wearing): yes 5
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): no 5
Cutting: no 0
Dilation: no 0
Double penetration: no 5
Electricity: no 2
Enemas: no 3
Enforced chastity: no 3
Examinations (physical): no 3
Exercise (forced/required): no 4
Exhibitionism (friends): no 1
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 5
Eye contact restrictions: no 4
Face slapping: no 5
Fantasy abandonment: no 3
Fantasy rape: no 3
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 0
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 3
Fantasy gang-rape: no 3
Fisting (anal): no 3
Fisting (vaginal): no 3
Flogging: no 2
Following hand signals: no 3
Following orders: no 4
Foot worship: no 2
Forced dressing: no 4
Forced homosexuality: no 2
Forced masturbation: no 3
Forced nudity (private): no 3
Forced nudity (around others): no 4
Forced servitude: no 5
Full head hoods: no 3
Gags (cloth): yes 3
Gags (penis shaped): no 3
Gags (rubber): no 3
Gags (tape): no 3
Gates of Hell: ??
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 3
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 0
Given away to another Dom (perm): no 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): no NO
Golden showers: no 0
Greetings rituals: no 3
Hairbrush spankings: no 3
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 3
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 3
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 2
Harnessing (leather): no 2
Harnessing (rope): no 2
Having food chosen for you: no 3
Having clothing chosen for you: no 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): no 0
Head (giving fellatio): yes 3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): NA
High heel worship: no ??
Homage with tongue (on-sexual): no 0
Hot oils (on genitals): no 2
Hot waxing: yes 4
Housework (doing): yes 1
Human puppy dog: no 2
Humiliation (private): no 2
Humiliation (public): no 0
Hypnotism: no 0/NO
Ice cubes: yes 2
Infantilism: no 0
Initiation rites:no 4
Injections: no 3
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no 4
Kidnapping: no 5
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: yes 3
restraints chains: no 5
restraints leather: no 3
restraints rope: no 3
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 3
Licking (non-sexual): yes 2
Manacles & Irons: no 3
Manicures (giving): yes 4
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 3

Modeling for erotic photos: no 4
Modeling for erotic videos: no 3
Mouth bits: yes 4
Mummification: no 1
Nipple clamps: no 1
Nipple cloths pins: no 1
Nipple weights: no 1
Oral/anal play (rimming): no 0
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 4
Orgasm control: yes 4
Outdoor scenes: no 3
Outdoor sex: yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 4
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no NO
Piercing (permanent): no NO
Prison scenes: no 3
Pony slave: no 4
Public exposure: no 1
Public tasks: no 1
Pussy/cock whipping: no 3
Pussy worship: no 3
Riding crops: no 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): whats that?
Rituals: no 3
Religious scenes: no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 4
Rubber/latex clothing: no 2
Rope body harness: no 2
Saran wrapping: no 2
Scratching – getting: no 0
Scratching – giving: yes 4
Sensory deprivation: yes 5
Serving: yes 4
Serving as art: no 5
Serving as ashtray: no 0
Serving as furniture: no 1
Serving as a maid: yes 4
Serving as toilet: no NO
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes 0
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 4
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 5
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 5
Shaving (body hair): yes 5
Shaving (head hair): no NO
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 5
Sleep deprivation: yes 3
Sleep-sacks: no 2
Slutty clothing (private): no 2
Slutty clothing (public): no 0
Spanking in private: yes 3
Spanking in public: no 4
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 5
Spanking pleasure: yes 3
Spandex clothing: yes 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 5
Speculums (Anal): no 4
Speculums (vaginal): yes 3
Spreader bars: no 3
Standing in corner: no 3
Stocks (adjustable): no 3
Stocks (fixed): no 3
Straight jackets: no 3
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 3
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 3
Strapping (full body beating): no 3
Suspension (upright); no 3
Suspension (inverted): no 2
Suspension (horizontal): no 2
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 0
Swallowing semen: yes 4
Swallowing urine: no 0
Swapping (with one other couple): no 4
Swinging (multiple couples): no 4
Tattooing: no 0
Teasing: yes 4
Tickling: yes 0
Triple penetration: no 2
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 2
Uniforms: yes 3
Including others: no 2
Vaginal dildo: na
Verbal humiliation: no 2
Vibrator on genitals: yes 2
Voyeurism (watching others): no 5
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 0
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of you): no 3
Water torture: no 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 5
Whipping: no 3
Wooden paddles: no 3
Wrestling: yes 2

[claire]

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

I’m looking for a Master, so I thought I should do this.
Very unlikely to have casual play-partners
As you can see I am inexperienced. Most of my experience is self-inflicted or with an on-line Dom.
I also know I am not slave material.
I’ve used 3 as I am not sure, but would like to try it

Abrasion: no-2
Age play: yes-2
Anal sex: no-3
Anal plugs (small): yes-4
Anal plugs (large): no-3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no-4
Animal roles: no-2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no-2
Asphyxiation: no-2
Auctioned for charity: no-3
Bathroom use control: yes-3
Bestiality: no-3
Beating (soft): yes-5
Beating (hard): no-3
Blindfolds: yes-5
Being serviced (sexual): no-2
Being bitten: no-4 (if no skin broken)
Breast/chest bondage: yes-4
Breath control: no-2
Branding: no-2
Boot worship: no-1
Bondage (light): yes-5
Bondage (heavy): no-3
Bondage (multi-day): no-3
Bondage (public, under clothing): no-4
Bondage and Sex: no-5
Breast whipping: yes-4
Brown showers (scat): no-No
Cages (locked inside of):no-3
Caning: no-3
Catheterization: no-3
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no-3
Chastity belts: no-3
Chauffeuring: no-3
Choking: no-2
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes-3
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no-3
Clothespins body: no-3
Cock worship: no-3
Collars (worn in private): yes-5
Collars (worn in public): no-2
Competitions (with other Subs): no-2
Corsets (wearing): no-3
Cuffs: no-5
Cuffs (metal): no-3
Cutting: no-2
Dilation: no-3
Double penetration: yes (with dildos)-4
Electricity: no-3
Enemas: yes-2
Enforced chastity: no-2
Examinations (physical): no-4
Exercise (forced/required): yes-1
Exhibitionism (friends): no-4
Exhibitionism (strangers): yes(headless photos)-3
Eye contact restrictions: no-4
Face slapping: no-1
Fantasy abandonment: no-No
Fantasy rape: no-4
Fantasy forced deep throat: no-3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no-2
Fantasy forced rape anal: no-2
Fantasy gang-rape: no-3
Fisting (anal): no-3
Fisting (vaginal): no-3
Flogging: no-4/5
Following hand signals: no-2
Following orders: yes-5
Foot worship: no-2
Forced dressing: yes-3
Forced homosexuality: no-2
Forced masturbation: yes-5
Forced nudity (private): yes-5
Forced nudity (around others): no-4
Forced servitude: no-No
Full head hoods: no-2
Gags (cloth): no-2 hurts jaw
Gags (penis shaped): no-2 hurts jaw
Gags (rubber): no-2 hurts jaw
Gags (tape): yes-4
Gates of Hell: no-
Genital sex: yes-5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no-3
Given away to another Domme (temp): no-2
Given away to another Dom (perm): no-No
Given away to another Domme (perm): no-No
Golden showers: no-2
Greetings rituals: no-3
Hairbrush spankings: no-3
Hair pulling: no-2
Hand jobs (giving): yes-4
Hand jobs (receiving): yes-4
Harems (serving w/other subs): no-No
Harnessing (leather): no-3
Harnessing (rope): no-3
Having food chosen for you: no-3
Having clothing chosen for you: yes-4
Head (giving cunnilingus): no-2
Head (giving fellatio): no-3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes-3
Head (receiving fellatio male only): N/A
High heel worship: no-1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no-2
Hot oils (on genitals): no-3
Hot waxing: yes-4
Housework (doing): yes-2 sorry I am lazy
Human puppy dog: no-1
Humiliation (private): yes-4 embarassent not degradation
Humiliation (public): no-4 embarassent not degradation
Hypnotism: no-2
Ice cubes: yes-4
Infantilism: no-1
Initiation rites: no-4
Injections: yes (insulin)-4
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no-2
Interrogations: no-2
Kidnapping: no-4
Kneeling: no-(would like to, but I don’t think y knees can take it)
Leather clothing: no-3
restraints chains: no-5
restraints leather: no-5
restraints rope: yes-5
Lectures for misbehavior: yes-3
Licking (non-sexual): no-3
Manacles & Irons: no-4
Manicures (giving): no-2
Massage (giving): yes-5
Massage (receiving): yes-5
Medical scenes: no-4

Modeling for erotic photos: yes(headless)-3
Modeling for erotic videos: no-3
Mouth bits: no-2
Mummification: no-3
Nipple clamps: yes-4
Nipple cloths pins: yes-2
Nipple weights: no-3
Oral/anal play (rimming): no-1
Over-the-knee spanking: no-3
Orgasm denial: yes-4
Orgasm control: yes-4
Outdoor scenes: no-5
Outdoor sex: no-5
Phone sex (serving Dom): no-2
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no-2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): yes-4
Piercing (permanent): yes (ears)-5
Prison scenes: no-4
Pony slave: no-2
Public exposure: no-4 (to a consenting audiance)
Public tasks: yes-3
Pussy/cock whipping: no-4
Pussy worship: no-2
Riding crops: no-3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no-3
Rituals: no-4
Religious scenes: no-4
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes-4
Rubber/latex clothing: no-2
Rope body harness: no-3
Saran wrapping: no-3
Scratching – getting: no-2
Scratching – giving: no-2
Sensory deprivation: no-3
Serving: no-1
Serving as art: no-2
Serving as ashtray: no-No
Serving as furniture: no-1
Serving as a maid: no-1
Serving as toilet: no-No
Serving as waitress/waiter: no-2
Serving orally (sexual): no-1
Serving other Doms (supervised): no-2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no-1
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes-3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no-2
Shaving (body hair): yes-2 (I have very little body hair)
Shaving (head hair): no-1
Shaving (pubic hair): no-2
Sleep deprivation: no-1 (I have sleep disorders, i don’t need to get it more screwed up)
Sleep-sacks: no-2
Slutty clothing (private): no-4
Slutty clothing (public): no-3
Spanking in private: no-4
Spanking in public: no-2
Spanking in bdsm parties: no-3
Spanking pleasure: no-4
Spandex clothing: no-3
Speech restrictions (when, what): no-4
Speculums (Anal): no-3
Speculums (vaginal): no-3
Spreader bars: no-3
Standing in corner: yes-3
Stocks (adjustable): no-3
Stocks (fixed): no-2
Straight jackets: no-4
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no-2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no-3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no-3
Strapping (full body beating): no-3
Suspension (upright); no-1 (I think I a too fat for safety)
Suspension (inverted): no-No (I think I a too fat for safety)
Suspension (horizontal): no-1 (I think I a too fat for safety)
Supplying new partners for Dom: no-No
Swallowing semen: no-3
Swallowing urine: yes-No
Swapping (with one other couple): no-No
Swinging (multiple couples): no-No
Tattooing: no-2
Teasing: yes-4
Tickling: no-3
Triple penetration: no-3
Triple penetration by 3 males: no-3
Uniforms: no-2
Including others: no-2
Vaginal dildo: yes-4
Verbal humiliation: no-No
Vibrator on genitals: yes-4
Voyeurism (watching others): no-2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no-1
Video (watching others): yes-2
Video (recordings of you): no-3
Water torture: no-3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no-4
Whipping: no-3
Wooden paddles: no-3
Wrestling: no-3 (with Dom, not with others)


Thank-you very much Sir_Russell for doing this for us.

[dizzydaze]

This is done by request, I hope he doesn't mind my answers. I know how inexperienced I am...


Abrasion: no 2
Age play: no 1
Anal sex: no 1
Anal plugs (small): no 2
Anal plugs (large): no 1
Anal plug (public, under clothes):no 2
Animal roles: NO
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 2
Asphyxiation: yes 2
Auctioned for charity: NO
Bathroom use control: no 1
Bestiality: NO
Beating (soft): no 3
Beating (hard): no 1
Blindfolds: no 4
Being serviced (sexual): yes 4
Being bitten: no 4
Breast/chest bondage: no 3
Breath control: no 1
Branding: no 1
Boot worship: no 1
Bondage (light): no 4
Bondage (heavy): no 4
Bondage (multi-day): no 1
Bondage (public, under clothing):no 3
Bondage and Sex: no 4
Breast whipping: no 3
Brown showers (scat): NO
Cages (locked inside of): no 4
Caning: no 2
Catheterization: NO
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 3
Chastity belts: no 1
Chauffeuring: no 1
Choking: no 1
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 3
Clothespins body: yes 3
Cock worship: no 3
Collars (worn in private): no 3
Collars (worn in public): no 1
Competitions (with other Subs):no 2
Corsets (wearing): no 2
Cuffs: no 4
Cuffs (metal): no 4
Cutting: no 1
Dilation: (no idea what this is)
Double penetration: no 4
Electricity: no 3
Enemas: NO
Enforced chastity: no 1
Examinations (physical): no 3
Exercise (forced/required): no 2
Exhibitionism (friends): no 1
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 3
Eye contact restrictions: no 2
Face slapping: no 2
Fantasy abandonment: no 3
Fantasy rape: no 3
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 3
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 2
Fantasy gang-rape: no 4
Fisting (anal): NO
Fisting (vaginal): no 1
Flogging: no 3
Following hand signals: no 2
Following orders: no 4
Foot worship: no 1
Forced dressing: no 2
Forced homosexuality: no 3
Forced masturbation: no 3
Forced nudity (private): no 3
Forced nudity (around others): no 1
Forced servitude: no 3
Full head hoods: no 1
Gags (cloth): no 4
Gags (penis shaped): no 3
Gags (rubber): no 3
Gags (tape): no 4
Gates of Hell: (don’t know what this is)
Genital sex: no 4
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 2
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 2
Given away to another Dom (perm): no 2
Given away to another Domme (perm): no 2
Golden showers: NO
Greetings rituals: no 2
Hairbrush spankings: no 3
Hair pulling: no 3
Hand jobs (giving): yes 3
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 3
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 2
Harnessing (leather): no 3
Harnessing (rope): no 4
Having food chosen for you: no 2
Having clothing chosen for you: no 2
Head (giving cunnilingus): no 2
Head (giving fellatio): yes 3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship: no 2
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 2
Hot oils (on genitals): no3
Hot waxing: yes 4
Housework (doing): no 2
Human puppy dog: no 1
Humiliation (private): no 3
Humiliation (public): no 2
Hypnotism: no 2
Ice cubes: yes 3
Infantilism: NO
Initiation rites: no 1
Injections: NO
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no 2
Kidnapping: no 3
Kneeling: no 3
Leather clothing: no 3
restraints chains: no 3
restraints leather: no 3
restraints rope: yes 4
Lectures for misbehavior: no 3
Licking (non-sexual): no 2
Manacles & Irons: no 3
Manicures (giving): no 1
Massage (giving): no 2
Massage (receiving): no 2
Medical scenes: no 2
Modeling for erotic photos: no 3
Modeling for erotic videos: NO
Mouth bits: no 2
Mummification: no 2
Nipple clamps: no 3
Nipple cloths pins: yes 3
Nipple weights: no 3
Oral/anal play (rimming): no 1
Over-the-knee spanking: no 3
Orgasm denial: yes 3
Orgasm control: no 3
Outdoor scenes: no 4
Outdoor sex: no 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 1
Piercing (permanent): NO
Prison scenes: no 3
Pony slave: no 1
Public exposure: no 1
Public tasks: no 2
Pussy/cock whipping: no 2
Pussy worship: no 3
Riding crops: no 2
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 2
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 2
Rubber/latex clothing: no 2
Rope body harness: no 3
Saran wrapping: no 3
Scratching – getting: no 3
Scratching – giving: no 2
Sensory deprivation: no 3
Serving: no 3
Serving as art: no 2
Serving as ashtray: no 2
Serving as furniture: no 2
Serving as a maid: no 2
Serving as toilet: NO
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 2
Serving orally (sexual): no 3
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 2
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 2
Shaving (body hair): no 1
Shaving (head hair): NO
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 3
Sleep deprivation: no 1
Sleep-sacks: NO
Slutty clothing (private): yes 4
Slutty clothing (public): no 1
Spanking in private: no 3
Spanking in public: NO
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 2
Spanking pleasure: no 2
Spandex clothing: no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 2
Speculums (Anal): NO
Speculums (vaginal): no 2
Spreader bars: no 3
Standing in corner: no 3
Stocks (adjustable): no 2
Stocks (fixed): no 2
Straight jackets: no 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 3
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 3
Strapping (full body beating): no 1
Suspension (upright); no 3
Suspension (inverted): no 3
Suspension (horizontal): no 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 2
Swallowing semen: yes 3
Swallowing urine: NO
Swapping (with one other couple): no 1
Swinging (multiple couples): no 1
Tattooing: NO
Teasing: no 3
Tickling: no 3
Triple penetration: no 3
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 3
Uniforms: no 3
Including others: no 3
Vaginal dildo: no 3
Verbal humiliation: no 4
Vibrator on genitals: yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): no 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 3
Video (watching others): yes 3
Video (recordings of you): no 1
Water torture: no 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 2
Whipping: no 3
Wooden paddles: no 3
Wrestling: no 2

[Merle]

^___^ I’m so new to all this it’s a wonder than not every item had a ‘no’ beside it. But, it seems quite interesting so here’s my two cents.

Abrasion: yes 3
Age play: no 1
Anal sex: yes 4
Anal plugs (small): yes 3
Anal plugs (large): no probably 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 3
Animal roles: no 1
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): yes 2
Asphyxiation: no 0
Auctioned for charity: yes 2
Bathroom use control: no 1
Bestiality: no 1
Beating (soft): yes 3
Beating (hard): no 2
Blindfolds: yes 2
Being serviced (sexual): yes 3
Being bitten: can’t remember -__-;; 3
Breast/chest bondage: no 2
Breath control: no 1
Branding: no NO. I might change to 2 if it’s with someone I would spend the rest of my life with.
Boot worship: no 2
Bondage (light): yes 3
Bondage (heavy): no 2
Bondage (multi-day): no 2
Bondage (public, under clothing): yes 3
Bondage and Sex: yes 3
Breast whipping: no 2
Brown showers (scat): no NO
Cages (locked inside of): no 2
Caning: no 4
Catheterization: Don’t know what this is, so no.
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 3
Chastity belts: no 3
Chauffeuring: no 2
Choking: no 1
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 2
Clothespins body: no 2
Cock worship: yes 3
Collars (worn in private): no 2
Collars (worn in public): no 2
Competitions (with other Subs :no 2
Corsets (wearing): :no 2
Cuffs: yes 3
Cuffs (metal): yes 3
Cutting: :no 1
Dilation: :Can’t remember what this is. -__-;;
Double penetration: :no 0
Electricity: :no 1
Enemas: :no 0
Enforced chastity: :no 3
Examinations (physical): :no 2
Exercise (forced/required): :no 2
Exhibitionism (friends): :no 2
Exhibitionism (strangers): :no 1
Eye contact restrictions: :no 2
Face slapping: :no 2
Fantasy abandonment: :no 0 – childhood fear, it depends on what level this is carried out
Fantasy rape: :no 2
Fantasy forced deep throat: :no 2 (I can’t understand the ‘forced’ part)
Fantasy forced cunt licking: :no 2
Fantasy forced rape anal: :no 2
Fantasy gang-rape: :no 2
Fisting (anal): :no 1
Fisting (vaginal): :no 2
Flogging: yes 4
Following hand signals: :no 3
Following orders: yes 4
Foot worship: :no 2
Forced dressing: yes 3
Forced homosexuality: :no (I’m bi. No forced there. Lol)
Forced masturbation: yes 3
Forced nudity (private): yes 3
Forced nudity (around others): :no 1
Forced servitude: yes 3
Full head hoods: :no 0
Gags (cloth): yes 3
Gags (penis shaped): :no 2 (is it terribly different from any other type of gags?)
Gags (rubber): :no 2
Gags (tape): yes 3
Gates of Hell: :no 2
Genital sex: :no 2
Given away to another Dom (temp): :no 2
Given away to another Domme (temp): yes 2
Given away to another Dom (perm): :no 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): :no 0
Golden showers: :no NO
Greetings rituals: :no 3
Hairbrush spankings: yes 5
Hair pulling: yes 3
Hand jobs (giving): yes 3
Hand jobs (receiving): :no 3
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 2
Harnessing (leather): :no 3
Harnessing (rope): :no 3
Having food chosen for you: yes 3
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): :yes 3
Head (giving fellatio): yes 3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 3
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: :no 2
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): :no 2
Hot oils (on genitals): :no 2
Hot waxing: :no 2
Housework (doing): yes 2
Human puppy dog: :no 1
Humiliation (private): :no 2-3 depends on the person
Humiliation (public): :no 1
Hypnotism: :no (Don’t know what this is, really. Lol)
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism: :no 1
Initiation rites: :no 2
Injections: :no (Depends on what, might range from NO – 2)
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes 4
Interrogations: yes 4
Kidnapping: :no 3
Kneeling: yes 3
Leather clothing: yes 3
restraints chains: :no 3
restraints leather: yes 3
restraints rope: yes 3
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 3
Licking (non-sexual): yes 2
Manacles & Irons: yes 3
Manicures (giving): yes 3
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): no (everyone I’ve met till now didn’t know how to give massages so I don’t know. Probably 3-4)
Medical scenes: no 1 – depends. I have some bad memories of hospitals.

