Carpe Coma

One subject that continually runs headfirst into the fantasy realm at the first opportunity is someone being ‘made’ a slave. Such fantasies almost always involve a heavy reliance on illegal activities (kidnapping, blackmail, threats of violence, etc) as well as large amounts of infrastructure and man-hours. All extremely unlikely (as most of us have jobs) and nearly impossible to seek out as people that do that sort of thing don’t advertise. So how can someone be ‘made’ ...

Words are the building blocks of our ideas. Because of this, the words we use affect how we interpret the ideas we have, much the same way a house built out of brick is not the same as one built of steel, and how a mural done in crayon isn’t seen the same as one done in oils. The words we use frame the ideas we express through their intonations. Because of this, I hate many of the words we collectively use to discuss and describe d/s as they frame it in an alienating, self-deprecating manner. So ...

Fuck consent.

Yes, that’s right. FUCK consent. Fuck it in the ear. All of you who think ‘consent’ is the difference between d/s and abuse are wrong. People consent to being abused all the time. Just get anyone that works in a shelter a bit tipsy and ask them about the ones that keep going back or read “Prone to Violence” (written by someone who started a women’s shelter in England). Secondly, just because someone doesn’t consent doesn’t make it abusive either. We do things to each ...

Editor's note; need to rehash this. Hopefully Friday-ish.

Communication control is a staple of online dominants and has it’s place in real life as well. However, if anything, this is one of the areas which requires the most finesse and tact to avoid coming across as a potentially abusive lout. Why? Because communication is a person’s key to rest of the world. Communication is the gateway to information and access. Control communication and you can control the information a person has to form judgments and decisions. This is much the same way ...

During the vast expansion of choice which has come about from the internet an old problem has taken a new and much more center stage prominence; how to effectively sort through vast volumes of options. Now the normal response to a lot of choices is to develop some filters; rules or heuristics to go by which weed out unlikely matches and allow one to focus on the likely ones. Now for simple choices with few variables, filters work great. The problem comes in when trying to apply simple filters to ...

The rain today is perfect. It is a slow heavy rain, a cleansing rain with the rumble of distant thunder. Today marked what will quite likely be the start of a major transition, away from the recent frustrations and towards a much more appropriate future.

If today was to be interpretive, the rain would represent both the washing away of the recent past, and with the thunder, the rumble of future upheaval. Yet the storm comes without rushing winds, without the frenzied lightning of ...

Every 3-6 months I stumble across a profile on another site that I freeze when trying to write to. By most accounts, there isn’t anything remarkable about these profiles. In fact, most would probably consider them positively banal. They are never vulgar, rarely explicit, and frequently almost chaste in style. However, there is something in them which resonates strongly, an unspoken message which permeates through their words. They are almost always independent, confident (at least outwardly), educated, ...