Modeling for erotic photos: :no NO
Modeling for erotic videos: :no NO
Mouth bits: :no 2
Mummification: :no (Don’t know what this entails)
Nipple clamps: :no 3
Nipple cloths pins: :no 3
Nipple weights: :no 3
Oral/anal play (rimming): :no 3
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 4
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: :no4
Outdoor sex: :no 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): :no 2
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): :no 2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): :no 2
Piercing (permanent): :no 2
Prison scenes: :no 2
Pony slave: :no 2
Public exposure: :no 1
Public tasks: :no 3
Pussy/cock whipping: :no 2
Pussy worship: :no 2
Riding crops: yes 4
Riding the "horse" : No idea what this is
Rituals: :no 4
Religious scenes: :no 3
Restrictive rules on behavior: :no 4
Rubber/latex clothing: :no 2 – 3
Rope body harness: :no 3
Saran wrapping: :no 3
Scratching – getting: :no 3
Scratching – giving: :no (I sometimes do so unintentionally so I’m not quite sure what this falls under)
Sensory deprivation: :no 3
Serving: :no 4
Serving as art: :no 4
Serving as ashtray: :no 2
Serving as furniture: :no 2
Serving as a maid: :no 3
Serving as toilet: :no NO
Serving as waitress/waiter: :yes 3
Serving orally (sexual): :yes 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): :no 2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): :yes 2
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 4
Sexual deprivation (long term): :no 2
Shaving (body hair): :no 2 (I’m asian, not much to shave. Lol)
Shaving (head hair): :no 2
Shaving (pubic hair): :no 0
Sleep deprivation: :no 2
Sleep-sacks: :no No idea what this is.
Slutty clothing (private): :no 3
Slutty clothing (public): :no 2
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: :no 4
Spanking in bdsm parties: :no 5
Spanking pleasure:yes 5
Spandex clothing: :no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 3
Speculums (Anal): :no 3
Speculums (vaginal): :no 3
Spreader bars: :no 3
Standing in corner: yes 3
Stocks (adjustable): :no 2
Stocks (fixed): :no 2
Straight jackets: :no 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): :no 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): :no 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): :no 2
Strapping (full body beating): :no 2
Suspension (upright); :no 2
Suspension (inverted): :no 2
Suspension (horizontal): :no 2
Supplying new partners for Dom: :no 2
Swallowing semen: yes 2
Swallowing urine: :no NO
Swapping (with one other couple): :no 1
Swinging (multiple couples): :no 1
Tattooing: :no 1-2 (depends on what and where it is)
Teasing: yes 2
Tickling: yes 2
Triple penetration: :no 1
Triple penetration by 3 males: :no 1
Uniforms: :no 2
Including others: :no 2
Vaginal dildo: :no 2
Verbal humiliation: :no 1 - 2 (After a certain time, I tend to get irrationally angry. So, lol, it depends.)
Vibrator on genitals: :no 2
Voyeurism (watching others): :no 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): :no 1
Video (watching others): :no 1 (What’s the point?)
Video (recordings of you): :no (There would be no recordings.)
Water torture: :no 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry: :no 3
Whipping: :no 4
Wooden paddles: yes 5
Wrestling: :no (Not quite sure what this involves)

[mich(Southernaccent)]

Abrasion: yes 3
Age play: NO
Anal sex: Yes 5
Anal plugs (small): yes 4
Anal plugs (large): yes 1
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 4
Animal roles: yes 3
Arm & leg sleeves (arm binders): yes 4
Asphyxiation: NO
Auctioned for charity: no 1
Bathroom use control: yes 4
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): Yes 4
Beating (hard): No No
Blindfolds: YES 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: yes 4
Breath control: no no
Branding: no 3
Boot worship: yes 3
Bondage (light): Yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): no no
Bondage (public, under clothing): yes 5
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: no 1
Brown showers (scat): no no
Cages (locked inside of): no 1
Caning: no 1
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no no
Chastity belts: yes 4
Chauffeuring: yes 4
Choking: no no
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 4
Clothespins labia/clit: yes 2
Clothespins body: yes 2
Cock worship: yes 5
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): yes 3 (if they are classy or subtle)
Competitions (with other Subs): yes 1
Corsets (wearing): yes 5
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: no no
Dilation: yes 4
Double penetration: yes 4
Electricity: yes 4
Enemas: no 1
Enforced chastity: yes 2
Examinations (physical): no 1
Exercise (forced/required): yes 3
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 1
Exhibitionism (strangers): yes 1
Eye contact restrictions: yes 4 (haven’t done am curious)
Face slapping: yes
Fantasy abandonment: yes 1
Fantasy rape: yes 1
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 4
Fantasy forced cunt licking: yes 3
Fantasy forced rape anal: yes 4
Fantasy gang-rape: no no
Fisting (anal): no no
Fisting (vaginal): no no
Following hand signals by sub/slave: n/a
Following orders by sub/slave: n/a
Foot worship: yes 3
Forced dressing of sub: yes 5
Forced homosexuality: yes 3
Forced masturbation: yes 5
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): yes 1
Forced servitude of sub: yes 5
Full head hoods: yes 4
Gags (cloth): yes 4
Gags (penis shaped): yes 4
Gags (rubber): yes 5
Gags (tape): yes 2
Gates of Hell: n/a
Genital sex: yes 5
Given sub away to another Dom (temp): no no
Given away to another Domme (temp): no no
Given sub away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no 1
Greetings rituals: yes 4
Hairbrush spankings: yes 4
Hair pulling: Yes 4
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): yes 1
Harnessing (leather): yes 4
Harnessing (rope): yes 3
Having food chosen for sub: yes 4
Having clothing chosen for sub: yes 4
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: yes 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): yes 3
Hot oils (on genitals of sub): yes 3
Hot waxing of sub: yes 4
Housework (sub doing): yes 5
Human puppy dog: Yes 1
Humiliation (private): yes 1
Humiliation (public): no1
Hypnotism: yes 5
Ice cubes: yes 5
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: yes 5
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes 3
Interrogations: yes 2
Kidnapping sub: yes 1
Kneeling sub: yes 5
Leather clothing: yes 5
restraints chains: yes 4
restraints leather: yes 4
restraints rope: yes 3
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 4
Licking (non-sexual): yes 3
Manacles & Irons: yes 5
Manicures (giving): yes 3
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 1
Modeling for Dom’s erotic photos: yes 5
Mouth bits: yes 4
Mummification: yes 4
Nipple clamps: yes 4
Nipple cloths pins: yes 1
Nipple weights: yes 3
Oral/anal play by sub (rimming): yes 4
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: no (I like orgasm delay not denial)
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: yes 5
Outdoor sex: yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no no
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no no
Piercing (permanent): yes 4
Prison scenes yes 3
Pony slave: yes 3
Public exposure: yes 3
Public tasks: yes 4
Pussy spanking: yes 5
Pussy whipping: no no
Pussy worship: yes 1
Riding crops: yes 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no no
Rituals: yes 5
Religious scenes: no no
Restrictive rules on sub behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: yes 2
Rope body harness: yes 3
Saran wrapping: yes 2
Scratching – getting: yes 2
Scratching – giving: yes 3
Sensory deprivation: yes 5
Serving by sub: yes 5
Serving as sub art: yes 3
Serving as sub ashtray: no no
Serving as sub furniture: yes 2
Serving as a sub maid: yes 3
Serving as sub toilet: no no
Serving as sub waitress/waiter: yes 3
Serving orally by sub (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no no
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no no
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 1
Sexual deprivation (long term): no (please no)
Shaving (body hair): yes 4
Shaving (head hair): no 1
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 5
Sleep deprivation: yes 2
Sleep-sacks: yes 3
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): yes 1
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: yes 2
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 1
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: yes 4
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 4
Speculums (Anal): yes 3
Speculums (vaginal): yes 3
Spreader bars: yes 5
Standing sub in corner: yes 4
Stocks (adjustable): yes 4
Stocks (fixed): yes 4
Straight jackets: no 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 4
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): yes 1 if used on another female sub
Strapping (full body beating): yes 1
Suspension (upright); yes 5
Suspension (inverted): yes 5
Suspension (horizontal): yes 5
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 1
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: no no
Swapping (with one other couple): yes 1
Swinging (multiple couples): yes 1
Tattooing of sub for ownership purposes: yes 3
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: yes 3 reserve
Triple penetration of sub: yes 2
Triple penetration of sub by 3 males: no no
Uniforms: yes 4
Including others: no no
Vaginal dildo: yes 5
Verbal humiliation: no 1
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no no
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of sub): yes 4
Water torture: no no
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 5
Whipping no no
Wooden paddles: yes 4
Wrestling: yes 4

[sardis]

Sir Russell

I've completed the questionnaire and would appreciate your feedback. As you will see I have little real life experience, but I am going to my first munch this evening and wanted to capture my baseline....maybe one day I'll be able to look back on this and smile. I do expect it to change.

I've tried to distinguish ratings between an activity I receive and the same activity I would give to my sub. eg Clothespins - I would rate on myself as 3 but as a 5 if I were placing them on my sub.

I've answered from a Dom's perspective.

I will send you my subs answers tomorrow.

Thanks,
Sardis

Abrasion: NO 2
Age play: NO 2
Anal sex: YES 5
Anal plugs (small): NO 3 ....but 4 if for my sub
Anal plugs (large): NO 3 ....but 4 if for my sub
Anal plug (public, under clothes): NO 4 if for my sub
Animal roles: NO 1
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): NO 3 but 5 if for my sub
Asphyxiation: NO 3 could go either way on this
Auctioned for charity: NO 1
Bathroom use control: NO 1
Bestiality: NO No...but 3 if for voyeurism
Beating (soft): yes 1 but 4 if for my sub
Beating (hard): NO but 4 if for my sub
Blindfolds: YES 4
Being serviced (sexual): YES 5
Being bitten: NO 3
Breast/chest bondage: NO 2
Breath control: NO 3
Branding: NO 1
Boot worship: NO 1
Bondage (light): YES 3 but 5 if for my sub
Bondage (heavy): NO 2 but 5 if for my sub
Bondage (multi-day): NO 2 3 for my sub
Bondage (public, under clothing): No 1 ...but 4 if for my sub
Breast whipping: no ....but 5 if for my sub
Brown showers (scat): NO NO
Cages (locked inside of): NO 2... 4 if for my sub
Caning: NO 2...if 5 for my sub
Catheterization: NO 1
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): NO 2
Chastity belts: NO 2
Chauffeuring: NO 1
Choking: NO 1
Clothespins: Yes 3 but 5 if for my sub
Cock worship: NO n/a
Collars (worn in private): NO 2 but 5 if on my sub
Collars (worn in public): NO 2 but 5 if on my sub
Competitions (with other Subs): NO 3
Corsets (wearing): NO 1 but 4 if on my sub
Cuffs: NO 2 but 4 if on my sub
Cuffs (metal): NO 2 but 4 if on my sub
Cutting: NO 2 if my sub needed it
Dilation: NO 3
Double penetration: NO 4
Electricity: NO 1
Enemas: NO 0
Enforced chastity: NO 1 ..but 4 if on my sub
Examinations (physical): NO 3
Exercise (forced/required): NO 2
Exhibitionism (friends): NO 2
Exhibitionism (strangers): NO 2
Eye contact restrictions: yes 2.. but 5 if for my sub
Face slapping: NO 2... 4 if on my sub
Fantasy abandonment: NO 1.... 4 on my sub
Fantasy rape: NO 0 ... 4 if on my sub
Fantasy gang-rape: NO 4 if on my sub
Fisting (anal): NO 2
Fisting (vaginal): NO 3
Following orders: NO 1 ..5 if for my sub
Foot worship: NO 2
Forced dressing: NO 2.. 4 for my sub
Forced homosexuality: NO 0
Forced masturbation: NO 3.. 5 for my sub
Forced nudity (private): NO 2 3 for my sub
Forced nudity (around others): NO 2 4 for my sub
Forced servitude: NO 2... 5 for my sub
Full head hoods: NO 2 4 if on my sub
Gags (cloth): No 2 4 if on my sub
Gags (rubber): No 2 4 if on my sub
Gags (tape): No 2 4 if on my sub
Gates of Hell (male) N/A
Genital sex: YES 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): n/a 3 for my sub
Given away to another Dom (perm): NO NO
Golden showers: NO 1
Hairbrush spankings: YES 5 if on my sub
Hair pulling: NO 3 if on my sub
Hand jobs (giving): YES 4
Hand jobs (receiving): YES 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): n/a but 4 if for my sub
Harnessing (leather): NO 4 if for my sub
Harnessing (rope): NO 4 if for my sub
Having food chosen for you: NO 2...3 for my sub
Having clothing chosen for you: NO 3 4 for my sub
Head (giving fellatio): N/A
Head (receiving fellatio)for males only YES 5
High heel worship: N/A
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): NO 3...
Hot oils (on genitals): NO 3
Hot waxing: NO 3
Housework (doing): NO 1
Human puppy dog: NO 0
Humiliation (private): NO 1
Humiliation (public): NO 1
Hypnotism: Yes 3...not sure this works on me...would like to try on my sub
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism: NO 1
Initiation rites: NO 3 4 if for my sub
Injections: NO 1
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: NO 3
Interrogations: NO 2
Kidnapping: NO 1
Kneeling: Yes 2.. 5 if for my sub
Leather clothing: NO 3
restraints: Yes 5 if on my sub
Lectures for misbehavior: NO 3 if on my sub
Licking (non-sexual): yes 3
Manacles & Irons: NO 4 if for my sub
Manicures (giving): NO 1
Massage (giving): YES 4
Massage (receiving): YES 4
Medical scenes: NO 1
Modeling for erotic photos: NO 3...
Mouth bits: NO 1...4 for my sub
Mummification: NO 1
Nipple clamps: Yes 5 if on my sub
Nipple weights: NO 4 if on my sub
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 3
Over-the-knee spanking: YES 5 if my sub is over my knee
Orgasm denial: Yes 2...4 for my sub
Orgasm control: Yes 2...5 for my sub
Outdoor scenes: NO 3
Outdoor sex: Yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): Yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): NO 3 if for for my sub
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): NO 2
Piercing (permanent): NO 2
Prison scenes NO 1
Pony slave: NO 3 if pony is my sub
Public exposure: NO 2
Pussy/cock whipping: Yes 4
Pussy worship: No 1
Riding crops: Yes 5 if on my sub
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): NO 3
Rituals: NO 4
Religious scenes: NO 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: Yes 5 for my sub
Rubber/latex clothing: NO 3
Rope body harness: NO 3 for my sub
Saran wrapping: NO 2
Scratching – getting: NO 2
Scratching – giving: NO 2
Sensory deprivation: Yes 2 ....5 if on my sub
Serving: NO 4 if from my sub (as for all serving)
Serving as art: NO 3
Serving as ashtray: NO 1
Serving as furniture: NO 1
Serving as a maid: NO 4
Serving as toilet: NO 1
Serving as waitress/waiter: NO 4
Serving orally (sexual): YES 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): NO 3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): NO 1
Sexual deprivation (short term): NO 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): NO 1
Shaving (body hair): Yes 4
Shaving (head hair): NO 1
Sleep deprivation: NO 1
Sleepsacks: NO 1
Slutty clothing (private): Yes 4 for my sub
Slutty clothing (public): NO 3 for my sub
Spanking: YES 5 giving to my sub
Spandex clothing: NO 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): NO 5 if for my sub
Speculums (Anal): NO 1 .... 3 for my sub
Speculums (vaginal): NO 3
Spreader bars: NO 1...5 for my sub
Standing in corner: NO 4
Stocks (adjustable): NO 4 for my sub
Straight jackets: NO 1....3 for my sub
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): N/A...3 for my sub
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): NO 3 for my sub
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): NO 1 3 for my sub
Strapping (full body beating): NO 0... 3 for my sub
Suspension (upright); NO 1 3 for my sub
Suspension (inverted): NO 1 3 for my sub
Suspension (horizontal): NO 1 3 for my sub
Supplying new partners for Dom: No 3 if sub providing
Swallowing semen: NO 1..5 for my sub
Swallowing urine: NO 1
Swapping (with one other couple): NO 2
Swinging (multiple couples): NO 2
Tattooing: NO 3
Teasing: NO 2
Tickling: NO 1
Triple penetration: NO 3 for my sub
Uniforms: NO 3
Including others: NO 3
Vaginal dildo: N/A
Verbal humiliation: NO 0
Vibrator on genitals: Yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): NO 3
Voyeurism (your slave w/others): NO 3
Video (watching others): Yes 4
Video (recordings of you): NO 3
Water torture: NO 2
Wearing symbolic jewelry: Yes 4
Whipping Yes 1 4 if on my sub
Wooden paddles: Yes 2 5 if on my sub
Wrestling: NO 2

[MissLindyLoo]

Sir Russell

My sub has problems registering... MissLindyLoo's response will be submitted soon

Sardis

[MissLindyLoo]

The one for sub/slaves

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no 0 written by sub

Age play:no 3

Anal sex:yes 2
Anal plugs (small):no 2
Anal plugs (large):no 1
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 2
Animal roles: no not sure what animal role is
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 0
Asphyxiation:no 0
Auctioned for charity: no 0
Bathroom use control: no 0
Bestiality: no 1
Beating (soft): no 1
Beating (hard): no 0
Blindfolds: yes 4
Being serviced (sexual): no 1
Being bitten: no 0
Breast/chest bondage: no 1
Breath control: no 0
Branding: no 0
Boot worship: no 0
Bondage (light): yes 3
Bondage (heavy): no 1
Bondage (multi-day): no 0
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 1
Bondage and Sex: yes 2
Breast whipping: no 1
Brown showers (scat): no 0
Cages (locked inside of): no 0
Caning: no 0
Catheterization: no 0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 0
Chastity belts: no 0
Chauffeuring: no 0
Choking: no 0
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 0
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 0
Clothespins body: no 0
Cock worship: no 1
Collars (worn in private): yes 3
Collars (worn in public): yes 3
Competitions (with other Subs): no 0
Corsets (wearing): yes 2
Cuffs: no 2
Cuffs (metal): no 0
Cutting: no 0
Dilation: no 0
Double penetration: yes 2
Electricity: no 0
Enemas: no 0
Enforced chastity: no 0
Examinations (physical): no 2
Exercise (forced/required): no 1
Exhibitionism (friends): no 0
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 0
Eye contact restrictions: no 0
Face slapping: no 0
Fantasy abandonment: no 1
Fantasy rape: no 1
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 0
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 1
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 0
Fantasy gang-rape: no 0
Fisting (anal): no 0
Fisting (vaginal): no 0
Flogging: yes 2
Following hand signals: no 1
Following orders: yes 2
Foot worship: no 0
Forced dressing: no 2
Forced homosexuality: no 0
Forced masturbation: no 2
Forced nudity (private): yes 2
Forced nudity (around others): no 0
Forced servitude: no 1
Full head hoods: no 0
Gags (cloth): no 1
Gags (penis shaped):no 0
Gags (rubber): yes 1
Gags (tape): no 0
Gates of Hell:no 0
Genital sex: yes 3
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 0
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 0
Given away to another Dom (perm): no 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): no 0
Golden showers: no 1
Greetings rituals: no 3
Hairbrush spankings: no 1
Hair pulling: no 2
Hand jobs (giving): yes 3
Hand jobs (receiving): na
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 0
Harnessing (leather): no 2
Harnessing (rope): no 1
Having food chosen for you: no 3
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): no 0
Head (giving fellatio): no 0
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): no 2
Head (receiving fellatio male only): na
High heel worship: no 0
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 0
Hot oils (on genitals): yes 2
Hot waxing: no 2
Housework (doing):yes 3
Human puppy dog: no 0
Humiliation (private): no 0
Humiliation (public): no 0
Hypnotism: no 0
Ice cubes: yes 2
Infantilism: no 0
Initiation rites: no 0
Injections: no 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 2
Interrogations: no 0
Kidnapping: no 0
Kneeling: no 0
Leather clothing: no 2
restraints chains: no 0
restraints leather: no 0
restraints rope: no 0
Lectures for misbehavior: no 1
Licking (non-sexual): no 0
Manacles & Irons: no 0
Manicures (giving): yes 2
Massage (giving): yes 2
Massage (receiving): yes 3
Medical scenes: no 0

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 2
Modeling for erotic videos: yes 2
Mouth bits: no 2
Mummification: no 0
Nipple clamps: yes 2
Nipple cloths pins: no 2
Nipple weights: no 0
Oral/anal play (rimming): no 1
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 3
Orgasm denial: no 2
Orgasm control: yes 2
Outdoor scenes: no 0
Outdoor sex: yes 2
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 0
Piercing (permanent): no 0
Prison scenes: no 0
Pony slave: no 0
Public exposure: no,,,0
Public tasks: no 0
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 2
Pussy worship: no 0
Riding crops: no 2
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 0
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 3
Rubber/latex clothing: no 0
Rope body harness: no 0
Saran wrapping:no 0
Scratching – getting: no 0
Scratching – giving: no 0
Sensory deprivation: no 0
Serving: no 2
Serving as art: no 0
Serving as ashtray: no 0
Serving as furniture: no 0
Serving as a maid: yes 2
Serving as toilet: no 0
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes 2
Serving orally (sexual): yes 2
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 0
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 0
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 0
Shaving (body hair): yes 3
Shaving (head hair): no 0
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 4
Sleep deprivation: no 0
Sleep-sacks: no 0
Slutty clothing (private): no 2
Slutty clothing (public): no 0
Spanking in private: yes 3
Spanking in public: no 0
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 0
Spanking pleasure:yes 3
Spandex clothing: no 0
Speech restrictions (when, what): no
Speculums (Anal): no 0
Speculums (vaginal): no 0
Spreader bars: no 0
Standing in corner: no 2
Stocks (adjustable): no 0
Stocks (fixed): no 0
Straight jackets: no 0
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 0
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 0
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 0
Strapping (full body beating): no 0
Suspension (upright); no 0
Suspension (inverted): no 0
Suspension (horizontal): no 0
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 0
Swallowing semen: yes 2
Swallowing urine: no 0
Swapping (with one other couple): no 0
Swinging (multiple couples): no 0
Tattooing:no 2Teasing: yes.....3
Tickling: yes 3
Triple penetration: no 0
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 0
Uniforms: no 0
Including others: no 0
Vaginal dildo: yes 3
Verbal humiliation: yes 2
Vibrator on genitals: yes 3
Voyeurism (watching others): no 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 0
Video (watching others): yes 3
Video (recordings of you): yes 2
Water torture: no 0
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 3
Whipping: no 1
Wooden paddles: no 1
Wrestling:no 0

[Dominique]

Abrasion: 3
Age play: 2
Anal sex: 3
Anal plugs (small): 4
Anal plugs (large): 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): 1
Animal roles: 5
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): 3
Asphyxiation: 5
Auctioned for charity: 1
Bathroom use control: 0
Bestiality: 0
Beating (soft): 5
Beating (hard): 5
Blindfolds: 4
Being serviced (sexual): 5
Being bitten: 5
Breast/chest bondage: 3
Breath control: 2
Branding: 0
Boot worship: 0
Bondage (light): 5
Bondage (heavy): 5
Bondage (multi-day): 3
Bondage (public, under clothing): 4
Bondage and Sex: 5
Breast whipping: 2
Brown showers (scat): 0
Cages (locked inside of): 1
Caning: 4
Catheterization: 0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): 0
Chastity belts: 0
Chauffeuring: 2
Choking: 5
Clothespins breast/nipples: 2
Clothespins labia lips/clit: 2
Clothespins body: 2
Cock worship: 2
Collars (worn in private): 5
Collars (worn in public): 5
Competitions (with other Subs): 5
Corsets (wearing): 5
Cuffs: 4
Cuffs (metal): 5
Cutting: 4
Dilation: 1
Double penetration: 5
Electricity: 0
Enemas: 3
Enforced chastity: 3
Examinations (physical): 5
Exercise (forced/required): 2
Exhibitionism (friends): 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): 3
Eye contact restrictions: 5
Face slapping: 5
Fantasy abandonment: 5
Fantasy rape: 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: 5
Fantasy gang-rape: 5
Fisting (anal): 3
Fisting (vaginal): 5
Flogging: 2
Following hand signals: 1
Following orders: 5
Foot worship: 0
Forced dressing: 5
Forced homosexuality: 3
Forced masturbation: 5
Forced nudity (private): 1
Forced nudity (around others): 2
Forced servitude: 5
Full head hoods: 2
Gags (cloth): 5
Gags (penis shaped): 3
Gags (rubber): 5
Gags (tape): 5
Gates of Hell: 1
Genital sex: 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): 5
Given away to another Domme (temp): 5
Given away to another Dom (perm): 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): 0
Golden showers: 0
Greetings rituals: 2
Hairbrush spankings: 3
Hair pulling: 5
Hand jobs (giving): 0
Hand jobs (receiving): 0
Harems (serving w/other subs): 3
Harnessing (leather): 5
Harnessing (rope): 5
Having food chosen for you: 2
Having clothing chosen for you: 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): 5
Head (giving fellatio): 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): 0
High heel worship: 5
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): 1
Hot oils (on genitals): 3
Hot waxing: 5
Housework (doing): 4
Human puppy dog: 5
Humiliation (private): 5
Humiliation (public): 2
Hypnotism: 0
Ice cubes: 2
Infantilism: 0
Initiation rites: 2
Injections: 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: 3
Interrogations: 5
Kidnapping: 2
Kneeling: 5
Leather clothing: 5
restraints chains: 5
restraints leather: 5
restraints rope: 5
Lectures for misbehavior: 2
Licking (non-sexual): 3
Manacles & Irons: 3
Manicures (giving): 1
Massage (giving): 4
Massage (receiving): 1
Medical scenes: 3

Modeling for erotic photos:
Modeling for erotic videos:
Mouth bits:
Mummification:
Nipple clamps:
Nipple cloths pins:
Nipple weights:
Oral/anal play (rimming):
Over-the-knee spanking:
Orgasm denial:
Orgasm control:
Outdoor scenes:
Outdoor sex:
Phone sex (serving Dom):
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):
Piercing (permanent):
Prison scenes:
Pony slave:
Public exposure:
Public tasks:
Pussy/cock whipping:
Pussy worship:
Riding crops:
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):
Rituals:
Religious scenes:
Restrictive rules on behavior:
Rubber/latex clothing:
Rope body harness:
Saran wrapping:
Scratching – getting:
Scratching – giving:
Sensory deprivation:
Serving:
Serving as art:
Serving as ashtray:
Serving as furniture:
Serving as a maid:
Serving as toilet:
Serving as waitress/waiter:
Serving orally (sexual):
Serving other Doms (supervised):
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):
Sexual deprivation (short term):
Sexual deprivation (long term):
Shaving (body hair):
Shaving (head hair):
Shaving (pubic hair):
Sleep deprivation:
Sleep-sacks:
Slutty clothing (private):
Slutty clothing (public):
Spanking in private:
Spanking in public:
Spanking in bdsm parties:
Spanking pleasure:
Spandex clothing:
Speech restrictions (when, what):
Speculums (Anal):
Speculums (vaginal):
Spreader bars:
Standing in corner:
Stocks (adjustable):
Stocks (fixed):
Straight jackets:
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):
Strapping (full body beating):
Suspension (upright);
Suspension (inverted):
Suspension (horizontal):
Supplying new partners for Dom:
Swallowing semen:
Swallowing urine:
Swapping (with one other couple):
Swinging (multiple couples):
Tattooing:
Teasing:
Tickling:
Triple penetration:
Triple penetration by 3 males:
Uniforms:
Including others:
Vaginal dildo:
Verbal humiliation:
Vibrator on genitals:
Voyeurism (watching others):
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others):
Video (watching others):
Video (recordings of you):
Water torture:
Wearing symbolic jewelry:
Whipping:
Wooden paddles:
Wrestling:

[hopperboo]

I totally have to re-do this thing.

*Feels like an idiot.*

[hopperboo]

Here we go...



Abrasion: No, 0 (I don't even know what this is).
Age play: No, No
Anal sex: No, 4
Anal plugs (small): No, 3
Anal plugs (large): No, No
Anal plug (public, under clothes): No, 3
Animal roles: No, No
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): No, 0
Asphyxiation: No, No (I care to live, thank you).
Auctioned for charity: No, No
Bathroom use control: No, No
Bestiality: No, No
Beating (soft): No, 3
Beating (hard): No, No
Blindfolds: No, 3
Being serviced (sexual): No, 3
Being bitten: No, 4
Breast/chest bondage: No, 2
Breath control: No, No (Dangerous).
Branding: No, No
Boot worship: No, 0
Bondage (light): No, 3
Bondage (heavy): No, 1
Bondage (multi-day): No, No (This cannot be healthy for circulation).
Bondage (public, under clothing): No, 3
Bondage and Sex: No, 3
Breast whipping: No, 1
Brown showers (scat): No, No
Cages (locked inside of): No, 0
Caning: No, 2
Catheterization: No, No
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): No, No
Chastity belts: No, 0
Chauffeuring: No, 0
Choking: No, No (Aren't people aware of how dangerous this is?)
Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes, 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit: Yes, 3
Clothespins body: No, 0
Cock worship: No, 4
Collars (worn in private): No, 0
Collars (worn in public): No, 0
Competitions (with other Subs): No, No
Corsets (wearing): No, 3
Cuffs: No, 3 (As in bondage handcuffs, right?)
Cuffs (metal): No, 3 (As in bondage handcuffs, right?)
Cutting: No, No
Dilation: No, No
Double penetration: No, 3
Electricity: No, 2
Enemas: No, No
Enforced chastity: No, 0
Examinations (physical): No, 2
Exercise (forced/required): No, 1
Exhibitionism (friends): No, No
Exhibitionism (strangers): No, No
Eye contact restrictions: No, No
Face slapping: No, No (Oh no 'u di'ent!)
Fantasy abandonment: No, No
Fantasy rape: No, 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: No, 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: No, No
Fantasy forced rape anal: No, 4
Fantasy gang-rape: No, No
Fisting (anal): No, No
Fisting (vaginal): No, No
Flogging: No, 2
Following hand signals: No, No (Don't get it).
Following orders: No, 3
Foot worship: No, 3 (But only if they are nice feet...).
Forced dressing: No, 0
Forced homosexuality: No, No
Forced masturbation: No, 3
Forced nudity (private): No, 3
Forced nudity (around others): No, No
Forced servitude: No, No
Full head hoods: No, No
Gags (cloth): No, 3
Gags (penis shaped): No, 0
Gags (rubber): No, 0
Gags (tape): No, No (Like Duct tape? That isn't good for your skin!)
Gates of Hell: I have no idea what this is....
Genital sex: No, 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): No, No
Given away to another Domme (temp): No, No
Given away to another Dom (perm): No, No
Given away to another Domme (perm): No, No
Golden showers: No, No
Greetings rituals: No, No
Hairbrush spankings: No, 4
Hair pulling: No, 4
Hand jobs (giving): No, 4
Hand jobs (receiving): No, 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): No, No
Harnessing (leather): No, 0
Harnessing (rope): No, 0
Having food chosen for you: No, 0
Having clothing chosen for you: No, 0
Head (giving cunnilingus): No, No
Head (giving fellatio): No, 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): No, 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): N/A
High heel worship: No, No
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): No, No
Hot oils (on genitals): No, 2
Hot waxing: No, 3
Housework (doing): No, 3
Human puppy dog: No, No
Humiliation (private): No, No (No thanks, my self esteem doesn't need it).
Humiliation (public): No, No (No thanks, my self esteem doesn't need it).
Hypnotism: No, No (I personally don't believe in it).
Ice cubes: No, 4
Infantilism: No, No
Initiation rites: No, No
Injections: No, No
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: No, 1
Interrogations: No, 3 (And if you have a sexy accent it pops up to a 4, lol).
Kidnapping: No, 3
Kneeling: No, 0
Leather clothing: No, 0
Restraints chains: No, 3
Restraints leather: No, 3
Restraints rope: No, 3
Lectures for misbehavior: No, 2
Licking (non-sexual): No, 0
Manacles & Irons: No, 0
Manicures (giving): No, 3
Massage (giving): No, 4
Massage (receiving): No, 4
Medical scenes: No, 3
Modeling for erotic photos: No, 2
Modeling for erotic videos: No, No
Mouth bits: No, No
Mummification: No, No
Nipple clamps: No, 3
Nipple cloths pins: No, 3
Nipple weights: No, No
Oral/anal play (rimming): No, No
Over-the-knee spanking: No, 5
Orgasm denial: No, 4
Orgasm control: No, 4
Outdoor scenes: No, 3
Outdoor sex: No, 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): No, 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): No, 0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): No, No
Piercing (permanent): No, No
Prison scenes: No, No
Pony slave: No, No
Public exposure: No, 3 (Only if it was 'private-public).
Public tasks: No, 1
Pussy/cock whipping: N/A
Pussy worship: No, 5 (If I am receiving...yay).
Riding crops: No, No
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): No, No (I don't know what this is...).
Rituals: No, No
Religious scenes: No, No
Restrictive rules on behavior: No, 3
Rubber/latex clothing: No, 0
Rope body harness: No, 0
Saran wrapping: No, No
Scratching – getting: No, 2
Scratching – giving: No, 3
Sensory deprivation: No, 3
Serving: No, 3
Serving as art: No, No
Serving as ashtray: No, No
Serving as furniture: No, No
Serving as a maid: No, No
Serving as toilet: No, No
Serving as waitress/waiter: No, 0
Serving orally (sexual): No, 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): No, No (I took this as serving them sexually...).
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): No, No
Sexual deprivation (short term): Yes, 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): Yes, No (LOL, this was a funny one for me to fill out).
Shaving (body hair): Yes, 4
Shaving (head hair): No, No
Shaving (pubic hair): Yes, 4
Sleep deprivation: No, No (Don't even try it).
Sleep-sacks: No, No
Slutty clothing (private): Yes, 3
Slutty clothing (public): No, No
Spanking in private: No, 5
Spanking in public: No, No
Spanking in bdsm parties: No, No
Spanking pleasure: No, 5
Spandex clothing: No, 0
Speech restrictions (when, what): No, 0
Speculums (Anal): No, No
Speculums (vaginal): No, No
Spreader bars: No, 1
Standing in corner: No, 0
Stocks (adjustable): No, No
Stocks (fixed): No, No
Straight jackets: No, No
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): No, No
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): No, No
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): No, No
Strapping (full body beating): No, No
Suspension (upright): No, No
Suspension (inverted): No, No
Suspension (horizontal): No, No
Supplying new partners for Dom: No, No
Swallowing semen: No, 4
Swallowing urine: No, No
Swapping (with one other couple): No, No
Swinging (multiple couples): No, No
Tattooing: No, No
Teasing: No, 4
Tickling: No, 4
Triple penetration: No, 3
Triple penetration by 3 males: No, No
Uniforms: No, 3
Including others: No, 0
Vaginal dildo: Yes, 4
Verbal humiliation: No, No
Vibrator on genitals: Yes, 4
Voyeurism (watching others): No, 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): No, No
Video (watching others): Yes, 4
Video (recordings of you): No, 1
Water torture: No, No (I don't even know what this kind of thing is).
Wearing symbolic jewelry: No, 0
Whipping: No, 0
Wooden paddles: No, 3
Wrestling: No, 4

[moonlight]

Abrasion: no 0
Age play: no 2
Anal sex: yes 2
Anal plugs (small): no 3
Anal plugs (large): no 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 3
Animal roles: no 2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 3
Asphyxiation: no
Auctioned for charity: no 3
Bathroom use control: no 3
Bestiality: no
Beating (soft): no 2
Beating (hard): no 2
Blindfolds: no 2
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: no 5
Breath control: no 3
Branding: no 0
Boot worship: ?
Bondage (light): no 5
Bondage (heavy): no 4
Bondage (multi-day): no 5
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 5
Bondage and Sex: no 5
Breast whipping: no 5
Brown showers (scat): no
Cages (locked inside of): no 5
Caning: ?
Catheterization: no 2
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 5
Chastity belts: no 2
Chauffeuring: no 2
Choking: no 3
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 5
Clothespins body: no 4
Cock worship: yes 5
Collars (worn in private): no 5
Collars (worn in public): no 5
Competitions (with other Subs): NO
Corsets (wearing): no 5
Cuffs: no 5
Cuffs (metal): no 5
Cutting: NO
Dilation: no 2
Double penetration: no 5
Electricity: no 3
Enemas: NO
Enforced chastity: no
Examinations (physical): no 2
Exercise (forced/required): no 2
Exhibitionism (friends): no 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): NO
Eye contact restrictions: no 3
Face slapping: yes 3
Fantasy abandonment: no 5
Fantasy rape: no 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 3
Fantasy gang-rape: no 5
Fisting (anal): no 3
Fisting (vaginal): no 5
Flogging: no 5
Following hand signals: no 5
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: no 2
Forced dressing: no 5
Forced homosexuality: no 3
Forced masturbation: yes 4
Forced nudity (private): yes 4
Forced nudity (around others): no 3
Forced servitude: yes 5
Full head hoods: no 3
Gags (cloth): no 5
Gags (penis shaped): no 5
Gags (rubber): no 5
Gags (tape): no 5
Gates of Hell: ?
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 5
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 3
Given away to another Dom (perm): no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no
Golden showers: no 2
Greetings rituals: no 4
Hairbrush spankings: no 4
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): NA
Harems (serving w/other subs): NO
Harnessing (leather): no 3
Harnessing (rope): no 3
Having food chosen for you: yes 1
Having clothing chosen for you: no 0
Head (giving cunnilingus): no 3
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): no 3
Head (receiving fellatio male only): NA
High heel worship: no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): ?
Hot oils (on genitals): no 3
Hot waxing: yes 3
Housework (doing): no 5
Human puppy dog: no 3
Humiliation (private): no 3
Humiliation (public): no 3
Hypnotism: no 5
Ice cubes: yes 5
Infantilism: no
Initiation rites: no 3
Injections: no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 4
Interrogations: no 3
Kidnapping: no 5
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: no 5
restraints chains: no 5
restraints leather: no 5
restraints rope: no 5
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 3
Licking (non-sexual): yes 5
Manacles & Irons: no 2
Manicures (giving): no 4
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): no
Medical scenes: no
Modeling for erotic photos: no
Modeling for erotic videos: no
Mouth bits: ?
Mummification: no
Nipple clamps: no 5
Nipple cloths pins: no 5
Nipple weights: no 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): no 2
Over-the-knee spanking: no 3
Orgasm denial: no 5
Orgasm control: no 5
Outdoor scenes: yes 5
Outdoor sex: yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 3
Piercing (permanent): no
Prison scenes: no 5
Pony slave: no 2
Public exposure: no
Public tasks: no 2
Pussy/cock whipping: no 5
Pussy worship: no 3
Riding crops: ?
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): ?
Rituals: no 3
Religious scenes: no 3
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 3
Rope body harness: no 3
Saran wrapping: no 3
Scratching – getting: no 3
Scratching – giving: no 5
Sensory deprivation: no 5
Serving: yes 5
Serving as art: no 4
Serving as ashtray: no 4
Serving as furniture: no 4
Serving as a maid: no 4
Serving as toilet: no 2
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 4
Serving orally (sexual): no 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 5
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 3
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 0
Sexual deprivation (long term): yes 0
Shaving (body hair): yes 3
Shaving (head hair): no
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 3
Sleep deprivation: yes 3
Sleep-sacks: ?
Slutty clothing (private): no 5
Slutty clothing (public): no 5
Spanking in private: yes 3
Spanking in public: no 3
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 3
Spanking pleasure: no 3
Spandex clothing: no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 3
Speculums (Anal): no 2
Speculums (vaginal): no 4
Spreader bars: no 4
Standing in corner: no 4
Stocks (adjustable): no 3
Stocks (fixed): no 3
Straight jackets: no 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 3
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 3
Strapping (full body beating): no 2
Suspension (upright); no 2
Suspension (inverted): no 2
Suspension (horizontal): no 2
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 3
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: no 3
Swapping (with one other couple): no 3
Swinging (multiple couples): no 3
Tattooing: no
Teasing: yes 3
Tickling: no 4
Triple penetration: no 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 5
Uniforms: no 5
Including others: ?
Vaginal dildo: yes 3
Verbal humiliation: no 4
Vibrator on genitals: yes 3
Voyeurism (watching others): no 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 4
Video (watching others): no 3
Video (recordings of you): no 4
Water torture: no 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 5
Whipping: no 5
Wooden paddles: no 5
Wrestling: no 3

[sisterhoney61 {RW}]

The one for sub/slaves

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no 1
Age play: yes 5
Anal sex: no no
Anal plugs (small): no no
Anal plugs (large): no no
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no no
Animal roles: yes 4
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no no
Asphyxiation: no no
Auctioned for charity: yes 0
Bathroom use control: no no
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): yes 5
Beating (hard): yes 5
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 0
Breast/chest bondage: no 0
Breath control: no no
Branding: no no
Boot worship: no 1
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): no 5
Bondage (public, under clothing):no 5
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 5
Brown showers (scat): no no
Cages (locked inside of): no 5
Caning: no 4
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 5
Chastity belts: no 2
Chauffeuring: no 1
Choking: no no
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 5
Clothespins body: yes 5
Cock worship: yes 5
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): yes 5
Competitions (with other Subs): no no
Corsets (wearing): yes 5
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: no no
Dilation: no no
Double penetration: no 5
Electricity: no no
Enemas: no no
Enforced chastity: no 1
Examinations (physical): no no
Exercise (forced/required): no no
Exhibitionism (friends): no o
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 0
Eye contact restrictions: no no
Face slapping: no no
Fantasy abandonment: no no
Fantasy rape: yes 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 2
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no no
Fantasy forced rape anal: no no
Fantasy gang-rape: no 5
Fisting (anal): no no
Fisting (vaginal): yes 5
Flogging: yes 5
Following hand signals: yes 5
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: no 1
Forced dressing: yes 5
Forced homosexuality: no no
Forced masturbation: yes 5
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no 3
Forced servitude: yes 5
Full head hoods: no no
Gags (cloth): no no
Gags (penis shaped): no no
Gags (rubber): no no
Gags (tape): no no
Gates of Hell: N/A
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 5
Given away to another Domme (temp): no no
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no no
Greetings rituals: yes 5
Hairbrush spankings: yes 5
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): N/A
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 0
Harnessing (leather): no 5
Harnessing (rope): no 5
Having food chosen for you: yes 4
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 4
Head (giving cunnilingus): no no
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): N/A
High heel worship: no no
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 2
Hot oils (on genitals): yes 5
Hot waxing: yes 5
Housework (doing): yes 2
Human puppy dog: yes 4
Humiliation (private): yes 5
Humiliation (public): yes 5
Hypnotism: no 1
Ice cubes: yes 5
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: no 3
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 5
Interrogations: yes 5
Kidnapping: yes 5
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: yes 5
restraints chains: yes 5
restraints leather: yes 5
restraints rope: yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 4
Licking (non-sexual): yes 2
Manacles & Irons: no 5
Manicures (giving): no 1
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 1

Modeling for erotic photos: no 0
Modeling for erotic videos: no no
Mouth bits: no 5
Mummification: no no
Nipple clamps: yes 5
Nipple cloths pins: yes 5
Nipple weights: yes 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 0
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 5
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: no 4
Outdoor sex: yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 2
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 0
Piercing (permanent): no 0
Prison scenes: yes 5
Pony slave: no 5
Public exposure: no 3
Public tasks: yes 3
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 5
Pussy worship: no no
Riding crops: no 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): yes 5
Rituals: yes 5
Religious scenes: yes 5
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 5
Rope body harness: no 5
Saran wrapping: no no
Scratching – getting: no 5
Scratching – giving: no 5
Sensory deprivation: no 5
Serving: yes 5
Serving as art: no 5
Serving as ashtray: no no
Serving as furniture: no 5
Serving as a maid: no 5
Serving as toilet: no no
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes 5
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 5
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 5
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 5
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 5
Shaving (body hair): no no
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair): no no
Sleep deprivation: no no
Sleep-sacks: no no
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): no 5
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no 5
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 5
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: no 4
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 5
Speculums (Anal): no no
Speculums (vaginal): no 1
Spreader bars: no 5
Standing in corner: no 3
Stocks (adjustable): no 5
Stocks (fixed): no 5
Straight jackets: no no
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no no
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no no
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no no
Strapping (full body beating): no 4
Suspension (upright); no 5
Suspension (inverted): no 3
Suspension (horizontal): no 5
Supplying new partners for Dom: no no
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: no no
Swapping (with one other couple): no 4
Swinging (multiple couples): no 4
Tattooing: yes 5
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: yes 0
Triple penetration: no 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 5
Uniforms: no 5
Including others: no 5
Vaginal dildo: yes 5
Verbal humiliation: yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): no 1
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no no
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of you): no 0
Water torture: no 0
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 5
Whipping: yes 5
Wooden paddles: yes 5
Wrestling: no 0

[bellaslut]

Abrasion: yes 5
Age play:no 4
Anal sex:yes 2
Anal plugs (small):yes 5
Anal plugs (large):no 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 5
Animal roles: no 5
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):no 3
Asphyxiation: no 0
Auctioned for charity: no 0
Bathroom use control: no 5
Bestiality: no 0
Beating (soft): yes 5
Beating (hard): no 4
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: no 3
Breath control: no 0
Branding: no 0
Boot worship: no 5
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): no 0
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 5
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 5
Brown showers (scat): no 0
Cages (locked inside of): no 5
Caning: yes 5
Catheterization: no 0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 0
Chastity belts: no 3
Chauffeuring: no 5
Choking: no 0
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit:yes 5
Clothespins body: yes 5
Cock worship: no 2
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): no 5
Competitions (with other Subs): no 5
Corsets (wearing): no 4
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: no 0
Dilation: no 0
Double penetration: no 2
Electricity: no0
Enemas: no 5
Enforced chastity: no 2
Examinations (physical): no 5
Exercise (forced/required): no 5
Exhibitionism (friends): no 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 2
Eye contact restrictions: no 5
Face slapping: yes 5
Fantasy abandonment: no 0
Fantasy rape: no 3
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 2
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 0
Fantasy gang-rape: no 0
Fisting (anal): no 0
Fisting (vaginal): no 0
Flogging: yes 5
Following hand signals: no 4
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: no 5
Forced dressing: no 5
Forced homosexuality: N/A
Forced masturbation: yes 5
Forced nudity (private):yes 5
Forced nudity (around others):no 5
Forced servitude: no 3
Full head hoods: no 0
Gags (cloth): no 0
Gags (penis shaped):no 5
Gags (rubber): yes 5
Gags (tape): no 4
Gates of Hell:no 0
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 2
Given away to another Domme (temp):no 3
Given away to another Dom (perm): no 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): no 0
Golden showers: no 5
Greetings rituals: no 5
Hairbrush spankings: yes 5
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 3
Hand jobs (receiving):
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 5
Harnessing (leather): no 5
Harnessing (rope): yes 5
Having food chosen for you: no 5
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): yes 3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship: no 5
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 5
Hot oils (on genitals): no 4
Hot waxing: no 4
Housework (doing): no 5
Human puppy dog: yes 5
Humiliation (private):yes 5
Humiliation (public): yes 3
Hypnotism: no 0
Ice cubes: yes 5
Infantilism: no 4
Initiation rites: no 3
Injections: no 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 5
Interrogations: no 3
Kidnapping: no 0
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: no 2
restraints chains: no 5
restraints leather: yes 5
restraints rope: yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 5
Licking (non-sexual): no 5
Manacles & Irons: no 5
Manicures (giving): no 3
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 5

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 2
Modeling for erotic videos: no 0
Mouth bits: no 5
Mummification: no 0
Nipple clamps: yes 5
Nipple cloths pins: yes 5
Nipple weights: no 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 5
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: yes 3
Outdoor sex: yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 5
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 4
Piercing (permanent): no 0
Prison scenes: no 5
Pony slave: no 5
Public exposure: yes 2
Public tasks: yes 5
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 5
Pussy worship: yes 5
Riding crops: no 5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 4
Rituals:
Religious scenes: no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 2
Rope body harness: no 2
Saran wrapping:no 2
Scratching – getting: yes 5
Scratching – giving: yes 5
Sensory deprivation: no 2
Serving:
Serving as art: no 5
Serving as ashtray: no 5
Serving as furniture: no 5
Serving as a maid: no 5
Serving as toilet: no 4
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 5
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 5
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 1
Shaving (body hair): yes 3
Shaving (head hair): no 0
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 5
Sleep deprivation: no 0
Sleep-sacks: no 0
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): no 2
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no 5
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 5
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: no 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 5
Speculums (Anal): no 2
Speculums (vaginal): no 2
Spreader bars: no 5
Standing in corner: yes 5
Stocks (adjustable): no 5
Stocks (fixed): no 5
Straight jackets: no 3
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): No 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): No 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): No 5
Strapping (full body beating): No 5
Suspension (upright); No 4
Suspension (inverted): No 4
Suspension (horizontal): No 4
Supplying new partners for Dom: No 2
Swallowing semen: Yes 3
Swallowing urine: No 3
Swapping (with one other couple): No 2
Swinging (multiple couples): No 2
Tattooing: No 0
Teasing: Yes 5
Tickling: Yes 3
Triple penetration: No 1
Triple penetration by 3 males: No 0
Uniforms: No 4
Including others: No 4
Vaginal dildo: Yes 5
Verbal humiliation: Yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: Yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): No 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): No 3
Video (watching others): Yes 5
Video (recordings of you): No0
Water torture: No 0
Wearing symbolic jewelry: No 5
Whipping: Yes 5
Wooden paddles: Yes 5
Wrestling: Yes 3

[PropertyOfMasterJoey]

Abrasion: no-1 *
Age play: yes-5
Anal sex: no-1 *
Anal plugs (small): no-0
Anal plugs (large): no-0
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no-0
Animal roles: yes-2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no-3
Asphyxiation: no-NO
Auctioned for charity: no-3
Bathroom use control: no-NO
Bestiality: no-NO
Beating (soft): yes-5
Beating (hard): yes-3 *
Blindfolds: yes-5
Being serviced (sexual): ?
Being bitten: yes-5
Breast/chest bondage: no-2 *
Breath control: no-NO
Branding: no-NO
Boot worship: no-2
Bondage (light): yes-5
Bondage (heavy): yes-3 *
Bondage (multi-day): no-2
Bondage (public, under clothing): no-4
Bondage and Sex: yes-5
Breast whipping: yes-4
Brown showers (scat): no-NO
Cages (locked inside of): no-5
Caning: yes-4
Catheterization: no-NO
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no-3 *
Chastity belts: no-0
Chauffeuring: no-1
Choking: no-NO
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes-5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no-1
Clothespins body: no-2
Cock worship: yes-5
Collars (worn in private): yes-5 *
Collars (worn in public): no-3 *
Competitions (with other Subs): yes-2
Corsets (wearing): yes-4
Cuffs: yes-5
Cuffs (metal): yes-5
Cutting: no-NO
Dilation: no-NO
Double penetration: no-4
Electricity: no-0 *
Enemas: no-0 *
Enforced chastity: yes-3
Examinations (physical): yes-5
Exercise (forced/required): yes-5
Exhibitionism (friends): no-4
Exhibitionism (strangers): no-5
Eye contact restrictions: yes-3
Face slapping: no-NO
Fantasy abandonment: no-3
Fantasy rape: yes-5
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes-5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no-2
Fantasy forced rape anal: no-0
Fantasy gang-rape: no-2
Fisting (anal): no-NO
Fisting (vaginal): no-0
Flogging: yes-4
Following hand signals: yes-4
Following orders: yes-5
Foot worship: yes-2*
Forced dressing: yes-4
Forced homosexuality: no (lol no need to force :-P)
Forced masturbation: yes-5
Forced nudity (private): yes-5
Forced nudity (around others): no-5
Forced servitude: yes-5
Full head hoods: no-NO
Gags (cloth): yes-4
Gags (penis shaped): no-3
Gags (rubber): yes-5
Gags (tape): yes-3
Gates of Hell: N/A
Genital sex: yes-5 *
Given away to another Dom (temp):no-2
Given away to another Domme (temp): yes-4
Given away to another Dom (perm): no-NO
Given away to another Domme (perm): no-NO
Golden showers: no-NO
Greetings rituals: no-2
Hairbrush spankings: yes-5
Hair pulling: yes-5
Hand jobs (giving): yes-3
Hand jobs (receiving): yes-4
Harems (serving w/other subs): no-3
Harnessing (leather): no-2
Harnessing (rope): no-1
Having food chosen for you: yes-3 *
Having clothing chosen for you: yes-4 *
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes-3
Head (giving fellatio): yes-5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes-5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): N/A
High heel worship: no-1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): ?
Hot oils (on genitals): no-1
Hot waxing: yes-5 *
Housework (doing): yes-5
Human puppy dog: yes-5
Humiliation (private): yes-5
Humiliation (public): no-4
Hypnotism: no-2
Ice cubes: yes-5
Infantilism: no-0
Initiation rites: no-1
Injections: no-NO NO NO NO NO NEVER NO!
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no-4
Interrogations: yes-5
Kidnapping: yes-5
Kneeling: yes-5
Leather clothing: yes-3
restraints chains: yes-5
restraints leather: yes-5
restraints rope: no-2
Lectures for misbehavior: yes-0 (those aren't supposed to turn me on though. it's actual discipline)
Licking (non-sexual): ? i don't get it...
Manacles & Irons: no-2
Manicures (giving): no-1
Massage (giving): yes-5!
Massage (receiving): yes-5
Medical scenes: yes-2

Modeling for erotic photos: yes-5!!!!
Modeling for erotic videos: yes-5
Mouth bits: no-2
Mummification: no-NO
Nipple clamps: yes-5
Nipple cloths pins: yes-5
Nipple weights: yes-2
Oral/anal play (rimming): no-NO
Over-the-knee spanking: YES-5
Orgasm denial: yes-5
Orgasm control: yes-5
Outdoor scenes: yes-3
Outdoor sex: yes-5
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes-4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no-0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no-NO
Piercing (permanent): no-NO
Prison scenes: yes-5
Pony slave: yes-2
Public exposure: no-2
Public tasks: yes-4
Pussy/cock whipping: yes-4
Pussy worship: no-1
Riding crops: no-4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no-no
Rituals: yes-3*
Religious scenes: (hehe nun=fun) yes-5
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes-4
Rubber/latex clothing: yes-2
Rope body harness: no-0
Saran wrapping: no-0
Scratching – getting: yes-5
Scratching – giving: no-2
Sensory deprivation: yes-5 *
Serving: yes-5
Serving as art: no-0
Serving as ashtray: no-NO
Serving as furniture: yes-5
Serving as a maid: YES-5!
Serving as toilet: no-NO
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes-5
Serving orally (sexual): yes-5
Serving other Doms (supervised): yes-4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no-0
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes-4
Sexual deprivation (long term): yes-1 (usually punishment)
Shaving (body hair): no-0
Shaving (head hair): no-NO
Shaving (pubic hair): yes-3
Sleep deprivation: no-1 (i don't sleep much anyways)
Sleep-sacks: no-0
Slutty clothing (private): yes-5
Slutty clothing (public): no-1
Spanking in private: yes-5
Spanking in public: no-3
Spanking in bdsm parties: yes-5
Spanking pleasure: yes-5
Spandex clothing: no-0
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes-5
Speculums (Anal): no-NO
Speculums (vaginal): no-NO
Spreader bars: no-5
Standing in corner: yes-3
Stocks (adjustable): no-0
Stocks (fixed): no-0
Straight jackets: no-0*
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):no-0
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no-0
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no-0
Strapping (full body beating): no-1
Suspension (upright); no-2
Suspension (inverted): no-1
Suspension (horizontal): no-1
Supplying new partners for Dom: no-0
Swallowing semen: yes-5
Swallowing urine: no-NO
Swapping (with one other couple): yes-3 lol good for spicing it up now and then
Swinging (multiple couples): no-0
Tattooing: no-NO needles=evil!
Teasing: yes-5
Tickling: yes-1
Triple penetration: no-3
Triple penetration by 3 males: no-2
Uniforms: yes-3
Including others: yes-4
Vaginal dildo: yes-5
Verbal humiliation: YES-5
Vibrator on genitals: yesyesyes-5
Voyeurism (watching others): yes-3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): yes-2
Video (watching others): yes-3
Video (recordings of you): yes-5
Water torture: no-0
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes-5*
Whipping: yes-5
Wooden paddles: yes-5
Wrestling: no-0

[hopperboo]

Here we go...again.

I've been meaning to update this. Some of my views have changed on these topics after reading different posts and more about the topics so I thought I'd re-post. Quite a few things I had marked as “hard limits” I have changed my opinion on.

I should have waited a while and read more before I answered the questionnaire in the first place. :(

I'm sure they'll change again once I get to actually doing the list. Hah.



Anything with an "*" by it just means I'd be reluctant (or wouldn’t) do it because I've heard of health/danger issues.



Abrasion: No, 0 I still don't really get what this is in a BDSM context so I am not changing my answer.

Age play: No, 2

Anal sex: No, 5

Anal plugs (small): No, 3

*Anal plugs (large): No, 0

Anal plug (public, under clothes): No, 3

Animal roles: No, 1

Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): No, 0

*Asphyxiation: No, No

Auctioned for charity: No, No

Bathroom use control: No, 2

Bestiality: No, No

Beating (soft): No, 3

Beating (hard): No, 1

Blindfolds: No, 4

Being serviced (sexual): No, 4 I wouldn’t want it a “submissive” type of service...if that makes any sense at all.

Being bitten: No, 4

Breast/chest bondage: No, 2

*Breath control: No, 2 It would depend on the man.... If he was a serial killer it would automatically drop to a hard limit. Heh.

Branding: No, No

Boot worship: No, 1

Bondage (light): No, 4

Bondage (heavy): No, 2

*Bondage (multi-day): No, No

Bondage (public, under clothing): No, 3

Bondage and Sex: No, 4

Breast whipping: No, 2

*Brown showers (scat): No, No

Cages (locked inside of): No, 2

Caning: No, 2

*Catheterization: No, No

Cells/Closets (locked inside of): No, No I’m afraid of the dark.

Chastity belts: No, 1

Chauffeuring: No, 1

*Choking: No, 2 Same as the breath play kind of stuff?

Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes, 3

Clothespins labia lips/clit: Yes, 3

Clothespins body: No, 2

Cock worship: No, 4

Collars (worn in private): No, 2

Collars (worn in public): No, 2

Competitions (with other Subs): No, No

Corsets (wearing): No, 3

Cuffs: No, 3

Cuffs (metal): No, 3

*Cutting: No, No

*Dilation: No, No Extreme dilation I would think wouldn’t be healthy for one’s body.

Double penetration: Yes, 4

Electricity: No, 3

Enemas: No, 0

Enforced chastity: Yes, No...lmbo.

Examinations (physical): No, 3

Exercise (forced/required): No, 3 (Um, just to clarify, I said 'no' as in I haven't been 'forced' or 'required' by another person).

Exhibitionism (friends): No, 0

Exhibitionism (strangers): No, 3

Eye contact restrictions: No, 0

Face slapping: No, ? It would depend on the man, and I can’t honestly say how I’d feel about it until it happened. Anywhere from a 2-5

Fantasy abandonment: No, No

Fantasy rape: No, 5

Fantasy forced deep throat: No, 4

Fantasy forced cunt licking: No, No

Fantasy forced rape anal: No, 4

Fantasy gang-rape: No, No

*Fisting (anal): No, No

Fisting (vaginal): No, 0

Flogging: No, 2

Following hand signals: No, 1 Ahhh. I don’t really see the point.

Following orders: No, 4

Foot worship: No, 2

Forced dressing: No, 2/3

Forced homosexuality: No, No

Forced masturbation: No, 4

Forced nudity (private): No, 4

Forced nudity (around others): No, 0

Forced servitude: No, No

Full head hoods: No, 2-4

Gags (cloth): No, 3

Gags (penis shaped): No, 0

Gags (rubber): No, 0

*Gags (tape): No, No I’ve heard duct tape is not good for one’s skin.

Gates of Hell: I still have no idea what this is....

Genital sex: No, 5

Given away to another Dom (temp): No, No

Given away to another Domme (temp): No, No

Given away to another Dom (perm): No, No

Given away to another Domme (perm): No, No

Golden showers: No, 2

Greetings rituals: No, 0

Hairbrush spankings: No, 4

Hair pulling: No, 4

Hand jobs (giving): No, 4

Hand jobs (receiving): No, 4

Harems (serving w/other subs): No, No

Harnessing (leather): No, 0

Harnessing (rope): No, 0

Having food chosen for you: No, 1-2

Having clothing chosen for you: No, 2-3

Head (giving cunnilingus): No, No

Head (giving fellatio): No, 5

Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): No, 5

Head (receiving fellatio male only): N/A

High heel worship: No, No

Homage with tongue (non-sexual): No, 0

Hot oils (on genitals): No, 2

Hot waxing: No, 3

Housework (doing): No, 3 I like cleaning!

Human puppy dog: No, 0

Humiliation (private): No, 4/5

Humiliation (public): No, 4/5

Hypnotism: No, No I personally don't believe in it.

Ice cubes: Yes, 4

Infantilism: No, No

Initiation rites: No, No

*Injections: No, No

Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: No, 1

Interrogations: No, 3 (And if you have a sexy accent it pops up to a 4, lol).

Kidnapping: No, 4/5 Safely of course....

Kneeling: No, 3

Leather clothing: No, 0

Restraints chains: No, 4

Restraints leather: No, 4

Restraints rope: No, 4

Lectures for misbehavior: No, 2

Licking (non-sexual): No, 2

Manacles & Irons: No, 2

Manicures (giving): No, 4 (Yay! I'll do pedicures too!)

Massage (giving): No, 4

Massage (receiving): No, 4

Medical scenes: No, 3

Modeling for erotic photos: No, 3

Modeling for erotic videos: No, 2

Mouth bits: No, 0

Mummification: No, No

Nipple clamps: No, 3

Nipple cloths pins: Yes, 3

Nipple weights: No, 0

*Oral/anal play (rimming): No, No

Over-the-knee spanking: No, 5

Orgasm denial: No, 4

Orgasm control: No, 4/5

Outdoor scenes: No, 3

Outdoor sex: No, 4

Phone sex (serving Dom): No, 3

Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): No, 0

Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): No, No

Piercing (permanent): No, No

Prison scenes: No, 1

Pony slave: No, No

Public exposure: No, 4 Only if it was ‘private-public.’

Public tasks: No, 2

Pussy whipping: No, 2

Pussy worship: No, 5 If I am receiving...and I hope it wouldn’t feel like the man was submissive to me....

Riding crops: No, 2

Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): No, 2 ...still not sure what this is either...hah.

Rituals: No, No

Religious scenes: No, No

Restrictive rules on behavior: No, 3

Rubber/latex clothing: No, 0

Rope body harness: No, 0

Saran wrapping: No, 0 I don't get the appeal.

Scratching – getting: No, 2-4

Scratching – giving: No, 3

Sensory deprivation: No, 4/5

Serving: No, 3

Serving as art: No, No

Serving as ashtray: No, No

Serving as furniture: No, 0

Serving as a maid: No, 1

Serving as toilet: No, No

Serving as waitress/waiter: No, 1

Serving orally (sexual): No, 4

Serving other Doms (supervised): No, 0 It would depend on the context of ‘serving.’

Serving other Doms (unsupervised): No, No

Sexual deprivation (short term): Yes, 3

Sexual deprivation (long term): Yes, No (LOL, this was a funny one for me to fill out).

Shaving (body hair): Yes, 4

Shaving (head hair): No, No

Shaving (pubic hair): Yes, 4

Sleep deprivation: No, No NO ONE messes with my sleep! :D

Sleep-sacks: No, No I don’t get the appeal.

Slutty clothing (private): Yes, 3

Slutty clothing (public): No, 3

Spanking in private: No, 5

Spanking in public: No, 0

Spanking in bdsm parties: No, 0

Spanking pleasure: No, 5

Spandex clothing: lmbo

Speech restrictions (when, what): No, 1

Speculum (Anal): No, 2

Speculum (vaginal): No, 3

Spreader bars: No, 2

Standing in corner: No, 1

Stocks (adjustable): No, No

Stocks (fixed): No, No

Straight jackets: No, No

Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): No, No

Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): No, No

Strap-on-dildos (wearing): No, No

Strapping (full body beating): No, 1

Suspension (upright): No, 0

Suspension (inverted): No, 0

Suspension (horizontal): No, 0

Supplying new partners for Dom: No, No

Swallowing semen: No, 4

Swallowing urine: No, No

Swapping (with one other couple): No, 0 I guess it would depend on far it would be taken...I'd only do it if it was something he (my partner) couldn't live without.

Swinging (multiple couples): No, No

Tattooing: No, No

Teasing: No, 4

Tickling: No, 4

Triple penetration: No, 4

Triple penetration by 3 males: No, 0

Uniforms: No, 3

Including others: No, 0

Vaginal dildo: Yes, 4

Verbal humiliation: No, 4

Vibrator on genitals: Yes, 4

Voyeurism (watching others): No, 3/4

Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): No, No Only a hard limit for the fact that I don’t want to share.

Video (watching others): Yes, 4

Video (recordings of you): No, 3

Water torture: No, 0 I suppose. Still not really sure on this whole deal.

Wearing symbolic jewelry: No, 1

Whipping: No, 1

Wooden paddles: No, 3

Wrestling: No, 5

[MissConfused]

What thorough lists!
I'm sorry but I won't post my answers here. It would take two hours but I am going to type up the lists and TRY to discuss them with my husband.
Maybe if he has an idea exactly what I want I may change his mind about BDSM.

[hopperboo]

What thorough lists!
I'm sorry but I won't post my answers here. It would take two hours but I am going to type up the lists and TRY to discuss them with my husband.
Maybe if he has an idea exactly what I want I may change his mind about BDSM.

Nods. It does seem to take fooooooooooooorever.

Good thing I was bored this morning. :)



p.s. good luck!

[icey]

Nods. It does seem to take fooooooooooooorever.

!
tell me about it, it took me god knows how long to post it and now its disappeared lol it's been replaced with a smiley face!

[Zarine13]

Ohhh, this thread is too useful to be buried!

[DaddysLilSlut]

Abrasion: No 3
Age play: No 1
Anal sex: Yes 4
Anal plugs (small): Yes 3
Anal plugs (large): No 0
Anal plug (public, under clothes): Yes 3
Animal roles: No 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): No 1
Asphyxiation: No 2
Auctioned for charity: No 0
Bathroom use control: Yes 4
Bestiality: NO NO
Beating (soft): Yes 4
Beating (hard): Yes 3
Blindfolds: Yes 3
Being serviced (sexual): Yes 2
Being bitten: Yes 3
Breast/chest bondage: No 3
Breath control: Yes 3
Branding: No 2
Boot worship: No 2
Bondage (light): Yes 2
Bondage (heavy): No 2
Bondage (multi-day): No 1
Bondage (public, under clothing): No 3
Bondage and Sex: Yes 3
Breast whipping: No 2
Brown showers (scat): NO NO
Cages (locked inside of): No 2
Caning: No 2
Catheterization: No No
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): No 1
Chastity belts: No 3
Chauffeuring: No 1
Choking: Yes 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: No 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit: No 2
Clothespins body: No 2
Cock worship: Yes 4
Collars (worn in private): Yes 5
Collars (worn in public): No 3
Competitions (with other Subs): No 2
Corsets (wearing): No 4
Cuffs: No 5
Cuffs (metal): No 5
Cutting: No 3
Dilation: No 0
Double penetration: No 2
Electricity: No 0
Enemas: No 1
Enforced chastity: No 3
Examinations (physical): No 1
Exercise (forced/required): No 1
Exhibitionism (friends): Yes 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): No 3
Eye contact restrictions: Yes 3
Face slapping: Yes 4
Fantasy abandonment: No 2
Fantasy rape: No 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: No 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: No 3
Fantasy forced rape anal: No 2
Fantasy gang-rape: No 0
Fisting (anal): No No
Fisting (vaginal): No No
Flogging: No 3
Following hand signals: No 3
Following orders: Yes 5
Foot worship: Yes 4
Forced dressing: No 2
Forced homosexuality: No 1
Forced masturbation: Yes 3
Forced nudity (private): No 3
Forced nudity (around others): No 1
Forced servitude: No 1
Full head hoods: No 0
Gags (cloth): No 3
Gags (penis shaped): No 3
Gags (rubber): No 3
Gags (tape): No 2
Gates of Hell: No 1
Genital sex: Yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): No 0
Given away to another Domme (temp): No 2 only if daddy is there
Given away to another Dom (perm): No No
Given away to another Domme (perm): No No
Golden showers: yes 3.5
Greetings rituals: No 2
Hairbrush spankings: No 3
Hair pulling: Yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): Yes 4
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): No 3
Harnessing (leather): No 3
Harnessing (rope): No 3
Having food chosen for you: No 2.5
Having clothing chosen for you: No 2
Head (giving cunnilingus): Yes 3
Head (giving fellatio): Yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): Yes 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): N/A
High heel worship: No 3
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): No?
Hot oils (on genitals): No 0
Hot waxing: No 2
Housework (doing): No 2
Human puppy dog: No 2
Humiliation (private): No 2
Humiliation (public): No 1
Hypnotism: No 1
Ice cubes: No 3
Infantilism: No No
Initiation rites: No 0
Injections: No 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: No 3
Interrogations: No 2
Kidnapping: No 3*
Kneeling: Yes 4
Leather clothing: No 2
restraints chains: No 3
restraints leather: No 2
restraints rope: No 3
Lectures for misbehavior: No 2
Licking (non-sexual): No 2
Manacles & Irons: No 4
Manicures (giving): No 1
Massage (giving): Yes 3
Massage (receiving): Yes 4
Medical scenes: No 0

Modeling for erotic photos: No 2
Modeling for erotic videos: No 2
Mouth bits: No 3
Mummification: No 0
Nipple clamps: No 4
Nipple cloths pins: No 3
Nipple weights: No 3
Oral/anal play (rimming): Yes 3
Over-the-knee spanking: No 3
Orgasm denial: No 3
Orgasm control: Yes 3
Outdoor scenes: No 3
Outdoor sex: Yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): No 2
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): No 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): No 2
Piercing (permanent): No 2
Prison scenes: No 3
Pony slave: No 2
Public exposure: No 3

Public tasks: No 2
Pussy/cock whipping: No 3
Pussy worship: no 2
Riding crops: No 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): No 3
Rituals: No 3?
Religious scenes: No 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: No 3
Rubber/latex clothing: No 1
Rope body harness: No 3
Saran wrapping: No 1
Scratching – getting: No 3
Scratching – giving: No 3
Sensory deprivation: No 3
Serving: Yes 4
Serving as art: No 2
Serving as ashtray: No 1
Serving as furniture: No 3
Serving as a maid: No 2
Serving as toilet: Yes 4 piss only
Serving as waitress/waiter: Yes 4
Serving orally (sexual): Yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): No 1
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): No 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): No 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): No 1
Shaving (body hair): No 1
Shaving (head hair): No NO
Shaving (pubic hair): Yes 5
Sleep deprivation: No 3
Sleep-sacks: No 1
Slutty clothing (private): No 2
Slutty clothing (public): No 1
Spanking in private: No 4
Spanking in public: No 2.5
Spanking in bdsm parties: No 1
Spanking pleasure: Yes 5
Spandex clothing: No 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): No 1
Speculums (Anal): No No
Speculums (vaginal): No No
Spreader bars: No 3
Standing in corner: No 3
Stocks (adjustable): No 2
Stocks (fixed): No 2
Straight jackets: No 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): No 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): No 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): No 1
Strapping (full body beating): No 2.5
Suspension (upright); No 3
Suspension (inverted): No 1
Suspension (horizontal): No 1
Supplying new partners for Dom: Yes 3
Swallowing semen: Yes 4
Swallowing urine: Yes 3 only you
Swapping (with one other couple): Yes 3
Swinging (multiple couples): No 2-3
Tattooing: No in the bdsm sense 3
Teasing: Yes 3
Tickling: Yes 3
Triple penetration: No 0
Triple penetration by 3 males: No 0
Uniforms: No 2-3
Including others: Yes 2-3
Vaginal dildo: No 2
Verbal humiliation: No 2
Vibrator on genitals: Yes 3-4
Voyeurism (watching others): Yes 3-4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): No 3
Video (watching others): Yes 3
Video (recordings of you): No 4
Water torture: No 2.5
Wearing symbolic jewelry: No 4
Whipping: Yes 3-4
Wooden paddles: No 3
Wrestling: No 3


I'm already wanting to change things lol

[brwneydgirl]

:bump: Had to dig it up...might as well share. :D

[Daddy's Naughty Girl]

This is an excellent post! It may take some time because I have a busy schedule, as does Daddy, but I will think seriously on these questions and answer them. I hope that Daddy is able to find the time to do the same (if not in writing then in conversation.) I will show him this list on Saturday when I see him! :hubba::hubba::hubba:

[sagacioussaga]

Abrasion: no 2
Age play: no 0
Anal sex: yes 5
Anal plugs (small): no 3
Anal plugs (large): no 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 3
Animal roles: no 2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 3
Asphyxiation: yes 4
Auctioned for charity: no 2
Bathroom use control: no 3
Bestiality: no 3
Beating (soft): yes 4
Beating (hard): yes 4
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): no 3
Being bitten: yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: no 3
Breath control: no 3
Branding: NO
Boot worship: no 0
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): yes 5
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 4
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: no 2
Brown showers (scat): no 0
Cages (locked inside of): no 3
Caning: no 3
Catheterization: no 0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): NO
Chastity belts: no 3
Chauffeuring: no 3
Choking: yes 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 3
Clothespins body: no 3
Cock worship: no 3
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): no 3
Competitions (with other Subs): no 0
Corsets (wearing): yes 5
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: NO
Dilation: no 0
Double penetration: yes 4
Electricity: no 3
Enemas: no 2
Enforced chastity: no 0
Examinations (physical): no 1
Exercise (forced/required): no 1
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 4
Exhibitionism (strangers): yes 4
Eye contact restrictions: no 2
Face slapping: yes 4
Fantasy abandonment: NO
Fantasy rape: no 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 4
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 3
Fantasy gang-rape: no 3
Fisting (anal): no 4
Fisting (vaginal): no 4
Flogging: no 4
Following hand signals: no 4
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: no 3
Forced dressing: no 3
Forced homosexuality: no 4
Forced masturbation: yes 4
Forced nudity (private): no 4
Forced nudity (around others): no 3
Forced servitude: no 3
Full head hoods: no 3
Gags (cloth): yes 2
Gags (penis shaped): no 2
Gags (rubber): no 4
Gags (tape): no 3
Gates of Hell: no 4
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 3
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 3
Given away to another Dom (perm): NO
Given away to another Domme (perm): NO
Golden showers: no 1
Greetings rituals: no 3
Hairbrush spankings: no 2
Hair pulling: yes 4
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 3
Harnessing (leather): no 4
Harnessing (rope): no 4
Having food chosen for you: no 1
Having clothing chosen for you: no 1
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 4
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 1
Hot oils (on genitals): no 1
Hot waxing: no 2
Housework (doing): no 2
Human puppy dog: no 2
Humiliation (private): no 3
Humiliation (public): no 3
Hypnotism: no 1
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism: NO
Initiation rites: no 1
Injections: NO
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 4
Interrogations: no 1
Kidnapping: no 1
Kneeling: yes 4
Leather clothing: no 4
restraints chains: yes 4
restraints leather: yes 4
restraints rope: yes 4
Lectures for misbehavior: no 3
Licking (non-sexual): no 3
Manacles & Irons: no 4
Manicures (giving): no 1
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): yes 4
Medical scenes: no 3

Modeling for erotic photos: no 3
Modeling for erotic videos: yes 3
Mouth bits: no 4
Mummification: no 1
Nipple clamps: no 3
Nipple cloths pins: no 3
Nipple weights: no 3
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking: no 4
Orgasm denial: yes 5
Orgasm control: no 5
Outdoor scenes: no 4
Outdoor sex: no 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 3
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 1
Piercing (permanent): no 1
Prison scenes: no 1
Pony slave: no 1
Public exposure: no 1
Public tasks: no 1
Pussy/cock whipping: no 3
Pussy worship: no 1
Riding crops: no 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 2
Rituals: no 1
Religious scenes: no 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 2
Rubber/latex clothing: no 2
Rope body harness: no 3
Saran wrapping: no 3
Scratching – getting: yes 5
Scratching – giving: yes 5
Sensory deprivation: no 2
Serving: no 2
Serving as art: no 3
Serving as ashtray: NO
Serving as furniture: no 2
Serving as a maid: no 2
Serving as toilet: NO
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 2
Serving orally (sexual): no 3
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 4
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 2
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 1
Shaving (body hair): no 3
Shaving (head hair): NO
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 5
Sleep deprivation: no 2
Sleep-sacks: no 1
Slutty clothing (private): no 3
Slutty clothing (public): no 0
Spanking in private: yes 4
Spanking in public: no 0
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 2
Spanking pleasure: yes 4
Spandex clothing: no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 3
Speculums (Anal): no 2
Speculums (vaginal): no 2
Spreader bars: no 3
Standing in corner: no 1
Stocks (adjustable): no 1
Stocks (fixed): no 1
Straight jackets: no 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 3
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 4
Strapping (full body beating): no 3
Suspension (upright); no 3
Suspension (inverted): no 1
Suspension (horizontal): no 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 0
Swallowing semen: yes 4
Swallowing urine: no 0
Swapping (with one other couple): no 2
Swinging (multiple couples): no 1
Tattooing: no 1
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: yes 4
Triple penetration: no 4
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 4
Uniforms: no 1
Including others: yes 2
Vaginal dildo: yes 4
Verbal humiliation: yes 3
Vibrator on genitals: yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 0
Video (watching others): yes 4
Video (recordings of you): yes 3
Water torture: yes 4
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 4
Whipping: no 4
Wooden paddles: no 2
Wrestling: no 2
:bondage:

[raineyswench]

well it seems I have a lot to learn :)

[Ozme52]

Of course you do.

We all do.

Even the most experienced of us.

That's part of the fun.

[subrob99]

My biggest fantasy is to be dominated by a male and female dom couple but here is my list
Abrasion: ?
Age play: ?
Anal sex: 3
Anal plugs (small): 5
Anal plugs (large): 5
Anal plug (public, under clothes): 5
Animal roles: 4
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): 3
Asphyxiation:2
Auctioned for charity: 5
Bathroom use control: 3
Bestiality: 0
Beating (soft): 5
Beating (hard):5
Blindfolds: 5
Being serviced (sexual): 5
Being bitten: 3
Breast/chest bondage: 5
Breath control: 1
Branding: 1
Boot worship: 4
Bondage (light): 5
Bondage (heavy):5
Bondage (multi-day):5
Bondage (public, under clothing): 5
Bondage and Sex: 5
Breast whipping: 4 my own
Brown showers (scat): 2
Cages (locked inside of): 5
Caning: 5
Catheteriation: 5
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): 5
Chastity belts: 5
Chauffeuring: 1
Choking: 1
Clothespins breast/nipples: 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit:n/a
Clothespins body: 5
Cock worship:4
Collars (worn in private): 5
Collars (worn in public): 5
Competitions (with other Subs): 5
Corsets (wearing): 5
Cuffs: 5
Cuffs (metal): 5
Cutting: 1
Dilation:n/a
Double penetration: 3
Electricity:5
Enemas: 4
Enforced chastity:5
Examinations (physical):5
Exercise (forced/required):3
Exhibitionism (friends):5
Exhibitionism (strangers):5
Eye contact restrictions: 5
Face slapping:5
Fantasy abandonment: 5
Fantasy rape: 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: 5
Fantasy gang-rape: 5
Fisting (anal): 5
Fisting (vaginal): N/a
Flogging: 5
Following hand signals: 5
Following orders: 5
Foot worship: 10
Forced dressing: 5
Forced homosexuality: 3
Forced masturbation:4
Forced nudity (private): 5
Forced nudity (around others): 5
Forced servitude: 5
Full head hoods: 5
Gags (cloth): 5
Gags (penis shaped): 5
Gags (rubber): 5
Gags (tape): 5
Gates of Hell:1
Genital sex: 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): 5
Given away to another Domme (temp): 5
Given away to another Dom (perm):4
Given away to another Domme (perm): 4
Golden showers: 5
Greetings rituals: 5
Hairbrush spankings: 5
Hair pulling: 5
Hand jobs (giving): 5
Hand jobs (receiving): 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): 5
Harnessing (leather): 5
Harnessing (rope): 5
Having food chosen for you: 5
Having clothing chosen for you: 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): 5
Head (giving fellatio): 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): n/a
Head (receiving fellatio male only): 4
High heel worship:10
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): 5
Hot oils (on genitals): 5
Hot waxing: 5
Housework (doing): 5
Human puppy dog: 5
Humiliation (private): 5
Humiliation (public): 5
Hypnotism: 5
Ice cubes: 5
Infantilism: 1
Initiation rites: 3
Injections: 1
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: 5
Interrogations: 5
Kidnapping: 5
Kneeling: 5
Leather clothing: 5
restraints chains: 5
restraints leather: 5
restraints rope: 5
Lectures for misbehavior: 5
Licking (non-sexual):3
Manacles & Irons: 5
Manicures (giving): 0
Massage (giving): 3
Massage (receiving): 4
Medical scenes: 5

Modeling for erotic photos: 5
Modeling for erotic videos: 5
Mouth bits: 5
Mummification: 5
Nipple clamps: 5
Nipple cloths pins: 5
Nipple weights: 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): 5
Over-the-knee spanking: 5
Orgasm denial: 5
Orgasm control: 5
Outdoor scenes: 5
Outdoor sex: 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): 5
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): 5
Piercing (permanent):3
Prison scenes: 5
Pony slave: 5
Public exposure: 5
Public tasks: 5
Pussy/cock whipping: 5
Pussy worship: 5
Riding crops: 5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): 4
Rituals: 3
Religious scenes: 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: 5
Rubber/latex clothing: 5
Rope body harness: 5
Saran wrapping: 5
Scratching – getting: 5
Scratching – giving: 2
Sensory deprivation: 5
Serving: 5
Serving as art: 5
Serving as ashtray: 5
Serving as furniture: 5
Serving as a maid: 5
Serving as toilet: 5
Serving as waitress/waiter: 5
Serving orally (sexual): 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): 5
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):5
Sexual deprivation (short term): 5
Sexual deprivation (long term):5
Shaving (body hair): 5
Shaving (head hair): 5
Shaving (pubic hair):5
Sleep deprivation: 5
Sleep-sacks: 5
Slutty clothing (private): 5
Slutty clothing (public): 5
Spanking in private: 5
Spanking in public: 5
Spanking in bdsm parties: 5
Spanking pleasure: 5
Spandex clothing: 5
Speech restrictions (when, what): 2
Speculums (Anal):4
Speculums (vaginal): n/a
Spreader bars: 5
Standing in corner: 5
Stocks (adjustable): 5
Stocks (fixed):5
Straight jackets: 5
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on) : 4
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): n/a
Strapping (full body beating): 5
Suspension (upright); 5
Suspension (inverted): 5
Suspension (horizontal): 5
Supplying new partners for Dom: 5
Swallowing semen: 5
Swallowing urine: 5
Swapping (with one other couple): 5
Swinging (multiple couples): 5
Tattooing: 0
Teasing: 5
Tickling: 5
Triple penetration: 3
Triple penetration by 3 males: n/1
Uniforms:4
Including others: 4
Vaginal dildo: n/a
Verbal humiliation: 5
Vibrator on genitals: 5
Voyeurism (watching others): 5
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): 5
Video (watching others): 5
Video (recordings of you): 5
Water torture: 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry: 3
Whipping:5
Wooden paddles: 5
Wrestling: 1

[mrperson]

I am a 21 year old submissive male looking to start a S/M relationship with a mistress. I am not very experience, but I would love to learn and serve a dominant woman.

Abrasion: ?
Age play: no 1
Anal sex: no 1
Anal plugs (small): yes 4
Anal plugs (large): no 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 1
Animal roles: no 2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 4
Asphyxiation: NO
Auctioned for charity: NO
Bathroom use control: no 3
Bestiality: NO
Beating (soft): no (Not including spanking) 3, slapping, whipping
Beating (hard): NO
Blindfolds: yes 3
Being serviced (sexual): yes 4
Being bitten: no 3
Breast/chest bondage: N/A
Breath control: NO
Branding: NO
Boot worship: no, 5
Bondage (light): yes, 5
Bondage (heavy): no, 5 I would like to be tied up really tight. I want to feel completely helpless
Bondage (multi-day): no, 2
Bondage (public, under clothing): no, 2
Bondage and Sex: no 5
Breast whipping: N/A
Brown showers (scat): NO
Cages (locked inside of): no, 4. I think it would be really hot to be locked up in a small cage and teased.
Caning: no, 3
Catheterization: NO
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no, 1
Chastity belts: no, 3
Chauffeuring: NO
Choking: no, 3
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: N/A
Clothespins body: no, 4
Cock worship: no, 0
Collars (worn in private): no, 5
Collars (worn in public): NO
Competitions (with other Subs): no, 1
Corsets (wearing): N/A
Cuffs: yes, 5
Cuffs (metal): no, 4
Cutting: NO
Dilation: NO
Double penetration: N/A
Electricity: no, 3
Enemas: no, 3
Enforced chastity: no, 3
Examinations (physical): no, 1
Exercise (forced/required): no, 1
Exhibitionism (friends): NO
Exhibitionism (strangers): NO
Eye contact restrictions: no, 4
Face slapping: no, 4
Fantasy abandonment: no, 3
Fantasy rape: no, 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: N/A
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no, 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: no, 4
Fantasy gang-rape: NO
Fisting (anal): NO
Fisting (vaginal): N/A
Flogging: no, 3
Following hand signals: no, 3
Following orders: no, 5
Foot worship: no, 5
Forced dressing: yes 3
Forced homosexuality: no, 0
Forced masturbation: no, 4
Forced nudity (private): no, 4
Forced nudity (around others): NO
Forced servitude: yes, 5
Full head hoods: no, 2
Gags (cloth): no, 2
Gags (penis shaped): no, 4
Gags (rubber): no, 5
Gags (tape): no, 2
Gates of Hell: ?
Genital sex: As opposed to other kinds of sex?
Given away to another Dom (temp): NO
Given away to another Domme (temp): NO
Given away to another Dom (perm): NO
Given away to another Domme (perm): NO
Golden showers: no, 0
Greetings rituals: no, 4
Hairbrush spankings: no, 2
Hair pulling: no, 4
Hand jobs (giving): N/A
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): NO
Harnessing (leather): no, 2
Harnessing (rope): no, 2
Having food chosen for you: no, 2
Having clothing chosen for you: no, 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): no, 0
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): N/A
Head (receiving fellatio male only): yes 5
High heel worship: no, 5
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): I don't know what homage is, but I lie tongue...
Hot oils (on genitals): no, 0
Hot waxing: no, 3
Housework (doing): no, 1
Human puppy dog: no, 3
Humiliation (private): yes, 4
Humiliation (public): NO
Hypnotism: no, 1
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism: no 0
Initiation rites: no 2
Injections: NO
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no 2
Kidnapping: no 4
Kneeling: yes 4
Leather clothing: no 2
restraints chains: no 3
restraints leather: yes 4
restraints rope: yes 4
Lectures for misbehavior: no 5
Licking (non-sexual): yes 5
Manacles & Irons: no 3
Manicures (giving): no 1
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): yes 4
Medical scenes: no 2

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 3
Modeling for erotic videos: yes 3
Mouth bits: no 4
Mummification: no 2
Nipple clamps: no 5
Nipple cloths pins: yes 3
Nipple weights: no 3
Oral/anal play (rimming): no 4
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: no 5
Orgasm control: no 5
Outdoor scenes: no 1
Outdoor sex: no 1
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 2
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): NO
Piercing (permanent): NO
Prison scenes: no 2
Pony slave: no 3
Public exposure: NO
Public tasks: NO
Pussy/cock whipping: no 4
Pussy worship: no 5
Riding crops: no 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): N/A
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 4
Rubber/latex clothing: no 3
Rope body harness: no 2
Saran wrapping: no 1
Scratching – getting: no 2
Scratching – giving: no 2
Sensory deprivation: yes 3
Serving: yes 5
Serving as art: no 1
Serving as ashtray: NO
Serving as furniture: no 3
Serving as a maid: no 3
Serving as toilet: no 1
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 2
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): yes 3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): NO
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 4
Sexual deprivation (long term): NO
Shaving (body hair): no 1
Shaving (head hair): NO
Shaving (pubic hair): no 2
Sleep deprivation: no 1
Sleep-sacks: no 2
Slutty clothing (private): no 3
Slutty clothing (public): NO
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: NO
Spanking in bdsm parties: NO
Spanking pleasure: no 3
Spandex clothing: no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 5
Speculums (Anal): no 1
Speculums (vaginal): N/A
Spreader bars: no 3
Standing in corner: no 3
Stocks (adjustable): no 3
Stocks (fixed): no 3
Straight jackets: no 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 4
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 4
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 1
Strapping (full body beating): no 3. Not too rough though. I don't want long term marks
Suspension (upright); no 3
Suspension (inverted): no 3
Suspension (horizontal): no 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 0
Swallowing semen: N/A
Swallowing urine: no 1
Swapping (with one other couple): NO
Swinging (multiple couples): NO
Tattooing: NO
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: yes 4
Triple penetration: NO
Triple penetration by 3 males: NO
Uniforms: no 2
Including others: no 2
Vaginal dildo: N/A
Verbal humiliation: yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: no 3
Voyeurism (watching others): no 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 2
Video (watching others): yes 3
Video (recordings of you): yes 2
Water torture: no 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 2
Whipping: no 4
Wooden paddles: no 5
Wrestling: no 2

[98tiller]

Just leave this here, my fantasies revolve around rubber play and forced fem though even just the thought of servitude make me feel funny in my pants.


Abrasion: no 2
Age play: no 4
Anal sex: yes 5
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large): yes 5
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 5
Animal roles: no 4
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):no 4
Asphyxiation: no 1
Auctioned for charity: no no
Bathroom use control: no 1
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): yes 4
Beating (hard): no 2
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 3
Breast/chest bondage: no 4
Breath control: no 3
Branding: no no
Boot worship: no 4
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): no 4
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 3
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 5
Brown showers (scat):no no
Cages (locked inside of):no 3
Caning: no 1
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 4
Chastity belts: no 1
Chauffeuring: no 3
Choking: no 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit:n/a
Clothespins body: no 4
Cock worship: no 5(strap-on)
Collars (worn in private): no 5
Collars (worn in public):no no
Competitions (with other Subs): no 1
Corsets (wearing):n0 4
Cuffs: n0 5
Cuffs (metal): no 5
Cutting: no no
Dilation: no ?
Double penetration: no 5 mouth and ass with strap=on)
Electricity: no 4
Enemas: yes 5
Enforced chastity: no 2
Examinations (physical): no 5
Exercise (forced/required): no 4
Exhibitionism (friends): no 4
Exhibitionism (strangers): no no
Eye contact restrictions: no 2
Face slapping: no 2
Fantasy abandonment: no 1
Fantasy rape: no 5(strap-on)
Fantasy forced deep throat: n0 5 (strap-on)
Fantasy forced cunt licking: yes 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 5 (strap-on)
Fantasy gang-rape: no 4(strap-on)
Fisting (anal): no no
Fisting (vaginal):n/a
Flogging: no 4
Following hand signals: no 2
Following orders: yes 4
Foot worship:n0 4
Forced dressing: no 5 (forced fem)
Forced homosexuality: no no
Forced masturbation: yes 5
Forced nudity (private): no 5
Forced nudity (around others): no no
Forced servitude: no 5
Full head hoods: no 5
Gags (cloth):no 5
Gags (penis shaped): no 5
Gags (rubber): no 5
Gags (tape): no 4
Gates of Hell: no 2
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no no
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 5
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no 5
Greetings rituals: no 3
Hairbrush spankings: yes 4
Hair pulling: yes 4
Hand jobs (giving): fingering yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 2
Harnessing (leather): no 5
Harnessing (rope): no 5
Having food chosen for you: no 1
Having clothing chosen for you: no 5 (forced ffem)
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): no no
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only):n/a
Head (receiving fellatio male only): yes 5
High heel worship: no 5
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 4
Hot oils (on genitals): yes 5
Hot waxing: yes 4
Housework (doing): yes 3
Human puppy dog: no 5
Humiliation (private): no 2
Humiliation (public): no no
Hypnotism: no 5
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism: no 4
Initiation rites: no 2
Injections: no 1
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 2
Interrogations: no 1
Kidnapping: no 3
Kneeling: no 3
Leather clothing: no 4
restraints chains: no 5
restraints leather: yes 5
restraints rope: yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior: no 1
Licking (non-sexual): no 4
Manacles & Irons: no 4
Manicures (giving): no 4
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 5

Modeling for erotic photos: no no
Modeling for erotic videos: no no
Mouth bits: no 5
Mummification: no 5
Nipple clamps: yes 5
Nipple cloths pins: yes 5
Nipple weights: no 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 4
Orgasm denial: no 2
Orgasm control: no 2
Outdoor scenes: no 5
Outdoor sex: yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 2
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no no
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 3
Piercing (permanent): no 1
Prison scenes: no 1
Pony slave: no 4
Public exposure: no no
Public tasks: no 1
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 4
Pussy worship: yes 5
Riding crops: yes 5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 3
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no 2
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 3
Rubber/latex clothing: yes 5!!!!!!!!!!
Rope body harness: no 4
Saran wrapping: no 5
Scratching – getting: yes 3
Scratching – giving: no 2
Sensory deprivation: no 5
Serving: no 5
Serving as art: no 3
Serving as ashtray: no 2
Serving as furniture: no 2
Serving as a maid: no 5
Serving as toilet: no 1
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 4
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 5 domme only
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no no
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no no
Shaving (body hair): yes 5
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 5
Sleep deprivation: no no
Sleep-sacks: no 5
Slutty clothing (private): no 5
Slutty clothing (public): no no
Spanking in private: no 5
Spanking in public: no no
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 3
Spanking pleasure: no 5
Spandex clothing: no 5
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 5 in scene
Speculums (Anal): no 3
Speculums (vaginal): n/a
Spreader bars: no 5
Standing in corner: no 2
Stocks (adjustable): no 4
Stocks (fixed): no 4
Straight jackets: no 4
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): n/a
Strapping (full body beating): no 1
Suspension (upright); no 5
Suspension (inverted): no 4
Suspension (horizontal): no 5
Supplying new partners for Dom: no no
Swallowing semen: no 5 (mine only)
Swallowing urine: no 3
Swapping (with one other couple):no 4
Swinging (multiple couples): no 2
Tattooing: no no
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: yes 3
Triple penetration: n/a
Triple penetration by 3 males: no no
Uniforms: no 5
Including others: no 3
Vaginal dildo: n/a
Verbal humiliation: no 1
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): no 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 3
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of you): no no
Water torture: no 2
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 3
Whipping: no 3
Wooden paddles: no 4
Wrestling: no 4

[craveshumiliation]

ok so this will be my first post on this site ever...
ive only been an owned sub for a month now so i am very inexperienced ill openly admit that... so heres my answers for you.

Abrasion: NO 0
Age play: NO 1
Anal sex: YES 4
Anal plugs (small): YES 3
Anal plugs (large): NO 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): NO 2
Animal roles: NO 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): YES 1
Asphyxiation: NO 0
Auctioned for charity: NO 0
Bathroom use control: NO 1
Bestiality: NO 1
Beating (soft): YES 4
Beating (hard): NO 3
Blindfolds: YES 5
Being serviced (sexual): NO 1
Being bitten: YES 5
Breast/chest bondage: YES 4
Breath control: NO 2
Branding: NO 0
Boot worship: NO 1
Bondage (light): YES 5
Bondage (heavy): YES 5
Bondage (multi-day): NO 4
Bondage (public, under clothing): NO 4
Bondage and Sex: YES 5
Breast whipping: NO 2
Brown showers (scat): NO
Cages (locked inside of): NO 1
Caning: NO 3
Catheterization: ?
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): NO 1
Chastity belts: NO 3
Chauffeuring: NO 2
Choking: NO 1
Clothespins breast/nipples: YES 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit: YES 3
Clothespins body: YES 3
Cock worship: YES 3
Collars (worn in private): YES 5
Collars (worn in public): NO 5
Competitions (with other Subs): NO 4
Corsets (wearing): YES 4
Cuffs: YES 5
Cuffs (metal): NO 4
Cutting: NO !
Dilation: ?
Double penetration: YES 5
Electricity: NO 3
Enemas: ?
Enforced chastity: NO 2
Examinations (physical): NO 1
Exercise (forced/required): YES 2
Exhibitionism (friends): NO 1
Exhibitionism (strangers): NO 1
Eye contact restrictions: YES 4
Face slapping: NO 2
Fantasy abandonment: NO 1
Fantasy rape: NO 1
Fantasy forced deep throat: YES 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: NO 1
Fantasy forced rape anal: NO 3
Fantasy gang-rape: NO 3
Fisting (anal): NO 1
Fisting (vaginal): NO 1
Flogging: NO 3
Following hand signals: YES 3
Following orders: YES 5
Foot worship: NO 1
Forced dressing: YES 4
Forced homosexuality: NO 1
Forced masturbation: YES 4
Forced nudity (private): YES 4
Forced nudity (around others):NO 1
Forced servitude: ?
Full head hoods: NO 0 (fear of suffocatting)
Gags (cloth): YES 5
Gags (penis shaped): NO 3
Gags (rubber): YES 5
Gags (tape): NO 3
Gates of Hell: ?
Genital sex: YES 4
Given away to another Dom (temp): NO 2
Given away to another Domme (temp): NO 2
Given away to another Dom (perm): NO 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): NO 0
Golden showers: NO 0
Greetings rituals: YES 4
Hairbrush spankings: YES 5
Hair pulling: YES 5
Hand jobs (giving): YES 5
Hand jobs (receiving): N/A
Harems (serving w/other subs): NO1
Harnessing (leather): NO 3
Harnessing (rope): NO 3
Having food chosen for you: YES 3
Having clothing chosen for you: YES 4
Head (giving cunnilingus): ?
Head (giving fellatio): ?
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): ?
Head (receiving fellatio male only): N/A
High heel worship: NO 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): ?
Hot oils (on genitals): NO 3
Hot waxing: NO 3
Housework (doing): YES 3
Human puppy dog: NO 1
Humiliation (private): NO 1
Humiliation (public): NO 1
Hypnotism: NO 1
Ice cubes: YES 5
Infantilism: NO 0
Initiation rites: YES 3
Injections: NO 0 (extreme fear of needles and knifes to the point of throwing up)
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: NO 3
Interrogations: NO 3
Kidnapping: NO 3
Kneeling: YES 5
Leather clothing: YES 4
restraints chains: YES 4
restraints leather: YES 4
restraints rope: YES 4
Lectures for misbehavior: YES 5
Licking (non-sexual): YES 5
Manacles & Irons: NO 2
Manicures (giving): YES 3
Massage (giving): YES 3
Massage (receiving): YES 5
Medical scenes: NO 0

Modeling for erotic photos: YES 5
Modeling for erotic videos: YES 4
Mouth bits: YES 4
Mummification: NO 0 (fear of sufficating)
Nipple clamps: YES 4
Nipple cloths pins: YES 4
Nipple weights: NO 2
Oral/anal play (rimming): reciving ? (YES 5) givinng (NO 1)
Over-the-knee spanking: YES 5
Orgasm denial: YES 5
Orgasm control: YES 5
Outdoor scenes: YES 1
Outdoor sex: YES 1
Phone sex (serving Dom): YES 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): NO 2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): NO 4
Piercing (permanent): YES 3
Prison scenes: NO 1
Pony slave: NO 1
Public exposure: NO 1
Public tasks: YES 4
Pussy/cock whipping: NO 3
Pussy worship: NO 1
Riding crops: NO 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): NO 1
Rituals: YES 4
Religious scenes: NO 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: YES 5
Rubber/latex clothing: YES 4
Rope body harness: NO 1
Saran wrapping:NO 1
Scratching – getting:YES 5
Scratching – giving: YES 5
Sensory deprivation: YES 5
Serving: YES 3
Serving as art: NO 2
Serving as ashtray: NO 0
Serving as furniture: NO 1
Serving as a maid: NO 1
Serving as toilet: NO 0
Serving as waitress/waiter: YES 3
Serving orally (sexual): YES 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): NO 2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): NO 2
Sexual deprivation (short term): YES 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): NO 3
Shaving (body hair): YES 4
Shaving (head hair): NO 0
Shaving (pubic hair): YES 4
Sleep deprivation: NO 1
Sleep-sacks: NO 1
Slutty clothing (private): YES 4
Slutty clothing (public): NO 3
Spanking in private: YES 4
Spanking in public: NO 2
Spanking in bdsm parties: NO 1
Spanking pleasure: YES 4
Spandex clothing: YES 3
Speech restrictions (when, what): NO 3
Speculums (Anal): ?
Speculums (vaginal):?
Spreader bars: NO 3
Standing in corner: YES 4
Stocks (adjustable): NO 2
Stocks (fixed): NO 2
Straight jackets: NO 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): NO 1
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): NO 1
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): NO 1
Strapping (full body beating): NO 2
Suspension (upright); NO 2
Suspension (inverted): NO 2
Suspension (horizontal): NO 2
Supplying new partners for Dom: NO 3
Swallowing semen: YES 5
Swallowing urine: NO 0
Swapping (with one other couple): NO 1
Swinging (multiple couples): NO1
Tattooing: NO 1
Teasing: YES 5
Tickling: YES 4
Triple penetration: NO 3
Triple penetration by 3 males: NO 3
Uniforms: NO 2
Including others: NO 2
Vaginal dildo: YES 5
Verbal humiliation: NO 2
Vibrator on genitals: YES 5
Voyeurism (watching others): NO 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): NO 2
Video (watching others): YES 5
Video (recordings of you): YES 4
Water torture: NO 0
Wearing symbolic jewelry: YES 5
Whipping: NO 5
Wooden paddles: NO 5
Wrestling: NO 3

sooo im very inexperinced and i have a few fears i know xx

[chrissysmurf]

Abrasion:no
Age play:yes 5
Anal sex:no5
Anal plugs (small):no 5
Anal plugs (large):no 5
Anal plug (public, under clothes):no 5
Animal roles:no 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):no 5
Asphyxiation:no no 0
Auctioned for charity:no 2
Bathroom use control:no 5
Bestiality:no no
Beating (soft):no 4
Beating (hard):no 4
Blindfolds:yes 5
Being serviced (sexual):yes 5
Being bitten:yes 1
Breast/chest bondage:yes 5
Breath control:no no
Branding:no 3
Boot worship:no 3
Bondage (light):yes 5
Bondage (heavy):yes 5
Bondage (multi-day):yes 5
Bondage (public, under clothing):yes 5
Bondage and Sex:yes 5
Breast whipping:yes 4
Brown showers (scat):no 1
Cages (locked inside of): no 5
Caning:yes 3
Catheterization:no2
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):no 5
Chastity belts:no 5
Chauffeuring:no2
Choking:no no
Clothespins breast/nipples:no 2
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 2
Clothespins body:no 2
Cock worship:yes 5
Collars (worn in private):no 5
Collars (worn in public):no 5
Competitions (with other Subs):no 1
Corsets (wearing):yes 5
Cuffs:yes 5
Cuffs (metal):yes 5
Cutting:no 0
Dilation:no 1
Double penetration: no 4
Electricity:no 4
Enemas:yes 4
Enforced chastity:no 5
Examinations (physical): no 3
Exercise (forced/required):no 3
Exhibitionism (friends):yes 3
Exhibitionism (strangers):yes 3
Eye contact restrictions: yes 3
Face slapping: yes 3
Fantasy abandonment:yes 3
Fantasy rape:yes 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking:yes 5
Fantasy forced rape anal:no 5
Fantasy gang-rape: no 1
Fisting (anal):no 3
Fisting (vaginal):no 3
Flogging:yes 3
Following hand signals: no 3
Following orders: yes
Foot worship:yes 3
Forced dressing:yes 3
Forced homosexuality: no 3
Forced masturbation:yes 5
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others):yes 5
Forced servitude:no
Full head hoods:no 5
Gags (cloth):yes 5
Gags (penis shaped):no 5
Gags (rubber):no 5
Gags (tape):yes 5
Gates of Hell:no
Genital sex:no
Given away to another Dom (temp):no
Given away to another Domme (temp):no
Given away to another Dom (perm):no
Given away to another Domme (perm):no
Golden showers:yes 5
Greetings rituals:no 3
Hairbrush spankings:yes 3
Hair pulling:no no
Hand jobs (giving):yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving):yes 3
Harems (serving w/other subs):no
Harnessing (leather):no
Harnessing (rope):no
Having food chosen for you:yes 3
Having clothing chosen for you:yes 3
Head (giving cunnilingus):yes 5
Head (giving fellatio):yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only):yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship:no
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):yes 3
Hot oils (on genitals):no 3
Hot waxing:no 3
Housework (doing):yes 3
Human puppy dog:no 3
Humiliation (private):yes 3
Humiliation (public):yes 3
Hypnotism:no 4
Ice cubes:yes 5
Infantilism:no 2
Initiation rites:no 1
Injections:no 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:no 4
Interrogations:yes 4
Kidnapping:yes 5
Kneeling:yes 3
Leather clothing:no 4
restraints chains:yes 5
restraints leather:yes 5
restraints rope:yes 4
Lectures for misbehavior:yes 5
Licking (non-sexual):yes 5
Manacles & Irons:yes 5
Manicures (giving):yes 3
Massage (giving):yes 4
Massage (receiving):yes 4
Medical scenes:yes 2

Modeling for erotic photos:yes 2
Modeling for erotic videos:yes 2
Mouth bits:no 3
Mummification:no 1
Nipple clamps:yes 4
Nipple cloths pins:yes 4
Nipple weights:yes 4
Oral/anal play (rimming):yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking:yes 5
Orgasm denial:yes 5
Orgasm control:yes 5
Outdoor scenes:yes 5
Outdoor sex:yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom):yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):yes 4
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):no 2
Piercing (permanent):no 2
Prison scenes:yes 5
Pony slave:no 4
Public exposure:yes 3
Public tasks:yes 2
Pussy/cock whipping:yes 3
Pussy worship:yes 3
Riding crops:yes 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):no 3
Rituals:no 3
Religious scenes: no3
Restrictive rules on behavior:yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing:no5
Rope body harness:no5
Saran wrapping:no 3
Scratching – getting:no 3
Scratching – giving:no3
Sensory deprivation:yes 5
Serving:yes 2
Serving as art:no 2
Serving as ashtray:no 0
Serving as furniture:yes 1
Serving as a maid:yes 4
Serving as toilet:yes4
Serving as waitress/waiter:yes2
Serving orally (sexual):yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised):no3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):no3
Sexual deprivation (short term):yes 5
Sexual deprivation (long term):yes 5
Shaving (body hair):yes2
Shaving (head hair):no0
Shaving (pubic hair):yes 4
Sleep deprivation:yes 1
Sleep-sacks:no 2
Slutty clothing (private):yes 4
Slutty clothing (public):yes 3
Spanking in private:yes4
Spanking in public:no4
Spanking in bdsm parties:no
Spanking pleasure:yes4
Spandex clothing:no4
Speech restrictions (when, what):gag yes 5
Speculums (Anal):no4
Speculums (vaginal):yes4
Spreader bars:no5
Standing in corner:yes4
Stocks (adjustable):no4
Stocks (fixed):no4
Straight jackets:no5
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):no5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):no4
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):no4
Strapping (full body beating):no4
Suspension (upright);yes4
Suspension (inverted):no4
Suspension (horizontal):
Supplying new partners for Dom:no1
Swallowing semen:yes5
Swallowing urine:yes4
Swapping (with one other couple):no1
Swinging (multiple couples):no1
Tattooing:no1
Teasing:yes5
Tickling:yes3
Triple penetration:no5
Triple penetration by 3 males:no4
Uniforms:yes3
Including others:yes4
Vaginal dildo:yes5
Verbal humiliation:yes5
Vibrator on genitals:yes5
Voyeurism (watching others):yes4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others):yes4
Video (watching others):yes5
Video (recordings of you):yes2
Water torture:no3
Wearing symbolic jewelry:yes4
Whipping:yes4
Wooden paddles:yes5
Wrestling: no2

[Ozme52]

Bumping it up for those new to the library.

Copy the unanswered version over from page one if you want to do one of your own.

[The Novice]

As my name clearly states I am a novice and just getting into the BDSM world. This is something my wife is intrested in, she wants to be the sub. while i am the Dom. I want to make her happy. So I answered these question as if these would be things I would ask her to do as the sub. I hope that was the proper way to do this, and I rated this things by how much I would like to do them with her. I am going to ask her to take the questionair and she how we compare, but any advice from those more experniced then us would be greatly appreciated.


Abrasion: No, No
Age play: no 0
Anal sex: yes 5 this is a must, but done correctly for enjoyment for both
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large):no, 5
Anal plug (public, under clothes):no 5
Animal roles:No, No
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):No, 0
Asphyxiation:No, No
Auctioned for charity:No, 0
Bathroom use control:No, No
Bestiality:No, No
Beating (soft):No, 0
Beating (hard):No, 0
Blindfolds:yes 5
Being serviced (sexual):yes 5
Being bitten:no, 1
Breast/chest bondage:no, 1
Breath control:No, No
Branding:NO NO
Boot worship:No, 0
Bondage (light):Yes, 5
Bondage (heavy):no, 3
Bondage (multi-day):No, 2
Bondage (public, under clothing):no, 3
Breast whipping:no, 3
Brown showers (scat):No, No
Cages (locked inside of):No, 1
Caning:No, 1
Catheterization:No, No
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):No, 1
Chastity belts:No, 1
Chauffeuring:No, 2
Choking:No, No
Clothespins:No, 0
Cock worship:No, 3
Collars (worn in private):No, 2
Collars (worn in public):No, 2
Competitions (with other Subs): No 2
Corsets (wearing):No, 3
Cuffs:Yes 3
Cuffs (metal):Yes 3
Cutting:No, No
Dilation:No, No
Double penetration:Yes, 2
Electricity:No, No
Enemas:No, 0
Enforced chastity:No, 0
Examinations (physical):No, 0
Exercise (forced/required):No, No
Exhibitionism (friends):No, 1
Exhibitionism (strangers):No 1
Eye contact restrictions:No, 0
Face slapping:No, No
Fantasy abandonment:No 1
Fantasy rape:No, 1
Fantasy gang-rape:No, 1
Fisting (anal):No, 0
Fisting (vaginal):No, 0
Following orders:Yes, 5
Foot worship:No, 0
Forced dressing:No, 1
Forced homosexuality:No, 0
Forced masturbation:No, 1
Forced nudity (private): No, 1
Forced nudity (around others):No, 2
Forced servitude:No, 3
Full head hoods:No, 0
Gags (cloth):Yes, 4
Gags (rubber):Yes, 4
Gags (tape):No, 2
Gates of Hell (male) N/A
Genital sex:YES YES 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): No, 2
Given away to another Dom (perm):N/A
Golden showers:No No
Hairbrush spankings:No, 4
Hair pulling:Yes 5
Hand jobs (giving):N/A
Hand jobs (receiving):Yes, 5
Harems (serving w/other subs):N/A
Harnessing (leather):No, 3
Harnessing (rope):No, 2
Having food chosen for you:No, 3
Having clothing chosen for you:N/A
Head (giving fellatio):N/A
Head (receiving fellatio)for males only Yes, 5
High heel worship:No,0
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):No, No
Hot oils (on genitals):No, No
Hot waxing:No, No
Housework (doing):No, 3
Human puppy dog:No, No
Humiliation (private):No, 3
Humiliation (public):No, 3
Hypnotism:No, 3
Ice cubes:Yes, 4
Infantilism:No, No
Initiation rites:No, 3
Injections:No, No
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:No, 2
Interrogations:No, 1
Kidnapping:No, 3
Kneeling:No, 3
Leather clothing:No, 4
restraints:No, 4
Lectures for misbehavior:No, 3
Licking (non-sexual):No, 2
Manacles & Irons:No, 3
Manicures (giving):No, 0
Massage (giving):Yes, 3
Massage (receiving):Yes, 5
Medical scenes:No, 3
Modeling for erotic photos:No, 3
Mouth bits:No, 3
Mummification:No, No
Nipple clamps:Yes 5
Nipple weights:No, 3
Oral/anal play (rimming):Yes, 5
Over-the-knee spanking:No, 5
Orgasm denial:Yes, 5
Orgasm control:Yes, 5
Outdoor scenes:No, 4
Outdoor sex:No, 4
Phone sex (serving Dom):Yes, 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):No, 0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):No, 2
Piercing (permanent):No, 0
Prison scenes NO 1
Pony slave:No, No
Public exposure:No, 2
Pussy/cock whipping:No, 2
Pussy worship:No, 4
Riding crops:yes, 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):No, No
Rituals:No, 2
Religious scenes:No, 2
Restrictive rules on behavior:No, 2
Rubber/latex clothing:No, 3
Rope body harness:No, 3
Saran wrapping:No, 3
Scratching – getting:No, No
Scratching – giving:No, 0
Sensory deprivation:No, 3
Serving:No, 5
Serving as art:No, 3
Serving as ashtray:No, No
Serving as furniture:No, 3
Serving as a maid:No, 5
Serving as toilet:No, No
Serving as waitress/waiter:No, 4
Serving orally (sexual):Yes, 5
Serving other Doms (supervised):No, 2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):No, 0
Sexual deprivation (short term):No, 0
Sexual deprivation (long term):No, 0
Shaving (body hair):No, No
Shaving (head hair):No, No
Sleep deprivation:No, No
Sleepsacks:No No
Slutty clothing (private):Yes, 5
Slutty clothing (public):Yes, 5
Spanking:Yes, 5
Spandex clothing:No, 3
Speech restrictions (when, what):No, 3
Speculums (Anal):No, No
Speculums (vaginal):No No
Spreader bars:No, 3
Standing in corner:No 3
Stocks (adjustable):No, 3
Straight jackets:No, 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):N/A
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):No, 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):N/A
Strapping (full body beating):No, 0
Suspension (upright);No, 0
Suspension (inverted):No, 0
Suspension (horizontal):No, 0
Supplying new partners for Dom:No, 0
Swallowing semen:N/A
Swallowing urine:no, No
Swapping (with one other couple):No, 3
Swinging (multiple couples):No, 3
Tattooing:No, 0
Teasing:Yes, 5
Tickling:Yes, 3
Triple penetration:No, 3
Uniforms:No, 3
Including others:No, 3
Vaginal dildo:No, 3
Verbal humiliation:yes, 5
Vibrator on genitals:Yes, 5
Voyeurism (watching others):No, 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others):N/A
Video (watching others):Yes, 5
Video (recordings of you):No, 3
Water torture:No, No
Wearing symbolic jewelry:No, 5
Whipping No 4
Wooden paddles:No, 4
Wrestling: No, 0

[hellman]

well as i sill dont know if i'm dom or sub i did the two first is dom
The one for Dom/Masters

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a Dom and provided to their sub/slave before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0
to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no no
Age play: no 4
Anal sex: yes 5 this is a must, but done correctly for enjoyment for both
Anal plugs (small): no 5
Anal plugs (large): no 5
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 5
Animal roles: no 1 if the sub wont it that much
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 2
Asphyxiation: no 1
Auctioned for charity:no 2
Bathroom use control: no 2
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): no 4
Beating (hard): no 3
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual):yes 5
Being bitten: no no
Breast/chest bondage: no 4
Breath control: no no
Branding: no 3
Boot worship: no 4
Bondage (light): no 4
Bondage (heavy): no 4
Bondage (multi-day): no 5
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 5
Breast whipping: no 4
Brown showers (scat):no no
Cages (locked inside of): no 4
Caning: no 3
Catheterization: no 3
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):no 4/5
Chastity belts: no 5
Chauffeuring:no 1
Choking: no 4/5
Clothespins: no 3/4
Cock worship: no 4
Collars (worn in private):no 5
Collars (worn in public): no 4
Competitions (with other Subs):no 4/5
Corsets (wearing): no 5
Cuffs: no 5
Cuffs (metal):no 5
Cutting: no no
Dilation: no 2
Double penetration:no 4
Electricity: no 3
Enemas: no 4/5
Enforced chastity:no 5
Examinations (physical): no 4
Exercise (forced/required): no 3
Exhibitionism (friends): no 4
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 5
Eye contact restrictions: no 5
Face slapping: no 3
Fantasy abandonment:no 2
Fantasy rape: no 4
Fantasy gang-rape:no 3
Fisting (anal): no 4/5
Fisting (vaginal): no 4
Following orders: no 5
Foot worship: no 1
Forced dressing: no 4
Forced homosexuality:no 5
Forced masturbation: no 5
Forced nudity (private): no 5
Forced nudity (around others):no 4
Forced servitude: no 4
Full head hoods: no 1
Gags (cloth): no 3
Gags (rubber): no2
Gags (tape): no no
Gates of Hell (male) N/A
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp):no 3
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Golden showers: no no
Hairbrush spankings: no 4
Hair pulling: no 3
Hand jobs (giving):no 5
Hand jobs (receiving): no 5
Harems (serving w/other subs):no 2
Harnessing (leather): no 4
Harnessing (rope): no no
Having food chosen for you:no 1
Having clothing chosen for you:no 4
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio)for males only
High heel worship: no no
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 3
Hot oils (on genitals): no 4
Hot waxing: no 4
Housework (doing):no 4
Human puppy dog: no 1
Humiliation (private):no 5
Humiliation (public): no 4
Hypnotism: no no
Ice cubes: no 2
Infantilism: no 2
Initiation rites:no 5
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no no
Interrogations: no 4 when needed
Kidnapping: no 2
Kneeling: no 5
Leather clothing: no 2
restraints: no 4
Lectures for misbehavior: no 5 when needed
Licking (non-sexual): no 2
Manacles & Irons: no 4
Manicures (giving): no 4
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 3
Modeling for erotic photos: no 4
Mouth bits: no 5
Mummification: no 3
Nipple clamps: no 4
Nipple weights: no 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 4
Over-the-knee spanking:no 5
Orgasm denial: no 4
Orgasm control: no 4
Outdoor scenes: no 5
Outdoor sex: yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom):no 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):no 4
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no no
Piercing (permanent): no no
Prison scenes NO 4
Pony slave: no 1
Public exposure:no 4
Pussy/cock whipping:no 4
Pussy worship: no 3
Riding crops: no 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):no 4
Rituals: no 5
Religious scenes: no 1
Restrictive rules on behavior:no 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 3
Rope body harness: no no
Saran wrapping:no 1
Scratching – getting:no no
Scratching – giving: no no
Sensory deprivation: no 3
Serving: no 4
Serving as art:no 3
Serving as ashtray:no no
Serving as furniture: no 3
Serving as a maid: no 4
Serving as toilet: no 2
Serving as waitress/waiter:no 4
Serving orally (sexual): no 5
Serving other Doms (supervised):no 4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 1
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no no
Shaving (body hair): no 3
Shaving (head hair): no no
Sleep deprivation: no 4
Sleepsacks: no 1
Slutty clothing (private):no 4/5
Slutty clothing (public): no 4/5
Spanking: no 4
Spandex clothing:no 3
Speech restrictions (when, what):no 4
Speculums (Anal): no 3
Speculums (vaginal): no 3
Spreader bars: no 5
Standing in corner:no 4
Stocks (adjustable): no 5
Straight jackets: no 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):no 3
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 4
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 4
Strapping (full body beating): no 2
Suspension (upright); no 1
Suspension (inverted): no 1
Suspension (horizontal): no 1
Supplying new partners for Dom:no 3
Swallowing semen: no 5
Swallowing urine: no 0
Swapping (with one other couple):no 3
Swinging (multiple couples): no 3
Tattooing: no no
Teasing: no 2
Tickling: no 4
Triple penetration:no 4
Uniforms: no 4
Including others:no 3
Vaginal dildo: no 4
Verbal humiliation:no 4
Vibrator on genitals: no 4
Voyeurism (watching others):no 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 4
Video (watching others): no 4
Video (recordings of you): no 4
Water torture: no no
Wearing symbolic jewelry:yes 5
Whipping no 4
Wooden paddles: no 3
Wrestling:no 3



now for sub


The one for sub/slaves

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no no
Age play:no 4
Anal sex:no 3/4
Anal plugs (small):no3/4
Anal plugs (large):no 0
Anal plug (public, under clothes):no 4/5
Animal roles: no 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 3/4
Asphyxiation: yes 3
Auctioned for charity:no 3
Bathroom use control: no 2
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): no 3
Beating (hard): no 0
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 2
Breast/chest bondage:no 4
Breath control: no 3/4
Branding: no no
Boot worship: no 2
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): no 5
Bondage (multi-day): no 5
Bondage (public, under clothing):no 5
Bondage and Sex: no 5
Breast whipping: no 3
Brown showers (scat):no
Cages (locked inside of):no 5
Caning: no 3
Catheterization: no 3
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):yes 4/5
Chastity belts: no 4
Chauffeuring: no no
Choking: no 3
Clothespins breast/nipples:no no
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no no
Clothespins body: no no
Cock/pussy worship:no 4
Collars (worn in private): no 4/5
Collars (worn in public): no 2
Competitions (with other Subs):no 3/4
Corsets (wearing): no 3
Cuffs: no 3/4
Cuffs (metal):yes 1
Cutting: no no
Dilation: no 1
Double penetration: no no
Electricity: no 1
Enemas: no 3/4
Enforced chastity: no 4/5
Examinations (physical): no 4/5
Exercise (forced/required): yes 0/1
Exhibitionism (friends): no 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 1
Eye contact restrictions: no 4
Face slapping: no 3
Fantasy abandonment:no 4
Fantasy rape: no 4
Fantasy forced deep throat:no 0/1
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 3
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 4
Fantasy gang-rape: no no
Fisting (anal): no no
Fisting (vaginal): n/a
Flogging: no 3
Following hand signals: no 3
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: no 1
Forced dressing: no 4
Forced homosexuality:no 1
Forced masturbation: no 5
Forced nudity (private): no 5
Forced nudity (around others):no 4
Forced servitude: no 4
Full head hoods: no 3
Gags (cloth): no 4
Gags (penis shaped):no no
Gags (rubber): no 4
Gags (tape): no no
Gates of Hell:dont no what this is can any one pm me what it is
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp):no 4
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 4
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no no
Greetings rituals: no 4
Hairbrush spankings: no 3/4
Hair pulling: no 5
Hand jobs (giving):yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs):no 1
Harnessing (leather): no 3
Harnessing (rope): no 5
Having food chosen for you:no 3
Having clothing chosen for you:no 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 3
Head (giving fellatio): yes 1
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): n/a
Head (receiving fellatio male only): yes 5
High heel worship: no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual):no 1
Hot oils (on genitals): no no
Hot waxing: no no
Housework (doing):no 1
Human puppy dog: no 1
Humiliation (private):no 3/4
Humiliation (public): no no
Hypnotism: no 2
Ice cubes: no 2
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: no 1
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage:no 5
Interrogations: no 3/4
Kidnapping: no 4
Kneeling: no 3
Leather clothing:no 1
restraints chains: no 4
restraints leather: no 3
restraints rope: no 5
Lectures for misbehavior:no 3/4
Licking (non-sexual): no 2
Manacles & Irons: no 2
Manicures (giving): no 2
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 3
Medical scenes: no 1

Modeling for erotic photos: no 3
Modeling for erotic videos: no 3
Mouth bits: no 3
Mummification: no 4/5
Nipple clamps: no 1
Nipple cloths pins:no no
Nipple weights: no 1
Oral/anal play (rimming):yes 4/5
Over-the-knee spanking: no 3
Orgasm denial: no 3
Orgasm control: no 3
Outdoor scenes: no 4
Outdoor sex: yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):no 2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no no
Piercing (permanent): no no
Prison scenes: no 3
Pony slave: no no
Public exposure: no 3
Public tasks: no 3
Pussy/cock whipping:no no
Pussy worship: no 3/4
Riding crops: no 1
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):no 1
Rituals: no 3
Religious scenes:no 1
Restrictive rules on behavior:yes 4/5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 1
Rope body harness: no 5
Saran wrapping:no 3/4
Scratching – getting:yes no
Scratching – giving: no no
Sensory deprivation: no 4/5
Serving: no 3
Serving as art:no 1
Serving as ashtray:no no
Serving as furniture: no 1
Serving as a maid: no 3
Serving as toilet: no no
Serving as waitress/waiter:no 3
Serving orally (sexual): no 3
Serving other Doms (supervised):no 0/1
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 4/5
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 3/4
Shaving (body hair): no 2
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair): no 1
Sleep deprivation: no 2
Sleep-sacks: no 1
Slutty clothing (private):no 3
Slutty clothing (public): no 2
Spanking in private: no 3
Spanking in public: no no
Spanking in bdsm parties:no 3
Spanking pleasure:no 2
Spandex clothing: no 1
Speech restrictions (when, what):no 3/4
Speculums (Anal): no 1
Speculums (vaginal): n/a
Spreader bars: 1
Standing in corner:no 3
Stocks (adjustable): 1
Stocks (fixed): 1
Straight jackets:no 4
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 1
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 1
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): n/a
Strapping (full body beating): no 3/4
Suspension (upright); no 1
Suspension (inverted): no no
Suspension (horizontal): no 1
Supplying new partners for Dom: no no
Swallowing semen: no no
Swallowing urine: no no
Swapping (with one other couple):no 1
Swinging (multiple couples): no 1
Tattooing: no no
Teasing: no 2
Tickling: no 0
Triple penetration:no no
Triple penetration by 3 males:no no
Uniforms: no 3
Including others:no 3
Vaginal dildo: no 2
Verbal humiliation:no 3
Vibrator on genitals: no 5
Voyeurism (watching others):no 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 4
Video (watching others): no 3
Video (recordings of you): no 4
Water torture: no no
Wearing symbolic jewelry:yes 5
Whipping: no 3 soft
Wooden paddles: no 1
Wrestling:no 1

[Ceight]

Sir_Russell,

The first time I saw this questionnaire I filled it out again and again. I pasted it into a word processing document. I added categories, I researched what some of the categories were.

The problem I had with this questionnaire was that I found reading and imagining each thing so exciting that I was inclined to say I liked or wanted to try nearly everything. Also, when answering the questionnaire I was imagining what my responses would be in sub-space, or in fantasy, which is not the norm.

I tried to add information to show if I was in sub-space this would be okay, but if I'm not in sub-space it's a only-if-you-must-but-it-doesn't-appeal event. I'm wondering if I just don't have enough experience in the community. Maybe a "2" would be read as something that could be enjoyed in sub-space.

I especially wondered if a distinctions should be made, because my final result seemed to indicate I was a very willing sub. But my over-all experience doesn't reflect this result.

[ksst]

I say use for your answers what you feel normally, not in subspace. Your dom may want to push through those "don't really love this but would do it" things, and get pleasure out of that, I don't know. You can always go back and revisit it when you have done certain things and know if you like them or not. That is what I have done. I like more things now for sure than when we started experimenting.

[Beachblonde476]

Abrasion: No / 0
Age play: No / 1
Anal sex: Yes / 4
Anal plugs (small): No / 3
Anal plugs (large): No / 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): No / 1
Animal roles: No / 2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): No / 0
Asphyxiation: No / No
Auctioned for charity: No / No
Bathroom use control: No / 4
Bestiality: No / NO
Beating (soft): Yes / 4
Beating (hard): Yes / 2
Blindfolds: Yes / 5
Being serviced (sexual): Yes / 5
Being bitten: Yes / 2
Breast/chest bondage: No / 3
Breath control: No / 0
Branding: No / No
Boot worship: No / No
Bondage (light): Yes / 5
Bondage (heavy): No / 2
Bondage (multi-day): No / No
Bondage (public, under clothing): No / No
Bondage and Sex: Yes / 4
Breast whipping: Yes / 4
Brown showers (scat): No / No
Cages (locked inside of): No / 3
Caning: No / No
Catheterization: No / 3
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): No / 3
Chastity belts: No / No
Chauffeuring: No / 0
Choking: No / No
Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes / 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: No / 3
Clothespins body: No / 2
Cock worship: Yes / 4
Collars (worn in private): Yes / 2
Collars (worn in public): No / No
Competitions (with other Subs): No / No
Corsets (wearing): No / No
Cuffs: Yes / 4
Cuffs (metal): No / 1
Cutting: No / No
Dilation: No / No
Double penetration: No / 2
Electricity: No / No
Enemas: No / 3
Enforced chastity: No / No
Examinations (physical): No / 3
Exercise (forced/required): No / 4
Exhibitionism (friends): No / No
Exhibitionism (strangers): No / No
Eye contact restrictions: No / 0
Face slapping: Yes / 1
Fantasy abandonment: No / No
Fantasy rape: Yes / 1
Fantasy forced deep throat: Yes / 2
Fantasy forced cunt licking: No / 2
Fantasy forced rape anal: No / 2
Fantasy gang-rape: No / No
Fisting (anal): No / 2
Fisting (vaginal): No / 2
Flogging: Yes / 2
Following hand signals: No / No
Following orders: Yes / 5
Foot worship: No / No
Forced dressing: No / No
Forced homosexuality: No / No
Forced masturbation: No / 2
Forced nudity (private): Yes / 4
Forced nudity (around others): No / No
Forced servitude: No / 5
Full head hoods: No / No
Gags (cloth): No / 4
Gags (penis shaped): No / 3
Gags (rubber): No / 3
Gags (tape): No / 2
Gates of Hell:No / No
Genital sex: Yes / 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): No / No
Given away to another Domme (temp): No / No
Given away to another Dom (perm): No / No
Given away to another Domme (perm): No / No
Golden showers: No / 2
Greetings rituals: No / 0
Hairbrush spankings: No / 3
Hair pulling: No / No
Hand jobs (giving): Yes / 5
Hand jobs (receiving): NA
Harems (serving w/other subs): No / No
Harnessing (leather): No / 3
Harnessing (rope): No / 2
Having food chosen for you: No / 2
Having clothing chosen for you: No / 2
Head (giving cunnilingus): No / 0
Head (giving fellatio): Yes / 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): Yes / 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): NA
High heel worship: No / No
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): No / No
Hot oils (on genitals): No / 2
Hot waxing: Yes / 3
Housework (doing): Yes / 4
Human puppy dog: No / 3
Humiliation (private): No / 5
Humiliation (public): No / No
Hypnotism: No / No
Ice cubes: Yes / 4
Infantilism: No / 3
Initiation rites: No / No
Injections: No / No
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: No / 0
Interrogations: No / No
Kidnapping: No / No
Kneeling: Yes / 3
Leather clothing: No / 3
restraints chains: No / 3
restraints leather: No / 4
restraints rope: No / 3
Lectures for misbehavior: No / 4
Licking (non-sexual): No / No
Manacles & Irons: No / 0
Manicures (giving): No / No
Massage (giving): Yes / 2
Massage (receiving): Yes / 4
Medical scenes: No / 2

Modeling for erotic photos: Yes / 2
Modeling for erotic videos: Yes / 2
Mouth bits:
Mummification: No / No
Nipple clamps: Yes / 5
Nipple cloths pins: Yes / 4
Nipple weights: No / 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): Yes / 1
Over-the-knee spanking: Yes / 4
Orgasm denial: No / 5
Orgasm control: No / 5
Outdoor scenes: No / No
Outdoor sex: No / No
Phone sex (serving Dom): No / 2
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): No / No
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): No / No
Piercing (permanent): No / No
Prison scenes: No / 3
Pony slave:
Public exposure: No / No
Public tasks: No / No
Pussy/cock whipping: No / 4
Pussy worship: No / 1
Riding crops: No / 2
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):
Rituals: No / 0
Religious scenes: No / No
Restrictive rules on behavior: No / 5
Rubber/latex clothing: No / 0
Rope body harness: No / 1
Saran wrapping: No / No
Scratching – getting: No / No
Scratching – giving: No / No
Sensory deprivation: No / 0
Serving: Yes / 4
Serving as art: No / No
Serving as ashtray: No / No
Serving as furniture: No / 0
Serving as a maid: No / 4
Serving as toilet: No / 1
Serving as waitress/waiter: No / 4
Serving orally (sexual): Yes / 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): No / 0
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): No / No
Sexual deprivation (short term): No / 0
Sexual deprivation (long term): No / No
Shaving (body hair): Yes / 2
Shaving (head hair): No / No
Shaving (pubic hair): Yes / 3
Sleep deprivation: No / No
Sleep-sacks: No / No
Slutty clothing (private): No / 3
Slutty clothing (public): No / No
Spanking in private: Yes / 3
Spanking in public: No / No
Spanking in bdsm parties: No / 0
Spanking pleasure:Yes / 4
Spandex clothing: No / 0
Speech restrictions (when, what): No / 0
Speculums (Anal): No / 2
Speculums (vaginal): No / 3
Spreader bars: No / 3
Standing in corner: No / 2
Stocks (adjustable):No /1
Stocks (fixed): No / No
Straight jackets: No / No
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): No / 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): No / 2
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): No / No
Strapping (full body beating): No / No
Suspension (upright); No / 2
Suspension (inverted): No / 1
Suspension (horizontal): No / 1
Supplying new partners for Dom: No / 1
Swallowing semen: Yes / 5
Swallowing urine: No / 3
Swapping (with one other couple): No / No
Swinging (multiple couples): No / No
Tattooing: No / No
Teasing: Yes / 4
Tickling: No / 0
Triple penetration: No / 0
Triple penetration by 3 males: No / 0
Uniforms: No / 0
Including others: No / 1
Vaginal dildo: No / 3
Verbal humiliation: No / 3
Vibrator on genitals: Yes / 5
Voyeurism (watching others): No / 1
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): No / 2
Video (watching others): Yes / 2
Video (recordings of you): Yes / 1
Water torture: No / No
Wearing symbolic jewelry: No / 0
Whipping: Yes / 3
Wooden paddles: No / 4
Wrestling:No / No

[Sir Scot]

Sounds very Interestting, Are you still available?

[Ceight]

So I don't expect anyone to try and read this, but if anyone wants to I revised the rating system. This makes it nigh impossible to read, but more accurate. You win some you lose some.

I have deleted repeats of things when one mention of the concept will do (e.g. I've never done electrical play so Violet Wand and TENS are superfluous categories. I'm not aroused by the idea of feces, so we don't need the soiling diapers category) or categories that do not apply to me. (I don't have any nor am I a dominant so ball stretching and I don't have anything to do with each other.)

Things with an X alone mean I have no idea what this is or what I think about it. (N X E) Is what I'd call a hard limit. I don't have any attraction to the idea what so ever. But I'd like to think any hard limits could be over come with some careful work and planning. :)

There's four spectrums: 1) How willing I am to do the thing. 2) How much it turns me on to think about it. 3) Whether it's a mildly negative or extremely negative sounding sensation. 4) How much guidance I would need to pull it off.

Y = I've done this
W = I've never done this but I'm interested in trying it (No convincing needed.)
U = Um, I've not tried it and I'm not sure if I'm willing (Need serious convincing.)
N = I've never done this and I don't plan on it (Hate the idea.)

X = I have never thought about it or I don't understand the appeal (If X is alone than I don't know what it is at all.)
F = I fantasize about this frequently
f = I fantasize about this sometimes
Z = I fantasize about this in sub-frenzy only

p = I consider this a mild punishment, bordering on pleasure (mild discipline, embarrassment or training)
P = I consider this a serious punishment, having no pleasure (painful or seriously humiliating)

C = Needs dominant and submissive context. (Even if I'm just pushing myself around.)
S = With a sadist and/or a sympathetic guide (Needs consistent motivation and supervision.)
E = I consider this edge play (Very unlikely to happen without a lot of attention and planning.)


Abrasion***Y f C
Age play***W F S*******
Anal sex****Y*F P S ************
Anal plugs (small)**Y p C
Anal plugs (large)***N P S
Anal plug (public, under clothes) Y p C
Animal roles**W Z p S
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders) Y f p C
Aromas**X
Asphyxiation*W Z P E *****************
Auctioned for charity**N f P E**********************
Bathroom use control***U Z P E**
Beastiality**N Z E
Beating (soft)*W f P S************
Beating (hard)**N Z P E
Blindfolds**Y R p C*
Being serviced (sexual)*Y p C**
Being bitten**Y f p C
Breast/chest bondage Y F C
Breath control*W Z P E
Branding**N Z
Boot worship*W*X*************
Bondage (light)*Y F
Bondage (heavy)*Y F C*******
Bondage (multi-day)*Y F p S
Bondage (public, under clothing) Y f p
Breast whipping**W f P S
Brown showers (scat)**N X E*******
Cages (locked inside of)*W F p S
Caning**U Z P E
Castration fantasy X***********
Catheterization*U X S
Cells/Closets (locked inside of)*W F P S
Chains*W f C
Chamber-pot use U Z P S******************
Chastity belts*W f p S***********
Chauffeuring**U X C******
Choking**W P E******
Chores (domestic service)**W f S
Clothespins*Y p C************
Cock worship**W f p S***********
Collars (worn in private)*W F S******
Collars (worn in public)**U F S
Competitions (with other Subs) N X P**
Corsets (wearing casually)*Y f
Corsets (trained waist reduction) N Z E
Cuffs (leather)*W f C
Cuffs (metal)*W f C**************
Cutting*N X E*****
Diapers (wearing)*N X P S*************
Dilation*N X P E
Dildos**Y F C***************
Double penetration*(oral vaginal) Y F
Double penetration (oral or vaginal + anal) W F P S
Electricity**U X S
Enemas (for cleansing)*W X *
Enemas (retention/punishment) U X P S*
Enforced chastity*W F S
Erotic dance (for audience) U X S*****
Examinations (physical)*W X C
Exercise (forced/required)*W f S
Exhibitionism (friends)*U Z P S
Exhibitionism (strangers)*U Z P E
Eye contact restrictions*W F P S
Face slapping*W F P S
Fantasy abandonment*U X P E*********
Fantasy rape*W F P E
Fantasy gang-rape*N Z P E******
Fear (being scared)*U F P E
Fisting (anal)*N X P E
Fisting (vaginal)*N Z*P E
Flame play*U X S
Following orders*W F S************
Foot worship*U X S*************
Forced bedwetting*N X E ************
Forced dressing W F p S
Forced eating**U X p S
Forced homosexuality*N f P E (Since I'm bi the implication is being used as a tool to force another submissve.)****
Forced heterosexuality*N X P E*
Forced masturbation*U X p S**
Forced nudity (private)*W Z p S
Forced nudity (around others)*U Z P S*
Forced servitude*W F S
Forced smoking*N X P S****
Full head hoods*W Z p S
Gags (cloth)*Y F p C****************
Gags (inflatable)*W X p S**************
Gags (phallic)*W F p S**
Gags (rubber)**Y f p C**********
Gags (tape)*W f P S**
Gas masks**U X S*******
Genital sex**Y*
Given away to another Dom (temp)*W Z p S
Given away to another Dom (perm) N Z P E
Golden showers*U X P S
Gun play*Y Z P E
Hairbrush spankings*Y Z P S
Hair pulling*Y F p C
Hand jobs (giving)**Y f **********
Hand jobs (receiving)*Yp C***
Harems (serving w/other subs) U X S***
Harnessing (leather)*U X C
Harnessing (rope)*U X C
Having food chosen for you*W f p S*****
Having clothing chosen for you*W f p S
Head (give fellatio/cunnilingus)*Y F
Head (rcv fellatio/cunnilingus)**Y f C
High heel wearing*Y F p
High heel worship*W X p S
Homage with tongue (non-sexual)*U X p S
Hoods*W X C
Hot oils (on genitals) W X p C**********
Hot waxing**Y f P S
Housework (doing)*W F S***********
Human puppy dog**W f P S
Humiliation (private)*W F p S
Humiliation (public)**W f P S
Hypnotism**U X S
Ice cubes*W X ***
Immobilization*W F p S*************
Infantilism*U X E
Initiation rites*U X S*****
Injections*U X P E
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage W F S
Interrogations*W X P S
Kidnapping*W F P E**
Kneeling*W F S**
Knife play*U Z P E***********
Leather clothing*W X C**********
Leather restraints*W f C
Lectures for misbehavior*W F S*
Licking (non-sexual)*U Z p S
Lingerie (wearing)*Y X p
Manacles & Irons*W X p S
Manicures (giving)*N X p S
Massage (giving)*Y
Massage (receiving)*Y *******
Medical scenes**W X S********
Modeling for erotic photos*U f P S****
Mouth bits*W f p C
Mummification*U X S*************
Name change (for scene)*W F p S******
Name change (legal, permanent)**U X E**
Nipple clamps**Y f p C
Nipple rings (piercings)*W F p E******
Nipple play/"torture" W F P E
Nipple weights*U X P E
Oral/anal play (rimming) W X p C******
Over-the-knee spanking**W f P C
Orgasm denial*W F S
Orgasm control*W F S
Outdoor scenes*W X ****
Outdoor sex*W X *****
Pain (severe)*W Z P E*******
Pain (mild)**W F p S****
Persona training (in scene)*W f P S****
Personality modification (RL)*U F P E
Phone sex (serving Dom)*U X p C
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends) U X P S
Phone sex (commercial provider)*N X P E
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce) W F
Piercing (permanent)*U F p S
Plastic surgery*N X E
Prison scenes*W f S****
Prostitution (public pretense)*U Z P S
Prostitution (actual)*N Z P E
Pony slave*U Z p S
Public exposure*U Z P E**********
Punishment Scene*W F P S*****
Pussy/cock whipping*W F p S*
Pussy worship*W F S
Riding crops*W f p C****
Riding the "horse"*X
Rituals*W F S**
Religious scenes U f S***************
Restrictive rules on behavior*W F S
Rubber/latex clothing*Y f
Rope body harness*X***
Saran wrapping*U X C***********
Scarification*N*X P E
Scratching - getting*W X P S********
Scratching - giving**U X S
Sensory deprivation**Y F p C
Serving*W F S
Serving as art**W F S*************
Serving as ashtray*U f P E*******
Serving as furniture*Y F p S
Serving as a maid*W F S
Serving as toilet (urine) Y Z P E******
Serving as toilet (feces)*N X P E
Serving as waitress/waiter*W f S
Serving orally (sexual) Y F
Serving other doms (supervised) W F p S**
Serving other doms (unsupervised) U F P E
Sexual deprivation (short term)**W F C
Sexual deprivation (long term)***W Z C
Shaving (body hair)*Y X
Shaving (head hair)*Y X C
Skinny-dipping*Y X
Sleep deprivation*W Z P E********
Sleepsacks*X
Slutty clothing (private)**Y f p ***
Slutty clothing (public)***W F P S
Spandex clothing*W X C
Spanking*Y F p C
Speech restrictions (when, what)*W F p S
Speculums (Anal)*U X p
Speculums (vaginal)*U X p***
Spitting U X P S***********
Spreader bars*W F p C***********
Standing in corner*W f p S*****
Stocks*W f p C**************
Straight jackets W F p C*************
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)**Y F p C
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)*Y F p C *****************************
Strapping (full body beating)*N Z P E
Suspension (upright)*W f
Suspension (inverted)*W f P S***
Suspension (horizontal)*W f p S
Supplying new partners for Dom N X P E*
Swallowing feces*N X P E
Swallowing semen*Y f C****
Swallowing urine*Y Z P S**
Swapping (with one other couple) U f P S
Swinging (multiple couples)*N X P E
Tampon Training (in ass)*X
Tattooing*N Z P E
Teasing**W F p C***********
Thumbcuffs (metal)*X********
Tickling**Y f p C
Triple penetration W F P S*************
Urethral Sounds (metal rods) X *
Uniforms*W X
Including others W f p S***************
Vaginal dildo*X
Verbal humiliation*W F p S***
Vibrator on genitals*Y X ***
Voyeurism (watching others) W X P C******
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)*W F P S
Video (watching others)*Y X
Video (recordings of you)*U Z p E**
Water torture*U Z P E
Waxing (hair removal)*Y F P C*******
Wearing symbolic jewelry*W Z S
Weight gain (forced)*N X P E
Weight loss (forced)**U f P E
Whipping*W F P S
Wooden paddles*W F P S***********
Wrestling**U X C

[TheDeSade]

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[little_lost_devil]

oh my goddd!!!!
i didnt know just a list of limits could make one so hot and bothered...!
anyway, a great list, and was a must-know for neewbie like me!
thank you!

[slaveboy 6]

read "Fifty Shades Of Grey" . The hard limits are spelled out fully

[XxAlicexX]

Wow this is crazy hard to accomplish on a mobile device!!! Isn't there a way to do it easier without a computer? It keeps dumping all my info. This box is only an inch high on this thing! Lol:cheerful:

[slaveboy 6]

That's why I don't use a mobil device. My fingers are too thick.